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does no secretly mean yes? Posted: 12/14/2008 8:48:55 PM
I see that someone (^^^) beat me to the gist of my reply.

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older guys with younger children Posted: 12/14/2008 8:42:57 PM
Being in the same general age group as you, OP, I've gotta tell you that a lot of our female friends not only would, but would actually like to date a guy in their age bracket that has (a) young(er) kid(s). Not all of them, but a lot of them. Other than that, I agree with most of the other folks here; I'm thinking they just mean they don't want to breed again. (No crassness intended)

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Why do people take this internet stuff so seriously ?!?!?? Posted: 12/14/2008 8:23:17 PM
Sure redefined my definition of the following: -kinky -absurd -ironic -sublime

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Get ready Canada, you're next. Posted: 12/14/2008 8:13:15 PM
<<< tapping foot impatiently... Wth don't the oil companies bail out the automotive sector? Without one, there's not much need for the other. Rocket Science 101 - or not.

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Does Your Health Have You Feeling Blue? Posted: 9/17/2008 5:54:24 AM
I'm having a go at using one of the ed meds until I have my bp and cholestrol under control. At first I kinda just fell asleep on the couch a lot to avoid the bedroom but my wife takes no guff. She hauled my sorry behind to the doctor's and that was good. I didn't even know I had hypertension and high cholestrol before that so she kind of saved my life. Doc says it can all be brought back to normal with diet changes after a while. Until then we attend cooking classes that avoid using the trouble foods and some nights I reach for the blue stuff. Gee that wasn't so hard to talk about as i thought it would be

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How do men feel about women with silver hair? Posted: 9/17/2008 5:47:12 AM
I rather like it.

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Stretch Marks .... Posted: 9/17/2008 5:30:29 AM
I'm sure not looking at her belly when we make love just into her eyes. And when I do see her marks they make me smile bcoz they remind me of when the kids were born. Anyway, try being on prednasone, mine are worse.

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teenager-moving--- Posted: 9/17/2008 4:57:19 AM
Sorry to hear that op. We had a similar thing happen to our daughter. WHen I got home from work one day she was sitting at the table with my wife, with a shiner. when I got the story I went wild but my wife told me to calm down it's already been handled. When she went to pick our girl up she took a baseball bat and had a fit on the guys front yard waving the bat around like a maniac in broad daylight. Asked him if he was sure he really wanted to get to know everyone she knows plus get his ass whooped by her right there and then too. Embarassed him in front of all his neighbors real bad. WHen he said no, she said good, smart man and called the cops and had him charged. while they were waiting for the cops she kept reminding him how it would be handled if he ever went near our girl again. tthank goodness our daughter never went back and he left her alone. You need totalk to your girl. Her job is one she can get anywhere but she needs to understand that real men don't do that.

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Would you open you marriage to save it? Posted: 8/29/2008 4:46:13 AM
I know for fact he has a favorite (yea, I know her * Where did the guy find his dom? Doms-R-Us? ( There's one in every shopping mall We are all around you. As for my profession, it does not need defending. Am I the only one picking up on this? Not that it matters. back on topic, neither my wife or I would ever take this route

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Ugly Guys Posted: 8/24/2008 2:31:07 PM
How'd this get hijacked to keep getting back to dancing? OT I always thought I got beat on with an ugly stick and still do when I look in a mirror but I got he most beutiful wife in the world. Never could figure out how I lucked out like that. she tells me I'm handsome, i tell her she's not allowed to ever get glasses. haha

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If you knew you were dying - Would you have a BUCKET List? Posted: 8/13/2008 7:58:22 PM
Our everyday life is a buckett list, no regrets. Hubby

