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blondegardengodess

Joined: 8/21/2005

Msg: 200 (view)

What is it with 50+ women and wanting to stay single??? Posted: 10/18/2008 6:47:51 PM
I'm with you on this one, Rossal! The few men who can string a few words together to even form a coherent paragraph can't seem to send more than three emails b-4 disappearing. Seems like there are a lot online who are just playing around. As far as getting married at 54, please . . . why in God's name would any women who is smart, professional, financially solvent and independent want to do that? So she can answer to someone, and stroke their ego (don't say it--'cause that's what every single man I ever met wants) and basically lavish the time on him she could lavish on herself, her kids and her friends . . . Quite frankly, I've never had it so good. A devoted, monogamous long-term lover is a much more enchanting idea!

blondegardengodess

Joined: 8/21/2005

Msg: 544 (view)

Is money really that important ladies? Posted: 7/19/2008 9:36:56 AM
Oh, Hell ya! You GO girl :) You and I are on the same wavelength. I am really tired of all the crybabies who had their wives divorce them and they "lost everything." I live in a "community property" state where each party gets their 50% of assets accumulated during a marriage . . . and yet, still they whine. If I would have depended on a man taking care of me, I would not be where I am today. I picked myself up from having no education or job and six young children, put myself through college working two jobs and now own more real estate than most men I know. Another problem I recently ran into--these guys who are supposedly near geniuses, graduated suma cum laude, and work at the local home improvement center as salesmen!! Same types want you to call them daddy and run the show and your assets. Again, Hell no.

blondegardengodess

Joined: 8/21/2005

Msg: 321 (view)

Is money really that important ladies? Posted: 10/1/2007 10:09:45 PM
americanwoman, you are right on the money! It is the reality . . . there are lots of gigilo types out there who would be more than happy to suck up everything some of us have worked for. I personally know two women who "fell in love" with men who did not have a pot to pee in, or window to throw it out. One is living in a small mobile home and the other lost her home, and is living with her son. They were foolish and "shared" what they spent their lives saving. They are now broke and alone, because when the $$ ran out, those guys moved on. A man needs to show he has achieved a comparable level of comfort to what I have, because otherwise, it leaves me wondering what he has done with his time for the last 30 working years. Even allowing for things like a divorce etc. a man should be able to have something by the time he is middle aged . . . a home, a car and some savings, that indicates he is financially solvent. Without that, he would not be a good bet to build a relationship with me, because lack of at least a minimum of those assets means he is irresponsible, unstable and/or does not have goals similar to mine.

blondegardengodess

Joined: 8/21/2005

Msg: 320 (view)

Is money really that important ladies? Posted: 10/1/2007 9:58:15 PM
Are you serious? You got to be your age and don't know the answer to this question? When we are young we have our whole life to achieve things, including a good career/income. If you are old and gray and still don't have two nickels to rub together, what is wrong with this picture? This is not a third world country. It's America--plenty of opportunity for everyone. Unless a man is handicapped, what reason could there be for not having made a life/career/income for himself? I have managed my credit/income/retirement savings despite raising half a dozen kids alone and working full time. Nobody handed me anything, I'm a self made woman. So, I expect a man who has stepped up and made a stable, responsible life for himself, and/or raised a family also. I'm not digging for gold, but am not going to settle for someone who has nothing to show for living a whole lifetime. I deserve the best men who "trade on their looks" or charming personalities, but cannot pay their share on a vacation to the Carribean, don't make my dance card.

blondegardengodess

Joined: 8/21/2005

Msg: 318 (view)

Is money really that important ladies? Posted: 10/1/2007 9:45:27 PM
Well, people . . . moraima is right. We need to clarify a few things here. At different points in life, we place a higher priority on $ than at other times. When you are young, it's all hot sex and staring into each other's eyes, and we think we can "live on love." When you are 50 plus, have survived divorce or death of a mate, have struggled financially while raising 6 kids (by myself), put yourself through college as a single parent, have achieved some financial stability at long last--own a home or two, etc. you're in a different place altogether. Because you are a financially responsible grown up, not a love struck teenager, a starving artist, vagabond nomad type or worse, someone content with sucking the social t-t . . . you understand a few things. You know it takes a certain amount of $ to pay the mortgage, all the bills, insurances and buying food and clothing. And, if you want to add in entertainment and travel expenses . . . you see my point. Also, if you're heading into the late 50's, if you've been responsible, you've put away $ for your fast-approaching retirement. Few of us can live on social security alone. Now then, my point? Any man or woman who gets to middle age (this forum is for over 45's) and hasn't learned that women usually prefer to hook up with men who are their financial equals, is kidding themselves. I know many women who have worked their whole lives to support children, educate themselves and build a career in a man's world . . . and none of us are interested in men without money. We have worked VERY hard, harder than many men, so why in the HE-L would we accept someone who is not our equal.

