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skootchonover

Joined: 5/4/2008

Msg: 10 (view)

Date Night Posted: 6/13/2009 8:44:07 AM
Exactly how is adding yourself to this list going to get someone a date? Near as I can tell this is simply another reason to be sitting infront of your computer on a Friday night. I guess the real question for me is.. where does the so called "date" actually take place?

skootchonover

Joined: 5/4/2008

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Jeff Dunham Posted: 6/11/2009 11:17:32 AM
SILENCE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 I Kiiiiill You......................... Ackmed the Dead Terrorist is one of the funniest things I have seen in years.

skootchonover

Joined: 5/4/2008

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Are you saving points for the theme background? Posted: 6/11/2009 10:46:21 AM
I just realized you can do this with the points so I upgraged. Looks pretty cool!

SKOOTCHONOVER

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stripper poles are mainstream now? Posted: 6/10/2009 9:34:12 PM
Do all women constantly want to put the hurt on men or is it just the forum ones? [blame]You ARE presumptious aren't you?[/blame]

SKOOTCHONOVER

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stripper poles are mainstream now? Posted: 6/10/2009 8:01:10 PM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H0IpC47eTj0 I think everyone will enjoy that.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Where is the best fishing? Posted: 6/9/2009 10:31:15 PM
you want to jump right into picking china patterns China patterns!? I would settle for picking out K~ Y Yours and Mine Flavors. I could just be seeing the grass is greener thing. It doesn't explain how Vancouver is full of beautiful women with hundreds of men interested in them and they have been on POF for years, yet anyone realistic is outside my travel range. POF is a strange strange place.

skootchonover

Joined: 5/4/2008

Msg: 47 (view)

Are you a romantic?.. a hopeless romantic?... or just hopeless? Posted: 6/9/2009 4:36:30 PM
I used to be a hopeless romantic. But after years of putting myself out there romanticly I found that all it ever got me was an empty home and an empty bed. So I guess I qualify as just hopeless. or is that useless?

skootchonover

Joined: 5/4/2008

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Where is the best fishing? Posted: 6/9/2009 1:11:36 PM
Hay, I am not dissing anyone. Just that there is a lot more availablity outside the lower mainland. Now, if I had said all the hot chicks are on the island, that might be considered dissing but don't quote me on that...

skootchonover

Joined: 5/4/2008

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Where is the best fishing? Posted: 6/9/2009 12:16:23 PM
I'd like a dear friend but not in the forums. Maybe through dinner and drinks at my place and we could both delete our profiles together and get on with living and leave the internet addiction behind. Seriously, I'd be like quiting smoking together!!

skootchonover

Joined: 5/4/2008

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Where is the best fishing? Posted: 6/9/2009 11:51:04 AM
Having been on here a few times I have noticed there are a good deal more interesting matches outside the lower mainland than there are close by. I find the most interesting women living in Victoria, Nanaimo, the Fraser Valley or in the interior. Why is this? Are there just more available men in the lower mainland than outside the lower mainland? Is there a shortage of qualified guys on the island or in the interior? Personally, would like to stick closer to home but it seems there isn’t as much option available locally. Has anyone else noticed this?

SKOOTCHONOVER

Joined: 5/4/2008

Msg: 39 (view)

Your Song / Day of your Debut Posted: 6/8/2009 10:14:45 AM
If I leave here tomorrow Would you still remember me? For I must be travelling on, now, cause theres too many places Ive got to see. But, if I stayed here with you, girl, Things just couldnt be the same. cause Im as free as a bird now, And this bird you can not change. Lord knows, I cant change. free bird ~ lynyrd skynyrd

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Filipino guy askin'... Posted: 6/8/2009 9:43:11 AM
heh A good piece of advice for the op. Try something like this in your profile instead.... "If you like Pina Coladas, and getting caught in the rain. And the feel of the ocean, and the taste of champagne. If you like making love at midnight, in the dunes of the cape. You're the love that I've looked for, come with me, and escape."

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Capacity for Self-Love Posted: 6/5/2009 4:49:21 PM
But, but, but aren't we here because we're tired of self love?? Just asking.....

