I don't worry about opening my heart, if someone moves me to love them, then I will, I can't carry around a bunch of heavy baggage from some guy who was wrong for me. Lots of things have happened to me that I didn't much care for but I won't be dragging them around, weighing me down. Somebody(s) broke my heart, doesn't mean the next man will and I certainly had a part in what went wrong with the 'before' relationships. I'm not the sum total of things that have happened to me, I'm who I choose to be despite what someone else might have thought of me / I'm not a reaction, I'm a person, I'm in control of what I haul around emotionally.

A woman being divorced, but not returning to her maiden name... In my view, except possibly in the case that someone is widowed, it just reeks of irresponsibility for a woman to enter a serious new relationship while still having another man's name. Whether or not children came of the marriage is irrelvant because you're still your own woman and if your heart is free and clear for something new, then your name should reflect the same... imho.

ok there was an error in communication, she only flashed my old roomate one of her tits because he asks everyone to flash him and is a pervert and stuff, (I was there, she gave a big agitated sigh and was like "there, see?" kinda thing. I just assumed from this incident she was doing it more and after that she always talked about flashing and this and that and on her birthday during some jump to and from parties, but it turns out she meant she was flashing cars on the road, not at any parties, which she frequently does and so do many other guys and girls i know (flash traffic).

in turn she ends up saying she has too much respect for herself to flash at parties.

big error in communication. I am def. on the camp that flashing cars passing buy or truck drivers is a lot more fine than flashing at a party where people can talk about you and stuff.

You owed it to the poor guy sitting in front of him. Otherwise the innocent guy would have joined Abraham Lincoln as another person shot in the back of the head in a theater.

oh and the kiss? lol its freaking hilarious. if someones cares they can ask in person or in a message, if you're turned off by it again your probably not my type :D

i AM NOT but CAN BE (lol) a little bit of a nerd if let to my own devices. im an ex-wow junkie (haha if you know what that is) and i lllllllove a few star trek series'. freaking flying through space with Klingons and the Borg and *makes wild hand jestures* YEAH!! its great.

should not be looking to question or challenge your partner's definitions, but to understand them.

Your idea of "serious" may be something that he feels is "controlling" or fears could be "controlling" based on his own personal past experiences with other women.

I'm the guy that can find anything on the internet. You'd be amazed what kind of information is revealed with a properly worded Google search.

On target??? I think the problem OP, is a very simple question compounded by 4 or 5 paragraphs of pure drivel.

Four months of being exclusive, weekends away, meeting the parents etc. Those are not the actions of two people having a fling or just hanging out. You were a 'couple' by every definition of the word.

Is there a 12 step program for people who can't handle not controlling the way others answer a post? I seriously think there should be, but it does give one insight into someone's character and what the SO might be dealing with.

To me the serious bit meant we weren't planning on playing house or making any long-term plans, but in my mind it wasn't exclusive of the closeness, affection and devotion that we both exhibited to each other.