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Joined: 5/21/2008

Msg: 48 (view)

turning women down for sex Posted: 6/14/2008 10:53:32 PM
Now I remember, there was kind of another time I kinda turned down a women, actually one I really liked. I picked up a women in a bar, and took her back to her place, she hadn't invited me in yet though and, we were were sitting in the car talking, and it occured to me that I probably had about 100% chance of getting into her pants if I just made a date for few nights later, but maybe only about an 85% chance if I pushed it right away. I was probably more spooked than I should have been because a week or two earlier I'd been in a similar situation and the women actually invited me to bed, then decided she just wanted to cuddle! I'm dead serious! Looking back either way would have worked fine, but it seemed like a sure thing the way I played it, which of course it was. My intuition was spot. We dated for about 6 months and her favorite thing was to tell all her friends how cool it was that I hadn't even tried to sleep with her even though she'd let me her take me home from a bar. Why this should impress anyone I'm not quite sure, but women are strange creatures. I don't really think you can count these game playing type things though as turning down sex though. In fact it seems kind of cheap to me as its really just being less than honest and improving your odds with deferred gratification. Simple economics. - Mike

Joined: 5/21/2008

Msg: 38 (view)

turning women down for sex Posted: 6/12/2008 12:37:51 AM
Let's face it. For all practical purposes. Its the women's job to turn down sex if she feels some need to do so. The man's job is to do whatever she wants. Of course there are always exceptions to any rule. But I can't help feeling that any guy that turns down sex with a women whe really wants it - and right now - is living in a false reality that he will later regret buying into. Women drive biological selectivity. Men just follow through. Human beings are primarily driven by biology, whether we want to admit it or not. We can invent religions and philosphies. We can pretend we are above all these biological urges. But we're not. The truth is the truth. Whether we like it or not. - Mike

Joined: 5/21/2008

Msg: 64 (view)

One night stand turns into a many night stand! Posted: 6/11/2008 1:49:01 AM
The first time I had sex on the first meeting was with a 19 year old I met in a bar. We weren't even a drinking. It was a non-alcoholic (teeny bopper) bar. We were young and sober. I took her home. I fell in love. She dumped me. She broke my heart. But it was one of the best times I ever had and I'd do it again in a second to this day. The second time I had sex with a women on the first meeting I married her. Again, we met in a bar. Seven relatively happy years later we divorced, due to many factors (involving kids, adoption, and some other shit), none of which involved sex. The third time I had sex on the first meeting wasn't even a date. I met a friend of my neighbors who happened to be visiting and took her home. I married her too and don't plan on ever letting her go. To me, if a women has sex with you on the first date it means that there's a possibility for something great in the future. If she plays miss frigid it means she either doesn't like you all that much or she's in to playing games. You don't even wanna know which. Just get the hell out while you can. So don't worry about it. You're aces. She likes you as much as you like her. What could be better? - Mike

Joined: 5/21/2008

Msg: 343 (view)

When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her. Posted: 6/11/2008 1:01:17 AM
Huh? What a silly question. Of course there are women too beautiful to approach. Depends on who you are, how old, what genes you inherited, etc. When I read the response of a couple guys on here about how they'd never be intimidated by anyone I had to laugh. To be fair, maybe they're real studs. But I'm inclined to believe they probably just think they are :-) Personally I'm getting older (53) so I don't expect any 2o something to be interested in me. That doesn't stop me from occasionally writing to one of these absolutely gorgeous creatures and letting them know that I absolutely worship them. Who wouldn't. Mostly I just want them to know that life is short and they should be taking advantage of every single second to make the best of their life while they can. Ironically, us old farts are probably happier than most of the young people out there. You need experience to understand where you are and maximize life's possibilities, i.e. happiness. I remember when I was young. God I was dumb. I had all these absolutely beautiful creatures at my beck and call and spent all my time looking for something better. How incredibly dumb! Anyway, too late to do much about it now, except warn the younger folks. Regret is forever. Fear is temporary. THINK ABOUT IT!! Really, think about it. What will you feel like when you're 50, looking back at 20? Can you really do better than that beauty who's blinking her eyes your way. Do you really want to find out? If so, you're probably just a moron, doomed to live a life of misery. - Mike

