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skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 135 (view)

Weird Phobias Posted: 8/24/2007 7:28:07 PM
Peaches, cant touch them and cant stand to watch someone bite into one. Just the thought of it is like nails on a chalk board to me. Makes my teeth clench.

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 23 (view)

Can't be friends Posted: 5/20/2007 10:43:51 AM
Friends are just that... friends. You dont have to invite someone to be a friend. And if you get close to someone and feel you need to x out all your on line friends then that doesnt say too much for that person or the relationship.

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 164 (view)

omg!! Not the phone! You must be an axe murderer or out for a cheap thrill..! Posted: 5/14/2007 7:43:24 PM
Be wary of this scam too ladies... Talked to a guy on line who insisted that he would be a gentleman and I call him first... no pressure. Then when I did call the next thing I know he is calling me all hours of the day and night. How did he get my phone number??? I didnt give it to him. .. Caller ID. I felt scammed. Always remember to block your number when you call... I learned the hard way.

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 144 (view)

omg!! Not the phone! You must be an axe murderer or out for a cheap thrill..! Posted: 5/13/2007 3:48:10 PM
I think that because we meet and greet this way its a safe bet that a good portion of the relationship will continue to be of this nature. Its who we are ... its what we do. I have family members who other than birthdays holidays weddings or funerals we only email back and forth to stay in touch. I personally dont take well to someone who cruises the internet for women then insists on getting my phone numbers right away. The few who I have given my numbers to seem to think that they can call me any time of the day or night. I have to keep my cell phone on at all times because I its my emergency number for my dads nursing home... I cant have it ringing ten times a day just because someone wants to say HI. Sad to say I feel its an invasion of my privacy. Set up a meet and greet then if you connect.. exchange phone numbers and set boundarys.

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 122 (view)

Dating Turn Off Triggers Posted: 5/10/2007 5:42:40 PM
the guy who calls last minute, has no specific destination in mind , plans his time around when we will be having sex.. and leaves right afterwards or as soon as he realizes thats just not happenin today....

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 17 (view)

Can't be friends Posted: 5/10/2007 5:35:24 PM
And what is it that you really want???

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 15 (view)

Can't be friends Posted: 5/10/2007 5:28:49 PM
I have met a few men in my on line dating experience who although we did not click romantically have been able to remain friends. I think it says something about the person that they can do that. Even though we may both be continuing to look for "the one" we certainly have no problem with cheering each other on in the quest. Friendships should not be black or white.. leave room for a little gray area y'all.

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 38 (view)

CHEATING LEADS TO LOVE? Posted: 4/19/2007 6:32:02 AM
I have met several married men who go outside their marriage for the one thing that they are missing in their marriage.. I think we all know what that is. I am certain their denying wives dont expect them to be celebate the rest of their lives . They do however expect them to be discreet so they dont have to face embarrassment among their friends and family or risk losing the cars the homes the memberships to the country club.. Its all a game of saving face. But Love??? Obviously there is no love on either side anymore... The marriage game is over and cheating is just a form of instant gratification.

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 130 (view)

Are we all too picky? Posted: 4/3/2007 7:29:36 AM
albertaontherocks.. for what its worth I think you have great pictures.

skirtsandheels

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Msg: 17 (view)

A message a guy wrote to another girl Posted: 3/11/2007 6:35:57 AM
And I am assuming you were snooping in order to find this message that he sent to someone else...?? That says something right there about how you really feel about him.

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 216 (view)

What have you learned from having your heart broken? Posted: 3/1/2007 4:13:35 PM
I have also learned that broken hearts do mend... and that we can learn something valuable to take into our next relationship.

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 17 (view)

No wedding band => not married ? Posted: 2/26/2007 4:46:20 PM
Whenever my husband (now ex) was mad at me he would stop wearing his wedding ring.. soon as the fight was over he would start wearing it again. I never did figure that one out...

skirtsandheels

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Msg: 40 (view)

CT girls Posted: 2/26/2007 4:48:40 AM
Thats because men in CT (and of course not ALL) dont walk by and say Hello.. they whistle... cat call... and make rude remarks. If someone genuinely said "good day" to me I would not feel threatened. Also CT men do tend to be homophobic.. or maybe they are just sizing up the competition... who knows. I had to go out of state to find a good guy.

skirtsandheels

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Shoulda Woulda Coulda....Can I....Should I ??? Posted: 2/22/2007 6:17:31 AM
Asknot.. I understand your confusion. My theory is (for whats its worth) is that men who do the breaking off of a relationship really dont like being alone(by your own statement he contacted you several times around the holidays) So they throw themselves out there to other women and when that doesnt pan out they come back to where they know there is a spark of hope. I can tell you he is not looking to rekindle the relationship.. he just wants to know you are still there thinking about him. Men I am sorry to say dont think with their hearts... they use their heads to break off the relationship ... then think with their other head to try to get what they are missing at the moment. Trust me it is a momentary want and not to be mistaken for a true need. So yes you will continue to hear from him... but is that how you want to be used???

