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dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Communication just stops? Wondering.... Posted: 4/8/2009 8:11:18 PM
OP, Here is a couple of ideas about your questions. First, you said: I'm just wondering if this is a sort of game to see if I'm really interested and would email twice if necessary? I don't see why this is a particularly important question. Maybe it is for some, maybe not. Does it really matter? There are no one-size-fits all answers to so many questions when it comes to dating. You've got to take it case by case and trust your instincts. And you said: What would you say is the generally correct thing to do if anything... there are a couple of really nice ladies i've recently been in touch with and don't wanna waste chances by not knowing the rules! The sooner you realize that there are no rules, the better off you will be. Just be yourself and trust your instincts. If it feels like the right thing to send a second email, then just do it. What do you have to lose. But, if number two comes up empty, then roll... Shoot from the hip, but aim with the heart.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Self {RESPECT} where did it go? Posted: 4/8/2009 7:58:31 PM
Ya, I'm working on that one. But then I think that's the only choice I've got. By the way, I think that your picks are totally tastefully done. Hey, as long as you can't see the nipples, then it's all good. I think you missed yours by about an inch or two. Bravo!

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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What's better for the third date? Posted: 4/8/2009 6:06:17 PM
Cooking is chemistry in the kitchen making heterogeneous mixtures and controlling reaction rates. If you have skills with protocols and observations; the sights, sounds and smells, you bring the concoction to a slow simmer. Hmmm.....the aroma, presentation, a little red wine to sip, swirl, Oh...nice legs, Oooo...and the bouquet. Preparing and eating can be sensuous and sumptuous. Ah...what was the question? Oh, ya...I’ll bet you can figure out what my vote is. Yum!

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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How to Impress a Girl for Free ? Posted: 4/8/2009 12:26:51 AM
^^^Two questions. Do they have to match? Any color preference? I just did laundry so I'm good to go. These forum girls sure know how to have fun!

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Asking for a Drivers License Posted: 4/8/2009 12:23:37 AM
^^^So, Chill. If I get finger printed, can I tag along for a latte? They can run the check at the station and I promise I've got a clean record... Plus I just charged up my Starbucks card. What do you say, sweetie?

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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How to Impress a Girl for Free ? Posted: 4/8/2009 12:06:25 AM
OP, You must really be broke my friend. Back when I was a starving student working my way through college, I used to think that sex was one thing I could afford. Seriously, I could buy rice and beans and make burritos that would keep this energizer bunny going night and day. Oh, hey...I thought of something. Shadow puppets! That's about the best that I can come up with. Good Luck. PS If you can afford to power up you computer and pay an internet provider then, I don't think she is going to buy that you're too broke for sex.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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150 views in 2 weeks ! but no reply on sent messages! but read not deleted! Posted: 4/7/2009 9:02:31 PM
I get viewed but not nearly as often as you do. You must be much better looking. Most of my views are women who read some stupid thing I said in a post. They email me and say, "Dude, that was freakin' stupid how you went off in that post" Then they ask questions like, "Do you have to take special vitamins to come up with this sh^t?" But, when I make my profile visible, and the fish in my neigborhood view me, then I am reminded what would happen if I depend on my brawny good looks. That's when I decide that I would be better off going and cleaning my closets. Ah,....sorry OP, I forgot the question.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Asking for a Drivers License Posted: 4/7/2009 8:43:06 PM
OP, I checked your profile and you are 36. I am guessing that the fact that you write poetry would be a red flag that your motives are suspicious. In addition you are sneaky and have a screen name that is code for (I hope you are not a secret agent and that I am accidently outing you here) Giligans Island. So Skipper, it is no wonder that this Mary Ann suspects you with all these red flags.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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What kind of Subject Lines catch your eye? Posted: 4/7/2009 8:26:22 PM
^^^Mandakay, to be fair, I think that he should use 3 in 1 oil. I just don't think the odds would be fair any other way. I mean, I checked his profile and he is 5'10". Don't you think that three of them to one of him would be about right? Oops, sorry OP. I Caught up in the frivolousness.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Is mystery an attraction? Posted: 4/7/2009 8:17:11 PM
Well since you feel comfortable calling me Pops, then I guess we are on a casual basis so I am sure you won't mind if I call you Sonny Boy. So, Sonny Boy, I was just thinking that if the question is more than you just throwing your line out to catch some catfish, then take the time to inject a little substance, so those of us who like to think a little bit want to play along. You know, put a little meat on the bones. Otherwise seems like diddling to me. But, that's just me.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Curious to hear what 3 main things all men desire? Posted: 4/7/2009 7:13:19 PM
OP, 1. Major chemistry, morning, noon and night....repeat, ad infinitum. 2. In between chemistry experiments, intelligent conversation and the desire to explore the world together. 3. Somebody with a deep and enduring sense of humor. Laughing regularly, occasionally ending in tears, on the floor with stomach cramps from laughing. Hey, wait...you said all men? Uh, never mind.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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What kind of Subject Lines catch your eye? Posted: 4/7/2009 6:44:50 PM
How about this? I got nipples, wanna see 'em?

