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magicalmary

Joined: 5/26/2008

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Why Do Men Think All Women Like Their 12 Inchers????? Posted: 11/15/2009 6:51:00 PM
I think that would kill me.................besides isn't that just a myth...........I mean has anyone actually seen a 12 incher??? Well....I don't think it was 12 inches long....but it was pretty HUGE...... :) on a scale from 1-12....I'm guessing he was an 11 incher...

magicalmary

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Prove Me Wrong, PLEASE Posted: 11/15/2009 2:36:31 PM
"Woman give sex for love, men give love for sex." Well, it's been said that women are driven by emotion and men by mechanics---but love is not sex and sex is not love. It is a primeval drive for men to impregnate women, it is what enables the survival of the species. It is natural and it is necessary. Well, if I was to go by the stories on POF it's stated some women trap men into getting them pregnant..they call em gold diggers...and it's not survival it's a living ( so some would say) and sex might be at the core of it, but for some men it's an inconvenience and unnecessary. Those of you (male or female) who have a partner or have had one, would you have been able to remain with them if sex were not involved? I stayed with a man for a LONG time and sex wasn't happening much at all, if at all. I loved him, not just his penis. Is it who and what the person is that keeps you attached or is it simply that you have good compatibility and find pleasure in each others arms? I need a balance of love, nurturing, communication, friendship, and sex. Some relationships I've entangled myself in were for pleasure only and didn't last long. Other's have lasted very long...and we still have sex...go figure. How important is sex in your relationship as compared to who the person is? Sex is nice, but being with someone who'll hold you when you've had a bad day, remind you that your ass isn't that big, or the meals you make aren't top notch...but reminds you the time spent together means far more is more important that how much sex we are having. Being intimate is more than just intercourse...it's the connection between the heart and mind. How many of you are on here mostly to find sex? I'm only here for the forums but if you can get sex too....and the site is FREE....yippie. It often times seems that sex is the requirement for a relationship, not respect, love, or appreciation. If you don't have love, respect or appreciation for the person you are fornicating with my guess is you're paying for it or it's just a booty call. Hell, some folks fake relationships so well they wouldn't even know the difference and that's kind of a shame. Prove me wrong, PLEASE. There is nothing to prove----we all experience different things at different times in our life. The bigger question is, what is it that you are seeking??? And, you OP, are the only person who can answer that question.

magicalmary

Joined: 5/26/2008

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What do you think about cougars? Posted: 11/15/2009 2:24:20 PM
LOL....If I say I'm a cougar a lot of people would scoff at the notion....in much the same way if I said I've been called a MILF...which I have. There are both positive and negative connotations associated with being defined as a Cougar. I do purr...I have claws and I have no problem pouncing on my prey. I just lure em into the kitty kave for a scooby snatch and then send em on their way----if that is what a cougar is----then perhaps I've had the occasion to be one. Regardless of my taste in lovers I am a lady, first and foremost. Just because I might like my meat tender and youthful just means I did my math..cuz 24 will go into 44 more times than 44 will ---just saying :)

magicalmary

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Why Do Men Think All Women Like Their 12 Inchers????? Posted: 11/15/2009 2:16:52 PM
OP -- Just remember this lil rule of thumb ( hahaha) whatever they tell you it is divide that number by 2 and that will give you a better idea of what Mr Johnson is packing. Honestly, I don't care how LONG it is, but I do care how THICK it is, and if he'll need a magnum to wrap up the mini pocket monster. Some men and women exaggerate about their body parts to try an appeal to the object of their desire----the truth is---once he/she is naked you'll know if he's been packing a sock or if she's been wearing a padded pushed up bra. Just saying. MM

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/14/2009 8:07:09 AM
Well, it appears, that some folks perception of FAT as unattractive explains why it's believed that fat women are easy---more needy---less apt to cheat---have fewer sex partners and even less boyfriends. And folks wonder why I have an issue with why I can't fathom how some men see fat as sexy?! shrugs I may spend the rest of my life as a single woman, and sometimes I think I'm better off for it. I never want to question if the man I'm with is with me solely because he finds my fat a fetish or I'm his last resort before going gay * it's a joke someone told me and I mean no DISRESPECT to gay men* or I'm less apt to stray so I'd be a better choice or the myth fat women are sexual dynamo's is worth giving a fattie a ride. Makes me wonder if it's even worth putting myself out there. However, all that being said, I am a social person---I don't need people in my life, I want them there, because I enjoy camaraderie and feeling like a part of a bigger plan. I may never get over my 'thing' with the sexy quotient of fat, but I know that a lot of men never seemed to have an issue with my size or the fat----so perhaps I shouldn't either. I have value--all human beings do. Yeah, I'm in a funk, yeah I miss my Meathead, yeah going through mental-pause has me on an emotional roller coaster ride, but reading some of these replies, and the personal experiences I've had weigh in heavily on this debate. ( no pun intended) I like me as a person, and while I'm not perfect, I am a good person and I think my goodness is what shines brightly in my personality and that is what makes me appealing to others. I'm not naive and realize that my 'physical appeal' isn't anywhere as strong as my actual personality appeal, but as long as I'm true to myself and others I don't think it really matters if fat is sexy to me or anyone else. Looks can fade, bodies can morph, and personalities can shift.....but the core of who I am has never wavered which probably explains why I've had longevity in relationships and friendships.

