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Strangest compliment you've received lately? Posted: 2/17/2009 3:48:27 AM
Well, Dave, you may not ever have to worry about the terrible problem of being with a woman of over 40--at least not the ones who read the forum posts on your profile. thats what all guys do. Its how we deal with being with women who are over 40... we just imagine them when they were 19 or so --Ms. Flis LOL Ms. Flis. And I surely hope that isn't what "all guys" do. How obnoxious. If you have to imagine someone else to be able to stand being with me, then good Lord do us both a favor and keep looking for that under 40 someone who will have you. Perhaps she's imagining someone younger and nicer than you? Back on topic: Hmm ... I had an apparently straight guy compliment my shoes a couple of weeks ago. That was kinda startling. Jules

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It could be worse. Posted: 8/14/2008 9:42:24 PM
Thank you blue and others for your thoughtful posts. Having been through this myself (I lost my 23 year old daughter in 2006), I have a couple of observations. By all means, reach out to people who are grieving, and keep doing so. Your discomfort is not a good reason to avoid it. Try to avoid getting creative with the sentiments - "everything happens for a reason" and "he/she is better off now" are often not welcome in this situation (and for God's sake, avoid the phrase, "I'd have done 'X' but it was just too hard"- you can't even begin to comprehend the hard things this person has been through during that period when you found it too difficult to call/visit/go to the funeral). Stick with the tried and true "I'm sorry." It is sincere and simple and you can't get off into the weeds. Likewise, pressure from all sides as to the appropriate timeline for grief or ideas for memorializing a loved one can add to the burden. It might be better to leave ideas for memorials to family or close friends who know the family well. The time we need to grieve varies wildly from person to person. The timeline for losing a child can be quite different for that of losing a spouse or parent, but generally it is longer. A few months to expect someone to be moving on from any significant loss is probably not enough time. Grief counseling was a godsend to me, but I could not have handled it any sooner than I did, which was a full year after I lost my daughter. Expectations of when and how someone handles grief add to the feelings of being disconnected from the rest of the world - you're crazy in addition to everything else. Try to be aware of whether 17 other people are also suggesting counseling before adding to the onslaught. Suggest but don't be surprised by negative or even hostile reactions. However irrational it may sound, steps to moving on are equated to forgetting their loved one. The discomfort level of the people around the grieving ones is not a reason to rush this process. Finally, I've had several people who were having a conversation with me stop and apologize for talking to me about their normal, day to day problems "because you've been through so much worse." First of all, you're allowed your own trials and tribulations, and in your life, they loom just as large as someone else's "bigger" grief. It doesn't hurt to have the perspective that things could be worse, but it isn't fair to have your own troubles constantly belittled either. And the other thing to remember is that it might be a welcome respite to hear about someone else's everyday NORMAL stuff. Jules

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WHY do men just disappear?? Posted: 8/14/2008 6:29:57 PM
I agree Ms. Flis, that is a lovely post. Jules

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smell plays a big part......!!! Posted: 8/12/2008 11:07:34 PM
Has anyone else found that smell of a persons skin ,hair and the perfume or aftershave they wear can play a part to making you more attracted to them. I answered one of those emailed random facts survey questions "what is your favorite smell" with "freshly washed guy." Jules

