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mykidsdadiam

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 21 (view)

Controling Boyfriend Posted: 3/20/2009 9:37:47 AM
My boyfriend is controling, ... gets mad... rude... bossy... calls me names, gives me mean or demeaning looks... very indirect when he speaks to me, critical, and be-littles me. I feel I can do nothing right around him, sometimes I don't even feel like his girlfriend... And he only compliments me when I get mad at him. He'll say your so pretty, your my princess, I'm sorry I was a jerk etc.... I've been over looking this problem because I did not want to get into a fight so I just dealt with it the best way I could. If he doesn't get his way, or if I don't do what he says, he gets REAL MAD AT ME and treats me like crap. What should I do? OK.. let us see... This guy sounds like is a real gem. He is quite the prize fish in the sea. He appears to be a great CATCH and release item!!! Despite all his problems, OP, I think the real problem is that you need to get your eyesight checked. I believe your vision is very blurred. I have quoted some of the key phrases from your original post. You know all these fine qualities of this male, yet you have made a concious choice to ignore these. It appears these signs that he has exhibited so far aren't enough for you. Perhaps it will be clearer to you when you have either suffered a few broken bones or a busted lip or a face that will need plastic surgery. Or perhaps when you are dead. Do you see the point?? Why are you still with him??? To me it seems the real problem lies within you and your inability to see clearly what is good and not good for you. You appear to be the desperate one between the two of you that you are still hanging on to something that is dangerous and humiliating. When someone is not treating you nice, you then have a choice to make. Do you tolerate it or do you extricate yourself from the situation before you get hurt. If you are continuing to stay, then don't blame the other person for their poor behavior. You are the one to be blamed for your poor judgement in choosing to stay. As far as what you should do? Three words: Run, Forrest Run!!!! Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

Joined: 8/10/2005

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What's your sex score? Posted: 2/17/2009 4:42:09 PM
Im a negative 38.... does that mean I need to apply for a new virginity and the nun hood Msg 53... Can't get a negative score. You start with 50 and maximum you can subtract is 50. So the lowest you can go is Z-E-R-O... :)

mykidsdadiam

Joined: 8/10/2005

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Stuck on the rebound girl now... Posted: 1/16/2009 11:14:01 PM
OP: When I read your first post, my first thought was that it was probably written by some teenager who has yet to figure himself out in life. Then I looked at your profile and notice you are 37. Nonetheless, you seem like you need to figure out what is it that you really want. It appears you jumped in the rebound relationship as a means of not wanting to face or figure out what led to the breakup of the first one. Infact, I believe you already know what led to the breakup. Instead of owning up to your contribution that led to the breakup of first relationship, you found it more convenient to jump into the second one as a convenient distraction. To me, it appears you feel the NEED to be in a relationship (regardless of the merits or negatives) than WANTing to be in one. My advice to you is to take a long break from dating and clear up your mind. Figure out what you want in life and what kind of a person you want to date. Then look for someone that fits the bill. If you want to settle down, then find someone who wants to as well. If you want to just get your jollies, you will not be able to sustain with someone who wants to settle down. Good luck. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

Joined: 8/10/2005

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The art of conversation... Posted: 1/1/2009 6:17:18 PM
We have self-absorbed people in both genders. And we also have people in both genders who generalize and blame the other gender for whatever problem they are encountering. Having said that, in my opinion if you are having a conversation with someone (either in person or over the phone) you should already have a good idea about the conversation ability of the other person when you communicated via email. If your email exchanges have been 1-, 2-liners, chances are good the person talks (or will not talk) that way. It is good to be prepared with questions to ask that will elucidate a little more descriptive response that is more than a yes or no. Although it is good to talk about oneself, I generally refrain from talking about myself unless specifically asked. However, one should not take this as an opportunity to narrate their whole life story in one breath. Tell them a little an then ask the other person a related question. It is easy how the conversation will flow. Of course, this is all predicated on the fact that we are dealing with somewhat normal people who are interested in knowing you. If you feel entrapped and are unable to get in a few words, take it as an opportunity to just listen and enjoy it anyway as long as it lasts since you know you will not be seeing that person again anyway. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

