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 Author Thread: Obama/Romney...the world is wondering.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 268 (view)
 
Obama/Romney...the world is wondering.
Posted: 11/3/2012 1:11:49 AM
I just want to take a jab at some of these.


One might add:
The dow has moved from 6600 to the mid 13's


The DOW means absolutely nothing to a great majority of Americans. I'm not saying it doesn't impact economics (it does) but I'm more likely to vote for someone who can give me a job than someone who can boast about DOW numbers. I don't own stocks, my grandfather does, but other than that it's not something that keeps me up at night. BTW, I thought Wall Street was the enemy? What's good for Wall Street is bad for the common man? Or is it just the enemy unless it makes Obama look good?


The US economy has moved steadily forward while the world economy has floundered


I assume you're talking about GDP growth? The question is: is it moving forward because of Obama, or despite him?
You can't be talking about unemployment or govt. spending because both are higher than when Obama took office.


The US is ready to takeover the world lead in oil production from the Saudi's


Really? We are all set to pump more oil, refine it and process it than the Saudi's? That's unbelievable.


The housing market is turning around after being decimated at the end of the last administration.


Finally. Now everyone can buy that new house. I'm gonna live In Beverly Hills. I might buy a solid gold Rolls Royce, too.


The US has had jobs growth while the rest of the world is in economic slow-down


It's nice to talk about job growth, but you should compare it to unemployment. Job creation got boosted last month, but was offset by jobs lost. Overall we only lost about 1000 jobs in the USA (a good month for us!) But, most of the jobs were govt created. I hope we're learning something from Greece from all this.


And all this with a non-partisan congress that has done absolutely nothing to forward the interests of the nation.


I think you mean a partisan congress. Partisan means an adherent to a political party, such as the Republicans or Democrats. And, obviously, party members tend to support party policies. One of the great beauties of our government is that to achieve things people have to compromise. It's not a monarchy where Obama hands out decrees. Neither is the President a rubber stamp for congress. When the govt. is run by one party, voters tend to want to "right the ship." See what happened to the Democrat-controlled Congress after Obamacare was rammed through. The Republicans felt Obama gave them the middle finger and said: "we don't need you. we don't need to compromise. we can push through anything we want." It's pointless to argue the Right isn't playing nice, when the Left does the same. Why you would even try to make this a arguing point is kind of silly.
 Touchdown Bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 58 (view)
 
I am not sexually attracted to my own ethnicity
Posted: 12/4/2009 9:21:38 AM
Just FYI to everyone, a "fetish" basically means that the person depends on the item or whatever to achieve gratification. For instance, liking to be tied up isn't a fetish. Inability to achieve any pleasure from sex unless the person is tied up is a fetish. It's just a preference 99% of the time.

Superdooper, I think I read that a lot of the draw for Asian women, by Caucasian men, is the facial features which tend to make an Asian woman look very young.
 Touchdown Bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 49 (view)
 
What's the difference between affectionate and clingy?
Posted: 11/16/2009 4:30:36 PM
[quote[for some reason, I got the impression that it was a matter of degree, it seemed to me that some posters on this very thread equate affection and clinginess within a hair's breadth --- clingy = if its unwanted

I'll put it this way, ever been at a bar or party, and there's a woman there that is just all over you, yet you don't think she's attractive at all. Well, you may think of her as "clingy". However, if another woman was doing the same thing, yet you found her incredibly hot, you might view it as "affection" instead.

Same thing in a relationship, you're annoyed at your partner for whatever reason and they want to smother you with attention vs. wanting the attention and getting it.
 Touchdown Bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
 
cheated
Posted: 11/15/2009 10:44:28 AM
OP, I would abandon this relationship if I were you. Has nothing to do with some sex that took place while you two were split. It's just obvious that your relationship is doomed from one thing or another. Stop wasting each others time. Break up and stay broken. Don't even remain friends. I'm sure any friends that have listened to the two of you talk about your relationship woes would agree.
 Touchdown Bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Guilty until proven innocent
Posted: 11/15/2009 10:29:28 AM
Wow, 19 years with someone like that? I wouldn't be able to stand 19 days of that crap. I never understand why someone would "think" that their mate is cheating on them, and not dump them immediately.
 Touchdown Bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 46 (view)
 
What's the difference between affectionate and clingy?
Posted: 11/15/2009 10:26:16 AM

I've noticed a lot of people claim to be affectionate in their profiles.
OK, what I don't get is, when does affectionate cross the line into clingy territory?