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What's equality in a guy's wants for a woman? Posted: 6/29/2008 10:00:22 AM
WeAre1: and OP, why don't you ask your friend what he meant? (save us all guessing) Because she's already gotten an answer and doesn't like it / doesn't agree with it /wants ammunition? I don't believe this is an either/or thing. Men and women are similar in some basic ways, but very, very different in some big basic ways as well. There is also so much variation between individual people that questions like this will always get bogged down with 'but that doesn't fit ME' responses. I also think this is yet another issue that is hugely influenced by the era you grew up in, and whether you had siblings of the opposite gender; what your work environment is. If you had no siblings or siblings of all the same gender, you are maybe more likely to see the other gender as an alien race. If you work exclusively with your gender you might stray toward a skewed view of the other gender (especially if your coworkers spout that kind of stuff). People with a more traditional, old fashioned outlook are more likely to lean towards the genders being "different". I'd have to place myself on that side of the scale, but it is kept in check by growing up with brothers (damned pesky little buggers) and working in an almost completely male environment. I don't see it as a problem until you run into someone who feels the need to see the other gender as inferior. So you get the male-bashing or dumb blond jokes in the email. And surprisingly to me, I'll get those with a nasty little hostile edge to them far more often from people who place themselves on the 'equality' side of the scale than the 'vive la difference' side. The trick is finding the person with the big, basic things that agree - outlook on life, personal integrity and honor, what you want your life to look like. But – the other area I think people have wildly varying ideas about is whether their SO should be just like them and share outlook, interests, opinions, amount of time spent together, or whether they are comfortable with differences. If one person is completely rattled by the idea that their SO has separate interests, friends, and can still feel close while spending time outside the relationship, it won't matter how alike they are in everything else, and how equal they try to make the division of work and salary and giving and cooking and sex and laundry and who takes out the trash. They're going to feel slighted if the other person spends time doing that interest or being with friends apart from them. If one person feels threatened by the other having different opinions and is not comfortable batting those ideas around and lobbing opinions back and forth (this assumes a respectful, fun, pleasant exchange of ideas, not arguments), it won't matter how many other things are perfectly aligned. If you are comfortable with the idea that the other person having separate hobbies or different opinions or deep connections to family and friends doesn't dilute their connection to you, you'll probably be more likely to embrace other differences as well. Jules

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Are US women being taken for granted? Posted: 6/22/2008 7:13:53 PM
So you are saying that men should owe women some thing for sex? ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ It's usually about $200 an hour on Craglist. So I think a love poem, dinner at her favorite restaurant, and holding hands are a bargain. What do you think? Depends on the poem. :D Jules

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Are US women being taken for granted? Posted: 6/22/2008 6:46:10 PM
I think both men and women are taken for granted. Oh Lord! Don't get me started! hehehe LOL Levi you troublemaker ... Jules

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To acknowledge or not?? Posted: 6/20/2008 9:35:08 AM
Oh my I was just going to let this whole topic go by until I got to this post. Instead of dreading how to approach this, is it possible to catch her outside sometime and strike up a conversation? Maybe you could talk for awhile and ask her how she's doing and maybe then she'll open up and talk to you about it. I lost a child a couple of years ago in a car accident. Atlanta is a big place, she was 23 and had a ton of friends, and the ex and I had 20 years worth of professional and personal connections, so the funeral / viewing was huge. There were over 4-500 people at each viewing, and several times that at the memorial service. And yet, we weren't able to reach everyone we knew to let them know, so there were inevitably people who heard months, years after the fact. I don't like having that moment in public, but it can't be helped sometimes. If they don't know what happened, they don't know. BUT: Prior knowledge of the trouble in their life gives you the opportunity to step back and consider the timing of seeing them and talking about it. I don't have ANY objection to someone not coming to the funeral, making contact, or even stepping back after something like this has happened. Their choice. But don't then try to have that "funeral encounter" later at your convenience. Someone who has heard about what happened, didn't come around at the time, but wants to have that encounter at random, at the mall, or out on the street? Pi$$es me off like you wouldn't believe. Because for you, its an uncomfortable moment in an otherwise unremarkable day, or you even feel relieved after, for getting something you "dreaded" out of the way. For me, it will f*ck me up for the rest of the day. Perhaps that's the first day I've been out in a month, or the first time I've felt fairly upbeat, the first time I've felt able to handle a trip to the post office. And you lay that to waste, because you can't be bothered to consider the timing. The rituals of funerals, mourning, etc. are there for a reason, so that you don't have to constantly confront that emotionalism as you try to put your life back together. Someone who has chosen not to share something like cancer with the people around them is desperate to keep that sense of normality in their lives, to NOT have people look at them with The Look. That long, sad face of pity, that ever so sincere hand on the arm, "how are you DOING?? Really?" Well, right now, I have a shopping cart full of groceries and my son is visiting, or I have a date waiting, so if I don't appear all grief-stricken or clutched with gratitude at your caring, forgive me. Harsh, huh? Sometimes getting through the crappy days requires it. Sometimes the "caring" is really just another way to say "look at how great I am, for reaching out to you." Be sure to strip any whiff of that out of your impulse to reach out, and you'll be fine. Then your problem would be solved. Your convenience, your "problem", really isn't what its all about. And forgive me cache for pouncing on your post, you probably didn't mean it this way at all. But this approach does open up the possibility of all that I listed happening, and believe me it isn't fun for either party. These days my reaction to them is quite likely to be kinda hostile, so avoiding that is good. I'm sure you meant well, but you know how that road to hell is paved. Do the gift basket, the card, the note that lets her know you heard she was ill and hospitalized, but not details she might be embarrassed about. And as another poster said, offer assistance, and then follow up with concrete things. With that long an acquaintance, you can probably come up with specifics that would be helpful. But even just scattered cards and notes saying "I am thinking about you" or "I am praying for you" meant SO much to me. They always seemed to come on days when I needed them most. Followup is huge. I applaud your idea Moon, and hope you've already approached your friend. For anyone else, please just don't let it happen at random as suggested here. Plan it out to be the least disruptive as possible. Jules