Joined: 8/10/2005

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You call this Dating? Posted: 12/5/2008 3:34:09 PM
msg 50 If you can't flip the bill for that, then really, are you expecting to impress someone you are meeting? Fully agree. If a you cannot afford to pay then you should not be dating. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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Dating, Both With Sole Custody Posted: 12/5/2008 1:53:04 PM
OP: Since you both have exposed your respective kids to each other in the process of dating, my suggestion of keeping kids and dating separate will be moot. I also think that going on a date at the expense of leaving kids behind is not right. How about you make use of the time when the kids are in school during the day. Both of you can take time off from work while the kids are in school. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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You call this Dating? Posted: 12/5/2008 11:05:46 AM
This is really deplorable behavior on that male's part. I will not characterize him by calling him a "man" because a "man" would never do that. Whatever triggered his reaction, it seems he decided he did not want to spend money. So he stooped to that level. Chalk it up to experience and perhaps do a little more corresponding and talking on the phone, although I doubt this kind of mentality can be detected easily beforehand. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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ex question Posted: 11/12/2008 4:16:33 PM
OP: the reason he is flaunting his shackup to you is because he knows it gets to you and that it will make you mad. As long as he evokes that reaction out of you, he will continue to find ways to incite it in you. What YOU can do is to just bite the bullet and control your reaction, smile and carry on. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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Who Pays What When Your Cohabiting??? Posted: 10/27/2008 3:43:33 PM
This subject has be beaten to death. And looks like you gave it one final blow!!!.. :) Happy Halloween to you too... May this thread rest in peace.

mykidsdadiam

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Who Pays What When Your Cohabiting??? Posted: 10/24/2008 1:37:59 PM
Msg 102: LadyC4 (Cindy O). I appreciate your feedback. Oh yes, it would definitely be better to quick find a woman to marry, so all was "legal" and "honorable", and if the marriage failed due to being based on expediency and convenience, the kids could live through another divorce. OH yeah, that makes magnificent sense Cindy O, that is why the process of dating should be treated as getting to know the other person and their values, morals, character, disposition, perseverance, patience, financial responsibility etc. Instead of actually dating, these two in partcular and people in general bypass the process of dating and start playing house right away. What is left for each other to look forward to? Since you mentioned "practical concerns", is that really a good excuse to shed morality, just so we can be practical. the cohabitation, or "shackup", issue is a very complex one This issue is amazingly is a very simple one. It becomes complex only if we want it to become complex. When the choices are between being moral/ethical/dignified versus being practical and becoming someone's shackup honey (unpaid whore), taking the easy route does come with consequences. Of course it comes with instant gratification too. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

Joined: 8/10/2005

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Who Pays What When Your Cohabiting??? Posted: 10/23/2008 10:59:47 AM
OP: I am pleased to know you are no longer "co-habitating". Now, look at the facts: you knew he had 2 little kids, you knew you were broke, you knew he was broke, you really did not have much time since you are a student. Despite all these facts, you chose to start shacking up with him. He was not looking for a girlfriend. He was looking for someone who would take care of his kids, pay his bills and fulfill his physical wants and needs. He found in you someone who agreed to do all of the above. A real man will not demean/degrade his woman by having her shackup with him. A real woman would not live an undignified life by being somenone's shackup. As you can see, there is/was no commitment in this shacking up situation. My advice to you is to please concentrate on completing your studies. Then you start "Dating" and find yourself someone who will treat you like a woman ought to be treated. Shacking up is not part of that treatment. It is ironic that in your profile you state you are studying in the field of child psychoeducational assessment and yet, it never occured to you how damaging it will be for those little kids to see their father bringing in someone and live like that. And then after a little while they leave. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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A difficult break-up and regrets Posted: 10/23/2008 10:30:26 AM
Some may think of me as an ass for leaving someone so desperately in need, OP: You did the right thing by breaking it off with her. Men generally have a tendency to be a hero by being a rescuer. Since you were in the relationship for 2 years before you ended it, I think you stayed one year too long into it. Dating is a process to get to know someone and let someone else get to know you. After the first few months when the "dating honeymoon" is over and real life begins to happen, that is when you learn more about people as to what they really are made of. Their true self. Their habits, character and what "issues" and drama they have. Once you get to know these things, that is when you need to decide whether you want all these things in your life on a permanent basis. What issues you can you live with and what issues you simply cannot have on a continual basis. That is what dating is about. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