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 127 (view)

The I'll call you Posted: 2/20/2007 4:33:06 PM
There are a few contacts I am still waiting to hear back from... they did say they would call....perhaps they have already spoken to the contacts that I said I would get back to...

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 93 (view)

The I'll call you Posted: 2/18/2007 6:33:43 AM
Sometimes its the guys who say .. Wow this was a great date... Can I call you again. We say "yes" knowing full well we will be checking our caller ID when he does so we can ignore the call. Its all a game.. sometimes 2 people click and sometimes they dont. Its such a beautiful thing when it happens.

skirtsandheels

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Msg: 345 (view)

Men posing with cars Posted: 2/18/2007 6:24:34 AM
I am sure if they had a "nice" one they would rather pose for pictures with their penis!!!

skirtsandheels

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Msg: 41 (view)

should I tell him I know he was playing me? Posted: 2/18/2007 5:52:56 AM
Sad to say there are guys out there (and women too I am sure) for whom the thrill is in the chase. Their ego tells them they can have anybody they want and they wont stop till they have bagged their prey. The more attention you pay to them .. good or bad... the more determined they become. So I say dont play their game. I agree with the poster above who said write him the most scathing letter you can... tell him exactly what you think of what he did to break your heart. Be honest to a fault and then... DONT MAIL IT!! Save it for the next time he contacts you and read it over and over until the feelings of wanting to reach out to him pass.. they will pass and it will get easier every time.

skirtsandheels

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Msg: 169 (view)

What have you learned from having your heart broken? Posted: 2/14/2007 5:26:58 PM
Ive learned that there is such a thing as love at first sight... and it hurts just as bad when its gone.

skirtsandheels

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Msg: 32 (view)

How does POF make you think towards the opposite sex? Posted: 2/6/2007 6:48:47 PM
Not necessarily POF but dating sites in general have taught me that the really nice guys are married and just looking for someone to meet that one little missing detail of their marriage...the single guys(in my target demographic anyway) just want to get laid even if youre not really their type but you'll do for now. There are way too many fish to sort through in order to find that one keeper.

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 74 (view)

Should you be dating if you have no time? Posted: 1/20/2007 4:47:08 PM
wish upon a star 00 How sad that you had to take the initiative to find out the truth.. but it happens all the time and like you say it really is his loss. It just confirms my belief that when somebodys starts throwing around the "b" word (busy) what they are really saying is too busy to commit too much time to you. So now you get to move on without guilt.... I say NEXT!!!!!!

skirtsandheels

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Msg: 21 (view)

Need some input...have thought this to death and am now confused.. Posted: 1/18/2007 8:15:07 PM
Absolutly not wrong... There is nothing worse than a relationship that lacks genuine affection. My ex was a great father and we were a great family but when it came to communication and affection with me... that was not his department. Needless to say when the kids moved on so did I. Dont settle for less than you need even if he can fix the shower!!!

skirtsandheels

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Need some input...have thought this to death and am now confused.. Posted: 1/18/2007 7:49:57 PM
So far you have told us all about his good points... what makes him different from everybody else.. I guess I am missing the point of why you feel you need to end this relationship other than the fact that you are not getting his full attention. I was not implying you were jealous of your children. Your children should be YOUR first priority and nobody should be using them to get to you... most kids are smarter than that.

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

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Need some input...have thought this to death and am now confused.. Posted: 1/18/2007 7:22:09 PM
Snow witch... I think to some degree we all have a fairy tale(or soap opera) image of what our relationship should be with someone. I consider myself a hopeless romantic too however hopeless romantics really do need a realist in their life to keep them grounded and make sure we are looking at reality. That doesnt mean its a bad thing.. or that there is something missing in that person. Look at your previous post... he is handy around the house.. attentive to your son and youre thinking "hmmmm why isnt he paying more attention to ME!!!???

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 65 (view)

Should you be dating if you have no time? Posted: 1/18/2007 4:53:01 PM
Don't make someone a priority in your life when you are still an option in theirs. I second that!! Great philosophy!!!

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 63 (view)

Weird Phobias Posted: 1/13/2007 8:04:20 PM
I hated to have my feet touched so bad I wouldnt even let my kids put their feet on me when they were little... and nobody could touch my feet... I wore socks to bed just in case!!!

