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Synical

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Do women really get abused as much as they say or do they make it seem worse then it actually is? Posted: 6/27/2007 10:24:44 PM
In response to the OP ... For every woman that makes up a story of abuse and violence, there are two more than HAVE been abused and haven't spoken up about it. Domestic violence is much more common than most people recognize or understand, and is never as simple as others make it out to be.

Synical

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song lyrics that describe your mood Posted: 11/18/2006 1:15:40 AM
Better Than Me - Hinder I think you can do much better than me, After all the lies that I made you believe. And guilt kicks in and I start to see, The edge of the bed where your nightgown used to be. I told myself I won't miss you, But I remember, What it feels like beside you. I really miss your hair in my face, And the way your innocence tastes, And I think you should know this, You deserve much better than me. While looking through your box of notes, Found these pictures I took that you were looking for, If there's one memory I don't wanna lose, That time at the mall, you and me in the dressing room. I told myself I won't miss you, But I remember, What it feels like beside you. I really miss your hair in my face, And the way your innocence tastes, And I think you should know this, You deserve much better than me. The bed I'm lying in is getting colder, Wish I never would've said it's over, And I can't pretend... I won't think about you when I'm older Cause we never really had our closure This can't be the end. I really miss your hair in my face And the way your innocence tastes And I think you should know this You deserve much better than me I really miss your hair in my face And the way your innocence tastes And I think you should know this You deserve much better than me

Synical

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Tattoos Posted: 11/18/2006 1:10:54 AM
I got my first this summer, on the back of my left shoulder. (see pic over there <--- ) If you can't see it very clearly, it's a heart with wings and a demon tail. I love it, and fully intend to get more. I have one drawn out for my lower back, and an anklet design with my kids birthstones. And not only did it not hurt, (I was given the typical 'cat scratch' analogies lol), I fell asleep while he was doing it. The only thing that was irritating was the shading, but definately not painful.

Synical

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ONCE AN ABUSER..ALWAYS AN ABUSER?? Posted: 8/6/2006 10:48:39 AM
there are women leaving their husbands because they spend to much time playing video games or watching football with their friends..why stay with a guy who punches you around the house?? just leave! what other avice do you need? First, the abuser makes you dependant on him .. he ensures you HAVE nowhere to go, often removing you from family influence and support systems, or alienating you from them. You don't have free reign of the income, you're supervised on a daily basis. The control techniques involved are there for a reason .. to make sure you DONT leave. And they spend the entirety of the relationship convincing you that, if you were to leave, noone would want you ... you're too worthless, the only one who'll take you is him. They convince you noone will believe you, or that it's your fault, so you don't feel safe asking for help. One by one, they remove all the roads leading to sanity and freedom. People with little experience in it usually think it's just that simple .. pack up and leave. Trust me when I tell you it is the furthest thing from simple, and it gets worse when there are children involved, because then they are used as ammunition against you. If he hasn't managed to turn your kids against you, and he tries, he then threatens to take them away, a mothers worst nightmare. And some really do it ... my sister was kidnapped by my biological father at 4 years old, when my mother left. She didn't see my sister again for 6 years. No, it's not that simple, and no amount of advice from well meaning, but unknowing, outside influences, has the least amount of effect. She leaves when she's mentally ready to do so, and all anyone else can do is be there when she needs them.

Synical

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Do you like emotional men? Posted: 8/6/2006 1:01:53 AM
I mean how many of you don't cry at the end of Sixth Sence, over Romeo & Juliet. I don't, for one. Not to say there hasn't been the odd movie that caught me, like the shooting scene in Crash involving the little girl, but definately neither of those. I agree with an above poster ... a tear or two at the end of some really sappy movie, understandable. All out crying over a mediocre sappy movie, or worse, a thriller like sixth sense .... I'm incredibly glad mine doesn't do that. But that's all personal preference. There are some women who find it endearing.

Synical

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Y does a relationship change?? Posted: 8/6/2006 12:17:41 AM
People change over time .. we never stop changing. The key is in whether you change in positive ways to compliment each other, or grow apart. Jealousy is not an admirable trait .. it's a sign of insecurity. If you trust your partner, there is never a need for jealousy. That would have set of warning bells in my head immediately. The fact that he's not jealous anymore is not a negative thing, it means he trusts you. The fact that you're jealous means you likely have trust issues with him, however.