Joined: 8/10/2005

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Relationship Worries Posted: 10/6/2008 11:38:11 AM
Firstly, you ARE worried. That is why you posted this here. Secondly, don't ignore it when he makes a comment about having a wife. Instead, take that opportunity to discuss with him what you want in a husband and find out what he wants in a wife. Since you have known him for a while and have vacationed together and you have noticed that he is being condescending to you (my words, not yours), the ball is in your court. You need to decide whether you will stop seeing him or not. If you continue to date him, then you are going into this knowingly and therefore, will have no right to complain about him not changing his ways. It is really very simple. Dating is the process to know someone. If you are not liking what you know about him, then you need to decide. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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It looks like McCain's VP pick is Sarah Palin Posted: 8/29/2008 10:27:19 AM
Looks like she has the credentials for the job. Apparently, she has done well in Alaska. I am concerned about the little baby that she just had in April. From the news reports that I have read, the baby was born with Down syndrome. If McCain is elected president, she will be very busy. Being a 24-hour job that it is, I am concerned that this baby will be missing out on mommy-time that is so very crucial for the first 2-3-4 years. This concern is all the more exacerbated by the fact that baby has Down syndrome. I hope her husband is currently and planning to be a fulltime stay-at-home dad, which will be in the best interest of the kids. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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Kid Friendly Places In Las Vegas Posted: 7/30/2008 1:40:27 PM
Angel Park Putting golf course. Kids love it!! 18 holes of golf on real grass. $8.00 adults, $5.oo kids. Laser Quest: Lake Mead/Tenaya. Good palce to have a laser war with your kids. Go Carts: Pole Position Raceway, 4175 S> Arville. Across from Palms hotel. A little pricey. Drive-in movies at Rancho and Carey. Kids uner 12 are free. Mountain Crest Park at Durango and Craig Road. Frisbee golf and water fountains that kids can play in. Plenty of green grass andpicnic areas.

mykidsdadiam

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Why are girls intimidated by good looking, confident and successful men? Posted: 7/27/2008 9:38:58 PM
Hey ElectricLynn, I tip my hat to you for setting the priorities straight for yourself and for your kids. Raising kids properly has to be first and foremost because you want them to go out in the world with a strong footing on education, responsibility, morals and ethics. That is what I am doing with my kids. Once the kids are on their own, then dating can take a little more of time. Ironically, I am also working on my house little by little, as time permits... :)

mykidsdadiam

Joined: 8/10/2005

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Are you alive? How 'bout some fun! Posted: 7/9/2008 10:14:46 PM
^ Hopefully will explain the difference between a "plumbist" and "plumber", if there is one < Neither have been a hypnotizer nor a hypnotizee v Will be mighty glad he/she did not get to post message #13

mykidsdadiam

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Expain the phrase My children are my top priority? Posted: 7/9/2008 4:49:58 PM
MSg 676: ChocolateNutt: All of us should have room in our lives for a partner and be able to juggle the partner and the children. I tend to disagree with the juggling aspect of the comment. I strongly believe that children should never be juggled. Everything else should be juggled around the needs of the children, whether it is as simple as watcing their game in sports or going to a parent-teacher conference. When one has kids, everything else takes a backseat to their rearing. Contrary to the popular belief, I think parents should not even think about dating when kids are little and especially, if one has them full-time. My dating/social life is limited to when I know for sure I will not have my kids with me and that I am not missing out on any of their activities. Time flies and before you know it, they will be gone. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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Women in Las Vegas on here are just on here for free meals and drinjs Posted: 7/4/2008 8:56:08 AM
to recognise an honest, intelligent man, they might find some happiness once in their lives. Of course, it takes a certain amount of class and refinement to recognize it when you see it. Linkalady, humor aside, there is great deal of truth in what Nipoleon has said (that I quoted here). Likewise, there is equally great deal of truth in what you have said as well that's a mans way of thinking. When men and women will recognize (and respect) each other's way of thinking as something inherent to each gender and not cast aspersions, it will be a lot easier wade through this pool. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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PLEASE ADVICE Posted: 7/2/2008 4:40:19 PM
OP: Tim does not appear to have the maturity to make a commitment. He is exploiting the fact that you are available whenever he wants to see you. You can either continue to be played along or you can get gutsy enough to tell him "no more yo-yo contacts". If you are unable to rely on him now, how will you be able to rely on him in married life with kids? I am sure you will always have the yearning for him but in the long run you will be better off when you are with someone you can count on all the time and not just hope for him to be there with you and for you. Two years ago you felt a strong connection. Now here you are two years later. The only thing that has changed is the age, not maturity. The way I see it, he has not matured yet for you be able to make a commitment. In the end, it is commitment that will sustain a relationship, not love. And I am sure you will want to have and raise kids in an environment where their mom and dad are married and commited to each other. If his only fear is that he might not be alive for his kids, then perhaps you can allay those fears by making connection with spouses of deployed personnel and provide some level of reassurance. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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Women in Las Vegas on here are just on here for free meals and drinjs Posted: 7/2/2008 3:36:46 PM
^^^^^^^^ If the girls could pull their heads out their own asses long enough to recognise an honest, intelligent man, they might find some happiness once in their lives. That is just too funny!!!