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Is mystery an attraction? Posted: 4/7/2009 6:05:01 PM
OP what is the point of this question? For a question like this to be interesting, I think the author should reveal at least a little bit about their thoughts on the matter. Otherwise it appears as an effort to seek endorsement of being a certain way or a search to find what women find attractive in order to construct a contrived persona. Seems like an effort to develop a productive trolling strategy to me. This appears to be a disingenuous attempt to pass off a question as an authentic effort to learn something of value about human nature.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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living the life of beauty? Posted: 4/7/2009 7:11:28 AM
quote]But, the question is--how much do we control who we are and how we actSelf control, a focus on values a little dignity and some manners. Troll much?

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Proper Aproach Posted: 4/7/2009 6:33:21 AM
^^^I'm a dude as well, and while you are absolutely right over 90% or the time, occasionally the fish bites on the second try. I rarely try a second time. The last woman I spent over 2 years with did not resond to may first email. I don't spam as my Mom would not have approved and I have to live with myself, but my 1st email was hastily pounded out on my keyboard, pushed send and crossed my fingers. She saved it and pulled it out periodically for a good laugh. It was a bit contrived and freakin corny as hell. My second email was the charm I guess. I would have not missed getting to know this woman for the world. It didn't work out, but I will always be grateful for how she treated me and what I learned from her. She will be my friend forever...(wipes away a tear) I love you sweetie, Dharmadude

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Is he interested or not? Posted: 4/6/2009 11:40:42 PM
A man that has been around the block would not waste time sitting, waiting, trying to muster up the courage to take his words and move them toward action. Us older guys realize if you really want to get closer to a special lady, you move. It sounds like this young man is either really insecure, or way less experienced than you might think, or he's got his tail between his legs because he's been hammered recently. Unless your intuition makes one of these assessment stand out as obvious, then it seems to me you can wait for something that may never happen, or you can sit the boy down and have a straight up talk with the dude. Make him fess up. Then if you feel something stir, and it makes sense...and feels it may go somewhere, give him one more gentle nudge, look him square in the eyes and tell him, "Your move". What have you got to lose?

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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why do i only get 2 options Posted: 4/6/2009 11:24:08 PM
Actually it sounds like you have 3 options. Option three is none of the above. You are upset because you would like him to be your boy friend and he has told you that is not an option for him. You can't always get what you want. Happen's to the best of us sometimes. Face the fact that he is not going to be your guy. Since you don't want to settle for less that you want, it's time to start looking around to find a guy that's ready for what you want. They're out there, you've just got to start turning over stones. Best of Luck ness uh

