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juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

Msg: 79 (view)

How important is money? Posted: 7/6/2009 12:18:52 PM
I think believing a man should be on lots more money than a woman is old fashioned & would severely limit your number of potential partners. After all, in the modern world with the bloke being on an average wage is usually enough to take care of the woman when she needs to be taken care of. What happens if you're attractive with no money? I think a non decent woman would take her pick & find a rich bloke whilst a poor non decent attractive bloke would find an attractive woman. I think looks are as important to a man as money is to a woman but having a long term partner based on these ideals would be shallow depending on the disparity. My experience is my last 2 girlfriends were on 30% more money than me (I have a regular office job) & money was never an issue plus 1 girl was v-pretty with a great personality but she lost points for having a child.

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

Msg: 70 (view)

How important is money? Posted: 7/5/2009 3:35:15 PM
I believe in equality (hurray I hear women scream), so a bloke on an average wage shacking up with a girl on the similar is great, but when a woman filters out all but those on much higher money is bad. Maybe us men should be grateful these women show their true colours early on so we can spend more time looking for a descent genuine woman.

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

Msg: 119 (view)

Get rid of new Puppy or Else... Posted: 7/5/2009 3:27:10 PM
Arr thats so sad 'the puppy or me'. I know a girl who has 3 dogs & I would not even consider going there as 2 or more dogs would be too much & she'd obviously have no affection left (hope that dont sound selfish), but a little puppy...

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

Msg: 67 (view)

Would you ever consider? Posted: 7/5/2009 3:20:07 PM
If I had a disability which was equally as bad then yeah. Does that make me shallow?

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

Msg: 99 (view)

A question for you serious-minded men... Posted: 7/5/2009 3:17:34 PM
Yeah sure Id like meet an intelligent girl as I get bored with women who cant keep up in conversation or you have keep explaining things to.

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

Msg: 104 (view)

Where are the decent men that are looking for more than just sex.... Posted: 7/5/2009 3:15:37 PM
Of course there are genuine decent men out there, its just that quality is not as good as the qualities women look for such as looks, money, bad-boy, power etc.

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

Msg: 67 (view)

How important is money? Posted: 7/5/2009 3:11:45 PM
What does my head in is when the first question out of a womans mouth is 'what do you do?' ie i'll only date you if you have a good job & will take care of me. Whats worse is women are even demanding this pre-requisite in their profile, like this example: I'm looking for a man who has the 3 M's... Manners, Muscles and Money How bad is that? YUK !!

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

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How come 99% of my emails are ignored Posted: 6/14/2009 12:01:38 PM
How come 99% of the "EXAMPLES OF WHAT THREADS ARE NOT VALID" section of the FAQ is ignored? Particularly bullet #3. Sounds like someone has a grumpy monkey up their bum. I think the thread is fine & just asking a general question which affects lots of men/women. If it gets deleted, so what. Its maybe highlighted some ppl who just want a moan. Who we should all stay clear of lol

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

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How come 99% of my emails are ignored Posted: 6/14/2009 11:54:39 AM
Hmm I see what you mean 'seem clingy and needy and an attention seeker', thats just how my profile turned out after tweaking in the profile review section. Trust me, after being single for 20 years ive learned to be confident to do what I want on my own. well ive notice that when some one puts me on their favorit list and i write an email thanking them they never reply to my emial so your not alone op Yeah, I dont understand someone putting you in their favs then not getting in touch with you, so I delete them if after a day I hear nothing, its wierd.

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

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How come 99% of my emails are ignored Posted: 6/14/2009 11:42:40 AM
Does one have to score >8 on his pic rating and/or appear rich in his profile? Im confused Women usually say they want a normal genuine guy but if the above is true then are you fibbing? As how many guys will be single who are also good looking & rich? Ive tried all sorts of email types to test but mostly get no reply, ive also checked my settings. Is it because women are just bombarded with loads of emails? As a laugh I rate my emails as: read/deleted=poor read (not deleted yet)=ok (but woman could be psycho & collecting emails) read + looked at my profile=promising read + looked at profile + replied with no interested=AT LAST A GIRL WHO HAS THE DECENCY TO REPLY, IVE FOUND A DECENT GIRL HURRAY! hmm but she's not interested lol

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

Msg: 161 (view)

Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay? Posted: 6/14/2009 10:22:46 AM
I think there are a lot of decent guys & decent women on here, its just becoming attracted to each other is the problem. From a guys perspective; I think im decent, have no skeletons in my closet & am looking for a decent girl for a long term relationship but 99% of emails sent to girls on here are ignored. Thats it then ladies: if your first thought is to ignore a guy then he's decent... lol. I hate to sound shallow but the only emails I get are from really really ugly women with 3 kids & im shocked to think they are bothering with me & expect me to be interested. Maybe the guys that do respond with interest to these emails are players? Its my opinion therefore that women pass-up decent guys because they receive so many emails they can pick the nicest looking guys (who are usually players else they'd already be hitched) & men pass-up decent girls because they're ignored. Hmm women being too picky on looks & I just thought shallow women were interested in money, heh heh.

