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Party like they're still in high school and other turn offs Posted: 10/27/2009 5:31:32 AM
I can only speak for the Detroit metro area, which has lots of PoF events. Many of the so called in-betweeners come out to these events. I'm through with the online dating nonsense but have never left a PoF dance without having met at least one quality lady.

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At this age, are we still wearing blinders or do we really want the truth? Posted: 10/16/2009 9:34:24 AM
We are talking about women that have been emailing the same man for a month. As I stated, if it was me, I would want to know now rather than later if there was reason to be cautious. But that is me and that is why I asked the question about wearing blinders at this age. People like you are downright scary, what right do you have to meddle like that? Your female friend was hurt, so you owe it to tell the other female? Get a life! That's wrong on so many levels. First of all, there's two sides to every story and you know one side and ran with it...Stupid at best. Secondly, there isn't anyone reading this now that hasn't hurt someone, intentionally or not. You can have the best intentions and do everything honorably and still someone can get hurt. Thirdly, you assume this man didn't learn from the experience and goes out of his way to hurt every woman he talks to. That's a great view of mankind. God save us from the do-gooders, for they know not what they do.

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Show some intelligence when writing someone. Posted: 10/13/2009 6:15:46 AM
Some hide behind beautiful words, whether it be poetry (not their own) or over-the-top flattery. When it comes to the ones who use poetry, I have been known to thank them for their lovely note and suggest that they would be more successful if they just said what they, themselves, found intriguing about the lady. Considering the level of intelligence one finds around PoF, I'd think a guy would get some credit for having the cultural background to even consider finding and using poetry. Half the letters I get look like they were written by 5th graders and a 5th grader wouldn't want to be graded on them . Hide behind beautiful words? I've never tried poetry but what are we supposed to do? Hide behind un-beautiful words? This is the internet, we are all hidden until we meet. All we have is beautiful words, or some crude attempt at them. Say what we find intriguing about the lady? Well gee, there isn't much to go on is there? Maybe we have your picture so we've concluded we wouldn't mind doing you. But we can't say that. You live close enough to make dating possible, but there's no mileage in that. We have some common interests ... maybe. Or maybe we've just decided we wouldn't mind doing you. So all we have is beautiful words....or not.

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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 10/13/2009 5:59:53 AM
Everybody has good points and bad points and I think running down a checklist is an exercise in futility. Do you have to check off all the good things on the list or maybe 80%, 75% ? I think I've run into more than one woman where she walked away because I only met 9 out of 10 items on her list. Seems like an impossible quest. I ask myself a simple question with a not so simple answer. The question is: Can I live with her worst to have her best? It takes time to see anyone's best traits and even longer for the bad ones to come out since they are often hidden in the beginning. And let's face it, just about everybody is fun to be with when they are at their best. I really want to see and understand their worst. So it takes time, to me that's what dating is all about.

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YOU NEED THERAPY! Posted: 10/12/2009 4:49:19 AM
My experience is that when I am in trouble I go nag to my friends, and that's where I find comfort, some positive input or a needed kick in the butt, to jump start some straight thinking... What do you say? Sounds to me like you are getting therapy. Who says it has to be from a professional? Some clown gets a degree and sets out a shingle, that doesn't make them any better at helping you then a good friend could. In listening to friends that have gone to therapists, I've never heard anything earth shattering, basically the same things their friends have already told them. Some people don't like the truth unless it comes from a pro, but it sounds to me like you are already handling things correctly for yourself.

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perplexed Posted: 10/12/2009 4:41:45 AM
That you seem bent on digging out the details seems more of a red flag about you, than anything you wrote about him. Amen Texas. The fact that this guy raised those stepdaughters ought to tell you enough about the kind of man he is, but you have to keep digging. Women like you are very scary to me, looking for a boogeyman under every rock. Some of the women I've known would have been better off dropping contact with their spoiled little adult brats. But no, instead they've rewarded every bad behavior, like giving cocaine to an addict. As a result they've got 25 yr old children that can't support themselves and expect the world to hand them a living. A little more tough love in this world and we might not have the messes we have now. And has already been stated, I've known a lot of kids poisoned by the custodial parent. It's sad, but don't throw an albatross around this guy's neck. And don't pry too hard, this could be a very sensitive area for him.

