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skinnbones

Joined: 5/17/2004

Msg: 25 (view)

am i right to be mad about this? Posted: 8/15/2007 11:51:41 AM
TOTALLY UNEXEPTABLE! This has nothing to do with old relationship crap. For me NO ONE is naked with my kid besides me or the father. I think that is strange and should keep her ass clothed when any children besides her own are around! Totally innapropriate!

skinnbones

Joined: 5/17/2004

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ignorant people Posted: 8/15/2007 11:48:17 AM
I think people that make comments such as that have insecurities and issues themselves and try to make themselves feel better about there situation by calling down someone elses. Like I tell my daughter when someone puts you down it is there own isecurities that are coming through and I thell her it has nothing to do with her it is there way of venting in a bully sort of way and unfortunately some people only know how to communicate that way. Your right ignorance but when people make comments like that there not even worth arguing with or responding cause like I said I dont think that is the issue at all, the issue is something in there closet which they wont come clean about anyways.

skinnbones

Joined: 5/17/2004

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What Does Seperated Really Mean? Posted: 7/30/2007 9:24:23 AM
To me it means your single! If you have no emotional/physical realtionship with ANYONE but your waiting for a divorce...... Then your SINGLE meaning no girlfriend or wife, and your SIMPLY waiting for a peice of paper to say your LEGALLY single. I hate when I see under status: DIVORCED! What the hell is that... Your single.... no romanitic relationships = SINGLE.... IMO. Obviously there is the rebound concern but some people are "seperated" for years due to the fact that it can cost your first born to divorce. But I know how alot of people love to make things more complicated than they have to be.

skinnbones

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Ladies, You Are To Easy Posted: 7/30/2007 8:36:00 AM
I would not look too deeply into this guys threads, if you read them all his user name should be BIGREDFLAG............................................................................ I cant beleive they kept the posts being too short rule!

skinnbones

Joined: 5/17/2004

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Need Advice Posted: 7/27/2007 11:00:02 AM
The fathers name does not need to be on the B/C to get child support or for any other battles you may have with him. I know I know everyone here says you do, however I know at lease 3 scenarios that 100% prove otherwise.

skinnbones

Joined: 5/17/2004

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daddy doesn't love you Posted: 7/23/2007 2:22:39 PM
I would simply give her enough love to make up for the one parent being gone. And when it comes up dont make it a negative thing! Be positive with your body language and tone of voice. I would have to agree with the above I dont think that this is about Daddy does not love the child I think its a little bit about mommy, and rightfully so. for my daughter I would not tell her untill she asked and like I said I would not make it so it is a burden, and no your childre don HATE you because daddy or mom chose a different life if you explain it properly and make up for it it should not be a problem.

skinnbones

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How to not piss of pregnant girls.... Posted: 7/19/2007 9:45:45 AM
I agree that pregnant women are different while pregnant more edgy and hormonal, however having said that and already being pregnant once and currently 30 weeks with my second, umm I dont give a shit what she is she does not hae ANY right to hit you with ANYTHING! Her behavior is repulsive and next time she hits you charge her ass. Pregnancy is yes huge but it is ALWAYS your choice to behave in that manner. I have bad days but shit thats not your fault and I dont think that because I am pregnant I have the right to physically lay my hands or anything else on anyone nor does it give me the right to verbally attack others either. Alot of women use pregnancy as a convenient excuse for alot of things.

skinnbones

Joined: 5/17/2004

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Problems Posted: 7/18/2007 7:21:06 AM
Exactly what vhdc said, however you should not have to suffer through that. I would let her know that her options are to get some help and work like a normal person or you will be moving out and you can continue to date but this is not what you have in mind for a long term living together relationship. I get people have problems but if you support her she will take advantage of it.