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Off to Key West-Where do I go? Posted: 6/15/2008 7:01:10 AM
What do I need to make sure I dont miss? These are things my sister and my daughter talked about really enjoying. I haven't been but have always wanted to go ... 1. Snorkeling boat trip - leave any jewelry at the condo - baraccudas are attracted to the flash. My daughter LOVED it 2. Guided tour of historic, famous houses (Hemingway's is interesting even if you're not a fan because of the cats) 3. The whole sunset thing - they both said as cliche as it is, do it anyway. Hope you have a good time, Jules

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why do some girls get so worked up over porn? Posted: 6/14/2008 6:20:12 PM
Talking to certain people is like trying to explain to someone that they aren't really color blind! You could just be honest with everyone here and say that porno chicks make you feel inadequate! Feeling inadequate is very different from being in the position of actually having been compared to the women in porno movies, and coming up short. That isn't me feeling inadequate, that's someone actively making me feel so. Less than perfect porno dimensions, stretch marks, the imperfections that come with age are inevitable, and if you're healthy, you don't obssess over them. Unless your partner does it for you. It's admirable that you aren't that kind of guy but they are out there. In the early part of my marriage I never had a problem with magazines or porno movies, especially the more interesting ones, but even the stupid ones could be giggled over, and we had a lot of fun watching and reading stuff together. But when it slid into being compared unfavorably to them, it was painful and a real cold shower on further intimacy and experimentation (which I'd never been shy about before). Few things make you less willing to even have sex, much less try new things, than criticism for failing to meet a mythical standard in comparison to something that is fake and mercenary. Sketch, it sounds like you're assuming that women who don't like porn (a) feel inadequate about themselves and (b) are not open to the fun of sharing them or open to experimenting and playing. Not true. Jules

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Evolution of the Species... Posted: 6/12/2008 6:44:50 PM
As someone who was married/lived with ex for 30 years, the idea of dating was a horrible bad dream. Somewhere about the time my divorce was final I discovered these forums. Wow. What a multitude of wise /silly /smart /insane people are on here. What the forums have done for me is made it seem (in spite of all the kvetching) like it might not be so bad after all - that there are a lot of decent, interesting guys out there. That there are lots of men who enjoy and appreciate women, and want a lot of the same things out of life. I just never expected that - heard too many scary stories from hostile, bitter women. The dating stories they'd tell reminded me of women who have had babies telling pregnant women the most awful, gory, painful stories, trying to top each other with how their birth was the worst ever. Thank God for the forums! What I NEVER expected was to make friends, especially female friends - it just never occurred to me that could happen. Jules

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TRUE CONFESSIONS - only if you are brave enough Posted: 6/12/2008 6:27:07 PM
There are certain shows I must watch religiously every year.. examples of such are.. For me, Charlie Brown Christmas, Wizard of Oz, Christmas Story, and It's A Wonderful Life. I always cry when I watch It's A Wonderful Life. I sleep with the light on. I'm still not used to sleeping alone and its less scary when I wake up if the light is on. I cook Italian food that Italian friends have given kudos for, but I also love Spaghettios. I love love love the beach, but I hate getting sand on me. I haven't watched TV in over a year unless I'm over at a friend's house. It isn't a philosophical statement or anything, I like TV, and there are several shows that I love, but I just don't think of it when I'm at home. God sends me messages via church signs. Sometimes it's scary how pertinent they can be. Jules

