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jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 22 (view)

Hes my fallback guy but I want something new. Posted: 11/19/2009 10:30:56 AM
I see. Ah, to be young and self centered... Listen cupcake, a "major problem" as you put it, means you're in the Mid East fighting a war or you've lost your job and can't make the mortgage. A "major problem" does not involve you being a selfish btch and stringing along a poor dude who is nice and caring to you thinking you're doing the same for him. You actually admit to having a "fall back guy"??? How fcking low and selfish can one get? I think if a guy on here was talking of his "fallback women" he would have to leave POF because of all the nasty responses saying he was a dog or a player with nothing but his interest in mind. WELL PEOPLE... have at HER.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 23 (view)

What should I do about this....? Posted: 11/19/2009 10:18:07 AM
Think about it lady... You care for him, him mom dies... what's the right thing to do? I tell you what, if he takes it wrong then F HIM!!!! You did a loving thing... a supporting thing. If he sees you as intrusive or a stalker then, well, he's not for you. Better to find this out sooner than later. You can choose to NOT go, then he can see you as an uncaring b*tch. You make the choice. At least with going, you can feel you did the right thing and let the chips fall. By not going, you are relinquishing any control over the situation at all. I find this so odd that the OP is wondering how going to a funeral can "mess things up". WTF? Kids today.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 16 (view)

sexual issues with single mother of 15 year old Posted: 11/19/2009 5:06:23 AM
Give the kid $20 to go get some ice cream for 15 minutes. That should do the trick. Work your magic and then boom! Some people have zero sense of humor or are just plain dim. Perhaps the "15 minutes" part WAS a joke making fun of his prowess??? Chelllooooo. I require common sense and some semblance of humor in your resume to read/appreciate my posts. The rest can read the comics in your local paper. I'm sure somebody will explain it to you. Never heard of the term c*ck block? Google it, genius. Chimps.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 15 (view)

Is there any recourse??? Posted: 11/18/2009 11:13:30 AM
All you can do is hope other women have the same common sense as you. I would say that it's a lost cause because you cannot forewarn everybody about what they MIGHT do. It's also supply and demand. If the supply of gullible/easy women dries up, so will the demand. It all starts with you women.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 42 (view)

whats the most orgasms you've had in one day? Posted: 11/18/2009 10:55:23 AM
my mission is to drain your ass, where you will never think of another man. Dude... you better up your game a bit if you're goal is to make all other men jealous and women bow at your orgasm alter. I made my ex cum 10+ times from playing with her nipples alone... before ever touching below her waist. 6 ain't going to put you into the hall-of-fame dude. Nice try. I've read a lot of forums and there will be instances where chicks tally 20+. 6 is laughable. go back to sex ed class amateur boy. Run along laddy.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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sexual issues with single mother of 15 year old Posted: 11/18/2009 10:50:56 AM
Give the kid $20 to go get some ice cream for 15 minutes. That should do the trick. Work your magic and then boom! You can be on the couch with remote in hand licking ice cream with your live-in c*ck-block. Isn't boys town still in operation? Send the young man there. YMCA perhaps? The song seems to paint quite a picture for a young guy.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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Am I born without the ability to attract women? (Long rant warning) Posted: 11/18/2009 6:18:18 AM
Listen dude... you're not... you're... umm.... you're not good looking, nor are you tall. God dealt you a bad hand my friend. I think the "not tall" part may be hurting you more than your look actually. Fine. Can't do a damn thing about the look part. The only shot you have is to have a killer sense of humor and personality. I find if you live your life and exude confidence like you can't believe the hottest chicks aren't with you, you'll have a shot with some that you didn't have a shot with before. Chicks like confident men... that is a universal truth. I see uglier guys with women and I shake my head "why"? It's because they BELIEVE that they should have a hot woman and that comes across in their aura. Their attitude. As far as your look. Hit the gym. Hit it hard. Do something cutting edge with your look. Be confident and you'll have a chance with women where it didn't exist before. Unfortunately, your pool of women should be short ones. Women will simply not date men who are shorter than them 90% of the time. Good luck.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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Slept with 83 people Posted: 11/18/2009 4:50:37 AM
This is such a long thread I confess I havent read the entirety. But for heaven's sake, maybe the girl just has a healthy appetite for sex. Doesn't mean she would be unfaithful to him. Doesn't mean she's a slut, or has no self-control. WHAT?? Then what qualifies a girl as a slut then? G-Zuz, this broad is easy, has no self control or self esteem... she obviously has issues mentally... in short, she is the very definition of a slut. If you think EVERY time she opened her legs was protected, you're insane. The fact that she counts the men who bang her is troubling.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 55 (view)