Affection is when you want it, clingy is when you don't.
 Touchdown Bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 222 (view)
 
IS IT TRUE THAT A WOMAN SHOULDN’T PURSUE A MAN?
Posted: 11/11/2009 10:14:52 PM
I think it's disingenuous to assume that women don't "chase" men. Most women do, just not in the way that men think they should. Men think "chasing" a woman is giving her that first line, getting her phone number, asking her out to dinner etc. Women will be much more subtle and drop their little clues and most of the time guys just don't notice them. Of course it's all proportional as well. Even a woman who swears she never chases a guy probably would if she was really, really into that guy and he wouldn't look twice at her.
 Touchdown Bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
too fast, too soon!
Posted: 11/11/2009 9:53:04 PM
OP, I've worked behavioral health off and on for the past 15 years and I can say that Borderline Personality Disorder is probably the most vexing mental illness one can deal with. If you decide to make a real effort at being with this woman, just prepare yourself. These issues do not go away. Ever. What you're dealing with now, you will be dealing with 5, 10, 20, 40 years from now. Even parents of BPD children can be driven batshit with this stuff, and they're blood relation. There is no changing her, and no adjusting her ways. Either accept her as she is right now, or get out ASAP.
 Touchdown Bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 30 (view)
 
starting to give up findeing love
Posted: 11/11/2009 9:44:12 PM
Just curious, what do you think Che Guevara would think about being marketed for mass consumption on cheap t-shirts made in some dirt poor South American country and sold in a mall to capitalist, middle class whites? Do you think he'd find it ironically humorous?
 Touchdown Bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
on-again, off-again
Posted: 11/11/2009 9:38:11 PM
I agree that you should dump him. He was dumb enough to tell you about macking on a 21yr. old so he's obviously not intelligent. I can't think of any reason to share that bit of info outside of being a masochist or craving drama.
 Touchdown Bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 60 (view)
 
Should I get divorced?
Posted: 11/11/2009 12:00:29 PM
"I suggest you edit your profile, though, as you're currently listed as being single..."

I'll answer for him, with the same answer everyone gives in this situation: "I'm only here for the forums."
 Touchdown Bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Should I get divorced?
Posted: 11/8/2009 7:10:39 PM
"We just may not be right for each other. "

How do you get married without being 100% certain of this BEFORE the nuptials? There must have been some sort of basis for getting married in the first place, right? Was it out of love, or out of the child? My gut reaction is that you two must do everything possible to work it out and stay together. Sit her down and make a pact that the two of you will be 100% honest with each other from then on. Don't get mad if she tells you something that hurts you, or the communication will end right there. Tell her how you are feeling and vice versa listen to what she says as well. Use this as an opportunity to reconnect and try to solve these issues. Only after all efforts have failed would I consider divorce.
 Touchdown Bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 2590 (view)
 
what is everyones opin on tattoos?
Posted: 11/8/2009 7:01:22 PM
people who get tats on their face and neck are usually a more hardcore about it and get sleeves and the works so I doubt they care what we think about it. I do think the tramp stamp thing is so overdone its a turnoff. Ironic that something meant to be a mark of individuality is so generic now.
 Touchdown Bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 2586 (view)
 
what is everyones opin on tattoos?
Posted: 11/6/2009 11:36:54 PM
"I find this all so very confusing. I thought that we stopped judging people by their color."

Are you serious? That's so naive.

"I guess those of us who choose to express ourselves will just be sitting in the back of the bus then?"

Right. People with tattoos (myself included) should equate ourselves with segregation. That's not an over-reaction, or disrespectful to people who actually had to suffer through it.

"I got my tattoo about 12 yrs ago. Its on my lower back. I was horrified to hear what they call tattoos in that spot now. Tramp Stamps!! Why is that?"