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Of Fakes and Flakes... Posted: 10/9/2009 5:13:00 AM
Well, courtesy and manners barely exist in the real world anymore, it's unrealistic to think it would be better in cyberspace. I usually reply to anyone that writes me but I have to admit it gets difficult at times to creatively say thanks, but no thanks. However, I am totally turned off by bigoted liberals that won't consider dating a Republican. You do realize that you've ruled out the majority of men that have the kinds of money it takes to travel and do the things you want to do? It's hard enough to find a compatible mate in this world. I never reject someone if her politics doesn't follow mine, the worst is that we're canceling each other's votes. I might kick her out of bed for eating crackers, but not for her politics.

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Lack of Kids Posted: 10/6/2009 5:20:05 AM
Wow, it's interesting to see all the childless women circle the wagons on this one. At this age I don' t run into many women that aren't mothers. I'll date a women without kids but it does make me wonder. Like it or not, some childless women just don't get what it means to be a parent. For the most part, mothers understand the concerns and worries and occasional demands on your time that even grown children can put upon you. I've never had a mother get jealous of my adult children, (whom, by the way, I may see only once a month). But I've had a few childless ones get jealous over the little time I may spend with mine. Nobody pulls on your heartstrings in the way your own kids do. Moms understand what dads go through, just as dads understand what moms go through. I wouldn't necessarily call it a red flag; call being a parent one of those mutual interests we're always striving for.

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False I.D. to Proove We're Younger?? Posted: 10/5/2009 4:14:45 AM
I don't want to be younger. I look good for my age but if I was younger I'd look pretty bad for my age and who wnats that? Besides, I'm trying to convince the IRS I'm 59.5 so I can start drawing on my IRA.

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Precautionary measures Posted: 10/4/2009 6:02:10 AM
I have a friend that's a college professor in microbiology; he says the swine flu had been around forever. He also says it's mostly a danger to kids and very old people, for us it's not much more than a bad cold. I live with miserable freezing winters, I never get a flu shot, and I haven't had the flu in 20 years. The media always love to scare the begeezus out of us. But I remember those kindergarten stories (think Chicken Little) so I don't fall for all the hysteria.

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Women who have more education than the man whom they are dating Posted: 10/3/2009 5:45:54 AM
>>>>> Why is it hard for some men to date women who have more education and possibly make more money? <<<< These forum threads are so full of stereotypes and generalities, people our age should know better. To answer your question, for me, I haven't met many woman with more education than I have. And if they've spent that much time in school they're usually much more career oriented than I am. Therefore, we're not that compatible; intimidation doesn't enter the equation. As to money, several years ago I had a run where every women I dated was a millionaire. It wasn't intimidating at all and I had no problem when they picked up a tab, or two, or three. But that period aside, I don't often run into a woman that makes more money than I have. But I don't see why that would be intimidating. I've run into a few women that felt intimidated by me because they didn't make much; I hope I didn't make them feel that way. I guess it's where you are in life that makes the difference. If you are embarrassed about your education or income level than maybe you are intimidated. But it's not exclusively a man thing.

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WOULD YOU DATE AN ALIEN? Posted: 10/2/2009 6:22:03 AM
Alien is such a funny word for a legal immigrant. I remember that alien hotty in Cocoon and the wild sex in the pool, so sure I'd date an alien. And if they look like the OP, they could be from Timbukto and I'd be there with bells on.

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I can act like a man - You make me feel like a man Posted: 10/1/2009 5:52:14 AM
I hate to think the only time I feel like a man is when I'm with a woman. In that case, I wouldn't be feeling very manly lately. I can't agree with this one at all my friend. This U.S. male feels like a man all by himself, without any help from a woman. Of course, having one around isn't all bad either.

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why can't people just be who they are Posted: 9/30/2009 12:19:05 PM
>>> So this classy gentleman as he puts it took me to Burger King <<< Well, it is the home of the Whopper so it was the perfect place . I mean after all, most of those lies were real whoppers. .... I know, that was a bad one.