Synical

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Why does distance always become an excuse? Posted: 8/5/2006 11:55:02 PM
The true love prevails over all line is nice, but completely unrealistic. True love, like anything else, needs constant care and maintanance .. which can be very difficult, and for some, impossible to do even when together, let alone in a long distance relationship. Some people can manage to pull it off, more often for short periods of time, although in rare cases for extended periods. I could never do it. I'm selfish in that aspect, I want to be WITH my partner, and would hope he feels the same. I wouldn't settle for anything less.

Synical

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Why do women hate each other? Posted: 8/5/2006 10:02:03 PM
I have one female friend, and we've been best friends since high school. Aside from her, all of my friends are men. I can't answer for all women, but my reasons are simple. I got tired of the head games, the manipulation techniques, the drama and the competition that inevitably comes into play. I don't want to discuss the latest fashion trends, I don't want to be the person who has to dole out compliments when they're fishing for them, or hear all the gossip they just have to spill about everyone they know. The male friends I have don't care about any of that .. they're more real and down to earth. Those are my reasons anyway.

Synical

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Do you like emotional men? Posted: 8/5/2006 9:49:10 PM
You won't like my response. I don't like emotional men. Why? Because I don't cry in front of people, in fact I don't cry much, don't recall crying since I was about 10 or 11. Only while chopping onions, if that counts. But hey, there are plenty of women that like emotional men. Goodluck! Pretty much what she said. I'm not the openly emotional type either, and so I'm often uncomfortable with other people that are, male OR female. In terms of relationships, no, I'm not very comfortable with an emotional man. I do want him to be able to acknowledge his emotions and deal with them, but in a lot of senses I'm old fashioned, and look to the man in my life as the strong one, the rock. The odd time my ex cried in front of me it made me VERY uncomfortable, and in a way, I was emberrased for him. But hey, that's just my preference.

Synical

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The key to a good relationship Posted: 8/5/2006 9:31:43 PM
Yes, respect for yourself and each other is important. To me, the most important factors are trust and communication. With those two elements, the rest can just fall together easily.

Synical

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Ladies do you look and act your age? Posted: 8/5/2006 9:13:50 PM
I'm not sure what you look like and what you act like should even be classified in the same area. I look much younger than I actually am, and still routinely get ID'd for cigarettes, lol. That doesn't have any reflection on how old I act, which is however I feel at the time. Some days I act like a big kid, some days an energetic rebellious teenager, some days the older, responsible adult type thing ....there is no set standard on how I'm supposed to act, so I act however I like. :D

Synical

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ONCE AN ABUSER..ALWAYS AN ABUSER?? Posted: 8/5/2006 2:19:07 PM
I am bothered by others saying you made the choice to stay with him therefore its your fault, too. It is never the victims fault. I think you're misunderstanding. I don't think anyones saying that it's her fault he was an abuser. But as a victim in that situation, you do have to take the responsibility for staying in a situation that is dangerous. Once you do accept that responsibility, moving forward and forgiving yourself your own mistakes is much simpler. I lived in a physically abusive relationship for 4 years, and after that an emotionally abusive situation for another 8. People like I was search out those types of relationships without even realizing it. I had to reexamine everything about myself, realize that I was at fault for staying in those situations, and accept my part of the blame. I don't take the blame for their stupidity, violence and idiocy, that's all on them, but I do accept the fault for remaining after the first punch, the first name calling episode, etc. I have to, noone told me to stay there. As for a line up there about abusive people living abusive lives and learning from example, even the word "many" doesn't fit .. you can't generalize all of them by one example, or one text you read. I know some abusers, my biological father included, that had wonderful childhoods (which might in part be the problem .. always used to getting their own way, then use violence to ensure it later on) ... and I know others that had rocky childhoods. There is no set standard.

Synical

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What famous person do you look like or have been told you look like?????? Posted: 5/25/2006 11:58:25 PM
Jennifer Anniston .. the first time someone told me that, I laughed. By the third or fourth person, I was starting to inspect my pictures to see what the heck it is they were seeing, lol.