Silent Sex Posted: 11/17/2009 12:23:08 PM
Don't know/care about guys and noises... all I will say is women who do not make significant noise will NEVER be categorized as a "great lay" or "good in bed"... no matter what else she brings to the bed. That's just part of the fun aspect of it. If you lay there, you are a dead fish... period. My ex used to just moan at the point of orgasm... and not that boisterously. 2-3-4-5 orgasms, didn't matter... same thing. That's just not fun.... in fact, it's boring. I used to ponder stuff while going down on her like politics, the weather just to kill time. I mean, take a psych class for god sake. POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT. Chicks: No noise, you're no fun. Guys can make a little noise... enjoy it... let her know you're into it... but you by no means should scream and pull a "Sally moment" from When Harry met Sally. That's feminine.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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single mom's pressured into lesbian sex Posted: 11/16/2009 7:07:01 AM
I just got back from asking every single mom on the entire planet this question. They think you are retarded for asking, as am I. Who cares? I mean, are you serious? It's hard enough to get women to cook a meal now-a-days let alone carpet munch. I would think if there were some strange phenomenon happening where single mom's were nagged into lesbian sex on a epidemic level, I would have heard about it.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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WHAT IN THE WORLD IS THIS ABOUT? Posted: 11/13/2009 4:52:59 AM
So what? You're F*ck buddies. If you were in fact "dating", I would tell you it isn't going to work... but you aren't. I assume you don't see each other a lot due to distance, so just have sex and then go your separate ways. Just from your post alone, I can tell you like him more than he likes you. This is a trend in FWB relations. You're headed for trouble.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 115 (view)

Of Fakes and Flakes... Posted: 11/12/2009 4:55:54 AM
This is an interesting situation to me... I have it figured out. A. The men you're interested in are not into how you look. Period. With men, looks come first, everything else (including personality and commonalities) come second. B. Men who are interested in you are not attractive to you. Now, you're left with nothing. What do you do? As you cannot change other people's standards, you can: A. Work on your looks to better meet their standards. If you are totally into how you look and feel about yourself (great)... don't do anything. If you can lose weight, work on hair and a better profile... do it. B. Lower your standards and try dating men that you typically wouldn't and see if you have something that you didn't think existed upon first glance. C. Get 3-4 cats. Repeat every 10 years.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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Could use a bit of advice. Posted: 11/11/2009 4:18:33 AM
He tried to see if your appeal would go up with a cuddle... it didn't. Same "eh" feeling that existed pre-cuddle still existed post-cuddle. So what? Move on. He said he's not interested in more than friendship. Women complain that guys B.S. them, then when they come right out and state something, you think "ah, he'll come around". Wrong. He's not into you like that. He gave it a go, and he's not attracted to you.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 12 (view)

Do i move on and settle for 2nd best? Posted: 11/11/2009 4:10:34 AM
What??? What are you talking about?? Here's the $1,000,000 question. Did you have SEX with this military guy? Answer... MOST LIKELY. His response: SEE YA, thanks for the pu$$y! When a guy wants a woman, nothing or nobody stands in his way. No confusion, no fear, no "time for myself" crap.... he'll go after you. If no call comes from him in 2 weeks, guess what??? He was not nearly as into you as you were into him. Don't sleep with a guy too soon.... ever. Also, do not lie and say you didn't sleep with him because you want to save face. I've seen enough posts on here to know you did.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 162 (view)

41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this! Posted: 11/10/2009 12:43:53 PM
To all of you saying it's just about sex, I beg to differ. I'm 41 dating a 25 yo.. and we've been together for almost 2 yrs. So it isn't always just about sex. Ok, ok... fine... ONE exception. There are reasons other than sexual... and in his case, I'm sure his options are limited shall we say. Sorry... but I'm sure it's true.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 21 (view)

