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jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

Msg: 64 (view)

Things I learned on POF Posted: 6/19/2007 2:39:16 PM
I've learned that online socializing or dating is no different than any other project or relationship out there. You get out of it what you put into it. You will have to deal with things and people you don't like or agree with. People will lie to you and mislead you. You will fail. You will be knocked down and experience dissapointment. Will you give up on humanity, or take your set backs in stride and learn what you can from them? Are you making "deposits" on all of your online relationships, nurturing them into budding friendships that may grow into relationships? Or are you someone who constantly makes "withdrawls", taxing all of the other people "fishing" and making them not want to use the site? We are all to blame for both the successes and failures of sites like this one. Before blaming everyone and everything for how awful your online experience is, take a look in the mirror and be willing to evaluate yourself.

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Play dumb ladies, Don't show how smart u really are, you might get a man that way. Posted: 5/14/2007 8:54:35 PM
Is there anyone else on this topic that sees women "playing dumb" as another technique to flirt or disarm? I'm a big fan of smart women acting smart. But if it’s all in the name of flirting, what’s wrong with it? The other day I caught a girl playing dumb (by talking about not understanding how to play dumb). When I caught her and called her out on it we both had a great laugh and the conversation lightened up a lot.

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

Msg: 41 (view)

Friends With Benefits Posted: 5/13/2007 1:10:44 PM
I don't think Id want to be friends with OP. She seems to place very little value on the friendship side of this discussion. I have many friends whom I treat with kindness and respect. I am there for them when needed to help out in any way that I can. If being in a "Friends with Benefits" relationship implies you don't care about the other person’s thoughts or feelings, how good of a "friend" are you?

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Pictures... Posted: 6/13/2006 12:12:34 AM
well thats all well and good. My first pic I had a suit and tie on (SANS baseball cap)... but a friggen 2... thats just MEAN... When I think 2 I think hump-back missing teeth with a speech impediment... I definetly see your point, and I asked for the criticism.... please continue everyone...

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Pictures... Posted: 6/12/2006 10:52:56 PM
So I've been experimenting with my digital camera lately. I'm not out to mislead anyone, but just like one should dress nice, shower, and groom oneself before going on a date, I'm out to put my best foot forward. My most recent pics have gotten a lot of compliments from pen pals, etc, and my HON rating is 8.1. On this site, its rated a 2.1... Do the POF viewers find me repulsive, or are there just some haters out there trying to damage my fragile little ego? I have no problem in letting my personality do most of the work for me, but lately it makes me wonder if I'd be better off running with NO pic at all. Please let me know what you think everyone!

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Anyone checked out Year of Yes? Posted: 2/20/2006 10:30:05 PM
There are other factors women have to concern themselves with when choosing to accept a date with a man.... The foremost of which should be their own saftey and well being. Sure there are crazy women out there that can make life difficult for a man, but women have a whole other level of security to concern themselves with. Its simple genetics that men (on average) are larger and stronger than women, and can pose a serious physical threat to them. Spend less energy ****ing about the way things work, and more learning how they work. good Luck and good fishing!

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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True Stories of internet dating..... Posted: 1/21/2006 11:11:07 AM
Bandito if we cant have a good laugh at our bad experiences we arent very well adjusted people... My goal was to start a fun and entertaining thread about funny/crazy/dumb things people do while on a date from POF. LIGHTEN UP PEOPLE!

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

Msg: 121 (view)

He's amazing. His looks aren't. Posted: 1/19/2006 11:58:56 PM
EVERYONE here is missing a critical element of OP's concern... what matters is not that this dude is handsome or ugly! HE ONLY NEEDS TO BE ATTRACTIVE TO HER!!! You can't choose who you love people!! ...and sometimes it just plain sucks. And don't feed him a bunch of "friends" BS unless you plan on holding up your end of the friendship.... you could end up with a very clingy fake friend serving his own selfish agenda while laying massive guilt trips on you... Set him up on dates with girls you think would like him.

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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True Stories of internet dating..... Posted: 1/19/2006 11:51:48 PM
Lets hear it everyone! We all have our internet horror story about the staulker, the cat lady, the guy with no teeth or manners.... Whats your WORST internet dating horror story???

