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mike the mench

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How many messages a day do u get on average? Posted: 11/26/2009 10:06:08 AM
Oh I'd say 1 or 2 every month

mike the mench

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Rejecting a person and receiving a nasty reply Posted: 11/24/2009 6:58:55 AM
The things that I find interesting is when a guy writes a nice polite e-mail and gets it read/deleted but as soon as the guy gets hostile the person is very quick to respond to that? Why is that? I figured it would be the other way if a guy sends a nasty message I'd hope the woman would shake her head say what a looser and read/delete and block the person but alas 99% they dont they want to respond to the guy being nasty lol

mike the mench

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Would you message someone if you knew they weren't going to respond? Posted: 11/21/2009 5:16:53 AM
"But I have a few friends who use this site with no intention of meeting guys" I certainly hope those friends of yours that have no intention of meeting guys have their profiles set to "talk/e-mail"

mike the mench

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In case your a serial killer in a profile Posted: 11/15/2009 9:10:56 AM
and I need to make a quick exit...

mike the mench

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In case your a serial killer in a profile Posted: 11/15/2009 8:43:22 AM
I saw it in a woman's profile today and it got me thinking.. which is why I asked the question is all...

mike the mench

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In case your a serial killer in a profile Posted: 11/15/2009 7:24:04 AM
What does everyone think of seeing this statement in a profile? I know for one I would avoid contacting this person because by using this statement it tells me shes uneducated about the internet dating scene and tells me their paranoia level is at an all time high

mike the mench

Joined: 5/14/2008

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Creepy Posted: 11/15/2009 6:01:47 AM
Creepy means this... not attracted to him physically... I'm sure on most of these dates from here this women say the guy is creepy. I can bet 95% of the time it was not because the guy was actually creepy it was because she was not attracted to him physically therefore she calls him creepy. I'm not talking about the post here just making a general observation.

mike the mench

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Sending RL Guys to Online Profile Posted: 11/13/2009 11:52:19 AM
She just wants to see how many desperate loosers there are on this site. Its the same when a woman posts a very sexy photo. She just uses the site for entertainment purposes and has no real intention of ever meeting anyone. Thats the reason a woman puts long term/dating on her profile.. To see how many men she can play with. If she puts Talk/Email she would never get any responses

mike the mench

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Baffled, Hurt and I Did Give Too Much of Myself Too Early... Posted: 11/11/2009 4:30:50 PM
or a guy or girl you met in real life first to share a bed on a 1st meeting.... lets not forget that one too landra

mike the mench

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Baffled, Hurt and I Did Give Too Much of Myself Too Early... Posted: 11/11/2009 1:51:06 PM
"never ever ever in a MILLION years would i interduce an internet date to my children on the first meeting..its irresponsible as hell" I certainly hope you wouldnt introduce any kind of date to your kids on a 1st meet. Be it a guy you met in real life or on the internet... Both to me would seem irresponsible as hell Do people agree with me on this?

mike the mench

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People won't share or exchange pictures Posted: 11/8/2009 8:12:39 AM
Becauser they dont want all these random people on the internet knowing what they look like. Once you put your picture out there its public domain and I guess people have a fear of their pictures getting into the wrong hands

mike the mench

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Impatient in meeting Posted: 11/7/2009 7:19:35 PM
It'll all work out for us guys... all we need to do is take aaamm's words to heart and see how it works for us.. Hopefully it'll work out....

mike the mench

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Impatient in meeting Posted: 11/7/2009 7:17:37 PM
we need to all accept that this way of dating is completely backwards

mike the mench

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Impatient in meeting Posted: 11/7/2009 3:04:12 PM
Maybe... but I've been doing this a long time and have always ended up with a pen pal... when I've taken my time....

mike the mench

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Impatient in meeting Posted: 11/7/2009 2:07:07 PM
What I am talking about are people who get along very well in the 1st online chat..... cover alot of ground.... I've had many of those and no matter what or how long we've talked for that day they still say " I dont even know you" to which I respond well what did we just spend 2 hours doing then?? they then say " I dunno or I dont know" lol

mike the mench

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Impatient in meeting Posted: 11/7/2009 12:34:49 PM
"omg! this happen to me way 2 many times. ive had men and women who wanted to meet me on the same day we just started chatting. im like arent u concern about ur safety? " Do you leave your house at all???? But wait? Arent you concerned about your safety going grocery shopping or going to work?? do you have bestbuy security walk you to and from your car??? How about going into a burger place for a hamburger??? Do you go alone?? Or do you have a guy the Size of Mr T with you at all times?????????? All the same risks involved here ladies.... Meeting in a public place should be good enough.... Maybe not meeting the same day but later that week sure... whats the big deal????

