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rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 65 (view)

Why would anyone want to date you? Posted: 7/17/2008 5:18:20 PM
I'm funny, interesting, intelligent, and quick witted. All that makes for great convos. I'm also very laid back and open minded so basically pretty easy to get along with. I'm into all kinds of things from music, to traveling, to nature to current events so there's rarely a dull moment. I'm also extremely reliable and loyal; not to gloat, but I'm the kind of person who'll do his best to dig you out of any hole. To put it best, I'm the culmination of thousands and thousands of years of evolution...yet humble

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 93 (view)

Is Sarcasm a turn off? Posted: 7/16/2008 1:29:04 PM
I'm a sarcastic person myself, I love making quick remarks like the one you mentioned, but when you're just meeting someone, you need to lay off a bit because you're never sure how it'll get interpreted. Put in a bit of sarcasm, sure, but explain yourself a bit too.

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 95 (view)

When You Don't Try To Get Into Her Pants Posted: 7/16/2008 1:25:50 PM
It's part of walking the line. Some people walk it better than others, and some stray in the safe zone more than others. I might not pressure because I sure as hell don't wanna **** this up and feel that putting my hand down her pants on the 5th date just might screw me over figuratively instead of literally. Not all guys are masters are this, so we err on the side of being super cautious.

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

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guess whaaaaaaat! Posted: 7/15/2008 8:52:28 PM
So I've updated the profile, any new pieces of advice? Thanks again :)

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 763 (view)

If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond? Posted: 7/15/2008 1:35:03 PM
Bad grammar will be annoying, as there's not excuse for asking is u into dat muzak, and other obscure concoctions, but spelling, well, I admit that with spell check my knowledge of which words have double letters has slipped :P. Or the people that spell before b4, u, and ur, and all that, well, there are worse things in life, and if they're really interesting, why let something so small get in the way.

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 85 (view)

I want my male friend to stay with me for a weekend but my boyfriend wont have it! Posted: 7/15/2008 8:37:27 AM
Well, first of all, you need to decide what you objectively think of the situation. You said it yourself, if it was the other way around you wouldn't be happy. However, if he's sleeping in a different room, your roommate is there there isn't much risk of anything happening. Maybe invite your fiance to stay the night with you if it makes him feel better? Try to convince him to see your side, but ultimately it's your choice and decision. And if this guy really is an old friend, it'd be stupid to send him out in the cold. It doesn't work as well as it could in this situation but...Bros before hoes lol.

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 191 (view)

Putting out on the first date. Posted: 7/14/2008 9:52:12 PM
Um...lemme thinkYEAAAAAAAAAAAAAASSSS! If she was able to keep good conversation, is cute, and we have great sex, and I'm into her...why would I stop there? I think women have the sex on the first date thing a bit wrong. If a guy is really interested in you, it won't matter when you have sex.

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

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guess whaaaaaaat! Posted: 7/14/2008 9:19:43 PM
So I've had almost no luck here. I've been contacted 3 times and have had very very few replies to my e-mails; they usually just sit unread or unreplied. Maybe it's my messages, but given the slim response my profile's gotten, I'm thinking maybe some of you could give me some pointers. Any help would be hugely appreciated. Just as a side note, for my body type, I put a few extra pounds, as that's what it is. But I've noticed here that people tend to flatter themselves and up themselves a category...does this really make sense? Thanks a ton! Chris

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 2839 (view)

GUYS!!! If you met the right woman, could you wait for the sex till marriage? Posted: 7/10/2008 10:48:29 AM
If she was a virgin and really saving herself I'd wait much easier than if she just 'hop' and changed her mind all of a sudden. But before I'd do either, I'd have to be really convinced she was worth it.