Should I just wait and see what happens? Posted: 11/5/2009 12:07:33 PM
yes we are friends with benefits. Doh! I was afraid of that. Thing about men: If they REALLY want you... nothing or nobody stands in their way. There is not "I'm confused" or "I don't want to be hurt" or "I want to take things very very slow". A guy will pounce for no other reason than to KEEP OTHERS AWAY from who they want. Is this happening to you? NOPE. Why? Because he's getting laid and without any hassle. No commitment.... nobody telling his what to do, where to go... what to wear. FREEDOM and PU$$Y!!! Glory Halleluiah!! Women see FWB as a way to show a guy how much they are giving in bed and they see it as a way to coerce the guy into a relationship. Women's feelings grow with $ex. Men look at it as FREE a$$!! No feelings AND freedom to look for an upgrade while getting his knob polished. What could be finer? Learn this fact. Every woman on here in an FWB situation says the same thing. It never ends well for them. And he has other girls who he has had benefits with and could go back to so why would he tell me not to look around? Uh huh. Feel like a number now? Feel better? You should feel like a walking pu$$y because despite his obvious charm and lucky horseshoe up his a$$, he's got just the right moves and rap to keep the broads hanging on his every word. I'd salute him if he weren't a pig. Lesson #2: guys will say just the best, most believable/charming/dreamy things to get a woman naked... and not just once, many times. The day you'll know what a line is and what is total B.S. will be a good day for you and your heart/vagina.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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guy just wants to be friends for now... Posted: 11/5/2009 11:49:26 AM
So young... so naive. I want to tell you... it was soooo sporting of God to give this guy the all-systems-go-thumbs-up sex dispensation so he could take advantage of you and get laid a few times guilt free. But... being the pious young man of faith (and after he got his fill and needed an excuse to launch you) he suddenly was overcome with religious fervor and guilt for the terrible out-of-wedlock sex and had to let you in on the news. PA-LEEEEEEZE. Do you fall for it? Looks like you have. Well, you're young. WHAT REALLY HAPPENED: He wanted to have sex with you.... which he did... relationship free, guilt free. Then he got tired of you and wants to be free to roam and look for more tail without making you feel bad or have you hanging around him patiently waiting for him to announce your togetherness. Doubt me? Just wait, suddenly he'll change his mind when a girl he likes more comes along. He'll either bang her or date her AND bang her. Suddenly, he WAS REALLY ready for a relationship with a girl he thought was hotter. Note for future: With guys, there is no real mystery. They are not "confused", or "afraid to get hurt" or "taking it really, really slow"... when a guy likes a girl, he'll pounce. Nothing or nobody will stand in his way, sometimes to his detriment (or the ridicule from his buddies). If a guy doesn't do this in your case, he is only into you for a$$ or to pass the time. Bank on it. You're welcome.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 153 (view)

strap ons 101 Posted: 11/5/2009 6:25:17 AM
If you pulled that stuff on me... I don't know whether I'd laugh or turn the tables right then and there and show you who should ALWAYS be boss. Any guy that likes to be dominated should go into his wallet and turn in his man card. Plain and simple. Guys are in charge in bed. Done deal. We are the ones with the tool and we're there to go to work. WE do the fu*king, not the other way around. If the guy takes it up the moon, then he may as well scream "oh... oh... do me big Sally.... right there.... ooh oooh". Fruitcake. My opinion.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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Reeling in and headed for shore :\ Posted: 11/5/2009 6:18:50 AM
singing* I can feel it coming in the air tonight...hold on... Isn't it "Oh Lord" not "hold on"? Come on now... you're better than that. And the drum part is clearly "Da Doo- Da Doo- Da Doo Dadoo doom dooomp." also.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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Astounded by the amt of perverts on here... Posted: 11/5/2009 6:11:20 AM
Complain much? Can we collectively block you? Who cares what a hard time you're having. Suck it up and move on.... or go watch Oprah. You know you can't live without men, babe. You'd be stuck munching carpet all day (if you switch teams) or feeding your 8 cats because you've become a bitter cat lady. Pick yourself up... go log off of POF for 6 months and come back later. Perhaps most of the guys will have turned over by then. Until then , have a sense of humor about it and stop thinking you simply HAVE to meet Prince Charming on here. Men don't think Angelina Jolie is lurking within these pages either... I assure you.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 42 (view)

