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separated from bipolar husband Posted: 9/30/2008 3:48:01 AM
Kudos to Wabit 3! For his positive and compassionate statement! I am a facilitator for a mental group workshop, we teach families (spouses, siblings, parents,etc) on how to deal and what to expect from loved ones with these diseases. And it's not a character flaw,like is portrayed here by some, but a mental illness, that is controlled by medication. And everyone is different. To say that a person with Bipolar is normally a cheat, an abuser is is not true. A very good friend of mine is bipolar, and maintains a job, a family and has a beautiful relationship with both. And was with her when she went through her psychosis, and it was hell for her! For Pete's sake, for those who have had a bad experience, I don't mean to downsize it, but stop painting everyone with the same brush. It's the equivelent of saying that because someone has abused you or been unfaithful, that all persons of that gender are like that. Unfortunately, the public is very ignorant of mental illness, it is such a stigma, that compassion is lacking and is is sorely needed ,as well as knowledge. I have 2 members of my family with mental illness, and I wouldn't trade them for all the tea in China! Although I know, everyone is different and so is their situation, and they have to do what is best for them at that particular Moment In Life, I would hope to read more of the positive relationships out there, as in Wabit 3. And there is just as many positives as there are negatives! Just a thought for the day, and Bless you all!

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Cabbage Rolls Posted: 9/26/2008 3:53:26 AM
Hi! I'm half Ukranian and Irish, and have made cabbage rolls this way for years. I also buy heads of cabbage and freeze them, until solid, then take them out the night before I want to cook them. The leaves peel off like onion skins, it's easy and less time consuming. Also, when they are in season locally, can just buy and freeze until needed. Now I use ( and no accurate measures here, just to taste) 2lbs of lean beef, (ground) 2 lbs of pork (ground) 1lb Hot Italien sausage (taken out of skins and broken up) 4 cups of uncooked rice 6 cloves of minced garlic 6 onions, cooked slowly until carmelized (large onions) 1 small can tomato paste teaspoons to taste (spices) Could be as much or little as you want. but start in small amounts to taste, as you can't take it out, if not to your liking Montreal Steak spice Seasoning salt Cajun spice Ground cloves or Allspice Shake of Worshester Sauce(spelt wrong) A small packet of powdered beef boulion 1 or 2 bunches of fresh dill chopped up ( secret ingredient that kicks ass if you love dill!) 1/2 cup of fine bread crumbs. Now, while the meat is cooking, I also cook the rice separate, as well as the onions. Then, I mix all together with the spices. While this is all cooking, I will cut the bottom half of the cabbage and start peeling off the layers. The leftover cabbage that I don't use like the small core, I will chop up and put on the bottom of the pan, and the top of the rolls, before I add the Tomatoe sauce . It may seem like a lot of work, but isn't if you cook the filling the night before, while the cabbage is thawing out. As far as the liquid on top, I'll mix together, 2 large cans of diced tomatoes, 1 large can of pureed or ground tomatoes, along with a small can of tomatoe juice or add water to 1 cup of Ketchup to make 2 cups. I also throw in dill stalks on top, and then cover and cook. Now this makes a lot of cabbage rolls if you use small cabbage, but if you use large ones you'll get less. You'll need at least 2 or 3 heads for this amount. But every Xmas I have friends who ask me to make them for them, for my friends with Celiac disease, I just omit the bread crumbs. And they are a hit!

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Dating a widower who's spouse only recently died Posted: 9/25/2008 6:21:01 AM
I really feel for your situation, but every loss is different. Yes, if you listen to other's you will be in constant mental turmoil. How do you know, his wife didn't tell him she didn't want him to be alone, that she loved him enough to want what makes him happy, and to carry on after she's gone. You are crazy about him and getting to know this jewel. She knew him a lot longer, and they must have had many talks on the subject. There is no time limit on how long before you start dating after a loss, society puts a time limit, but not Love. Only he knows what is right for him, and he sounds like he has discussed this with you at great length, to ease your fears. And maybe his wife also discussed this with their children, as well. When you put doubts and conditions in a relationship ( as when you go will he date so soon) you are putting shackles and insecurity on it and it will fail. Remember, he's the one who has experienced this Love and Loss, not you. Learn and listen from this man, and go with your heart. Love is not selfish, but selfless. It's that simple. Don't make a mountain out of a molehill! Ps. If all he wanted was just sex, he wouldn't have to date the same woman for 5-6 weeks. There are many vultures out there, just waiting for a widower,who would gladly accomadate him for their own selfish reasons. Go with your gut, it will never fail you. I have spent 21 years alone, being a widow, my husband was killed suddenly in an accident. If it was reverse, and I had cancer, do you not think I would have insisted he find someone, or for sure, I would have sent someone in his path. They had time to do this,before she was in so much pain, and communication was difficult. But only you can decide. Good luck, and I wish you all the best in whatever decision you make.