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

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He took me to eat at a sausage bar... Posted: 6/7/2009 1:26:17 PM
I think its funny, either he has a gsoh or didnt realise where he was lol. Unless he was also making lurid suggestions Id not worry.

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

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I just have a protocol question Posted: 6/7/2009 1:14:08 PM
Id guess he's not that interested & has taken the cowards way out by ignoring you. Be careful tho as some people may just be playing hard to get, but after 5 days id guess its over.

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

Msg: 37 (view)

kidz become main issue Posted: 6/7/2009 1:00:39 PM
I just had a similar experience. I was dating a fantastic girl who had a 5yr old & at first everything was great & I wasn't bothered she had a child. Then as time went on, the restrictions on her lifestyle because of her child really stifled things & I found myself being more unhappy than when I was single. Put simply it was like having a long distance relationship with a girl who lived a mile down the road. Maybe if I had more patience I could have developed feeling for this girl & accepted things, but I had to abandon as it was too much. Perhaps if I had kids somewhere Id have been more understanding.

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

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Why do you come on here if you dont want meet anyone? Posted: 6/7/2009 11:07:35 AM
Just because an attractive person has a profile here doesnt mean they find other profiles attractive. Quality doesnt pop up very often. I think thats a bit shallow, especially coming from a woman. I thought blokes mainly went after looks & beauty was skin deep & all? Darn... Or did you meen attractive by a guy being rich or having a good profile? Well im running out of average looking women in my area who wont reply. lol Trouble is my ex was quite pretty & I dont find below average looking women attractive enough to pursue (I blame that on being a bloke & going for looks lol). I think i should spend more time in the real world heh heh. thanks for the comments tho

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

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Why do you come on here if you dont want meet anyone? Posted: 6/7/2009 7:35:10 AM
Yeah a more selective girl would probably be a nicer girl I recon. Im not fussed about this particular girl, although quite a few girls fall in the same category. Ok, just took a timed pic of myself with a smile, god that was hard. lol

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

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Why do you come on here if you dont want meet anyone? Posted: 6/7/2009 6:44:07 AM
Ahh picky or forums. I must admit Im getting interested in these forums, a bit more exciting than clicking search/view/search/view. lol. thanx

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

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Why do you come on here if you dont want meet anyone? Posted: 6/7/2009 6:24:04 AM
Hya, as the title says & it confuses me. Eg. I was on this site a year ago & a girl popped up in my search but didnt reply to an email, which is ok as it happens a lot. Anyway Im back on this site now im single again & this girl is still on pof with the same pics/profile, coming on every day, but is now a serious member. Surely I cant believe a pretty girl cant find a desent bloke, being on here every day for a year? Am I missing something, thanks.

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

Msg: 84 (view)

Would you marry with wedding rings that only cost 18 quid?..... Posted: 6/6/2009 5:12:26 AM
Its the thought that counts. I bet some women would be more impressed with a £1000 rock, but do you really want to be with a girl who would be much happier with a £2000 ring or a £20 ring. Granted £20 is a bit cheap skate & a bit embarrising to show your friends, but does that matter as much as the meaning of the ring. If the guy was rich & could easily afford an expensive ring but didnt get one, then why not.

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

Msg: 52 (view)

What's the longest time you've been single? Posted: 6/6/2009 5:05:19 AM
From 16 to 36 so 20 years, not so shy anymore, phew...

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

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Just revamped profile after a spell away Posted: 6/3/2009 12:17:03 PM
Ok I just tried to fix ma profile. I think it looks a bit quirky now & I struggled with the opening headline. I dont really want to look at other examples, but prefer try let me shine through if you understand? If it better then thats positive :)

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

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Just revamped profile after a spell away Posted: 6/3/2009 12:49:50 AM
woo thanks 4 the help, something to work on i thinks Ps. ive always used juno-first as a username, it was the first ever computer game i played, what a geek lol

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

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Just revamped profile after a spell away Posted: 6/2/2009 2:39:44 PM
I never thought of it that way, maybe I was clouded by frustration & was just venting the ignorant word, as I presume 99% of men feel the same too? I always try to be honest, but I guess in this case its not the best policy.

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

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personality versus looks Posted: 6/2/2009 2:36:19 PM
Hear hear... hmm or is it here here. lol Yer I agree, but I suppose non super looking women dont get many emails either, so it works both ways huh? I've always found so much harder to get chatting with a girl online so hopefully she can get to know me more than my id pic. Ironically its much easier talk to a girl in a pub than online lol.

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

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Just revamped profile after a spell away Posted: 6/2/2009 2:26:17 PM
Ive just revamped the profile after a spell away from pof. Do you mind telling me if it looks ok as I got the usual sob story of no replies, boo hoo. Oh, i dont av any pics of me smiling (I know sad) & if i try smiling in front of a webcam i look like an axe murderer or something lol. Anyway, tips would be appreciated, thanx...