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reasonable or not Posted: 9/26/2009 8:13:40 AM
One that starts with e-mails, progresses to friends first, then dating and finally a committed long term relationship. Um.. how do we get to be friends if we're not dating first? Do I have to email you and talk to you on the phone so long that we consider ourselves friends before we start dating? That won't happen. Being friends and lovers is certainly an admirable goal, but I would hope that is happening in parallel. As already stated, I think laying out a time-line is fruitless. My best relationships heated up fast. Of course, some of my worst ones also heated up fast. I care little how quickly they start, I'm more concerned with a time-line that gets me out of there as quickly as possible when the time comes.

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Downsizing and Dating? Posted: 9/23/2009 1:19:20 PM
Having worked together with a lot of women making over $100K, I've sometimes thought about how well we could live with 2 incomes like that. But for one reason or another, practically nobody I've dated makes anywhere near that, so I can't say it's a big issue. The only problem with a woman that has recently "downsized" is that she often has to spend all her time re-establishing herself. While that's understandable, I need someone that will make me a priority rather than an option.

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Last of the 50's.................. Posted: 9/23/2009 1:04:47 PM
I think I want to travel with Daff and shock the pants off the men we encounter!! And I'd like to be one of those men. As to aging, Rodney Dangerfield got it right when he said: Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rave at close of day; Rage, rage against the dying of the light. Okay, okay he was quoting Dylan Thomas.

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Is it me? Or is this normal? Posted: 9/19/2009 4:18:05 PM
Remember that movie: He's Not That Into You? Well guess what? He' s not that into you. Sorry, but someone had to tell you.

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Walking Posted: 9/18/2009 8:43:32 AM
Playing in the water just off shore with the sea creature is so relaxing... They just love bananas. Which is why I never skinny dip. I walk the nature trails near my house in the fall and the OP is right. I see a few couples walking and occasionally a female or two, but it certainly isn't reflective of all the profiles that state how much they love to walk. Maybe they're walking the clothing aisles at Macy's?

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Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that? Posted: 9/15/2009 9:23:02 AM
Usually if a man of over 50 is single, there is a very valid reason". I would hate to think that it is true Funny, in my jaded moments I say that about the women. I don't date younger women because when you're done doing the deed, you still have to talk to them. I prefer a women that has gained the wisdom only time can bring. Back to the OP's question. While there is no doubt I like a woman that's in good shape, I have no desire to date someone that spends every day in a gym. Those people, both sexes, are major pains in the rear. To me, they are like the 4.0 's in school, they have no balance in their lives and don't seem to know when enough is enough. Go out for New Year's and they'll only have one drink. Go to a pizza party and they'll take two bites and quit because it's not healthy. Of course I'm generalizing but the ones I have known just never seem to be able to let their hair down and indulge. IMHO, gym rats are only compatible with other like minded gym rats.

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Dating a couple people but not having sex at our age Posted: 9/12/2009 6:48:17 AM
Trying to deal with one woman is hard enough, I can't do the multiple dating thing. I give it a week or two then make a decision to focus on one of them. And if she's seeing someone else, well, if she can't figure out fairly quickly that I'm worth all her dating time, then she's not for me. This is just my point of view, but it seems that someone hellbent on dating multiple people isn't in a mindset for a serious relationship. One of the major problems with internet dating is with so many options, it feels like a kid in the candy store . Some people get caught up in that and they are not for me.

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is falsifying one's profile age no longer taboo? Posted: 9/10/2009 5:39:46 PM
Is falsifying one's profile age no longer taboo? I thought that was a requirement for the women on here. And with that he tip-toes silently out of the room .

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celibacy in late life Posted: 8/28/2009 9:50:12 AM
The only problem with the latter is they might well set their sites on a man only to find out he has ED then what? Then they call me..... If there's something weird and it don't look good Who you gonna call .... TresorCache!!! An invisible man sleeping in your bed Oh, who you gonna call.... TresorCache!!! If you're all alone, pick up the phone And call.... TresorCache!!! Don't get caught alone, oh no .... TresorCache!!!