blondegardengodess

Joined: 8/21/2005

Msg: 36 (view)

Would like to know if anyone is dating. Posted: 10/1/2007 9:01:31 PM
Yeah, I'd like to know that too. I have offered everything from toasters to trips to Paris, and men just refuse to return my emails, much less ask me out!! What gives, fellas? I mean seriously, what are men expecting? There are very few of us who look like supermodels, especially after 50 . . . I can't imagine a college educated woman with a professional career, good communication skills, warm and friendly personality and no history of mental illness of criminality, can't find a man with similar qualities with whom to at least share a cuppa Joe.

BlondeGardenGodess

Joined: 8/21/2005

Msg: 286 (view)

Let T-Rex review your profile...I'll be gentle..hehehe Posted: 10/30/2006 10:10:59 AM
Hey Indigo! I NEVER get any responses at this site. I can proove men only are interested in good looks. I did an experiement--I posted a really good glamour shot of myself when I had long, flowing, blonde hair. I had over 300 responses from various sites. This pic shows the real me--"Girl-next-door" cute. All of my profile's are well written, without mispellings. I think what I write gives a good flavor for my personality . . . but seriously, I doubt most men are reading what we write!! But, have at it--gimme your view on my profile! Maybe it's my age . . . but I "Yam what I yam and dats all what I yam." MJ

BlondeGardenGodess

Joined: 8/21/2005

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Frontin' Posted: 12/31/2005 11:40:35 AM
I'm laughing . . . we all have neuroses . . . but rather than finding men who try to hide theirs, I seem to hear from ones who have such glaring red flags they are impossible to disguise. Or maybe it's because of my job . . . I spend all day figuring people out. I may be doomed to failure on the dating front, because I strongly feel we need good material to build a successful relationship. If you decide to ignore the scary clues you see on the first or second date--imagine what you'll unearth down the road! The main reason some people ignore the red flags with potential partners/dates is they're desperate to make a connection. This happens for a several reasons, such as: 1) Their picker is broken--i.e. they are picking the wrong people over and over, and it's their pattern to attract certain types (because of their own neediness and destructive patterns) 2) They have been without sex too long, want to get some, and are subconsiously in denial about the individual's deficiencies/issues and 3) Just don't have the experience and skills to recognize someone with problems . . . Any time we hook up with someone, and their basic lif philosphy, values and morals don't fit well with ours, we can rest assured we are making a mistake. There are enough people out there in this gigantic people store to be choosy--some things, body type, height, education level (to an extent), race and culture and past experiences, can be negotiable. Start compromising on basic values in life or the person's character, and you are signing up for a problematic relationship. By this age, quite candidly, for better or worse, we ARE pretty much who we are!!

BlondeGardenGodess

Joined: 8/21/2005

Msg: 30 (view)

Very funny yet so obvious... Posted: 12/31/2005 11:25:51 AM
It's good to devote some time to exercise, simply because it impact our health in a positive way . . . and after 50, it's not a matter of making you buff--you usually need to do it just to maintain, and not get on a downhill slide. I seriously fell off my workout program in the past few months, due to an injury, and am now back on it. Wow!! It's not easy!!! And, what you say is so true, and despite what men our age seem to think about our bodies--that we should all be supermodels . . . they are going to be disappointed in the average 50-plus female. Sometimes I want to scream, "Hey, buddy, there are about six supermodels in the world--and about six million average women. Oh, and none of the supermodels are calling you!"

BlondeGardenGodess

Joined: 8/21/2005

Msg: 20 (view)

Do NOT let a computer GLITCH mess with HUMAN relationship Posted: 9/24/2005 10:00:49 AM
Okay, people . . . Now, any of you who can make sense of this individual's ramblings--maybe you can get a 2-fer deal on psychotropic meds. Seriously, can't anyone see this person is exhibiting all the hallmarks of psychotic behavior/thinking. He is exhibiting deranged, paranoid thinking patterns. For whatever reason, he is mentally ill. Perhaps he is having a severe manic episode . . . which can cause this type of symptoms. He might also be experiencing methamphetamine psychosis, from taking large amounts of the drug. Another possibility is schizophrenia--these individuals live in their own world--when they are unmedicated, and exhibi t thought processes similar to this fellow. I'm not talking about content, I'm noting his rambling verbiage, the violent undertones, his belief in game characters TO THE EXTREME (as if he is one of them INSIDE the game, not simply someone working a few controls . . .) Just ask him if the characters in his games, and/or his TV and/or his computer are sending him messages . . . very common thinking in these disorders. Schizophrenics routinely get off their meds, because the side effects of some of the meds, esp. the older types, make them feel bad--sleepy, lethargic and can cause involuntary/repititious or twitching movements of the extremities, or facial tics. This man is so far away from engaging in even semi-normal communication, I don't get why someone is not suggesting he immediately get to his doctor or local community mental health clinic. He is clearly mentally ill, and needs help. Don't engage in "feeding his delusions." Though you won't be able to disuade him from his belief system, it really is not doing him a kindness for some to pretend he makes sense, with psychotic ramblings.

