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for the ladies....can you TRULY say money ain't a factor? Posted: 10/7/2008 7:44:24 PM
The love of money is the root of all evil! seriously... I dont need someone to pay my way, dont want someone to pay my way. If the man I am with happens to make alot of money then it is what it is... Its not the basis of a relationship...money can and does get lost, spent or goes away...then what are you left with? I can understand why some men think some women are after them for their money because....it happens....alot..just like some men are after women for their money such is life....sigh! It makes it that much harder for those of us out there that are sincere in our pursuits...

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Your opinion on Grooming your partner Posted: 10/7/2008 5:54:44 PM
Couldnt have said it better myself Bengalblue!

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Your opinion on Grooming your partner Posted: 10/7/2008 5:52:35 PM
I don't see what the big deal is... Sure some of the things mentioned can be seen as kinda gross or whatever... On the other hand...this is the person that you sleep with every night, you share just about everything so whats the big deal with removing a little body hair or scratching a back or butt or whatever..lol Personally I do not find anything about my partner gross or disgusting so its not an issue... Gotta love the good, bad and ugly and even the gross sometimes..LOL

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Watching Men Pee Posted: 9/25/2008 7:24:59 PM
this post sounds like somebody who has a secret fetish for the ummmmm "WATER SPORTS PLAY" And the problem with that is what?

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Watching Men Pee Posted: 9/25/2008 7:23:10 PM
fascinating and a big turn on as long as I get to do the steering!

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Only 17% of American (USA) women like giving oral sex? Posted: 9/24/2008 7:09:57 PM
I saw that show!! I find that very hard to believe..lol

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The capacity to love........ Posted: 9/22/2008 7:27:22 PM
and as far as my pets, past and present...They were and are the only creatures in this world that I know loved me unconditionally. Yes I believe animals have the capacity to love just as I believe they have souls...how do we know for sure they dont? The love I feel for them is the same ole love I feel for everyone else who is a part of my life. I grieved just as if I had lost a child each time I had to put one of my "babies" to sleep or they died on their own... The same grief that I felt when my grandmother died, or when my marriage ended, or a long term relationship ended. Love is Love is Love...It can present itself in endless forms but its still the same thing It is possible that I am just severly disillusioned but if thats the case then so be it..the alternative is too exhausting..

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The capacity to love........ Posted: 9/22/2008 6:20:21 PM
I really do not think it has to be so complex. We make it more complicated than it needs to be with our assumptions, our fear of being hurt, and our LONG lists of what we will and wont accept in another person before we will allow ourselves to care or love. anything THAT conditional isnt love... Love is love is love..it either is or isnt. It can grow from friendship but it still has to be there in some form for it to grow. We are a society of overthinkers who make things much harder than they have to be. Different levels of love? sure but bottom line its still love Different kinds of love? yes again but its still the basic emotion...it is what it is Makes my head spin seriously...too much I'll be over here dancing around in a field of daisies without a care..lol

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The capacity to love........ Posted: 9/22/2008 2:52:11 PM
Personally I only know one way to love...completely. Sure its a gamble and chances are 50-50 that I'm going to lose but its all part of life. When my marriage ended I was devastated. I put up the walls and they stayed up for 8 years...those were the longest, lonliest years of my life to date. It wasnt really living at all..just exisitng. I would rather live and love and yes be temporarily emotionally devastated than go thru that kind of solitude ever again. Love is messy, frustrating, unfair at times and hurtful but it is also the breath that keeps the soul alive... Peace!