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Am I wrong, you make the call... Posted: 6/11/2008 5:28:26 PM
No you are not wrong. You made it clear you'd already eaten dinner earlier. I'd have been glad of the company, so I wouldn't have to go by myself, and would have badgered you to have more than just a soda AND paid, since it was my idea. Option (1). You're lucky to be rid of her. Although (2) is funny. And here's a beer ... :) Jules

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Does intelligence turn you on? Posted: 6/9/2008 9:40:11 AM
Momarks: "talk nerdy to me" OMG that's funny. But also, true! Smart catches my interest always. But it has to be combined with a sense of fun and a kind heart, or it can actually be a turn-off. With a sense of humor and a curious mind, the conversation can go anywhere and everywhere. I worked in commercial construction for over 20 years, and I've had really interesting conversations on jobsites with people who may not have been super smart, but had skill and passion about what they did, and if you engage them in explaining and showing off what they do, they are only too pleased to do so. I have never been shy about asking the stupid question, even when I think I know a little about something, because the answers sometimes surprise me with how little I actually knew. Expertise and passion is sexy to me, too. "In Like Flint", became a popular phrase I thought it was in like Flynn? But I can't remember what it refers to, so maybe not. Jules

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Fish Whats the best way to eat them Posted: 6/4/2008 4:46:09 PM
My ex-brother in law used to run a charter boat out of Destin, so we always had fresh fish when we went there. I got spoiled - if its more than an hour from the coast I don't trust it to be really fresh (so I don't eat much seafood here and I miss it). I like red snapper just off the boat, fried in a cast iron skillet or grilled with butter, pepper, lemon and some chopped green onions, served with ice cold beer, or king mackerel baked with lemon and pepper and some good white wine. I'm also just fine with a greasy basket of fried fish or gulf shrimp and crinkle fries! :) Yum I'm making myself hungry. I'm headed to the beach tomorrow and we're going to do seafood one night at least! Jules

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at 45 plus why should the distance(miles) between to hearts be so great Posted: 6/4/2008 8:00:02 AM
georgygirl48: If he is a handyman and could help me out with pruning trees and chopping wood etc I might keep him here for good altho the chaperone would be allowed to leave......unless she wanted to hang around to cook and clean house That's just appalling georgygirl. I don't know if you meant to be funny, but there's too much using and taking advantage on both sides for it to be so. Not only does he have to do all the traveling, but he has to pay to bring a chaperone? You don't have friends or family who would do so? Are you looking for a partner, or interviewing for a handyman? (shaking head) Jules

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at 45 plus why should the distance(miles) between to hearts be so great Posted: 6/3/2008 8:57:11 PM
I have met a lady on this site that I/we share a lot in common. We've talked for hours (3 at a stretch once) on end without noticing the time. There is mutual attraction (as best you can tell from pics); interests; humor; lifestyle; goals; rearing; morals; and hell, I even like the tone and timbre of her voice. Lots of good stuff here. There needs to be something to keep you interested and having fun outside the bedroom. Apparently, we're both reluctant to move from our current cities. Reluctant is not the same as refusing. And its early days yet. Not to mention the advent of free minutes. This is just flat funny! And, in that vein, the internet has made talking to someone across the globe just as easy as talking to someone down the street. Maybe even easier. You can talk about big issues and hard topics that you might not have the nerve to talk about in person. Just voices on the phone can seem very intimate. My questions are: Would you give it a chance or nip it in the bud ( remember Barney Fife)? If you decided to give it a chance, how would you proceed? The problem I see is that the distances involved are so significant that traveling back and forth would be a rare thing, unless you both have a lot of cash laying around. And that's going to make any movement towards getting closer really slow. Not that slow is necessarily bad, but a month of weekly dates with someone in town could easily take 6 months to a year with someone out of state, and each meeting would be carrying so much weight, so much importance, rather than just a relaxed enjoying of each other and learning about each other, that you might not really accomplish the goal of getting to know each other. You might never get beyond that nervous "make a good impression" behavior. The problem with continuing to chat on the phone and online is that the building interest and enjoyment of each other might make you miss someone right around the corner, whom you won't even see because your focus is in another state, on another person. All that energy and fun and conversation you've invested in that faraway person isn't available for someone local. And the idealization of that person could make you miss the perfectly wonderful possibility right there in front of you. Maybe the people we meet and connect with are all part of learning what we want to find. So that we'll recognize it when we see it again. If that's true, then there are no wrong turns - it all gets you where you want to be. I'm beginning to think I am simply muddy-ing the water for her. I don't want to be a source of confusion for her. Probably the best thing to do at this point, is for me to back out and remain friends. But she's gonna miss me! She is a lucky lady to have you for a friend! Jules

