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Joined: 5/11/2008

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Needing help with my profile Posted: 7/17/2009 10:12:31 AM
I am not getting responses to my profile. I would like honest, constructive criticism of it. Thanks in anticipation of some sound recommendations. I am hopeful that I will get good advice.

Joined: 5/11/2008

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Heels and shorter guys - advice please! Posted: 7/10/2009 1:54:02 PM
I could kiss you! I am a short man, a fact that I never considered. It never bothered me but I have become aware this is in the minds of some potential dates. I am confident and I have dated women all the way up to yes 6 ft. I am 5'5". Never bothers me. I appreciate a beautiful, together, confident woman. I understand tall women have the same issue as short men. When it comes down to it do what you want to and be real. I wish you love. Ben

Joined: 5/11/2008

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How long did it take you to stop looking at profiles/message ppl and just go forums? Posted: 7/7/2009 1:32:30 PM
I've been on here for a while, several months. I just posted for the first time. The forums confirmed what I had been feeling. Meeting people on the site is difficult for both sexes. Knowing that helps and empowered me. I realized that compassion was missing in our interactions. I've also learned that people will inject their own lack of self worth into no response situations. I think the forums are a great opportunity to learn. I wish it was easier for all of us. I wonder if there's a way to qualify what most people are looking for. Also, it would be interesting to know how many people that join and are contacted, never respond, even if they are attracted to profile of the other member. I wonder why some are on here. Maybe people are afraid who they will attract. One thing the forums are showing me is not to make decisions in your head on why or why not some people are reacting to you. You can't come up with that answer. The only way would be to ask each individual and that is not available. Feedback on profiles would be helpful even and especially from people that are not attracted. That will hopefully help you see your presented self more clearly. Thanks for asking this question. It helps to see many using the forums this way.

Joined: 5/11/2008

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Most rejections stem from what is NOT in her profile... Posted: 7/4/2009 11:12:05 AM
Dear "Seriously Seeking You" OMG I bet you wish you didn't post your analyzation. People, he's entitled to his opinion. Let's go back to why people are on here in the first place. Most are looking for an alternative or additional way to try and find a special realationship that results in...LOVE! Low or no response to a profile is probably the normal experience for all people, men and women. Answer this question: Can I be totally represented in a formatted profile, no matter how well designed or crafted for who I actually am.? This is just as much a leap of faith as approaching someone in real time based on an attraction. In realtime, you know nothing of of the person you are going to chat up, except something is attracting YOU and it starts within you. What happens after is where the "dance" of two begins. On line you are provided an informational sheet on the person. The profile can be accurate, or inaccurate, The person may not be good at preparing the profile and may have composed one based on what they would like to be not what they are. Most are probably close but none are totally accurate. We need to be kinder to each other. It would be helpful for people to receive feedback when you're not attracted and won't respond. Try and look beyond the written profile. I'm not saying take a person that has absolutely no common interests or goals and approach them by their looks but reasonably close. I would say that you are on here to attract people and some will approach people on physical attractiveness without consideration to content. While that may not be prudent, I'm sure it happens all the time. I wonder how many successful relationships have happen between people that reached out regardless of differences? My main point is you can't evaluate why someone does or doesn't approach you from this experience. It should help that many really great people don't have a great response from this site, even if in reality they would be the "catch" of the century. LOL! People that really want love will be willing to take the chances and go out on a few less than successful dates. Because they could find LOVE. Peace.

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