Because every 19yr. old ditz on the planet gets the exact same "tribal" tattoo in the exact same spot.
 Touchdown Bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 286 (view)
 
Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 11/6/2009 11:10:58 PM
I think stupid chicks are getting the short end of the stick in this thread. All these guys proclaiming that they will only date the most intelligent women around. Well, I will gladly go out with any not-so-smart women who may come around. I don't need to sit around and talk about politics or Noam Chomsky, or any other BS that self-proclaimed "smart" folks like to mentally masturbate over. I don't care what your IQ is, it's all about the heart.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Why?
Posted: 8/18/2009 3:24:14 AM
In this thread I attempted to make conversation with some people. Which tells me that there is nothing wrong with me, it was they who had underdeveloped social skills.....

Rdtoo, I do enjoy reading your posts, and responding to them. It injects a bit of humor into the workday. But, don't confuse me feeling better about myself, with me thinking less of others.

Terri, I can see why everyone in this thread is single!

Attitude, looks, and no sense of humor!!

haha, just kidding
my gosh
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Why?
Posted: 8/16/2009 2:11:21 PM
Hmmm, well it tells me just the opposite.

You said they acted like you shat on the floor. Were you indeed shitting on the floor at the time? Obviously, I'm just yanking your chain, but what's the common denominator in that situation you described? Everyone you talked to just happened to have "underdeveloped social skills"? Or was the problem with what you were doing?

I'm just being rhetorical, it's never any one persons fault, it's always everybody else.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Why?
Posted: 8/16/2009 9:35:09 AM

Very good that you dont..and neither do i, but it does happen. If you think it doesnt, you are very naive.


Oh, I'm sure it happens, but if I go into a bar and EVERYONE stares at me like I'm a freak I think aodds are that I'm probably a freak.


The only time I do this is when I am actually impressed by a well thought out profile.


I see kind of impressive profiles occasionally, I either e-mail the person to get to know them better, or I don't e-mail them at all because they probably couldn't care less what I think of their profile.


bundy, you seem to have a c0cky attitude...


ok
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Why?
Posted: 8/15/2009 5:06:41 PM
Oh, I understand what you're saying, but I think most people on the site don't need to know if someone likes their profile but has no interest. I have had a few people "compliment" my profile, my internal response was: "okkk.... thanks I guess?" Of course that's just me. It's like saying "Nice shoes."


<div class="quote">If you go up to someone and try to start a friendly conversation and get stared at like you're some non-humanoid freak like what happened to RD...

Right. Do you do that to someone when they're just being friendly? I don't. Don't know anyone who does. But, since some guy on the internet says it happens, then I guess I'll just have to put all faith in it. It certainly couldn't be something he did.

"Sometimes I think my emails to people have been too smart for their own good."

There aren't enough eye rolling emoticons for this. Everyone's a self-proclaimed genius on PoF. How about a little humility?

I've been to a PoF get-together once. It was a horrible, complete, waste of time. I should have known just by the venue that it was not gonna be fun, but I thought I would give it a try. The place was PACKED with early-twenty-somethings, techno music roaring so loud you couldn't even hear anyone, and the PoF crowd was stuck in a corner. About seven PoF women dancing on the floor, and twenty PoF guys standing around with drinks who couldn't look any less uncomfortable if they tried. Never again. Not that anyone would miss me at any of those.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Why?
Posted: 8/15/2009 11:10:58 AM


I have emailed quite a few women over the years just to say kudos on an intelligent composed profile and have had my mail deleted immediately. I have tried to be friendly and talk to people at POF parties and got stares like I had just defecated on the floor or something.



Those are the people that you know right off the bat are showing their true colors and you can cross them right off your list.


Yes, you can cross them off because they were obviously not interested in you. I don't think anyone actually believes that "they are doing you a favor" by not responding, but if it helps you sleep better at night, go for it.