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celibacy in late life Posted: 8/28/2009 5:57:50 AM
Who really believes that a man would rather "think about new tools" than go on a date? Well, let's be fair now. If that date has no chance of leading to sex in the future, then that new Weedeater 12,000 is certainly a better investment. Look, there are some people that are happy with celibacy and content to live like that forever. I don't happen to be one of them and I don't know too many men that are, unless they have health issues. I've met a lot of women that seem okay with celibacy and a lot that are just waiting for the right guy to come along. You can keep the former, I'm going after the latter. (Because I'd rather have a ladder than the former.)

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celibacy in late life Posted: 8/27/2009 4:11:21 PM
... invariably I have found that if I don't "put out" within a month or two, it is a total deal breaker ... Sweetheart, I don't buy into the 3 date rule but I'm not dead either. If you think most men will wait more than two months for you to "put out", you are going to be a lonely woman. "Putting out" sounds so high schoolish and implies you are giving them something but not getting anything back in return. I'm sorry your past was so unfulfilling. I don't want to be with a woman that thinks she's doing me some big favor. I want someone that believes sex is a major part of a healthy relationship. If you can wait two months to get your hands on me, I'm not irresistable enough for you. Young women have something precious, yet they give it away. Often times, older women don't give it up because they think they have something precious. You lost your virginity a long time ago, it's not that big a deal. Be safe, care about the guy, but if you're not looking for a man that can satisfy you, and if you don't think that's an important part of a relationship....well .... deal breaker. Man rule #1. Men only put up with women to get laid. If that's not happening, well we'd rather be out with the guys, or alone, or watching TV, or playing sports, or sleeping, or thinking about getting laid, or that new car, or boat, or new tools, or sitting on a barstool talking to all the other guys about these things. That's it. We're simple creatures, really we are.

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are you still sexually experimenting? Posted: 8/26/2009 7:15:54 AM
I'd still like to do that mother/daughter thing, or maybe sisters. Where's the Hooper triplets when I need them?

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Favourites & Last 5 Forum Posts being removed from profiles Posted: 8/24/2009 10:00:01 AM
I liked seeing the last five forum posts and I got a lot of emails because of my postings. But lets face it, this website has never been a good example of quality web design. I give kudos to anyone that can pay himself millions while getting people to work for him for free, but even with only one paid employee he's been cutting costs for quite some time. As long as the people keep coming back and the ad revenue keeps coming in, I don't think he much cares.

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Libido after 50 Posted: 8/23/2009 9:55:51 AM
Is it common for someone 57 years old to want sex almost every day or sometimes twice a day?? I am not complaining, that my bf has the libido of a teenager, but I do find it a little odd. My last relationship before this one, it was once a week like clock work. "Wanting" it every day? Heck that never stops. Actually "doing" it every day, with the same woman? I haven't known too many I felt that way about. After a couple days and nights I usually want to get away from them for awhile. OP, you must be a heck of a woman.

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Older fit men shunning older fit women and chasing 25 year olds??? What's with that? Posted: 8/23/2009 9:50:49 AM
Gaddflye- what is an atrophying vagina? I have never heard that term. Pure misogynistic myth. No it's not, you need to do your homework and listen to someone that's seen a few more vaginas than you have. I've run into it, not often though. Pick a up a copy of "What Every Woman Needs to Know about Menopause: The Years Before, During and After" By Mary Jane Minkin (hardly a misogynist). To quote a piece of it: " Does the size of the vagina change after Menopause? The answer is a qualified Yes. Women who remain sexually active tend to remain in better shape, vaginally speaking, than women who do not. The old "use it or lose it" metaphor is appropriate (although not exactly elegant) in this instance." Lack of use during menopause thins the walls considerably and sex can be quite painful. Typically it's been a woman in her late 50's that's had been celibate for 10 years. (Taking someones virginity every time isn't all that's it's cracked up to be). And for the record, I don't look for women much below the age of 50. Having a daughter of 36 tends to stifle any urge for something younger.