Our 15 year long relationship ends and he meets someone on here and starts a family in 9 MONTHS! Posted: 11/5/2009 5:56:23 AM
What do I make of it??? He likes her better. End of story. Just because one puts more time into a relationship, a football team... a jig saw puzzle... does not entitle them to anything. Relationships are a living/breathing thing that needs work and nurturing. My guess is that you were ok... a safe choice... but she blew his doors off. If he's happy, let him be. You go make you happy.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 156 (view)

41 and 23??? I'm not ready for this! Posted: 11/4/2009 11:17:56 AM
Relax lady... It's by no means a relationship thing. Come on now... figure it out. Why oh WHY would a young man want to contact a WAYYY older woman. Starts with an S, ends with an EX. They are hoping you'll be flattered to be hit on by a young dude, desperate, easy, willing and experienced. any combo of those will work. Then, when golfing with their buddies 3 months later, he can then say "yeah, I banged a 40 year old chick once... you should have seen her a$$.... ewwwwww". It has nothing at all to do with dating. It's sport to them... a novelty... something to chat with guys about.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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my girlfreind left me for a for lesbien Posted: 11/4/2009 5:59:01 AM
Well, Buddy... If your woman has to leave you, another woman (especially a Butch lesbo) is at the top of the list. At the bottom of the list is a buff guy way hotter than you with a 12" penis. No biggie. Let her much the carpet... move on.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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Why would a guy lead you on for years Posted: 11/4/2009 5:03:15 AM
So what? Did he sign a contract? The man changed his mind... as if women don't do that 10 times a day?? Since when does dating somebody automatically mean an obligation to marry? Listen, are you telling me you did everything in your power to keep him happy? He found sombody he liked better with better long term prospects. It could be she looks better naked, she lets him golf more, she loves to give hummers, she cooks one helluva meatloaf.... whatever. She won... but let me let you in on a secret... he wasn't that great.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 68 (view)

He's just not that interested Posted: 11/3/2009 11:16:00 AM
Week ago I engage in a conversation with a guy who contacted me via POF. After a couple hours, he agree that he would come over and we would watch a movie. ALl goes well, he ends up staying the night, and leaves in the morning. No big deal. I like him, he likes me, asks me to call. So let me get this straight... you invited a perfect stranger into your house... and he stays the night. He MAY have fuked you, may not have... doesn't matter. ARE you INSANE or desperate or both?? Would you think this was a wise thing to do? Would you advise say... your best friend or daughter against doing just that? I would hope you would. You took your safety and risked it. He could have robbed you, raped you or killed you. Sounds to me like he banged you on "date" #1 and simply has zero respect for you... which is how he's treating you now. He either fuked you or did a lot of other stuff. Be truthful. You don't know this guy from Adam. Why do this to yourself? Why not date... you know a REAL date where you go out in public and get to know somebody over time? Then, the chances of him doing this to you is greatly diminished.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 47 (view)

Why do men have to see you before trying to get to know you? Posted: 11/3/2009 10:12:18 AM
Only "marginally ugly / ooooogly people" ask questions like these. Because, sweetie... some of the best people with the most developed personalities and unique senses of humor are not attractive and cannot find a mate. I have a buddy who's got to be surpassing 400+ spins on the Toledo, and he's the a lot of fun and really witty. Do you think the women beat a path to his door? Nope. He knows why, and society knows why. The laws of supply and demand apply here too. Fat is not attractive to many people. Fat is not healthy. FAT IS CURABLE, however. He'll realize this and work at it. UGLY has NO CURE! If you are unattractive, you're (by definition) hard to look at. Why date a sweet-hearted gal if she's hard to look at? It's not fair. We all would like to look like Brad and Angelina. We didn't choose our parents. It's life. People NEED attraction on the outside to get a foot in the door. The rest is icing on the cake. I USED to think that taking the time to get to know somebody for weeks was best for online dating. I since learned the opposite is more efficient. Trade a few e-mails... get an overall feel for a person.... then meet for drinks ASAP. Why waste time on the fairy tale world of online personas and get to where the rubber meets the road: FACE TIME.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 105 (view)