If you simply write someone to say "nice profile" why wouldn't they read/delete it? What are they supposed to do? Save it forever, have it framed and mounted on their wall? E-mailing "nice profile" is the easy way out. It's like sending a "wink". If you're interested and want to know the person better, then say so.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 295 (view)
 
Do women cook anymore??
Posted: 8/13/2009 10:04:54 AM

Are men "MEN" anymore....??? Do you change the oil in your car....?? Are you able to fix any problem with the car anymore?? Do you fix the plumbing in the house anymore?? Are you a handyman?? Are you able to provide for the family anymore or is this a shared responsiblity now?? .....Do you treat your woman like a lady anymore??


Ummm, I'm not asking for a woman to do all the "woman" things. I can cook, and it would be nice if I could find a woman who does as well. That's it. I don't think that's asking for too much, or asking a woman to be old-fashioned. Just share the responsibilities. I suppose if I knew plumbing well and did it all the time maybe I would ask for a woman to do it as well, but I think that's a bit too much...
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Why?
Posted: 8/10/2009 5:42:20 PM
I found another beauty of an interest today:

"I enjoy doing fun things"

Wow. I never thought I'd meet someone with the exact same interest as me. I like doing fun things too! I wonder if she likes laughing as well? This could be a match made in heaven.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 29 (view)
 
Why?
Posted: 8/10/2009 8:24:54 AM
A full body shot is almost a requirement nowadays, seeing as how people seem to have a misconception about what "a few extra pounds" really means. I recently had a date where the person was "a few extra pounds" on their profile, and about 280 lbs. yeah, I'm probably shallow, but I'm just plain not interested in someone that overweight.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 233 (view)
 
Do women cook anymore??
Posted: 8/8/2009 4:41:23 PM

We don't cook because we refuse to be your slave. Get off your ass and fix your own sandwich. I think your mother would really hate you right now. Besides, why do you think God made restrauants. So I don't have to cook.


It's hard to believe you're still single. You seem like such a treasure.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
 
can someone help me with my soon to be hubby
Posted: 8/7/2009 10:41:07 PM

Do you suppose...sir...that one can come to this site...looking for someone and enjoy the forums...then find someone but still remain for the enjoyment of the forums.


I could buy that if these forums were somehow different than any other of the million forums out there. Which they aren't.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
can someone help me with my soon to be hubby
Posted: 8/7/2009 10:24:58 PM

There are lots of folks on this site who are here for reasons other than dating, including myself. Look before you leap...


I read her profile, and I call bullshit. On you as well. People are here PRETENDING they aren't looking for something, when I think they are. There's plenty of other forums out there, yet here you are on a dating website. It's not fooling anyone.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Why are some men afraid to express their feelings?
Posted: 8/7/2009 9:57:21 PM

Okay, I had been seeing this guy for a long time and we had great chemistry but for some reason he was always afraid to tell me how he felt about me. It's like I always had to guess and I hate that. I knew he cared by his actions but I'm the type who needs to hear it from a guy's own mouth. Just recently he stopped talking to me and I have no idea why, so I'm confused as all H*ll because everything was going cool but then the communication just stopped. I don't get it. Why do guys do stupid stuff like that?


Women will ask us to bear our souls, and share our thoughts. Then get pissed and outraged when we actually do. It's called a lose/lose situation. Some times women want to hear our opinions, but only if it clearly reflects how they think as well.

If you want your guy to open up, he has to feel that you aren't going to jump down his throat when he does. I'm not saying you do this, only you know if you are. It sounds like trust issues to me.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
can someone help me with my soon to be hubby
Posted: 8/7/2009 9:48:43 PM
Advice... hmmmm... how about closing your internet dating website profile? Seeing as how you're engaged and all....

Trust what others have been saying. You're not going to be any happier by getting married so young, to someone who obviously is having second thoughts. You're obviously not all that into him either, or else why are you here? And don't give me that "just here for the forums" BS, no one buys that.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 207 (view)
 
Do women cook anymore??
Posted: 8/7/2009 3:38:04 PM
I think we can all agree on at least one thing. Man or woman, someone who knows how to cook is certainly deemed a better catch than those who can't. Of course to some it won't matter either way, but to most it's certainly a bonus.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 154 (view)
 
Do women cook anymore??
Posted: 8/6/2009 8:12:26 PM

i can't cook, clean, or sew.