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Child w/Diabetes need new ideas on Lunches/Snacks Posted: 8/27/2008 8:59:27 PM
I am also a diabetic, and it sounds like your child is on insulin at that age. Kerry Keal is giving you some excelant advice, one other thought though, is your child active in sports? If so, would need more carbs. And the food intake depends totally on the amount of insulin taken. I would suggest as did others, you seek the help of a nutritionalist. Your child I would assume has a diabetic specialist who can refer you to one. Again, as stated earlier, this post does not belong on a dating site. You should be talking to qualified professionals , this is your child you are discussing here. So, I am also going to assume you know all these answers already, any other mother certainly would. They would have sought out the answers already, as their childs life depends on it, literally!

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What is the difference between Having Sex and Making Love Posted: 8/10/2008 5:12:34 PM
To Me: Having "sex" is physical pleasure. " Making Love" physical combined with deep emotion! Nothing compares!

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Dating 3 girls....yikes Posted: 8/8/2008 3:28:46 AM
Hi There! Your only 21. At least you have the honesty to tell them you are dating all three. But, I will tell you the same thing I told my son at your age. Life is a smorgasboard, try all the appetizers before you settle on the main course! You are too young to be committed to one person. And for those who are trashing you, tell them to give it a rest. Does anyone watch the Bachelor or those shows where there are 20 vying for one man's attention? What you do is your business, and dating should be all about fun at your age. So, no, I don't think your a pimp or anything negative, but maybe you might stop dating your ex, so you can go out and really enjoy yourself. You have many years ahead of you to experience the joys and sorrow of one relationship. And if the girls you are dating don't mind, neither should you! Take care, Lm Seth.

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Your age when your partner passes away Posted: 7/28/2008 12:01:17 AM
To Julian1959, Thank you for your sentiments. Yes we discussed it as he was only 34, and maybe I was prepared or expected it to happen, but our children didn't. To them Daddy was going to work, and would be back at home after shift, and they could rent movies, have fun, etc. And tell him they loved him. So, it is difficult for the parent left behind as to the loss of their everything, but the most difficult job is trying to deal with the grief of your children. They lost a father, a different relationship than mine, a mentor, a shoulder, their dad to confide in on a first date, or a first scuffle, whatever. That parent bond cuts their heart to the soul when it's lost due to death. So, I was really unprepared to deal with that. And even though my children are now in their thirties, there still comes times when they miss him, like it happened yesterday, and want his advice. But, I guess that is another thread. That's just my feelings as it related to me, and I thank all those who expressed sentiments, and also heartfelt empathy for the posters who also lost their loved ones. Lm Seth

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Your age when your partner passes away Posted: 7/27/2008 7:57:23 PM
I was 32 when my husband was killed in a mining accident. It devastated me and our children. The pain is unbearable and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. And it was a constant pain, never ending. My choice was to focus my life on my children. They were first priority. Time does heal, but everyone is different. Because he was a miner, we talked about death, and the real possibiity of it for him. He always assured me that I was his Rock of Gibralter, and he knew I would be fine and raise the kids well. I took me 14 years later to start dating again, the pain has dissapated with time, now, I can speak of him with humour and honesty about his faults and attributes. In retrospect, had I dated earlier when the kids were younger, I really don't feel my relationship with my children would be as strong as it is today. Our marriage had it's ups and downs like any other, but they saw constant love, touchy feely, saying " I love you " to each other many times a day, kissing or pinching each other, very demonstrative ways of affection. And the kids were old enough to see us go through rough times and come out on top, as a team. If I had dated then, they would have seen the new person as a replacement, and may have resented me. So,many other's may not have done what I did, but my children are now adults, and my marriage is one they want to emulate. That in itself is an honor to us. Age has no bearing on a loss as someone has previously stated. There is no right answer on how to deal with it, or age. Its hurts like you have no idea, unless yo've experienced it. Words can't describe it. Time does heal, and you have to give it time. When you expect to live a long time with a mate, you feel like a ship without a rudder when that person is gone. Because no one knew you like they did. But although you know in your heart they want you to live, and be happy, it takes time for that to sink in and be genuine about happiness. The bond of Love is sronger than steel, but can and will be felt again. When you and you alone are ready, and it will not deter from the love you had for your former mate. This I have learnt, although at the time I thought it was utterly impossible. Again, age is not a factor when it comes to Love. Love comes from the heart, and soul, not a pension number.

