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misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

Msg: 67 (view)

Would you message someone if you knew they weren't going to respond? Posted: 11/21/2009 11:33:20 AM
I actually prefer to message a guy first. This allows me to contact men I think I will have some interests in common, based on what they have written on their profiles. My mind reading skills are not that great that I know ahead of time he WON'T respond. Some men do, some don't return a response, but I haven't really lost anything by not sending an email.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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Was there ONE thing that made you want to meet? Posted: 11/21/2009 10:48:31 AM
He was interesting and could communicate in complete and thoughful sentences.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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Anyone Ever Been To One of Those BBW Parties? Posted: 11/21/2009 10:36:35 AM
This woman bought a local neighbor karaoke bar/club and turned into a BBW establishment. She publicized it in the local newspapers and community hoping to attract some of the nearby military men. I used to love going to this place before it became a BBW club, but after the onset of the larger women becoming the norm, I was quite unwelcome. Now there was no place there for females who weighed under 150lbs. The big girls looked me up and down and made nasty remarks to their friends, even when I went with there with my big beautiful friend. So after 3 times I stopped going there. My BBW friend would beg me to go at first, but after a while she stopped going because it was mostly women, there was a $15 cover charge, she never got to sing, and the women who went there dressed in the skimpiest outfits. After 6 months the place closed because on the weeknights (no cover) it was empty of the regulars and even the crowds on the weekends didn't buy enough alcohol to cover the new owners overhead. A month or so later another person bought the club and the regular neighbor crowd returned, to drink and sing.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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Regretfully didn't give him my number!!!! Now what?? Posted: 11/19/2009 12:42:19 PM
Perhaps he is married or has a girlfriend. If you have been to where he lives, I am assuming that it is an apartment house of a friend, unless he brought you there? It is unclear in your post. If it is your friends apartment house, then make arrangements to hang out at the pool. If you just stop by at his house without being invited, you might run into his girlfriend and ruin his life. Don't try to arrange a "CHANCE" meeting, because that is a total stalker idea. If you really have a chance to meet him again, then remember to hand him your number and leave the ball in his court. Just because you seemed to think you really hit it off, dosen't mean he thought the same thing.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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Hitting On Someone Elses BF/GF Posted: 11/19/2009 12:24:33 PM
I have a very funny T-shirt that states, "I LIKE YOUR BOYFRIEND" Women seem to like it and ask me where I bought it. One day I was wearing the shirt and I was standing in line at the deli counter of the grocery store and this guy started to laugh and talk to me. He thought it was hilarious and then he started to hit on me. A few minutes later his girlfriend/wife showed up and saw him talking to me. She looked at my chest, and saw the words. She smiled at me, but her glaring eyes said, "YOU #%$@# BTCH." He said to her, "Honey don't you think her shirt is funny?" She replied, "Only if I didn't see her hitting on you." Luckily I was ordering when she said this. When I turned around to go, she had her hand in the front pocket of his pants clearly touching the jewels. I looked him in the eyes as I walked by, laughed and winked. Little did she know what really went down, but I could hear her scolding him, like a child.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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Is it worthwhile to date here? Posted: 11/19/2009 11:51:14 AM
This is just a great place to find/meet new people outside your social circle, ones that you would never come in contact with in your daily life. Your attitude determines your success and if you approach it as a great place to meet new people, that is what it becomes. Not saying that there aren't the ones who use it as a place to hook up, but if that is not your intention, then don't be disappointed by what they want from the meeting. I find it best not to expect anything to come from the meeting, and am happily surprised if it does amount to more. So yes it is a worthwhile source of introductions.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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Is the number of acceptable places to approach women offline shrinking? Posted: 11/19/2009 11:33:52 AM
Going online to find a date has finally become another way to the already socially ACCEPTABLE places to approach women. Don't limit yourself. Confidence is sexy. Talk to me, I love it. Not that I will be receptive to anything further than a chat. If you don't try, it will always be NO and you will prove to yourself that your mind reading skills are great.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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WHATS THE WORST DATE YOU HAD ON POF Posted: 11/17/2009 6:39:53 PM
Since I travel all the time, I have not had any truly bad dates, but luckily have had the pleasure of meeting very nice gentlemen throughout the USA and Canada. Was going to meet this guy at the local bookstore, his choice, in his hometown. I arrived about 15 minutes early and was inside looking at magazines, when he showed up a few minutes later. He peeked in the window using his hands to shade his eyes from the background sunlight. When our eyes made contact, I waved and smiled. He bolted. Really just ran off, down the street. I went outside the store, just as he rounded the corner of the long block. I laughed to myself and went back into the bookstore. The funny part was he called me about 15 minutes later, to say he was sorry he couldn't meet me because he had been in a car accident. He told me he was really looking forward to meeting me, and could we try again tomorrow. When I asked him was it before or after he came to the bookstore window, he said, "What?" and hung up the phone. The super funny part was on Monday as I was assessing one of my bosses factories, I saw him on the production line, he tried to pretend not to notice me. He told me was an accountant.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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just to gather opinions,would you date a guy who said this? Posted: 11/17/2009 5:16:32 PM
Zephira, You are a very attractive woman, this guy wants his way with all the ladies, that makes him a slut. He is giving you the opportunity to become one of them. Now dosen't that make you feel the chemistry? Or itchy from the STD you will gain from being intimate with him? What a deliciously, lovely choice. You should change the content on your profile to reflect a positive attitude and ignore what the loser said.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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Are you available; or jus wasting my time Posted: 11/6/2009 9:03:18 AM
