met my girlfriend through facebook oddly enough. We talked on the phone for 3 weeks every night for at least an hour per night. We hit it off on the phone in the beginning, we felt a strong connection on the phone and everything felt so right. We met in person for the first time for dinner and a movie and it sucked. We had nothing to talk about (we had already talked about everything on the phone), plus the awkwardness of having the person you had only seen in pictures prior being right in front of you now.

Another element to this story is I have not had a real girlfriend before. She knows this. So naturally I am inexperienced in being intimate, etc and I hate it with a passion. I always feel awkward when I try to do anything intimate with her, and have to keep reminding myself that it's ok to kiss/touch her, she's my girlfriend. We met again a week later and it wasn't much better, but it was better. We played Wii for several hours and seemed to have fun, we started bonding a bit and I felt myself relaxing more (she has complained that I am too stiff, but this comes from my insecurity and nervousness from never having a girlfriend). Later that evening I was helping her clean before I left to go home and she wrapped her arms around my neck, presumably wanting to do some kissing, etc. I transformed it into an awkward hug because I was a nervous whimp, and she was noticeably turned off by that. She commented that I don't know how to be sensual with her.This allows you to quote a previous post.

I’m disappointed in the way we are slowly allowing are rights and customs to be taken from us

why would a guy spend 6 months with me, take me to meet his parents and then a week later say he doesn't want a relationship with me? But says he still wants to be friends with me. He says he thinks about me all the time and in the week since has already called to just say "hi"This allows you to quote a previous post.

He wrote back and said this “I have been thinking about you a lot lately, wondering how you're doing, wondering if I'll ever see you again etc. I wanted to write, but really wanted to take the time to write you.” The reason he had not written was because he was in Hong Kong and still is. Work has been crazy busy for him with two trips back to back and he had told me about the trip, but I hadn’t realized it was so soon. We have now been writing back and forthThis allows you to quote a previous post.

: I've been emailing back and forth with a gentleman on POF for a little over a month now. We've had a couple of hour or more long conversations. We talk non-stop, make each other laugh, etc. We were supposed to meet this past Saturday. We talked on Friday for a while and he even called me back just to say hi later on that afternoon. I asked him if we were still on for Saturday, and said, "Sure". He never called back. And I've not heard from him at all. Why? What happens? This allows you to quote a previous post.

Subject: Help I need a man's perspective
Message: When a man you formally dating pops up where you are at showing off his new girl what is the motive? This has been going on for awhile now with a man I really cared about although it didnot work out. This allows you to quote a previous post.

Show ALL Forums > Ask A Guy > Whats with the pervs This allows you to quote a previous post.Posted By: deemitt on 3/30/2009 337 PM
Subject: Whats with the pervs

I went for a bike ride with the guy I am interested in the other day, I initiated it by asking him to go but he said yes. Later on though he told me he had an appt. in the morning and forgot to tell me.. so he texted me and emailed me at the same time that night to set a later time we could go .I am unsure whether or not he is interested in me or not, im so clueless when it comes to this. on the bike ride He teased me a bit and made me laugh, let me decide where we were riding, laughed at things I said, touched my hand briefly once but after that he didnt really touch me.. but he Paid attention to things I said and even remembered things I said earlier on in the conversation, he also did a flip on top of this statuThis allows you to quote a previous post.

awhile ago i was seeing a guy
he said i was his everything and that i had changed his life and gave him another shot at life
days later he texted me saying he still loved his ex and that he cant see me again or even be friends

im kind of over it now, but why cant some men just be honest from the start?
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I have no clue if he's taking it slow or isn't interested...
Message: So I met a guy on here, He's local and fun so we decided to meet up in a public place.

So we've been hanging out for a while, then he deleted his account on here. He told me he's "not dating right now" but then he followed it up with "i go on those sites to make friends" and then added again, "i don't like to date someone i don't know, i'd rather be friends first"This allows you to quote a previous post.

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I know good looking girls are going to get picked over more plainer girls, but I just want to clarify something.

Are you guys attracted to "that certain something" about someone when it comes to asking someone out? I mean if your heart is beating fastThis allows you to quote a previous post.

