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alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

Msg: 49 (view)

Would you date someone who is separated? Posted: 1/7/2007 11:10:57 AM
I myself am not comfortable with the idea of dating, and giving my heart to, a man who is separated. To me his situation means he is still tied to his wife, still married. We talked about my feelings the other day and he said he had to wait until he had the money to pay for the divorce. What makes you think you are the only woman giving your heart to him?? I know a charming married man who claims to be separated and is having intimate affairs with women in 4 different states, all of whom are patiently waiting for him to get divorced, which he has no intention of doing. His wife knows he is screwing around and doesn't care. It is the mistresses themselves who are in the dark about his other affairs.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Taken advantage off? Posted: 1/7/2007 10:27:17 AM
True love and respect make you feel steady, stable and calm. If your relationship feels like a roller-coaster then you are being taken for a ride. And you have no one to blame but yourself. You both sound like you need to be more stable and grounded, and maybe you will not be able to do this together.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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I am confused about a guy who works next door to me!! Posted: 1/7/2007 10:18:34 AM
I still disagree with all the others advice. men have no problem approaching women they are really attracted to/interested in and the ones who do are the little boys who are just up to play some guessing games. Once you start approaching men who have not initiated contact/are not interested in you you will learn how offended and rude men get when approached by women they do not find reach their standards. Give it a try and see if you like being yelled at and sworn at by angry men I agree with the above quote. It is counterproductive for women to approach men. Men get bad ideas about women who initiate an approach. This is unfortunate but true.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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I am confused about a guy who works next door to me!! Posted: 1/7/2007 10:14:12 AM
Simply be warm and friendly and nice and polite to him and to everyone. If he sees that you are nice to everyone he will feel more confident that you will be nice to him also if he talks to you. However don't get your own hopes and fantasies up about a stranger. He may not turn out to be what you like.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Would you date someone who is separated? Posted: 1/7/2007 10:06:25 AM
Most psychologists agree that a person has nothing of value to contribute to a new relationship until 2 years after a divorce. This would mean they have even less to contribute if they are still married and only separated. Divorced people need a period of rest and contemplation to reflect on their experience. And others would do well to give them this space because they are not likely to get much out of them until they do.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Would you date someone who is separated? Posted: 1/7/2007 9:56:38 AM
Would you date someone who is separated? No, I would not date someone who is separated. Yes he is still married in the eyes of the law and in the eyes of God. Let him get his affairs in order before complicating them further. Women have to set the standard for correct behavior. Men will not. If you don't honor his current marriage situation and keep your hands off someone else's husband, then other women will not honor you in a similar situation. Unfortunately too many American women have lost all sense of honor, morals, self-esteem, and good sense in their rush to have a relationship with a man, and it seems that just about any man will do.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Where are all the good guys? Posted: 1/6/2007 7:38:29 AM
Attractive women have the world at their feet and they don't even realize i Bullcrap. Men don't treat attractive women any better than they treat any other women. They don't ask them for any more dates either, or do them any more favors. They just like to gawk at them more.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

Msg: 188 (view)

