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Joined: 8/17/2005

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Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash? Posted: 1/3/2008 4:32:50 PM
Okay here is my 2 cents worth: I look for someone more my equal. Someone who is established in life. Someone who has owned a home and knows what that is like. Someone who has had to go to work before to understand what that is about. Someone that pays their bills and manages their life because they are responsible. People have hard times. I'm sure all of us have been through good and bad times financially. For me the job they have or have done tells me a bit about who they are, what they are good at, what they value, what motivates them. The fact that they own or live in their own home tells me they value hearth and home. It's just as important to me that someone has travelled. I was married to a man that had not ever travelled and did not want to start. I love to travel. The mere fact they have a job, car, house just tells me a bit about who they are, but there are always exceptions and extinuating circumstances in every story. I just believe the value they bring to a relationship needs to have a balance. I hope they expect the same from me. I don't need their job, car, house... I have all that on my own and mine suits me just fine. I do seek someone to share all that I am and all that I own in life someday, and I expect he will want to share the same with me. I want a partner in life and love.

Joined: 8/17/2005

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Long hair on older women Posted: 10/31/2007 5:03:46 PM
I like my hair long. It's my trademark it seems. Just look for the 45 year old women in the room with hair down to her behind... I'm easy to spot. I like to wear in a style that's complimentary to my desire to dress in trendy fashion. Yeah, men love my hair. I actually like it when they want to touch it. It doesn't take me any longer to maintain it, than when I used to when it was cut in a particular style. I just wash it at night and let it air dry, and curl it a bit with a curling iron the next morning... piece of cake! I say wear your hair the way that makes you feel your best! It's all in the attitude anyway! Annie

Joined: 8/17/2005

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Faith has left the building! Posted: 2/1/2007 11:47:37 AM
lookinbill wrote: I think people now live in a technologic, disposable world and are influenced not so much by nature (we were once an agrarian society) and the way life really works, but by an electronic media that is geared to selling all of us a way of life that by it's definition must include the notion of buying perfection and getting rid of what we are told no longer suits us, ceases to make us "happy" or is old, ugly or inconvienient. We have been taught that the "old" needs to be replaced. I once had someone who worked in the real estate business tell me that the divorce rate was good for their business since once a couple divorced, within a few years at least one if not both of them were buying a new home. This of course applies to the furniture business as well since a divorced couple can no longer use the same kitchen table, couch etc. It is also a boon to the state sponsored day care industry, since now the two divorced people MUST both work, which is good for our economy that has shifted from the production of durable goods into an economy based on information and entertainment. The destabilization of the family unit also serves the purposes of a large central government by making more people dependent on government services. The destruction of the family unit also makes it easier for the large central government to control its citizens. The saving grace in all of this is that men and women are still the same biological creatures we have been for millenia. We still have an instinctual need to reproduce. We are still the same Spiritual creatures we have always been and feel a need to connect with the other on a Spiritual level. And we are still the same emotional creatures we have always been with a need to love and be loved. There is always hope. VERY well said... I couldn't have said it better myself. Love in today's society is what it is, and we humans can evolve and demand more by being more selective in choosing a mate....or we can maintain the status quo and go with "I'll settle for this one now, and pray for an upgrade!" I choose to be more selective. I want to be with someone I cannot live without, rather than choosing to be with someone I can merely live with.

Joined: 8/17/2005

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Advice please! Posted: 2/1/2007 11:10:23 AM
Well, if they try to fly with him to Mexico... he'll need a passport and a letter from you authorizing her to take him out of the U.S. If they drive, they can cross the border with no problem. At least until the new laws take affect that require passports to cross the borders no matter what mode of transportation you use. Is the guy on parole from prison? If so his parole officier might want to know of these threats. I would exhaust EVERY avenue from Child Protective Services to the courts to keep it from happening before I just sat there and watched it happen. I know sometimes you have to be persistant to get results using any of those avenues of mitigation. But good luck to you... it's just too bad we do not possess a crystal ball that we can consult before making children with a mate isn't it? Good luck to you.

Joined: 8/17/2005

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Stand Up If You've Been Stood Up! Posted: 1/22/2007 2:56:59 PM
I haven't been stood up but a friend of mine was telling me how she went on a date and he excused himself to go to the bathroom and never came back. OMG... now that I would have to take personally!!!! How simply awful for your friend!!!!