mykidsdadiam

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violent men/women in relationship advise Posted: 6/30/2008 8:25:38 PM
21 years old you have a Masters degree in Nursing, your profile is full of spelling errors, suggestive pictures and you like Miley Cyrus? Something is not right here. Seems like a troll thread. I thought about the same things after reading the profile. OP, please do a search for related threads. If this situation is for real, doesn't it seem totally absurd to you that you continue to stay in the relation knowing fully well that you will be getting beat up. The only time it will stop is when either you move out or when you are dead. What do you prefer? A 21-year old can surely make a clear distinction between the two. I hope you do for your own good. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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Parents who live with you, is it a turn off? Posted: 6/30/2008 8:13:22 PM
It is all in the societal prespectives. In many countries, families live together. The siblings and parents all live in one house. And that is considered perfectly normal. Infact, if one sibling decides to move out, that will surely raise some eyebrows. However, in western society the attitude is quite different in this regard. One is expected to not live with their parents if one is an adult and making a living on their own. There is a BIG difference between taking care of your parents and living with your parents. If the parents are perfectly capable and you are living with them because you are scared to live by yourself then yes, you are a dud. If living with parents is a temporary situation, then that is perfectly fine. If the parents are elderly and need care and attention, it is far better to have them in one's home than send them off in some nursing home. If someone is taking care of their parents, that gets high marks from me than someone who chooses to do otherwise when they are perfectly capable to do so. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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Moved to fast Posted: 6/24/2008 3:41:40 PM
how would I be expected to recognise it unless I saw it with my own two eyes? Msg 28: One doesn't need to be hit on their head with a stick to "see" that it hurts. One does not have to get in an accident to "see" that it is not a good thing. From your responses, it seems that as long as you don't see it, it does not exist. In our civilized society it is also called "putting one's head in the sand"... :). In the process of dating, I would want to find out as much as possible about the other person if I see a long term potential in that person. You do that by observing their behavior, among other things. The point is: it is one's responsibility to find out as much as possible about the other person and not simply wait for the sky to open up and let a voice tell them so or a big neon sign flash!! Msg 26: Angelheart, You are so right. Denial appears to be a common excuse for not taking responsibility. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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Moved to fast Posted: 6/24/2008 12:08:10 PM
If you had taken the time to really get to know her during the process of courting her and dating, you would have found out about her personality and habits. Instead, you chose to shackup with her. You started playing house first before you two had a chance to get to know each other which, in my opinion, is backward way of doing things I actually disagree with this ^^^ I think moving in with her was the best thing you did. Otherwise you may have invested a few more years in this person before you found out exactly what was going on. When one is dating with the intent of knowing the other person better as a potential lifetime partner, it needn't and shouldn't take few years. However, when one is dating to just get their jollies, then shacking up is the easiest route to take. I do not consider shacking up as a committed relationship. Far from it, infact. I do consider shacking up as being an unpaid whore, both for the male and female. Kyn, if you are implying that it would have taken OP years to find out about his shackup's habits, I respectfully disagree. This kind of addiction cannot be kept under wraps for a long time. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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Moved to fast Posted: 6/24/2008 9:51:40 AM
OP: If you had taken the time to really get to know her during the process of courting her and dating, you would have found out about her personality and habits. Instead, you chose to shackup with her. You started playing house first before you two had a chance to get to know each other which, in my opinion, is backward way of doing things. Since you have found this out, my suggestion to you will be to stop shacking up immediately. If she is in your house, give her 1-day notice and pack up her stuff. If you are in her house, you packup your stuff and move out pronto. When you are ready to date again, then actually do the dating and courting, instead of playing house. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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Las Vegas Coed Softball and Volleyball Posted: 6/22/2008 4:56:40 PM
I noticed this has been posted for a few weeks with no reply and I just noticed it. There are coed leagues all over town. If you live in Summerlin, the co-ed softball league has just started. You may just want to come to Willows park on Wednesday evenings and see if someone has a need for a player. (www.summerlink.com) There are leagues on Tuesday and Thursday nights as well. I don't know much about volleyball leagues. I play softball only during summer when my kids are off from soccer. If you are interested in soccer, you can play at Las Vegas Indoor Soccer, which is at Las Vegas Sports Park on Rampart at Vegas Drive. Hope this helps.