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Games women play at clubs/bars...etc. Posted: 1/14/2006 12:57:47 AM
So you made a good approach, got some indicators of interest, even a little Kino, but couldn't number close her. Big deal. your only mistake was spending too much time with her. Set a time limit on your 1st approach to take the pressure off her thinking you'll be there all night long, and go for the number in the first 5 minutes. Any longer and you make yourself too available and take away social proof. Bars and nightclubs are playgrounds of the game... the thread should be titled "games People play at clubs/bars...etc. And bambi, thats BS... just because you've had bad experiences at those places doesn't mean its not possible for love to bloom for others.... check your negativity girl! Since you are such an expert, where do you suggest OP should meet the fairer sex?

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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No man has ever approached me... Posted: 1/13/2006 12:48:39 AM
hey now... Ohio bashers should check themselves.... Ohio is a great place to live and start a family. This post is a rather poor forum to start bashing buckeyes... start your own thread about us, or get active in the Ohio forums... Godess, glad to see you are a good listener! i hope you find what you are looking for... ps, check your in box!

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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No man has ever approached me... Posted: 1/9/2006 11:05:26 PM
OP couple points for you to consider... Live music makes for very difficult approaches for most men... women are there to listen to the music, not talk to men. Urbana is a VERY small town.... I'd reccomend getting out to some larger cities around there on occasion. As a Wiccan, there are dozens of places you'd feel right at home at in Columbus. You should be less strict on your expectations... Why miss out on a great guy because he is a year too young or an inch too short (for example, I can't write you because I'm only 29 I think)? Beyond that, you've also gotten some VERY sound advice from some other posters here. I dont think I've read a thing on this thread I dissagree with. Good Luck in your search for someone to approach you!

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Guys, Sex, Dancing, and Self-image... mix it to get the following question? Posted: 1/6/2006 9:17:25 PM
naw, just a lot of dudes know that if the object of their desire saw them dancing, they'd be less likely to have sex with them....

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Swallowed for others ... but not for me. Posted: 1/6/2006 9:14:41 PM
I've heard all different theories on what makes it taste different, and they all probably have some merit... to think that what we put into our bodies will not effect what comes out of them is somewhat silly... but i imagine ones own physiology plays into it quite a bit... i've been described as "mild" before. OP like I said, always bottom line her actions. What she says is irrelevant! Hey ladies, do you have any experience in the "eat LOTS of pinneaple" school of thought???

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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He's suffocating me.. Posted: 1/3/2006 9:45:52 AM
LOL Tinlke you kill me! I dont think humor will help though, the dude would probably think she's playing hard to get... looser. Be honest, you'll feel a lot better afterwords (soon if not immediately) trust me. Then get all dolled up and spend an evening telling all the dumb little boys no.

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Swallowed for others ... but not for me. Posted: 1/3/2006 9:37:18 AM
its got to be spontaneous or it wont be any fun... You need to respect the girls limitations despite what she has TOLD you. Actions always speak louder than words people!

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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WHAT? ME A STALKER? Posted: 1/2/2006 1:23:51 PM
And no offense, but most stalkers don't realize thats exactly what they are.

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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WHAT? ME A STALKER? Posted: 1/2/2006 1:23:08 PM
my advice is to start youw own paper trail and turn the tables. One of you 2 is lying... He/She with the best documentation will win this one. Get a restraining order agianst her. call the police when you see her in one of "your hang outs" and have them take reports. Do NOT get emotional, do not become irrational, do not engage in any suspicious behavior... Document every chance encounter you may have near her, get names and phone numbers of witnesses who observe your "normal" behavior. keep a file of all of this crap nearby like the glove box of your car to show the police if it happens agian. Dont blame the police or "the system" for not immediately recognizing which of you is lying... We can't tell ourselves and we haven't even spoken to any witnesses yet to confuse the issue. If all else fails, you may have to move across town or something. Drastic, but if its as bad as your tone indicates, i think its worth it.

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Pretty Vs. Sensual/Sexy Women Posted: 1/2/2006 1:10:14 PM
ever seen the movie shallow Hal? The fatal flaw is that the movie jumps to the conclusion that all ugly people are beautiful on the inside and vice versa. I've know plenty of very ugly people who were total hotties, I've know beautifull people with faces only a mother could love. The key is to find someone YOU find beautiful for all the right reasons. Once you find yourself attracted to the IMPERFECTIONS, you have something that can last and be real beyond all this crap.

