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 Author Thread: I need some help or advice please!!!!!!!!!!!!
 xxxxxzxxxxx
Joined: 5/1/2008
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I need some help or advice please!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 8/13/2008 1:01:14 AM
Big thanks to everyone that advised me, I think i know whats the best thing to do and I do feel a bit guilty but I think im gonna ignore him from now on. One last thing i want to say is that why i feel guilty is that he did few things for me and I feel mean just ignoring him now and not even saying anything. But if you all are saying its the best thing to do then i will do it.
I think there is more to it then i said cos i made the story short but i know i have to let him go otherwise i will never be ready for another relationship. Thank you soo much x
 xxxxxzxxxxx
Joined: 5/1/2008
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I need some help or advice please!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 8/12/2008 11:03:06 AM
thank u, im getting a lot of good advices, i dont need a counsellor, i dont cry and i dont think im gonna cry, i know we might not be suited and he might not even be what im looking for but i dont think i wanna lose him completely, but i also know i will hurt if he finds someone else so i think i need to stop any contact because i know i still like him and i dont want to anymore. Its just hard to do. I dont want to look like im being nasty to him and i dont know what hes thinking but he finds it hard to find someone else cos hes very picky and i was kinda hoping he might realize i am suitable for him cos we are kinda similar, and we want the same things but i dont know. he never said i wasnt good enough for him, no. anyway well probably best thing to just let it go i suppose?
 xxxxxzxxxxx
Joined: 5/1/2008
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I need some help or advice please!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 8/12/2008 10:39:47 AM
lol that is very blunt but yeah i know maybe thats the best thing to do but then its very rude, i mean he did few things for me, and i mean one day i talk to him fine and then suddenly i dont reply or ignore him? thats just not me :(
 xxxxxzxxxxx
Joined: 5/1/2008
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I need some help or advice please!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 8/12/2008 10:28:25 AM
thank u for all these advices, i know i should stop talking to him. what do i do? shall i tell him or just not contact him again? that seems to be soo rude tho. So whats the best thing to do? thank you x
 xxxxxzxxxxx
Joined: 5/1/2008
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I need some help or advice please!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 8/12/2008 9:44:22 AM
thank u for some advices, the question is im not sure if its better to just tell him i dont want to talk to him even tho it will hurt or if there is any point in carrying on talking and then he might find someone else and i will be hurt again. Just dont know whats the best thing? I know he will probably not mind if i stop talking to him but also, hes always the one that sends me a text first or starts talking to me on msn or things like that. I think he might be just lonely too and he knows i like him so why not talk to someone that likes him but he doesnt care about me. what do u think? i just wish i could see into his head lol
 xxxxxzxxxxx
Joined: 5/1/2008
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I need some help or advice please!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 8/12/2008 9:25:52 AM
Hi, I need some advice as Im not sure whats the best thing to do.
Ok here goes:
Me and my ex met through this site, we dated for 5 months then he broke up with me. He is a very busy guy, working 6 days a week, usually all day long. He lives about 20 mins drive away from me. He can drive and I can't. He used to come see me very often at the beginning then it was down to like twice or maybe 3 times a week. The thing is, he is not affectionate and is a bit of a joker, never takes anything seriously and jokes about everything. He used to say nice things to me but never said he loved me. Well when we started to have problems it was because apparently i didnt put much effort into a relationship and stuff like that.
There were few things that happened. First one was, he was watching football and cancelled a date with me so it annoyed me. He then text me asking how i was. I ignored the text and didnt text him till the next day in the evening. He ignored me and then got angry saying i ignored him and left him thinking i was pissed off and just refused to talk to me for a week. Then everything was ok again.
Second thing that happened was very similar to this even tho i cant really remember now what happened, again refused to talk to me for about a week
And the third thing he was ignoring me one more time and then said he wasnt sure if he wanted to carry on in this. His parents came to visit him so i left him to it, and then after few days called him and he said he didnt know if he wanted to break up. Anyway few days before my bday i text him saying i cant wait any longer and if he could decide. He said hes sorry and dont think it would work and broke up with me.
He also had this plan of celebrating some football match which happened just after we broke up, he flew to another country for a week on his own and celebrated there, put some pics of him and some girls on his facebook and when i saw it i thought i better stop talking to him cos it hurt. So i deleted him from my facebook and he noticed. Didnt talk for 3 weeks and i never heard from him. Then i was going through some rough time cos of my family so i text him asking if he could meet me as i needed to talk to someone. That was stupid idea. Anyway we met (i havent seen him for over a month) and talked and didnt mention us at all. Then we met again just for a chat and again never mentioned us. Then we started to talk every day, he even asked if i wanted to go to cinema twice and we did go, but only as friends. So now we are friends but then he joined pof cos he said hes looking for someone too. Obviously I wasnt good enough for him. It got to me and i said its time to stop this friendship cos hes obviously looking for someone else and he said ok then. So he wasnt bothered. Then i was thinking about it and again i came back to him saying i still wants to be friends. Now im not that sure whats the best thing to do. He also said he didnt think he could love me. We still talk but not as much anymore. Now i need some advice on what to do, cos obviously he has no feelings for me and I still kinda do but i want to move on and find someone else. Can someone just tell me what u think of this? Or what u think of him? I mean ignoring someone for a week if they didnt text back cos they were mad? he should have made a bit more effort dont u think? I dont know, i just dont think he cares about me and he is only friend with me cos he knows i still like him but thats not what i want. Please any advice will be appreciated sooo much. Thank you x
 
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