How does that work that you can't clean? I mean, it's not like doing calculus, or astrophysics. You put some detergent on something and use a scrubbing motion.


luckily i have a boyfriend who likes to cook and clean


Somehow I very much doubt that he likes to do all that. Perhaps there's just no other option, as he doesn't want to live in a mound of soiled maxi-pads and dirty dishes.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 101 (view)
 
Do women cook anymore??
Posted: 8/6/2009 4:06:17 PM
My ex didn't even know how to turn a computer on let alone the difference between the C drive or the hard drive.


?

Hmmm, that's a pretty interesting statement. Perhaps you could explain the difference to me since I'm under the impression that a "C" drive is a hard drive.


It's really quite simple...the old "women belong in the kitchen" mentality brings about the problem....makes it sound like we don't belong anywhere else...yanno?...the differnce between appreciating and demanding clears that up for me personally...


No one is saying that women belong in the kitchen. I'm more than willing to share the duties, yet I'm hearing a lot of "it's degrading to even expect me to know how to cook." All I'm asking for is someone who can at least add to the responsibilities of daily life, rather than get offended by the expectation of same equality they are asking for.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 428 (view)
 
He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 8/6/2009 3:57:42 PM

It's pathetic when guys use the forums as a means to score brownie points with women by defending them no matter how stupid it is.


I'm not aiming this at anyone in particular, but I definitely agree.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 96 (view)
 
Do women cook anymore??
Posted: 8/6/2009 3:50:47 PM

My brother knows how to cook and is the one doing most of the cooking in his relationship. Why? Because in my family if you can walk, you can help in the kitchen and when you help, you learn.


.... I'm confused. All the women in your brother's family can't walk, so that's why he does most of the cooking? This thread wasn't really about men wanting servants, I thought it was about at least sharing the duties.

Women, would you like to find a man that can do his share of the laundry? So, why is it so awful to want a woman that can cook?
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 52 (view)
 
Do women cook anymore??
Posted: 8/6/2009 12:29:54 PM
My last gf claims she new how to cook, I probably made dinner for us at least a dozen times, she never did once. She did occasionally wash the dishes which I definitely appreciated. Of course, I always took out the trash, all the "fixing" around the house, etc.

I agree that there should be shared responsibilities, so why should I be the only one to cook? Do I want a woman who knows how to cook? Absolutely. Is that sexist? If the roles were reversed, and I expected my gf to cook, do my laundry, etc. I can assume that I would be crucified like the OP, but when a guy asks for it, it's caveman-like behavior?
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
 
The Love of My Life ......married with incurable cancer
Posted: 8/5/2009 9:09:22 PM

He never said that, but he is the sweetest guy I ever met


Yeah, he sounds like a real treasure. If it was you whom he married, and was cheating on, you might have a different take on that.


My question is, if you knew that you might only have a short time left to live, would you want to spend it with someone you love even though it required a big change in your life? Or, would you go to that safe place you now call home and spend the rest of your life with a miserable witch (who just happens to be a nurse)?


Undoubtedly, I would want to be with someone I love. So, either he doesn't really love you, or he's consciously choosing to be with a "witch" over you. Either way, it sounds like you know how this ends.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 394 (view)
 
He brought his Fanny with him...
Posted: 8/4/2009 9:58:48 PM
I just imagine that the guy had an insulin pump or heart monitor, and thought it would be better to hide it in a fanny pack than clip it to his belt.

Superficial? Yeah.

But, that's ok. Some people wouldn't date you because of your race, I'm sure you'd be just as understanding of their preference as well.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Where is the follow thru?
Posted: 8/4/2009 9:46:05 PM
I gotta agree with some others have already said.

Go on the offensive, and start e-mailing guys you would like to meet. The ones that sound interesting, or funny, and give a genuine vibe.

However, be prepared to put effort into it. As has been said, a boring or barebones e-mail is not going to cut it with those types.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 41 (view)
 
The no-chemistry conversation
Posted: 8/4/2009 9:24:59 PM

Why do you care what a guy "go and nowhere near close ato a 10 himself" thinks about you? Let it be!