Jesus is stealing my girlfriends! Posted: 11/3/2009 9:58:24 AM
I'll put it like this: When we'd bith and moan about having to get dressed up early on Sundays to go to church, my mom would heap on Catholic guilt saying "Jesus gave up his life for you, you can't give him an hour"? Then after feeling an imaginary bearded man staring at me shaking his head in disgust, I'd go if only to be the cool person to put the money in the pass around thing. So, in this spirit... I say unto you "Jesus gave his life for you, you can't let the man break off a piece of your girlfriend"? You selfish batard! Editorial: I think ultra religious people are hypocritical at best and insane at worst. Some of man's greatest atrocities in this life are due to religion. I think organized religion is too often a poor excuse for independent thought, and I have no room for it in my life.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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Is there a difference? Posted: 11/3/2009 8:47:49 AM
A month and a 1/2??? As if that is a long time?? Women SHOULD wait a bit (3 months....4 ) to ASSURE the guy is not into you for a$$ only. Good LORD woman. You will be taken advantage of WAY more than not in this life. You really think that is a long time? How many dates do you have in a month??? 4...5?? You are going to be treated like trash or a sperm receptacle if you think 1.5 months is an eternity.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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Reeling in and headed for shore :\ Posted: 11/2/2009 12:30:27 PM
Dude, I'm no fruitcake... but I do like to think I understand psychology and women in general. Your picture on your profile at best makes you look like a bad Phil Collins video from 1985, or at worst makes you look like a serial killer. I know it's the "only one you've got" and "smiling is overrated"... but come the F on, Bud!! Chicks don't want to snuggle up to a sour puss. Get more pictures... of you smiling and in sunshine. The brooding "movie director" look is not a real girl grabber! They want to feel like you're fun and funny not withdrawn and murderous.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 12 (view)

What's wrong with me? Posted: 11/2/2009 12:26:19 PM
With guys, it's never that complicated. 1. You infringed upon his freedom in a way he wasn't happy with. 2. You offered no challenge to him intellectually or opposed any of his views. 3. Another woman caught his eye, whether he has her now or is pursuing. 4. Sex was infrequent or pedestrian for his long term liking. 5. To sum up, your future prospects did not match his... see 1-4.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 42 (view)

I didn't expect this at all Posted: 11/2/2009 10:19:32 AM
Dude... Dude, dude. Man. I gave you solid advice in this thread before. SOLID. What did you do with that advice?? FLUSHED IT. You are now in stalkerville. Let her go. She's not into you man. Let her go. In 2 years, after intense therapy, she'll be a blip on your radar. Ha. Do you honestly think she's worth this torture? There are women far greater for you to stalk down the line.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 64 (view)

Does the number of people a person has had sex with matter? Posted: 11/2/2009 8:48:47 AM
Uh yeah. At the very least she's exudes whore-ish behavior. I believe she has mental issues to boot. BANK ON IT. 21 partners at the age of 45 is different... still high, but different. @ 19 means she was probably sexually abused as a child (see bad Uncle or neighbor) and this is the result. I would steer clear, especially if she does not seem too shy about sharing this info with you. That tells me she doesn't feel it's wrong or indicative of low-self esteem or a problem. I've had girlfriends/friends who have been abused sexually and their esteem is such that it's a never ending cycle throughout their lives. They equate sex with love and they did it often and early. They will be in a constant state of depression and will be taken advantage of over and over because they date men who show 1 ounce of affection regardless of their future potential/education/personality/respect for women. They also NEVER go without a boyfriend.... ever. One after another. It's a bad scene.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 78 (view)

Disgusted yet Not Flattered Posted: 11/2/2009 8:37:02 AM
(I am NOT showing my boobs out just for a compliment. I know they are great but damn so disrespectful from guys that I dont want) Uh huh. Sweetie, you just showed us your a$$. OK, so guys you DO deem worthy of you (i.e. guys you "want"), it's then OK for them to comment on your tit$... THEN suddenly it's respectful??? Are you kidding me? Ugly guys have no business saying word 1 to you in other words. The hotter the guy, the more piggish he can be because.... HEY, he's hot and so am I. Am I right? Are you kidding me? Listen honey.... you're not that good looking. Relax. I think the men of planet Earth can survive beautifully if we didn't have to deal with you in a turtleneck or out of one. Whoever told you you have a nice rack was merely playing on your intellect to see them. I'd LOVE to see an IQ test result from you too. Don't think for 1 second that we can't find 12,000,000 other women on POF have nicer fun-bags than yours. What you're revealing in your pics PALES in comparison to what I've looked at on 65% of the ladies profiles. Go ahead and cancel your call into the tit$ hall-of-fame.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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Confused & upset - Why do men do this? Posted: 11/2/2009 8:23:50 AM
I hear you... but the answer is simple. 1. Just because a date meant something to you does not mean it meant anything to him. In other words, a guy can seem to be attentive, and have a good time on a date... but he's doing that just to be cordial and make the best of a situation. Don't make the common mistake of thinking the guy feels like you do. A "good date" can merely mean a pleasant time with somebody you don't dislike. 2. Guys on dating sites go after more than 1 woman... often times 3-4-5. You are in his hierarchy of women. Where you fall has a lot to do with your looks, and annoyance/high-maintenance ratio. Don't forget to include your willingness to put out too. If you have a nice date, but other women are "better".... you drop lower in the hierarchy. You may eventually fall below the "I don't give a $hit" line... and he'll blow you off altogether. He MAY revisit your status down the line if/when his other prospects die out... that's when they make their grand reappearance and attempt to pick up where they left off, hoping you didn't notice or have low self esteem enough to give hem another shot. Sound like possibilities??