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Soulmates? Do they / can they exist?? Posted: 9/18/2008 7:36:47 PM
babyboi89 You have put into words what I know to be true but couldnt ! Thank you

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Soulmates? Do they / can they exist?? Posted: 9/18/2008 7:15:24 PM
I don't know if I believe in soulmates or not BUT I do believe this with all my heart... You can meet someone and everything just seems to fall into place as if it was meant to all along. I have been fortunate in my life to have been in love and been loved several times. Each one was different and each had qualities that meshed with mine seamlessly. That being said I didnt feel that any of them were my "soulmate". I recently met someone who has made me believe that it can be possible. I cannot explain it but I know in my soul that this man is supposed to be in my life...will be a part of my life indefinitely. I cant say in what capacity he will be in my life but I know he will be there. Its kinda like the place in my heart that has always been empty finally found the piece that makes it more whole. yea ,yea ...cheesy I know but its true. Its very different from the uncertainty we feel when we arent sure of the other persons feelings towards us. He is my friend above all else...my confidant and yes my lover! My world is a brighter place because he's a part of it...sooo soulmate? dunno...dont really care...I love what it is and thats enough!

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Does Friends first ever really work? Posted: 9/18/2008 6:37:52 PM
Monkey694u ----I believe you are right on the money! I am often confused when I read some of the threads here. It would seem that there is a HUGE line drawn between friends and lovers, FWB, FB and any other convenient title given to this fad of non committal sex. Why can't you be friends AND lovers? Does not one require the other? Personally I can't imagine being lovers with someone who I didnt consider a good friend at the very least... I can honestly say I have only had a few one night stands or situations where I knew all there was going to be was sex and more likely than not it wouldnt be happening again and even those guys were friends then and still are now. Only once where I just met the man (same night) . 3 months into it and we are very good friends now who also happen to be lovers. Pretty rare I know but it does happen sometimes..lol On a serious note it is a very tricky situation to get into at best. It starts out great...no strings, no committment but at some point one or the other is going to develop feelings that go beyond a FWB thing . It is heartbreaking when it is one sided... I speak this from first hand experience! but the good thing about being friends first...true friends is that you are able to work through alot that you wouldnt care to put the time in to do with a casual f**k or a ONS. I guess it just comes down to what your expectations are going...but there is no guarantee that it wont change at some point. ya never know!

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Only a convenience!? Posted: 9/8/2008 4:53:15 PM
The only "help" that should be involved is helping him pack his shit. In his defence, removing ALL other context, "bored and lonely" doesn't always mean something sexual. It could just mean that he wants to expand his circle and needs fresh perspectives and conversations. Lonely doesn't always have to refer to sexual lonliness. Add all the context back in, and this guy is clearly a fkin' mooch, and a cad, and needs to get the fk out. Makes me wonder why he was booted from his last place... Sweetpea, you need his garbage like you need another hole in the head. Help him pack. Kick his ass out. Be more sensible next time around and more discerning about who you co-habitate with. Don't be afraid to NOT put on the cape n' tights and fly to everyone's rescue. Couldnt have said it better myself!

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Do you Posted: 9/8/2008 3:28:40 PM
rune? what is better than mutual adoration? I'm really curious since it's new to me. ??? Well you see adoration is possible without compatibility... even mutual adoration. I adored my previous boyfriends and at least two adored me back -- right through breaking up we maintained the feeling of admiration and love/care -- but it's just not enough to make a relationship work. More than adoration you need to be in harmony with the other person; not just to have mutual adoration but also mutual understanding and compassion. The compassion part is really important because if you both put each other on pedestals then you'll both end up bitterly disappointing each other so the adoration needs grounding in reality with compassion for the fact that the object of your adoration is a delightfully flawed human being at the end of the day. But shared core values, understanding and harmony in your way of being/living seems really to be what makes for a minimal-stress relationship. VERY NICELY PUT!

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Apparently those Nigerian scammers are using Yahoo messenger now... Posted: 9/4/2008 7:03:08 PM
I met someone on another dating site bout a year ago who was such a charmer! He said he was Italian and was working out of country with his daughter in Dubai. Sent me websites of the building he was supposedly working on. a couple weeks into the email yahoo chat thingy he started getting personal and wanting to web chat. I am not a big web chat fan but agreed to do it if he did. Well....he didnt have a cam, couldnt get one, his company didnt pay him the money to supposedly pay his workers annnd his daughter fell in the shower and was in the hospital and he had no money to get her the help/medicine she needed. So I started gettin a little sceptical after the web cam thing and it only got worse from there. He asked me for money on several occasions...even cried on the phone a couple times. I declined to send anything and he got rather pissy with me. I confronted him one day and I havent heard from him since. Thats as close as I have come to being scammed! It is really scary to think that you can be scammed by anyone at any time and some of these guys are very good at it!