If you're gonna quote someone, at least spell at a third grade level.

Second, she cares because her feelings are hurt. Rejection stings everyone.

My only advice is to always meet someone sooner rather than later. All the four hour chat sessions can end in a heartbeat when they meet you in person.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 193 (view)
 
single mom body issues
Posted: 8/4/2009 6:14:31 PM
I think Buttons hit the nail on the head.

BTw, switch "stretch marks" with "crooked teeth" and watch the 'inner beauty' crowd run for the hills. Or, beer bellies, baldness, short guys, etc...

We like what we like, no right or wrong about it.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 189 (view)
 
single mom body issues
Posted: 8/4/2009 10:31:30 AM
What's wrong with keeping this thread alive? Do we have to make room for all the important threads that are trying to solve world hunger? Or, maybe bump yet another "unread/delete" thread....
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 66 (view)
 
Women and The Mention of Their Kids
Posted: 8/2/2009 2:43:14 PM

They have children, they need to raise their children, kids are great, kids are wonderful. Of course it's going to be mentioned in their profile.


Nothing wrong with mentioning it. I think that putting the kids as the focus of the profile is what people are opposed to. Folks want to date the person, not their kids. Also, it goes without saying that the kids are the priority. I feel the vibe that it gives off is that the person may not have much going on in their life other than managing their rugrats, and that's kind of a turnoff.


Some women want things that are unrealistic, but something like "Making me laugh" is not.


I agree, it's not unrealistic. However, a lot of women put it out there more like a demand, tho. For instance, if a guy said "Make me dinner, and you'll win my heart." You could see how that might engender a little rolling of the eyes.

It also seems to be a singularly female thing. I mean, guys do like to laugh as well. It also feels redundant. Does anyone NOT like to laugh? Has anyone ever put "sense of humor not wanted" on their profile?


If you don't want women who list that stuff, move to another profile, it's easy and quick.


That's very good advice.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Why?
Posted: 7/31/2009 10:16:08 AM

But nooooooooooo, again a man is turning it into, "It is YOU the WOMAN who is the fault."


You're talking about me when you say this? I'm not sure why, as if your friend was a guy I would say the same thing.

Obviously we are not getting our points across in the way we want, so we'll just agree to disagree.

Still, best of luck to you in your search, be it here in MI or elsewhere. I do understand your frustration, it's hard for most of us on PoF to find what we are looking for. I'm a bit of an optimist though, and believe I will one day find that special someone, so I'm not gonna throw in the towel just yet.

Also, sorry to the OP for dragging his thread off-topic. One of my pet peeves in a profile is it seems like a lot of women have pics of themselves in a bar holding a drink, which is kind of a turnoff to those of us who aren't much of a drinker. Just kind of gives off a 'barfly' vibe.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Why?
Posted: 7/31/2009 9:11:18 AM
Please, reconsider what I've said. I'm not laying the blame on women for my being single. In fact, I'm not complaining about it at all. Just explaining why I personally don't send out very many e-mails on PoF.

I do not "expect" the woman to e-mail first, you're getting all fired up about something I never said.

I did not mean to infer that it's always the woman's fault when it comes to dating troubles, either. What I'm saying is that if everyone I know is saying I have bad breath, then am I going to get all defensive and say it's always other people with the problem? Perhaps I just have bad breath (I don't, btw, lol) Maybe that's a poor example, but hopefully you understand the point I'm trying to make.

If you mean that just in general people always blame the women, then I agree that's foolish. However, to take your own advice, if someone is not satisfied with the responses they get, and not willing to make the first move, then who else is to blame? Man or woman, it doesn't matter.

The point I was trying to make, is it more likely that every one of the dozens (maybe hundreds?) of guys your friend has dated has been a complete loser who didn't want a second date, or could the problem just plain be with your friend? Not a even a single second date from all the multitude makes me wonder if she's got a caustic attitude, grotesque physical defect, or something....

Again, I'm not saying you should e-mail anyone at all. If you want to find a potential partner on this site, though, you may want to consider it.

