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Joined: 5/16/2008

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question about no sex desire- honest and realistic answers only Posted: 1/2/2009 3:33:06 AM
As with everyone in this age bracket each of you should have a complete physical and address this issue with your physician. Many factors can be underlying reasons affecting libido of either partner: blood pressure/meds Diabetes/meds Depression: some medications can help raise libido and be helpful worth asking about ie; Welbutrin no one asked if there was ever any particular moment in time when there was any infidelity issues: trust plays a major issue Hormones Physical Exercise Regimen : working out together aids in testosterone levels as well as provides a bonding experience and raises self esteem making each feel more desirable Renew your Vows: rekindle the flame, remind each other who you fell in love with Counseling: when all else fails a mediator helps to talk through what your afraid to bring up Hmmmm... need a Vasectomy or Hysterectomy, fear of late life pregnancy....not unheard of.....stranger things have kept couples out of bed...a rough pregnancy can leave a woman frigid; still in love with her husband or the expense of yet another child the male knows he cant swing....things to consider.... these are just a few ideas to get you started...good luck

Joined: 5/16/2008

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oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it Posted: 1/2/2009 2:56:54 AM
You got to be kidding me? its easy for you to personally understand if your that honestly interested, let your ladyfriend keep it in her mouth and then kiss her when your done and you swallow it... have a taste of your "own medicine" answer your own question....its an acquired taste...not for everyone, is it for you? Just dieing to know your answer.....DO you swallow....hmmmmm ....yes/no..why not?

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Not picky enough? Posted: 1/2/2009 2:48:56 AM
realistically your the luckiest when you find the person which compliments your stregnths and weaknesses and enjoys being the other half of that equation because quite simply it works for them, and brings them joy. overcoming the obstacles together, getting to the other side of things as a couple can be rewarding; so its worth being picky to find such a person.....some one enough like you that you share things yet different in enough ways that they can intrigue you....and capture your imagination....set your soul on fire...especially when your 85 cause by then you might not be the sexy thing you are today....lol...or with any luck in their eyes you still will be....thats what Im hoping for....so Im a romantic....

Joined: 5/16/2008

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can a friend turn into more Posted: 1/2/2009 2:29:57 AM
There's something to be said about the woman that is so appealing that is not available... Start dating and let him see how wonderful you are in the arms of someone else, if theres anything there at all he'll regret this and let you know, but if not you will have opened new doors for new possibilities which can never hurt. No one ever said you cant have fun while waiting....and it will also test your true feelings.... go out and test the waters...

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My woman reads my text messages Posted: 1/2/2009 2:17:54 AM
no ex should be texting you.... and you shouldnt expect your present woman to think this is in any way cool... and I can only think your own insecurity would even permit this, out of a need to have your woman show these signs of jealousy, WHAT IS THAT ALL ABOUT? SOUNDS LIKE GAME PLAYING TO ME.....TIME TO GROW UP......OR WAKE UP..THATS INSENSITIVE.... hmmm bet you wouldnt like her ex texting her taunting little texts....and she shouldnt be put in that position to find out either.... think about it...