BlondeGardenGodess

Joined: 8/21/2005

Msg: 43 (view)

Would you date or marry a woman who's breast is mangled and scarred? Posted: 9/23/2005 7:03:38 PM
Georgie, I feel so bad for the emotional and physical pain you are experiencing right now. I read your profile, and your exceptional character is evident, even in your writing. As for if a man will date/love/accept/marry you now that you have scars or physical deformity . . . Of course any man worth his salt will be able to see past this. That said, I agree there are a lot of men who are NOT worth their salt, are judgmental, thoughtless and even cruel. But those are not the ones you will attract, because you have a winning personality, are kind and very intelligent. BTW, Sniper . . . I get your point (in telling Georgie to "suck it up" and focus on the fact she is lucky to be alive), but, like Raul said--if this was your left BALL we were talking about--you'd be singing a different tune. Probably a higher-pitched one. Georgie, here is a hug. Take care and God Bless.

BlondeGardenGodess

Joined: 8/21/2005

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What is the furthest distance you'd travel to meet someone? Posted: 9/21/2005 6:56:55 PM
(quote) How far would you travel to meet someone? (/quote) To the ends of the earth . . . if it was that rare/unique/exceptional connection with the right potential someone.

BlondeGardenGodess

Joined: 8/21/2005

Msg: 41 (view)

Soooooooooo curious......... Posted: 9/14/2005 6:52:43 PM
Well, MM, without a doubt, the "blonde sexpot" is also a stereotype.

BlondeGardenGodess

Joined: 8/21/2005

Msg: 18 (view)

Best 100% free dating site? Posted: 9/14/2005 6:49:27 PM
This site is great . . . I haven't really met anyone, and doubt I will. But, the forums are fun and I spend most of my time reading through . . . and sometimes posting my POV.

BlondeGardenGodess

Joined: 8/21/2005

Msg: 235 (view)

Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 9/11/2005 10:50:49 PM
Foxfire . . . I still haven't stopped laughing . . . we must have met the same man . . . I wouldn't have been attracted if he was the last man on EARTH. And all that "personality" counts" stuff? C'Mon, people. It only counts IF we are attracted to the physical package. Saying "it's what's inside that's important," and insisting it doesn't matter what he/she looks like, is simply ridiculous. We all have individual preferences as to what we perceive as attractive, so let's at least be honest. Some of us are more open to differences, less mainstream in our preferences, but we definately have them, none-the-less. That's what distinguishes those we are "just friends" with, from those we select as lovers. I think there are attractive people in all height/weight/ethnicities and facial features. But, again, we all know what makes out pulse quicken, and what makes us want to run like hell. In the five or so years I've been online, I met in person, just a handful of men. But, believe me--the two or three I met without seeing photos first, CURED ME of ever trying that again.

BlondeGardenGodess

Joined: 8/21/2005

Msg: 46 (view)

Slam bam thank you ma'am..... Posted: 9/11/2005 9:55:46 PM
AMEN and HALLELUJAH!!!!!!!!!!

BlondeGardenGodess

Joined: 8/21/2005

Msg: 31 (view)

Why Women Hate Men ?????? Posted: 8/22/2005 1:06:11 AM
MY GOD. Hillarious . . . we should all take heed to this man who writes about the "perverbal nail." Laughing . . . first of all, it's "probervial" (referrencing the term "proberv" from the bible story) . . .Hey, readers: Men and women ARE different--in many areas. Research indicates even our brains operate differently. We need to reach the place where we compliment each other. I don't mean "You look nice today." I am referring to recognizing each other's strengths and weaknesses, and shoring the man up in the weak areas and leaning on him where you're not so strong. BTW, Mr. "perverbal"--I guess if you want a "traditional" woman who doesn't work, you and every other man out there who wants that, should have a s___load of $$ in the bank. Many moons ago, I was a stay-at-home-and-bake-bread wife/mom. When we split, I was left with no credit, education or work skills. His life didn't change much--he still commanded the same salary and his credit was fine. Thank God, credit laws changed, and I had the fortitude to put myself through college by working two jobs. Hmm, I never did find any of those men looking for "traditional" women . . . the ones I met wanted a woman who contributed their financial half to the relationship.

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