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OK....What is everyones definition of dating?
Posted: 11/5/2009 10:15:29 AM | There seems to be a fine and blurry line when it comes to Dating and Long Term (or relationship under other lingo)
I think leaving it hazy or without rules allows for those who are hurt from past relationships, commitment gun shy or those seeking NSA to define their interactions on a one on one basis.
Any type of relationship is confusing, since you may go on a DATE with one guy you chatted with and liked but you had agreed also to another as you had met neither prior. The only way to know who you TRULY want to DATE towards the process of becoming a relationship is to get to know them both. BUT HOW to do so without misleading or putting boundaries so high that you can not establish chemistry is a perilous dance.
At the same time , going on a DATE then shutting all doors till you figure out if this is the right person has its downfall since it may mean months of getting to know each other till something is unearthed that shows incompatibility. Then you are both back into the pool but your other prospects that may have been more suitable has moved on. Hence why this site is so rightfully named after fishing. Dating is a GAME used to protect yourself till you find the right person and can stop the line and hook and be yourselves together.
SO dictionary version :
Date
a. An engagement to go out socially with another person, often out of romantic interest.
b. One's companion on such an outing.
Dating
4. To go on a date or dates with.
Post I agree with : http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/718470
In practice, dating is the process of going out for (first) dates with someone, the time when you get to know each other. that's the time when you're allowed to ask other girls for dates too, since there's no commitment other than to show up on time for the dates.
Being in a relationship, on the other hand, is the time when you exclusively see that one significant other; that's the time when you'd better not be seeing other girls in terms of dating or a relationship.
I think we should all try to be as straight as possible with those who allow us the privilege to get to know them. And to be as honest as we can concerning our own needs, as it was stated in the thread you should not date for status or gain. Being honest does not mean you are stuck on that status for life, and if all you are seeking is physical relief at this moment then set yourself up as Intimate so you get people who are on the same page responding. Nothing states you can't go to dinner before hand.
This does not mean you can choose later on to date or have a relationship, you are in control of you.
But don't try to worm your way into someone under another status hoping their mind will change. They chose that setting because it was what was most comfortable to them. If they want more or something else they will state such request.
POF is simply a meeting place and a tool to meet more people or different people to go on dates...so be kind and have fun | | | |
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