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fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 62 (view)

Honestly is this true........... Posted: 7/2/2008 7:46:35 AM
IMO, If the OP and other like minded women want to hold out on guys in that context.... Please. It reminds me of the playground fights I had with my brother and cousin's which ends by one of us saying "I'm taking my ball and going home". We are supposed to be adults. Holding out will get you to the same place, -alone, and without any. It also brings to light a thinking process that goes beyond sex. I feel sex is a two way street and one of the many great facets of any relationship, not a bargining chip. And you don't have to be on the same page all the time. I have waited a long time to be intimate with some girls because it was the right thing to do. We both wanted it just as much, but it didn't happen till it was right. Alot of posters have said be up front early in the relationship. I agree.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 86 (view)

You are alone because you don't love yourself! Posted: 6/22/2008 9:11:56 AM
This is really a good question or questions. I have never understood it either, and there are times when not only do I not love myself, but frankly don't like myself. You know, the times where I do something stupid, wrong, etc. Or NOT have done something I should have aswell. I have never actually thought about loving myself per say. Is that even possible?. Sure there I times I really like being me so much I'm giddy, but actually loving myself?. I guess I have always thought that loving is for someone or something else. At times when I really felt down and not wanting to be in my own skin, I still loved my mom, dad, family freinds, etc. So just by that, that cliche' can't be right.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 19 (view)

Sister is dating a Neo-Nazi skinhead...really worried about her.... Posted: 6/22/2008 8:30:02 AM
Does she share the same views or is it just her boyfriend?. If she doesn't share the same views and is indifferent to them, it sounds like she may be trying to punish someone in her family. ie Mom or dad. Her age probly plays a factor in her choice to date him. How old is she?. If younger then say 20, this may be the case and she is trying to get back at someone close to her.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 59 (view)

Why do women say, 'Please no frogs' in headline? Posted: 6/21/2008 10:15:24 PM
I'm with you on this one Knight.

fishologist

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Msg: 14 (view)

How many women is enough?! Posted: 6/21/2008 9:46:42 PM
I'd like to know Lucretia better... :)

fishologist

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Msg: 13 (view)

How many women is enough?! Posted: 6/21/2008 9:45:12 PM
Hi Niick. I am starting to get that social vib and I'm drawn to it. havn't been bashed on to much. Most have been very positive. So yea, I think you may be right. I guess i just need to get to know some posters better and that comes with time.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 36 (view)

Does being old mean you have to be rude? Posted: 6/21/2008 9:41:31 PM
I do see more talking on the forums then via profile chatting. I've only been here for a month or so though. If anything, my responses have slowed since my first sign on weeks. Probly a sign of things to come.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 33 (view)

Does being old mean you have to be rude? Posted: 6/21/2008 9:10:25 PM
I agree with jademuse.

fishologist

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How many women is enough?! Posted: 6/21/2008 8:46:39 PM
I'm new to the site, but if I met a girl on here or elsehwere and it was exclusive I would not continue to look for 'something" greener. If I made good friends , they would allready have my standard email address or number. :)

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

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Is she interested? Posted: 6/21/2008 8:42:17 PM
I'm with plastic surgeon and Luke on this one.

fishologist

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Msg: 22 (view)

going alone ? Posted: 6/21/2008 8:37:14 PM
There are exceptions to every thing, but if I saw a rare girl alone at a bar I might think she's hoping to meet someone. Not nessearliy a one night stand, but meet someone for possibly more. Before sights like this, there are not many places for people of certain ages to meet other then bars. Especially if you work wierd hours or shifts. All it takes is a hello to find out. Even with sights like this. Another poster put it that in order to meet someone, you have to get out of the house. Kind of Ironic to be saying this in this setting... oh, well.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 165 (view)

