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sailorfun

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scary stuff for mortgage borrowers in the US right now Posted: 2/8/2007 10:51:42 PM
Have you ever heard of tinyurl.com? Try it sometime.

sailorfun

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The Man’s day? Posted: 2/8/2007 9:09:28 PM
Steak and Blowjob Day was mentioned… March 14th... Who knew? Not me. Now it's on my calendar. But, I don't need a special steak day - everyday can be steak day. Now, just need to work on the other part...

sailorfun

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I have to ask...Why was he just a jerk? Posted: 2/8/2007 9:00:59 PM
Size 14 or not, I just looked at your pictures. There is nothing wrong with the way you look. Hubba, hubba!

sailorfun

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Why leave the relationship? Posted: 2/8/2007 7:43:54 PM
maybe I am just too old fashioned and think that marriage should last a lifetime and not tossed away like "been there...done that now what's next". Am I just letting my values out of the bag here? There are probably very few of us who enter into a marriage with the thought that it's going to end in divorce. Nevertheless, it often does, for whatever reason. Your values are not much different than most of ours. Given the choice between a happy, satisfying marriage and divorce, I'll take the former anytime. Separation and divorce hurt. Sometimes, despite the best intentions of both parties, the marriage just isn't going to work. We are then faced with the option of gutting it out 'til the bitter end, or going off and trying to make a new life that brings us happiness.

sailorfun

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Do you guys network with other guys? Posted: 2/8/2007 2:13:14 PM
Would never have crossed my mind. In fact, I rarely read a testimonial. Seems they all say, "What can I say about this person. Sweet, smart, funny...blah, blah, blah." Doesn't tell me a whole lot. Along with that, I would never write a testimonial for someone. If I have something to say about the person, I'll send it to them personally. What I think about them is personal. I wouldn't even want anyone to write one for me...ha, like that would happen!

sailorfun

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Why get defensive? Posted: 2/8/2007 1:59:43 AM
Well, first, I agree with the two posters above. Did you suggest an alternate time & place? But, also, he could have asked you, then when and where. Second, in your favor, he should have come to you instead of asking you to come to meet him. At the very least, meet halfway. Third, again in your favor, he was being pushy if he was advocating for a meeting from the very beginning. Especially since you two had just started chatting.

sailorfun

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Which Nascar Drivers Must Produce This Year ? Posted: 2/8/2007 1:13:57 AM
I don't see Yeley being in trouble this year. Last was his rookie year, and Gibbs usually doesn't give up on drivers real fast. Don't see McMurray in trouble this year either. This will be only his second year with Roush, as long as he can put in some up front time with some top 10's he should be okay. I will say he's been sort of disappointing overall in his short career. Maybe Brian Vickers. I think it's him and Gordon that don't get along. That might be a reason to 86 him at the end of this season if he doesn't make the Chase.

sailorfun

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Curly hair or straight? Posted: 2/7/2007 10:42:48 PM
It seems to me I've never met a woman who was happy with her hair. If she had straight hair, she always talked about getting it permed. If she has naturally curly hair, she talked about straightening it. All of them, I've always like her hair. Clean, brushed and neat, that's about all I care. Anymore that she does is just gravy.

sailorfun

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Useless facts Posted: 2/6/2007 2:51:17 AM
There are 1 billion bugs in every cubic mile of earth. On a clear night there are about 1500 stars visible to the naked eye.

sailorfun

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SWEETEST MOST ROMANTIC THING HES/SHES EVER DONE Posted: 2/5/2007 9:39:46 PM
Not the most romantic, just simply the sweetest, greatest thing anyone has ever done for me. My Dad died on Feb. 13th, just a couple of years after we were married. She had only met him once, for a few days. Of course I left Va. for Ca. immediately. She said she should come also and I told her no sense in that as it would disrupt everything, etc. She told me that she'd get a flight and I'd better be there to pick her up from the airport, because she was my wife and that's what she was supposed to do, be there. A couple of days later I drove to LAX and picked her up, she walked off the plane with a bag with a Valentine's Day gift in it. But that's not the great part. After I helped Mom get all the funeral arrangements done, and did the supportive, consoling role, we had the viewing. I was there to greet everyone and talk to them and listen to all the stories they had about my Dad, almost everyone was gone. It was my turn to say bye to my Dad and she was right there with me. And god, I needed her at that time, probably more than I'd ever needed anyone. She had known that I would. The single greatest thing anyone's ever done for me...