skinnbones

Joined: 5/17/2004

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Did I have a right to be mad and did I handle it okay? Posted: 7/17/2007 2:24:32 PM
Ahhh I dont agree with the "you dont have a right to feel this way cause your seperated" It must be nice for those who move on without any feelings left in them what so ever. I think you certainly have the right to feel which ever way you do after all he was your S/O and you have a child together, it can hurt to see that someone has moved on if your not made from stone. If your uncomfortable with the situation well thats the way you feel, you did not have a tantrum and freak out on her or him. Sometimes in here your damned if you do and damned if you dont. Anyhow you handled it fine if thats how you felt then your entitled to that feeling. Most people that have a decent relationship with the ex have those maybe not frequent but occasional thoughts of togetherness, not saying that you do, but if you did so what its natural. Feel however you want. He clearly has some respect for you by letting her know it was not appropriate for her to come, and you absolutely have the right to want you time with your daughter to be yours, he has a choice to have his G/F there but you have no choice to be uncomfortable with it! Yea NO! And kudos to your amicable relationship cause most in here dont have that.

skinnbones

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OMG! Found my friends' husband on this site! Posted: 6/26/2007 2:53:29 PM
Absolutely I personally would in a heartbeat let my FRIEND know........ however if he has cheated on her in the past and she is aware of it then really she probaibly wont leave him if she stayed with him once. But in the even that miraculously she turfs the dude..... YUP let her know!

skinnbones

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mineral rights Posted: 5/18/2007 7:46:34 AM
Hello I am not sure where you live but here we acquire the landowner and before we even enter there land we have to pay it is a clause in a lease. Now minerals are a bit different as usually the minerals here in Alberta are the Crowns and to my understanding they are mostly freehold in the States etc. But I suspect the lease would just pertain to minerals as opposed to surface but sort of the same. I have aGF that went to Utah to do this. Make sure that in you lease it states when they pay how much etc and they can not drill untill you have your cheque! I will contct my friend that is in Utah and just ask her as she deals with all mineral leases. If I find out I will come back an post! But they have to pay you.

skinnbones

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Im Losing my Baby and It hurts. Posted: 5/18/2007 7:39:37 AM
I am soooooo sorry for you and your son! Thank god he has you and I hope to god it all works for you. Tragedy and I am sorry your heart is breaking! Do you have a video camera? Go home pretend to work it out and whan she is pissed again record it. Drunk people have no concience she will probaibly not even realize your recording her. I know easier said than done but it will be your proof! and atlease your child will have you there I mean look what she does when your there could you imagin what she will do whan your not? I am soooooooo sorry.

skinnbones

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Fantasy or Reality? Posted: 5/18/2007 7:31:08 AM
You know what I have done being in a relationship for 5 years off and on with my ex who will always be the way he is. I realized just that. It has nothing to do with you, it is the person who treats people that way that has the issues, sad we give so much time to it but it is a learning experience. I now am thankful that I went through it and know the signs to look for and am much stronger and resilliant to that type of behavior. I now have the philosophy that the person I am with can chosse to live there life that way but they cant choose to drag me along or down with them, and take back your controll over you life and thoughts and that in itself is empowering. Life happens and sometimes not so pretty! But its over your safe and you always have the right to chosse that for you and baby or ies. I when I was alone with my daughter for the first time as a single parent had taken a year and a half to build my strength and self confidence and independance so I had a better chance of being in the mindset to say NO YOU WILL NOT TREAT ME THIS WAY! And now well just try it! Damn it feels good to have the ability to say that!

skinnbones

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need opinions on kids treatment at dads house Posted: 4/19/2007 7:11:49 AM
I was absolutely shocked to read your post. AHHH your son is in danger! As well as your daughter. I get people are scared by the system luckily im not one of those people cause let me tell you if I found out ANYONE was treating my child or children that way there would be a MAJOR change in everyones lives. Im sorry but the first time your son told you this he should have been at home with you and not allowed back there ok social services wont do anything, but you can. Im sorry but i would do whatever I had to to keep my son and children safe from harm. I am sorry but a couple calls to social services etc in my books is so not enough. I dont care about the "diagnosis" of all the bipolar bla bla bla bunch of excuses IMO. MO get your kids and keep them safe that is always an option. You may have a fight on your hands but dont you think its worth it. I do feel sympathy but for doing nothing about it WOW. I dont know the whole story and not really going to sit and try to figure it out, but GET A BACKBONE AND GET YOUR DAMN KIDS.