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Ain't Sayin she's a Gold Digger... Posted: 12/28/2005 8:44:03 PM
Thanks all for your advice... I guess what am asking is, is it ever ok to just lose it and call a ho a ho? This girl is VERY attractive, and can literally rally the entire bar agianst me with a lie.... Clients that started showing up because of my hard work to making the place great will take her side beacause she is a hot chick and they are a bunch of dumb horney guys (which is pretty much how i got them all showing up in the 1st place). I feel like I'm dammed if i do and I'm dammed if i don't. Am I a bigger man or looser by playing doormat to this wench or by standing right up to her and telling her shes a no good lying gold digging ho? Either way, the scene is ruined for me after YEARS of building a client base that someone else now prospers from. And all i ever wanted was a cool place to hang out where I was universally accepted and unconditionally appreciated (far fetched i know, but it was reality for me)

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Ain't Sayin she's a Gold Digger... Posted: 12/24/2005 12:34:42 AM
Was at the nightclub I managed for three years tonight, and had an interesting experience that many of you may have comments on or advice about.... While working there and in a relationship, there was a girl who was a regular of the club that used to hit on me reguarly in front of my now ex fiance'. I would tolerate her advances to a degree as it was part of my job to glad-hand all of the regulars. She frequently kept company with a good friend of mine with him footing the majority of the drinks. After the club closed, then reopened with different staff, and me now single, I've bumped into her several times. Each time, she's been very flirty with me, and said things to me implying she's very attracted to me. We had exchanged numbers, and never had a date... It dawned on me tonite that she's been shopping for a new source of no attached free drinks at the club tonight when she explained that I have been "disprespectful" towards her. Her behavior changed the second she found a new "sugar daddy". The reality is, this is a girl who practically begged me to break it off with my ex so she could have me to herself, only to decide she really didn't want me once she had no more use for me. I feel dirty and used, like a discarded Kleenex even though I saw what was happenening and made all the right decisions. I meekly removed myself from the bar, and probably will never return as a patron. Was I right to simply limp away, or should I have taken the high road and wasted my precious time telling her exactly what I thought and felt?

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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xmas suggestions Posted: 12/21/2005 4:23:14 PM
Thank you all for your kind words and suggestions! When I took the job, I promised to give them a year of nose to the grindstone- uncompromising labor under whatever conditions they could muster to prove myself a dedicated employee. Being hand selected from over 50 interested candidates for this particular opening was a huge vote of confidence, and I knew what it was going to take for the first several months, as I have opened several units before. The store has the potential to be hands down THE BEST one the company has, with me running it. The managers are over worked and our moral is in the toilet, but we all know we are part of something special. We are SO PROUD of the proggress our staff is making every day! But we are all getting screwed this holiday season, and knew we would be. Thanks for listening everyone!

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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honest replies Posted: 12/21/2005 4:11:35 PM
pretty sure the fast seduction website is a spin off or ripoff of the speed seduction system.... there are a lot of scary things out there ladies. You are right to be concerned. The Pickup Artist, Nuero-linguistic programming (NLP), hypnotic suggestion, subliminal programming, The Mystery Method... as long as there are loosers with money, there will be new systems; and a lot of them work if you aren't alert! Read Neil Strauss. His story gives insite into the world of the pickup artist, and gives some history on what started it all. None of these are the tools I was mentioning before... The path to hell was paved with good intentions... But to understand the path of the riitcheous, it helps to understand the path of the fallen.

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Why do I keep trying ? Posted: 12/20/2005 7:46:46 PM
Why do you keep getting up? Because its better than the alternative. Humans are meant to struggle and to face conflict and adversity. Without challenge, what would be the purpose in reward?

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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honest replies Posted: 12/20/2005 1:34:29 AM
Men think about sex A LOT... boys act on the urges without considering the consequences of their actions... Now a BOY who is educating himself is.... DANGEROUS.... Speed seduction was a crock, but there are a lot of good sources out there he could get his horny little hands on. Men who read stuff like this are only educating themselves to attract the right girl and keep her happy. Boys read this stuff to seduce and use girls. Sorry you fell for a little boy and his BS. The real deal can be tough to spot... thats what makes them special!