Synical

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quit smoking Posted: 5/25/2006 11:56:55 PM
I'm in the process of quitting right now, after 14 years, so this should be fun. All I can do is tell you what's working for me. I quit for my youngest son, to allow myself more time with him and not voluntarily taking years off my life, so everytime I'm having a rather harsh craving, I grab my 5 year old, hug him and don't let him go til the craving passes .. my way of reminding myself what I'm doing this for. Also, set a goal to reward yourself at certain intervals (to remind yourself of the financial benefit to quitting!) Example ... I made it a week without smoking ... I'm going to buy myself an outfit. I made it 2 weeks without smoking, I'm buying a new table .. etc. The advice I was given was to make sure to buy something you'll see often .. as a reminder of just one of the benefits. If you buy some expensive ornament, everytime you look at it you'll think "I could blow that money for that useless thing because of all the cash I saved by quitting smoking!" Good luck :)

Synical

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is flirting harmless? Posted: 4/29/2006 2:27:30 AM
If a man flirted with another woman on a date the woman would shit her pants. If a woman does it it's just another example of female liberation and emancipation. I suppose that would depend on what type of flirting and how insecure the woman is. That ^ is just another example of typical generalizations and nothing more. Innocent flirting is just that .. innocent, gender aside. If you're secure in your relationship, and the flirting doesn't cross over into something inappropriate, then I see no harm in it whatsoever. I'm a natural flirt, playfully and innocently. Thankfully for me, my partner isn't insecure, and happens to be a bit of a flirt himself.

Synical

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The abortion issue, a new approach to compromise Posted: 4/28/2006 11:00:15 PM
I've come up with the same alternative before when discussing a fathers rights when a woman decides to abort. Personally, I think it would be a wonderful option, providing that's what the woman wanted to do. Some women may not want that child in the world regardless, bringing in the implications of "wondering" later on down the road. But it could definately be an option for those who are willing to do it, there'd be no shortage of new mothers willing to adopt.

Synical

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Assisted Suicide Posted: 4/28/2006 10:57:35 PM
I'm completely for assisted suicide, and have a living will on record with my lawyer for the "just in case" scenario.

Synical

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is flirting harmless? Posted: 4/28/2006 10:50:39 PM
Hard to give honest advice with so little information. As someone else mentioned, did you ask her to dance? If she was dancing with someone else because you wouldn't, I'd hardly call that flirting. As for coming off the dancefloor and immediately going to "powder her nose" before checking in with you, sorry if I don't understand the problem here. Dancing is strenuous .. possibly she wanted to tidy up before returning to her date. Personally, I only go to the bar to dance, so chances are I'd be on the floor all night. If my date wanted to dance too, all the better. If he doesn't, tough cookies. As for flirting ... can be completely harmless, can be hurtful. Depends on the circumstances. However, when the flirting IS harmless and the other persons insecurity is the issue, entirely different story.

Synical

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What are Love's Limits? Posted: 3/21/2006 8:20:05 AM
Look at the challenges of a family. You, your spouse, your kids. Nearly every parent will tell you that it's HARD WORK, juggling all of that! Your spouse no longer gets the attention they used to, 'cause it's being split among them and the kids. Exactly. Hence my comment about energy, lol. It takes a lot of hard work & energy to make a loving relationship work. Aside from that, then there's kids to raise, friends to see, work to do, daily responsibilities, family, etc .. who has the time or energy to try and maintain more than one intimate, loving relationship? The most recent rationalization I heard about these types of relationships was "one person isn't enough to meet your needs in all manners". This is true. This is why we form friendships with all different types of people, why we have relatives, work relationships, etc. Every relationship offers something to our needs, whether it's intillectual, emotional, physical, etc. The more intimate needs are better left with one partner, who you can devote yourself entirely to.

Synical

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What are Love's Limits? Posted: 3/21/2006 7:53:18 AM
If you have the energy to maintain several or multiple of those types of relationships, containing all the emotional rollercoasters, intimage matters, etc, that go along with it ... if you have that kind of energy .. feel free to bottle it and send me some. IMO, yes, the limit realistically is one. Love in a relationship sense can be all consuming ... and should be. One person should occupy your thoughts, your heart and your mind. If more than one are there, are you really being fair to the other? Besides, some people missed the day in kindergarten where the teacher discussed the importance of sharing.... like me.