skinnbones

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This is a Whopper, Is this right ? Posted: 4/13/2007 10:58:56 AM
I have to admit I agree with the above. Putting the wedding etc aside and speaking directly about the childrens involvment, I would be pissed if my daughter was rummeging through garbage for bottles as well. Maybe if you see the odd one at a park etc and have a bag with you to put it in, but going through trash would be a concern for me. Also so what if she is feeling a little scorned damn rights she is allowed to seeing as what she stated has been done to her. By the sounds of it all the other posters would not be upset if they were lied to cheated on and then left for someone you ex would pick bottles for to marry. Hell my ego would be hurt to, but then again I am human, sheeesh! Allthough their union is "none of her business" she is allowed to still hurt. the bottle picking IMO is a nice environment friendly thing to do yes but on occasion and if the kid is getting an allownce and earning money as well on occasion yes but simply to pay for there wedding not cool in my eyes!

skinnbones

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He's been lying about a wife Posted: 3/19/2007 7:56:10 AM
So you ask for advice and the only one you agree with is the poster that said "meh he lied to you but then you caught him, and atleast he admitted it and is not lying anymore" Are you kidding, stay with him your loving this drama, every guy who has told you exactly what he is you have shot down, of course you could not be fantasy lay! Not you right? your family and these guys are right he is a loser, but keep enabling him it will get better!

skinnbones

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trip Posted: 3/16/2007 9:07:45 AM
Close experience but meh everyones different!......................................................................................................................................................

skinnbones

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When there is an issue with an Adult Child... Posted: 3/16/2007 7:20:28 AM
I think your childs opinion should be taken into consideration, but for me if my daughter was rude to my date, the point is she is being rude which is not accepatble in any situation. A date or a stranger she is not allowed to behave that way, there are no exeptions you either allow rudeness or you dont, I dont. Second if I was dating I would make sure she was ready for a stranger to come into my home. If she behaves very strange I would ease off on that for a while and maybe get them used to each other in a public setting. But I would be dating for atleast 6 months before anyone meets her if not more. Your date may feel helpless however the kiabosch should be put on it but I dont have an adult child and I know how I am. Damn if the kids like me UHOH

skinnbones

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When there is an issue with an Adult Child... Posted: 3/16/2007 7:18:27 AM
double post.....................................................................................................................................................................

skinnbones

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trip Posted: 3/16/2007 7:12:22 AM
Yea he has been absent for 2 years with no contact or support, if he tries to cause issues you wont have a problem, he has legally abndoned his daughter. That should be easy to prove. Also as the above mentiond that statement is not always true either my order is clearly for moving out of the province. I have been in your situation and wasted time and tax payers money going all the way down to find out if I could take my daughter out of Alberta to BC. I was basically asked if I could read as it stated can not be taken out of province to reside or something to that effect. Not all orders are the same. But if he has legally abandoned her either way I would make sure he had no say in anything from the day it was allowed.

skinnbones

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Calgary's booming huh ? Posted: 3/15/2007 1:17:22 PM
You can find a job here easy but you will not see any of it as the landlords etc are now gouging. Everything has gone up and the rent for even shady dives is obsurd. I make a very good wage and am expecting and looking for a larger home is going to break me, were taling even a town house which on the average before was about 700 - 900 is 1500. Unless you share the cost it is not really worth it, everything goes up here but wage only so much. You can find a good deal here and there but the market is very unrealistic for the average joe here. Half of the people that live in our homeless shelter downtown have full time jobs. It is a city for the rich unless you got your mortgage before the overnight hike. Looking for a bigger home I have looked in airdrie, all the way to carstairs strathmore you name it all the same!. If you had roomates or something your laughing.