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/12/2009 3:23:12 PM
^^^ Well, clinically, most Americans are considered obese----by 15-20 lbs-----but again, they may NOT look F A T but from a physicians point of view they are deemed OBESE---and for a person whose struggling to even lose that small amount just the term OBESE can discourage even those with so little to lose. As far as a the penis stuff---it is true it will add a bit of length during sex, but that is because the fat around the pubic area will be less but if he had a small or short penis to begin with it's not going to L I T E R A L L Y add anymore length then the man already had, it just shows his T R U E length. I've had sex with big guys and little guys ( and I'm not referring to penis size) and while some positions were hampered I'm pretty flexible for a fat woman so I had no problems having enjoyable sex---I can't speak for the men, but they seemed pretty satisfied too.

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/9/2009 5:16:42 PM
I just dumped 220 lbs Nappy, I wasn't referring to ME...lol...I was referring to the man friend....hehehehee. I did have a couple days where I was truly heart broken---not so much now. I will always love him, but after six years of the same old same old----I need more. The irony is he finally popped the ' I love you' comment he hadn't said to me in some time, met my entire family, introduced me to his friends and things seemed great....than nada. I swear he's bipolar or the moodiest man I've ever met, the only difference now, is I'm not willing to put up with another six years of his mood swings when I'm dealing with my own with good ol mentalpause ;)

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/9/2009 3:14:17 PM
I really don't know why.Can you tell me why curvy women are so looked down on in general and NOT considered sexy by most? There in lies, perhaps the biggest reason I have with my issue with fat as being termed 'sexy'. Maybe I need to just realize that it's not necessarily my size that turns men on but the WHOLE of me. I like me--the person---I dislike the look of fat. My issue, that I'm working on daily. Again---it's self perception vs the world's perception and I'm not on some pity party by any means----differences scare some people----anything that varies from the norm or what society deems 'the norm' tends to be frowned upon. Even my preference in men caused shock waves in my family----I love black men----and I've dated a man whose of Syrian descent----my family wasn't too receptive to him either, but it's what I like....but I guess maybe it was more the way the man treated me that won me over...none the less, I think I should try to spend less time trying to figure 'the whys' and simply focus on me. In the end the only thing I can change is me-----and I'm a master piece in progress :0)

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/9/2009 2:28:56 PM
Wow---girls----nice rebuttals and comments!! To Nappy :) My issue isn't that I don't believe I exude some sex appeal--I just have a hard time understanding why some men think fat is sexy. I have a great personality, if I do say so myself, nice eyes and a warm smile. Bottom line for me---I can even get naked--but when I look in the mirror I'm thinking 'what the fck do men see sexy in rolls'---and gratefully, some men love big women, but then I think am I only being pursued because they view my F A T as a fetish. (kinda leaves me on empty). I guess I want to be wanted for ALL of me...not just cuz some man gets a woody cuz he's having impure thoughts of my belly rolls. I mean I do have some very worthwhile curves, but in the end I don't want to be valued simply cuz I got some cleavage and a fat a$$. I have a mind, a good heart and truly am a caring person. I've yet to really hear a man say or admit that he likes the whole package----it's like I am merely bits and pieces---so if all a man wants is bits and pieces it makes me question am I worth the effort in a relationship. Clearly, some of us have size acceptance issues---of ourselves, others etc which can hamper good relationships or explain why we stick around in not such good ones. I've seen both sides of the spectrum--size is just one of many issues that are truly affected by self-perception---never mind what some of us think others see when they look at us. I like all body forms---I just don't like certain parts of my body---but I certainly am not going to devalue anyone else because I have a hang up about my fat. Does that make it any clearer? I'm not looking for a date or justification for why folks see fat as sexy---I am more curious what about it, for a man in particular, is so alluring. P.S. I'm bigger now than I was before and still pursued...go figure...lol. I don't like the look of fat....but I think I'm adorable. yep I'm an oxymoron talking* And as far as the dyck sucking comment----the comments I've heard many men say is that big girls suck dyck so well cuz they are hungry and never are satisfied and/or fat girls OVER compensate at anything sexual to win a guy over. I don't know too many guys who will stay with a woman if all she can do is give a good bj----but I'm sure they'd come back for more regardless of her size.