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Proper Aproach Posted: 4/6/2009 9:29:28 PM
OP, I think you have good instincts here. You said, People say its a numbers game.......but to me something feels wrong about it...... Spam is just that. It is inauthentic and women find it offensive. When you feel something is wrong, you need to go with that gut level feeling. That being said, I think the final part of your statement may be too limiting. You said, ......i prefer finding one that I like and pursue her, the chase you know..... While I would agree with you here if you were pursuing one you have very strong feelings about, like she could be the one, then I'm with you on this. But, if you like her, but haven't got to the point where you have discussed an exclusive relationship, then I think it's alright to keep your lines out as long as you’re honest about it. If you don't, finding the right one could take more time than you've got.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Why do all guys over 50 have facial hair? Posted: 4/6/2009 7:32:54 PM
I've had a mustache since I was in my twenties. Part of the reason I grew it was because I had a baby face when I was younger and felt I got passed over because women wanted someone who looked more manly. Also, my baby face seemed to attract gay men and I got hit on more times than I would care to admit before growing my mustache. Also, I got in a lot of fights when I was a young man. I think guys thought they could take me cause I looked boyish. When I grew a mustache, I found it made me look tougher and that dudes looking for a fight might think twice. I fined tuned the tough guy look and I discovered nobody would try to mess with me anymore. So, it's a part of me now. I like it. That's all that matters.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Ladies, is being sexy, beautiful & admired all that's cracked up to be? Posted: 4/6/2009 6:29:23 PM
OP, Your first few lines hinted of a question that I have always found fascinating. But, when I got to the end and read this: To women, is it tough meeting decent people? I realize that your question while interesting would not elicit the answer to a related yet deeper question I have always wanted to ask. I was disappointed at the superficiality of your question here OP. I suggest that OP is trolling to attract beauties here. One give away is when a thread states only women need reply. Secondly, the superficial question does not do justice to a topic which might reveal something deeper about Human Nature's response to beauty.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Why do guys seem interested than all of a sudden not? Posted: 4/6/2009 1:29:45 AM
I may be way off here, but this kind of yo-yo behavior likely the sign of one or two things: 1. That he is a player and he can't keep all the balls in the air so to speak because he is juggling too many at once. and the reason my intuition favors given you detailed description of his inability to give you answer that are complete or make sense is that... 2. He has a girl friend and he is stepping out on her. He is having a difficult time sneaking out to meet you. I mean you are an attractive young woman and you are clearly intelligent. Guys usually don't blow their chances with nice women and offer lame excuses unless something else is going on. Ask him, point blank.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Is it true that a guy has to feel successful, he wont feel good enough for a woman? Posted: 4/6/2009 1:17:15 AM
OP, Most men do to some degree derive some of their identity and self esteem from their job. So if a man is out of work he is not likely to be spending much time and effort trying to strike up a relationship with a woman. In these uncertain times I think that would be true for even a larger percentage of men. Most people don't have enough fluid assets to last for more than around 3 to 6 months and their income prior to losing their job may have been leveraged to the max. Also dating isn't cheap nowadays. So if you don't have any income and you know jobs may not be easy to come by, the average unemployed guy who is actively playing the field is either independently wealthy or not too bright. Now, if a man has just become involved with a woman it may make him distant if he is cut from the stoic, "it's my problem and I have to fix it on my own" school of thought. This is not an uncommon response when a man has a problem. Many men would not want to appear weak to a new love interest. Ya, men can be stubborn and stupid that way. If a woman is still interested, then she should make it know that she did not get involved because of his job. But, be prepared to deal with the fact that he may not have the cash to take you out and show you a good time. You will have to adjust your expectations and be supportive if you choose to stick with him. Finally, a serious question. I hope this helps. Good Luck!

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Question about hair Posted: 4/6/2009 12:42:24 AM
Outstanding analysis: Hairs job is to grow. Following the same logic, it is also fingernails job. Will the next thread be about men's long fingernails? Cause if it is, I don't want to miss it. I have always wanted to learn about fingernail polish and caring for long fingernails on a dating site? I can't wait!