mike the mench

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I don't want to be interviewed Posted: 11/7/2009 9:50:21 AM
I wanted to add this was the first time we had spoken on the phone so what was she expecting? lol . How can one expect a convo to flow like you've known the person for years when its the 1st time you've chatted on the phone? I have a feeling that she really wasnt into me so turning it around and saying it was an interview was her way of rejecting and not wanting any further contact..

mike the mench

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I don't want to be interviewed Posted: 11/7/2009 9:14:44 AM
I just had this happen a woman closed the match on me on e-harmony because she felt she was being interviewed and that I was reviewing her resume or something lol geez all I was doing is asking her basic get to know you questions.... Alot of very strange people out there lol

mike the mench

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First meet at home Posted: 11/7/2009 8:15:12 AM
"Meeting a stranger from an internet dating site at your home is not only silly it is potentially dangerous" But inviting a guy to go home with you after a drunk night at the bar is not dangerous at all right??

mike the mench

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Creepy Posted: 11/6/2009 12:03:58 PM
It only took one date for me to decide I do NOT drive to anyone. Guys are lazy anymore when it comes to dating, they want you to drive to them. I dont feel a man should pick you up at your home since this is a dating site Why is it not ok for a man to pick you up from your house just because its a guy off the internet? What makes a guy you meet at the bar or anywhere else any less dangerous and any less threatning that he should know your home address period! !st dates no matter where you meet the guy in this day and age should be meeting at the public place 1st... Does anyone else agree with me?

mike the mench

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Let's take a walk in the woods Posted: 10/31/2009 3:25:58 PM
Just use common sense out there guys :) I wish everyone the best

mike the mench

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Astounded by the amt of perverts on here... Posted: 10/29/2009 7:04:33 AM
Here it is.... Some guys know they are never going to meet you.. so they go for gold and by going for gold I mean being perverted so if you think they are a freak or loser or whatever they dont care because they are a nameless faceless person to you and anyone else on this site

mike the mench

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Astounded by the amt of perverts on here... Posted: 10/29/2009 5:40:06 AM
There are some.. and its a shame...

mike the mench

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Is this a date or a job interview? Posted: 10/25/2009 4:14:25 PM
It doesnt matter what you do.. women are always going to say " I dont even know you" no matter how many chats you've had and for how long and also if you cover all the basic topics women will still say they "dont even know you" so therefore thats why the online chats drag on and on and on... How many times can you talk about the same things in a chat or a series of chats and stil have the person say " I dont even know you" Its very frustrating because people seem to chat about everything for a couple of weeks and then when guys ask to meet thee women come back with the " I dont even know you" statement which leaves guys thinking what did we just do for 2 weeks chatting then?

mike the mench

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Talking about sex before even meeting Posted: 10/21/2009 4:36:02 AM
I had a woman who I was talking to on E-harmony close my match last night because she said our phone call made her uneasy and I made some very big assumptions about a first meeting. All I think I did was harmless flirting. We had made plans to go bowling so I said lets put a wager on the game. She said like what? play for money? I said no... everytime you roll a strike the other person gets a kiss. She giggled and said who looses then. I said there are no loosers then lol There was not 1 single thing I said in our convo that she gave me any indication that I made her uneasy. Lots of laughter, said shes looking forward to our date etc... and I'll talk to you next week. Happy thanksgiving.

mike the mench

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why waste your time with excuses? Posted: 10/18/2009 5:54:31 AM
its hard for people to have any kind of bad conflict so they choose to just disapear

mike the mench

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The use of the word Cuddle Posted: 10/16/2009 7:38:38 AM
with some guys that is what it means yes... not all but some but they dont want to come out and directly say it because that would make them look creepy

mike the mench

Joined: 5/14/2008

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How long to wait for an answer (for an introductory message)? Posted: 10/16/2009 5:24:41 AM
What I do now is delete all my sent messages after I send them. That way out of sight out of mind.

mike the mench

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seeing the person you've just started dating on a date with someone else Posted: 10/14/2009 6:51:40 AM
Until theres commitment on both sides we are free to date and see who we choose right? Both men and women...

mike the mench

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Fishing for you to call him- looking for honest opinions Posted: 10/12/2009 4:57:46 PM
Its a phone number.. block your number if it worries you that much.... Not to mention what will happen if you talk on the phone? You'll hear if the girl is actually a girl and not a guy..... and vice versa..

mike the mench

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Meeting a girl for the first time in real life... Posted: 10/10/2009 6:12:02 PM
The last thing I would want is a man I may not be interested in hugging me when we first meet Werent you interested enough to meet them??

mike the mench

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What is with the insults?!?! Posted: 10/10/2009 9:07:30 AM
As soon as you read the nasty message.. hit the block button... and make sure you dont respond. Most of these guys are looking for a reaction from you

mike the mench

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No connection, no chemistry, no passion...but....they're nice? Posted: 10/6/2009 6:55:24 AM
Some women have told me they know within the first 30 seconds if they are attracted to a guy or not....