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Powerful woman..... Posted: 6/5/2009 3:23:33 PM
Is there truth to this? Absolutely. I am in a somewhat high end customer service industry. I find that powerful women are not only reasonable but they are understanding, intelligent and proactive. Most importantly powerful women are not governed by emotions. They don't blame, accuse, judge or otherwise engage in petty behavior.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Msg: 37 (view)

Filipino guy askin'... Posted: 6/5/2009 2:13:07 PM
It is sad and hard to believe that some people can be so bitter (maybe you are just joking?)...But I have to ask Skootch, if you are looking for a woman of a certain caliber, above the ones here, why are you here? The truth is I am a big old romantic softie with a really thick skin. Why am I hear..? Well I am not going to a pay site because that is just throwing money away. I suppose I am here because I am clinging to hope. Hope does spring eternal afterall. If there is any bitterness in me at all it can be removed with a little sweetness.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Msg: 33 (view)

Filipino guy askin'... Posted: 6/5/2009 12:26:51 PM
"There is no fool like an old fool." Nice double standard whore/madonna syndrome. sigh It's been my experience that there is no shortage of women who can't cease and desist with brow beating someone once they've started. It is a very rare and precious woman that holds herself above this kind of base immature behavior. Internet forum are always filled with people who want others to think they are an authority of some kind, aren't they? It's up to the individual to pick and choose what to accept as gospel.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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What lengths would you go to for a relationship? Posted: 6/4/2009 2:42:34 PM
EDIT: Isn't HE supposed to move the mountains and the Earth for me? If that is anything like jumping through hoops then there is gonna have to be some huge paybacks..... 'jus sayin' edit: or all of the below....

SKOOTCHONOVER

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What lengths would you go to for a relationship? Posted: 6/4/2009 1:54:32 PM
I have had relationship with women that live close to me. I have had long distance relationships as well. One when I was in my teens with a young lady in England and another a few years ago with someone in Saskatoon. I don't think I would do that again because both time it ended because of the distance between us and the fact that neither of us would relocate. How far would you go to make something work and what would you be prepared to leave behind for the right person?

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Filipino guy askin'... Posted: 6/4/2009 1:21:10 PM
I see SKOOTCHONOVER is making friends with the ladies on here again. LOL There is a huge difference between a realistic woman and an idealistic girl. For the record, I am not looking for a friend. I am looking for a permanent lover who will of course be my friend. I realized a long time ago that it is very unlikely I will find that here. Women with the qualities I covet probably wouldn’t be caught dead in a place like this. Any woman that says she wants “friends first” is simply setting the stage for control and a lifetime of jumping through her hoops. Third date rule applies, no exceptions. Make it worth my while because there won’t be any pandering from me. Being a sweet loveable guy is step one in becoming an abused door mat. In an effort to stay on topic, I do know that there is a huge Filipino community in Vancouver. You’ll get plenty of results if you Google it.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Filipino guy askin'... Posted: 6/4/2009 9:42:47 AM
Never let it be said that I did not warn the general POF public once upon a time...I believe I told you so is in order even. Now do you believe me? Are you still gonna let him in your tents? Misogynist.+Control Freak = Sociopath. I can smell them from ten miles away. This is name calling, backstabbing and alienation. I think I am entitled to an opinion without being publicly flogged. But thanks for making my point. Pro-filer: I am old, jaded and cynical. The OP hasn’t lived long enough or had enough experience with women to understand that there are no rose colored glasses or fairy tale endings. But getting out there in the world and meeting people with yeild far better results and window shopping on the internet. And Kitty, darlin'.. I have a child your age. I usually tell him to try and refrain from offering words of wisdom until he has actually earned some.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Filipino guy askin'... Posted: 6/4/2009 7:40:10 AM
Don't take advice from Scootch, he's just bitter. Probably has a lot to do with all the women I have had in my life thinking they have the qualifications, the right or even my permission to judge me at all. To the OP: If you really want the attention of women on the internet, just lie. Tell them you're an exiled Prince or something. Become a player. It's the only way to level the playing field.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Filipino guy askin'... Posted: 6/3/2009 3:40:09 PM
dude, you're 22. All woman are gold diggers. And if they tell you they aren't. They're liers.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Filipino guy askin'... Posted: 6/3/2009 3:27:41 PM
Heh, If I had a nickel for every guy that got no results from a dating site on the internet, I would retire, in the Philippines, as a wealthy man and be adored by young gold digging Pilipino girls looking for a rich husband.

SKOOTCHONOVER

Joined: 5/4/2008

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Online Community Dating or just friendship Posted: 5/30/2009 11:14:14 AM
I have found that most people who sign up on an internet dating service are more attached to the window shopping of the dating service than they will ever be to another person or relationship. Just look at some of the women on here and see how many favorites they have and how long they have been here. POF IS their entire social life. No one can compete with that. Also, the 80 / 20 rule applies. 20% of the men and women get 80% of the interest. Most members are totally A.D.D. IMHO. The reality is that most normal people can make a relationship work with just about anybody. But that isn't going to happen when someone is dating even more than one person or has more than one person to be interested in. Why? Because there is alway a bigger fish.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Msg: 45 (view)

humble pie Posted: 5/12/2009 8:51:44 PM
I used to eat humble pie once a month. I don't eat humble pie any more because it makes me nauseous.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Why are intimate encounters EVIL? Posted: 5/12/2009 12:23:36 PM
That is the acid test on any first date situation for both men and women. Regardless of what your motives are for being on here, when you meet somebody for the first time you are going to ask yourself if you would have sex with this person you've just met. If yes, there is a second date. If no then not. Why do so many people hide behind their hangups?