sailorfun

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does anyone still write love letters? Posted: 2/5/2007 8:04:12 PM
Yes, I've written women many love letters. I was in the Navy, before email and phones at sea, so letters were the only form of correspondence. Nota all the letters have to be about how is the car running and are you doing well. I eschew cards with prepared messages - don't like to send or give them. To me it's just, "Yeah, what Hallmark said". I'd rather write my own message. Even when I've been married and at home, I'd still write a love letter and mail it to her. She's usually enjoyed receiving it in the mail - a surprise. It's always been appreciated. Fortunately, I'm a decent writer and can express myself. Understand not everyone can do that. But guys ought to try it and just do your best. I bet she'd really appreciate the effort and thought.

sailorfun

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Eater Or Nibbler... Posted: 2/5/2007 3:59:58 PM
I don't really care, so long as she is eating what she wants. If she only wants an appetizer, or a salad, or a small plate, it's all good, because I'm going to eat what and how much I want.

sailorfun

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I've got one month left... Posted: 2/5/2007 1:32:12 AM
IMO, technically, you've been over 45 since the moment after the 45th anniversary of the moment of your birth. It's like the transition of the full moon. It's a momentary occurrence between the Waxing Gibbous and Waning Gibbous phases. But hey, it's your age, call it as you see it. I think over 45 means you're one year closer to being eligible for senior discounts.... I can barely wait.

sailorfun

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Writing more than one person Posted: 2/4/2007 8:50:22 PM
Each time he telephoned, he called me by a different woman's name. Can't multitask. What a dork.

sailorfun

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What stops men from asking women to dance? Posted: 2/4/2007 3:46:03 AM
Real men don't dance... All kidding aside, I can't dance. I've got no rhythm. I generally don't enjoy dancing. I will dance with a woman I know and like, but probably only a slow dance, and at that I won't be all over her. Close enough to be intimate, but not so close and grinding as to seem obscene.

sailorfun

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Would You Evah... Posted: 2/4/2007 12:37:06 AM
I don't even know how one would go about doing something like that. Do they find your town and state and start browsing all the pages in the Yahoo directory, or something? Sheesh, that's a lot of work. Why not get to know her and then she'll give it to you if she likes you.

sailorfun

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you tell me Posted: 2/3/2007 11:51:44 PM
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts6519211.aspx

sailorfun

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Ever been slapped? Posted: 2/3/2007 11:16:22 PM
Long time ago. Buddy and I are in a bar we frequented regularly, standing at the bar. I'm standing next to a gal, who we both knew. She's talking to someone on the other side of her. Unbeknownst to me, my buddy reaches around and pinches her on her a$$. She turns and slaps me across my face - hard! My buddy is busting a gut he's laughing so hard.

sailorfun

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Women put women where we are today!? Posted: 2/3/2007 3:17:39 PM
I have tried not to let women define my role as a man. As Popeye said, "I yam what I yam". I do what I do, or not. Yes, I'm open to compromise and consensus with a woman I'm involved with. But don't expect me to change a whole lot of what I am. Maybe it says something about me and the type of women I'm attracted to, or who are attracted to me, but I've rarely run into the problem of being thought of as diminishing a woman's function or role, or belittling or ignoring her strengths or abilities. Most of the time they are amazed that I'm self sufficient. I can cook, and very well, thank you. I clean up my own messes. I clean, do laundry and fold it. I even iron the clothes that I feel need ironed. I can't sew, so I'll be asking for help in that area. But I can usually fix her sewing machine, and if I can't I know when to take it to the repairman who can. I haven't always known when I should go see the doctor. Some caring women have convinced me to do so when I wouldn't have and really needed to. However, one sort of got irritated that when I had a cold or flu I didn't act like a whiny kid. In short, I do things that I think I should do. I open doors for the women because I want to. It has nothing to do with her inability to do so. I deal with all trash, because I believe a woman shouldn't have to. Nothing to do with her ability or lack there of. What irritates me more than anything is a woman who tries to turn everything into a male vs. female issue. Fortunately, I've avoided most of them. So, men, and women, find someone who fits, or who is amenable to adapting to, what you are seeking in a partner. Just don't expect me to change to fit your sensibilities. I won't try to force you into being what I want.