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Morgentaler's appointment to the Order of Canada, Posted: 7/3/2008 11:17:24 PM
Can masses of women and children defend themselves against a barrage of bullets? We're getting off topic here. Lm seth

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Morgentaler's appointment to the Order of Canada, Posted: 7/3/2008 11:07:56 PM
In 1954 they still had abortions, only women died, because of the shame in that erea. That is your story, and your opinion, and I don't judge you nor your circumstancs, so please be an adult and don't judge something you will never in your lifetime have the misfortune to go through, If your daughter had been raped, and was impregnated , by lets say Charlie Manson. and she didn't want the child for that reason and she was 12. And severly emotionally and physically scarred. Would you demand that she spend her life and risk her own health to have that fetus? It's people with that selfrightous, attitude, that cause security to be so strict in these clinics. You miss the point. adoption wasn't the topic now was it? - DO NOT address other posters directly in the forums. Keep your posts addressed to the topic or they will be removed. Edited. -TheMadFiddler-

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Morgentaler's appointment to the Order of Canada, Posted: 7/3/2008 6:01:03 PM
To loonytunz: I am a sensible Canadian! Lm seth

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Morgentaler's appointment to the Order of Canada, Posted: 7/3/2008 5:58:50 PM
Regarding this issue. Dr. Morgentaler performed a great service. No one has the right to judge unless they've walked in those shoes. For the many women he has helped, gave counseling, and did not demean them for a decision, which I'm sure was not an easy one for them to make. I am sure he was probably the only one who didn't make them feel like criminals, and understood, how difficult it was for them to make that choice. And that's the bottom line here. CHOICE! I work in a hospital where abortions are performed, and it sickens me to see the people outside waving their banners. The security is very strict to protect the people involved from anti abortion activists. For their own safety, and his clinic is the same, I'm sure as are others that do this procedure. How many would put their life in jeopardy to support their convictions? And have the courage to continue, under such public pressure and scrutiny. He does! And why? Because he wants to save women from the butchers that are out there! He isn't thinking of himself, he's thinking of other's , and that is an unselfish act. For the women that went to his clinic, I'm sure they are grateful to have met such an understanding and compassionate MALE! Ask the people involved how they feel about him, and if he deserves that appointment! The answer would be a resounding yes! There are many reasons for abortion, not just an accident, but poverty, ill health, rape, incest, etc, It is not performed as a birth control method, as some have suggested. There are policies in place there, as in any other medical surgery. As far as him making a lot of money, all doctors make money, what has that got to do with it? I'm proud that someone went beyond societies mentality, and recognized him for the true comapssionate human being that he is. We condem him for his actions and call it murder, yet give medals and honor and pride to those who go into service and kill for their country, under the guise of war. And before I get bombarded for that comment, I am in no way judging our soldiers, for their bravery, but truthfully I don't see the difference. Lm seth.