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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xmas suggestions Posted: 12/20/2005 1:23:13 AM
Hi everyone! Xmas is going to suck for me this year: I live in Columbus OH, and my entire family has relocated to Tampa, FL within the last 4 months. My company just opened a new restaurant that I am managing. Because its a new opening, the hours are horrendous. I have to close xmas eve, then be at the store xmas morning for inventory, then work the day after xmas. There is no way for me to see any of my loved ones this year, and while I have many friends, they will all be with their families. I've been lying to myself and everyone I know saying that this is really no big deal to me, but even upbeat, positive people like me can get depressed sometimes. I really do enjoy seeing my family, and will miss them a lot this year. Has anyone else been through something like this? What advice would you offer this heartbroken manager to get through a lonely xmas?

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Are there someone Posted: 12/20/2005 1:10:44 AM
His/Her name is TIME my friend

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Yet another one. Posted: 12/16/2005 8:53:02 PM
Kudos for dumping a loser and trying to better yourself.... Shame on you for wasting YEARS of your life with him. Hope you learned a lot and are a smarter and stronger person for all of it!

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Yet another one. Posted: 12/13/2005 10:12:33 PM
sweettart, The relationship lasted 6 years? Sounds like he had in fact given up his player lifestyle and domesticated himself for you. Missing a lot of details here, but I don't understand exactly what point you are trying to make. He sounds like a real**blocking stard in the begging of your story, yet you end up with him for 6 years, break up for no explained reason, now he's happily married with children....? Maybe there IS something to it: Hate the Game

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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cancelling plans Posted: 12/10/2005 7:16:29 PM
Treat it like a bad employee calling off of work. Cancel on me, I want to hear why and what is going to be different next time. Emergencies are just that and should be taken into consideration. A stand up is a no call no show and under normal circumstances, grounds for immediate termination! If you can't show up on time for our date, I'll find someone else who will! Sadly this is a symptom of larger problems of the "ME" generation of excess! People often do whatever the hell suits them at that momment without regard for how it will effect those around them. We suck!

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Using a lot of humor in 1st email Posted: 12/7/2005 9:22:49 PM
OP: you should consider 2 very important possibilities 1) Maybe you just aren't that funny. There are a lot of bad Jerry Seinfeld wannabes out there. 2) Maybe your stuff isn't funny to women. Or at least the ones you are writing to Problem is humor is difficult to define. What one considers funny, another may find offensive or just plain boring... remember those knock knock jokes we all laughed at as little kids? If you find someone who thinks you are funny, your halfway there!

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Follow up for Internet dating sucks for men... Posted: 12/6/2005 8:36:44 PM
We all have our walls. Online, its assumed unless it states otherwise on her profile that she is single and interested in having men contact her... but the competition may be fierce so you'd best be prepaired to seperate yourself from the crowd... It's certainly EASIER to reget you here than IRL... All she has to do is not write back. Ironically, the skills one would use to impress (flirt) someone in person IRL vs online are not all that different... just more difficult to transfer and there is more chance of turning someone off without the use of voice tone and body language. There's also that whole spelling and grammar thing... I'm often embarrassed by my own spelling when I go back through and re read my posts/letters after its too late!

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Why do guys take your number and never call? Posted: 12/6/2005 9:55:38 AM
Women who will simply deny their phone number to a guy are rare... I have a lot of respect for that! The denial normally ranges from a lame excuse about why they can't, a bogus number, or they give the real number with no intention of accepting or returning the call. It can be very frustrating when you realize that only 1 in 3 women most guys ask will actually give a real and working number then want you to call them (signifigantly lower if you are meeting them in bars BTW). Having said all that, this practice of mine would be totally unnesseccary if it weren't for all the women out there who don't want to "hurt my feelings" my simply telling me they'd rather not give me their numbers. As for your hot friends, what they never learned how to dial a phone? If your going to make a case that there isn't a right way to get a number or that its rude to ask for a number you aren't certain you'll call, you should also at least CONSIDER that the phone actually dials out too. I'll bet your friends have given out a number or 2 to men they realy didn't want to talk to and never returned their calls. Ask them and repost.

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Why do guys take your number and never call? Posted: 12/6/2005 2:16:07 AM
Most guys hate the phone.... The phone is only a tool to make arrangements with. I'm pretty good about getting calls returned, but my work schedule will cause it to be a day or 2 sometimes... Enough people have commetned on the "why can't you call him" angle. I agree with this view, but its just the symptom of a larger practice. I'll ask for numbers often to stay in practice! Men often face silly rejections over the phone number thing... and women have all the aces in that poker game! So frequently i'll ask for a number to remind myself that its no big deal to do so. I don't state specifically I'll call; I just get the number with no expectations. Giving the number to Wal Mart simply strengthens my case that men need to be able to approach women with confidence in asking for the number, and make no big deal out of near certain rejection...