sailorfun

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Confidence??? Posted: 2/3/2007 1:04:35 AM
Possibly you need to assess the type of guys you are attracted to and why. Then change the guys you associate with and date. I mean, instead of just blaming it all on us pigs.

sailorfun

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Message from a stranger…WTF ? Posted: 2/2/2007 11:37:38 PM
Why can't POF start a site where either men or women can post the profile name of all those who are absolutely rude, crude and down right dirty? Because even that effort at public ridicule would ultimately be abused. There would be people posting the user names of people who only annoyed them. Then there would be rebuttals, and counter accusations.

sailorfun

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Guys, would you like receiving something in the mail? Posted: 2/2/2007 9:40:34 PM
No, it would not creep me out. I might be suspicious if it was early in the relationship and she sent me an expensive or very personal gift. But then if she bought it and gave it to me personally before we had "reached that point". I think doing something like that shows a thoughtfulness that goes beyond a voice mail or email. It takes extra time and thought to do those things. Of course, I'm sort of old fashioned that way. I still send out hand written thank you notes.

sailorfun

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Would you be put off... Posted: 2/2/2007 8:07:16 PM
No, I don't think you're being anal. Unless he's keeping you in drawers full of VS lingerie then he should be conscious of what it costs to keep you looking sexy and desirable. I've bought stuff for women at VS, I know some of it is pricey.

sailorfun

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is this really what people say to start chatting? Posted: 2/2/2007 12:17:53 PM
They do it because it works often enough that it's worth the shot. As much as you can pillory the guy for attempting to initiate a contact with that crudity, you can pillory the women who ultimately succumb to them. After all, it has likely worked for him at some point.

sailorfun

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Inappropriate attire for a first date Posted: 2/1/2007 9:50:28 AM
.what should I wear?...casual..nice jeans..nice top and jacket and heels....black A-line skirt, nice black sweater...boots with a heel...sexy but not revealing but yet sophisticated....confused. Something that's tight in all the right places, not too many buttons. then it's most likely my Lynyrd Skynyrd tshirt and Levis driving them away in droves Could be. But if you had a Molly Hatchet tee, that would rock!

sailorfun

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Lying about number of sex partners Posted: 2/1/2007 8:00:58 AM
On the occasions it has come up for discussion I just tell them I lost track at three dozen. Which is true. After all there were all those years I drank excessively, and the times in Rio, and...Besides, I'm getting older and forgetti

sailorfun

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why do guys have to sit with their legs so far apart? Posted: 2/1/2007 7:28:29 AM
Of all the valid things there are to complain about when it comes to men is this the ONLY one you can ask about?? My initial thought also. Of all the things... Personally, I think some men are just inconsiderate. Of course! THAT must be it. It's the only possible answer. OP: Maybe your car is too small. Had a g/f who drove a Mustang convertible. Gawd, I hated riding in that thing. Why do many women stand with one leg out, one ****d to the side and that foot positioned almost 90' from the straight forward? Why do some of them, when they put their hands on their hips, have the heels of their hands forward? HOW do they do that?

sailorfun

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which do you prefer conservative or promiscuis girls? Posted: 2/1/2007 2:11:00 AM
There are promiscuous women?

sailorfun

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dating confusion Posted: 1/31/2007 9:44:29 PM
You're 19, meaning you've known him since you were 9. How old is he? You didn't say what kind of rehab he just got out of? If it's drug or alcohol rehab, be aware of a couple of things. He was at a low point in his life. People have a tendency to reach out to those they know and feel they can count on for support. Also, if he just got out of rehab he could be on something called a "pink cloud" where everything seems like sunshine, lollipops and rainbows. Pink clouds don't last forever, they evaporate. Someone who is just out of rehab shouldn't be making decisions about affairs of the heart. He needs to be concentrating on maintaining his recovery. You should do some research on post rehabilitation aftercare, especially the role of a partner. All that is contingent on if he was in a drug/alcohol rehab - you weren't specific. I guess you could have meant rehab from a surgery or accident.