skinnbones

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Insomnia ARRRGGGGGHHHHH Posted: 3/15/2007 7:50:52 AM
Wow I have not been back to this thread. Yes I am still an insomniac. Now I am expecting and iit is worse than ever. I can not wait untill the sun rises early and then sets late so I dont feel like I am up in the dark so much. I am currently up at 4 which was 3 untill daylight savings time then I lay and try and try to sleep then next thing you know my alarm goes off at 5:30. BRUTAL! After my pregnancy which I am thinkin is my last, I will be dealing with my sleep issue first hand. All the advise and stories have been helpful and will be trying some of the natural techniques. I hope fellow insomniacs find some night time peace soon!

skinnbones

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should i go back to my ex? Posted: 3/14/2007 2:47:33 PM
What were you no longer attracted to about her? inside or out? Also 8 months I am not sure but i dont think thats enough time for life altering changes. Also If she had to change for you to wnat her let her go and be with somone who will love her for her.

skinnbones

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Bridge To Terabithia, A Touching Fantasy Movie For Kids Posted: 3/14/2007 2:14:23 PM
I want to take my daughter tonight for something to do.......... but am I going to cry? I need a happy movie the last one I saw was Charlottes Web and well I had no idea the spider died...it was ugly! I would prefer not to cry and she is only 4, is it acceptable for her?

skinnbones

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Help....special needs boy and personal hygiene...that special talk that should be man to man.. Posted: 3/14/2007 7:29:58 AM
My daughter is also special needs and she is now potty trained at allmost 5. However she cant wipe properly and I have been told by only her pediatrician that she should be doing this herself. Her peach was very red once...... so now I do it (wipe with baby wipes)! EVERY time and when we get home at the end of the day on the odd days because we bathe every 2 days unless she is particularily filthy! I clean her peach. I talk her through it and the importance. Every single day I bring up the cleanliness of the peach.

skinnbones

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Broke up but he still texts, what's it about Posted: 3/12/2007 1:17:00 PM
Its weird I have always noticed us women we break up and go through HELL for about a month then it gets better and better. Some men break up and rip shit up feel free and new and then boom months later it hits home. I think some women, me and most the gals I know get over it fairly quick when some men sort of supress those feelings letting a little seep here and there till the point where it can no longer be contained then they feel the hell. I have actually felt that was a good thing a couple of times cause when there ready to come back and kiss ass I am completely over it and able to treat them as they did me!

skinnbones

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Is It Really THAT Important???? Posted: 3/12/2007 1:06:26 PM
I dont think it is selfish for you not to want more children. You wish them to understand your views , yet you dont take the time to understand theirs is a bit selfish! If they want kids and you dont then they will go to someone who does and you find someone that does not......it is really not that hard to understand and strange that your would be taken back by that!

skinnbones

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Advice....Please Posted: 3/12/2007 1:00:03 PM
I can never take these posts seriously..... stay with him, its what your going to do anyhow if he seriously beats you and steals your shit and then you come to "plenty of fish" to ask people what to do??? You are enabling him and allowing it. This is a question a woman who has suffered from abuse for years that is so brainwashed and tattered within might ask but not some young chick dating a guy for 10 months get real and give your head a shake. Unless your flat out stupid LEAVE!

skinnbones

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dating with a criminal record Posted: 3/9/2007 9:15:59 AM
Just had to respond the the last post. I have changed my profile to say LIVING TOGETHER several times and it insists on reverting back to prefer not to say. I constantly see people being flamed for there profile I beleive you can not judge untill you ask! Not accuse after making harsh statements. My profile also used to say I had no children i have had this problem several times. As for a person with a record, I for me used to be a recless criminal teen and racked up alot of charges even into my early early twenties. I dont know what happened exactly but I changed big time I have now been pardoned for my idiodic past and very thankful for it. On that note I was ALWAYS honest about my record... big issue people bring up is travel as young available female I had the occasional offer to "fly away" for a weekend or so and had to be upfront about it. I also felt it was a part of my past and you have to be honest with your friends & s/o.