Synical

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Why would a woman act bitchy initally ? A man would never act like... Posted: 3/21/2006 7:45:43 AM
That's pretty much it ... at least speaking for myself. I realize that the old adage should be remembered .. innocent until proven guilty, but it seems like more often than not, it's not worth the effort of keeping an open mind when our first instinct is often proven true. Yes, there are some people that have simple good intentions in mind .. most don't. I'm the first to admit I'm not easy to approach in public ... I won't be out and out hostile, but I won't be overtly friendly either. As stated in the original post, I'd be the one to throw a one word response and turn the other direction. It's not worth the initial effort of seeing what's up and what the person is trying to do, when it's normally not just a friendly word before they continue on. If that were the majority, then maybe women wouldn't react that way .. but the majority is NOT just a friendly gesture in passing .. most have ulterior motives.

Synical

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Would you be married to her.? Posted: 3/20/2006 2:26:22 AM
There is a world of difference between the two. A rational person can say "live and let live" regarding what two consenting adults choose to do in the bedroom, while making a perfectly legal decision that doesn't hurt anyone. If they want to involve others, so what? They're happy with their choices, obviously. They're not hurting anyone, and they're not breaking any laws. So yes, live and let live. How on earth do you equate that type of mentality as the same that would approach an illegal act of complete perversion that terrorizes innocent victims? I think your thought process on this is a little misconstrued.

Synical

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when is it to old to check on the kids sleeping Posted: 3/20/2006 2:21:17 AM
Coincidently enough, I just sat down at the PC after checking in on my kids, lol. They're never too old. It's reassuring to see them safe in their beds, and at their most peaceful. ESPECIALLY if they've been rather rotten that day (my 7 yr old daughter, for example) ... all the stress and tension tends to melt away when you see them so angelic while asleep. I wander in, recover them back up, watch them for a few minutes and wander out with a smile on my face. Every now and then, one will wake a little when I cover them up, and for some reason, they're always at their sweetest. My almost 5 year old did just that a few minutes ago ... woke up, I gave him a hug and kiss and he told me (exact words) "you're my best friend ever". That alone will have me checking in on him every night ;)

Synical

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Would you be married to her.? Posted: 3/20/2006 2:14:47 AM
Just an interesting note .... after re-reading some of the posts since I posted .. I noticed that religion was brought into play as to why the swinger lifestyle is "wrong" and degrading to marriage. The person who posted this may want to research the origin of marriage a little .. since the original marriages were most often group marriages (many men, many women OR many women, one man, OR the other way around). You can verify this easily enough through a search engine ... it pulls up plenty of results. One thing modern day has done has made the act of sex more than just a procreation utility ... people can openly admit ... it's fun! If a married couple are both in agreement that swinging or bringing in outside parties works for them, and the third parties don't mind, who are we to tell them it's right or wrong? They've having fun, they're bringing excitement to their relationship in a way that works for them. Personally, I was never good at sharing .. so it's just not my cup of tea, lol. And comparing swingers to rapists and pedophiles was beyond low and not worth responding to.

Synical

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She must be physically attracted to me, or its a no go Posted: 3/20/2006 2:08:13 AM
I just want some assurance that I'm attractive so that I know that I can find women in the future. Confusion .. you want the woman you're with to find you physically attractive so that you can feel confident you'll get more women later on? So .. the present partner should help prepare you to score more partners? It feels good to know that you are wanted. Yes ... but not for appearances sake. I'd want to be wanted for my personality, my sense of my humor, my intelligence, wit, or a hundred other things. People who want me based on my looks soon only get to see the back view .. as I walk the opposite direction. I don't need external sources to boost my ego. Anyways, I dont understand women who want to have sex with a man because of his high intelligence. That is definately not how I work. Body parts make me aroused, not brains. I'm not even sure how to respond to that ... I have several words running through my head after reading that ... wow ... shallow .... empty ..... those are a few. You come off as very insecure. Gain more self confidence in how you look and you won't need someone else to fill that gap by praising your appearance for you.

Synical

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Would you be married to her.? Posted: 3/19/2006 11:51:10 PM
And i guess the old institution of marriage is dying. Not at all ... marriage is what the people involved make it. If you treat it like a joke, it's a joke. If you consider it a serious and wonderful committed step, then that's what it is. So how many of you think this is appropriate wether you are married or in a relationship.? I don't think it's appropriate ... for ME. This is one of those things where the "live and let live" philosophy comes into play. I don't judge what other couples see as right, or what they do for fun, and I would expect the same from others. It's not a matter of right vs wrong .. if both partners are alright with it, and they find it enhances their relationship, then that's their choice, and all the more power to 'em. And if you believe it is acceptable,why would you marry in the first place.? This line actually bothered me. Even though I'm not involved in that type of lifestyle, I understand the basis, and why people do it. To imply that love or the sanctity of marriage is compromised because they choose to enjoy, with complete knowledge of each others actions, other partners, is silly. People get married because they want to share their lives with their partner. They want to share a family, a name, and everything that goes with it. Sex is not dependent on any of the above. Providing they're both comfortable and happy with their lifestyle, why shouldn't they get married, and still enjoy the sexual adventures that enhance their own relationship? Just my 2c.