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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confused Posted: 4/6/2009 12:30:35 AM
Yes, by golly, the nice young man is asking if someone elses girl friend might be interested in hooking up with him. Hey, patient guy! Sounds like she is interested to me. You're a nice guy. Why don't you go ahead and try an make a move on that gal who is seeing someone else right now. What the heck, she's cute and your nice. It could be a good ole time pardner.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Did We Win the War on Drugs Or What?? Posted: 4/6/2009 12:23:54 AM
I do recall that when people used to get stoned on weed, they would laugh at things that really weren't that funny. Kind of like you laughing at your hilarious question here. So did you light up before posting this? I'm guessing you did because it would seem much funnier to you. Also, from looking at your age I am guessing you parents probably enjoyed a few drugs. Cocaine was big, hash and weed still very popular. Psychedelics like acid and mushrooms were still available and in use. Do I do drugs. Nope! Been there, done that. It wasn't that funny.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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what do you consider a player.....seriously Posted: 4/6/2009 12:10:07 AM
Well, duh! Of course you are not asking men. You are not here to play men. Why didn't you just say, "Bug out guys, I'd rather you're not around when I ask these girls this lame azz question." Hey, wait...give the guy a chance. Maybe this is a serious question. I'll have a look at his profile to determine if the OP has a thoughful profile with an iquiring tone to it. Aw, nope. Troll for trollups much?

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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What am I doing wrong here.... ?? Posted: 4/5/2009 11:49:17 PM
OP, You said, I'm 42 (is that bad to admit?) No, that is pertinent information. That makes you a young lady to me. Hiding your age doesn't help matters. And you said, I tend to be your typical over - educated, under- experienced girl who's too analytical for her own good... At least you are aware of your issues. That is a start. There is nothing wrong with being analytical, just don't use your profile to prove your analytical prowess. Many men, including myself, prefer smart, educated women. But we don't want to wade through a treatise to understand your analysis of all that's important. Three Hints on your profile: 1. Less is more - Distill out some pearls of wisdom that showcase your smarts, but be judicious and sparing so as to leave some mystique. 2. Accentuate your positive, funny and/or playful side - Intelligence with out a good attitude can be academic. Remember that teacher that droned on, and on... 3. Make room for a few words about at least one thing you are passionate about. But, don't over do it. Hope this helps,