mykidsdadiam

Joined: 8/10/2005

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Who pays for the meal or beverage on the first date? Posted: 6/22/2008 10:00:06 AM
When he is courting a lady, I believe a MAN should paying for the dates, whether it is a first date or the umpteenth date; whether it is as simple as taking a walk and buying hotdogs and a drink or dressing up for a dinner and a show. If she feels like doing it, the lady can reciprocate sometimes by perhaps cooking a nice meal for him. All dates do not have to involve spending a lot of money on. One can always reserve a special date where one can splurge a little more than usual. Otherwise, having picnics and going parks etc. can be just as much fun. The purpose of dating to get to know the other person. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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Body Type : Prefer not to say. Posted: 5/27/2008 10:38:24 AM
MSG 150 The forums certainly give a fair amount of insight about the persons who post them. I tend to believe that when a person has selected "prefer not to say", they are between "A few extra pounds" and "Big/BBW" category. If a picture has been posted, then one can make their own conculsions, provided the picture is not just a closeup of the face. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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What's your sex score? Posted: 5/22/2008 7:07:27 AM
Yikes, no wonder my man loves me hehe....in the way minus side msg 5 Just wondered how can you score below zero and get on the minus side. The maximum you can subtract is 50. And since you start with 50, the lowest score you can get is z-e-r-o. Just a thought

mykidsdadiam

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I took his hand and he flipped out...wtf... Posted: 4/30/2008 2:53:28 PM
Sister9956: It is a shame to read the kneejerk-reaction replies. With so much of communication that has happened between you and this guy, did you think about simply asking him why your reaching out for his hand elicited such a startling reaction from him? You are asking strangers about their opinion based on what you have put in the post when infact, you have not asked the ONE person who can give you best answer. And that person is him. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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Women in Las Vegas on here are just on here for free meals and drinjs Posted: 4/22/2008 12:01:17 PM
Ive encountered quite a few women here in Las Vegas on this site who wont even meet for a lousy cup of coffee Rick, Perhaps that is all you may be coming across as offering: a "lousy" whatever (cup of coffee, meal, drink). If lousy something is all someone going to get from you, then don't blame them for not scrambling to be the first one to line up at your doorstep. This is a free site and you have full freedom to market yourself elsewhere, where you will find plethora of women who are willing to settle for a "lousy" whatever it is you have to offer; as well as where you believe amateur hookers don't frequent. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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How much is too much and what do I do? Posted: 2/12/2008 4:56:41 PM
So my question is...... Did he go too far with everything? or am I in the wrong? After explaining all this, you still have to ask whether you are wrong?? Honey, you know he is wrong. More importantly, you were wrong to start shacking up with him in the first place. You started giving of yourself to him and that left him with no motivation to woo you!!! He is not a man. He is a male. If you want a MAN, then you need to be a lady to attract one. Shacking up leaves you with no respect and dignity!! Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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Turn down sex? Posted: 2/11/2008 11:38:57 AM
OP: It seems there are two relationships that are going on: one in your own mind and one with your partner. In my opinion, the dynamics changed drastically ever since you decided to have him move in with you and you both started shacking up. Now that you are both under one roof, he knows he can have you, and you can have him, at each other's convenience. To put it rather simplistically, he does not need to buy the cow when he can get the milk for free. The fact that he turned you down has really put you in doldrums and you have manifested it negatively in your mind. He realized you were a little tipsy and in my opinion, he showed consideration by not having sex with you being a little inebriated, lest it should be considered "taking advantage". Look at it from another angle: Had he had sex with you, you could have potentially accused him of "taking advantage" of you while you were drunk. Either way he loses. It has become a lot more convenient for him to have his physical needs satisfied by being in a shackup situation. By shacking up, you are not dating anymore. Perhaps you may want to reconsider this in the bigger scheme of things. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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Dilemna? Posted: 1/23/2008 4:44:40 PM
There is really not much of a dilemma when you think in terms of what is in the best interest of the kids. Considering her lifestyle and history (based on what you described in the original post), I think it will be deterimental for your kids to have such instability in their lives, if your wife comes back. Since you are still married, I suggest you should file for divorce and have full legal and physical custody, with very limited superivsed visitation. Should she ever decide to clean up her life, she will have to then earn her way back in the good graces of you and the children. You don't need to risk wrecking your kids' lives to give forgiveness. I wish you well. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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Of which astrological sign are most divorced people? Posted: 1/18/2008 10:31:53 AM
I have been on this site for a while now and have been noticing that there are more Leos (older than 35) who are divorced and/or out of relationships, than are people from other astrological signs. I looked up the astrological chart for Leos and noticed something that stood out rather stark. The gist of it is that Leos tend to find themselves when they are around in their mid-life stage. That they will leave their relationships to get their satisfaction in terms of finding themselves. Anyone have any observations in that respect?