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 152 (view)

'toooo many fish in the sea?' Posted: 7/6/2008 5:15:21 PM
Yea, we can afford to be way more picky, perhaps, but why's this a bad thing? Divorce rates are on the rise, and I have my own little idea as to why. Divorce used to be such a taboo thing that you had to be in a terrible situation to even think about contemplating about the idea of divorcing your partner. So when that swell fella from the box social turns out to be a self centered jerk and useless (remember, you weren't allowed to live with him before you married either) and absolutely intolerable, you just grin and bear it. Today, if things go sour, you serve up divorce papers and join the other 1/2 of the class. Divorce is fine and dandy is you've got no kids, but once they get mixed into the equation, you start having innocent casualties, who happen to "mean the whole world" to you. Then you're left with a tough one, stay together in misery for the kids, or "screw the kids, they'll adapt" and divorce. So, lets go back to "too many fish". Well, I can be more selective when picking my future wife. This, in theory only of course, should raise the chances of a successful marriage. That's not to say that this great power is being used with great responsibility, but at the very least opens up the possibility. Coming from a rather divorced family (from my grandparents down, no marriage has succeeded yet) I've seen how hard divorce is on kids and I'd hate to run my kids through that ringer. I'll gladly sit on my boat and fish until I find one that's juuuuuuuuuust right in hopes of not having to tell my kids "Daddy and Mommy love you, just not enough to deal with each other".

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 226 (view)

Guys who can't or won't fix things around the house Posted: 7/6/2008 12:12:40 PM
Are you serious? lol I love feeling helpful, when I hear that a friend might be doing something that may require a hand I'm usually first to sign up, and that's not even for someone I'm going out with!

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 28 (view)

Can cheating on your partner make your relationship BETTER? Posted: 7/3/2008 9:42:28 AM
Perhaps cheating can help, but not as your friend is using it. She's just given up on her relationship and can't care less anymore.

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 29 (view)

Morgentaler's appointment to the Order of Canada, Posted: 7/3/2008 9:31:54 AM
Laws are designed to be a reflection of what society wants as well as the protection of the people when functioning within a democracy. Morgentaller felt that the laws were not achieving this and acted on this belief. It's the same idea as a coup d'état; illegal means are used to break an oppressive system. And history is also written by the winners; as he was part of the "winning" side, he's somewhat revered. I say two cheers for him!

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 193 (view)

Hi just had a date from hell....again Posted: 7/3/2008 6:58:39 AM
I'm a fan of the instigator pays rule. To be fair, as chivalrous as it is for a guy to pay, it sorta dates back to when women couldn't pay as they didn't have jobs/income. I'll offer to pay, as coming off as cheap is sadly the common reaction one gets to wanting to go dutch. But what you had was definitely kinda strange, although not from hell.

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 25 (view)

Man I suck at this dating thing!!! Help (sorry gonna be long) Posted: 6/25/2008 1:09:48 PM
I'd say phone him up and go for it. I think you made yourself clear in that you'd expect a real relationship, and he made himself clear that he was up for giving it a shot. Or he's pulling you around quite intentionally, but I doubt it.

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 49 (view)

Dating wars, will there never be peace? a discussion Posted: 6/19/2008 5:24:53 AM
I think people come here with extremely high expectations. Guys think they'll find a supermodel, who'll pay 50/50, who'll happily put out on date 1 and let them play around all the while. Women expect to find Senior Sexy Beefcake, who'll treat them to a 500$ meal on date one, captivate her fully and make them orgasm through conversation, drive them home in a Porche and then, as he kisses her oh so cutely on the cheek tell her the car's hers. Nah, this is just like a bar or club. The only difference is that you, in theory, are only dealing with people looking to date (and even then, there are people here who are just looking for friends...I reeeeeeeally don't get that). You run into people, some funner than others, some awesome and some shitty.

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 24 (view)

The Abortion Ultimatum - dealbreaker? Posted: 6/19/2008 5:15:35 AM
Sounds like he's not ready for a kid and the possibility of one was not discussed beforehand. I wouldn't say this shows other control issues, but I think that before you have sex with him you might wanna ask about the "kid" possibility. What to do if you get pregnant (against all odds, yadda yadda yadda)? If he doesn't want one, at all costs, and you are against abortions, then you've got a problem.