mike the mench

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People are standoffish on POF because internet is perceived as creepy. Posted: 10/1/2009 6:51:26 AM
I've been doing this for about 12 years and when I first started the stigma was this.... only people who'd use internet dating are loser and wierdos who couldnt get a date in real life if their life depended on it..... Oh theres more... the guys would be typing away in their mothers dark basement and the only light they'd get is the light glaring off the computer screen. Not to mention the guys didnt shower or shave for days upon end.. just spend 24 hours locked in that dark basement typing away. Hows that for a stigma?? :)

mike the mench

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Why do people actually come on here if they don't ever plan to meet anyone offline? Posted: 10/1/2009 6:44:19 AM
I'd change your profile to "talk email" then.

mike the mench

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Another kissing question... Posted: 10/1/2009 5:51:37 AM
It has nothing to do with timing. I had a woman tell me its all about the timing. No it isnt. Its about if you are into that person. If you are truly into the guy/girl and they are truly into you they would have no problems kissing you.... The truth is with people now a days we realy dont know them.... period.... How about the women that say... oh a year into our marriage I found out my husband was living a double life...

mike the mench

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They don't have to meet you to act like wackjobs Posted: 9/30/2009 5:26:21 AM
I only push if I see we had a great repoure.... if I dont push.. I'll end up with an online chat buddy and I dont want that at all.... and I do ask about them and they do reveal info about themselves

mike the mench

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They don't have to meet you to act like wackjobs Posted: 9/29/2009 7:17:19 PM
I've noticed the longer you chat the less likely you are to meet. I've had situations where you have great chats for a week or so and then you ask to meet and they say " I dont even know you" and I'm thinking to myself.. what did we just do here for the week then... Another sure tell sign you'll never meet the person is they are like tell me about yourself... and then your like is there anything else you want to know? they say I dunno.... thats another sure sign that you'll never meet the person.

mike the mench

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how soon is too soon to meet? Posted: 9/28/2009 6:02:17 AM
"Really, what is all the hype about meeting people on the internet?? If you meet a new person at a bar or club, they are total strangers just like on the internet" the difference is you can see them in the flesh.. how they act towards others, how they move, their mannerisms. On the net people can be anyone they want behind a computer screen

mike the mench

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how soon is too soon to meet? Posted: 9/27/2009 3:22:13 PM
"lol you have to wonder why he pushed so much " Because the longer it drags on the less likely you are to meet.... I've had situations when I started talking to the girl and we had a great chat for a long time. Learned a whole bunch of stuff about each other. I ask them to meet a day or two later and they freak out... " I dont even know you" well then what the hell did we just spend doing? lol

mike the mench

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First message good, then no second message?? Posted: 9/27/2009 7:19:50 AM
What I do is delete all my sent messages and then I dont worry about what the women do with them.

mike the mench

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Verbal Rejection vs Silence Posted: 9/23/2009 5:28:25 PM
Send the thanks no thanks e-mail to the guy/girl and then hit block user... problem solved :)

mike the mench

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Am I over reacting Posted: 9/21/2009 4:43:48 AM
"I would NOT want a strange man from the internet, whom I had only known a few hours, to walk me to my car" But a strange man you met at a bar, a grocery store or some other place other than the internet would be ok to have him walk you to your car right landra?

mike the mench

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Guys asking to meet with you immediately Posted: 9/20/2009 5:18:20 AM
I say if the 2 people want to take their time in meeting thats great. However dont take too long. I'd say a week or two of chat first is long enough to figure out if the guy is worth meeting or not.

mike the mench

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does a hug mean she's not really attracted Posted: 9/17/2009 2:22:18 PM
Go in for the kiss next time and show her you got balls she might kick you in the balls if she doesnt want you to kiss her

mike the mench

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Touchy-Feely Posted: 9/17/2009 11:31:59 AM
If on a 1st date I'm feeling the chemistry I do like to get a bit touchy feely to test the waters...

mike the mench

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Profile review Posted: 9/17/2009 5:59:57 AM
Someone please review my profile and let me know what you think. Thanks. I just want to make sure I get some responses and havent been. Pictures and words of mine. How is everyone's september going so far?

mike the mench

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Common Courtesy Posted: 9/16/2009 11:30:27 AM
Very simple ladies.. reply... thanks no thanks and hit the block botton... no backlash of nasty e-mails then :)

mike the mench

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Not a touchy feely person Posted: 9/15/2009 9:16:55 PM
I believe that its ok to do even on a 1st date if you are into each other. The problem is with online dating is the fact that no matter how long you talk or how well the 1st date goes they stil consider you a complete stranger

mike the mench

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Would you date someone who is disabled? Posted: 9/13/2009 5:58:44 AM
Hazel..... Again please explain this way of thinking?? in the latter outcome you still end up with the same challanges "If I fell for a guy, and later on he became disabled, then I would deal with it" Wouldnt you still have this tremendous strain????

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