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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do you look at the profile before opening the email or not? Posted: 12/6/2005 2:02:53 AM
Read'em both before responding.

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Why do men say they want honesty and NO HEAD GAMES???? Posted: 12/6/2005 1:50:22 AM
Anyone who tells me they are sick of mind games just made there 1st play... These conversations are non-existant in the realm of educated and experienced single people who are tryin to find a good partner to share their lives with. They are non existant because those of us with said experience understand that we are socially conditioned to behave this way! It would be great if we could all "just be honedt with each other". Let me know what you do with the other 2 wishes after you accomplish that one! People are people; If you aren't going to educate yourself to protect yourself from the "game players" you should give up and enjoy being single.

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Doormat and the cheater Posted: 12/4/2005 11:04:01 PM
Trust people untill they give you a reason not to. Respect all people... most of all yourself... Never compromize your own self respect. Call people out on their actions, for actions speak louder than words. Never be a nice guy.... State what you want and don't be afraid to pursue your desires, or take action based on new information. Don't be afraid to make a decision with your heart, even if it involves leaving or something else that will cause you pain today... Your heart will thank you next week. Be disciplined and educated in your relationships as you are in work and life. Don't be afraid to make mistakes and to learn from those mistakes... When you learn the right compromise, you won't be a doormat OR a control freak... You'll be a gentleman!

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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the hair choice Posted: 12/4/2005 10:50:55 PM
redheads... Keep gettin hurt by them... Can't lay off of them... some kind of sick obsession I suppose... It's funny how in my experience... certain personalities are just drawn to hair color.... I've actually had a girl say this to me... "well I always KNEW I was a crazy red-head.... it was time to make the hair match the personality!"

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Why the anger?? Posted: 12/4/2005 10:33:12 PM
not writing back is the equivilant of not getting a phone number on a pass... IT AINT REAL REJECTION!!! no one on this site owes anyone an explaination for anything! At that momment, they are simply an image and an idea of who or what you might THINK they are. Fellas, we are the "hunters"... It's our job to initiate contact and find someone we make a good team with. The ladies don't OWE us a polite rejection. When they don't say anything nice, be happy they said nothing at all! Real rejection is sitting in an empty apartment staring off the balcony contemplating if the distance to the asphalt would be quick and painless while your fiance' delivers someone else's child... not having your email go un-answered... Buck up little campers! As the site implies, there are "Plenty of fish" for everyone!

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Forced into roles---DOM/SUB Posted: 12/3/2005 7:59:28 PM
Random Bird: course I'm being glib.... YOU haven't been reading my stuff... Blastkiss had a traditional manipulator on her hands... one who says one thing to get close while expecting something else in return, promises to be a husaband looking for a wife but he's really a child looking for a mom... It actually explains a lot about some of her posts.... Pretty girl like that falling for a nice guy when she really deserves a gentleman... It really pisses me off!

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Great SEXUAL attraction is so important!!! Posted: 12/2/2005 8:47:42 PM
Rules Rules Rules.... where are all the "no head games allowed" posters on this thread... This one waits untill date x, that one waits x number of days or weeks, the other one won't kiss on the 1st date... its like matching ink cartridges for the right printer to get the perfect match that works! What happened to listening to your hearts people! It would all be soooo much easier if we could all be honest with each other! "hey i really like you a lot... If you sleep with me and then never call agian, I'll be devestated... do you feel the same way?" To the OP, I also work out reguarly and take care of my body... but all beauty fades... You can only kiss for 4 hours a day, after that your passion had better have some common ground or it will fail. The most heartwrenching of all divorce stories are forged in the fires of passion, lust, and sexual desire... Be careful when playing with fire, and the hearts of women!

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Jealous Women Posted: 12/2/2005 8:33:12 PM
Hey Vixen, Thanks for rushing to my aid... I can't always be here to babysit what horrible rumors people are starting about me... Good God, it is just like the nightclub business in here sometimes....