skinnbones

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Office Cleavage Posted: 3/8/2007 12:08:21 PM
A long time ago I worked at a commercial real estate firm downtown and we were all in a meeting like 20 or so people president and all I wore my special gold blouse and sat at the back.......... I finally looked up about 20min or so into it and my boss was gesturing for me to look down. All my buttons accept the last one were completely open and HELLO I was only 20 so they were pretty perky and pushed up! ........... Maybe thats for a most embarassing thread. After that my boss was not nice to me

skinnbones

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Datelines...perverted justice Posted: 3/8/2007 11:42:57 AM
If you go to the msn main news page today you can watch the video of a man that works for dateline..... he breaks into homes cars and lours children as tests it was very interesting to watch and SHOCKING!

skinnbones

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Herbal/natural alternatives to Prevacid and Nexium Posted: 3/8/2007 11:38:38 AM
Sombien I am going to take a wild guess that I can not take those things while pregnant? ...........................................................................................................................

skinnbones

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standoffish chicks Posted: 3/8/2007 9:27:47 AM
NM Im not being nice today.................................................................................................................

skinnbones

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Activities for Children Posted: 3/7/2007 1:20:30 PM
I agree lyrical with the unreasonable times I have many times looked into programs I could even take with my daughter so we could spend time together and they are all within work hours. As for programs for her she is more elegable for these when she is five so in the fall she will begin horse riding and sparks, right now we are in a swimming program together on the weekends and ballet and tap as well on the weekends. As far as here goes unless your a stay at home mom you really cant do much program wise with your children as well as with them on there own. I try to take her to most of the festivals and functions within the city but the reason I like the group activities is you actually get to meet people.

skinnbones

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Herbal/natural alternatives to Prevacid and Nexium Posted: 3/7/2007 1:11:21 PM
I got this from the internet just now and never really though of a natural remidy as I too suffer badly from acid reflux and eat about 20 tums a day. The other prescription I have taken is Perriet and I have to say I have tried the nexium and like this one better however here is some info from well some guy on the net lol.. Here is a list of natural remedies that you can use when you have acid reflux or heartburn. No need to use antacids, which have unwanted side effects and contain aluminum, which has been associated with senility and Alzheimer’s disease. Anise, peppermint, and lavender Here’s a tea that you can make to help you with acid reflux or heartburn. It will help you reduce the amount of acid you have in your stomach. Mix together equal amounts of aniseed, peppermint and lavender. Make an infusion of this tea: * boiling 2 ½ cup distilled water * pour this water over a teaspoon of the herbal mixture * let this tea sit for 3- 5 minutes * strain the tea and add a little bit of honey if you like * place this tea in a thermos Drink up to 8 oz in the morning and 8 oz in the evening to get relief of acid reflux. Aniseed or anise – is a powerful herb that helps in digestive conditions and has many other benefits for your body. Use only the ash-colored anise called green anise, European anise or sweet anise. There are two other types of anise, star anise and caraway, which should not be used here. Peppermint – is another powerful herb for stomach conditions or heartburn. It helps in digestion, stomach distension, cramps, ulcers, and gas. Lavender – known for it scent has enormous healing activity for your body. Is also an excellent stomach aid. It is useful in reducing acid in the stomach. Betain, Pepsin, and Papaya digestive enzymes As you get older, your stomach weakens in its ability to produce hydrochloric acid to digest protein. It is undigested protein that leads to acid reflux or heartburn. Use digestive enzymes that contain Betain, pepsin, or HCl with each meal to make sure you digest all of your protein. Papaya digestive enzymes, which contain papain, are also excellent for protein digestion and you can use them with each meal. Use 500mg or more of papaya enzymes per meal. Pineapples Pineapples are a store house of enzymes and contain bromelain, an enzymes that reduces protein. Pineapples support digestion, reduce inflammation, and supports wound healing. The fresh juice has a high level of enzymes that will help you stop your acid reflux. You can also buy bromelain as tablet and take 200 – 500mg per meal. Chicory Root Chicory comes from a family of bitter herbs that contain endive and escarole. Boil 1 ½ cup of chicory root for 5 - 10 minutes. After it colds to room temperature, drink this tea to correct acid reflux or heartburn. Adding these herbs to your salad will also have benefits in preventing acid reflux. Eating those foods that are alkaline is the best way to avoid acid reflux and heartburn. Using the remedies listed here will give relief from your acid reflux. But more importantly add a salad to your diet everyday and you will have less acid reflux in your life. I just looked up the rules so I had to take the .com out of the web addresses Rudy Silva has a degree in Physics and is a Natural Nutritionist. He is the author of Constipation, Acne, Hemorrhoid, and Fatty Acid e-books. He writes a newsletter called natural-remedies-thatwork. and his information on other topics can be seen at: http://www.acidreflux-relief.info