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Msg: 70 (view)

Foot Fetish? Posted: 5/7/2009 9:37:31 AM
Okay.... Hope that works out for ya buddy!

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Msg: 72 (view)

why do some guys ,who want kids ,refuse to date single moms? Posted: 5/6/2009 3:19:45 PM
And not stepping up and/or feeling resentment because those children were fathered by another man isn't going to work either. I have to say that my ex-wife's fella has done a good job of stepping up and being a wonderful step father. He has three grown children of his own also.

SKOOTCHONOVER

Joined: 5/4/2008

Msg: 68 (view)

why do some guys ,who want kids ,refuse to date single moms? Posted: 5/6/2009 2:41:48 PM
Right. As parents we are responsible for providing children with structure. When a new man comes into a reconsituted family he needs to become part of that structure. Placing him at the bottom end of the priority list because your children were fathered by another man is wrong, wrong, wrong.

SKOOTCHONOVER

Joined: 5/4/2008

Msg: 66 (view)

why do some guys ,who want kids ,refuse to date single moms? Posted: 5/6/2009 2:09:09 PM
If your marriage doesn't come first then it is far more likely to fail. I say again, children are the product of a relationship, not the end all be all of that relationship. I mean, what are you people who put children as the most important aspect of your life going to do when they have grow up and left?

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Msg: 54 (view)

Profile Phrases or Key Words That Make You Cautious Posted: 5/5/2009 1:53:35 PM
Looking for someone to bring my smile back! I actively engage in public protests! Any reference made to men being neanderthals!

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Msg: 33 (view)

why do some guys ,who want kids ,refuse to date single moms? Posted: 5/4/2009 4:43:47 PM
I totally disagree with you. It's the KIDS having the most difficult time. IMHO Children are far more resilient than most people give them credit for. Putting the children in the middle of a break up can certainly cause trauma for the kids. But kids aren't the ones jumping off the Patello and Alex Fraser bridge because they've lost their family, home and have been left alone and destitute. Children are far more adaptable. Adults become set in their ways thus have a more difficult time accepting change.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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why do some guys ,who want kids ,refuse to date single moms? Posted: 5/4/2009 12:22:25 PM
1. Who are you to judge anyone else's circumstances I am not judging anyone. I am simply stating a fact. 2. No kids don't always have to come first there is a time and a place I am always amazed at how people think 100 years of social change can undo two million years of human genetic and social evolution. A family consists of a Father, who is the head of the family and the final and last authority, a Mother, the nurturer, keeper of the children and the children who are a product of that unit. In that equation, children come third. Even in the 1950's the mantra was: "The man is the king of his castle." You can't even say that now without being called sexist. 3. Nothing in this day and age is so cut and dry Absolutely true. Sadly the one's having the most difficult time adapting to the social change of the last 100 odd years is the men.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Msg: 222 (view)

What Do Women Want? Posted: 5/4/2009 10:30:53 AM
Ok..... Did you know that women don't dress up and wear makeup in order to attract a mate or to impress men? They do it to compete with other women. It's a beauty contest.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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why do some guys ,who want kids ,refuse to date single moms? Posted: 5/4/2009 10:22:38 AM
The answer to this one is simple. 1. They do not wish to become responsible for somebody else's mistake, putting it bluntly. 2. Her children will always come first. For a relationship to work properly, the relationship has to come first. The children are a part of the relationship not the other way around. 3. The biological imperative is to spread their own seed, not to cultivate somebody else's.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Msg: 220 (view)

What Do Women Want? Posted: 5/4/2009 9:52:57 AM
This question has long been asked since ages past. Many a study has been performed in order to determine exactly what women want. There was a study where 100 women were given 100 profiles of men to review. Bare in mind all these profiles were bogus and created strictly for this controlled test. They were shown profiles with good looking men that had a moderate income while other not so good looking men had huge incomes. All of the men with huge incomes scored very well but the ones that appeared to be intelligent with large incomes scored the best, regardless of looks. The study showed that, above all, women are seeking security. Financial and emotional security combined. So to summarize, women want the same thing as men. Peace of mind!