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/8/2009 5:12:54 PM
hence your "very fit" man can eat like a pig. Again, he can not eat like a pig but he opts too and continues to grapple with a 20 lb gain ( mostly to his tummy region) that makes HIM feel fat and uncomfortable. While I never saw him as fat ---he really thought he was. Thing is, if any amount of weight bugs you than eating like a 'pig' isn't good for you. It's called yo-yoing....and he's probably gained and lost the same 20 lbs over and over, but more recently has adopted it lol. Not only that, for a health conscious man he eats at a lot of fast food joints---he may toss out the bun but most of that food is cooked in LARD ----I see very little nutritional value in that. I'd love to see how his cholesterol is because I may be a ten ton tessy but my LDL and HDL are very good. So, as my good doctor said..I EAT RIGHT...just apparently too much...lol. My issue is more the fact I lack true excercise ( and here I was hoping sex was enough..lol). Again---I get what you are saying----but the topic is about What is SEXY about FAT----not how people get FAT. :) Just saying.

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/8/2009 9:09:05 AM
People who are in good shape, muscular or built tend to watch what they put in their body and that is why they look the way they do. Division, with all due respect, that statement isn't entirely true. I know this because the man I use to date was very fit...played tennis regularly..worked out at the gym...was always into bedroom Olympics and ate like a PIG!!!!! When ever we'd go out to dinner I always opted for a low-fat or lighter meal and he just stuffed his face with whatever. I can remember a few times we left a restaurant and he'd be moaning and groaning about his jeans being too tight around the waist line and he'd unbutton em before we even left the parking lot. Hell, he eats out all the time with his co-workers and business associates. OT----fat is fat----it does have an appeal if there seems to be small amounts deposited on areas of the woman that are pleasing to a man --ie. the ass, breasts , hips and thighs. My body might not be beautiful to you ( and I may grimace at my body fat when I'm standing in front of a mirror naked) but there are still people who have no issue with their body size. I'm now working on viewing my more than ample curves differently. I'm not asking you or anyone else to say 'yeah, fat is sexy' but there are people who clearly find it to be so.

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/7/2009 6:07:10 PM
M church--this thread isn't about the individual who carries the weight...but rather those who find the fat on a woman's body sexy. I, myself, have issues with the allure of fat, as I see nothing sexy about it which may explain why I've sabotaged many relationships ( I kicked a few decent guys to the curb because I just couldn't understand or BELIEVE they were attracted to a fat woman). It's interesting that if a person is overweight they are as poorly described as some people who are underweight...and it's not always a choice that can be changed----perhaps controlled---in the best circumstance. I quit smoking to improve my health and spare the lungs of people around me who I love. When I gave up one oral fixation I started to compensate the cigarette for something else. I've gained weight and I don't like it, and while I'm prepared to fix the problem, just like I quit smoking ( which will be one yr Christmas eve) it will take some time. In the meanwhile, I'm still pursued by men---and perhaps I'm more cynical so I question all their intentions. I even recently parted ways with the man friend. I know me well enough to know when I've had enough I've had enough. Meat head was very good to me, but that was only when he had time. I don't want to be anyone's convenience or after thought. I suspect, while he adored my fat, he didn't adore me near as much. Painful to admit, but I care enough about me to move on with my life. I don't have to over compensate for anything--I'm a charming witty woman who just happens to be overweight. I will never be thin. I remember when I was trying to get pregnant the specialist I met in Boston told me much the same. I'm not meant to be stick thin, but I should TRY to stay at a healthy weight. As I shed all the things that are BAD for me, I become more healthy---I just dumped 220 lbs---I feel lighter already. I clearly believe that some men are enticed and stimulated by the curves of a woman...even if they are more ample than considered the norm. I might not be the traditional idea of sexy.....but I do feel sexy......and when I do...meowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww. Perhaps if I had a decent**to suck I wouldn't have gained any weight when I quit smoking...but me thinks I am better off just being a chubbette...because smoking is a dirty habit...but some would saying sucking**is a dirty habit too.....oh, the conundrum.

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/6/2009 3:36:48 PM
^^^^ I had em tied up in my closet or hid em under my bed

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/4/2009 2:42:09 PM
Mary it still seems to me that you are sold on the stereo type that beauty if this skinny minis that are so afraid to gain an ounce that they spend most of their time trying to figure out how NOT to be hungry even when they were starving... Actually, though I am overweight and the extra fat isn't necessarily what I want or need on my body I still think I'm a sexy woman...and I know I do exude some element of sexiness because I have met and come to know a lot of men who have consistently and rigorously pursued me. I don't necessarily see the 'sexy' in my belly but I don't think I'm unattractive..just fat...lol. It truly is MY hang-up but after reading a lot of the comments by other POFer's I have some other perspectives to think about. Yes, I have extremely soft skin....I do have a nice round ass----I have nice thick thighs and calves----so while, the whole of me might not be perfect, you can bet your sweet a$$ there are many things about me that rock. My greatest asset is my brain----and I do try to think outside the box and see how other people see things to broaden my views on questions few folks like to ask but a good discussion is important. I will never be thin----but I can be healthier----and that is why I've quit smoking and started taking better care of my body so I can live a longer more enjoyable life----and for the most part I enjoy myself rather well. A very good friend of mine opted for Gastric Bypass surgery and lost a whopping 180 lbs and looks great. She only has about 15 lbs-20 lbs of weight to lose and when she went in for a follow-up it still stated she was obese on her chart. She was devastated. I am fat----and as I loose weight---even with exercise my body is never going to be perfect. My shape is sexy, perhaps some think to a very small population of men and women----but I only have to say to those who discredit the 'sex appeal' fat has----I think you need to attend a BBW dance----cuz it's wall to wall guys. Yeah, some are looking for sex only, but some guys do the same thing with a woman of ANY size and most of the men who attend these soirees truly love the size and beauty of women. So, while maybe fat isn't sexy to me---it seems some folks feel fat truly is. Besides, in the dark, we are all sexy-----