How much is enough??? Posted: 6/21/2008 8:25:39 PM
Its not every guy that buys those stuff..what about the guy that doesnt?..and its not about showing her she "means more to him" than those toys or whatever you are talking about..buying an expensive ring..or one that is more expensive than those "toys" you are talking about does NOT in any way shape or form necessarily means that you mean more to him..a ring is just a ring..you cant you the "quality" of a ring or its "worth" to judge how much you mean to someone..o i'm not sure what you are trying to get across with that analogy.. I never said I did. It was a gauge between the nessesary non-physical stuff in a relationship and the un-nessesary stuff(ie:things) in a relationship. The cost of a ring I believe should be right in the middle of those. IE: If a jet ski was my most expensive un-nessesary possesion, and I was going out with my friends to the lake that day without her; I wouldn't want my wife kissing me goodbye knowing I spent more money on a toy like that then on one of the physical symbols of my Love for her. If one thinks she won't think about things like that. Think again. Right or wrong, they will think about it.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 94 (view)

Why do guys talk about how wealthy they are? Posted: 6/21/2008 8:02:28 PM
People who die with the most self proclaimed toy's and money, still die.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 18 (view)

Great job offer...would take me away from love. Advice? Posted: 6/21/2008 8:01:07 PM
"Charmed" pretty much summed it up. Good luck to you.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 22 (view)

When should I tell someone about a handicap? Posted: 6/21/2008 7:56:30 PM
I'd be up front right away. I know it's not the same thing, but I went back and forth about saying I'm a smoker in my profile. I knew it would cut my responses down significantly if I did, but in the end I decided to be upfront and honest on this site when I first signed up. I just turned 42 and I don't want to waste my time or anyone elses time if I'm ever in a position to meet someone, and smoking would be a deal breaker.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 26 (view)

Why ask for The Number? Posted: 6/21/2008 7:47:57 PM
Yea, ask him for his number. I'm asuming you gave him your number without him asking?. If so, that's probly why he hasn't called. He's into something else right now.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

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What to do in this situation... Posted: 6/21/2008 7:44:49 PM
Kitty, I'm sorry it eneded up this way with your friend. From what you said, I would appreciate the friendship you had, but move on. To much drama in this guy's life, and you don't really even know how much is true, and how much he has made up. Find a nice local guy to be friends with that's a little more three dimentional. At the very least long distance one's rarly work. Good luck. Merci, Qubec!. :)

fishologist

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Msg: 60 (view)

Locked out, and wondering... Guys, help! Posted: 6/20/2008 10:58:10 PM
No key's for anyone. For all I know she'll be going thru my tackle box's and stealing my lures when I'm not there.... :)

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 26 (view)

Is love a choice? Posted: 6/20/2008 10:46:59 PM
No in my opinion. The gals I have fallen for in the past were unlikely Gal's for me to do just that. It's were they will stay, but I don't believe even to this day that it's a choice. Sure there's a "get to know phase" , but when you can't get them out of your head, you know your in trouble and start saying just as much to yourself out loud. Only one time did I know in the first few minutes. The couple others happened over a few weeks. Sadly, they didn't work out for reason I don't wish to discuss. And here I am, seeing if I'm lucky enough to start talking outloud to myself again :) . JMO

fishologist

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Msg: 305 (view)

Your Pet or YourRelationship? Posted: 6/20/2008 1:14:52 AM
I'll miss her.... My pets are not going anywhere. No one can take care of them as I do. Not becuase I do anything really special, they like me, and are just used to the great care I provide them. Enough said.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 116 (view)

Have you every enjoyed a man with a velvet tongue? Posted: 6/20/2008 12:44:04 AM
1 O'Clock Guy's... One O'Clock. One O'Clock. One past 12:00. My job is done here :)

fishologist

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Msg: 81 (view)

Not even spit, so forget about swallow.... Posted: 6/20/2008 12:41:57 AM
Great response dork.

fishologist

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Shooting or Dribbling . . . . Posted: 6/20/2008 12:32:32 AM
I agree with two feet. You wait a few days and all should be well. Those porn guys are probly doing it several times a day for a shoot and by scene three the only thing that comes out is dust.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