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Specific and confusing flirting situation Posted: 5/2/2009 7:26:41 AM
I never asked her to be exclusive or anything like that. I just said at the end of our date the thing I was too chicken to say before-hand and probably should have -- I made my intentions clear so she didn't think I just wanted to be buds. But yeah I probably could have left it declarative instead of pushing the issue further and asking her what she was looking for. She would have volunteered that info if it was a yes. But hindsight is 20-20, and I was nervous as hell. Two words: Quality control. Now that you have declared yourself and gotten your answer, go look for someone who will be interested in you. Don't email her, don't phone, don't arange to hang out. Don't ignore her if she contacts you though. The ball in now in her court, afterall. OP, you can start out on different pages, but if you're patient, you could end up on the same page. Most of my long-term relationships started out with both of us being "on different pages" where one wanted a relationship & the other wanted just friendship, but given time the romance kicked in; one 'friendship' even turned into a 15 year marriage. Conversely, one can also spend fifteen years trying to put a square peg in a round hole. Again two words: Quality control.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Specific and confusing flirting situation Posted: 5/1/2009 3:12:50 PM
No, it isn't difficult to understand at all. If they can be lifelong friends, more power to them, but in the real world a young woman is more likely to focus her energy on someone she does have a romantic interest in. Personally, I go for walks and to dinner with another lady I have known since my teen years. She is happily married. But we talk; we don't flirt and make googley eyes at each other. And for the record, I don't have problems getting dates. I just can't seem to find a woman who isn't argumentative, that is emotionally secure, strong willed, determined and generally has her sh1t together.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Specific and confusing flirting situation Posted: 5/1/2009 2:19:56 PM
Kitty, the op IS interested in this young woman. I will probably take some heat for this comment: I do not advocate any man playing the game where he gets strung along for weeks, months, years until a woman desides he is worthy. If the feeling isn't mutual, move on. His alternative is to follow her around like a little lost puppy begging for approval. It takes two to tango, so to speak, right?

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Specific and confusing flirting situation Posted: 5/1/2009 12:07:19 PM
You know, if she is going for evening walks with a single young man and doesn't see a romantic interest coming she is probably very naive. Having been 24 and interested in a woman that didn't have any interest in me, I have been in the same situation. So on the plus side, at least now you know and learned the value of cutting to the chase. Life is far to short to beat around the bush with someone who clearly doesn't want to step up! Well done.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Msg: 302 (view)

What are your fave movie quotes? Posted: 4/30/2009 9:42:47 PM
The truth? You can't handle the truth!

SKOOTCHONOVER

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What do you find beautiful? Posted: 4/30/2009 8:04:39 PM
Fluffy pink bunnies, don't forget fluffy pink bunnies and teddy bears.....

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Specific and confusing flirting situation Posted: 4/29/2009 8:46:58 PM
NO NO NO NO NO! Put her on the spot. Don't play the manipulation head games. P.ussy footing will lead you into a dysfunctional relationship and turn you into a (bigger) wuss.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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What’s the best piece of advice you ever received? Posted: 4/29/2009 3:17:17 PM
Don't sweat the small stuff... and it's all small stuff.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Specific and confusing flirting situation Posted: 4/29/2009 1:26:44 PM
Make a pass. C'mon you can do it! How that is received will answer your questions and alleviate any doubts you may have. Cut to the chase as it were...

SKOOTCHONOVER

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MOSQUITO CREEK, DANCE, FRIDAY MAY 1 Posted: 4/28/2009 11:04:12 PM
Only if you are going to put out!

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Can't Take the Heat...Get Out of Da Kitchen Then.... Posted: 4/27/2009 10:33:22 AM
To the op.. being so bold as to speak your mind is fine so long as you don't give everyone else a headache! Personlly, I enjoy a good message board rant, if only to make myself laugh. When someone starts to take things too seriously is usually when the trouble starts.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Why are intimate encounters EVIL? Posted: 4/26/2009 4:34:05 PM
A shrew?!? Shrews are nuts in bed but their so much damn work!

SKOOTCHONOVER

Joined: 5/4/2008

Msg: 30 (view)

Why are intimate encounters EVIL? Posted: 4/26/2009 2:18:06 PM
I am gobbsmacked after reading some of these responses. First of all the OP is correct! Dating, friendships and all the other options are just a persons way of hiding the true intentions. Sex. None of us would be here if we didn't wish to swap fluids with another. Secondly, don't kid yourself about the intimate encounters section. 99.99% of all the people in that section never actually get an intimate encounter any more than 99.99% of the people in the dating section actually get a date. Just log in any Saturday night and you'll see the same bunch of people who are there all day, every day. Everyone here is window shopping, hiding behind the safety of their computer screen and fantasizing about what could be.

SKOOTCHONOVER

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Msg: 87 (view)

A question for the ladies Posted: 4/26/2009 12:45:16 PM
"My wife and I have been together for 25 years" This was the first thing you wrote. I am not even going to read the rest of this thread. Question: Why is a married person on a dating site? Quit cheating on your wife and off of POF.

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