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Are You A Paradox? Posted: 8/13/2008 7:41:38 PM
Okay girl, as your friends I know we're biased on your behalf, but why would you ever worry even for one second what some of these clowns you've met in the past think? Like you'd ever be interested in some guy unhappy in his dead end job, bitter about his exwife that;s a beer-swilling couch potato in his spare time anyway...haha...I can just see how long you'd put up with that baloney! We also know you don't cry over such comments, you're always far too busy helping others and living a full life - as it should be. Wouldn't even recognise you any other way. And what's with that one gal calling diverse people habitual liars and a pain to be around? One should never judge someone else by their own yardstick, know what I mean? Just cause thats how they are, doesn't mean that's how everbody else is - sorry that had to be said, but you're too dammed polite some times. At least it sounds like most o f the people on here are really solid, and I'd venture a guess that one or two of them are your real friends. You know we are too. Wifey

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Ok.... down the road.... Posted: 6/19/2008 5:37:19 AM
You're right, AgelessWonder, unfortunately. Makes me wonder why people even would say "I love you" to another. It seems hollow and shallow to me, if you only mean it "unless of course, you happen to become ill". Kudos to your son though, it shows you did a fine job raising him and instilling proper values in him, despite the opposite example he was shown by his father. What a great job you've done!

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Would you have done the same thing? Posted: 6/19/2008 3:15:27 AM
ou were given the opportunity the first time to do the right thing and you did. Now...life has gifted you the second chance. Well said, young lady, after all, it was 20+ years ago. My advice would have been much different if it was just a few years back.

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GF not getting the fuzzies Posted: 6/19/2008 3:10:56 AM
Can't help but feel you may be getting let down gently. But then, you could also always ask her exactly why it is she wishes to continue the relationship. If her answer is just to further develop a friendship without ever becoming romantic, you need to decide whether you wish to keep your friendship with her - or not. But cast the love in your eyes towards someone who may feel the same way about you, as you currently feel for this one. We all deserve that.

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Why do you join a singles site to find a mate and yet don't ?? Posted: 6/19/2008 3:01:43 AM
Do the other sites have forums? I'm guessing not. Not to be harsh, my friend, but you do have a habit of consistently saying you don't make first contact, you don't like this, that and the other in a woman, and generally lump them into categories, with not-so-nice terminology. People tend to remember things like that. But what do I know? I'm happily married, and just here for the forums.

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Hot Tub and the First Date - would you? Posted: 6/19/2008 2:55:06 AM
I think if I would have suggested that for a first date, I likely would not have been married for 27 years to this particular woman, my dear wife. And as I can't even begin to imagine anyone more perfect for me, I'm glad I never pulled any cheesy playboy-wannabe moves on her when we dated.

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Ok.... down the road.... Posted: 6/19/2008 2:43:02 AM
I would be as inclined to look after my wife, as she would tend to me, if and when the time comes. I can't for the life of me understand why someone wouldn't. 27 years ago, we made our vows 'for better or worse, in sickness and in health, until death do us part" and intend to keep them, but as far as I'm concerned, that should go for any committed LTR - married or not.

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Advice Please! Posted: 6/17/2008 11:00:28 AM
orbix: Yes, the wife and I both read it, without telling each other our reactions until we were both done, so you've got a man and a woman's perspective there in our first post. And I see you've already deduced that the quoted parts could possibly be omitted without hurting the impression you're trying to make. You be as fond of that first paragraph as you like, lol, it is after all, your profile, and you'll probably get many different opinions. Just take what works for you and ignore the rest, my young friend! And you never, ever have to make an excuse for saying you seek more than just a pretty face - every woman (everybody, period!) wants to be liked for their personality and respected for their intelligence too. Simple re-wording example: Essentially looks are secondary, although chemistry is a must. I'd love to meet someone who is more than just a pretty face, who would share some of my passions in life, as well as introducing me to some of her own. Just a thought there, absolutely ignore it if it doesn't work for you! Again, best of luck!