Where are all the good guys? Posted: 1/6/2007 7:30:06 AM
Good guys go to church. That’s right you want a good guy? Go to church. And the guy at the front pew, reading his bible quietly, yah that’s a good guy. Watch out for bad guys with Bibles in church too: Rev. Ted Haggard, Evangelical Minister - resigned for homosexual misconduct. Rev. Jimmy Swaggart - Assembly of God - Caught in prostitution. Rev. Jim Bakker - Assembly of God - convicted of tax evasion. Rev. Jerry Falwell - Baptist minister - made false witness against a president. Rev. Pat Robertson - Baptist minister - wants to be president instead of pastor. And the list goes on. Males are consistently throwing the Gospels of Christ out of the churches and substituting male chauvinistic politics instead.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Where are all the good guys? Posted: 1/6/2007 6:55:21 AM
Ummmmm I think that's why everyone's here.........to find the good buys and good girls I think most of the guys are here to find the bad girls not the good girls.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Is oral sex on the first date a killer? Posted: 1/6/2007 6:52:13 AM
Is oral sex a killer on a first date? Yes it is. Any kind of sex is a killer on the first date. Not many people want to plan a serious relationship and a home and marriage with a male or female whore.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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My ex has found someone, I'm not handling it well Posted: 12/28/2006 6:13:34 PM
i may have done the wrong thing in some peoples eyes but it felt so very right. To the gal who confronted her ex in the parking lot after he made numerous calls to her, I think you did exactly the right thing. You presented some badly needed truth into the situation. If more women did this in a polite and non-threatening way, so as not to frighten the other woman, I think it would be a good thing. Truth helps to cut down on victimization.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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My ex has found someone, I'm not handling it well Posted: 12/28/2006 5:51:43 PM
Divorce is always a sad thing, and should always be the last resort. Before the divorce, women should give careful consideration to how they are going to feel when their ex finds another mate, because most of them will. Sharing your feelings may help other women to give careful thought to how they will handle your type situation. I don't think anyone here can criticize you. Only you know whether you made a wise move or not to get the divorce. I wish you the best of luck with your future and I'm sure everyone else will too. It is good you can maintain love for your ex-husband, even though you found you could not live with him. As far as him not returning the expression, many men do not have the same capacity for love that women do. Their brains are constructed differently. But, as you noted, they can contribute other things to the home such as support and stability. Best wishes to you for your future.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Why arnt ultimatums a very good idea? Posted: 12/28/2006 4:17:34 AM
There come times in everyone's life when you have to have to issue an ultimatum. You have to have an answer or you have to resolve an issue or bring closure to a situation or relationship. However, it is true that ultimatums should be few and far between and reached with the most careful consideration. Before issueing an ultimatum to someone else, you should first examine yourself and make sure you are prepared for the most disappointing outcome possible to the ultimatum.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site? Posted: 12/28/2006 4:04:11 AM
I would say that if he is still on-line and you are on here asking advice then it is not getting as serious as you think. You both probably have some growing and developing to do. I think he has every right to be on-line but I think you need to be very careful how much of yourself you invest in this guy at this point.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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why are men intimidated when a woman asks them out? Posted: 12/28/2006 3:43:19 AM