Joined: 5/16/2008

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Am I just a booty call????? Posted: 1/2/2009 1:14:05 AM
The truth is people treat us the way we allow them to; you have conditioned this man to think this behavior is acceptable, and worse than that you are conditioned to think it is as well. Time to think of the options here; if you actually wanted a real relationship in which you were treated with respect and dignity you need to expect it first; so if by telling this man you would prefer to be treated in a specific way with integrity leads him to the door, perhaps you need to get it ready for him and not be upset when it hits him in the ass on the way out. BUT be sure you accept your own responsibility for this particular misunderstanding as you have let him live in the gray zone with a smile on your face for over a year now. Take the time to figure out what you expect from a relationship before you e;nter into any others and above all dont confuse sex with love, its great to have the both in the same relationship but you obviously created these muddy waters fulfilling your own sexual needs along the way, when one evening he was the booty call when this all began and it wasnt anything more than a man who came home with you after an evening at the bar. Make no mistake I do not sit in judgment of you, this works for many but obviously not what you wanted in the long run as the proof is in the outcome. Re-evaluate your future game plan and perhaps you'll get the next man to treat you exactly the way you want, but of course he wont know if you dont tell him, he isnt a mind reader; perhaps if you sit Mr. Bootycall down and set up how you really want to be treated from now on you might have more there than you let on in your brief note...best of luck on that...if not the next one is sure to be a better shot at the real deal....Try reading Why Men Love **es...its not the ** factor its the communication...very direct, masculine, they understand it...its their language...to the point, think of the last time a guy broke up with you...usually no mincing words, Im outta here...its over...and they move on...or they dont, period. You can do this...you deserve it....just ask for it...and dont ever settle for less. Good Luck...:modhammer:

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guys, women who squirt.... Posted: 8/4/2008 12:25:49 PM
hmmmm let me ask you sir would you hold back an ejaculation because you thought a woman didnt want to have to deal with the secretion? I sincerely doubt it....you expect the right to just let go and cum as the act is intended to bring forth, so why shouldnt she feel the same right to such a pleasurable experience? Seems to me the scales of balance are a bit off kiltered here; when you make love to a woman isnt that your objective to bring "her" to orgasm as well or just yourself? You should be grateful she let herself expose that side to you which is what making love to someone is all about, not take the immature stand; "its gross" do you think youd feel great about cumming with your partner if you felt for even a second you were repulsing her.... I doubt it.... time to grow up and get a little education on what a female orgasm is and how many varieties there are and soon you'll be enjoying her pleasure showers to the hilt and take pride in the fact you brought her to such a state of arousal... wasnt that the objective, or were you only there for yourself? makes me wonder... as I know there is no peculiar smell nor taste attached to the event so why is it men can feel the right to explode over a women on/in various places yet god forbid his precious face is involved... A real man with knowledge knows this is a wonderful physical response to their best efforts and revels in the joy of knowing he gave the ultimate of pleasure....a true orgasm....and where did they think the idea of ----diving came from, those very wet women who provide the splash of life in thier sex lives....LOL So dont be afraid ladies let go and men get ready to get wet......and enjoy every second of it... I suggest you put her on top for the thrill of a ride....LOL and Maytag has been in business for years; you can help keep them there....LOL or simply order "chubs" from a hospital laundry supply company to eliminate such wet spots after the act....those squares they sit patients on for any such bodily fluid release...work wonders for sex....and no one sleeps in a wet spot.... a little imagination can cure these simple matters if you really care about her and her needs as much as your own.

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feeling insecure naked...... Posted: 8/4/2008 11:34:12 AM
I recently had a conversation with a man who was a former athelete and still has a firm etched physical form and I commented that I didnt feel as "desirable" as I once was having become a softer larger version of myself and developing the "mommy tummy" yet still possessing a figure of an hourglass shape of a larger scale I managed to not lack for attention...he laughed at me and said he had been with atheletes as well and found the form of a softer more feminine body more appealing; that the only hard body he wanted in his bed would be his...LOL and that the tummy I so loathed was his idea of gods greatest creation of a cozy soft pillow to lie his face against instead of the bones of a woman's ribs or pertruding hips... he claimed the best place to fall asleep was lying between a womans legs with his face against her tummy, that little round paunch .....and delightfully claimed hmmmm yes so close to being "home"...the best place to be..... Gave me a different perspective on the whole idea, yet I wonder how many men feel the same....cozy and soft Vs firm hard and taught....to each his own is my conclusion and if what I am is not sufficient for someone; kindly please step out of the way for a gentleman who appreciates me, dont waste either of our time; life is way too short to sweat all this small stuff... and in truth we gals are not the only bodies changing.....gravity plays havoc on us all, lets be realistic.....LOL funny I remember Marilyn Monroe as being a soft cushy woman and isnt she considered one of lifes all time sex kittens.....I dont think I know a man alive that wouldnt have wanted to fulfill that fantasy....so why should we be any different? Embrace your female body, its a gift, and men will desire to embrace it also... simply amazing how that works...