I understand you're seemingly upset about PoF, but please don't misquote what I've said.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 225 (view)
 
Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 7/30/2009 10:13:31 PM

As for me I have a very high powered intellect, often humbled by other high powered intellects don't get me wrong, but I am mostly concerned I will intimidate a lady. This is just where you're out with this really amazing woman who you're so very much into, and adore, and elevate, but you might say something that impresses her and she feels unworthy of that thing you said for a second, like hey I wish my maths lecturer was here to respond to that, and thinks to herself how could this guy be interested in my mind.

That terrifies me a bit.


No offense, but you have to be really full of yourself to think like this in the first place. I've never seen a thread with so many self-proclaimed geniuses in my life. I wouldn't worry about intimidating with intelligence, a lack of humility is a much bigger turn-off.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Why?
Posted: 7/30/2009 10:05:54 PM
There are plenty of guys on here who are dirtbags, very true. They are looking for sex and send out maybe dozens of e-mails a day knowing that they will get maybe one date for every hundred e-mails. It's a pure numbers game for some, I'm sure.

I do feel where you're coming from. I receive maybe one email a month, sometimes none at all. I rarely send out e-mails because I usually get no response, and it seems futile at times. I'm not gonna give up, though, and I hope you don't either. Plenty of guys on here have the exact same complaints. They are not getting the responses they desire. It would be easy for me to become one of those bitter, negative men you talked about.

I wouldn't tell you that it's all your fault, and that it's always you doing something wrong, I don't know you. But if a lot of people are telling you that then perhaps consider what they are saying.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Maybe I'm crazy...but he still stares...
Posted: 7/30/2009 9:35:04 PM
OP, kudos to you, for asking him out. You took a chance, and got rejected, but at least you asked. It sounds like to me like you dropped by your old workplace to see if maybe he would change his mind? Nothing you wrote about that last meeting indicates even slightly to me that he was interested. He pointedly said drop by and see "everyone" which is just being polite. In short, he's just not that interested in you.

Who knows what he meant by "not that kind of guy", that was kind of a weird response...
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Why?
Posted: 7/30/2009 8:35:04 PM
Hmmm. Sorry you've had such a bad experience. I think you're correct that you can't rely on this site as a sole source of meeting people. I think it's best used as a supplement to real life interactions.

Your friend may be getting the shaft because of her pic alone. If a guy sees a "thin" looking woman in a pic, and it turns out she is kind of hefty in reality, then the guy might feel like she lied in a way. I'm not saying she did anything wrong, just saying how guys could interpret it.

However, 150+ dates and never a second date? To be honest, it sounds like your friend has some serious issues to never get a second date with even a single one of those guys.

I'm not sure I understand your feelings toward Michigan folks. I never really noticed that Michiganders shun someone in the way you describe, but that could be because I was born and raised here.

It sounds like you've pretty much given up on dating, tho. I won't insult your intelligence with worthless advice on how attitude can impact relationships. Instead I'll just wish you luck.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
So why are a man's hands so attractive to women?
Posted: 7/30/2009 7:48:32 PM
I figure it's a daddy thing. As a little girl your father would pick you up with his big, strong hands. You would hold his hand, etc. There's probably a feeling of security, that comes from that as well. Don't get too grossed out by that, it's just a theory.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 150 (view)
 
Do Americans Hate Canadians
Posted: 7/30/2009 7:25:43 PM
Who would want to deal with crossing the border to go on a date? What a pain in the ass. Aside from that, the whole "grass is always greener" thing comes into play. I guess some people insist on being rejected by more than one nationality.
 touchdown bundy
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Why?
Posted: 7/30/2009 7:15:42 PM

I have to be HONEST. I am not meeting any here. I am not saying you don't exist, because I know you do, but for some reason none of you contact me.


Have you tried contacting them first? I know that might seem like a silly question, but you'd be surprised at how many women do not contact men first. I guess they want the perfect man to chase after them. That may seem very romantic, and "take charge", but it's kind of like planning to retire by Publisher's Clearinghouse showing up at your doorstop with a big check.
 
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