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Count the ways, you have been and/or are loved Posted: 6/29/2008 1:22:10 AM
Love: I do believe all of the above can be combined into Love. The love for a friend, parent,child, sibling, are all Love, but with different feelings according to the relationship. The Love we are looking for on this site or hopefully in our lifetime, consists of all the above. Meshed gently , and surfaces at different times in our relationship. Most of all the intimacy changes to a far deeper level, the longer we spend with that soul. I'm talking about into our senior years. And I'm not talking about sex, although most feel that is more important, but look around you at the seniors who have been married for many, many years. The intimacy shared can only come from a deeper place, shared by both, through thick and thin, and transends all we thought love was in our youth. We can count many loves we have been privy to , but the One Love that encompasses friendship, spirituality, desire, companionship, trust, loyality, differences, compassion, empathy,compromise, isn't that what we seek in a partner? I know I do, having lost it once, does not mean it's forever out of reach again. We have to stop thinking about "i" and more "we", and realize it just doesn't happen in a flash. It takes time and patience and both individuals willing to take that time to work at it, and not give up and throw in the towel, because something isn't to their liking. Love is a sacred union, and should be treated as such. We put conditions on our so called love, and to me that immediatly dooms it to failure. We are human and make mistakes, and the strong loves I have ssen are the ones that have conquered their errors together, and the Love is stronger for it. Not many are willing to spend the energy and time to achieve what it is they are seeking. And they will forever search and fail, unless they change their expectations of what Love actually is. And when we change our attitude about Love, then we change how others react to us, that includes friends, children, parents, strangers, everyone we come into contact with. And recognize it as such. That is how I define Love, and that is the Love I am waiting for, because it is out there, for everyone. Lm Seth

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Who Pays???? Posted: 6/27/2008 8:51:18 AM
Just pay it! Obviouly there were communication problems right from the start. If you value this person, and want to continue the relationship, just pay it maybe in small incruments, and get things out front if there is ever a next time. No biggie here. Otherwise, you will both continue having issues over this, and will destroy the relationship you do have. It's up to you, to decide if that's worth it over money! YOu've gone there, had a good time, can't change that! So good luck to you in whatever decision you make. But, I would pay it and chalk it up to experience. Lm Seth.

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Death.....by broken heart...? Posted: 6/27/2008 8:37:50 AM
I know exactly what your talking about. we all hide it extremely well. B ecause of the stigma. When My husband died at the age of 34 due to a mining accident, I was devastated.For a year I kept up a strong facade. The kids were preteens, and I was having normal teenage problems. However in the back of my mind, I guess the depression was just building up, and I chose to ignore it. Sought out a therapist, but subconciously stopped taking my insulin. At home while on the phone to my sister, my eyes rolled back into my head, and my daughter gave me ashot of quick acting insulin. She was 14 at the time. She ran across the street to get our 17 year old neighbour. He put me into my car, and they drove 45 minutes to the nearest hospital. when they got to Emergency, they rushed me up to ICU. My sugars were 57 (Canadian) numberes, The normal is 4-6.5. I went into cardiac arrest 3 times in 2 hours, they told her I would not make ,it and to expect to be an orphan. I was in a coma for 3 weeks, and have a 2 month memory loss., That I can't retreive. According to my daughter, it took me a long time to learn how to speak. and do the simplist things, I used to do before. When I came out of the coma, my best friend was at my bedside, and told me I told her. "iwas with my husband, my dad, my grandfather, people that I knew, people that I didn;t know. I was going to be moving from our small town to a city, my son would get into a wee bit of trouble, not to worry everythingwould turn out well, and that I was to be a great lawyer. Within 3 years all that happened, except for the lawyer part, I chose the health system instead. I have no memory of those statements, but I do know, that I will never let anything get me that low again. Yes, I missed him to death, and would rather have been with him there, than wiothout him here. So, now I understand completely people who die of broken hearts, and also depression, especially those who commit suicide. I have a great compassion for those who walk that path. I am lucky to be here, but it was also my choice to return, everything in life is Choice. That was 20 years ago, I raised my children to be good responsible adults, with compassion for others, as well. I have helped many who were in my state of mind at that time, and I believe that's what I was meant to do. Now, I'm just waiting for my next partner whom I'm to share my life with. But, for those who put down depression, and suicide, you have no idea the depths you reach to go that final route. When nothing else seems to be working in your life. You have to be really down to think that escape is the answer. yes, you can die of a broken heart, it's true. so before you judge, just try to think of the place they are in, before you critisize. We are all different, and we all have different thresholds. we're not all built the same mentally, bear that in mind before you judge. I am very glad I'm on this earth plane now, and will stay here intil it's time for the Universe to decide otherwise. And God bless you all, the healthy and not so healthy! Brenda

