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mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

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Must be doing something wrong Posted: 11/20/2009 11:13:42 AM
hahaha, I know how you feel, its a terrible feeling..I've even wondered if its just because I smell funny...(I don't) but just because you think you do everything right, there could be one simple little thing, that takes peoples interest away. Its too bad sometimes we get too harsh on one another without understanding what may have provoked something some one said or did. I hope you don't talk about exes or something like that while with these women. That could be one signal to flee!

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

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How I want to die.. Posted: 11/18/2009 11:22:33 AM
Long story short, this is one of my thoughts on a past life experience I believe I've had for numerous reasons. At the end what I mean is that all back through time in so many places, from witch burnings, to the Knights Templars, this list goes on, is that its like "Do you see what they do to those who believe in you?" For the beginning, is based on how people would gather and cheer while watching people get hanged or burned alive, etc...and "I am the innocent one" means for everything these people are cheering while murdering me and I have not done what They accuse me of...... I want to die with no eyes upon me and with the crowd settled down so silently I can whisper "I am the innocent one" I want to die when a hush can be heard and every one would listen to my last final word. But the torture goes on if you try to to make yourself clear, So as the rope goes around my neck, I tie my fingers behind my back, and pray that God knows what happens here.

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

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Lucid.. Posted: 11/12/2009 4:36:52 PM
Hello Lucid and everyone!!!! Its been a while, I missed this thread! I want to die like I've experienced the worst of pains and knew it would be my last time. As if there was not another wound, no threat that would get me down, and it was the time of my final breath, Knowing all that. I want to die, as if there was no finer time to live! and I struggle to awaken my senses only to find an Angel beside me say "There's no reason to hold on, they'll all be with you soon" A light would grow brighter and you feel the Angel spoke the truth. I want to die so I can understand it all. Go through hardest pain, to experience gentlest love, and touch upon your senses that the answers to life lie in when you question how you want to die.

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

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Love Unknown Posted: 11/9/2009 6:53:36 AM
I held you and we had no worries no solemn faces but a sleepy smile as if both of us were dozing off and in each others heads. When I kissed you we remembered where we were and that time had flown by and we were not dreaming anymore! it was as if the first time! When I realized you are not really by my side I wanted to cry. I don't even know if you're alive or in my time! I think towards hope but it's hard to keep faith strong Because each day I get so hopeful and still every night I sleep alone.

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

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Circles Of Orange love poems :hug: :heartyou: Posted: 11/9/2009 6:33:23 AM
Thank you 1stSight, I suppose this new poem written last night would answer them, except for romantic love which I have not yet had. How strange it is my love has changed moreso, meaning its defined differently. It once was confused with an angry obsession, which seems to closely resemble intense passion. I wished to not be alone all the time so each time I had a man I labeled him "Mine" When this 'love' changed its course, and we parted ways, I moved on very quickly to wanting the next one to stay. I broke up with them before they broke up with me because I was trying not to have my 'love' hurt me! Doesn't 'love' hurt usually?? ...........Seems Love is not what I was thinking, I was drunk on immaturity But that immaturity led to experience, and love is much different now. Now love begins in yourself, and only from there, it grows.

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

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Hate being single!!!! Posted: 11/8/2009 1:36:53 PM
I agree with the other posters. Being single is tough much of the time but look at all the free time you have to focus on doing things you enjoy! When I was younger, I hated being the third wheel and now many of my friends are getting married, but I'm happy for them because you learn to enjoy the time to get yourself back to you!! Give it time, a man may come when you least expect it, but don't focus on just anyone because you want to be in a relationship so badly. Many women and men stay in bad situations just because they hate being single. I wish you well!

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

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Love Unknown Posted: 11/4/2009 10:28:59 AM
What a Beautiful story SirPoet! This I wrote about a man I have not met yet but would like to. I am aware all good things take time and not to rush and all but this is one of those poems that is for him that I would definitely never send but want to share. Without knowledge of your voice saying a single word to me, or how you appear aside from a picture, and yet, I seem to like you most my dear. Things may change as days pass on but in these moments it's you in my head I hold on to. One question remains, is if you feel the same, that is, with me being in your mind not just in those fleeting moments from time to time. Can we meet someday soon so this slow introduction does not drag on? At least to know much quicker if we in time can be with one another, or if life will treat us best if we move on. I wish us all Plenty Of Fishers the Best!

mascot1

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Circles Of Orange love poems :hug: :heartyou: Posted: 11/4/2009 10:10:32 AM
I wrote this a long long time ago and have always loved it; really I can't shake this off it was like beginning to .......love? what is that exactly? how does it feel? (I guess), how would I know, just a guess, I suppose hard to say, possibly a game a retoricle question with no real answer so people search for just one name to remain on their lips through time why? what does that bring? is that love? how? I wonder if I want to know what love really is, perhaps what it is "supposed" to feel like does this "love" involve pain? so what is love exactly? a question? an emotion? a game? I really enjoy the other poems too!