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

Msg: 27 (view)

Jealous Women Posted: 12/2/2005 8:31:36 PM
LOL NOT AT THE SAME TIME... they were all patrons of the club, I think they would have caught on eventually! For the special people: I was there for over 3 years... Had a GF when I was hired, we broke up and was single for a few months, got into a new relationship that lasted almost a year before we split up and too a few more months off, then ended up engaged to someone who I was still with when the club closed... My now ex fiance and I split about 6 months ago. Guys like me make it EASIER for everyone else by treating women with dignity, class and respect, but not taking any nonsense from them... They'd all pull this jealousy bull crap, and I'd lay it on the line and let them know it was part of the job and part of my appeal to them. I'd let them know I would be dissapointed if they chose to leave over their own insecurities (jealousy) but that I wasn't going to change! In the end, all 3 relationships ended for entirely different reasons than the jealousy issues... but had i caved and quit my job as they wanted me to... well I wouldn't have much of a spine in that instance now would I

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Jealous Women Posted: 12/2/2005 5:08:29 AM
When I was in the nightclub business, I literally had groupies thatwould show up to see me reguarly. Part of my job was to flirt with them and make sure they all had a good time. Sometimes it could get a little raunchy. I had 3 girlfriends durring my tenure there. Each of them tried to get me to quit in their own ways. Ironically, I met all 3 of them at the same club. Also ironically, the fact that I recieved LOTS of attention from other women right in front of them made me more desireable to them by their own admision. Jealousy comes from possesiveness. All people are jealous people. Confident and secure people develop the ablility to rationalize and supress jealousy, because NOTHING good comes from it.

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Forced into roles---DOM/SUB Posted: 12/2/2005 5:02:07 AM
Gee Blastkiss, He sounds like a really NICE guy...

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Forced into roles---DOM/SUB Posted: 12/1/2005 9:50:30 PM
well, are we talking about people who want to be taught or need to be taught... Few relationships can be true "partneships" of exact equals and compromise. In order to be happy, somebodys got to be the boss.

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

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What do you hate most about being single? Posted: 12/1/2005 9:41:10 PM
Not having anyone to share life with. I've sooo much to give for the right partner...

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

Msg: 32 (view)

what is wrong with some women on this site? Posted: 11/28/2005 9:13:12 PM
There's nothing wrong with any of the women on this site. If you can't get women to write back to you... that's your problem and your fault. Have your profile reviewed. Have some female friends read some of the letters you've sent out and critique them. Get some thick skin and take advice from others. Take rejection in stride and chalk it all up to women who "were not meant for you" or "have bad taste in men". Something specific about your profile: Focus less on your needs and wants, and more on what it is you have to offer. Your supposed to be asking these girls questions to find out if they would make a good partner for you, not posting the "job qualifications" for going on a date with you, then waiting for them to write you and "apply". Good Luck

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

Msg: 50 (view)

Hand JOB????? Posted: 11/26/2005 10:36:48 PM
There's something innocently naughty about them isn't there. A good blowjob is afterall, a glorified handjob right? I'm a big fan of them, and have no problem climaxing that way and without all the risks of other acts! Too bad they tend to become a lost art (at least it has been the case with my relationships) after folks get intimate. It's also difficult to reciprocate. I often feel selfish afterwords unless it is a reward from an earlier session.

jblidner

Joined: 8/7/2005

Msg: 39 (view)

who pays Posted: 11/26/2005 10:26:43 PM
guapisimo, Thanks for the personal assualt on my character. Here's my retort: Yes i always pay... if I invited you out, that's only proper. The exceptions are: 1) If you've invited me out, you should offer to pay (don't worry, I won't let you); or 2) We've been dating long enough that its time for us to start sharing in our "entertainment expense" and have a discussion about what is appropriate. In the past, women who have OFFERED to pay really stand out in my mind... and it had nothing to do with money. Since you've offered, you'd obviously fall into that category! Like I said, even after you offered, I still wouldn't have it, but I'd be impressed. Having said all that... It's easy for an attractive woman like you to comment that its only money. I happen to work very hard for my money, and I'm very careful to save some of it so that I can be a good provider (ok, co provider don't want to ruffle the feathers of anyone with this thought) for Ms. Right. I want to help provide a good home, and be able to afford to put any children we decide to have through college. I'm hoping that the right woman will want to see not only that I can spend money, but manage it as well. How much of our children's future would you like me to squander away trying to impress women who really aren't into me?

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