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 21 (view)

How long does it take for you to “size up” someone? How often are you wrong? Posted: 1/13/2007 7:37:07 PM
Here is what I have learned in the past 2 years of dating... How to spot a married man: Can only see you on weekdays.....Never on a Saturday night Doesnt have a home phone number Keeps his cell phone turned off Checks his cell phone often Is vague about where home actually is Claims his place is a mess when you ask about going there Knows an awful lot about his "ex" Shaves with a pink razor So far.... I have never been wrong

skirtsandheels

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Should you be dating if you have no time? Posted: 1/13/2007 2:21:27 PM
As soon as I hear the "b" word..I know the end is in sight. Its a great word to use when you really arent that interested any more. If they are really interested they will make the time.

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 159 (view)

Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help? Posted: 1/7/2007 6:12:03 PM
Seriously .. I read the article you referenced above regarding studies about Lyme Disease. As I live in Connecticut where it originated I was curious because my hairdresser was bitten by a tick,became extremely ill, and was diagnosed with Lyme Disease within the past year. He also did a lot of reading up and studying the subject as he was very sick for a few months. Since recieving treatment he is fine now...no personality changes, no sudden obsessions with any of his customers nada... so I guess I dont understand how you feel this has taken control of your life... my guess is as others have mentioned... you were ill and someone took the time and effort to make you better and you mistook gratitude and admiration for something more. When my son was born I had to have surgery because one doctor botched my surgery to tie my tubes..No one knew this until the lab reports came back... I was bleeding internally and began running a fever and had to have additional surgery to correct the problem before I bled to death internally. One of the doctors in the group took the time to sit by my side, explain everything to me, took control of the situation and got me better again. He came to see me every day in the hospital and I found myself thinking about him all the time... silly I know..I just had a baby for gods sakes, but still it happened. .. but I got over it and in time I realized he was just being a great doctor... the way doctors are supposed to be. I hope this helps you because I am not trying to ridicule you.. I know you believe what you feel to be true. And thanks for the heads up on that article... now I have a whole new avenue when I need a sick day from work!!!! Run it's course of Advice / Closed - Trappedonbayst

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 157 (view)

Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help? Posted: 1/7/2007 5:33:03 PM
Blaze is right... He's just waiting for the two years to pass and then he is going to call her and they are going to live happily ever after..Santa told me...

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 155 (view)

Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help? Posted: 1/7/2007 5:07:27 PM
Sorry JWA didnt mean to confuse you.... Ah yes.. the crazy woman and the specialist... OK I am back on track. Thanks

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 153 (view)

Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help? Posted: 1/7/2007 6:29:35 AM
How did we get from this doctor being a neurologist to this doctor being a psychiatrist? Which is he because (regardless of the issue at hand) there is a BIG difference!!!

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 137 (view)

Doctor, doctor - give me the news. Got a bad case of loving you. Help? Posted: 1/5/2007 8:08:53 PM
I stopped reading after page 2 of postings so I may have missed some important information regarding this scenario. My guess is that he enjoyed flirting with you and enjoyed the attention you paid him. Most men have a fantasy that every woman finds them incredibly attractive and irristable and was probably just hoping for a quick liason between you. I beleive from what I read in your original posting that he was married or possibly already in a LTR. I have met enough of them to know the signs. The incident with him standing in front of the door looking at you sounds to me like he was saying Im sorry... please dont mess up my life. As far as the phone calls and messages you are able to leave on his home phone ... I assume because he is a doctor he has informed his wife or significant other that you are some kind of crazy woman and that its best to not "upset" you.

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

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Random E-Dating Questions Posted: 1/5/2007 2:08:45 PM
I usually respond to all emails.If I am not interested,for whatever reason, I think the polite thing to do is to tell them "Sorry I have recently met someone and I would like to see where it leads." As uncomfortable as rejection is sadly we are not always attracted to everyone who is attracted to us.

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 50 (view)

LORD!!!someone answer this Posted: 1/2/2007 5:14:21 AM
Maybe what he was trying to say was You will never meet anyone who cares about you the way he does...When you put a different spin on it ... perhaps it doesnt sound so bad. ... almost touching..

skirtsandheels

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Msg: 31 (view)

CT girls Posted: 1/1/2007 1:33:52 PM
^^^^^^^^^ And why is that? Are they holding a gun to your head.... and does this only happen in CT?? Yes there are honorable women left. I am sure the woman who have you take their shirts off dont expect that to be a deal breaker. And as you pointed out... women are damned if they do and damned if they dont.

skirtsandheels

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Msg: 52 (view)