skinnbones

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pain and redness in armpit Posted: 3/7/2007 1:06:29 PM
After my first child I was breast feeding I had the HUGEST lump under my armpit and it hurt. I was told by my family DR and emergency that it was my milk glands. I am praying that does not happen again!

skinnbones

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advice needed, big time!!! Posted: 3/7/2007 7:45:49 AM
I would have to agree cut ties. And by the original post your coming across as desperate to be honest. Leave him alone dont go places and allow him to just ignore you...That is a sure sign your not welcome and assuming when he does not mind you stopping by when he does not even respond. Like I said desperate, I am too a female and would never assume that he did not mind by simply not responding. I dont think alot of men find this type of needy behavior appealing. OP there are men out there that will have a HUGE smile and open arms if you were to just pop in I suggest you find one of those.

skinnbones

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to change. for better? for a guy? Posted: 3/7/2007 7:27:27 AM
He could have maybe like Heavythumb said i will support you etc, but "you cant see me untill you do what I say crap! CONTROLL! I mean come on that is not being supportive at all. Quit for you and find someone that does not have such a huge EGO that they think they can speak to you that way. Sure they chose not to be around a smoker but guessing by that comment your still dealing with a young boy not a real man that understands nobody is perfect. Smoking kills you smoking kills others around you bla bla bla everyone knows that but you have to decide for yourself and not so you can see this really hot "dude" again!

skinnbones

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When do you get roses? Posted: 3/6/2007 10:38:29 AM
I dont think flowers on the first date mean anything at all other than your a true gentleman. If someone thought too deeply into that I would see a HUGE red flag and probaibly not request a second date.

skinnbones

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having a little trouble Posted: 3/6/2007 6:49:12 AM
This is all true...your employer has to give you your job back and has to pay you the same there is no way around it. Unless your employer knows he can tell you naything and you will just beleive him and leave it at that. Some people dont fight. However if your that concerned you will fight and have your job back. Secondly if you take you husband to court for child support you dont have to depend on anything. The judge if it goes that fat will sepina (sp) his records and make him have them there for a specific date if not he will deal with the judge and we all know they can make peoples lives a living hell. I am aware that men get away with not paying all the time. But you have to fight do the research dig your heels in and dont take no for an answer. Call the labor board today get the ball rollong. As for the daycare crappy situation however really you should have checked all that a long time ago and placed the child on the waiting list then. The other option is to take the next few months and get your house kid savvy and put up some flyers and maybe take some children in your home for the day. If you can do that it is some extra money and you can be at home with your kids. Or go to school government grants and funding gives you more to live on than social assistance. You have options you have to explore them.