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/3/2009 8:53:46 PM
^^^^ I know that is true in some cases....I don't mind being someones 'dirty' lil secret because sometimes I just wanna be plain dirty and enjoy the bounty---but for a real meat and potatoes relationship ( notice I use analogies with food lol) I want and need more. I want to know that the person cares about me and needs me in his life---I don't want to be some freak show that they wanna pork out more or just roll around my body cuz that's the only allure I have for them. And for them weight trainers in da house.....let's get busy.....put ya muscle where ya mouth is and give a girl some inspiration. Get naked and let me chase you around the POF forums. (yeah, I'm sarcastic, but I don't say it with ill intent)

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/3/2009 4:10:27 PM
Kthyg-- Actually, I am getting some answers, but the thing is....fat in and of itself, in my opinion holds little sex appeal, maybe it's because of the things I've heard all my life or the fact I bought into certain stereotypes of what DEFINES sexy---and from what I've seen, read, or experienced in one way or another fat does not equate to sexy. But dang it all----I feel sexy----collectively----it's just when I think I'm a 'fetish' it does make me wonder---and I am being sought because someone really likes me collectively or am I simply sought for my juicy fat parts. giggle---I think you know what I mean

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/3/2009 2:55:25 PM
Wow----and the fun begins. What I find interesting about this thread and others like it is that very few people actually answer the question and then the thread takes on a life of it's own. Regardless, it's nice to see some of the differences with limited mud slinging. I personally don't find any fat on my body to be sexy----but for a lot of men I've dated they had NO issue with it at all. ( maybe it was my oral skills or the fact I'm a total freak in the sack that helped...ROFLMAO). I can safely say that I've dated every type of man from the very average to Mr Bo Hunk----and yes, they took me on real dates out in public-----to be honest I think I had more hang-ups about it then they did. I'm not asking anyone to embrace the over weight and say yeah, I wanna bag me one of them babes----I am just curious what about it the extra size of some women ( and men ) make members of the opposite sex go ga ga----and very few men have stepped up to answer. Must be like the old analogy---Fat girls are like Mopeds---they might be fun to ride but no one wants to get caught riding one....guess, no one wants to talk about it either...oh the horror it all. I still in embrace my roly poly body----round is a shape...therefore I'm shapely..

magicalmary

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what do you do if you male date starts crying in bed Posted: 11/1/2009 5:01:53 AM
Um----I've never had a lover cry in bed that I can recall.....but if he started whining about a past lover I'd boot his sorry ass out of bed .....and NEVER ask him back again.

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/1/2009 3:39:39 AM
I just got up---ugh I hate daylight savings time----and have to say THANKS to everyone for 'getting' it. Let me just say, when I was younger ( and I've looked back at old pictures of me) I had a flat stomach---small boobs---an ample butt--and a round face and I was called 'fat'. I wasn't really fat, but I came to believe that based on all the things that I was told. Now, that I am fat, I look back at those pictures and think..'damn, I was skinny' . At the time my self-esteem was pitiful and all I saw was FAT. When I looked in the mirror, despite the fact I really wasn't fat at all, that became my perception no matter what the scale said. I was made fun of most of my life, but as a way to survive, I just poked fun at myself, sought comfort in food and slowly over the years watched my body shape change. My ass got bigger, my face fuller, my breasts bigger and the whole of me rounder. Regardless, I always appealed to men for some reason or another. I've battled with my weight most of my life---and ironically----when I lost a lot of weight either my friends would sabotage my success or I would. Left me wondering, am I suppose to be fat, and if so, why not simply embrace it. Clearly, being overweight is not healthy, and I've been doing a lot of things to rectify that, but the one thing that still is hard for me to digest ( no pun intended ) that in a society that says fat is unattractive, there are still men who equate fat as sexy. I can empathize with anyone---including women who struggle with being underweight---I lost a dear friend because she believed that she was fat and starved herself to death at the age of 21. As I've gotten older, and I hope wiser, I think beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. Size acceptance is difficult--no matter where you fall on the scale. Clearly, I've learned to worry less about what others think and simply embrace the fact that some men do find some women who are fat sexy-----perhaps it's all in a woman's attitude ---in which case I not only sizzle---I'm a fkn siren.