sailorfun

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First Contact Statistics? Posted: 1/31/2007 10:50:32 AM
What is the male to female ratio on PoF? I can't find it right now, but a few days ago I saw a stat on PoF saying that women initiate about 25% of first contacts. I'm not an advocate of the "mass email" approach. Think about the flyers you get in your mailbox. What do you do with most of them?

sailorfun

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We don't get subtle... Posted: 1/31/2007 10:23:28 AM
This is the reason John Gray (mars vs. venus paradigm) When someone writes the book He's a Man, You're a Woman. You're Different, Get Over It I'll buy that one.

sailorfun

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people who choose not to be mothers or fathers ..... Posted: 1/30/2007 10:37:24 PM
I don't think society judges you negatively if you've not had children. I've never had children. I've never really wanted them. Never had a feeling that I needed to carry on my name or anything like that. There was a time when I was young that a wife wanted children and I was fine with that. We just didn't make it to the point of having them. OTOH, I've never not dated a woman just because she had kids. I've never been judged or had a woman not be interested in me because I don't have any kids.

sailorfun

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double standard Posted: 1/30/2007 9:22:49 PM
IMO, 5' 8", 220, doesn't seem bad. I think it mostly depends on how you carry it and how you feel about yourself. Sounds as though you have that under control. You'll find the guy who likes you for what you are. Not all guys in your age bracket are looking for young babes. Yes, I realize some people, men and women, have reasons for not posting pictures on their profile. It's a known fact that profile with pictures attract more attention. If someone is willing to deal with a lower contact rate by not having their picture, then that's their decision. If it's a double standard, then it's on both sides of the gender gap. Older women are dating younger, (sometimes much younger) men. It slices both ways. Hang in there, keep

sailorfun

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ever called a sex partner the wrong name Posted: 1/30/2007 7:17:38 PM
Yes, once, many years ago. We were "doing it" on the high stool at the breakfast bar. I uttered some other girls name. In a blink of an eye she had bolted from the stool and I was pumping air. Found her in the bedroom bawling her eyes out.

sailorfun

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Was it 1/12/95 or 1/13? Posted: 1/30/2007 7:00:55 PM
Wouldn't it be simpler to have everyday an anniversary? Diamond tennis bracelets everyday would get pricey.

sailorfun

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Inappropriate responses Posted: 1/30/2007 3:49:51 PM
Unlike a good percentage of women on here, I do not do the whole exposing of the body! Tsk, tsk. They're just making sure they get noticed. OBTW, you look quite comely in the black party dress and heels. I NOTICED!

sailorfun

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A proper way of introducing yourself to a girl on POF? Posted: 1/29/2007 10:04:40 PM
"Hi, how are you today?" I'm well, thank you. How are you today? Wow, that really advances the conversation.

sailorfun

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guys....what's with this??? Posted: 1/29/2007 9:34:32 PM
I'm with most of the guys here. I don't even like having my picture taken. If I try to smile just to have the picture taken, it just turns out horribly. "...themselves strewn across a bed in a suggestive manner?" I've wondered about this. Not that I really mind, but gals, it really does take the flight of fantasy to places you might not anticipate. Then again, you might anticipate. But hey, don't change it just for me. I don't mind one bit.

sailorfun

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Power to the people..... Posted: 1/29/2007 7:36:42 AM
Has a partner or someone you know changed when they have been given power or authority? If they did, I sure didn't notice. If I had noticed, I wouldn't have let it bother me as long as this has apparently bothered you.

sailorfun

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Power to the people..... Posted: 1/29/2007 6:26:33 AM
I probably used the forces as the wrong example to get my thread across, but those in the 'know' should get the jist of it. Yes, likely you did. IMO, the military doesn't quite have a parallel in the civilian world.

sailorfun

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Mis-used/Over-used words and phrases Posted: 1/29/2007 5:14:49 AM
Writing ect. and pronouncing it ectera. It's etc. and pronounced et cetera. Why do people use ect., etc. twice at the end of a sentence...and other things and other things? Just a bit redundant. Using the phrase 'a lot'. A lot is a parcel of land or a group of items. Use: Many, quite a few, a number of; anything but 'a lot'. This is a hold over from high school essay writing. The teacher took off points if we used 'a lot'.