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Do women have more expectations than men? Posted: 8/23/2009 5:43:33 AM
I expect the gentleman I am dating to have a penis between his legs and smaller moobs than me.......... Finally!!! A woman whose expectations I meet. Of course we haven't met yet, and since she lives about 1500 miles away, the odds are we never will. And then again she probably has all those other unspoken expectations and standards that I don't fit. Still, for one brief moment.... I had a match.

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How important is sameness to you at this stage of the game? Posted: 8/20/2009 6:03:05 AM
Miss Mae, for being up so late you certainly hit a key point when you said "he would at least have the same core values and beliefs as I do". I 'm looking for sameness when it comes to values, principles, strength of character, the way they decipher what goes on in the world. Hobbies and activities are another story. Obviously, you should have some things in common or you'll never spend any time together, but learning something new never hurts. Plus there's time you'll both need your space, so some differences are a good thing as well. Mae can listen to David Wilcox (who?) while I'm out playing golf.

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The most important virtue over 60...for women and men. Posted: 8/15/2009 12:03:27 PM
For me, it is simply love. In love comes every other single virtue of any importance. It includes kindness, compassion, honesty, understanding, respect, goodness, sweetness and light. Without it, not one thing else matters -- not status, money, fame, courage, accomplishments. . . . Wooby, you beat me to it. Of course since you are 60 and I'm not, I shouldn't be surprised. Love for our fellow human beings pretty much covers just about everything else mentioned. And a big Booyah to you for nailing it.

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Childish Friends Posted: 8/14/2009 6:01:54 AM
I joined Facebook because a friend wanted me to see some pictures of her girlfriends. Now I find it to be like a cancer because friends start finding you and it just keeps growing and growing. Then you feel obligated to respond to people writing on your wall, it's just not for me for all the reasons previously stated. What have we done to our younger generations? They can be sitting right next to each other and instead of conversing they are texting each other? In another hundred years maybe spoken language will be dead; certainly social skills are going to hell in a hand-basket.

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The most important virtue over 60...for women and men. Posted: 8/13/2009 9:32:24 AM
I think the most important virtue for anyone over 60 is .........breathing. Yep, definitely...don't leave home without it. What? Breathing isn't a virtue? Just try getting along without it. Of course when people can't breathe they do a lot of praying and that's virtuous too.

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Does facial hair on men over 45 make them look older or younger? Posted: 8/13/2009 9:27:17 AM
I can say with certainty that I've never seen a woman with facial hair that looked younger. I'm not so sure that holds true for men.

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Girls who should be women Posted: 8/12/2009 9:15:48 AM
^^^^^^ Good points Blue, many of us have gone through something like that. ^^^^^ I still have my copy of "Leisure Suit Larry, Love for Sale", but I haven't played it in 10 years. And I certainly wouldn't post all those photos of me in action. In fact I buy them when they pop up on E-bay so I can burn them. I don't think there's an issue with any of it, I think the OP is just questioning why someone tries to market themselves that way.

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Did you really give it your all? Posted: 8/12/2009 9:09:35 AM
Sure I give it my all, it just takes a little longer to give it. And I'm more efficient too, I can give it all in two tries instead of five.

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Do you know what exactly what you want from life now? Posted: 8/12/2009 9:07:05 AM
When I was young I wanted a nymphomaniac that owned a liquor store and a boat...and I didn't care about the boat or the liquor. When I got older, she didn't have to be a nympho, just good looking...and it had to be a liquor store and not just a beer & wine. Now ....... well, I don't need the liquor store, but .... the bigger she is, the bigger the boat has to be. With age comes wisdom .... somewhat.