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Bisexual Women in Prison Posted: 4/5/2009 10:39:55 PM
Momi has you pegged dude. If she was responding to a serious academic question, Momi would lay down a rap that would outline some in depth analysis from which we could all learn something. But, those who know Momi also know she calls it like it is. I'm not buying your thinly veiled academic interest either budy. She's right isn't she? Thinking you'd look pretty good to a women who hadn't seen a man in years, eh? Momi, any of your friends serve any time? They might want to jump in.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Date advice for a newbie Posted: 4/5/2009 9:40:19 PM
Cowboy is right and it is worth repeating. Keep it short and sweet for the first meet. My first ever date from an online dating site (not pof) was the classic example of why a long sit down dinner is a bad idea. I talked with the lady on the phone and personality wise clicked. So I met her for dinner at a nice restaurant on a busy night. I could tell it was going to be a long dinner when she showed up and it was obvious that her pictures on her profile had to be no less than 5 years old. Her makeup looked like it included spackle and she had gained a least 20-30 pounds of weight and didn't even resemble the woman in the pictures. I also suspect she fudged on her age as she looked at least ten year older than the age listed in her profile. I hate to sound so superficial, but chemistry is important to me. It felt like a bait and switch date. It was a longest dinner of my life. I'll never make that mistake again.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Why does she say just a friend? Posted: 4/5/2009 9:06:16 PM
OP, All of the women know just exactly what's happening to you. The final sentence in this passage makes it clear. She admits that she thinks about me and her as a couple in a relationship. She also acknowledges that we would be good together. She says she cares about me and thinks about me calling her. Then, when things start to go good between us some guy comes along and everything is thrown back. What you probably did not bank on was the fact that, as a 42 year old man, you will not get a lot of sympathy from those of us who have been around the block a few times. I'll put this in man language for you. Here is how it goes. When there are no other guys, she practices on you, gets you all worked up and strings you along. You are safe and she uses you to build her ego and practice her feminine charms. When she plays you, she is playing a game she knows she won't lose. You're kind of like a pet. Is that what you want to be? If you like being treated that way then don't whine about it in the forums. If you don't then buck up and send this girl packing. Next time find girl friend that won't use you as makeup mirror.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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How do you get a girls attention? Posted: 4/5/2009 6:31:34 PM
OP, lostgirl is all over this one. So simple, but this is the key: Dont think of her as a potential romantic interest instead just think of her as a person a friend or a work peer. How would you approach them? I am betting politely respectfully and confidently. Yep, she gives good advice. The bottom line is that we should always approach someone we are interested in as a potential friend. When you make the shift your mindset begins to change which enables you to relax and be yourself. This frees your mind from the fear of rejection and focuses you on finding out about an interesting person. After you've met, that's what you will continue to be, right? Be yourself. PS If that doesn't work for you, then definitely follow MandaKay's advice. That sounds like a ton of fun. As a matter of fact, I think I'll try it.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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My location is too far so men say, what to do? Posted: 4/5/2009 6:11:18 PM
OP said, I DO agree to travel, to meet halfway or whatever is needed considering our situations. Have paid many hotel bills to meet for coffee. Now that's the spirit. Your my kind of gal. Seriously, what is the big deal if you hooked a fish, you've got them on the line and you think you've got a lunker that could be your soulmate to boot. But then there is this position, You don't agree to meet half way. You agree to drive all the way to his neighborhood. which unfortunately, Chill feels this way about, What he said. I agree. Ya, I tried drawing a line in the sand that was our half way mark. It was in Kansas. She got nervous and said she had watched the Wizard of Oz, so it was no deal. She's not crazy about driving anyway. Guess I'll have to buy a hybrid. That might be a good solution for you too OP.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Pathological liar...is there any hope if he gets counseling? Posted: 4/5/2009 5:57:46 PM
A 72 year old philandering pathological liar. By his shear existence he is a statiscal anomoly. What I believe would be an even bigger statistical anomoly would be for a 72 year old philandering pathological liar to get counseling and change. I would guess about a million to one odds! Anyone care to take bets!

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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does he deserve a second chance Posted: 4/5/2009 5:44:19 PM
I’m Looking for a pattern here. First you said, Finally we realize he gave me the wrong number, 7987 instead of 7897, which I can understand that being a mistake. I make those kinds of mistakes all of the time. I have dyslexia and ADHD. Sometimes the simplest thing baffle me. Then you said, But wouldn't a guy be upset that he got stood up, or would you guys just go back to talking to a girl like nothing ever happened, and talk about sports?? Actually, partly because of my ADHD and the ribbing and teasing and rejection I got when I was a little spaz, I learned to roll with it. My Mom always told me it doesn’t matter what others think of you, it only matters what you think of yourself. Therefore, I nearly never take things personally. Getting worked up because someone you hardly know let you down is useless. I just get back to living life and let it slide off my back like water off of a duck. Quack, Quack! I guess my question is, is any of this typical behavior off a guy? For most guys, this is probably not typical, unless they are really young. For an ADHD guy like me, it is not altogether too unlikely. I’d forget my name sometimes if it was not written on my underwear with a sharpie. Just kidding, I’m not that bad. The guy might be like me. If he seems sincere and doesn't seem like he's a player, I would consider giving him a second chance. If he screws up again though, cut the sucker lose.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Spending Time in Nature with Someone Special: Any ideas? Posted: 4/5/2009 11:52:42 AM
Spring is here. The birds, the bees, the flowers and the trees leaf out, and each in it’s own way sings out, “Gimme some of that!” This time of year I love to immerse myself in Nature’s celebration of life by spending time outdoors. By getting in touch with Nature I find that like the birds and the bees, shared experience witnessing the fervent fertility that surrounds us serves to activate and inspire my own primal stirrings. Well I’ve got the bug, and I was wondering if the fish in this pond would lend me an ear and share their thoughts. What shared outdoor experiences that make you primal juices flow? The Birds and bees are unselfconscious in their pursuit of life’s essence. What wild setting set’s you spirit free? This time of year I can think of nothing more romantic than spending time in the wild with someone special. What does it for you? I’m taking notes now. Give me the best that you’ve got. With deep respect, dharmadude