One word or one line responses to an e-mail, what does it mean? Posted: 12/23/2006 2:28:11 PM
I dont think questions about books read or places gone on vacation or asking about hobbies and what someone does in their spare time sounds like an interview. If someone is shy as many have suggested they are ... than asking specific questions should make it easier to open up a little. I agree asking someone what they do for fun could be a very leading question... I learned my lesson the hard way on that one..lol.. some of the answers made me blush... In my opinion if after the first couple of emails there is no forthcoming of conversation.. then it is safe to say the person on the other end is just not interested and not sure about the protocol to end it..

skirtsandheels

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One word or one line responses to an e-mail, what does it mean? Posted: 12/22/2006 6:19:08 PM
Just to clarify.... "yep" and "nope" are not acceptable answers to any questions... unless youre 3... yet how often do we get those as answers to well thought out question from educated adults....

skirtsandheels

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One word or one line responses to an e-mail, what does it mean? Posted: 12/20/2006 12:21:00 PM
robbyone... Really? a million reasons... can you give me 10? Why would someone who uses a computer regularly, joins instant messaging/dating services, and thinks thats a good way to meet people.. not have the ability to carry on a conversation. Not being able to type is not a reason in my opinion.. its not about speed ..its about context.

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 187 (view)

He Loves Everything About You, Except Your Cat Posted: 12/20/2006 12:15:28 PM
I love my cats.. but just like children there are boundrys and consequences for non compliance. Being a cat person (or a dog person for that matter) doesnt mean we let our animals run amuk in our homes. And if they do... then I dont blame anybody for running the other way. I would too.

skirtsandheels

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One word or one line responses to an e-mail, what does it mean? Posted: 12/20/2006 5:13:45 AM
The funniest one that ever happened to me was I was IM'ing with a guy and out of nowhere he says to me how sexy I look on webcam... (I dont have a webcam) so I IM back and say "webcam????" His response was ooops sorry. I asked him if he was busy and wanted to get back to me.... his response was No I was just chatting with my sister..

skirtsandheels

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One word or one line responses to an e-mail, what does it mean? Posted: 12/20/2006 4:01:32 AM
I have met these jerks too..They are obviously carrying on many chats at once. I liken it to spinning a line of plates... have to keep them all spinning with a quick flick of the wrist. Occasionally I even get a one word answer to a question I didnt ask...

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

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Is it fair to be with someone when you love someone else? Posted: 12/18/2006 7:52:59 PM
Yes and I think its possible to love more than one person. Sometimes its just impossible to be with someone we love.. but having had that love of another makes it easier to move on.

skirtsandheels

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Msg: 95 (view)

He Loves Everything About You, Except Your Cat Posted: 12/18/2006 4:13:15 PM
I have found this to be a very tricky subject in the dating world. So yes .. I always let someone know before we meet that I live with my dog and my 2 cats. I am an animal person and if it were up to me I would open my open to many homeless animals. Our pets love and affection is unconditional.. I have yet to meet a cat that said he had to get going before his wife found out he was here...or that he was not going to be able to make it over this weekend because he's really busy..... Its me and my critters... there is NO compromising on the issue.

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 157 (view)

Still alive!!!!! Posted: 12/11/2006 6:31:32 PM
OK Mike... now the biggest question of all.. Do you have a brother????????????????

skirtsandheels

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Msg: 153 (view)

Still alive!!!!! Posted: 12/10/2006 5:04:33 PM
We havent heard from him..............hmmmm I wonder if he's not tied up in her basement....

skirtsandheels

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Msg: 142 (view)

Opinions on first meeting...dinner at my place? Posted: 12/10/2006 6:20:43 AM
I agree with you prolibertate.. had that been my daughter I would have been distraught all evening...she too is a very trusting person. We all want to see the good in everyone but unfortunately we have seen so much bad you become jaded and therefor more cautious. For all the young daters out there following this thread.. this doesnt mean she was right and we were wrong... it just means she was very very lucky. Please always go with the odds and protect yourself for when Mr. (or Ms) RIGHT comes along... Mothers know everything!!! lol

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 136 (view)

Opinions on first meeting...dinner at my place? Posted: 12/9/2006 7:27:40 PM
iris.. for now im gonna give her the benefit of the doubt.. Im sure they are out and about right now toasting to their new found friends at POF... you can be sure everyone who gave them advise will be tracking their every move on every thread...

skirtsandheels

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 133 (view)

Opinions on first meeting...dinner at my place? Posted: 12/9/2006 5:14:41 PM
I am happy for you... God speed..

skirtsandheels

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Msg: 78 (view)

Opinions on first meeting...dinner at my place? Posted: 12/6/2006 3:47:07 AM
I give up!!! Personally I am moving on to another forum. Good Luck to you upallnitetoo and you too Mike. I hope it all turns out well.. Really I do. Maybe we are all just jealous of this sweet naive romantic scenario that you two have created for yourselves. Or maybe(and most likely) we are just a little more realistic.....

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