Joined: 5/21/2008

Msg: 36 (view)

turning women down for sex Posted: 6/11/2008 12:30:50 AM
Personally I think its a crime for any man to turn down any women for sex for any reason. OK, I admit I did do it once, but I'm not proud of it. It was a women that literally needed two human size chairs to sit down. I'm not kidding. She would literally sit in meetings at work with one butt cheek per chair. Needless to say, she was huge. That said, I really liked her.... as a friend. Now that I think of her I kinda wonder what she's up to. Hope she's happy. She was completely un-self consious (could anyone that sat 1 butt cheek per chair be otherwise), a pothead, uninhibited and just a kick to hang out with. But I just couldn't bring myself to be with her physically. I think that's a failing on my part though, not hers. I'm an ahole that will someday pay for my ingratitude. Women are like precious gems. Anytime they offer themselves to a man he is a fool to do anything but follow her desire. To do otherwise would cause her to (as the bible says) commit the sin of "casting your pearls before swine', and you're the pig if you get the point. And just in case someone misunderstands, (for you bible bangers out there) no I don't take the bible any more seriously than any other fairy tale. But even fairy tales contain a lot of wisdom. I think God has a special place in hell (well figuratively speaking at least) for any man that turns down a women for physical pleasure. That man is, to put it politely, a dope. Just another point of view.... - Mike

Joined: 5/21/2008

Msg: 142 (view)

Married Women Looking For Sex Posted: 6/10/2008 11:24:45 PM
All you good Harper Valley PTA folks? I'm curious to know, and maybe you can help me out. Why do you get to decide what POF is for, and not say - well me, or someone else, like maybe the site founder who has seen fit to include catagories such as "married", "intimate encounters", etc? Moreover, how does it hurt you that there are some married lonely people out there looking for happiness? Personally I find all the judgemental stuff simultaneously sad and hilarious like a black comedy. These are obviously inexperienced young folks that have no experience with the real world and no idea where they'll probably end up themselves one day. Personally, I'm married to a beautiful women. All I want is her. I love her, and want her in every way. But I suspect this is probably rare. People get old. They lose their attractiveness. I suspect that's what happened to me, but my wife is too sweet to ever tell me. For 5 years I've told her that life without romance and sex isn't worth living for me. I've told her that I will go outside the relationship. That I don't want too but that have no choice. I have needs you see? It doesn't matter. It all just falls on deaf ears. Her response? "Mike, I love you." No further comment. A tacit approval. As though this "love" she expresses makes everything OK. She really thinks it does! She's even told me that she can forgive me a fling or infidelity. Anything to get out of the chore of going to bed with me I guess. So life goes on. She sleeps upstairs, me down. Oh sure, once or twice, maybe 4 times at most a year we actually have a good sexual experience. I take that back, we have a sexual exprience. Maybe half of those times she can concentrate long enough to follow through and gets into it enough not to interject thoughts about work or our son's school work or something..... while I'm undressing her. She's totally unaware that this might offend me or hurt my feelings. I should at least try to defend her. She's tiny, only 98 lbs soaking wet. I'm fairly fit too, but a pretty big guy and pretty big down there if you what I mean. I think sex is more of a pain in the butt (well OK, literally the vagina) for her than anything else. Even her mouth is small. She can give great head when she wants, but its a lot of work for her and she scrapes me with her teeth despite her best efforts, not that I mind. Hell she could stab me in the armpit if she just did that at the same time for all I care. And when I can finally get her in the mood she does lose herself in my oral pleasures, but its short lived and forgotten in hours. No need to repeat that for say, oh 6 months or so! Oh, those 3 or 4 times a year? They're mostly because I've guilt tripped her into it because I literally just physically can't stand it any longer. Afterwords I generally feel like a rapist. Yeah life is great for us married folks. If I push her too far at the wrong time she'll even get angry at me! She'll start bringing up old resentments, like how I didn't clean the crumbs off the counter or I squooze the toothpast tube from the wrong end or forgot to pooper scoop the yard. Something. Whatever comes into her head. Once when I threatened to divorce her she told me to "just go." As if tying someone up and depriving them of food or water (another basic human need) is tantamount to bad housekeeping. Yet despite all this, DESPITE ALL THIS, I can't bring myself to cheat on this women I love. I get to the point where I know I'm going too. I find someone that's my type and nice I that I think I would really like. We're supposed to meet at the restaurant, or whatever. I'll even go out and buy a gift for her in anticipation. Then hours before I get cold feet, write a nice email and politely back out. I basically have my wife's damn permission, and still can't follow through. Its pathetic. I don't know what the answer is, but I'll tell you this. All you judgemental folks out there might want to back off. There is such a thing as karma, whether you want to believe it or not. Chances are you'll be sitting where I am if a few short years. - Mike

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