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Should disabilities be listed on profiles? Posted: 6/26/2008 8:10:05 PM
To sexydancingprincess. You are young, and a type 2 diabetic. For those of us who have been Type 1 for 33 years, it's not all that easy. Yes, getting pregnant is a risk, neuropothy is another, tell that to the diabetic, with feet or legs amputated, and their not disabled? Come on here, get real. Get off that high horse of yours. The secondary conditions of diabetes are critical. And its not that easy controlling blood sugars. Emotions, infections, etc, can cause sugars and ketones to rise. For those of us who have to take insulin, it's no easy task. I have a disabled sticker, because if my sugars are running low, I can't afford to waste time looking for a parking spot ,so I can get something to eat. And before you say, Ihave plenty of warning, not true. Over years of this disease, I have desentsitized, so have to check my sugars as much as 8 times a day. Because I get no warning signals anymore. wait untill you get older my friend, and you may have to go on insulin, and its no picnic, making sure you always have something in your pocket , to do even the simplist things like a hike, shopping, even sex. Tell me about your diabetes in 20 years, and lets see if you sing the same tune! Lm Seth.

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Should disabilities be listed on profiles? Posted: 6/26/2008 7:46:12 PM
No! I'm a diabetic, I don't consider it a disability, and if someone has a problem with that too bad. You never know what the future will bring, and it's mighty shallow of anyone to deny other's and themselves , to meet some really great people. I'm sure if they had a child that was disabled, they would resent people with such attiudes. If they can't handle that, that's their problem, and it is up to the individual to state it. and only if they want to, not because they have to. We do have brains you know! Terry Fox was a great example to humanity, as other's . They have families and contribute to society , another examp;e Stephen Hawking, he has a family, and I know his IQ, is higher than the ones who are critical of disabilities! Maybe they should, just to eliminate the jerks out there! Just my 2 cents here. Lm Seth.

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Losing a loved one to death Posted: 6/26/2008 4:15:33 AM
I am so sorry ! I lost my husband 21 years ago in a mining accident. he was 34, I was 32. The kids wsere 11 and 13. It was horrible. Not being able to eat, to sleep to do anything with joy, I felt so empty. But carried on for the children. One thing I did do besides cry in private, was start a journal. In it I wrote letters to him when I was feeling my worst, and also dreams Ihad of him. It took a long long time before I could talk about him, without breaking down. I never expected to be a widow this long. Let the tears come. There is no time limit for grief, and don't let anyone tell you different. Join a support group, because they also wear your shoes. Time does make it easier, that is the honest truth, but that depends on you and you alone. The holidays will be terrible, for you and your children, and it will be hard to fill that void. And he does want you to go on living, and so you will. Just don;t push it on yourself. Take advantage of your friends and family. some days will feel like it's been centuries, other's like it's only been minutes. Take one day at a time, and you will get there. We all do. It took me 14 years to start dating , but my one pet peeve was and I'm sure your going to hear this to. " don't worry, you have the rest of your life ahead of you". Please don't think ill of these people. They don't know what to say at this moment in time. Until they wear your shoes they will never understand that pain. Our prayers are with you, and reach out to those around that can help. You are not a burden to them, don't think that. Keep busy as well, the nights are the worst, light a candle to him and talk to him in the privacy on your own home. then you will probably be able to sleep. Trust me, down the road you will shed tears of laughter whenever you recall something that he did , funny or stupid. That day will come, be patient, and be yourself. One day at a time. Brenda

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dumped by a text message.... Posted: 6/26/2008 12:42:41 AM
Hello and I am so sorry for you. I agree with msg #4, I too am a widow, and it takes a long time to trust and love someone again. You must have been on cloud nine, just for the meer sake of FEELING again. I also have been through that, and they are cowards. Just take comfort in the fact he was a Learning Curve, and you will never forget it. Your right, losing and burying a husband is the worse pain, and we wouldn't wish it on our worst enemy. This too is pain, but it's also included that now you miss your husband even more, because he would never have treated you this way. I know that's where my thoughts went at the time, which made the loss even worse. Time will heal, sweetie, it always does. Let yourself cry and mourn this relationship, you have a right to be angry and also sad. But, there is always a positive to every negative, In this case better sooner than later. It would have been far worse had he moved in with his boys. He is a coward, and doesn't deserve you. The one you are meant to be with will come soon. This one was meant to show you that you have the capacity to love someone as much as you loved your husband. Now you know it's possible and that you can and will love again. Take comfort in that, and when you are ready, you will find the right one will be along before you know it. Just don't tarnish all men with the one brush. You have too much to offer a good man, to deny yourself that right. Okay kiddo? Hang in there, if you can overcome the loss of your mate, this is a cakewalk compared to that! Keep remembering that, when it really gets to you. And you'll come out wiser and the better for it. All of our thoughts and heartfelt wishes are with you, here and also in spirit! Take care, Lm seth