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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what do you do if you male date starts crying in bed Posted: 10/28/2009 4:36:25 AM
Oh God... You both are not in the running for the "I picked a winner" award. Maybe his blindfold fell off. That would start me crying in his situation. Sorry, that was my first impression of the situation.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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How to end a FWB relationship that is soooo good Posted: 10/27/2009 11:42:34 AM
Here's how you end it: You: I think I'm falling for you. I know I said we're just friends, but I don't think I can go on being around you unless it's as your girlfriend. You know, all along I was not really into this FWB situation... I was using it as a means to get you to like me and eventually want to date me. Please tell me you've developed feelings for me above and beyond some chick you f*cked until you found somebody you wanted to date. I just have to ask for a committed relationship even after sleeping with you now for almost a half a year. I can't go on with this otherwise. Him: Ok, bye. Lesson: FWB for a woman means she's looking for more eventually. We all know women can't have sex without feelings for very long. Guys just like to bang easy women while looking for somebody they respect and want to date. Lesson #2: Women who engage in FWB have low self esteem 9/10.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 56 (view)

Brown eyed Men? Posted: 10/27/2009 10:20:08 AM
What's her feelings on dudes born in February? How about Jews? What about men who play fiddle? Your friend is a goof ball. she probably believes in astrology WAY too much too right? I'll bet she does. By the way, you're goofy too.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 187 (view)

Why do guys love porn so much??? Posted: 10/27/2009 5:14:08 AM
This is so easy... Because it's like cheating without actually cheating. Why? Because we are not wired to be stuck banging the same women over and over and over and over and over again. It's boring after a while no matter what level of "spice" you bring. So what to do? A guy can cheat on you or look at porn to TRY and satisfy the need to see other women naked. Which would you prefer?

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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Turned off then turned on again?? Posted: 10/27/2009 4:38:39 AM
Here we gooooo agaiiiinnnn. You slept with him on date 3??? And you want a long term relationship? You barely knew him, and were uncomfortable, yet you did it anyway? He is banging you, and banging other broads too. He has you right where he wants you.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 21 (view)

How do you tell your lover they`re too loud in bed? Posted: 10/26/2009 8:06:45 AM
Bring in a dude to stick his pin in her mouth as you work on the lower portion. You clam her up and you make a life-long friend in the process. Just kidding. Tell her to lower her voice or scream into a pillow. You have no other choice but to move to her place or drop her completely.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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Does this make you straight or gay? Posted: 10/26/2009 7:54:45 AM
If you desire anything sexually with a guy, and you are a guy.... guess what? You're GAY. No "bi"... no "experimenting". If you want to experiment, mix diet coke with pop rocks. Don't throw your junk into a dude's mouth. I know men love BJs, but I'd rather jerk off to porn before I thought it would be good sport to ask a guy to blow me. How sickening.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 38 (view)