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Long hair on older women Posted: 6/2/2008 3:03:43 PM
i had long hair (down 2 the middle of my back) until recently when i went in 2 have it cut & as u can c by my pic.. my hair`s quite short now.. the reason y i had gotten it all cut off is b/c i went in 2 get tested 4 cancer.. i figure before i went in that i was going 2 be diagnosed w/it.. so i went ahead & got my hair cut (kinda would take the 'shock value' outta my kids if in the event i did have cancer.. then by that time they would be use 2 seeing me w/short hair).. the results came back.. i`m cancer free!.. BUT still have the short hair!.. I had a cancer scare earlier this year (all clear, thankfully) and one of the first thoughts that crossed my mind was "oh nooooo my hair" LOL. Vanity, vanity. :) I had very long hair in high school, down past the middle of my back, and it was always getting caught in chairs or doors. Or getting tugged by someone wanting to flirt, or just touch it. I got it cut fairly short when I had babies, because their little fingers would get caught in it, and it was way more hassle than long. Now it's only a little below my shoulders, but I too have heard comments (always from women my age or older) about age appropriate lengths. I don't like it short, so I'll be keeping it longer until I don't like it this length anymore. What's curious to me is the (almost) universal preference for long hair from men. I've heard it for years, but always wondered why. Gotta run, hair needs a trim :) Jules

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Hillary Sites Assassination of Robert Kennedy for Reason for Staying in the Presidental Race ? Posted: 5/28/2008 10:25:19 AM
I heard this story on the radio yesterday morning, and was just horrified. First of all, she IS smart enough to know what to say, and what not to say. she is an educated lady who is certainly bright enough to know what to say and what not to say That's a further indictment, not a defense. The problem is not that the statement was twisted out of context, but that there is no context that makes any sense at all, unless the goal all along was to throw that word out there. Is there anyone, even supporters, who don't believe she's canny enough to do that? It doesn't make her point about staying in the race until June in any way. "Bobby Kennedy didn't win until June" does make her point. "Bobby Kennedy was assassinated in June" does not. If it doesn't advance her argument, if it was just a slip of the tongue in an untelevised interview with a print reporter, why did she bring it up two other times? That isn't a mistake, people. That's a plan. Either she's trying to invoke RFK to grab some stature; or she's tossing out the awful fear of something happening to Obama as a bizarre appeal to her voters to hang in there 'cause you never know; or she's just that lacking in human feeling to understand how volatile and horrifying that prospect is to people not blinded by ambition. All of those options are very unattractive. All of those options are entirely likely. Maybe this is the miscalculation that will finally rid us of Hillary and her poisonous moral code from the national political scene forever. I too hope and pray that Obama has a safe, fair, well fought campaign. I hope and pray that the Secret Service is at the top of their game. Jules Keith Olbermann is no friend to conservatives, listen to what he has to say about it. He goes on an absolute rant, and he makes some good points about why using that term is so offensive. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J8CsQyr6vlc&feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CshouGMwvVg&feature=related