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faking it? Posted: 9/4/2008 2:42:29 PM
[For every woman that has faked it is a guy that told a girl he loved her just to get some. ] carolann0308 talk about truth! good answer!!

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What to do, what to think?! Posted: 8/29/2008 3:31:34 PM
ok so you say she is very religious (christian) I find it hard to believe that a good christian girl who is set on waiting to have sex until marriage has no problem going down a random guy in front of her friends. I would seriously talk to her about it before jumping to conclusions. The pics may not be what they appear to be. OR she has really got you fooled! Good luck either way..Peace!

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What did YOU do wrong in your last relationship? Posted: 8/27/2008 7:23:29 PM
According to my ex I... Didn't care about him because I didn't play jealous wife worth a dang...(didnt hound and nag and accuse on a daily basis..lol) Didnt accept that he wanted to live with another woman in another state AND remain with me as well...I swear I am no fun at all huh..LOL What do I think I did wrong? I made it too easy for him...I didnt stand up for myself and let him know the things he was doing were really hurting me. I basically waited on him hand and foot until I got tired of it being expected and stopped. I should have been less eager to please him I suppose. Bad marriage to say the least but I have no regrets..Great learning experience!

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The humblest compliment to you at the close of your relationship... Posted: 8/25/2008 2:38:05 PM
My ex told me this after our divorce was final. "I have made many mistakes in my life but the one mistake that I cannot forgive myself for is the mistake of losing you, you made me a better person." Didnt believe him at the time but am inclined to now as I get a call bout once a year asking if I have changed my mind. Pretty sad actually but thats how it goes...his choices..he has to live with them. Also had an ex boyfriend tell me when he moved away. " I may not love you for the rest of your life but I will love you for the rest of mine" There was a country song a few years later by that name I believe..lol

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Guys please help me get him to realize this. Posted: 8/25/2008 1:55:50 AM
I can't help but think this is a joke thread! If it isnt a joke then all I got to say is... WTF??? Can you say self absorbed? If the situation is a FWB type thing then how on earth could you even approach him with such a request? A Vasectomy can be a reversable procedure..CAN be but isnt always and there can be long term side effects for the man as well, some of them not too pleasant! How can that compare with the possible side effects you COULD have with birth control? It makes no sense to me and frankly given the rest of your post, I believe there are other issues at work here. He's a friend with benefits...are you aware of that? If the shoe were on the other foot and he was demanding that you get fixed what would you do? As you said you wouldnt do it because its permanent (not true by the way). The risks are about the same for both procedures. Why should he think any differently???? You already stated that YOU are not his dreamgirl/wife or even the one he wants to be with on a relationship basis so what reason could there possibly be that would be so compelling as to make this man say "Gee , thats a great idea! Sure, I'll get cut and risk possibly never having children just so you dont have to be uncomfortable! To be fair about it, if he is not willing to compromise in finding a middle ground that works for both of you then it is probably safe to say that your situation is not going to work for much longer anyway. Most of the reasons you listed are nothing more than control tactics IMO. No one will ever want him anyway?? and you know this how? That he will be happier when he gets it done? again, you know this how? On top of that you basically said he is a loser who will never do or have anything anyway so why should he care. That's a really callus thing to say! I wonder...have you said these things to him? Cant imagine that you have or there would have been no FWB to post your thread about would there! Mix in some garden variety bitterness over the fact that he works odd schedules and has little time for you or anyone else ( the bitterness is literally dripping off the words of most of your "list") Your final statement says a whole lot about the type of person you are and if he were smart he would be looking elsewhere for occasional companionship just as you obviously are! I swear I could go on and on...LOL I'm steppin down off my soapbox now..thank you and good night

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How easily do you fall for someone? Posted: 8/21/2008 7:58:19 PM
I have been proposed to 6 times in my life and I cared for all 6 and dated them for more than 6 months but only fell in love with 2 of them and only married one of them. I do not fall easily but once I do get there its a done deal..lol

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Tit for tat..... Posted: 8/21/2008 7:32:52 PM
I agree completely! What I do with my partner is purely because I enjoy it and I want to please him. It ALWAYS comes back to me...and then some!