To the guy above me.Have you not messaged a girl with no pic?I think you would be very very surprised by what there appearance is,NO it does not apply to all women i know.I suggest you give it a shot!Appearance will only get you so I feel it is each person's choice to have a photo or not on-line, and each person's choice not to contact whomever they please. Some people prefer to exchange photos privately before meeting. I know some very attractive people that don't post photos publicly. I don't think any conclusions can be drawn from this, except what we all already know, and that is that many men are very superficial in their relations with women, interested in looks only, and some women try to avoid that. And, the more attractive the woman, the more she avoids that and looks for more substance in men.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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why are men intimidated when a woman asks them out? Posted: 12/28/2006 3:10:32 AM
I really wanted to meet him and I put the suggestion out to him, and he, in fact, agreed to meeting me ("It will be interesting to meet the person behind the emails and phone chats" - his words!) ... but then he just ... "disappeared". I've had no contact back from him in over a week. I think he got intimidated ... unless he is really, really ill ... I think there are two factors at work here. One is that men have a built-in gene to want to be the aggressor, finder, discoverer and pursuerer of women, rather than the other way around. A woman can facilitate getting approached by being a warm, friendly, polite and approachable person. The second factor is that men have a huge capacity for voyeurism - sexual gratification by artificial means. And the older they get, the more into this they become. Phone sex is frequently more desireable to them than real sex. Men pay a billion dollars a year for artificial gratification.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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why are men intimidated when a woman asks them out? Posted: 12/28/2006 2:50:56 AM
I looked at your profile, it is very wordy and it is not even written by you. How did you view her profile? When I select her user id I only get a list of the other threads she has started, and she seems like one mixed-up young lady.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Were the original settlers of the US a bunch of religious crackpots? Posted: 12/26/2006 12:49:34 PM
Do you think the founding fathers realized that the original citizens of the US were a bunch of overzealous heretics and that's why they tried to seperate government from the Church in the constitutional laws? On TV the other night there was mention that James Madison pushed for the separation of church and state in the constitution because he heard the screams of the Baptist ministers who were being tortured by the Anglicans who were the first state religion in the Jamestown colony. Then apparently the protestants and Puritans did the same torturing and burning at the stake in the New England colonies when they had control of the government. State religion is not a good thing. Jesus never advocated it. Now we know why.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Rebound Horror Story Posted: 12/26/2006 12:34:50 PM
Wonderful rebound story. Woman's cheating on her husband. Husband calls wife of guy. They have dinner, and talk. They keep talking. They get together. The get divorced. They get married. Since they were each the wage earners in their respective marriages lots of sh*t happens during the divorces. But it got solved (both have to sell their houses). They bought another, together. Bigger than either owned before. They now live in the country, breed horses, and are still madly in love after 10 years. The cheaters tore each other up in little pieces during their divorces, and were forced to go looking for other sugar parents. I loved it too. Thanks for sharing.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Rebound Horror Story Posted: 12/26/2006 12:32:37 PM
And from the replies I've gotten so far, apparently a lot of people make the same mistake. So keep the Holier Than Thou attitude to yourself, thanks. If you don't want opinions that are different from yours, then don't get on a national website and ask for them.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Waiting till after New Years to say goodbye..... Posted: 12/25/2006 2:25:20 PM
Frankly I don't understand your dilemma. I don't understand what the holidays have to do with ending a relationship that isn't working. If you are not married and there are no children involved why do you need outside advice on this?