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Advice Please! Posted: 6/17/2008 10:17:46 AM
IMO, your pics are great, they show a lot of diversity and help sum up who you are. Now having said that, you can trim a little from your bio without losing the essence of what you're trying to convey. Examples: * whether it be with a haunting slow air played on the low whistle in a church or something more upbeat. If I was in it just for the money I'd stick to teaching; so whether it's playing a free gig in the homeless people's shelter in Cork or for rich ex-pats in Nairobi it's great to just get out there and play... * Enough about the music! * where we have 3 ducks 2 chickens, 3 dogs, a puppy, 4 sheep, 2 lambs and a horse (at the last count!) * (I know that's a cliche and I could rephrase it but it would mean the same thing anyway) Don't get me wrong, I like a pretty face as much as the next guy, but when I fall in love it's with a person not a face. (Aaargh, cheese alert!, but you know what I mean). * And by the way I may have given the impression that I'm obsessed with music and that I'm only interested in people who have a degree in music and play at least 18 instruments, but that's not the case at all! * Went to secondary school in Colaiste an Chraobhin in Fermoy (probably the only school in the country that would let us fly radio controlled hovercraft around the assembly area in the lunchtime! Again, that's just the wife's and my opinion. Best of luck!

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becoming a father in middle age Posted: 6/17/2008 9:55:44 AM
Men have children in their 40s 50s and even 60s......but you can bet they are not with some broken down, tired 45 year old generally.....Middle-aged men generally don't HAVE children with an old broad......duh Completely insulting and uncalled for, as well as an embarrassment to the rest of us men. OT: Again, there are so many different family dynamics these days, and the reasons for them are just as diverse. If it's not for you, no big deal, just keep looking.

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smoking ban in ontario Posted: 6/17/2008 9:38:50 AM
Update: a (not so) quick trip through Google reveals that if all 5.5 million Canadians across the nation did not purchase a package of cigarettes for one entire day, the government would lose approximately $3,916,687.50 in tax revenue within that time period. That's right, almost $4 million in one single day. And what surprised the heck out of me is that the health care related costs of a smoker are not only not that high (based on the per pack tax ratio), smokers also conveniently don't live as long. So, there goes that line of reasoning. Now tell me this high taxation level isn't just a plain old tax grab under the guise of concern for our collective health. Bear in mind, we personally do not smoke and welcome most of the anti-smoking measures put in place. BUT, if they're illegal to smoke, then make them illegal - period. If they remain legal to buy, tread carefully on how much 'big brother' influence you allow the government to go interfering in peoples' lives.

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becoming a father in middle age Posted: 6/17/2008 8:33:09 AM
We actually know quite a few people who have younger children late in life, whether they are their own, or stepped up to the plate when a family member abandoned a child, or via foster care. Yes the odds lessen that they'll be around to see their grandchildren, but as long as they are raising the child to be a productive member of society, who cares if they will be 60 or 65 when the child graduates HS? We hold those of our friends who have taken in foster kids or assumed the failed responsibility of a family member, long after their own have flown the coop, in special regard. They are the epitome of selflessness, in our eyes. Sure it's not for everyone (we ourselves couldn't do it, that's for sure), but like one of the first posters said - none of these age 45+ and single parents (that we know personally, anyway) is looking for an ersatz mom/dad to these kids, as they already have their own parenting responsibilities firmly under control.

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We all Have baggage at our age? No Baggage thing...I don't get it Posted: 6/17/2008 8:06:50 AM
kids exes illnesses disabilities past addictions low income None of this is baggage, unless rather than becoming wiser and more compassionate because of them, you have let them embitter you.

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smoking ban in ontario Posted: 6/17/2008 7:51:53 AM
Not a smoker, and I agree with a lot of the new rules, but if it's illegal to smoke them here, there and everywhere, why is it still legal to sell them? Could it have something to do with the fact that it costs barely over a dollar to manufacture a package of cigarettes and the rest is all taxes? If all the smokers in Canada went one designated day without buying a pack of smokes, clear across the country, I wonder how much of a deficit in tax revenue our beloved government would suffer in that 24 hour period? If it's going to be illegal - fine - but, in the meantime get your hands out of peoples' wallets. Bunch of governmental hypocrites, imo