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can smeone help me please Posted: 8/4/2008 10:44:22 AM
First and foremost you need to have a more inviting smile in your profile picture; as reading on its apparent your a bug guy and your mere size can be intimidating if you are not smiling. You would be surprised how far a gentle smile will get you... Second you should try to re-word your decision for a vasectomy; such as I m no longer a viable candidate to father children, I have X amount of my own love em, and welcome women with children of her own or simply content without . Any questions feel free to ask me. Your experience as a soldier could easily be summed up in saying you successfully met the standards to achieve the ranks of both red and green beret and you would gladly explain the difference to those curious...offering them a reason to engage you on something that is obviously important to you. Your first listing for what you enjoy doing has video games??? comes across to a woman as somewhat immature even if it was the last thing you added it shows up as the top priority; which to most women should be spending time with your kids...where is that mentioned? Which expresses character...if your "family isnt getting top billing why should she feel she would fall anywhere in the top 10... You have expressed a desire for BBW so invite them to contact you because in your presence they certainly will feel dainty and secure, and your a man for all women...especially those with fuller figures which you find so appealing.. Seeking balance....a BBW to compliment this Handsome Former Soldier of the Royal .....and let me make you be the princess of my dreams....something like that.... Participating in the acts of war makes one long for the tenderness of a relationship all the more, as in seeing the darkest side of life I wish to find the light in a special someones beautiful eyes ; and if they happen to be crystal blue all the more appealing... How will we know if you dont respond...at worst you could make a terrific friend, at best the friend & lover your soul longs for..... Go ahead steal whatever may help you....but your not a used car hun, so stop with the approach as if your NOT the luxury vehicle....LOL Find an attractive outfit or none...shorts and no shirt goes far if you have that soldiers body beneath the clothes...and tempt these little vixens....whats with the button-up to the chin, what are you hiding; and by all means let a woman see how Tall you are....in a landscape photo, so she can feel safe in your presence....and assure your every inch the man you profile claims...beginning from your heart.... Enough to kick-start your new bio? good luck and feel free to contact me if you have any questions... And hun your not a soldier any longer? let your hair grow out a tad to soften your image and contrast against those awesome eyes...this I did for a living and know what Im talking about....a mustache wouldnt hurt either...to make you appear more your age ; which doesn't seem to correspond with your photos as it is, you appear much younger... Most women want a nice strong male to take charge well you certainly are in the physical realm to do just that in a big way...and youd like her to know that in or out of the home your prepared to have fun..... Good luck... and I hope this helps, and plz realize it was with the best of intent and certainly not to criticize as I see much potential in you; you just need to take another look and see what I see....LOL A Big strong man with the potential to rock any womans world if given half a chance...but I dont believe you want just any woman so add what you do wish her to be like...and be as specific as possible yet with a flattering tone. Lets see if the bees come to the honey.... Ciao DC

Joined: 5/16/2008

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Good Places to eat, and good places to take a date Posted: 8/4/2008 9:45:55 AM
Off the Beaten Path on Rt. 1 in Guilford, Ct. is an outddoor BBQ Restaraunt "THE PLACE" the simplistic ambiance makes for a nice romantic lunch or dinner; while you also get to enjoy the days sunshine or the early evening stars.... not a bad way to begin a relationship...no stress...no fuss ...environment picnic benches and smoke-filled air infused with the aromas of each delightful chicken, steak or ribs; and to be honest since I am a carnivore I have never ventured to the other side of the menu but Im told it is equally as satisfying, but judge for yourself. and it doesnt hurt that its located just minutes from the shoreline so a follow-up stroll on the beach is the perfect touch to end the meal... Sooo..... sit back relax and enjoy one anothers company over a wonderfully cooked meal that is "just right"

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