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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physically abused woman I need advice Posted: 12/25/2006 2:18:21 PM
From your narrative, it sounds like you have done all the right things, and have done some very nice things for this woman. I think it might be helpful if you also could talk to a psychologist about this. Not that there is anything wrong with you but just to help you get through this and understand her better, and understand the limitations of what you can do to help her.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Rebound Horror Story Posted: 12/25/2006 6:59:52 AM
Anyways, just wondering if anyone else out there has any horror stories of meetings that didn't work out, or rebound stories. Well certainly the guy you were involved with has a horror story to tell - about a gal with no morals or manners who gets on a national website and discusses his privates and his detailed sexual activity. He should have known what most psychologists agree upon, and that is that most people do not have anything worthwhile to contribute to a new relationship for the first two years after a divorce or end of a long term relationship.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Women can be really shallow. Posted: 12/25/2006 6:23:52 AM
I don't know what is wrong with me, but I just can't attract women. Perhaps this is because you are shallow also??? And if you base your assessment of all women on this one young lady, you are not too smart either!!!

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Changing to Christmas Season to the Holiday Season?????? Posted: 12/25/2006 6:15:29 AM
True Christians understand that Jesus never owned a Christmas Tree and never suggested one be named after Him, or cards or carols for that matter. He never instructed His disciples to try to take over the government in His name. He by and large ignored His government and it was one of the worst non-Christian governments in history. Jesus was about converting individuals. The serious student of the Gospels understands that Christianity is a self-improvement course. If you get busy trying to follow the teachings in the Gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke and John) you will realize your own shortcomings. And you will find that Jesus cautioned against criticizing others in His name. He said to cast the beam out of your own eye before you worry about the mote in your brother's eye, and to judge not lest you be judged. Criticizing others and the government in the name of Christianity is a cop-out for those who who do not want to study and try to follow the teachings in the Gospels themselves.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Your boyfriend tells a sexual joke to your daughter ! Posted: 12/25/2006 5:57:41 AM
It is definitely time for the mother to get a new boyfriend. This one is inexcusable. It sounds like the mother doesn't have much morality either. I feel sorry for this child.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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high standards.. Posted: 12/24/2006 5:25:04 PM
Yes, I think it is possible for a person to have such an impact that they raise your standards and expectations for how you want to be treated by everyone else. Once you have been treated like a real lady by a real gentleman who is a good manager and likes to wine, dine and entertain you and can manage any sort of travel and reservations all by himself, you become disenchanted with guys who think it's a too much trouble to drive to a neighboring town and buy a woman a cup of coffee.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Can you have amazing chemistry with someone you have never met? Posted: 12/24/2006 2:17:32 PM
No you cannot have amazing chemistry with someone you have never met. You can have amazing respect, interest, intellectual rapport, and political agreement. But not chemistry. Chemistry involves chemicals emitted by people such as phermones, and you must be in their vicinity to have a reaction to these chemicals. Blind people experience them just like people with sight. But not at a great distance.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Alone for the holidays. Posted: 12/24/2006 2:04:38 PM
There are many people spending the holidays alone. And I want to wish everyone peace, happiness and prosperity in the new year. New years is a time for new hope, new resolutions, and new understading based upon the knowledge gained during the past year.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Mens' Perception of Women Posted: 12/24/2006 12:59:45 PM
Rain - I fell in love with your photo and experienced great physical attraction for you and thought you might be the one!!! Then I read your profile and found out you were a woman. Shucks !!! But it's still the cutest photo on here !!! Sorry to get off topic folks. Back to problem solving.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Long Distance Relationships Do they work? Posted: 12/24/2006 12:33:04 PM
Long distance relationships work great for married men who are mobile, manipulative, managerial types with money to burn. The distance provides a cover for them. Long distance relationships also work out great for single men who are mobile, managerial types and can manage travel if they find a woman worth it. Be sure you know which type you're dating. I know a married man who has mistresses in 4 different states. None of them know he is married. And each one thinks she is his only lover. He talks to each of them daily on the phone and travels to see each of them about once a month. Or he pays for their airline ticket to fly where ever he happens to be travelling on business - which is frequently Chicago.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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First Meeting Ever Feel Like an Interview to You? Posted: 12/15/2006 4:03:41 PM
A person who can only converse in interview type questions is lacking social conversation skills and will manage to get the interview in whether you have dinner with him or an activity. I have been interviewed on the dance floor with only a quick drink before dancing. I agree that a long drawn out dinner date with interview questions is not a good first date, but people with good communication skills should be able to manage a reasonable length dinner with conversation about general topics that is interesting to both and not personal questions. It's the lack of communication skills that is the problem, not the dinner.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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throwing in the towel................... Posted: 12/15/2006 3:37:17 PM
You are not alone in your frustration with this and other dating sites. I don't think any of the free dating sites have any statistics on the number of members who actually meet someone and form a long term relationships or marriage as a result of their dating site. I have never personally met anyone who formed a long term relationship or marriage from an Internet datng site. Perhaps nobody ever meets anybody worthwhile on the Internet!!! Most of the men on here are couch potatoes where relationships are concerned. They want a perfect 10 to drop out of the sky and give them sexual service on their couch. But if they have to get up and drive somewhere to have a relationship with a woman - forget it !!!

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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How does one stop having sex with an ex? Posted: 12/12/2006 8:56:02 AM
How does one stop having sex with an ex? The same way one stops over-eating or over indulging in alchohol or drugs. It usually takes a lot of self will and sometimes the help of a professional. Your relationship is not good. You obviously did not connect on some important levels or you wouldn't be apart. Sex is not going to solve this problem. You didn't break up prematurely, you entered into sex with him prematurely in the first place or you wouldn't be having this problem. I remember when the term "ex" only applied only to ex-husbands. Now girls apply it to a guy they've had one or two dates with and they think they own the guy. They wail and complain when he moves on to someone else. Sad. Very Sad.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 12/11/2006 5:51:35 PM
Yes, I met someone with no pic. He turned out to be one of the best looking guys I've met and a charming date. We had been emailing for months before we met and I liked everything he had to say also. That was six years ago and I still see him occasionally.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Need advise - My Boyfriend been with 105 Girls!!!! Posted: 12/9/2006 3:15:29 PM
Your bf is a liar in every way. He hasnt' been with 105 chicks nor does he give a shit about you if he's telling you he's been with 105 chicks. Who admits that? I agree with the above quote completely. Your boyfriend is a nut case and so are you. Get out of that relationship and get yourself straightened out.