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why is it that in this day and age.... Posted: 6/20/2008 12:29:05 AM
I think part of it is that we live in a age were instant gratifacation is the general rule, and sex is no exception. I don't follow this rule myself with sex, but I do find myself being guilty of other needs being satisfied quickly.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 21 (view)

Drunken Hook up then total regret the next morning!! Posted: 6/20/2008 12:22:47 AM
It is what it is. I haven't done something like that in ages. When I did, and woke up, I would immediatly try to remember if I was careful and used a condom and pray I didn't look like an idiot, etc. . In every case it was yes and yes, and maybe :). Then I would do it agian if possible- assuming I liked my arm attached to my shoulder :). I don't regret any of those youthful escapades. However, you flip a coin everytime you do something like that, and I got lucky and called eveyone of them right. Not to say I wouldn't do it again if the star's a-line, but for the most part, those days are behind me.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 31 (view)

HPV Posted: 6/20/2008 12:00:18 AM
Getting this scares the crap out of me. Almost as much as a un-planned baby. I've never even had a urinary infection, so I'm a little squemish about such stuff. Wish there was a vaccine for guy's too. I'd be first in line. And no, I don't have it, and don't know about it. Read the next post. Probly more interesting.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 84 (view)

15 year old daughter and condoms. Posted: 6/19/2008 11:54:21 PM
Maybe she opened a couple to see what they looked like, and well maybe felt like somehow. Best to talk to her about it in a open and caring way. JMO.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 26 (view)

Catching in the choochie coupon. Posted: 6/19/2008 11:50:03 PM
Man , I bust out laughing at your story. That's a great idea. Any girls want to fax me any?. :)

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

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Low class Bum vs. Low Class Bum with a camcorder Posted: 6/19/2008 11:42:03 PM
I used to take my old camcorder to concerts a while back where the parking lot scene was quite a party in-itself. It was interesting to see how many girls came up to me. None took there clothes off , nor did I ask them too, but they were definately intrigued by the whole thing. Most would of probly never talked to me if I didn't have it. That is for sure.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 27 (view)

What is meant by a fun girl? Posted: 6/19/2008 11:34:52 PM
My definition of a"Fun Girl" is a gal who likes doing everything you do including sleeping together, with no strings, and is totally cool if you find someone to be exclusive with.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 84 (view)

If asking kills attraction... Posted: 6/19/2008 11:27:34 PM
I like to hear it. Were simple creatures girls. Black and white is good. We don't like grey area's. At least I don't.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

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How much is enough??? Posted: 6/19/2008 11:23:48 PM
Obviously it depends on one's salary, but I think it should be at least $1 or more over the most expensiove toy you have ever bought not including a vehical, - or boat :). Sound Good?. Yes, no?

fishologist

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Msg: 45 (view)

Not even spit, so forget about swallow.... Posted: 6/18/2008 11:58:51 PM
To me it certainly is not a deal breaker if a girl doesn't want me to cum in her mouth and maybe swallow , but for me it's really nice wonce in a while if the moment is right for it, and she's honestly enjoy's and is cool with it. I never mind returning the favor :). J.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

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Do you ever get bored with dating, sex, and everything else? Posted: 6/18/2008 11:31:28 PM
Your not alone OP. I find myself feeling and being the same way alot lately. Nice to know I'm not the only one. J

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

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What kind of attraction? Posted: 6/18/2008 10:34:07 PM
Eye contact and the smile. Not any eye contact and a smile. THE eyecontact and the smile. :)

fishologist

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Jumping into the first date? Posted: 6/18/2008 10:26:11 PM
How about "How the hell are you", or "When the hell can we hook up?" Would that be better?. Just Kidding. Yea, It's definately a better idea to know a little more about a person before you spend the time, energy, and perhaps money to go out on a date. J.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 120 (view)

What would men do if they had a vagina for a day Posted: 6/18/2008 10:22:40 PM
What the hell would I do if I looked in the mirror and got turned on by myself?. I sure the heck ain't looking for a guy to take care of things... Hmm, it would be very strange... J.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