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Ok I admit ...... Posted: 4/5/2009 2:26:44 AM
EvilLolli, You said, I personally don't know what's more disturbing. Growing an artificial organ for sex, or that more money has been spent on the research for sex organs than vital ones. I agree with you here, that it is disturbing the amount of resource dedicated to providing insurance and a guarantee that we will be able to enjoy the benefits and pleasure brought to us by our genitalia. Interestingly enough a parallel line of reasoning results in how our insurance policy will pay for Viagra, but not for birth control. According to the law apparently, we can legislate to support prolonging or enhancing sexual functioning, yet reproductive rights are not supported in our insurance policies. Our obsession with medical interventions for sex, while neglecting woman’s reproductive rights is hints of male dominated legislative system. LostGirl71 You said, I dont think you can die from a rejection of a penis for example you may end up with a catheter for the rest of your life and wish you were dead - but you wont die. Unlike the rest which require so much moretesting I certainly would not want to be the guinea pig in this grand experiment. The thought of stitching on a replacement, with the myriad of blood vessels and capillaries that would have to be joined in order for the member to function properly, is not a procedure that I would ever choose. I am thankful for my sexual health continuing to be sound, strong and with preventative care, sustainable. If this can accomplished through maintenance and prevention, then I will die a happy man.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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lingerie Posted: 4/5/2009 1:30:31 AM
When I was younger everything was so freakin urgent. My approach was, lets get the damn things off so we can get down to business. I am sure that spoiled the fun more than a time or two. The urgency of male youth is difficult to separate from a goal oriented; I'm going to get mine approach. As an older man, I can slow down and enjoy the entire trip, from beginning to end. While I have always been very visually stimulated (big surprise a man would be) I am able to really savor the entire experience from beginning to end nowadays. I can focus and really be present. I really enjoy many different types of lingerie. I enjoy it much more than when I was younger. As you can imagine, it is refreshing to find that there are indeed significant changes that come with age that result in an improved sensual and sexual experience. Certainly, it is liberating to not be in a hurry. When I see that my partner has made the effort to wear some sexy panties or lacy low cut bra, it turns me on more than when I was younger. That is because I realize that her decision to wear something erotic and sexy for me, is an expression of her mind. A mind is the ultimate sexual organ. It animates everything else and makes sexual expression and the resulting experience of intimacy so deeply rewarding. I like to acknowledge my partners efforts by complimenting her. I like to tell her that she look hot or sexy in the lingerie she has chosen. As the night progresses I like to tell her how and when I want to peel the panties off to reveal the sensual and sweet gift my lover will share. So, ya...what was the question? Yep I like lingerie. Like ‘em alot. Ahem....did I answer the question?

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Ok I admit ...... Posted: 4/5/2009 12:07:37 AM
What in heavens name would any guy want to trade in his tool for a virgin penis? I suppose if you were born on the small side that might sound appealing, but my trusted friend has served me well, so I will have to say no. In fact, I'll spend the money instead on a trip to the South Pacific. Oh, and a couple of new surf boards for the trip. And of course my favorite girl...Ya, that's it! PS No speedos for this dude. Surfers don't roll that way.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Why do women grab a guys package? Posted: 4/4/2009 11:06:31 PM
taelus9781, Where the hell you shoping at? I never get that kind of action at my neighborhood SaveMart. I suppost if I buried myself in the zuchinis I might get my junk grabbed. But you're just walking down the isles? Hey BodyPro, You want to wait for lawdhavmercy outside with me? I have a question for him that might not be appropriate in front of the girls. We can see just how big his cajones are after all. ha, ha, ha... PS Is lawdhavmercy a man slut?