Joined: 8/17/2005

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Stand Up If You've Been Stood Up! Posted: 1/18/2007 12:21:13 PM
Count yourself Lucky, your date was "NOT" for NEW YEARS EVE....I celebrated 2007 with my FAMILY AND WE CAN COUNT ON EACH OTHER, while Cutting out a LOOSER. Smile... I was "stood up" in a way on New Years Eve as well. A guy I had been spending some time with and I had agreed neither of us wanted to spend our New Year's alone. He and I had been friends for over 5 years. New Year's Eve rolls around, and I haven't heard word one from him in a couple of days. Which was odd since I usually heard from him every day all throughout the day, but I knew he was having difficultly with the holidays. His divorce was just finalized back in November. So, I called him, left a v-mail... no response. Finally I sent an email to his blackberry... asking him "what the heck has happened to you?" he finally responds... he had decided to go out of town and regroup. Oh gee thanks for the heads up so I could make other plans... Completely disrespectful if you asked me. I lost a longtime friendship and my New Year arrived while I slept... How fun is that??? So I can definitely relate. Thank you all for your feedback. I will have two new criteria's before I agree to meet someone. One, they give me a working cell phone number that will be tested before we meet, and two, we call each other prior to our departures so we can make certain the other will indeed be there! Dating is what it is, and it's a gamble all the way around, but we must persevere if we wish to find "the one" to compliment and to share our lives with, right?

Joined: 8/17/2005

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Stand Up If You've Been Stood Up! Posted: 1/17/2007 4:12:07 PM
I'm just taking a survey. I'm not certain if this is something mostly men do to women, or if some men also suffer this random act of disrespect. I have had this happen to me three times now. I like meeting new people. Whether it's for potential romance if it works out or if it's for just friendship because we share common interests. But three times, I've had men email me... exchange several emails... then ask if we could meet for a drink. We set a time and place, and then... they don't show up! They don't respond to any attempts to contact them afterward either. So I have to wonder... what do they get from such a blatant act of disrespect? My time is valuable to me and my son. I don't mind making time to meet someone who's honest and geniune, but it's really irritating to make time to meet someone who seems to be playing games at my expense. How do you feel about this?

Joined: 8/17/2005

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Ladies, need your opinions again Posted: 6/30/2006 5:57:10 PM
I definitely like it when a man shows interest - then, if there's chemistry, things take off from there. I concur...

Joined: 8/17/2005

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Shallow Hal??????? Posted: 4/3/2006 1:03:23 PM
azabovesobelow... yes I do have several costumes... a whole closet full as a matter of fact. I don't think I got to play dress up enough as a child... so perhaps I'm making up for it now? Annie

Joined: 8/17/2005

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Is there anyone looking for more than just sex here? Posted: 4/1/2006 12:21:07 PM
OMG well I can see why you are quite a hottie! I know I say the same about men all the time. So many men my age are only seeking temporary physical pleasure, but I agree there is more to be had than 15 minutes (okay two hours if you are REALLY lucky) in the sack and then on to the next. Unfortunately in our disposable society, this is what many (men and women) look for. Unlucky in past relationships they carry their baggage around and fear being hurt again. So instead of learning from their mistakes, and unpacking that bag, they carry it around and seek temporary pleasure with no risk to fill the void. If that works for them... then so be it. I know it doesn't work for me. I'm glad to know there are others out there that feel the same. I adore the physical pleasures as much as anyone... but find it is way more intense when there is an emotional bond to accompany it. Good luck in your quest... Annie

Joined: 8/17/2005

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Shallow Hal??????? Posted: 4/1/2006 12:10:39 PM
Well, personally speaking and I'm considered a plus size, I don't see it as shallow at all. We all are attracted to a particular type of person. Men are very visual creatures, so the physical, at least initially, is very important to them. I don't think it is awful that you aren't attracted to these women... they are just not your type. You have preferences and they don't possess the physical characteristics that you prefer... that's all. However, I might encourage you to look outside your preferential box. You might find a very rewarding relationship with a women that could be totally out of your normal realm of preferences. I know I have a major physical attraction to tall broad shouldered thicker men, but will meet men that don't fit those characteristics just to see if there's a chemistry and an intellectual connection outside of the physical constraints. You just never know! I know back say ten years ago before digitial photos were so easy to share, I managed to fall into a couple of online relationships that carried over into the real, with men that typically went for tall slender model type women, and I in no way fit that mold! I was always honest about my physical appearance... and they found because they were attracted to my online personality, which is exactly like me in person. The point is they were intrigued and took the time to get to know me and fell in love with me anyway. The relationships were rewarding while they lasted, but we just had different agendas as far as long term career goals and so they didn't last. We still remain friends though so it's all good. Okay that's my 2 cents... Good luck in finding what you seek. I know i have faith someday I too will find my Prince... until then I just keep an open mind and keep searching! Annie

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