Synical

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Being a Loner Posted: 3/19/2006 10:58:51 PM
I wouldn't classify a loner as an introvert .. specifically. I'm extroverted, within my own circle. I love to communicate, which is why I spend so much time on forums, debates, etc. With my friends, I'm very outgoing, very social .. but overall, I'm a loner. I prefer to do things on my own. I'm comfortable with my own company, and am quite happy to sit at home reading my book, or painting, or sketching .. without people around. But I'm far from introverted, closed or offish. I just think it's a mistake to automatically equate "loner" with the two classifications of extroverted and introverted ... it's not the same thing at all.

Synical

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video games Posted: 3/19/2006 8:30:05 PM
Oh ... raids .. that must be World of Warcraft ... my closest friend is now a stranger because of getting sucked into that game and having no willpower to walk away from it. He missed several important events because his guild had raids planned. Simple enough ... anything in moderation. I like gaming .. I play PS2, when I have free time. (just finished a game, actually lol) I like my tycoon games on the PC .. when I have free time. I even thief my sons gameboy to play the odd game .. when I have free time. When real life gets pushed to the backseat for a virtual reality, then it's time to reconfigure your priorities.

Synical

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Warning labels!!! Posted: 3/12/2006 11:46:31 PM
On a hair dryer ---- Do not use while sleeping. On a superman halloween costume --- Warning, use of this product will not allow user to fly. Funniest one I've ever heard of though came from the warning label for a brand of chainsaw. "Warning: Do not operate near genitals"

Synical

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Does anybody know how to change the screen name????? Posted: 3/12/2006 11:31:08 PM
Unless there's something different on my end, no you can't. You can change your preferences, headline, information .. you cannot change your actual sign in name. EDIT: I sit corrected ... it's your lucky day, OP, lol.

Synical

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Does anybody know how to change the screen name????? Posted: 3/12/2006 11:25:05 PM
I would think deleting your account and opening a new one might be in your best interests, lol.

Synical

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Is sci fi fantasy and horror more a guy thing or the women out there hiding Posted: 3/12/2006 10:48:23 PM
gee i didn't even know saw3 was out yet. Not yet .. it's in pre-production .. will be out October 2th, 2006. The Ring 1 was excellent ..definate keeper. The Ring 2 was worth seeing once .. I'll never watch it again. They tried too hard to rake off financially from the success of the first one, and failed miserably. You want to know what's freaky? When your phone rings IMMEDIATELY after watching The Ring 1 ... the movie didn't scare me but the phone ringing almost made me hit the ceiling lol.

Synical

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City meets country... how can it ever work? Posted: 3/12/2006 10:43:39 PM
Move to the city and have a 2nd home in the country! Perfect solution and compromise! Come to think of it, my aunt and uncle share this arrangement. They both work in Winnipeg, and live there throughout the week .. and every Friday after work are off to Kenora (2 hours) to their house on the lake. There's always a compromise when it's something worth bargaining for ;)

Synical

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Is sci fi fantasy and horror more a guy thing or the women out there hiding Posted: 3/12/2006 10:39:26 PM
I think when reading her books you have to keep in mind the society and age most of the vampires are supposed to be from. In the century and society Lestat and Armand, even Louis, were from, men expressing love for men openly was common practice. What one person sees as gay innuendo, others see as them acting in the manner to which their society taught them was perfectly normal.

Synical

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City meets country... how can it ever work? Posted: 3/12/2006 10:37:35 PM
I guess that boils down to how much compromise can be brought into the issue. Although I'm unsure why someone would have to give up their career, since there are always other alternatives .. commuting, for example. Of course it CAN be made to work .. but the question is whether the relationship is more important than the lifestyle. If it is, there's always a way to compromise and come to a decision that makes both happy.