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

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Why do women grab a guys package? Posted: 4/4/2009 10:36:12 PM
Ya, seriously This happens all the time to me also. I'm guessing two three time a day. Up to five times on Sunday. That's when I go to church. Hold on here buddy, I'm callin' your bluff. You're full of yourself. And you think all these girls are going to line up to palm your package? I thought I had a lot of nerve. What universe are you living in? Lawdhavmercy fantasy parallel universe? Nice job with the tongue in cheek post pal. But I'm not buyin' it. PS I think Azalea7 may have an explanation for this. Do any of you woman buy this crap? PSS I figured out why they all want to grab his package. They want to see just how big those unbelievable cajones are. Ya, pal...step over here please.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

Msg: 12 (view)

Why do some men stop communicating right in the middle? Posted: 4/4/2009 9:20:45 PM
It could be : 1. A change of heart. The guy may have been playing along, getting to know you through e-correspondence, not having decided if he wants to take it to the next level. When it is face to face time the guy decides not to proceed. To bad so many guys don't have the cajones to be honest and let the girl know. 2. He gets scared. Yes, some guys are big wussies. They are afraid that they won't measure up in some way or another. They don't want to face refection. Oh, well...another night of kickin' it wit da hommies. Of course scaredy cats aren't going to call and say, "I'm too scared." 3. He may have been working on two leads (OK, call it playin if you will) and both are developing at the same time and he choose the other over you. Them's the breaks, as they say. This actually happened around two years ago when I was dating and I decided on one when I had two viable options. It was a tough decision. I think I may have made the wrong one, but I will never know. At least I had the decency to call and let choice number two down gently. My mom raised me right. All 3 scenarios are the guy, not you. You’ve got to get away from thinking that there is something wrong with you if the guy doesn’t come through. You’re a good looking women and you’ve got a solid profile, just like you said; short, sweet and simple. I’d be chatting you up if I lived in your neck of the woods. Just be yourself and stay positive. These things take time.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

Msg: 19 (view)

How fair is it? Posted: 4/4/2009 6:57:03 PM
Well, many of the responses indicate that it is nothing more than small talk or simply curiosity. They simply want to see if other peoples experience is similar to yours. But then reading Chill Pill's response makes me realize that the information is requested from someone who gets more than there share of offers, actually helps them to make better decisions. I think we would all agree that information permits us to exercise discretion. Better choices are in everybody’s best interest. Isn't the ability to ask good questions a requisite for good communication? How many of us have started down the relationship path only to find that we wish we had known this or that about the partner we are with. Informed decisions usually work out better for all parties. The bottom line is, don't stress, just take a Chill Pill. All this talk of parties and Chill Pills give me an idea. Maybe Chill might like a little help with her frontal gyrus. I've been practicing my Elvis impersonation.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

Msg: 14 (view)

Is it good to be a little bit of a jerk in a joking manner? Posted: 4/4/2009 4:29:51 PM
Diamondgirl2727 said, I think that is about the most immature thing I have heard since elementary school, isn't that what little boys did? Oh, I don't totally agree here. I think that this type of banter would probably be enjoyed by some girls. But, treezy, I've got to warn you, you might get arrested hanging out with 7th grade girls. And Bklynrebel said, She probably thinks you're a retard. Prove her wrong. Tweezy turns and socks bklynrebel in the arm, then turns and runs away. bklynrebel follows in hot pursiut accross the playground. She's heard screaming, "I'm gonna get you retard"

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

Msg: 9 (view)

can chemestry be built on Posted: 4/4/2009 4:03:10 PM
Wow, I didn't now that animal magnetism increases in proportion to mispelled words. If I knew that, I would chuck my freakin spell checker off of a cliff. I met a lady and after 20 ninuits we couldn't keep our hands off each other. And, seriously dude, did you really invite over twenty inuits (that is what you meant to say, right?) before you couldn't keep your hands off each other? Well, I can sort of see it. Those eskimos get kind of cold up there in the Arctic. You and your gal were probably trying to warm your hands up, eh? So, were you praticing global warming? Just wondering...