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Friends with Exes - Is It Really Such A Bad Thing? Posted: 5/25/2008 11:14:45 AM
But, as friends, they are okay. They have all dropped hints recently about wanting to have sex with me again though. And 2 of them want a second chance. Here's one big reason that could (and did) cause me to cut off trying to maintain friendship. One or the other would inevitably read that to mean more than it does. Being civil for the sake of kids is appropriate, but I think seeing each other with mutual friends really muddies the water, especially for kids, but for you too. There's the problem of focus - if you're still maintaining a relationship that is OVER, what do you have left for the next one? I'd be really taken aback to meet someone, get introduced round the table, and that person says "this is my ex". I'd think "He's not done with her." Especially if they are still arguing or fighting over silly things - if there's still enough heat there to fight, I'd be concerned. If you're fighting and arguing about things other than kids (because there's always going to be that ongoing negotiation over kids) why in the world do you still have that person in your life? I know there are a lot of people who manage to blend the old spouse and family and friends with the new, I just think it must be very confusing sometimes. Perhaps I'm just not cool enough to juggle all that. Are we talking ex-boyfriend or ex-spouse here? I would think there's a big difference in a long term marriage and a "relationship" that may or may not be a few months to a few years in duration. As someone else said, I don't think its clear here what kind of relationships we're talking about in the original question nor in several of the responses. My point of view is that of someone in a long marriage (26 years) so that maybe makes a big difference in my opinion. I'd have to think that your history with the ex - inside jokes, shared history, all that - would be disconcerting, if not threatening to a new love interest, especially if you're actually dating and meeting new people in this mixed group that includes the ex. I'm also having trouble with the concept of being friends with someone I don't respect. I don't think you have to be actively hating your ex, in fact that's just as bad as maintaining a friendship hoping for more. Still too much focus on something you should have moved on from. Jules

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The Perfect Love Letter Posted: 5/18/2008 9:38:47 PM
I love this quote. For some reason it reminds me of the thread about kissing, which turned into a thread about what a good kiss was. That if you do it right, at the end of it you are stunned and dazed and not quite sure what happened, just that it was good :) "To write a good love letter, you ought to begin without knowing what you mean to say and to finish without knowing what you have written." -- Jean-Jacques Rousseau Jules

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Would it be a turn off? Posted: 5/17/2008 2:08:34 PM
Are you kidding? It would be refreshing as hell!! It would beat the hell out of hearing how many FWB's or FB's she was doing until the RIGHT one came along LOL I gotta say its a relief to hear this. And this has been illuminating ... good meter to know whether you've misplaced that decision to finally step out. Or should I say misjudged that first (post divorce) person to sleep with. So far, the gentlemen have voted for "cute", "refreshing", "not a problem", etc. and the rest of you would run for the hills. Keep right on self-selecting, guys. Jules

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Is kissing more or less important to you in a relationship as you get older? Posted: 5/17/2008 1:37:30 PM
It's still important, but not the crazy make out sessions that teenagers get into, since none of us are virgins anymore. Lots and lots of good stuff in this thread! But this one stopped me in my tracks. I remember teenaged kissing as mostly fumbling and clumsy rushing towards The Goal Line. In my twenties, babies and the resulting exhaustion from lack of sleep conspired to cause me to rush past the kissing part to get to the "good stuff". So it wasn't until my thirties I realized that the kissing could be an end in itself. Almost nothing is better than getting lost in a kiss - one that leaves you dizzy and incoherent and not quite sure where you are, unaware of anything outside the arms of the person kissing you ... Oh yes. And as someone else said, it's one thing you can't do for yourself :) My vote is MORE important. Jules

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Plentyoffish Music using IMEEM - How To Use Posted: 5/15/2008 4:40:05 PM
I have created a playlist, loaded it to my profile with no trouble. However, I UNchecked the option for random play, but it is still playing stuff in random order, and I selected a color option on the player, but POF is ignoring that too. Not a big deal, but if we can't do the autoplay (as I read in here) I guess we can't make the imeem player play the songs in the order we've entered them either. Would be nice to know, so I can ignore it and stop trying to make it work :) I am also concerned (and have not seen the issue answered) about the security question with clicking on the player and jumping to that person's playlist, which may expose usernames and email addresses that we didn't know would be revealed. Can someone answer that one? if so there's probably a lot of people who need to change the email address and username on their imeem accounts for safety reasons. Perhaps a warning to POFers to use a safe email address and username that isn't tied to any other sites such as Facebook or MyS p a c e? Thanks for adding this feature.

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