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

Msg: 185 (view)

Are women afraid of Attractive guys? Posted: 10/2/2008 1:26:15 PM
I think im average looking & dare not speak to attractive women either. Even though Id love go out with a pretty girl if she also had a nice personality. I just never bother even approaching pretty girls anymore, I think I need hypnotherapy lol. I have a huge fear of rejection from attractive women as they might think im not good enough looking for them, but I've no qualms about being rejected by below average looking women as I think well at least its not my looks that turned them off. Therefore with me (maybe men in general) rejection must be based on looks, which sounds kinda materialistic, huh.

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

Msg: 554 (view)

18 year old girl marries a 40 year old man? Posted: 9/21/2008 6:30:49 AM
18+40 does sound a big age gap & unless the 18yr old is really mature Id question the sincerity of the 40yr old. Maybe in rare cases where both fell head over heals in love then yeah great. Being a 40yr old man is different to being a 40yr old woman as at 40 its not a good idea for a woman to bare children, although its still ok for a man at 40 as he was at 20, plus he'd have bundles more maturity/stability/finance to handle a family at 40. I went out with a 21yr old last year when I was 35 & it was no big deal. We both got on okay & didn't look odd in public (maybe because I look younger). Its ok for a woman if she has a child as that child will be hers & have her genetic makeup, whereas if a man leaves a failed family & still wants to bring-up his own child (which is obviously as fair as a woman having a child) then he will need to 'father' a new child, which will probably happen with a younger woman. That may sound unfair to single mothers, but as in nature, there are loads of men willing to father someone elses offspring, but a woman may have to drop her standards in order to 'catch' one of these men (which may be the biggest reason for the man accepting someone elses children).

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

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Does my profile look ok? thanx Posted: 9/20/2008 1:16:12 PM
I agree about me not smiling, its just hard when you're pointing a webcam at yourself to smile without looking like an axe merdurer. The bit about the beach is true but maybe it is too 'full-on' & I should just mention a stroll along the beach? What do you think girls? I dont mind scaring away girls with no humour anyway, but I agree that a lot of women are very jaded & think all men are just after one thing.

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

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Does my profile look ok? thanx Posted: 9/20/2008 12:11:53 PM
Ahh thanx, I never saw those guidelines :) Right i've just re-hashed my profile based on the guidelines, so hopefully its looking a bit better now :) I dunno whether remove the funny vid though?

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

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Does my profile look ok? thanx Posted: 9/20/2008 11:26:25 AM
I just wrote what i thought was right & shows what im like & what kind of person im hoping to meet. I dont know if expressing my thoughts in words is my forte, as girls look but never message me & every message I send is ignored. Did I put too many pics in, should I delete some? ta

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

Msg: 129 (view)

going to cinema on own Posted: 9/20/2008 1:39:45 AM
I've been going the cinema (as we call it in the UK) alone now for 20 years & sometimes feel odd on my own, which is why I dont go on eg. Saturday nights anymore. I could go with a female friend but am not fussed about going on my own.

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

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Childfree Dating Posted: 9/17/2008 3:09:46 PM
I would never date & have never have dated a woman with children out of choice, even if it was Pamela Anderson or Angelina Jolene. I find it a huge insult that a single mother would expect me to even consider her for dating, purely for the fact that I dont have any children. There must be loads of bas.tard makers out there than people like me, let them get what they deserve. Its funny that eg a girl I was at school with never looked twice at me then but now she has 2 kids she would look 3 times my way. Maybe its instinct that forces girls to get kids from**** young nobs then go searching for some geek to look after them. There is a price to pay for my decision however & that is as I'm getting older there are fewer single untied women & younger girls dont like guys like me, so I'm a victim of my own morals. Ironic, considering I'd love kids of my own 1 day.

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

Msg: 27 (view)

Taking Responsibility For Safe Sex Posted: 9/14/2008 3:47:21 AM
I can happily admit I've always used a condom, hey does that make me a virgin lol. I've been with some older women (err my age) & they've said you dont need to use that as I'm sterilized & are then confused when I still use protection. I must admit half the reason I use protection is as a contraceptive too. If one day I meet a nice girl, get to know her either by history or being tested, Id not use protection if she was on the pill or we wanted children. Is that a pipe dream?

juno-first

Joined: 5/19/2008

Msg: 124 (view)

What's really stopping you from having a successful relationship? Posted: 5/26/2008 11:59:42 AM
The biggest reason that stops me is Shyness... I've know girls to virtually throw themselves at me & even though I've liked them too, I've not responded: like I was bound & gagged or something lol. If eg. a pretty girl even speaks to me I just go red in the face (even at age 36) so I always find a quick escape out of a conversation or just dont speak & probably seam uninterested. Its crazy because sometimes I'm very confident, like meeting girls in town for a drink off this site. It seams once the 'ice has broken' I'm okay.

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