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Name the number one thing keeping you single.. Posted: 6/14/2008 4:16:27 PM
We've got a great friend of many years who talked us into joining for the forums, and she happens to be single. Although she's not the type to say much about it, we know the choice to be single at the moment is hers. She has enough respect for herself and others to know that this isn't quite the time for her to be looking. But to be honest, having seen some of the emails she's received, as well as reading some 'possibles' opinions on the forums, we can see her personal reasons aren't the only things holding her back. "Nice from far, but far from nice" comes to mind. Yet all she'll ever say is what really great friends she's made on here, she thinks the world of them, even though they've mostly never met - that includes gal pals as well as men, and when we see how kind they've been to her, and to others in general (in the fora), we have to agree - there's some awesome people out there. Now - get well soon, sweets.

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Do you do drugs? Posted: 6/14/2008 3:46:42 PM
Yes, we've (hubby & I) seen people admit to it in their profiles here, along with a casual reference to "420" somewhere to indicate it isn't crack or heroine they're using. Big deal. At least they are honest, and if you personally don't agree with it, click on to the next profile. Better and braver than the liars out there who say 'no' when the answer should be 'yes', that's for sure. Neither of us use it, but have several successful and gainfully employed friends over the years who do. Lazy? Uneducated? Ha! I'm betting some of you naysayers would turn several shades of green with envy if you knew what incomes they draw in their professions. And ODing on it? Surely you jest. We're not here on pof for anything other than the forums and friends, but even at that, we'd rather be friends with a so-called 'pot-head' than a sanctimonious, arrogant, holier-than-thou, know-it-all (only directed at those whom the shoe fits, not the ones whose personal preference is a simple no). Some people don't do drugs. Some do. Some, perhaps, should.

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Should marijuana use be a deal breaker? Posted: 5/29/2008 6:05:27 AM
I use to back when I was 18 but I quit. so i do have experience with it to answer your question.....msg #124, page 5...... am sorry to say it but you are not a knowledgable (sic) person. wonder if its becuase(sic) u (sic) have smoked too much weed and lost a brain cell too many. I know a lady and her firned (sic) that went out to see who get the highest..smoking weed and drinking. she is retarded today. her mind flipped and she never came back to reality. Perhaps kittenshere has a valid point - after all, she apparently speaks from experience... This thread is ridiculous the way it has become a war based on morality versus legality. The OP question was whether it would be a deal breaker to us as individuals. As such, everyone is entitled to their own opinions on if it is a deal breaker for them personally. Perhaps some of you Boy Scouts and Girl Scouts can get together in the meantime, dust off your Knot Badges, sit around a roaring campfire and fashion nooses so you can swing all those people tfrom the nearest oak tree hat are suffering from Cachexia, cancer, chronic pain, epilepsy and other disorders characterized by seizures, glaucoma, HIV or AIDS, multiple sclerosis and other disorders characterized by muscle spasticity, and nausea. Other conditions are subject to approval that have been granted the legal right to legally use the substance... Lord knows the poor sods are a blight on society anyway being sick like that in the first place, and then having the unmitigated gall to smoke pot too. Haven't they been following this thread? Don't they know it 'fvcks' their brain cells (as so eloquently stated) and that no one in their 'right mind' would ever want anything to do with them? Shame on some of you.

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Be specific, exactly what is it that makes us feel .... Posted: 5/14/2008 8:37:40 AM
My first marriage had way too little in the way of nicely asking and being thankful for things. That led to a waning of the small touches we'd always had during the day. That then led to a deterioration of our sex life in general. Not having sex so often left room for more arguments with no 'making up'....and so on. I've been happily married for 27 years now to a woman who understands that all flows together.

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More outdoorsy than the bar type? Posted: 5/14/2008 8:14:43 AM
Hugs: Don't know about booking the pavilion thing. It's a great idea and all, but I hear it costs around $150 to reserve it. If it's not taken, you're still allowed to use it, but you need to pay up to make sure you have it. Just my experience with other provincial parks, maybe check into that.

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More outdoorsy than the bar type? Posted: 5/14/2008 8:09:20 AM
Definitely interested - the date sounds good too. We'll be watching for details!

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