I met this super great looking guy in a karaoke nightclub. He said he liked my shoes. Asked me to dance and constantly stared at my feet. Actually he seemed kinda of boring. Met up with him by chance a couple times more, each time he complimented my shoes. Let him touch them. My girlfriend kept telling me the guy was not into me, but had a high heel shoe fetish. The next time I met up with him I was wearing some knee high leather boots. He was really into talking to me about the shoes that night. Put my leg on the stool he was sitting on and he began to stroke the boot leather. My girlfriend came by to tell me I was bad. So when he asked me for my phone number, I was shocked. I went with him to his car and he opened the door and sat down. I put my boot on the door ledge of his car. He began to feel the shoe. I told him we could go somewhere more private to talk about my shoes, like his house and he just about lost it. Had to leave immediately. I went back into the club, laughing. My girlfriend asked me what happened and I said I scared him off on purpose. We joked that he probably had giant photos of high heels posted all about his house. Your laddie is into the whine, the coffee and sitting in his car. Next time you meet up start talking about your dads health and scare him off or bond with him.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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Bypassing the phone, is it okay or not? Posted: 11/5/2009 5:13:07 PM
Just to set up a meeting, but forget the chatting. I definately want an outgoing gentleman, so he should be able to do that in person just as well as on the phone. Worst is when they are outgoing online, but boring and snoring in person, even when you ask them to talk about themself. Good idea to meet first for drinks, so you can leave within the hour, if things aren't happening.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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Is this guy legit or am I fantasizing? Techno nerds, also feel free to jump in!! :) Posted: 11/5/2009 4:44:42 PM
Go to yahoo or hotmail and sign up for the free email. Use isuttinfree@.... Don't fill out all the personal information, just enough to get by. Use your new email address to message the guy and see what's up.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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so annoying..why do people do this? Posted: 11/5/2009 3:53:21 PM
Do yourself and him a big favor and make him - make a choice one way or another. Be direct and ask him the question, "Do you want to be in a relationship with me or not." His knee jerk response will probably be NOT. Then when he gets jealous that you are dating other guys, you will be able to tell him very clearly without hesitation or mistake, that he didn't want you.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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from one dater to another: 'show me your drivers license, please' Posted: 11/5/2009 3:38:31 PM
People like these have serious issues, beyond control and trust. Just to meet a new person for coffee or a drink. It is not even a real date!!! After a few "REAL DATES" with mutual interest, then it might serve a purpose other than paranoia.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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separated but still living together... to believe or not Posted: 11/5/2009 3:28:30 PM
Got an email message from a cute guy with a great smile. Everything looked super until that I saw that he was seperated. Returned his email, and stated that I liked his smile, but was not into dating guys that were still married. Thought that would be the end of it. He sent another email, wrote that I was closed minded for rejecting him on that basis, without knowing the details. Seems he was staying with his wife for "medical insurance reasons." Sent him a so sorry for about your health problem email. Again complimented his smile, but really wanted to focus on men that were available. Even when ex's don't live together, they sometimes still hook up for sex after picking up or dropping the kids off. Most people get divorced for other than sexual reasons. The familiar sex was the best part of thier relationship. Trust me he is still doing his wife, telling her they're trying to work it out, sleeping in the same bed every night. Just wait until you find a truly available man.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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The strangest place you've ever been picked up in??? Posted: 10/25/2009 2:42:44 PM
In a traffic jam on the freeway in LA. One Saturday afternoon, I was on my way to the beach in Malibu. The traffic was a a dead standstill. It is hot so I take off my shirt because I am wearing a bikini underneath. A few minutes later this guy pulls up next to me and askes me something, but I didn't hear because I was playing the stereo. I asked what did he say. He told me he liked my convertible. I thanked him and my lane of traffic opens up so I drove up a little way. He pulls along side of me again a bit later, but this time he dosen't have his sunglasses on. And he is a hot looking guy. He mentions how the traffic sucks, did I want to get off the freeway for a drink. I said no. So his lane pulls ahead and he gets off at the same exit I needed to. There are a few cars between us and I got the red light. A few miles later, on this one lane highway through the canyon, he is parked in this little store parking lot. He has a cardboard sign he wrote "PLEASE" and is waving madly at me. So I pulled into the store and parked. He askes if he can buy me a Pepsi or icecream. So I go for the soda. Then after we talk and have the sodas, he invites me to have lunch with him in Malibu and I accepted. Went out with him one other time for lunch, and when I asked for his phone number, he said he would call me again, but never did. I think that he might have been married or lived with someone.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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Would a Woman date a Man if she had a higher salary than him? Posted: 10/24/2009 3:44:39 PM
I read that same article a few days ago. I make quite a bit more than most men I date. A man with self respect does not feel intimidated by a woman who makes more money. I like men that can do useful things like repair a car, build a house, fix the plumbing. I tend to not discuss what I make with guys I am dating. Met this nice guy in NY, a self employed architect. We went out a couple of times. Mentioned to him on the phone something that my boss was building and he asked me to get him a job. The next phone conversation he asked to borrow $500.00, I said NO. Then he asked if I would just give it to him. I sure felt like a stupid rube. Unfortunately, that this won't become more than a couple of dates, because this man was a gold digger???