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Should I run from this? Posted: 6/18/2008 10:16:03 PM
Yea, I'd hang out for a bit and see where it goes. You got kids in the same age group and thats a good things because you can do more stuff together when he has her. Skin like Satin huh?. :). On a side note. Am I the only guy in the world that has not had a Harem?.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

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What does this all mean ? Man terms pls Posted: 6/18/2008 10:09:34 PM
He's to inconsistant. Move on. J.

fishologist

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Calls me everyday..all day...but no time to see me..WHATS UP WITH THAT? Posted: 6/18/2008 10:01:47 PM
Sounds like he doesn't want to commit, but doesn't want to lose his sounding board at the same time. Is or was he close to his Mom and can't talk to her anymore?. J

fishologist

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If you would read my profile...... Posted: 6/18/2008 9:58:53 PM
Your age narrowe's things down a bit. Not in a bad way. It's probly a demographic thing. Like some other posters said, no photo and a small profile probly lessen's your responses more then anything. J

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 15 (view)

Why do men write one liners & expect to carry on a conversation? Posted: 6/18/2008 9:54:34 PM
IMO, most men are not chatty Cathy's online. Don't take it personal. Get them on the phone and I think things will be better. J

fishologist

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Msg: 297 (view)

When I say a few extra pounds Posted: 6/17/2008 11:51:41 PM
Look nice to me. Being honest is the best policy.

fishologist

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Msg: 42 (view)

deeper meanings and intimacy for men Posted: 6/17/2008 11:47:20 PM
I can think of alot of them. Some I'm fond of are her wearing the cloths and perfume I find so nice on her. If she smiles when she first see's me after a long period of time. The way she moves. How her hand feels in mine. etc.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 24 (view)

The So do you like sex? question Posted: 6/17/2008 11:43:05 PM
So, do you like sex?. Do you?. Kidding aside, it is a retorical question for most. Ofcourse we like sex , 99 percent of the people on this website does, but you'll always find the few who must ask. If I may, the question I would like to ask is: is it that big a deal?. For example;... guy's can tell you the new " Sex and the City" was a great movie considering it was a TV show at first, and it's RARE that that kinda of jump makes a smash hit at the box office, so really, is it that big a deal we ask stupid questions sometimes?. We are all human.

fishologist

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Msg: 100 (view)

if a women is single for a long time would you think she was odd? Posted: 6/17/2008 11:30:31 PM
Nope. There shouldn't be. Because I understand that "crap" does happen and I'm in the same boat right now for honest reasons(getting over a long term, then a parent falling ill and passing,etc.) It hasn't been 5 years but close. I'd much rather said gal then one who has been all over the place the last 5 years.

fishologist

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Msg: 72 (view)

When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants Posted: 6/17/2008 11:26:50 PM
I believe in the beginning the gal should let the guy know when she's ready. After that the guy can let her know in whatever way they click with. Some guy's, including myself, are a little afraid scaring off someone we may really like, or at worst, getting a knock at the door by the police the next morning saying you got carried away last night and would you please come with us.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 72 (view)

Why do men ask so few questions? Posted: 6/17/2008 11:21:25 PM
Because we know all the answers... Just Kidding. Interesting you say some of these things. In most cases, I have asked many gals questions related to there profile on this site, always sign with my name, but very few respond back.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 29 (view)

info wanted Posted: 6/17/2008 11:15:07 PM
The forum has it pretty much right. How long have you known him for?. Need more info to help IMO. As a guess, it may be because he want's to "wear" the pants in any decision making. You, vicariously via the DVD player, made it clear you are of your own mind. Good for you. Move on.

fishologist

Joined: 4/30/2008

Msg: 83 (view)

Will men run if my roomate is also my ex-husband Posted: 6/17/2008 11:04:56 PM
To me it would. Probly wouldn't sleep well. I'd like my next girlfriend to be out of a relationship for at least a year. An ex-husband still living in the same house?. it would be a deal breaker for me for sure. Sounds to me like you may still have deeper feelings for him that go beyond your staus quo seperations, or visa versa. Otherwise you would be trying to help each other to such an extent. Just MO

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