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 10/31/2009 1:53:51 PM
Let me say it's discouraging as an adult to see that name calling and bashing each other still occurs---why??? I think it's important to share our differences and simply AGREE to DISAGREE about our likes and dislikes. I don't want this thread dumped because adults are resorting to name calling, so I'm respectfully asking anyone who has the need to unkind to find something better to do like hug a friend---go look in the mirror and say 'dang, I'm sexy'---but name calling is unnecessary. Thanks!!

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 10/31/2009 10:31:59 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^ rotflmfao---M church....darlin, may you never change!!!!! Again, thanks to everyone for the feedback. I am not suggesting everyone should find fat sexy, but apparently fat ---or ample curves--even overly extra curves do have some sex appeal for men ( and it appears women too ). I've asked the men I've dated what about me they liked most....and few would actually speak of my shape it was always 'other' things. Though, I must say the person I see now clearly is into my SIZE. I have accepted me for me...and my hope is that others accept themselves too. None of us, that I'm aware of are perfect, so I like to embrace my imperfections and excel at being the best person I can be. Yes, I still ponder this notion that fat appears to be sexy to some, and I may always find it curious, but that is my lil issue and probably always will be.

magicalmary

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11 years without a serious realtionship............... Posted: 10/31/2009 4:20:04 AM
Relationships are what you make them--healthy or not. Perhaps you might not be interested in a romantic relationship because of fear of the unknown, previous hurt, never had the experience but can't be bothered---who knows. Being a friend ---child---mother---brother---etc are all forms of RELATIONSHIPS and I'm sure ( well I'd like to believe ) people can be successful with them. I've been doing a dance with one man for 6 yrs-----I haven't fully committed to him and I may never---it's not because we don't have a relationship----it's because we do----we're established friends who have sex...boooo yahhhh.....I love him very much....and I know he loves me but we just do our own thing. Does that mean I'm not capable of having the 'perfect' relationship--perhaps, but we share a relationship just the same. Look outside the box.....just saying.

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 10/30/2009 6:07:24 PM
Next- Oh, I get that the man friend finds ME sexy---but it's my size that is part and parcel where the sexual attraction comes in---he actually hates when I call myself FAT...go figure. I use to worry all the time that I didn't fit societal modes of what is attractive, but again, over the years I've discovered I've ALWAYS exuded something that has appealed to men---perhaps it's confidence mixed in with humor and c*ckiness. Regardless, even at the age of 43 I still have a hard time understanding how some men actually find FAT sexy. I know I'm not ugly, but I just don't see me as physically sexy---even if I exude some kind of sex appeal. I also know it's not just my man friend that finds my girth sexy-----many men do, even if they'd NEVER admit. Perhaps I need to move to the UK...lol. P. S. Sorry to hear about your beloved pet....hope she hangs in there.

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 10/30/2009 2:18:15 PM
Want to Travel- I'm curvy all right...lol....but I'm not talking about my round curves necessarily but the dreaded F A T word. I've long learned to embrace all of me, because I am what I am...could I be smaller sure....but I love food but food don't love me...( perhaps I need to decrease food consumption and increase my sexual liaisons..hmmmmm thoughts to ponder) OT- You say it's not 'unnatural' for a woman to be large, but for some folks being 'large' doesn't equate to sexy----so for you it's okay if a woman is curvy. I'm not going to refer to myself as SUPER CURVY :)

magicalmary

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How do you tell your lover they`re too loud in bed? Posted: 10/30/2009 1:47:25 PM
Well, it seems to me your neighbors are jealous---just tell em what my man friend told his whiney nosey neighbors....'this is how she reacts until I untie her from the bed'. The looks on their face was priceless and they don't say much now. Heheheee----just tell her to bellow in a pillow----it muffles the noise and she still can moan away.

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 10/30/2009 1:27:34 PM
Thanks for all the posts---I appreciate all the candor and honesty in the answers. Like I've said before, I like me, despite my portly size, but for the life of me I've never gotten why some guys, including the man I date, is not put off by my body shape. There was a time I wouldn't even get naked, much less have sex with the lights on, but now----I prefer to be able to see the person I'm with----his reactions and listen to him moan----it's good for the ego no doubt. I think BigDaddyJinx is the only person whose come close to giving me his version of the sexiness of those who might be viewed as 'fat'. I'm not asking why or how folks get FAT---but rather---why/how is that some men actually view FAT on women ( or women who see fat on men) to be sexy. I mean I find beer bellies sexy---the men seem really cuddly to me, which may be why I don't view it as fat---but fluffy. My estranged spouse is a big man and no matter how big he got I didn't equate my love for him based on his size but on the person he was. It wasn't his fat, necessarily I found sexy---it was just him and how me made me feel.