skinnbones

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What to do next? Posted: 3/5/2007 2:31:28 PM
Hey there, when I left my ex I went to the courthouse and filed for soul custody. The judge made me serve him, as he worked 9 hours away and basically was living with his GF in Edmonton I had to do it verbally so I made sure I had a friend present and did so on speaker phone. When he did not show up the judge aske me to try one more time. I politly looked at her and said "with all due respect you honor I had to take the time now twice to come down here and this comes out of my paycheque. I would like the order to please be granted and if he would like to contest he is more than welcome to take the time as I have to file a appeal" BOOM granted. Depends on the day and the mood. FIGHT. Her father is also a very unstable messed up controll freak. I know the STRESS. He says he will never let you have your way. This is clearly a game to him. Like I said make the rules. This is not a game as you very well know, and for the stability of you and you childrens mindsets he has alterior motives which have nothing to do with the wellbeing of his children.

skinnbones

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single parents smoking pot Posted: 3/5/2007 2:11:18 PM
I am still WOW about that video, that was very disturbing to watch the little guy wandering around just messed up! VERY VERY DISTURBING! They had thes HUGE doobies in there mouths and were lighting them for these kids. WOW poor poor little ones I feel so bad. And that was there own family flesh and blood that did that to them. Sheesh no wonder parents are so freked out about leaving there kids with anyone.....cant trust nobody!

skinnbones

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What to do next? Posted: 3/5/2007 1:41:32 PM
WOW your in a really crappy situation! Sorry to hear!.... I would collect all the details etc and head straight to the courthouse and explain his underlying scheme he has let you in on, tell the judge that you can not receive subsidy for your daycare which would be fine if he kept to his part of the bargain which he is not. And basically TRY to put your foot down and tell the judge you have 2 children to raise in school with full time work and these disruptions are becoming very distracting and you need your order changed untill he can show stability. I know I know very much easier said than done and I am well aware of the extremely flawed family court system but I say put your foot down and just make the rules. If court is not an option make the schedual and let him know this is the way it is now live with it or PISS OFF! I really hope you find some peace I know exactly the cloud over your head. I do know if you go to court you will have to serve him. And yes he has to be there but just sit back and allow him to bury himself. They all do. Second not sure if it is the same there as here in Alberta but you dont need a lawyer and can not obtain one if he does not have one and vice versa. Go and file and serve his ass and make damn sure you look professional and have you facts very straight. Look the judge straight in the eye and let them know this is not a joke. I keep going back and reading and WOW he is something else hey? MAKE GOOD NOTES! As for the people who marked pitty post I think trolls randomly wander around and mark that crap. i mean honestly does not make sense!

skinnbones

Joined: 5/17/2004

Msg: 4 (view)

Tough Love Posted: 3/2/2007 10:07:59 AM
BOOT CAMP! I was sent to one when I was 12 for 1 year in the middle of nowhere they changed my life my attitude etc. My situation was a tad different though I was already living on the streets and got into so much trouble the courts sent me there, so no one had to pay for it. I say youth program LIVE IN or Boot camp big time.

skinnbones

Joined: 5/17/2004

Msg: 35 (view)

What happened? Posted: 3/1/2007 1:53:28 PM
I am sorry this happened to you. And that she was not woman enough to end it before trashing her family. Weather you feel neglect or not these are a whole lot of excuses! Like kids that have bad pasts and people doing haneous things and playing the blame game. Coward is what people who hide behind silly excuses are. We are all responsible for our own actions. Her cleaning and raising children should be taken seriously but so should her LYING when she spoke her vows.

skinnbones

Joined: 5/17/2004

Msg: 9 (view)