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not interested anymore...... Posted: 6/22/2008 8:49:15 PM
Her profile reads " Looking for a woman for an Intimate Encounter" Guess she was out of luck! And at the age of 18, very immature. Hasta la Vista! Maybe she should check the local newspaper, instead of this site.

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Favorites List????? Posted: 6/21/2008 6:07:00 PM
I'm sorry, you guys are making a mountain out of a mole hill. What is the problem here? Who cares if someone has 200 or 2 on a favourite list? I take it as a compliment that someone has read my profile and likes it. Why should there be a time limit as to when they contact you? Such nick picking is not warranted. Some of you sound jealous, for pete's sake! These people could be shy, you don't know their situation. Actually if you think about it there must be hundreds of thousands on this site, so 700 seems relatively small! Take a deep breath, chill out and spend all that negative energy on something really worthwhile, and change it to a positive! You talk about not being fair to publicly display that information, when your profile is there for all to see! isn't that the point of a profile? You can't have your cake and eat it too! Geez, this thread is rediculous ! Lm Seth.

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Making initial contact - short and brief or descriptive? Posted: 6/17/2008 10:10:35 PM
I do answer all my emails, even the ones you people seem to delete. Yes, have gotten the short liners, but give a short quip in reply. I have difficulty, in answereing ones I have no desire to meet, and am worried about hurting feelings here. Yet I do reply, and so far, haven't had any negativity. Yes, some have emailed me their life story, and how they are so right for me, the first thing that comes to mind (to me) is lonliness and desperation. And I feel sorry for them, that's just my personality. Even though we're in cyberspace, feelings count to me,and I try to be as tactful and kind as I can. So, no, I have never read and deleted without some kind of response. I guess I'm in the minority here, but if I were in a store, and someone said hi, it would be rude not to answer, so I apply that courtesy here. Short and not too brief, works for me. Usually the dog is the ice breaker for many, which even though I love that beast, it opens up conversation, where otherwise it may not happen. Lm Seth

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when is a man in love? Posted: 6/16/2008 9:13:49 AM
Re: Purple Tang. You got it all in a nutshell. Those were all the things my late husband did, and I met him when I was 15. However, I was in a 6 year relationship, where he loved me as well, just wasn't demonstrative as much as my husband, but I knew he loved me. Would call me at any time just to talk, was attentive when we were together, was proud to have me by his side, and I felt the same. He openly communicated his feelings, and listened to mine. Unfortunately, there were other issues that he couldn't resolve, however, I knew in spite of all that, he loved me. When I meet my next mate, and he does all those and more, I will know he loves me. Won't have to ponder and wonder. Ps. My husband and I were together for 18 years, and the passion grew, did not dissapate. One thing I will say to all the women out there, kiss him goodbye, like it's the l;ast time, greet him like you haven't seen him in weeks, and you will reap what you sow. Remember back when you first met, and all the tingles you felt, bring those tingles to the surface, Don't take him for granted, but this could probably be another thresd! LOL! His actions will speak louder than words! Lm Seth

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WHY DID HE STOP CALLING? Posted: 6/14/2008 2:43:51 PM
Been there , done that. Happen to a lot of us. For me it was a Reality Check, big time. After 6 mos, and he wanted honesty and integrity, and someone comfortable in their own skin. Well, he got that and more. Then dropped off the face of the earth, for a guy who said worked 16 hours a day, and hated computer talk or MSN, he's on a lot now! It smarted at first and he wouldn't reply, the only reply I got from him is when I emailed him and told him I'd meet him on POF> He thought that was a horrible message to receive. Excuse me, if I don't flick your bic, say so, I'm a big girl, not a tot. The way I look at it now, is someone out there will love me for all of me, not just part of me. Plus, he has cancer, and he thanked me so much for all my support, now I wonder if that was even true. Couldn't find him on Google either. He wasn't whom I thought he was, and neither was your fellow. Move on, they are cowards to me, if they don't have at least the integrity to fess up. But, remember, what goes round comes round. Next time be sure not to let your guard down, for some time untill you are sure, however long that takes. And I should have listened to my own gut, If it seems to good to be true, then it usually is! I wish you all the luck in your next experience! Learn from this one. Lm Seth.