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

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How do you deal with someone when the sex isn`t satisfying? Posted: 11/3/2009 10:42:43 AM
I think you did the right thing scd. You tried, and there was no chemistry. I give her credit for telling you it is an issue she has carried in the past. But problems just don't "go away" if you ignore them. She will not change her way of viewing sex as she does without help of some kind. She sounds a little mental anyways, I hope you find a woman who can handle being an adult. hahaha

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

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Sex during your period? Posted: 11/3/2009 10:30:48 AM
msg 34, WellReadBlonde, lots of people have mentioned anal! Go Red Wings!! hahaha One of my guy friends and I were recently joking around about this since he asked why women get SOOO incredibly horny while on that week. I answered my best guesses, that 1)I suppose evolution wise women were less likely to get pregnant during the week the wall is shedding so the eggs don't stick 2) Because guys work as a plunger. When you have an orgasm it pushes all of it out so likely way way way back in time, it was a way to 'plunge' it out so that the woman was less likely to get that infection women get if they have a tampon in there for too long, no idea what its called. Guys, we love you plungers!!!

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

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Jesus is stealing my girlfriends! Posted: 11/3/2009 9:40:57 AM
Next time, dress up like Jesus...problem solved.

mascot1

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whats the best way to reject a woman Posted: 11/2/2009 1:02:37 PM
For the women you have already begun to message back just say that you are not interested. Not to be mean or anything but this is a dating website and they should not be on here if they can't handle a little rejection. Give women more credit man! hahaha They'll move on! You shouldn't have messaged them back unless stating "I'm not romantically interested but you seem to be interesting to talk to.." because you are leading them on otherwise. I just write "Thank you but I am not interested, I wish you well, have a good day" Easily done.

mascot1

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Heres a thing i wrote , tell me what you think. Posted: 10/28/2009 11:49:24 AM
C My Foto, I'm at least glad (as far as I know) its one You have written. It can use some work as you get 'sad' you could try to shorten what she did wrong because it doesen't flow well, even for being angry. Keep it up though, with practice you'll find better ways to write what you want to!

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

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my quote to a unsuspecting girl Posted: 10/28/2009 11:30:08 AM
of all the fruitful garbage I've ever read......... I want my time back! hahahaha did you send it to her? because that would be an interesting outcome! (your profile poems are a really good read though, thank you)

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

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playdates with kids and married women Posted: 10/21/2009 10:43:38 AM
I may not have any kids, but hope you can still appreciate the advice. If I were in your position, I wouldn't want to set up more playdates with the taken women who are trying to be with you just because it shows how much they care about their partner. You wrote that these women seem more interesting, but if you do eventually form a relationship with any of them, be prepared because it may happen to you too. She may try and stray from your relationship with her. I know this isn't always the case, but they seem to really be lacking respect. I think its best to have the playdates with the single women, eventually they will provide you with much more than a married woman treating you like a playtoy. If you do have play dates with the married women, have it be those happily married ones, instead of the ones who will tell you all that is wrong with her marriage. The single mothers though, you will have more fun with, hang in there until a great one comes along!!

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

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Not to feed your ego... Posted: 10/20/2009 12:08:50 PM
I have thought someone will be lucky to have me, I have a lot of people who love me as I love them! ....but its just a matter of finding him when I have so many specifications without lowering them.........