Need a guy's perspective here as I'm confused. Met a lovely guy online. He seemed interested, contacted me and wanted to chat, said he's attracted and very interested. He seems lovely. He's suggested meeting, we've swapped phone numbers, but I didn't want to go too fast as we've only just got chatting. So I said I wanted to get to know him a bit before talking on the phone. He seemed OK with thaThis allows you to quote a previous post.

Men are so weird. And even at my age I'm clueless. There's this guy from Quebec that I met online last summer so it's over 8 months now. We talked and realized that he would never move to California and I would never move to Florida (he asked although he didn't invite me to live in Canada ) and I told him in December there was no point in continuing to talk-I didn't hear from him for two months tThis allows you to quote a previous post.

I am sure this question has been asked before BUT what are the impressions of a guy from that front?

In my mind, women have something of a shelf-life where after a point 'never married' becomes a red flag. I know that typically women marry younger than men, and it is presumed that most women 'want' to get married. So where does that leave girls like me?This allows you to quote a previous post.

Hi, I have a little bit of a complicated situation so here it is... Theres a guy at my university that I have liked all year, We know eachother but at the team we were not really friends..a few months later he then got a girlfriend but they've since then broken up, he also now knows that i like him. A month ago we went for a walk and he wasn't all that talkative but I know that is just his personality. But in the paThis allows you to quote a previous post.

ty is getting fat too acclimated to novelties of the "Text Era." Texting i's so much more succinct, non-confrontational, and drama-free. However, this is a "dating" site, where two "single" people who share the same likes and have some sort of compatibility, decide at some point to physically (AND that includes "verbally") communicate. My take is that she's a creeper with her foot halfway out the door, who keeps her phone on vibrate so that her man won't know about her dirty deeds. Besides that, there are lot's oThis allows you to quote a previous post.

Hi POF,

I am trying to figure out if I should leave the lovely Bay Area for LA....

I'm looking at schools in S. Cali, UC Riverside & CAL State LA are looking good academically for what I want...

Everyone I know says I will HATE L.A. I really haven't spent any time down there to know and am planing a week-long trip in a few months.
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TI am just curious and wanted to take a poll on how many people have actually met and dated and or married from one of these sites? I have been on several and am a bit pessimistic about the whole thing. I know many others that have had no success and don't bother with online dating anymore and are fed-uphis allows you to quote a previous post.

If you were in a crowd of women, what type of woman would most likely grab your attention? What are you most attracted to in a woman? What qualities about a woman totally turns you on. I want to know about the physical qualities and personality.This allows you to quote a previous post.

Why do some guys IM you without bothering to read your profile? I state exactly what I'm not looking for , which is a casual hookup and they continually just IM for sex? not all.. but quite a few. Why not read the short info first to see if she be"into" your pursuit of the "fling"This allows you to quote a previous post.

Ok from the beginning here, I went to school with this guy, we were really good friends back then and one thing led to another and we both had our own things and left the school and all contact was dropped. Well just recently we found each other online again and started talking, Well he told me one day that he liked me still, and would definitly see himself with me long term one day, and would text me in the mornings "good morning beautiful"get my son into moto x and just all these big plans, but yet it seems like he only wants sometThis allows you to quote a previous post.

A gnetleman contacted me, impressed by my profile. When I shared what I was doing for the weekend he told me he was actually in Germany...until May. I wrote back that e-mail and text are fine to a point but you really miss out on the face to face interactions---expression of face and eyes, smile, laughter,body language, and flirting. He wrote back that I seemed amazing and he hoped I was still available when he gotback. He says he is very busy, which he could be, but I only hear from him about once a week. Is this normal? This allows you to quote a previous post.

Met this guy and we had a great first meeting in the afternoon, he asked to see me later that day because he was having such a good time so we met up later that day again. He stated on the first date that he was enjoying himself and really liked me so we set up a second date. Second date went well, dinner, movie at his place and I did end up staying over but nothing happened (well nothing to me), This allows you to quote a previous post.

Question to you all on this: I am emailing on POF with a fellow.
We've emailed almost 2 weeks, & discussing about meeting for the first time.
So I go onto POF this AM, and his profile has disappeared.
I emailed him on personal email address, he states he doesn't know what happened but he's been deleted by POF.This allows you to quote a previous post.