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Ever had a Friend with Benefits and was it a good thing for you? Posted: 8/20/2008 7:17:39 PM
Thanks! I have no false illusions. I knew what the situation was when it started and we have talked about it...I realize that I will probably end up with my heart broken... it isnt the first time nor will it be the last. There is just something in this guy that is speaking volumes to me... I have always been somewhat of an empath and its very easy for me to pick on peoples emotions especially if there is a connection. The body language is there..the unspoken language is there..everything is screaming that he is right there with me other than what occasionally comes out of his mouth! Like I said...we have a great time together and I dont want to lose that by pushing too hard so I just suck it up and try to keep a positive outlook ...when I have had enough I'll make a move..be it good or bad. I wont tell him how I feel unless I know he is ready to hear it. Might be next month..might be never. Thats what love is about isnt it? you put yourself out there and hope that the person you are dealing with is honest and has it in them to love you back...i'm hoping! There is someone out there who wants and needs the love I have to give..if it isnt this man then it just means I pick myself up and try again... eventually I'll find him or I'll grow old alone with a house full of animals..lol

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Ever had a Friend with Benefits and was it a good thing for you? Posted: 8/20/2008 6:22:03 PM
I met someone several months ago and this was the understanding we had from the beginning. was sex and thats it..no strings. Things have become somewhat more complicated..sleepovers, we go out to eat pretty regularly (once a week for the most part). Ive met his mother who I adore! and he has met my mother who adores him equally. We laugh at silly stuff and enjoy each others company quite alot. I would like to think we are closer than F**k buddies, sure seems that way to me but I do sense him pulling away from me from time to time and putting on the "face". It doesnt last long and hes back to the sweet adorable man that I love dearly...yes I love him..have even caught myself a couple time almost muttering the words! I havent told him this for fear that he will turn tail and run for the hills..lolol. (I do, however, believe that he knows, it shows in my face im sure) I know its kinda soon and I am out of my head for feeling this way but I cant help it. I have tried to make myself not care but its no use. I dont know where this is going but I do know this...He was meant to be in my life..I know this as sure as I know I am breathing... so back to the original question...Yes I have and yes it has been a wonderful experience that I wouldnt trade for anything.

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For those that have been married before - would you do it again? Posted: 8/20/2008 2:59:11 PM
Been there, done that, got the tshirt which I promptly burned..lol Seriously...would I get married again?...I cant think of one good reason why it would be necessary to mess up a perfectly functional, happy , healthy realtionship by attaching a piece of paper to it. If the relationship lasted a very long time it might come to a point that financially it makes sense to become married to protect all interests but other than that why fix what isnt broke.. I can see myself being married...sure..but I can also see myself not married and just as happy ..maybe even happier. What my partner wants will play a big part in that decision as well...who knows... the keyword is happy....find someone who makes you happy and live life to the fullest...dont sweat the small stuff!

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Is honesty the best policy? Posted: 8/19/2008 7:24:24 PM
[To lie to your partner so as to not hurt their feelings... I'd say that is a lie, and I wouldn't do it. If they ask me a question, I'll answer it. However (and this one gets me about some people), I'm also open. I'm not one of those who says, "Well, you never actually /asked/ me if I cheated..." That's being open and honest. Subtle difference, but a difference none-the-less. Also, to not hurt their feelings? No, if you don't want to hurt their feelings, then tell them as nicely as you can and be patient with them... if you lie to save their feelings, then that's just lying. And 9 times out of 10, the truth comes out anyway even if it takes years. So then it's just compounded by 1) they were hurt, 2) they were lied to. To me, the truth hurts sometimes. In fact, it hurts really, really, really freaking bad sometimes. However in my relationships, I'd rather be told the truth and be allowed to deal with it than to have someone hide something from me until I get hurt by finding out later on, and then having to deal with that and the broken trust. As for me dealing with it? Once you've told the truth, how I deal with it is my problem, for better or worse. ] I couldnt have said it better myself! In relationships the truth is the ONLY way...