sailorfun

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if 'hun' sounds boring Posted: 1/29/2007 3:37:56 AM
Master will do fine....

sailorfun

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Power to the people..... Posted: 1/29/2007 1:40:41 AM
hanging out on a military base isnt the best place to find metaly stable people, no offense, but they are given a bunch of mind games to beat them down to submission. I was about to take offense. Then I realized you were just giving me a bunch of mind games to beat me down to submission.

sailorfun

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yes why dont men say they love you Posted: 1/29/2007 12:12:46 AM
When my mother used to ask my dad if he loved her, he'd say "I'm here, aren't I?" I learned the hard way, that's not the "right" answer.

sailorfun

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Guys: Why do you have to end the friendship? Posted: 1/28/2007 7:16:35 AM
I think you're putting the guys in an untenable position. First, most guys fear becoming a friend with a woman he's interested in. If he really becomes a friend, we're afraid we're going to get that old "ah, but we're such good friends, I don't want to risk ruining it by getting into a relationship." Not to presume you would end up putting your guys through that, but it's happened. Additionally, how is he supposed to know when to take it to another level? You've put him in limbo. You want him to be a friend; to see other women and you see other men. How's he supposed to know at what point if your feelings are matching his? Are you going to tell him? Stop, go, slow down, stop, it's okay now. Let's move to friends, step 2. You said you've been in three LTR's in 18 years. You make that sound like a total failure. Do you think by going through this new process your next relationship will be any better or longer lasting than those? It will end up with your life partner? I don't think there's anything wrong with going slow. Nothing wrong with letting him know there will be no sex or intimacy until you are certain. But at some point the guy has to know what direction things are going.

sailorfun

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Is it normal to have all this stuff in the bathroom Posted: 1/28/2007 5:41:51 AM
This thread cracked me up. I really don't care how much, or how little, woman "stuff" they have in their bathroom. I'm just amazed at how many different items of the same general purpose some have. And hey, if that's what they think they need to look god - more power to them. All I ask is make sure I've got a little space for my few items. My Uncle and Aunt had a double sink vanity. He said he didn't care how much stuff she had so long as it stayed over on her side. "Otherwise," he said, "I've got a pretty strong elbow."

sailorfun

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When family strongly disapproves of him Posted: 1/27/2007 2:25:02 AM
Holy crap! I just read your profile. You're freakin' 52 years old! And here I thought you were some young woman with limited life experiences. I'm sorry...I'm shocked.

sailorfun

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When family strongly disapproves of him Posted: 1/27/2007 12:45:10 AM
As to family involvement in your life. One of the posters talked about her ex's family hating her. But her ex's family hated her for things she had no control over - not for character deficiencies. One poster says to keep family out of it, and that might be a good philosophy if it suits you. You have to decide if your family has your best interest at heart and is trying to keep you from making a tragic mistake, or are they trying to sabotage your relationship. If they haven't done anything like that in the past, then you might take their counsel to heart. As for your boyfriend. He's a GAMBLER! A degenerate gambler! He's just like a junkie, an alcoholic or any other destructive addiction. Of course he can charm you. That's what addicts do. Especially gambling addicts. They are con men. They have to get money to gamble. They'll mooch, they'll forge checks, they'll run scams to get the money for their gambling jones. You stay with this guy you're doomed to covering his gambling debts, getting him out of jail when he gets busted for fraud, and a life of employment problems when he can't get a job that requires a security check, a credit check or a criminal background check. Still, it's your decision.

sailorfun

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Is there such a thing as talking to too many? Posted: 1/26/2007 7:27:24 PM
^^^ Yeah. I'm confused also. OP - bored_to_tears Fills in the details - Sorshie Huh?

sailorfun

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white lies and exaggerations Posted: 1/26/2007 4:24:06 PM
I've never went out with a girl who initially misrepresented herself. However, if I did, I would be leery of seeing her again. I just don't see what anyone gets out of it. Sure, there might be things you don't reveal or talk about until you've seen each other a few times and feel it is necessary for the other person to be aware of. But blatantly lying or misrepresenting something from the get go, I just don't see why.

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