How Can I Tell if it's a Line? Posted: 10/20/2009 12:18:13 PM
All I can suggest is get good at psychology in your e-mail "pre-screening" process... sharpen that skill until you can tell who's worth your time moving forward (on the phone... then in person) or not. To improve your chances means hanging out with a better class of people. It's not without exceptions... but hang with educated people with goals other than getting into every girls' panties.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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How do i get guys to see me as more than sexual? Posted: 10/20/2009 10:43:18 AM
Well, good for you for not giving in. If you did give in, they'd disappear too, but then they'd have gotten some a$$ to boot. You're making the wise choice holding out for something more. Now... onto your problem. Date uglier men. Those men will have less options, and will be appreciative with what they have... will do nothing to wreck what they have with you or put the relationship in jeopardy... and they'll treat you like gold. They will also be more giving in bed when the time comes. Trust me. The better looking the men, the more dim witted they'll be, and the less they truly cherish women they have. Think about it... "players" are usually good looking (and they know it) and they use women because they have many options. Look for marginally cute guys.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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How do you tell when a guy is really interested in you? Posted: 10/19/2009 12:38:04 PM
Withhold sex for months... while going on many dates. If he stays the course and you guys both have fun and learn about each other without exchanging fluids (kissing ok)... then he's passed the test. Or you can do like 3/4 of the women complaining on these forums and wonder what happened to the disappearing guy after "2nd date sex"

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 121 (view)

I had girl ask me to suck anoher guys juices out of her is that gay act Posted: 10/19/2009 6:44:00 AM
Is it as bad as taking it up the a$$ from a dude? No. However, if asked (under oath) if you willingly ingested another man's spooge... you have to honestly say "YES"!!! LOL!!! That is a GAY ACT!!!! Are you proud? Would you proclaim this on NFL Sunday in front of your buddies??? Do you think they would pat you on the back and say "I'm sure you just did it tom impress a broad, we give you a pass". Dude, dude, dude... that is so fruity. WTF are you thinking? We would certainly NEVER let another guy live it down at best, and tell him to go film Brokeback II. Impress a tramp like that?? Do you want to date her? I mean come on... sound like the town has pulled a train on her. What's to impress?

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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Am I doing too much? Posted: 10/19/2009 5:56:50 AM
You are in this situation because you did NOT know where you guys stood before you opened your legs, and developed attachment. You know god damn well that women cannot sleep with men without getting attached. Men can screw and forget your name 5 minutes later. Now you are in a spot where you don't know the deal, and are afraid to ask because you know what the answer might be. Next time, think before you have sex.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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what do i make of it? Posted: 10/19/2009 5:31:44 AM
Another one of these. I wonder if women on POF read other women's posts... hmmmm. I'm betting he's otherwise attached at the least, and married at the most. Cut off the sex and see how quickly he launches you. Guys will say just the right amount of smooth talk to keep a women on the emotional line, and spreading her legs. Get a commitment from him, get answers from him or get away from him. Think about you for once.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

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should i bother? Posted: 10/19/2009 5:24:46 AM
The fact that you give him 2nd/3rd chances says something about you and your self esteem. Isn't being blown off once enough?? I mean , his excuses are all bull sht, and the reality is he's probably trying desperately to bang multiple chicks and is having a little difficulty keeping all his attempts from over-lapping. He's hoping a few charming words and some smooth talk will keep you on the line... and he's right? Do you REALLY need to ask us what to do here?? #2, you do know he's out to fck you and then you'll never hear from him again... right? You are bright enough/have common sense enough to know this I hope.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 91 (view)

GIRLS AND TATTOOS Posted: 10/19/2009 5:11:01 AM
Come the F on here lady??? Is it really a total mystery to you??? I mean, you can't possibly see why having 40 tattoos may be a problem with 98% of men you may have a shot at dating?? It's not "lady like" to bring a girl to say, a work function... with a sleeveless gown only to see 12 various tattoos. It's low-class and trampy. It's also a sign of psychological problems if one chooses to cover every square inch of his/her body with ink. It's unsightly, they fade and look worse with age too. One or 2 are fine in discreet places... but over 3-4 and in obvious places is odd and looks bad. I'm sure many men share this opinion. P.S.... I love it how you say men are "scared". I don't think they are toots, so much as they are embarrassed to bring the "tattooed lady" around in public.

jakeya99

Joined: 5/9/2008

Msg: 31 (view)

Would this bother you and should I talk to him about it? Posted: 10/16/2009 5:54:06 AM
How dumb is he to say that to his current girlfriend? Is he stupid? I'd let him go jerk off to her pictures while you're out having fun with friends. Lose him for sure. I mean, he's either mean, disrespectful or just plain dumb. Pick one. Before you go, tell him you always wanted to marry a couple of guys and one just freed up this morning. Tell him thanks for the memories but your future awaits elsewhere.

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