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

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Thoughts and opinions on antidepressants Posted: 10/20/2009 11:42:49 AM
Back in 2001 I was prescribed a relatively new antidepressant Celexa. This was after talking to a counsellor a few sessions, seemed pretty quick but I wanted to try it. After a short while I was upset they didn't work the way I thought they were supposed too, so I took a bunch of them at once, only 4 or so. I somehow, could not erase the smile from my face, but was still not happy, not inside. I found that really strange though, as if the drug was to work like if people smile, they are said to just 'Be happier' that was funny. I stopped taking them shortly after. I also didn't want to jump from prescription to prescription, but that is always offered. Though I know you have to ween off and get into another one, but I didn't want to. I don't believe that doctors have the technology we should that can give us insight to where this depression is coming from. I drank a vegetable and fruit juice every day for a few months, and recently turned back to that because I found I am so much happier just eating and drinking better. Even though I don't exercise aside from walking but I do know that can change more peoples perspective on life than these antidepressants!!!! Something so great as sex even, can change a persons life! Well, that is if its what they are looking for. I have found too that when peoples expectations are too high(about any thing), that leaves them always susceptible to disappointment, and they get depressed over that. Not many people know that therapy can be geared to income as well. Doctors don't prescribe the Spiritual therapy, but it is there if you look. I wish we had a device that can instantly measure what is 'missing' in the blood that can say the diet that person should be on to defeat the depression. That is, for those cases where it is that easy to do. Diet and exercise may not work for everyone,...but has much safer 'side effects' than any antidepressant!!!!

mascot1

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And what was your part in it? Posted: 10/20/2009 11:20:56 AM
Growing up is very hard to do. 2000-2004: My follies in my past relationships over many of years ago is that I was with good men but was too insecure with myself to believe they wanted to be with me. As time moved on I was finding myself more calm and realistic though...... Jump to 2004 and we have the worst relationship of my life thus far. Yet, I stayed in it for the better part of 4 years, must've been my curiosity for punishment and those good drugs we were doing..........and because I didn't want to be alone. But I guess self esteem would come when you can answer not why other people don't want you but what you don't want about yourself....... I was way way way too soft and put up with way way too much crap. People will only do to you what you allow them to do. My part, didn't trust good men enough, then trusted the worst one too much.

mascot1

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2 weeks into a great new relationship and you win the lottery, now what? Posted: 10/20/2009 10:53:18 AM
I would try my hardest not to tell them at least until after you realize it just might be something special. May take a few months. After any debts are paid, I would treat my family to a few of the finer things in life then I would do something great for him.

mascot1

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Brown eyed Men? Posted: 10/20/2009 10:30:57 AM
I can understand more if she just doesen't physically find brown eyes attractive, as some people are not attracted to a certain body type or freckles. But I don't understand the personality traits she attributes to men with brown eyes. Otherwise......given time, she will not like a lot of men.....

mascot1

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I told her i can't just be a friend... but she didnt wanna hear that.. help Posted: 10/16/2009 1:17:00 PM
I can't believe you refuse to be a friend to her when she doesen't want a relationship! How selfish are you? You know, if you were in her shoes, would you not want some space especially at her age to develop her self identity now that she is not in a relationship. You seem to expect her to get in a relationship with you Right Now, she is better off without you, to have some one who will understand her needs and not just give her what seems like an ultimatum. With how she's been in serial relationships for so long and the most recent ending in June, I can understand how she'd want time to just relax and figure things out because she is still hurt. Don't rush her! I would really like to know how you would feel in her spot! She clearly does want you in her life, and things can blossom sometime if you stick around, but give her space and choose to be her friend without pressuring her for anything.....as that would make her dislike you. I wouldn't be saying it this way if I hadn't been in a situation similiar to her a few years ago. The guy who is close to what you are doing I ended up hating because he would call every single day. Even June can be not enough time for her to come around to you, although what Psychoholoic said may be true too, but you know what type of woman she is and can decide for yourself. I hope things work out for what is best for both of you!

mascot1

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What is it about chivalry? Posted: 10/16/2009 1:02:53 PM
Davidpiano0609 answered exactly what I was going to say in answer to your question.

mascot1

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.... Posted: 10/11/2009 11:02:22 AM
I'm glad you posted this, but please friend give credit where its due. This is the lyrics to 'The Grace' by Neverending White Lights with Dallas Green of Alexis on fire or of a band called City and Color.....I don't know I listen to neither of them. It is part 1 of a 3 part video movie. 1. The Grace featuring Dallas Green (2005 - # 1 Video Chart / # 1 Rock Audience Chart / # 7 Rock Chart overall for 2006 / #27; Canadian Singles Chart) 2. Angels & Saints featuring Chris Gordon (2006) 3. Age of Consent featuring Nick Hexum(band-311)

mascot1

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Missing Human Touch Posted: 9/8/2009 12:26:22 PM
I miss touching so much I had a guy aquaintance sleep beside me one night. I had no intention of having sex with him(he was just below that standard since I knew he was a 'player') but he stayed the night. I did regret even that later because it's like trying to force myself to remember the feeling because it brings comfort, and forget the feeling because it brings grief in knowing that I don't know when I'll have someone beside me again. I have kissed men I regret kissing because I do forget how that feels, I go months without kissing someone and kiss someone first date I don't care for. I have accepted dates with men I knew would go nowhere just to pass some time. I do like being alone much of the time, but I don't even know if I would be able to handle a relationship now hahaha, I've gotten so accustomed to entertaining only myself! Although on the upside, I have been blessed enough to have many friends to hug, and lots of cats!