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self esteem? Posted: 6/11/2008 12:07:00 PM
Re: thorvin I hope that comment was a joke, if not why are you on here?

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PickUp Trucks run Empty Posted: 6/11/2008 12:01:28 PM
I drive a Honda CRV, sorry guys, but I also have a German Shepherd and a Rottweiler, and we go up north in the winter, and the lakes in the summer. My little Honda Civic could not fit both dogs in at the same time. Much tooooo small. It's a 4 cylinder, great on gas and 4 wheel drive. I feel safe in it, and so does my family. Got out of ruts last year when we had a huge snowfall, that pickups had a hard time with. Now I live in a city, and though I don't agree with your comments on pickups, they are a man's truck, who uses it for hauling. Whether it's for home repairs or work, they are great. My son has a Mazda pickup #25, small, but I am grateful we have that as well. It's great for moving furniture, garbage, etc. It's a stick shift, so it's good on gas as well. But, I do have a problem with the Hummers in the city. All shiny clean, and just a status symbol. I can't afford $180.00 to fill my vehicle. $50.00 is enough for me. But if the market demands them, they will make them.

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Msg: 47 (view)

Your Pet or YourRelationship? Posted: 6/10/2008 8:26:32 PM
Pets aren't an option, they stay. They're not disposable like Kleenex for the non amimal lovers out there. To say they don't love is absolutely rediculous! That's why there are Therapy pets everywhere, to give the individulal comfort, besides reducing high blood pressure, and getting stroke victims to move and speak, when otherwise, wouldn't have the desire or motivation to do so. AS far as a realtionship goes, was in one for 6 years on and off. After the first year, we decided to build a home together. That's when I was told the cats had to go and the dogs were to stay in a kennel. He had spent many weekends at my home and displayed no allergy symptoms whatsoever. I'm allergic and also have asthma, and have meds at all times. He didn't want to take the meds, claimes he didn't like taking any medication. We broke up, and tried may times afterwords, didn't work out. My compromise was that when the cats dies of natural causes, I would not replace them. Wasn't good enough for him. Found out later from his adult kids, he didn't like cats period. If he was that controlling at he beginning, what would it have been like later after we moved in together. For me to come home and find my parrot gone, because he couldn't take the talking? I couldn't take that chance. And yes, they have been with me through thick and thin, and that's the way it's going to stay. Animals feel pain, lonliness, love, are forgiving, and ground me. To think that there is no one else in the world to love you and your pets, is unrealistic. And every pet has their own unique personality, they're not a dime a dozen. So, when I date now, I make sure their an animal lover, if not, it's a no go. End of story.

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Senate proves Bush lied us into war. Posted: 6/5/2008 1:56:48 PM
From Canada: Don't have to be bit by a rattlesnake to know it's poisonous. Lm Seth

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Msg: 1234 (view)

Why men don't date strong women... Posted: 6/4/2008 4:12:58 PM
Now this is just my 2 cents worth, but, to me a strong woman, meant a woman, Emotionally strong, and Secure Emotionally. Not physically strong. A woman, who knows it takes two to tango, is not jealous but secure in her partner, and when the chips are down, doesn't run but stays and works with her partner for a solution, and someone with wisdom and patience to understand her partner's faults. And whom also accepts her own, and can embrace them, not indulging in self pity. To me that is a Strong Woman. And if she decides that she has done all she can possibly do in a bad relationship, makes the decision to leave , she leaves based on a long and hard decision, not an emotional impulse. Lm Seth

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Waste of time.. Posted: 6/2/2008 8:51:24 AM
Lavalife is no better, and I found the same one 's there, on here. It's frustrating, but Ifind these columms a godsend, in picking up my spirits, and reading good, sensible advice. They're giving you good advice now. We've all been there. Good luck. Lm seth

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