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Girls who should be women Posted: 8/12/2009 5:55:26 AM
As I've looked at the POF profiles, I've noticed a trend. Many women around my age (I'm 45 for a little while longer) are not growing up. Their profiles are all about partying and all of their pics were taken at bars. Their taste in entertainment (TV, movies, music) leads me to believe we'd have nothing to talk about. They are not women; they're girls. I'm all for cutting loose and having a good time, but it seems there comes an age where you move from "age-appropriate" to "pathetic." I'm sure the same thing goes for boys/men as well, but I don't spend a lot of time looking at their profiles. So is this a valid observation? .... I think a lot of these responses have missed the original point here. I don't think the OP is condemning people that go to bars, but rather that many 45+ people create a profile that is loaded with pictures of them drinking in a bar. I've sometimes had the same thought. I understand the regular PoF party folks will put a pic or two up from the last party and that's fine. We're all used to seeing pictures of motorcycles, dogs, families, hobbies and it's great that people will show you what's important in their life. When you run across a profile that shows 4 or more pics of someone boozing it up in the bar, you have to assume that's her favorite hobby. I basically only look at 50+ profiles and at times I scratch my head about what they are trying to convey and more importantly what kind of guy they expect to lure. Different strokes for different folks and it's all good. But like the OP, I sometimes wonder just WTF .

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When is it appropriate to take the step of inviting new friend home for dinner/movie? Posted: 8/11/2009 1:40:03 PM
Dinner and movie at your house is an invitation for sex... Darn! Darn! Darn! I never made a move on the last two that came to my house, maybe that's why they didn't want to see me again?!!? I don't what the right answer to this is. I met someone at a dance that liked campfires, a couple nights later we were sitting behind my house enjoying a campfire by the lake. On other occasions it's been a couple months before someone came to my house. I think it's all situational... I'd say something funny here but I can't get that "gallon of mucus" comment out of my head.

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Did you really give it your all? Posted: 8/7/2009 3:56:11 PM
At the time, it may have seemed an unbearable situation with no hope... but with years of being single under your belt, do you now begin to see some of the "errors of your ways" where you wish you may have reacted in a less destructive way? Let's see. ... I never have to wonder anymore whether she'll come home in a good or bad mood. I never have to guess whether I'm a good guy or a jerk... just because. I'm pretty sure that whatever woman I sleep will actually enjoy it and not just lay there like she's doing me a favor. No one ever yells at me because I'm out playing with the kids instead of making dinner. I don't have to close the door when I'm in the bathroom. If I forget to pick up something after work, it's not because I don't care about my family. There are now people around me that actually care what I have to say, or at least they take the time to fake it. Hmmm.... what was the question again?

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Forgiveness Posted: 8/4/2009 9:47:41 AM
I think people mistakenly feel forgiveness means forgetting as well. I forgive a lot of things, but I don't necessarily forget, nor do I assume the person isn't capable of doing it again. And I don't need them around to remind me of it either. Like the OP I don't understand how people close to you can then assume all is well and bring someone like that back around you. I find it very inconsiderate.

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When did we become old fuddy duddies? Posted: 8/4/2009 9:38:53 AM
There are people on this site who know me and I doubt very much if they would call me a "fuddy duddy" (probably lots of other names, but not that one. ) I'm going to just let that one slide (to the other name part, she's certainly no fuddy duddy). OP, I think you are meeting the wrong people. I know lots of women that enjoy a sunrise on the beach. Now, there aren't many that will stay up all night to see it, but what's wrong with getting up early? As to having fun like we did in our teens and twenties, well playing Cardinal Puff and drinking until I puke just isn't what it used to be. Besides, back in the day you didn't get arrested, they just took your beer and threatened to tell your parents.

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Ladies, Is Walking You to Your Door Important? Posted: 8/4/2009 9:28:47 AM
Well, I thank you all for these answers, most of you actually have managed to stay on topic. It does seem like the answers fall on both sides, which is okay to me. For the record, I always open car doors, any doors for that matter, would have pulled out the umbrella and walked her up if it was raining, have been absolutely drenched a few times while keeping my lady nice and dry, and usually help with a chair as well. I asked a good female friend this question last night and she said it depends upon the guy whether she wants to be escorted to the door. That was enlightening -not. So if you were really, really impressed with her, and wanted her to think you were a romantic guy that really liked her, you would have walked her to the door. I wouldn't say I was swept off my feet so there's probably some truth in that too.