Synical

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What if.............. Posted: 3/12/2006 8:45:45 PM
I wouldn't .... I'd consider myself a lowlife for doing or considering any activity with my friends partner, regardless of whether her and I were still "close" or not. That sounds more like a rationalization to justify homing in on her b/f.

Synical

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Ethical dilemma... Posted: 3/12/2006 8:01:02 PM
It comes down to two choices, and they're pretty clear to me. 1. Don't tell her. This is a selfish move, since you're only trying to avoid the backlash of invading privacy. If you had found out through purely innocent means, you'd tell her immediately, so not telling her now is only to protect yourself. 2. Tell her. The invasion is bridge under the water, nothing can be done about that now, although I would seriously avoid getting in the middle of another persons affairs, on purpose, in the future. Yes, she might be pissed, probably will be actually, but you will have done your job as her friend by presenting her with information that may help her avoid heartache, or worse. If you don't tell her, the only person you're protecting is you. That's not what friendship is. Don't mean for any of it to sound harsh .. just the simple basis of the matter.

Synical

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Is sci fi fantasy and horror more a guy thing or the women out there hiding Posted: 3/12/2006 7:49:27 PM
Hoping there's going to be a 3rd, since they nicely left an opening for one with Amanda taking over ... lol. (EDIT: I just checked ... it's in preproduction ... YAY! Will be released Oct. 27th this year) I own all the same DVD's, lol ... I make a point of picking up every one that comes out for my library. A few I wish I hadn't! (The Village, The Grudge, Dark Water) I'm so sorry I own those, they were awful. Yup, his books are always better ... I make a point of reading the book before I watch the movie, just for comparison. I also love Anne Rice, both the Vampire Chronicles and the Mayfair Witches. I just finished Blood Canticle, that was so cool, seeing her integrate the two chronicles into one book!

Synical

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Is sci fi fantasy and horror more a guy thing or the women out there hiding Posted: 3/12/2006 7:42:09 PM
Or the fact that he lives in the same apartment with his ex ... that would send any rational girl running for the hills.

Synical

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When One Person Wants More Posted: 3/12/2006 7:39:48 PM
It's possible, some people do. I would be concerned, and tread very carefully. The way she treated you last time around shows that she's capable of playing games, being very insensitive ... and that's a part of who she is, it won't go away just because you two may reconsider a relationship. When things get tough, you'll see that side again. Just tread lightly and keep her recent behavior in mind.

Synical

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Is sci fi fantasy and horror more a guy thing or the women out there hiding Posted: 3/12/2006 7:35:27 PM
If it's a guy thing, I'm in trouble. I don't care for drama .. once in a blue moon, and it has to be something amazingly special. I have never in my life opened a self help book, and probably will never. As for lifetime channel, I wasn't aware there was one, lol. I'm a horror fanatic, I watch every horror movie that comes out, waiting for one that will actually be frightening, but having a great time searching ;) Saw 2 is a new personal favorite :D Not only the movies, but my books as well ... Steven King being my hero, of course .. but also John Saul, Dean Koontz and others. PC Gaming, you betcha .. that and the PS2 .. but I'm pretty picky in my selection of games, lol. So no, it's not a guy thing.

Synical

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Msg: 71 (view)

pets, hygiene, compromise? Posted: 3/12/2006 1:07:45 AM
Humor? I don't see anything funny about either of your posts .. nor the idea of shooting a cat. You obviously like dogs, since you feature one in your pic .. should they be shot as well? There are plenty of people who think dogs are nothing more than fluffy, drool machines ... so going by your "logical" post, yup, dogs should be shot too. Or, you could pretend to be an adult and just say "I don't care for cats, but to each his own" and move on. Better yet, avoid a thread that is obviously for people who either have cats, or have had a lot of experience with them, since you have nothing on topic to contribute to the thread.

Synical

Joined: 8/16/2005

Msg: 68 (view)

pets, hygiene, compromise? Posted: 3/12/2006 12:04:32 AM
I wouldn't think that's an issue in our society, providing people take proper care of their animals and get them all the necessary shots. I'm not overly familiar with the shots needed for dogs here, since I don't have one, but I do know that NOT getting the proper vacinations for your animal is another cause for the Humane Society to drop by .. you can't lisence your dog without the shots being done first. Cats here have to be lisenced/registered as well, and although they don't "require" vacinations, several are suggested.