mascot1

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Letting go of someone you don't love Posted: 9/8/2009 12:07:06 PM
Trying to be friends after a break up is very hard, so you'd have to consider that losing her out of your life altogether is likely how it will end. It may be very hard to let her go, but if you do truly feel like there is no "making better" after you've openly talked with her about how you feel, tried some new things to keep it exciting, (I hope you've done these before deciding to just call it off) 5 months and you don't feel "the spark" still? My friend, for the both of you, it would be best to break it off. Staying is a real injustice to both your happiness. Staying to "make her happy" isn't going to make her happy when she may find out its a sham form of love. I've broken up with the majority of my boyfriends, and don't talk to any of them anymore. Well, the passing niceties, it is good to know how they are, but you'd have to consider that may be all there is when you do leave her. I hope you two can find something that excites you both if thats all thats lacking, sometimes its all you need if its just a slump! Hope it all will work out!

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

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Does the number of people a person has had sex with matter? Posted: 9/8/2009 11:52:17 AM
Be sure she gets checked again and be well read about STD/STIs because HIV may not show up in a test for 6 months, and many infections may not be apparent for 3 weeks. As you get older its going to be harder and harder to find someone with a low number. I'd suggest if you two 'click' on every other level, than it shouldn't matter how many. But it seems being friends may work out better for the two of you. I would be weary of her "sex addict" past though. That status entails a 'uncontrollable' desire which would usually involve cheating with it. Enjoying sex and just wanting it all the time is different. Keep us posted! Hope it works out!

mascot1

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Have you had periods of no interest in sex in committed relationship? Posted: 9/7/2009 3:28:56 PM
I've had a period of no interest with my ex long term boyfriend. Sex works like a barometer for a good relationship. Sometimes interest for sex may be lacking because you need to spice things up, do it outside in a field or something, even just a change of where can add some excitement thats needed. Some other times though, it may be a deeper need not being met. Which is more difficult, if you don't feel the same attraction or don't have as much fun/communication as you 2 used to, thats harder to fix. For instance, I stopped enjoying the sex with my ex because we realized after 4 years we hated each other. Both our faults. Go outside with your man right after you read this and try something completely different! Rent a Porno! Make a Porno! Some thing you two haven't done, or haven't done in a long time! I hope that solves the lack of interest. Some foods boost sexual desire, I've heard eating pineapple works well, and get adrenaline going! that should work it up too! Medically it can be a number of reasons too. I hope all goes well!

mascot1

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Just curious really.. Posted: 9/7/2009 3:11:50 PM
You should check out the thread of what have you learned with online dating, it gives you some more insight to what to expect while here. I've been here for a while, I don't think I'm the same person!damn it wheres a spinning head icon when you need one haha Some people come on here thinking they won't stay, and they're here for awhile, and make some great friends. Some leave shortly after joining. Whatever you do, I suggest not tying your dating potential/self worth in how many responses you get in messanging the ladies. Otherwise its spinning head I'm glad for your father and hope you do find great women and friends on here!!

mascot1

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Pickup Line Comebacks You've Used. Posted: 9/7/2009 3:00:35 PM
One young guy messaged me and actually thought I was of 'cougar' age! (at 26!) he was something like 18, so I guess thats it. He was looking for a cougar like woman. I wrote him back and said "Learn how to read, so that I can still Not message you" Just when you think you make things clear in your profile and it still has to be spelled out.... I absolutely hate it when men use their first subject line ever to me as "Hey Sexy" or "Hey Cutie" at those ones I write: "Are we at a bar? Did you buy me a drink? Try that pick up at a bar where someone may be stupid/drunk enough to fall for it"

mascot1

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Interpret this scenario Posted: 9/7/2009 2:33:42 PM
This does seem like she likes you too, more than the other 2 guys. I can't see her asking you to come to the school so far away just to say to any friends up there "Ya, but I like the other guy" You seem to be the memory she wants to keep while she's at school. I hope she doesen't get clingy to push you away. This one doesen't seem like a mindgame. Hope it works out!