misszmsz

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Women at Pubs by Themselves Posted: 10/24/2009 3:16:20 PM
I travel all the time for work. Sometimes for months during the winter I have to be in Winnipeg, where I live at a very nice hotel. The company picks up the tab for the hotel and food, but I cannot use room service. The pub food is much more to my liking than the restuarant, so therefore I constantly am going into the pub alone, about 9pm when the entertainment is starting. What other people think of me being there alone without friends is definitely not any of my business. I simply don't care. I seem to get more looks because I am not bundled up in a heavy coat, since I do not have to venture outside in the cold weather to get there. Around the globe, men hit on me almost anywhere I go from the airport to the corner cafe. I always thank them for the compliments and continue with what I was doing. A confident woman who risks her reputation to be seen out in public without an escort, is in most men's books -- adventurous if not downright sexy.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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Weeding out golddiggers with a home-date? WTF? Posted: 10/24/2009 2:42:37 PM
So I was watching some TV $$$ dating show and this Las Vegas magician flies this girl out from LA. He takes her by his condo (used for storage), then he takes her to his nightly magic show performance, after they go to a mid priced restuarant. They're hitting it off and having fun. He brings her back to his real house, which is a mansion to have drinks. He said he does this to weed out the gold diggers. He wants to take her out again. She is offended and doesn't want to see him again because he didn't trust her from the beginning. She feels like she was played. The host of the show agrees that this was very immature behavior on his part and she had warned him about doing this before hand. I think that most women would agree.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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Third Date Rule Posted: 8/21/2009 10:46:42 AM
[Wow, now that's surprising. I would've thought with a face like yours, you could bring your cat, call the guy names, get drunk and throw up on his lap, talk to invisible people, and still get asked for a second date. I mean I know beauty isn't everything, but it certainly helps!] Helen you are a funny lady! I don't want to date the town tramp either - a guy has got to have some self respect! Perhaps talking to an invisible person and commenting on how the first date is going, or bringing my cat and telling it to stop calling him bad names would ensure a second date --- got to try it --- thanks for the advice -----LOL