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

Msg: 3 (view)

Do you really know the color of her eyes? Posted: 4/4/2009 3:11:05 PM
ZenBeth, Not all men are as lucky as I was to have a Mom like mine. She was a strong self assured woman with a heart the size of a football stadium, the wisdom of a monk and the compassion of Mother Teresa. She taught me to respect women. And, she taught me that if someone was physically peculiar or different, that they possess every bit as much humanity as everbody else, and that it was my job look for it. She said, you find it in their eyes. She's been gone 8 years and I still miss her dearly (wipes a tear away). So, I was out socially with some younger female colleagues a month ago and one of them, said to me, "(fill in real name here), we love you, because you don't stare at our breasts. " Thanks Mom.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

Msg: 8 (view)

Why are guys so scared... Posted: 4/4/2009 2:54:45 PM
You said, Why are guys so scared to admit their feelings for a girl. Sorry, I’ll be the first to admit that too many guys drew the short straw so to speak, on the “expresses their love and affection verbally” trait. I know it is frustrating for you girls. I can assure you that this response will notachieve the desired result though. Ive even went to the extremes of trying to make him jealous...which worked but still no luck.Im just tired of the games. So, if you are tired of games, what do you call that? You need to step back and realize you are probably on a merry-go-round from a bad B movie and you don’t even know it. Talk to him straight up and if he can’t figure it out, let him down easy and move on.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

Msg: 17 (view)

How to answer Do you want kids? Posted: 4/4/2009 2:21:11 PM
Brunette Girl 425, LOLOLOL 'dharmadude'. Who's your daddy! I dunno. Do you want to be? I can’t find my mommy either. She went shopping and let go of my hand and now I’m lost. Zenbeth, And for women over the age of 55 I think having a laughing symbol next to the question 'do you want children' would be fun. Hey, you stole my idea! IndyHoney, You said, Here is how I answer it: I DON'T HAVE KIDS, I DON'T WANT KIDS, I DO NOT DATE MEN WHO HAVE/WANT KIDS. But somehow this is still not clear!!! So are you saying, you’re looking for a babbydaddy? Oh, ya…I was wondering if you are free next Saturday night? I need someone to baby sit my kids.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

Msg: 18 (view)

I'd like your opinion Posted: 4/4/2009 1:53:20 PM
Women don't like whiners. Here, check this...whah, whah, whah...someone call the whambulance for chri$t's sake! Look pal, the odds are abysmal. My profile is a lame rant. And my pics, well, at least I tried. But, I don't whine. Reach down, grab your cajones...still there? Suck it up and get with the program.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

Msg: 9 (view)

do women still like guys with shaved heads? Posted: 4/4/2009 1:41:56 PM
What, are you serious? You had a full head of hair and you shaved it just for kicks? Well my hats off to ya (when in the sun, keep yours on or use sunscreen) in the cajones catagory. I suppose that if you polish up your dome real good, that might attract more attention. Some of the most fun women I know get distracted by shiny things, so maybe you're smarter than I thought.

dharmadude

Joined: 5/10/2008

Msg: 19 (view)

what is wrong with men lol Posted: 4/4/2009 1:11:18 PM
Try using punctuation and capital letters occasionally. Most women are not into a run on sentence stream of consciousness that goes on enlessly sinking into the sunset blah blah blah.... PS Cowboy, Isn't that the state where they tried to have "creation science" taught in public schools, giving it equal time with the Theory of Evolution? Hmm....interesting.

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