mascot1

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What Would Do If Your Date Said To You, I'm Use To Dating Someone Better Looking Than You? Posted: 9/7/2009 1:48:01 PM
Heres what I would say: "Thank God! I'm glad we can end this now because I was only talking to you because I lost a bet and had to have a date with the most hideous man my roommates could find!! Good luck with that whole most hideous face thing" and definitly leave him with the bill! widowsdesire, I really like your answer!

mascot1

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Birthday gift for a special friend? Posted: 9/7/2009 1:27:05 PM
I agree with Sassy, how is he supposed to feel when you spend a grand, and your birthday comes along and he doesen't have that kind of money? or doesen't want to spend it on a "special friend"? If you don't feel comfortable enough to go and see him(only presuming), don't spend a grand on a gift. Something handmade has always impressed guys, especially those who appreciate art. Have you gotten a huge jump in the number of messages you've received? haha, advertising a $1000US for a "special friend" Here you go guys! Theres the bait!!

mascot1

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Should men pay half of the expense of women's birth control? Posted: 9/7/2009 12:50:19 PM
I would say no. Just because whatever birth control used is by your choice. No matter the cost for birth control, still much less stress/cost of a baby! This is a really good question though!

mascot1

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How do you deal with other people in your relationship??? Posted: 9/7/2009 8:17:56 AM
If I were in your position, I would print out EVERYTHING he EVER said to her and you and take it to the police. People will only do what you allow them too, and he believes he has the upper hand because she didn't fight back and neither of you seem to be fighting hard enough, he wants to play hard ball, get him back harder. Talk to Legal Aid (if you have that in Texas) , go to the police! He's using 'knowledge' of your address as a threat. He wouldn't be 'bragging' about anything unless he believed to have the upper hand. Sure, psychopaths believe they always do, but stop playing and get on with doing more then just blocking him, because that proved non affective. On the other hand, psychopaths enjoy the attention, but its worth a try, because there are some that may threaten to call the police, but when the police are called on them back right down. The police may not be able to do much about it because its like just internet bullying and there are little to no laws. Don't give up the first time though. I hope your girl is more careful on who she "feels sorry for" after all this!!

mascot1

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Jelousy is ruining my love life..... Posted: 9/6/2009 4:33:22 PM
I try to focus my thoughts that who you choose to date is not the same person as your ex. I know it sounds so simple, but I've been through similiar as you, only my ex wanted to have her one night and me the next and mark on his calender who had what day. So just keep your thoughts that who you date should be given a clean slate, as that is certainly what you would want for you if the roles were reversed and she is the insecure one. Also try and find a cousellor. There are some who work on 'geared to income' so they aren't all $100+ That will help you with the anxiety. Remember also that its based on FEAR and think of fear as meaning False Evidence Appearing Real. Often people will cheat because they are being accused of it and if they were not cheating, they may, because they get in 'trouble' for doing it when they were not. You are young and as you get older your mind will also calm itself down. I was the most insecure 17+ year old EVER and have even smacked my boyfriend back then for doing nothing wrong. I will never do that again, because I'm not the same. You'll grow up to realize how to separate your fear from fact. I just wanted to give you some history because I've been in the same state of mind many of times, and wanted you to know that its not a feeling that is easy to beat, but is not impossible to lessen.

mascot1

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MANIPULATION V Posted: 9/5/2009 1:02:33 PM
I thought that vasectomys can be reversed up to 10 years after its done. But still, that would leave little chance for concieving even if it were reversed successfully. Forum101 that is a hilarious great story though! I also believe what goes around comes around! I'm glad you had the last laugh!!! Too bad we couldn't get an update on this resurrected thread. They do seem meant for each other as master manipulators! I agree with BigDaddyJinx on this one!

mascot1

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What is Attractive? Posted: 9/4/2009 7:31:08 PM
A study I read said that people in our society, as far as the face goes, look for symmetry. That one side of the face is well aligned with the other. I find personally, that if a mans eyes are too close together, I don't really find him attractive. Or people even find how the ears are shaped in proportion to the head. People also whether we like this about our society or not, will always find a good complexion sexy. I've even talked to a man that said a womans voice and laugh can be a deal breaker. If she has a manly voice, he's not attracted. The right haircut may even work wonders with certain people! One of my friends LOVES bald men. Since its all in preference, if you get a haircut that will fit your face, women will certainly be looking twice!