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 10/30/2009 6:00:12 AM
ROFLMAO----------ya'll are too funny. Seriously though, what is it about FAT that some men equate to SEXY????? I get the sex part.....cuz for some men all they need is a hole, not a reason...flip off the switch voila....but for some men they find FAT sexy----and if she's not got some fat on her he can't get hard.

magicalmary

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Does your SO go to the gym to enhance their sex life? Posted: 10/30/2009 5:18:35 AM
Hmmmm....I think it's possible but I think he's secretly taking that lil blue wonder pill ( shhhhh don't tell him I said that ) . Actually, I think if you FEEL good about yourself, and generally speaking working out tends to make people FEEL good than you'd naturally have that extra zip to take the workout home so you can be your very best for the one you love. My manfriend is very athletic plays sports and goes to the gym as often as he's able and he does have a bit of stamina...might be why I keep him around. P.S. Apples n pie----this is a dating site, but the forums have always been the biggest reason I stick around. I am here for forums---and friendship, and the man friend knows it because I share everything with him. I'm sorry that not all folks are honest and forth coming.

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 10/30/2009 4:40:05 AM
I'm not dismissing healthy bodies----my man friend is athletic and recently introduced me to all his buddies----they all liked me and none made any wise arse remarks, but even if they had I wouldn't of cared. When I was younger and people would poke fun at me it was painful, but as I've matured I've noted that its often the people who poke fun who have more self-esteem issues than I could ever have. As I eluded to in my first post---I understand the emphasis on being a 'healthy' body weight---particularly when it comes to the bed Olympics, but the thing is we all come in a variety of shapes and sizes--for me I'm a short fat lady, but I've never lacked for male suitors, but my thing is---how is that a guy gets all hard and horny over a roly poly sort like myself. I'm sure I'm not alone in my thinking. Don't get me wrong---I'm glad that some men have an appreciation for those of us who aren't slim or average in shape or size, and I have nothing but love for all body types---my question is why do some guys find FAT SEXY???

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 10/30/2009 4:15:51 AM
Sweetie, I haven't gotten this far in life without having a bigger set of b*lls than some men and a great sense of HUMOR. Thing is, I'm truly curious about this...I mean is it a true preference or just a fetish. Do some men really find fat sexy? If a man is attracted to a big lady I know from first hand experience they get a lot of flack from their so-called buddies, but a lot of those guys ask a lot of FUNNY questions. To the men who aren't fearful of getting ribbed for their desire to bed fat women or the need to see some chunky butt to get a hard-on speak up...I promise to protect ya ;)

magicalmary

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 10/30/2009 3:50:56 AM
This thread is by NO means disrespecting those over weight or the people who find fat sexy, but as a big woman I have always wondered why some men find rolls of fat sexy----I mean I've had some men even ask me to describe my 'folds of fat' 'fat apron' ' sagging breasts' 'how fat and round is ya rump' etc. I certainly understand people have preferences, but in a nation where the expectation is for healthy bodies especially when one wants to engage in sexual intercourse, how is it that some guys really are TURNED on by FAT. I have no shame about my shape----and I can have sex with the lights ON or OFF, but given all I know I just don't get how some guys really NEED a large woman in order to be sexually aroused. This is not an opportunity for some posters to berate the overweight, but rather I'd like to slip into the minds of both men and women and find out what about body size actually cranks their engines and stirs that need to get nakey and do the naughty. I must confess I do like big men---not really sure why---but a tall guy with wide shoulders---a sexy beer belly and a smile does catch my attention.

magicalmary

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Disgusted yet Not Flattered Posted: 10/29/2009 6:50:13 PM
Well, not to rain on your parade but your choice of screen name might also be the reason for the less than flattering emails. Thing is even if you didn't have a picture on your profile there are some men and women who will type the damndest things. I'm fat and get the same reaction ( most figure fat chicks have big bewbs..I got short changed hahaha) --and no one can see my cleavage. Go figure.

magicalmary

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Sex during your period? Posted: 10/25/2009 4:46:34 PM
LOL---when I was younger and my periods were lighter I didn't really give a rip....even in my 30's it didnt' bug me, but for some reason now I can't be bothered with the mess. I'm quite content to let the four days lapse before I decide to be intimate. I know some guys who would faint at the idea and others who got a woody just thinking about it.

magicalmary

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Msg: 72 (view)

STD's Posted: 10/25/2009 4:40:52 PM
OP- An STD screen is only good for as long as the party who was tested remained absent from doing the naughty. Once a person is back in the saddle, so to speak, you've put yourself at risk so the screen is pointless...it just tells you at that specific point in time you didn't test for X , Y or Z STD. Condoms are a good barrier for some STD's but for many any contact between infected 'skin' can result in the spread of the STD. The only fool proof way to prevent STDS is to limit partners...or abstain from sex altogether. If you are sexually active you should be tested regularly---every 3-6 months depending on your sexual exploits. If you're sleeping with someone you NEED to ask...and if you can get NAKED with someone talking about STDS should be a top priority besides 'so, what is your favorite sexual position.' I know from personal experience, particularly my current lover, he wasn't upset I asked but did follow through with my request to be tested. It's not only about health safety, but it's also about respecting the person you're being intimate with. JMHO

magicalmary

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Msg: 25 (view)