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Is risking your life or serious bodily injury for your SO worth it? Posted: 8/14/2008 5:44:49 PM
When you are truly in love with someone this isnt even a question. You will walk through hell to keep them safe and happy. Real love is caring for another as much as you care for yourself..in some circumstances maybe even more than you care about what happens to you. Anything else is not true love. That doesnt mean that those same circumstances cant eventually kill true love because sadly thats what happens a big majority of the time.

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When you REALLY love a woman...... Posted: 8/12/2008 4:25:26 PM
Sex is without a doubt one of the most important indicators of how you care for someone...male or female. unless one or the other is gettin paid to do it..LOL As a woman what makes me feel loved are the small things. A gentle touch or look, a simple gesture that lets me know that he took the time to consider my feelings along with his. A spur of the moment date night or dinner just because. There is no more wonderful feeling than knowing there is someone who loves you...yes sex can do that but when it doesnt necessarily involve sex its really quite powerful...

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Keeping ya socks on during sex... Posted: 8/11/2008 7:21:04 PM
"He can wear a fruit bowl hat and hip waders as long as he is passionate, enthusiastic and knows all the right moves. " My sentiments exactly! Socks are the last thing I'm thinkin about...who cares..lol

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Is it ok to use baby oil as a lube??? Posted: 8/7/2008 7:23:25 PM
I would stay away from petroleum and oil based products as they coat the skin and often times will cause a yeast infection in females...and nobody wants that right! Fisrt choice is natural lube ie; spit... if that isnt an option then definitely a product made specifically for sexual activity. might cost a lcouple dollars but its hypoallergenic, sterile out of the bottle and waterbased. and safer than spit to be sure but ...if you are having sex chances are you have shared spit anyway ..lol Happy slippin & slidin!

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Me time... Our time... Tightening of the leash Posted: 7/28/2008 5:15:39 PM
(So how often are you other guys and gals allowed out VS how often do you let your parteners out? ) Are we pets or people? I cant imagine being in a relationship that I had to be "allowed" to do anything! I also cant imagine being with someone who "allow" me to put restrictions on them like that. If you trust who you are with then it really isnt something that would be an issue. Just because you committ yourself to someone doesnt mean you have to give up your entire life...at least in my world. I would focus my attention on finding out why your girl doesnt trust you enough to "let" you go out alone... Good luck to you!

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foreplay Posted: 7/18/2008 3:19:11 PM
[So, please tell me the tricks for picking these guys out of a crowd....I would love to be left weak at the knees and forget my own name. ] They are very few and far between! Almost as elusive as unicorns even..lol But the good news is...they do exist. I thank my lucky stars every night!

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Can men have full body orgasms? Posted: 6/5/2008 6:40:32 PM
Are you sure it's not a epileptic seizure? Haha Plumb! I have a partner that has these and the first time I kinda thought thats what was happening...lol I am so jealous of him for it now...must be nice...sighh

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Strap-on dildo Posted: 6/4/2008 7:36:19 PM
Perfect Cosmo!! The whole idea of femme dom is extremely arousing and sooo empowering...not on a daily basis but it is nice to switch it up sometimes. Certainly not for everyone but thats their perogative.. Just takes a man secure enough in his manhood and open enough to new experiences to go there...now where can I find one of those.....LOL

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CONDOM? or NO CONDOM? Posted: 6/3/2008 4:00:18 AM
69SHWING You crack me up! Too funny!

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Talking about sex before even meeting Posted: 6/2/2008 11:04:11 PM
I have found that if I am chatting with someone new and it gets too racy right off the bat or they are downright nasty I have no problem simply closing the window...100% effective. However, I have met some really great guys here that I thoroughly enjoy chatting with and yes at times it can get a tad over the top but its all in fun...its just CHAT Its about being secure in yourself and overcoming the fear ingrained in most females that if they talk candidly about sex they must be a hoe. Just because you talk about it doesnt make it so. it's a free dating site that attracts all types of jacka$$es along with a few pretty cool friends ...take it for what it is or join one of the paying sites..they are just as bad..LOL Lighten up, life is too short ...