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 128 (view)

Threesomes...why the bias? Posted: 6/18/2008 2:45:42 PM
Haha, yea, basically, a threesome with two women sounds great. 2 guys? No thanks, I'm not gay. As such, I'd never ask for one. If she was bi though, it'd be a different story. I don't think it'd be hypocritical to only do 2 women threesomes in that scenario. Ultimately though, what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 27 (view)

Guys, how would you recommend I answer this question? Posted: 6/18/2008 2:41:04 PM
Haha, good question. I hate to say it, but at the end of the day, your bf is going to expect free massages. I'm a musician and I'll perform for free for my gf, same kinda deal I think. Your answer isn't that off, but change it around, something like "that's only a few dates down the line". Think about it this way, if you dated a prostitute, would you always have to pay for sex? When would sex become free? Or a stripper, would you have to pay for them to take their clothes off? A model, pay them to put clothes on? A chef...uhoh lol. Your profession sadly falls into something that's done by professionals and non professionals. Good luck :)

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 729 (view)

Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 6/18/2008 3:00:52 AM
Sure, I think there are tons. Problem is that far too often the jerks, players, womanizers get the results. Just a few months ago there was a girl I was interested in. We hung out a fair bit, went out to dinner, yatta yatta, but the manwhore who wanted to shag everything with tits got her. That gives nice guys/good men (and yes I'd consider myself one) with no incentive to act as such.

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 122 (view)

First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person. Posted: 6/17/2008 12:27:01 AM
Frankly, I feel it's cheating. Call me shallow or cold hearted or hypocritical, but looks factor into the equation. From pictures you can start to tell certain things about people and frankly, it's nice to have a face to put to the whole thing. I don't bother with no-photo profiles, and often skim over the 1 photo profiles unless I read something that really catches my attention. It's hard to believe that in this day and age people don't have a decent number of pictures they can post, so why not do so?

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 193 (view)

Why are guys scared of smart girls? Posted: 6/15/2008 2:26:14 PM
I'll pick you up at 8 tomorrow!! A smart girl drives me crazy! I love being able to talk about things above makeup, Paris Hilton and shoes with someone :P

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 64 (view)

does this turn you on? Posted: 6/15/2008 2:23:17 PM
No, two ugly chicks rubbing up against each other isn't hot, won't turn me on, won't get any positive reaction from me. Two hot chicks, well, wow, nice, but won't reeeeeeeally turn me on too much unless they come over and add me into their group lol. Ultimately, I'd rather a chick come over and start rubbing up on me.

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 298 (view)

How do guys really feel about being approached by women? Posted: 6/15/2008 2:18:28 PM
Go ahead, I don't think any guy is gonna be sad because a woman took away the nerves and stress of asking for a number or making a move!

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 549 (view)

Why do men stare at womens boobs & think we don't notice ??? Posted: 6/15/2008 2:11:50 PM
I doubt they think you don't notice, but probably suspect you won't do anything about it. Please don't hold us all accountable for the jerks and retards though ;)

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 52 (view)

Is owning a motorbike a turn off for men Posted: 6/15/2008 12:07:37 PM
Not for me. I like unique people though. Ya ya, I know, we're all different, but some people break the mold more than others, or at least show the breaking of the mold. Plus, it takes more than a motorbike to seem butch and unfeminine, I wouldn't worry too much.

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 108 (view)

Why women hate the one night stand and men don't Posted: 6/15/2008 4:45:30 AM
Hmmm, interesting. I had no idea about this. This question has often soared through my head, but I never knew there was a biological element. Thanks for the input!

rockinchris

Joined: 5/18/2008

Msg: 67 (view)

Do men really like Dominant Women? Posted: 6/15/2008 4:37:04 AM
Sure! Especially if we can switch roles. That way it keeps things fresh, interesting, etc. If I always need to be the dominant one, instigate everything, it gets old quickly. Furthermore, if she takes the dominant role, she's more likely to get off, which is good for everybody, and I can learn what she likes which helps me out when I take the lead.

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