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Ladies, Is Walking You to Your Door Important? Posted: 8/3/2009 6:24:05 AM
She is communicating her desires. Next date, walk her to the door. So simple. Or take the high road and stew over how she "aspersed" you. I'm not implying she aspersed me, I was only trying to say that my intentions were not to ridicule her. I only wondered how the ladies here perceive the situation. To touch base on a couple other comments, we said our goodbyes in the car, rather nicely, and it's not like I dropped her off and scooted out of there. We spent at least 5 minutes in the car and I didn't drive off until she was in the house. My comment about knowing enough about her had more to do with things I didn't write. She didn't return a phone message I left and chose to send me a PoF email telling me this. After 3 meets and countless phone calls, falling back upon PoF emails leaves me a little cold. I didn't really want to get into that. I'm more curious about how women feel about being walked to the door. Is it intimidating, is there an implied expectation of being invited in?

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Ladies, Is Walking You to Your Door Important? Posted: 8/3/2009 5:46:03 AM
I'd really like to hear from the ladies on this one. Here's the situation. I recently met someone new, we did the obligatory meet in public thing and had a follow up date where she drove herself to the meeting place. As it was dark outside in both cases, I walked her to her car when we parted. The next time we went out, I picked her up at her place. We had a good time, caught a funny movie (The Hangover), and I drove her home. As this was a mid-week date, she had to get up early the next morning. I pulled up to within 20 ft of her door, we said our goodbyes in the car and into the house she went. A couple days later I get an email from her saying she wants to be treated as if she is special and I didn't make her feel that way because I didn't walk her to the door. We could see her front door quite clearly, no boogeymen in the bushes. Now, from my perspective, getting out and walking her that short distance would have implied I expected to be invited in. I thought I was doing the noble thing by not going up to her door, but apparently she didn't think so. I think I now know all I need to know about her and I won't cast aspersions her way. But I am curious how the majority of women here feel about this. So what do you think?

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Msg: 35 (view)

Is it possible for men to flirt Posted: 8/2/2009 2:35:42 PM
Just wondered men, can us ladies see some flirt lines in Forums so we know what to look for in the messages Well I hate to give up my best lines for nothing, so I'll give you these instead. I don't dance. But I'd love to hold you while you do. Hey, didn't we go to different high schools? There's so much to say but your eyes keep interrupting me. If I could rearrange the alphabet, I'd put U and I together. Do your legs hurt from running in my dreams all night? Is it hot in here or is it just you? If I follow you home, will you keep me? The best way to hold a man is in your arms. I know I'm not Mr. Right, but would you settle for Mr. Right Now? Please be patient--this is my first time. A person can be poor at history, but great on dates. The best things in life are ME! I used to be a terrible flirt. I'm much better at it now....

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Msg: 53 (view)

The Wall Posted: 7/31/2009 4:10:27 PM
Some call it a wall, I call it wisdom. Confucius say " By three methods we may learn wisdom: first, by reflection which is noblest; second, by imitation, which is the easiest; and third, by experience, which is the bitterest. " Having been around personal's sites for awhile, I'd say number 3 is most prevalent.

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Msg: 107 (view)

Young At Heart ??? Posted: 7/30/2009 9:18:21 AM
I think you are only as old as you feel. Well get over here so I can feel you and guess your age. Personally, I don't know what acting my age is supposed to be like. First of all, I don't act, I just do what I do, when I feel like doing it. Sometimes my body tells me I can't, but that's what ibuprofen is for. And since I don't need little blue pills, maybe I'm not acting my age? And I don't understand what young at heart is supposed to mean either. The young are happy and clueless, I hope a woman my age isn't clueless. Personally, I'm 57 at heart. That means I'm happy and I know why I'm happy. (No teachers, no books, no diapers, no mustard poop).

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Msg: 18 (view)

Are you ready to date again if you are still in love with someone else? Posted: 7/30/2009 9:03:08 AM
I've been in a few situations where they honestly thought they were over it, until we got serious. And that sucks. Of course maybe after being with me, that other guy started looking good again? Nah! That can't be it.....can it?

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