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Teased for liking bbw's Posted: 6/2/2008 10:14:47 AM
I think we should all give "That sam i am" a break..seriously...just looked at his profile for the first time and I havent stopped laughing yet ...that big , self rightous attitude is obviously compensating something else.. Chances are his mind isnt the only thing he has thats small and narrow!! OOOPS did I say that??? fat chicks rule!

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Oral sex offered on the first date... Posted: 6/1/2008 11:24:55 AM
If there was a good chemistry involved I would go with A . Never B C if he falls into any other category..lol

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For those of you who enjoy rough sex: Posted: 6/1/2008 7:25:30 AM
What constitutes "rough sex"? Just curious because I believe what I would consider normal would be a little rough for some..lol As long as you are not inflicting real pain or doing permanent damage its all good right? Of course there are times when vanilla has its place....again, its all good!

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Women & Blowjobs Posted: 6/1/2008 6:51:59 AM
#1 Thats probably true...being a woman I cant really judge the quality of other women, can only speak for myself in saying that I have only experienced the issue of my men not knowing what great oral is....until they met me! #2 Sad to say this is probably true too... but thankfully its an easliy fixed problem. You have to be open and willing to learn and teach..its all about communication and a genuine willingness to please without limits. If more people really expressed themselves verbally with their sexual partners there would be alot more smiling faces and alot less frustration!

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Pierced Tongues Posted: 6/1/2008 6:18:41 AM
I gotta say...yesssss its amazing however......If he knows what he's doing it doesnt really matter does it?

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Just eat me already! Posted: 6/1/2008 6:10:26 AM
Definitely a deal breaker....not necessarily tit for tat but should always be given and received by both willingly Even if he did eventually go there it wouldnt be because he wants to but because he feels obligated to and thats worse then not having it at all.

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One for the girls.... Oral sex after intercourse Posted: 6/1/2008 6:00:00 AM
Its a huge turn on either way! There is absolutely NOTHING hotter than a man who is secure enough in himself to enjoy tasting himself on my lips...either set! Its about two trusting, consenting adults sharing each other in every way...Its amazing!

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Teased for liking bbw's Posted: 5/31/2008 7:29:28 PM
I recently joined POF and must say I have enjoyed reading the forums and learning about the diversity of people around me. I am a big woman who used to be a whole lot bigger than I am now. I'm 5'9" and weigh 260lbs which is down from my highest weight of 360lbs. Even at my highest weight I was considered to be and told often by men that I was beautiful and desirable (and yes even in the daylight and around other people). Health issues were diagnosed and treated and the result is I am down 100 pounds and still loosing. Reality is I will never be thin, and thats ok! I am finally at a point where I feel comfortable enough to get out there in this shallow, toothpick loving dating world again and have been very pleased with the response I have gotten. I dont consider myself obese now because as I said I am tall and big framed but after reading some of these posts I am so disappointed that I am probably one of a few who would think so too...to most I'm still a fat chick..lol Its a sad truth that there are many people out there who do let themselves go physically and do not want to change. I believe its also true to a point that economic standing plays a part in it but for the most part its personal choice. There are some however that fall into my category. Heath problems created my misery but I chose to overcome and now I am very active, exercise daily, take care of myself, am financially stable and try every day to do the best I can for myself. Add that to the fact that I have a great personality, am well liked by everyone I know, have fantastic friends who value me and am even more beautiful and insanely sexy than I ever was!.... Sadly, if I go by what I am reading here the only thing I am gonna be catching is the occasional late night booty call from the guy who really digs me but is too insecure to let his buddies see him with anything other than Barbie. Funny thing is ....that same guy will come back again and again because he cant get enough! Now thats sad! Bottom line....Dont be so quick to judge one by their appearance..could be the best piece you ever had!! Show this big girl some love will ya

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