A new guy wrote that he was impressed by my profile & our similarities & asked if we could meet while he was in my town. We met & seemed to really hit it off. He invited me out again that night - it was great. Next day he visited a friend & changed his driving plans to come back through my town to hang on his way home.
We have each others numbers & were texting that weekend & before going home, he talked about visiting the next weekend & wanting to see me again. I This allows you to quote a previous post.

actually be freinds with an ex girlfreind??
after dating for 3 yrs an living togeather for 4.. we broke up...(i moved out)(long story)

he seems to think that he could be 'just' freinds with me....
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Im seeing this guy for a month ..we dont have a relationship right now just getting to know each other.Yesterday, I went out with him we ran together since he lives close to where we ran(seawall in Vancouver)..i went to his condo for a bathroom needs.
I was dismayed or turned off because his toilet was dirty --there were dried pee on the floor.I thought he was a neat and clean guy...he phoned me last night then just right now..im not answering his phone calls.
I feel like i want to disappear on him? am i bad?.

We had been seeing each other for 7 years. He lived with his parents he is (54) due to a failure in business and finanical fall out, at the same time never really held a job in this time. I myself was on my own with 3 children, 2 jobs to make ends meet. I feel deeply in love with him. We saw each other maybe twice a week, but mostly did anything Saturday evenings, it wasnt much, but being with him and loving him, you compromise, so I did this out of love for him. We were not close by to each other, 45 min. drive to each others homes. I helped him out wherever I could as well. We talked on the phone everyday for 7 years as well. He did help me out with fixing things around the This allows you to quote a previous post.

So my question is: If you could say one thing that you figure you'll never figure out
about a woman....What would it be?

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I've been talking to this guy for about 2 weeks. We connect like I've never connected with anyone before! We talk for hours...call each other all day long..sometimes we don't talk. He's told friends about me already. We don't talk about sex. I've talk with him some nights from anywhere to 4 to 9 hours a night...plus the morning hours, on and off. We've talked about serious things. I've had my share of players and he seems sincere. This allows you to quote a previous post.

Meet a guy on POF because a girlfriend wanted me to check out his profile. I viewed it and a couple of days later he emailed me. I used to live in his state, which is where my girlfriend lives. We decided to just be friends, email buddies, dating advice, etc. Now he has decided to change the relationship and come and visit me down south. He booked the flight and rented the hotel. Our conversations have now changed to more intimate one's. Is it a 600 mile booty call or could he really be into me??? I do plan to move back to his area in about a year and he knows that. This allows you to quote a previous post.

So, I met this really great guy on here about a month and a half ago. We talked on MSN for a few days and decided to meet. First meet was just a drive and coffee which is just fine by me. We had pretty good conversation (which is usually a little hard for me) and the chemistry really seemed to be there. When I dropped him off at his car he kissed me and we made plans f

TBeing as though I am fairly country myself. My profile states " All I want is a country boy at heart".

Just wanted to know if you guys would see that as a red flag ? I mean, I love life .. the outdoors more then just about anything. Could I be keeping away good potential mates ?

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Hey, I have a date planned for Saturday night. A date that will take place in the bedroom...lol. I want to make it a night that will rock his world.
I was wondering what kind of things guys find especially awesome when it comes to a date like this....any suggestions? candles? whipped cream? etc...This allows you to quote a previous post.

I was just wondering, how much attention do men really pay to a girls fingernails? Because of my job, I'm not able to have my nails painted or get acrylics. But should I make sure they're painted before going on a date? Does a normal guy pay attention to this small detail? Just so you know men, It takes at least 30 min to get your nails done, plus $20 for a manicure, then you can't do much after for another 30 min so This allows you to quote a previous post.

I'm separated but not divorced yet. Believe me when I say I am sooo over him. Actually, I depise him for many good reasons and can't wait for my freedom. Are women who are just separated and going through a divorce generally unappealing to men? Is it assumed that perhaps the woman is not over the man yet? I haven't been in a relationship in many years. Yes, I was married, but I was emotionally starved. I'm in no way ready to begin a new relationship (I don't want to bring any baggage into a new relationship) but I am tired of being alone and would like to have some fun. Most women just don't do all of the crazy, adventurous stuff I like to do. I am also finding , in general, that men my age and a bit older seem too old for me. I'm a very young 46 What do you guys think???