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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most attractive parts of a man/physically Posted: 8/19/2009 4:51:12 PM
His brain, nice manners, clean and well groomed, smells nice. His PACKAGE

misszmsz

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Third Date Rule Posted: 8/19/2009 4:42:35 PM
Most of my first dates never ask me out for a second date. Guess it's because I don't have sex with them on the first date.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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Why do tall big men want tiny women ? Posted: 8/17/2009 7:19:59 PM
In one word "SPINNERS

misszmsz

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The General Lee... on a Date... Posted: 8/13/2009 5:03:16 PM
I LOVE classic cars. Not necessarily the guys who drive them. When I see a fine tuned classic set of wheels, I usually think that it is very cool. If the owner is there, I usually say cool car or hot wheels, something complimentary. Even if I don't like that particular car, I can appreciate the time, energy and money it takes to restore an old car and let them know. It is something different and unusual, definitely a conversation starter.

misszmsz

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Gentlemen can be BORING! Posted: 8/9/2009 3:44:20 PM
You were not on a date with a gentleman. Just because he needed your assurance/permission to molest you on the first meeting makes him an insecure cad. American Heritage Dictionary : A well-mannered and considerate man with high standards of proper behavior. See Usage Note at lady.

misszmsz

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Why are women attracted to musicians? Posted: 8/4/2009 8:21:15 PM
When I was the lead singer in bands, I mainly dated musicians, because they were the ones I had an opportunity to meet/hang out with. Now that I work for a super rich guy, I tend to date rich guys, because they are the ones I have an opportunity to meet/hang out with.

misszmsz

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Could be interference... Posted: 7/16/2009 12:56:46 PM
Is this guy a friend with benefits? Or is he really just a friend you like to hang out with? If he is really only a friend, then look elsewhere for a romantic love interest. After 4 years he is definately not interested in moving into a sexual relationship with you. If he is a friend with benefits, then why would he change things??? seeing as he has the sex without the committment. If this is the case, and you want more of a relationship than that, then sadly you are deceiving yourself or letting yourself be used, or both. As far as your girlfriends advice, she is perhaps reading between the lines because she knows more detailed information, or has a clue the man is gay. Maybe she is just a good friend by looking out for your interests, since you are in denial of the reality. You need to understand she is not in this relationship with the guy, and since she has never met him, then you need to stop trying to make her understand.

misszmsz

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What are men looking for in an older woman? Posted: 7/10/2009 8:56:16 AM
My last boyfriend was 12 years younger than me. He was my nephews best friend, we had alot in common. We were together for 3 1/2 years. He wanted to get married and have kids. I didn't want to have kids. We parted friends. Since I was in my 20's younger guys have always asked me out, even the jailbait. I take it as a compliment. I look alot younger in person than in photos. On POF young guys constantly email me. I have met with some of them. Most seem more flexible in attitude than the divorced dads my age or older. Don't delete them soley based on their age. Good guys come in all sizes, shapes and ages ----so do the jerks.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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POF babysitter Posted: 6/23/2009 12:56:41 PM
She tells you to watch her son??? You should have said NO, that you would call CPS if she abandoned her kid with you. Then pushed the kid out the door after her and called the cops. Even guys should not invite complete female strangers into their homes. Overly enthusiatic about meeting you is a dead give away. What a crazy dumb BITH. Dosen't give a rat as about her son.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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what if it doesn't work out? Posted: 6/8/2009 10:27:54 AM
Approach the meeting like a business meeting. Where you are not expecting to gain or lose anything, just an exchange of information. I usually meet up for a drink, chat a bit, finish the drink and say it was a pleasure to meet you. Goodbye. These have lasted anywhere from 15 minutes to 2 hours. It's just like when you go into a bar and talk to a woman who you are interested in talking to. You don't know what will happen with that conversation. Some times you want their number and sometimes you don't. Sometimes your get their number and sometimes your don't