Synical

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Msg: 24 (view)

When One Person Wants More Posted: 3/12/2006 12:00:53 AM
Long story short, she brought a date out to a club where she knew I was at after agreeing we wouldn't do that to each other Although I agree it was a nice post, this line caught my eye. The fact that she did that shows a part of her character .. a cruel and insensitive part. If you HAD said nothing, you may have made it permenant before finding out she was capable of downright cruelty for the feelings of someone who loves her. OT: Avoid the games, of any kind. They will backfire, eventually. There's a reason games are so often associated with kids ... when we grow up we're supposed to grow past them.

Synical

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Msg: 22 (view)

When One Person Wants More Posted: 3/11/2006 11:54:00 PM
This may or may not have anything to do with it .. does she or you have children? Just trying to understand other reasons for her being hesitant to move forward, or to move more slowly.

Synical

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Msg: 63 (view)

pets, hygiene, compromise? Posted: 3/11/2006 11:47:26 PM
I'm from the country, cats outdoors was normal .. mostly because the farmers had barns the cats could hide in when it was cold. However, if they don't have somewhere warm to hide (and barns are very warm), then it is VERY cruel. Cats coats aren't made to protect them from winter temperature. And, as sienna pointed out, cars vs cats .. the contest isn't really a fair deal. Regardless, Humane Society sees it as cruel, too. As for cats on the counter, cats are easy to train, if you take the time to train them right from the start. If you repeatedly kick them off the counter when you first get them, they learn not to go on the counter. That simple. A friend of mine actually trained his to use the toilet, and it was so common sense it just about floored me. He built a litter box that fit inside the toilet, and put it in the spare bathroom. After the cat was fully used to going there, he removed the box. Job done, cat trained. Only problem according to him was that he now has to teach the cat to flush, lol.

Synical

Joined: 8/16/2005

Msg: 60 (view)

pets, hygiene, compromise? Posted: 3/11/2006 11:36:23 PM
One would bathe himself, then forget to put his tongue back in & walk around with it sticking out, I got a mental image of that ... adorable!! Oh, we've come across some wierd animals, I swear lol. Our male thinks he's part toothbrush and will fall over any sleeping person and attempt to clean their teeth. I did remove him from my son's face .. right after I grabbed my digital. His father knew how to open the fridge, the front door and the snack cupboard. (temptations kitty treats ... I think they contain addictive nutrients for the furry things). I had to buy child safety locks for the cats. Here's my babies: http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v61/dragonzden/cat4.gif - Sassy http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v61/dragonzden/DSC00185.jpg - James http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v61/dragonzden/DSC00179.jpg - Princess Oh .. on an off note ... if you ever want to have a lot of fun with your cats .. invest in a laser pointer

Synical

Joined: 8/16/2005

Msg: 50 (view)

pets, hygiene, compromise? Posted: 3/11/2006 10:58:42 PM
My daughters are the main reason we have cats .. otherwise I think I would have gotten a dog, and probably will later on. But there's something about little girls and their kittens. And we got lucky ... the male cat is so gentle and compliant that he literally allows my girls to dress him up in doll clothes, without fighting. Then again, this is the same cat who loves to read those push button sound books with them ... he's an oddball.

Synical

Joined: 8/16/2005

Msg: 48 (view)

pets, hygiene, compromise? Posted: 3/11/2006 10:46:48 PM
Pets aren't for everyone .. my parents hate cats, because they can't abide their habits, or cat litter, but happen to love dogs. But to say leave them outside ... ? Even if you don't care to have them around you, that's plain cruel. I'm not sure how things are where you live ... in my city, if you leave your cats outside, the Humane Society will pay you a visit and either remove the animal, or reward you your compassion with heavy fines.

Synical

Joined: 8/16/2005

Msg: 17 (view)

Living together/married Posted: 3/11/2006 10:42:42 PM
Hmm, bossiness is a gender equel trait. My ex was awful ... When I said bad habits, I meant BAD habits. Like .. - picking up dishtowel off of floor to dry dishes. - throwing snack wrapper on living room floor ... no intention of picking it up, guess he thought the maid would get it. - changing cat litter by adding more litter on top of old There were worse ... those are just the most commonly repeated. He NEVER did those things before we moved in together. It's my own personal decision that I chose not to marry anyone without living with them first. To each his own.

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