alana2

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Virtual Reality - almost there but not quite Posted: 12/9/2006 2:51:42 PM
The O.P. has posted a succinct and intelligent analysis of a situation that is a sign of our times - the world of virtual reality. People who think this analysis is too narrow an interpretation of the on-line community should think again. Historically, the physical and material attributes we conjured up for ourselves about what we wanted in a perfect mate usually did not match up with what we eventually fell in love with. This is because there are so many more important aspects to a person than can be conveyed in an on-line photo or on-line physical description. However, with the advent of on-line virtual reality dating sites, there can be hundreds of people with possible matches to our superficial criteria, so that when one superficial encounter doesn't work out, we can go on to the next and the next and the next. In order to combat this, there is one particular spiritual church that sponsors an on-line introductions site that does not allow any physical descriptions at all, not even age I think. And this is not a right-wing radical conservative church. It is one of the more liberal, tolerant and outgoing groups. They simply think it is better to meet friends with similar mental beliefs first, and then get to the physical aspects later. If the physical attraction doesn't work out, you may still have found a kindred soul and a friend. I have no doubt that these people experience better and more satisfying correspondence than some of the rudeness and complaints I hear on POF.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Thoughts on this whole online dating thing.... Posted: 12/9/2006 7:43:25 AM
I think your ideas are fine. I think your profile is fine. And I think you will do fine. As you've already learned from the educational achievements you've made, there is no magic formula for avoiding disappointments in life; however, there is a formula for success. It is to be sincere, industrious and persevering. To have success with the opposite sex you must be what you want to meet. If you want a truthful person, you must be a truthful person. If you want a caring person, you must be a caring person, etc.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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To all the ladies of POF Posted: 12/9/2006 7:25:58 AM
Apparently you are a member of the "Recently Scorned Womens" club as well to buy into her male bashing with such vigor. Gosh, you must be a member of the "Recently (and often) Scorned Men's Club". And I can understand why.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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To all the ladies of POF Posted: 12/9/2006 7:18:08 AM
But what puzzles me, is the women who are making negative comments about it! Do they not believe in celebrating womanhood? Men should also believe in their own beauty and celebrate their manhood. The human race is beautiful. There is no shame in prose that uplifts men or women. Women love men. Men love women. Celebrating one's own gender does not negate that! Women who don't like this post don't like themselves. And it is a commpn professional psychological fact that people who don't like themselves cannot be loving caring partners to anyone else.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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To all the ladies of POF Posted: 12/9/2006 7:12:53 AM
What is so "beautiful" about being self centered, alienating another gender and then acting as if they are above GOD by saying they should see themself as their own god? Learn to read lady. None of the statements you made are in the original post. There are no statements in the original post saying: It is beautiful to be self-centered. It is good to alienate the opposite gender. I am above God.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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To all the ladies of POF Posted: 12/9/2006 6:57:57 AM
Thank you for this beautiful post. This is a good way to live and I think I have been trying to live this way most of my adult life. I have named my own God through a lifelong study of the Gospels and the study of other religions. My God is the God of Jesus Christ. I find women stupid and frightening who will allow other people to name their Gods for them - people like like Jimmy Swaggart, Jim Bakker, Jerry Falwell, Pat Robertson and so on. Until a woman studies and meditates on what she really believe in her own heart, she is just a puppet and robot open to all sorts of evil influences. Women who allow others to name their God for them can't possibly be true Christians or any other religion. In order to truely be something, you must have given careful consideration and meditation to it and integrated it into yourself as a personal conscious decision.