mascot1

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If you're single and not dating, what's your reason? Posted: 9/4/2009 7:21:28 PM
Good question!! hahaha My standards are too high for those who begin to talk with me, and I am too low for those I try to talk with!! easy and aggravating enough. I don't want to lower mine and they don't want to lower theirs, its a stalemate dating scene.

mascot1

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Are women too Uptight . . ??? Posted: 9/3/2009 7:41:25 AM
Most men seem to bring it up within the first 5 messages. I know they're trying to get a feel for how us women react to see if we're easy or not. But their desperation turns me off. So I leave them for the women who are just like them. Even if I do joke around with the ones who don't seem so needy, if we meet even 2 or 3 weeks after talking to each other, I'm expected to drop to my knees because he sent a few messages on his favorite subject?! Guys try so little to impress us, and expect so much for it! Although there are some good men who wait say 20 messages, I like those guys! Its not so much about talking about intimate issues, but a guy who messages "Do you enjoy anal?" or "want to be the 3rd in my threesome?" as the first message??? was anyone who got that supposed to be So flattered they dropped what they were doing to meet them? Some women may seem a prude when they don't get involved with sex after a long while, but its sad to see there are some men that call women prudes if we don't want to have sex with them on the first date.

mascot1

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How do you deal with other people in your relationship??? Posted: 9/3/2009 7:03:46 AM
She may just "feel sorry for him" but it seems its just a line she's feeding you. She likes the attention from this guy. He wouldn't feel there is a shot unless she's been giving him reasons to feel that way. If there was No chance between her and him, she would've told him so. How did he get your email? EDIT: Although you admit some problems may be your fault, seems you would be much better off without her drama and she can become someone elses problem. Even the guy messaging you, may someday get those same messages if they begin a relationship and she continues to always search for attention elsewhere. The cats out of the bag, best to let that p*ssy go!

mascot1

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Why do guys comment on other womens attractiveness around women? Posted: 8/29/2009 4:36:39 PM
Crap, I should've said this in the question: I'm not seeing this guy, he was someone I worked with. We'll actually never see each other again, because it was his last day and I was only filling in for someone. Neither of us gave each other our numbers because neither of us could tell (as it appears) if we were interested in one another, though it was a fun shift! It just got me wondering is all. I do suppose women do this to you guys too, and its just as hard to figure out why we drool over Georges St.Pierre! Plus, there was no other woman around, we were talking about music videos. I only care because I have had this happen before and wonder about it. For those who are asking why I care to know: Surely any of you may wonder why women do it, could even be for different reasons all together, who knows if we don't ask?! Thanks for all the replies!

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

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Why do guys comment on other womens attractiveness around women? Posted: 8/29/2009 1:16:00 PM
I would like to know why men comment on other hot women in the presence of a woman? I figure it would be for these 2 reasons but want to know which stands out as more true: He wants to find out if the woman he's around will have a jealous face. He sees the woman he's talking to as more of a friend and is not interested romantically with the woman he is talking to. I am wondering because if a woman is interested in the guy, she'll believe she has to measure up to whoever he said is hot. So I thought too, its like letting a woman down gently if there seem to be no matching features. Or letting her know he is a little interested if she does have resemblance to the person he mentions. Is any of this right? haha!

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

Msg: 6 (view)

Pickup Line Comebacks You've Used. Posted: 8/27/2009 4:19:55 PM
When POF was beginning to use the "Serious Membership" I had something pretty clever on my profile that read: " I DON'T BELIEVE PAYING FOR UPGRADED MEMBERSHIP IS GOING TO MAKE ME ANY MORE SERIOUS A MEMBER. I do believe that people will be honest on here for the most part. I figure a guy lying to a woman about how serious he is on this site is just as much a lie if she wears a DD padded bra and when you take it off find she is only a B. So if we all go by that, I think we have a great safety net. Afterall, neither of us want to be that disappointed." A guy then wrote to me: "you know, giving me head would make you a much more serious member" I wrote back "Ya, and having you pay for it would make you a much more serious member. "

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

Msg: 55 (view)