Does exclusivity applies in FWB relationship? Posted: 10/25/2009 12:47:27 PM
Not my fault that she got emotionally connected. Well, lemme put to ya this WAY---I know my meathead has the benefit, like myself, to see others provided he uses protection etc. ( the same for me) HOWEVER---knowing it is one thing....having the person you swap spit with on a steady basis for years SHARE he's doing it than giving names.....I'd say you are PART to blame for her getting upset. You say you wouldn' t mind...and maybe you wouldn't...but if she started telling you who she was doinking and then tell you it was a FRIEND of yours...not only would you be a bit upset but weirded out too....think about it from a different perspective and you have to admit ....telling her was one thing...giving names was unnecessary and uncalled for.....you are, after all FRIENDS first....some things just shouldn't be said.

magicalmary

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Breaking up with a friend Posted: 10/25/2009 12:06:31 PM
Been there did that----was it pleasant ...not exactly, but I am no one's personal door mat. We all have feelings and mine are no less significant than that of my friends. I don't feel guilty because I've done nothing to warrant the treatment I was getting in the first place. I'd do anything for a friend, but folks shouldn't confuse my kindness for stupidity. Lesson learned.

magicalmary

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Does exclusivity applies in FWB relationship? Posted: 10/25/2009 11:57:20 AM
Op- Any relationship is pretty much how both parties define it. Funny thing is, even in the best relationship that has clear boundaries and open communication you discover what you THOUGHT you knew about your lover seems to be way off course and no matter how open and honest you are... you find that you are still DEAD wrong about just about everything. What exactly is a proper relationship anyway??? If I had to gauge it based on forum posts it would be two folks who hang out when time allows, have clandestine meetings with other POFers', lies are a prerequisite for added drama, and toss in the advice of friends and foes to tell you just how big a schmuck you are or what a btch she is...does that make it clear for ya??? We are all driven by emotion...whether we admit it or not. I've noted that my FWB for the past 6 yrs does love me when he isn't busy with other more important things....but dagnabit if I find something to keep me busy....he gets mighty pissed off. Why----cuz no matter how I label or define what we are------either the green eyed monster rears it's ugly head------or the REAL feelings we share but try to avoid cuz EVERYONE says...but ya just friends with benefits. Agreements, even laid in stone, mean nothing when a person becomes emotionally entangled or feels that you are EXCLUSIVE fck buddies----and this is not a gender specific thing.....some of us just live on the river of denial until someone tips over da boat. Happy MM

magicalmary

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Msg: 21 (view)

Why.. Posted: 10/22/2009 6:50:03 PM
OP- Sometimes it's not that you aren't attractive enough but folks present one way and truly are another---if you are too nice they want a bad girl---if you are a bad girl than you're not taken seriously---if you wear glasses they want you to wear contacts.....point is if someone isn't interested in what they see, than they simply are not interested. While, it's hard not to feel offended or hurt, the best you can do is move on to men who genuinely are interested in you collectively, not just the parts that interest them. I don't think it makes anyone shallow to have personal preferences, yet it can be a hard pillow to swallow when everything seems to click..BUT...they really just aren't that into you. My mantra is simple...love all of me or not at all....might lessen the pool of men who really are into me, but at least I know they not only like me for my body but my mind too...and what a body I got.... Hang in there.....if I can land a man anyone can.

magicalmary

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Msg: 19 (view)

what do I do? Posted: 10/17/2009 5:40:05 PM
MYOB-----either way you'll get burned even if you speak up. While, whatever you may be hearing rings true it's not for you to say. I get you have feelings for the guy, but some times it's better to just sit back and keep quiet. He's a grown man I'm sure he'll figure things out. He's your ex and anything you say to him he may take as spiteful on your part. I have learned sometimes saying nothing is far better than speaking up-----but in the end it's ultimately your choice what you do---just be ready for the fall out.

magicalmary

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Phone etiquette Posted: 10/17/2009 5:35:50 PM
I just wanna know if you need to use rubbers for the receiver or those cute ones you can put on your fingers....so you can then really reach out and touch ya phone lover without fear of getting ATnTCOOTIES.

magicalmary

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He stated that I was his 'life partner' ?! Posted: 10/11/2009 8:17:37 AM
Dee -- I've been dating the same man for over 6 yrs---he's called either Meathead or the Manfriend.....I'm over forty and feel that it's a bit tacky to call em my boyfriend-----cuz he's not a boy he's a man, and the fact is he's my friend. We have a crazy relationship but it works. He introduces me as his friend .....and I do the same. My friends find us odd....but seeing it only matters what he and I mean to each other the label thing is not something I worry about and I would hope that you wouldn't feel bogged down by it either. Call em Meathead...or Manfriend....they are kinda interchangeable lol.