alana2

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Instant Gratification Posted: 12/8/2006 6:25:38 PM
Please have a picture first and foremost as physical attraction, while not paramount, is key. Its all Physics, Chemistry, and Biology baby! You do the Math and figure it out. How can a man who has the above statement in his profile be whining because women put too much emphasis on Chemistry?? You are one mixed up dude!! But you have a lot of company. The photo ads are not working for the majority of people. This is not a car catalog where you can order up the year, make, model, color and performance you want. If you get the year, make, model and color you want, you find the performance is bad. People would probably do well to leave off the photos entirely and check out the person's personality first. Pretty girls don't get treated any better than other girls, they simply attract twice as many jerks. So why bother posting glamour shots? And most men are so ugly they would do better to leave off their photos completely and develop charming communication instead. Relationships take work and adventure!! You can send a photo after you decide you like their correspondence and personality. It is no better to be attracted to someone physically and then find you are not attracted to them mentally than to be attracted to them mentally and then find out you are not attracted to them physically. In fact, I would be willing to bet the mental attractions have a better chance of succeeding. In the case of women at least, a mental attraction to a man can sometimes overcome his lack of good looks and a physical attraction can develop over time.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Strikeout One After Another Posted: 12/8/2006 4:02:48 PM
I've read your profile and wanted to send you a woman's opinion. I agree with most of the other opinions, including the one from the woman who said you have some good points. Try to emphasize your good points and leave off any unnecessary or negative information. Saying you are a human being is unnecessary information, and doesn't distinguish you from other human beings, including undesirable ones. If you choose to post a photo, post a sincere one showing yourself in the best light. I think most women like tall men with a deep voices, so that is not a negative asset. When you contact women, try to personalize your message with a reference to something in their profile, so your message does not sound like a mass media message that can be broadcast to a thousand women at once.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Its simple to make a woman happy... Posted: 12/7/2006 10:32:58 AM
"experienced men" know all that and that's why 99% of all people here will never find a mate! This is true. Therefore women need to prune their list considerably and eliminate a lot of the emotional and intellectual needs from it, and plan on getting those needs met elsewhere. Be satisfied with a man who has mechanical, electrical and bread winning abilities. It's good to expect reasonable and responsible behavior from a man, but it is unreasonable to expect a lot of emotional and intellectual communication and companionship from someone whose own needs can be met by any naked woman with a six pack of beer!!

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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How important is it to have a sense of humour in a relationship? Posted: 12/7/2006 10:13:51 AM
If you are going to have any sort of a relationship with a male, whether it be personal, business or religious, it is essential that you have a sense of humor. This doesn't mean you should approve of what they do, but it's good if you can laugh about it while justice is being meted out. For example, I laughed out loud when I read Pastor Jimmy Swaggert's biography. His fellow pastor put a tail on him and followed him to the motel where he regularly met a prostitute. Then the other pastor let the air out of Jimmy's tires and called the police. The other pastor did this because Jimmy exposed his own adultery some years earlier. I suppose Jimmy's wife is not laughing, but it would be good if she could, while at the same time handing out whatever retribution he deserves. Pat Robertson and Jerry Falwell can be equally as funny while doing absolutely obnoxious things.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Why is everyone so negative? Posted: 12/5/2006 7:42:43 PM
If dating sites cause so much misery, then why stay? My motto is that we are as happy as we choose to be. You answered your own question in your own sentence that followed. Dating sites don't cause misery. People cause themselves misery by making unwise use of them. Your motto is partially correct. A lot of our happiness comes from within ourselves. You can never depend upon another person to make you totally happy.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Technology: The death of relationships Posted: 12/1/2006 4:17:29 PM
"lose the capacity to have sex with real live women." I'm willing to bet if any of those males were put in a room with a computer and a naked woman and told to choose we would see quite different test results Artifical sexual stimulation no longer consists of just a computer. According to the documentary research, porn movies now come with high tech artificial sex packages including inflatable dolls, vagina shaped rubber molds with real hair, penis suction pumps and so on. And men are spending a billion dollars a year on this artificial sex. The point of the documentary was that men have the choice to chose between live women and artificial sexual stimulation every day and a large portion of them are choosing high tech artificial sex. And this is the type of technology that is destroying relationships.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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The Rejection Blues Posted: 12/1/2006 12:28:50 PM
Thank you Squirrly for a well written and valuable essay. Your advice is very good.

alana2

Joined: 8/7/2005

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Need advice.. am I overreacting..? Posted: 12/1/2006 12:17:11 PM
Just wait and see what your Saturday date with him is like. Take it one step at a time. There is no need to jump to conclusions in any relationship. People will eventually show their true colors and you can accept them or reject them based on real facts - not on imagined conclusions.

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