mykidsdadiam

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Finding out just what you thought Posted: 1/18/2008 10:22:40 AM
OP, If you had already created a forum on this topic, why do another one?? Seems like a troll to me. You know what the right thing to do is. Choose the action you want to take and then be ready to bear the consequences!! Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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Ideas Please! Posted: 1/18/2008 6:57:06 AM
OP: It is indeed a sad and unfortunate for the kids. With that being said, your kids are old enough to know the reality without it being sugar-coated. Instead of you asking the kids to invite their mother, perhaps you can let her know of the functions and events. Considering the lack of initiative on your ex's part to attend your children's activities, my suggestion for you is to communicate to her the events via e-mail. That way, you have a record of making an effort all the time and if she chooses, she can come and attend the functions. It is perfectly fine to bring with your kids this subject of their mom not coming to their events. You can things like "Sweetie, I don't know why your mom is unable to attend. But let us go the (game, function) and have a good time with your friends and (grandma, grandpa, nephews, nieces, etc)." Eventually, the kids begin to realize that it was her choice for the actions she took. Looks like your ex decided to find herself during a mid-life crisis, huh? Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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New Years Eve Bash at Maggianos for Singles in Vegas Posted: 1/9/2008 10:18:32 AM
Somebody say something??? "Something"

mykidsdadiam

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Tired of dating? Posted: 1/4/2008 10:47:19 AM
It will make things a lot easier on yourself if you narrow down what you are looking from accomplish from dating. For example, are you dating for just fun and companionship or are you looking to get married in the future? What are the traits he/she must have that are important to you? If you dating for fun, then let things run their course while you overlook what you deem to be unacceptable traits. I personally believe that if either or both parties have minor kids, they should not involve those kids in the process of dating. A lot of people in such situations do not think about this. If such is the situation and you decide to expose the kids to the person you date, you need to discern whether having this person in kids' lives will enhance or diminish the quality of life. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

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Dating in Las Vegas in your 50's Posted: 10/29/2007 3:52:08 PM
If one wants to meet normal people, then one should to go places where normal people will tend to frequent. But then again, the definition is "normal" is relative to each individual. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

Joined: 8/10/2005

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my ex just called to say....he fell in love Posted: 10/22/2007 9:15:24 PM
OP: There is nothing for you to deal with. Since you two are no longer together, his immature behavior is not something you ought to be worried with. I am confident you noticed such immaturity during the 3 years you were together. If you are hurting over this kind of immaturity, then you needn't. He is someone else's problem now!!

mykidsdadiam

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volunteering Posted: 10/2/2007 11:05:11 AM
I have been spending 2-3 days every month at my kids' elementary school for the past 4-5 years. Just helping the teachers with some of the mundane and not-so-mundane tasks is so appreciated by them. Some teachers do not have any parent volunteers!! These teachers have to stay after school for 2-3 hours to prepare for next day or for the week. Teachers appreciate any amount of help they can get with reading to kids, grading homework, classwork, tests/exams etc.