magicalmary

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Men & woman of a certain size??? Posted: 10/11/2009 8:04:45 AM
LOL I recently had an experience where I was in an office with my co-workers and I was sputtering about some issues with customers ( I can be a comical sort with little effort) and I was totally unaware that there was a man who was doing some plumbing in the area where I was spouting off. Needless to say, I had the whole office laughing to tears and out of no where this voice trumpets ' I want to take you out to a bar....you're one of the funniest gals I've ever heard'. I just chuckled because he didn't see me....he only heard me...but in that period of about 10 minutes of my ranting he figured I was someone he wanted to go out with on a date. He was tall, great smile and quite attractive...I figured when he came out of the room he'd take one look at me and think....bah.....that's one of Huge Heffnah's Heffahs and recant his offer to go out...but he didn't...he said it was one of the best places he'd ever had to work in....course as soon as I spied a wedding ring on his finger I told em there'd be NO dates for he and I...to which he replied 'well, can we still be friends?' The point is.....sometimes ya just know there is something about a person that makes them larger than life.....yeah, body types make a difference when you are hoping to catch someone's attention...but I'm learning that it's my larger than life voice and personality that does EXACTLY the same thing. It's about perspective. Double standards only apply if we allow them too. I'm a fiesty fat fun forty something female ...hear me roar-----or purrrrrrrrrrrr...LOL. As long as I'm healthy....I don't care if people pass me over cuz I'm short and round.....there are plenty of people who stand up and take notice....cuz I project a sexy sizzling siren----and that is just as appealing. I call it CONFIDENCE----JMHO. MM

magicalmary

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A real woman Posted: 10/11/2009 7:55:11 AM
Hmmmm I had to ask my 7 yr old son what he thought about this question---so I asked him to explain to me what makes a person real....his answer 'you can see them'. Nuff said----MM

magicalmary

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Msg: 52 (view)

Does the opinion of others .... Posted: 10/11/2009 7:53:51 AM
There have been times in my past that I allowed the feelings and opinions of friends and family influence my decisions where SO's were concerned, however now, I try to give anyone I date or allow in my life the benefit of the doubt regardless of what others may say about the people I have chosen in my life.

magicalmary

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After Intimacy why do guys usually back off? Posted: 10/6/2009 3:50:49 PM
Dang, perhaps John Gray has met my manfriend. Sometimes I think the reason he and I have lasted as long as we have is because we do not live in the same state...we have our own things we like to do separate of the other, we try to see each other weekly (we take turns visiting the other's place of residence), etc. There have been times he's gone MIA for a few days.....there even have been times when it's been weeks.....but if I do it.....OH DEAR GOD.....he gets very upset with me and typically will say 'is there something wrong with your fingers, phone, or both?' When I mention he does the same thing he always says I'm mistaken about the lapse in time we've seen each other---now I just go with the flow. I use to allow his behavior to drive me batty, now I just have fun with the down time and when we do get together ...well, let's just say 'distance can make the hard grow fonder'

magicalmary

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When Sex is on Your Mind.. Posted: 10/6/2009 3:43:18 PM
When sex is on my mind I call the manfriend.....and if he ain't available to take care of business...I just take matters into my own hands...lmao.

magicalmary

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Msg: 38 (view)

Am I realistic here? Posted: 10/6/2009 3:37:13 PM
Op- Its not a question of you being realistic but living by your own set of standards and simply being true to yourself. There's so much pressure to get nakey that most folks never really take the time to truly get to know each other. Unfortunately in America, it seems, that we live in a world that demands immediate gratification and some, not all, people have little patience to wait for anything. Do what you are comfortable with---that's my best advice. Good luck MM

magicalmary

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How do you react.... Posted: 10/6/2009 3:30:20 PM
Actually Ava Gardner said that of Frank Sinatra - that he was 5'6"... 5 foot was coock. Priceless.....and if you ask SOME women...no matter how tall a man is he is still just a big d*ck....figuratively speaking, of course. And to the person who stated I should date a black man----been there done that, and they can disappoint a girl too---the myth is a myth---when it comes to penis size each man varies in size, shape, color and girth. Gosh darn it...I sure love a penis---I just don't always love the body that's attached to it...the penis that is.

magicalmary

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Msg: 38 (view)

Is it possible to like both very voluptuous women and super-skinny ones? Posted: 10/4/2009 7:28:21 PM
Very nice post Maqicalmary Just calling it as I see it.....and thanks ;)~

magicalmary

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average and below Posted: 10/4/2009 7:22:12 PM
Ever heard of Ron Jeremy ? Forget about hearing about him...I've seen him...and that man didn't do a thing for me visually but he was a real ladies man on and off the porn screen. I never thought his penis was super big...I think he just had a LOT of stamina...LOL.

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