Regaining self-confidence Posted: 3/1/2007 1:43:39 PM
I completely agree with the above, sit ups are nice but getting out and doing some real good for your body weather it be at a gym, pool or outdoor activities will be very healthy for your mind body and spirit and you will feel the complete oppsite. PS: I am aware that asthma is a road block however dont use it as an excuse I have or should I say had very tight asthma and once I got healthy....... you guessed it I cant use it as an excuse anymore. Your lungs may not be the same as a marithon runner or what have you but they are simular to your body in the sense that you sit around and eat like crap and a pig you will become out of shape ame thing with your lungs you start getting them pumping and that will no longer be an issue!

skinnbones

Joined: 5/17/2004

Msg: 78 (view)

The Point: Posted: 3/1/2007 12:36:18 PM
Being a victim of both sexual violations as a very young girl and a teen also having being beaten by my own guardian... I think I have suffered from both in the sexual sense that I have no sex drive and have never been interested in sex or had the urge to be intimate with anybody. I think that is my subconcience (sp) working its magic cause in my mind the past is the past in that sense yes I was violated but never severely wounded and I am alive. The physical abuse suffered at the had of my own parent HAUNTS me to this day. I can think about it and instantly tear up. Broken arm antagonizing laugh while having an asthma attack on the floor as a 10 year old..... and all the rest. That is what is truly been my battle and has effected me in every way, when I was young it has cause intense insecurity with men to never trust them. And now I come across as a person with a chip on my shoulder or "rough around the edges" I dont allow ANYONE in. And those in my mind are the result of the physical beatings etc I endured. The two can not be compared! In no way shape or form is this thread to raise pitty BTW, just a comparison.

skinnbones

Joined: 5/17/2004

Msg: 11 (view)

Taxes..... who clames the child? Posted: 3/1/2007 11:58:11 AM
In Canada your basic personal amount is 8839.00 then your dependants amount is 7505.00 then you claim daycare and medical costs and now up to 500 a year per kid for recreation. WOW I can not beleive he claimed you child while your the primary caregiver! And how did your accountant know that? Unless he does his taxes as well? Also your daughter can have a sin number at birth as you need one to open any bank account or education fund on her behalf.

skinnbones

Joined: 5/17/2004

Msg: 24 (view)

Dont know what to do Posted: 3/1/2007 10:17:30 AM
You in no way shape or form can not keep your daughter from him simply because he does not pay his support, a judge will tell you that since you are being given seriously false info. As for the abuse though I would not let the rest of his family manipulate you into thinking that your child will "see what your doing" in a negative light especially when he not only abuses you but her to. And clearly from the comments of that family it is crystal clear where he got his issues from if they think that there sons behavior is acceptable. Go to court and have a custody order in place and as above seek out supervised visits only however I don’t think they should be with you maybe someone he can not push around. Then submit a child support claim and have the government make him pay. You should limit you dealings with him as much as possible and believe me I know easier said than done but, one things for sure you need to stop allowing him to push you around dig your heels in and tell him what is going to happen and if he does not like it he is also free to take the time to submit an appeal to whatever your asking. With normal people you dont have to deal with them like this but this maniac needs to be put in his place. you baby is not safe with him according to your posts. However after all this you have to sit and think to yourself......... do you just like the drama, after all you are picking him up from work cause the full grown man does not have enough brains to take care of himself. whatever you do be sure about it don’t waste the courts time and tax payers money as I have seen my drama queen girl friends do the same crap! Oh he is this and this and does not do this and that but hey baby you need a lift!

skinnbones

Joined: 5/17/2004

Msg: 5 (view)

Taxes..... who clames the child? Posted: 3/1/2007 9:59:44 AM
I claim my daughter. I get her up get her ready bathe her feed her take her to all appts, take her to and from daycare, take all sick days off, pay for the daycare etc. Now if we shared resposibility I am not sure how that works, but all receipts, medical claimes etc I have and keep track of all her daycare is in my name her school everything. I think for some reason the first year I claimed baily I had to send verification she was my daughter to revenue canada. I think her BC or something of that nature.

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