What would you guys do? Posted: 8/27/2009 3:26:23 PM
As a woman who is relatively overweight, I'd say tell her about it, but be open to what she does say on why she changing her eating habits. Believe me, weight is the major indicator of something lacking either emotionally or physically. Something may have changed in you, or another life situation, that she finds solace in her food. To understand a bit more: My family when I was younger, much younger, used to take us to Wendys or somewhere at the end of the week more often than not. They were well paid, my siblings and I were good at school. I didn't really have many friends, so that happy time with my family was the reward of being young and loved. So food(even junk) for some people may also be 'loved' as an association of being a reward. Talk to her, and ask even if she wants to go for a walk outside more often, go to a park or something, she shouldn't say no to that! Sometimes it takes time to understand exactly where food falls in with our emotional lives. I wouldn't bring the weight issue up first but ask how things are going otherwise, even with work, friends. You may then find where the root is and talk to her about food from there. I would agree with many other people on here too, no matter how long you've been together, unless truly physically unable to you should keep the same weight or lower when in a long term relationship. Attraction should always be there, even though it wanes from time to time, its important to attempt to sustain it! If a guy is larger than myself (who is still far from heffer) No way!

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

Msg: 154 (view)

last 5 forum posts.. gone. Posted: 8/25/2009 2:35:14 PM
Please bring back Last 5 Forum Posts!!!!! I don't want to try and hunt down through practically All the threads to find my favorite writers postings!!! and usually their mail restrictions won't let me ask them directly "what have you written lately?" I mean Come On!!! We are supposed to be learning about others on here, yet you remove the seeming only ability to get in to their head by reading!!! Get rid of the stupid roses, you want to know whats pointless on here!

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

Msg: 31 (view)

Is casual dating pointless? Posted: 8/25/2009 2:10:04 PM
I do believe casual dating is mostly pointless. Mainly because it seems if people don't get in the sack within the first 2 dates they are done with that person. So they don't even know, or have wanted to know what they threw away! I don't want this to fall from the point, it seems tied to it...but when people start out very early with the sex they lose the moments of talking to know the person. Sex becomes the main event without much time to focus around that. Casual dating seems to have lost its purpose as far as 'getting to know someone' and has become the newest way to have sex with 2 or 3 partners in 1 week and feel its totally socially acceptable, for both men and women. Finding a compatible partner isn't just in fairy tales, its just much harder now. Because people you could think are great may leave because you don't let them f*ck you on the first/second date. In my age group anyways. In that way, casual dating is not pointless because you find out who the people 'really' are much sooner than when the 'honeymoon' dating stage is done and you talk to the person and find, you're not compatible!! haha, then its just another number and a forgotten face hahaha...thats normal now right? julianlennon, great posting!

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

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Actual Real Life Crime Morons Posted: 8/25/2009 1:33:27 PM
I really wish I could remember all the details of this case, but all I remember is how stupid this thief is....A young man went into a convience store and robbed it, however, he demanded cigarettes. The clerk decided that he must ask for I.D....the robber actually quickly took I.D out and showed it to the clerk. He got his free cigarettes, but left behind the memory of his name to the clerk. He was caught and charged.

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

Msg: 1 (view)

When at a party and... Posted: 8/23/2009 12:43:09 AM
I'm curious, what is it exactly that turns men on about woman on woman action...is it that she may not be insecure and open to the act? I don't get it, I've actually been drinking a bunch and got wondering when this other woman and I got pretty close...what is it EXACTLY because men on men= not hot!! I don't understand what goes through their heads... but I'd like to know.. haha, I haven't seen men on men...but women on women can be too,,, thanks all in advance!!!!

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

Msg: 1 (view)

Headaches caused from weather Posted: 8/17/2009 6:54:51 PM
I rarely get headaches, but ever since I was younger have noticed that on days that are very hot and humid, and rainy, I get bad headaches. It took a while for me to realize that it was the weather causing them, since I never paid attention to the difference, until say I got 2 headaches in 1 week because it was very humid and raining on those days. Does anyone else get headaches in that type of weather? I've heard people say its a drop in the 'barometric pressure' but looking that up, I don't quite understand meteorology so it didn't seem to make sense. Someone please tell me how to keep these headaches under control if its possible. I don't like taking pills for headaches as they usually make me nauseas, so any way to conquer it by a certain food I'm open to..I just don't know where to start looking. Thank you all in advance!

mascot1

Joined: 5/3/2008

Msg: 4 (view)

The rejection dating letter Posted: 8/15/2009 6:08:14 PM
What is the Ultimate Rejection? When you're masteurbating and your hand/arm falls asleep

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