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He sent me a text message about 1 hour after the date ended letting me know he had a great time and that we must hang out again sometime.
Two things here: 1. He could have ended the date early but asked to continue (we were already togehter around 2 hours at that point)
2. Sent me a message afterwards telling me he had fun (I did not message him first)

I emailed him last week and haven't heard back. It's been a week 1/2 since the date. Clearly I'm not going to hear from him again. But what gives?
I should mention that he'd just gotten out of a long-term relationship about three months prior. So, in all honesty he's not going to be ready for a relationship (most likely) and I know this. I guess I was just psyched that we both had a great time, and now am kind confused as to why someone would just drop off the face of the earth. Probably won't ever really know. But, there's the scenario, for what its worth. Any insight?

I know some girls do this too... but my question is to you fellas.

When first talking to a girl, whether on the phone or in person, do you feel that talking about your ex- is acceptable? Whether it's good or bad.

Constantly bringing up an ex in a current conversation is just tacky and shows you are not over the person. Stop doing it!

My question is simply--why chat up the entire conversation about your ex? And secondly, if you are not over your ex-why not date when you are over the person?This allows you to quote a previous post.

do guys automaticly think a girl is a freak if when the topic of sex is brought up she actually talks about it?

and do they think that they are easy after they talk about it?This allows you to quote a previous post.

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Message: What's the deal with a guy wearing an anklet? I knew a guy through a friend, it was last summer - and I saw him in shorts/sandals - no anklet. I set him up with a friend of mine and over the winter - under his heavy socks and boots - there was an anklet. She was kind of surprised, and I don't think I've ever seen or known a man to wear an anklet...she was kind of wondering, is that a California thing? This allows you to quote a previous post.

Okay, so this is something I've struggled with, and I'm wondering if anyone else is dealing with the same issue. I date. Well, let me step back, I first date. I get asked on second dates, or third dates, but quite often I seem to panic and decide that I'm just not really ready for more. These are perfectly nice guys, but for some reason, I start to feel pressured and decide that I'm not really interested in pursuing a relationship at this time. I'm sure I'm giving off some crazy mixed signals to the gentlemen. Part of me feels like I want more, but then I start thinking about it, and I kinda freak and think I don't. Do the rest of you struggle with this, and how do you know if you really are ready for more?This allows you to quote a previous post.

As far as raising children in the nudist lifestyle? Any parent can tell you that after dressing their small child, they'll turn their head to find said small child running around naked, having liberated themselves from the offending clothing.

We're all nudists from the get go.This allows you to quote a previous post.

TTheres a guy I have liked for a long time and he knows I do. I have asked him to hang out a few times but it never worked out until I asked him again and he agreed to go for a walk with me the other day. When I talk to him online he is pretty open and friendly but In person he seems much more quiet. He has told me his shy too. but the whole time we hung out I initiated most of the conversation, there were a few silences , and he didnt make eye contact really at all, he answered when I mentioned things and made me laughhis allows you to quote a previous post.

Ive got his first mail on the 14th of November 2008. We started to write mails reguarly then we started talking on the phone.
We wanted to meet last year but then he said he has to work at that weekend in December.( hes in the army and lives about 400 km away).
Then we saThis allows you to quote a previous post.

Okay, so I met this guy online back in September, we chatted and what not and than after 3 months he was really committed to meeting me, so i gave it a try, we went to a movie and it ended with a hug. Now before we met we texted like non stop, after we met it stayed the same for a week or so and than totally slowed down until eventually it was just stupid forwards he was sending. About a month ago it started up again, random texts, and "Good mornings" everyday....and "goodnight muffins". Oh and well i guess i should mention he moved to go to This allows you to quote a previous post.

This allowsHow do you view some girl who never had a boyfriend
Message: personally it wouldnt bother me as upto last year id never had a girlfriend so it would be a good icebreaker. judging by the info id say that having a career is important to her but she would also like to have the comfort of being with someone.

and im available if she wants to chat sometime you to quote a previous post.

TIt seems ok for guys to be loners, but not girls since we're "supposed" to be more social. But what if some of us just aren't?

So, I'd like an honest answer from the guys. If you are considering meeting a girl and she tells you she's more of a loner, is that a red flag? Is that automatically a bad sign to you? Do you prefer girls who are more outgoing and friendly with other people? What does a girl being a loner say to you? his allows you to quote a previous post.