mykidsdadiam

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ignorant people Posted: 8/19/2007 9:58:58 AM
we choose who we sleep with!!!!we don't always choose to raise a child[ren]alone! I respectfully disagree with that conjecture, crazygurl36. By willingly choosing to sleep with someone, you are acknowledging that there is a risk of you getting pregnant and therefore you could end up raising that child all by yourself. It is like getting some surgical procedure. Patients have to sign a release form acknowledging the risk associated with surgery (no matter routine the procedure is), including possibility of death. They have a choice of not getting the surgey done. But if they choose to go ahead, they must accept the risk, however small or large it is, and then live with the conequences of that choice. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

Joined: 8/10/2005

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ignorant people Posted: 8/17/2007 9:43:42 AM
nobody knows what their situation is going to be down the line so these people are stupid or making poor judgements!!! This is exactly the point. If we all knew ahead of time what the situation is going to be down the line, there will be no need to think anything over. It would be like living in a communist regime where your life is controlled by someone else. Someone else makes decisions for your everyday life. Our creator gave us brains so we can make decisions. Whether those decisions are good or bad, it is all relative to each individual. The point I am making is about people having the freedom of choice, people using that freedom of choice for their pleasure and then regretting and complaining about the outcome - the outcome that they knew was a distinct possibility as a result of the choice they were making. Men and women want to enjoy the pleasures of sexual intercourse. The expected outcome of this choice is to enjoy the orgasmic thrills, which both people want. If a wanted pregnancy results as a consequence of this choice, all is well. You will not hear anyone say "it happened for a reason" because it was a desired outcome that we knew could happen. If an unwanted pregnancy results in weeks after that earth-shattering orgasm, well it is the same outcome that people knew could happen, just not the desired one. It also "happened for a reason", which people knew ahead of time. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

Joined: 8/10/2005

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ignorant people Posted: 8/16/2007 10:01:57 PM
OP: The comment made by your married friend <div class="quote">why do they get pregnant if they know they will be single" is indeed a very fair one, in my opinion. We all say "things happen for a reason" as if we have no clue about the reason. Most of time we have a clear idea as to why something happened. In as much as "things happen for a reason" is correct, it is also a rather lame excuse for one's own exercising of poor judgement. In the context of your post, when a single person becomes a parent, that "thing" indeed "happened for a reason" and the reason is that, of the two people who participated in making one pregnant, they chose to take a risk for a few moments of pleasure. We all have the freedom to make choices. We can pick and choose what we want to do. However, we cannot pick and choose the outcome. We picked the action. We must live with the outcome. If the outcome is to our liking, great. If it is not, then we rue and say "things happen for a reason". That reason we allude to is nothing but stupidity and poor judgement. "It is the price you pay for the life you choose"-Godfather III. Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

Joined: 8/10/2005

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I have my own house Posted: 7/30/2007 4:43:58 PM
OP, To answer your question: She is like Zsa Zsa Gabor.... She is a very good "housekeeper". Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

Joined: 8/10/2005

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For The guys Only Posted: 7/20/2007 4:26:12 PM
The attitude of reading/deleting e-mails without replying is prevalent in both genders. It is a matter of common courtesy to reply to an e-mail. But people being people, never take it personal. If nothing else, it is a peek into their personality. So be it. If one got upset at each such instance, one will be a very disappointed person.... :) Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

Joined: 8/10/2005

Msg: 20 (view)

Online Dating is a Farce Posted: 7/3/2007 1:56:05 PM
GeeAndy, I hope things are looking up for you, with respect to online dating. In my opinion, you just have to be patient and not take any "read/deleted" messages to heart. There is no doubt that there are people who are simply testing the waters with no intentions to meet in real life. They are here primarily for their ego boost. That is fine. You just have to keep on sifting through and moving. Then there are also people who create multiple profiles. The funny thing is that they claim to be looking for someone who is not into playing games. Yet, they indulge in the very thing they are not looking for. Instant satisfaction is not what you are going to get here. Just be patient and don't take it personally. This is a pond, so swim and avoid the sharks... :) Just my 98 cents

mykidsdadiam

Joined: 8/10/2005

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Downtown Las Vegas Bars Posted: 3/11/2007 7:26:00 PM
Have not heard of the bars that you mentioned. However, Jillian's, Triple George are nice places to go. There is a another one just across Jillian's, on the south side of Fremont street. Outwardly, looks like an Irish pub.

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