misszmsz

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What Ive discovered about the living at home issue Posted: 6/7/2009 3:27:01 PM
I lived with my parents for 7 years, before they passed, while they were going through illness. Out of their 8 children, I was the one who could afford not to work full time. I had no children or a husband to tend to. I did meet a few men who had adversion to me once I told them who I lived with. I could care less what they thought of me. I was all about honoring my parents, instead of paying a stranger to make sure they were ok.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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Conversation Length Before Asking For the Meetup Posted: 6/6/2009 5:34:20 PM
I try to meet a guy as soon as possible. I think of online dating as walking into a place full of eligible men, who are all looking to meet a woman. Not everyone there is going to be interested in me, nor I in them. Certainly a great place to shop at. That's right!!! I liken it to shopping. At the store to buy a dress, I might want a red one or a black one, or perhaps I just have the idea that I want a dress for a certain occasion. So I search through the racks of dresses and I find some that look great on the hanger, but how will they look on me? And other ones that look like they might look good on me, but I don't like the way it looks on the hanger or the color is just not right. I take them all into the dressing room and try them on, one by one. Some that looked good on the hanger just don't look so hot, on the body. And the one that was almost the right color, but not a cut I thought would look good, actually looks fabulous. I buy the dress that looks fabulous, of course. The dress and I have chemistry. I could not determine that until I put it on. So going on a semi blind date is like *actually trying on the dress.* Looking at a potential date through the telephone, webcam or email/instant message too long: 1) Is like browsing the store, seeing dresses you like, but never picking out any dress to try on. 2) Or you took the dress off the rack, but now you're just walking around the store with it. You keep scrutinizing it more and more until you talk yourself out of ever trying it on. 3) Or you're flirting with the idea that perhaps the dress might look good on your body, but being overly cautious about going into the dressing room to see if it fits. Because it might not. And if it dosen't fit, then you know, you will be disappointed. Any woman knows 8 times out of 10 they will leave the store empty handed, because none of the dresses they tried on looked good enough to buy. I say spend those 2 - 5 hours on actually meeting people who you think might be a good fit, instead of wasting time dancing around the store waiting for the dressing room to be free.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

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Is this rude behavior? Posted: 6/5/2009 7:20:45 PM
Girl, I don't think you are asking too much, but alot of rude people would say yes to that. I now think it is funny when a guy tells me they would like to see me again and they will call me and never do. Or asks me to call them and when I do, they don't answer - ever. I put them on the oh well list. Oh well they weren't that into me even though they said they were. The list is getting longer all the time. Oh well -- LOL

misszmsz

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Men who won't leave younger woman alone Posted: 6/5/2009 6:58:42 PM
This made me laugh and reminded me once, when I was about 22yrs old. My girlfriend and I went to this club in a different part of town where we knew no one. I usually accepted one dance with any man who asked me. This one guy would not leave me alone after our first dance and kept begging me to dance again. But I didn't want to. Even my girlfriend told him he was a pest and to go ask another girl. Even this did not deter him. Well I had just bought a new pair of shoes earlier that day and they were giving me a hugh blister. Even though I don't like to take my shoes off at dances I did and I put them under a chair near the dance floor. When I came back to sit down, ONE of my shoes was gone. So I start to look around for my shoe in the trash cans and asked the manager if he would look in the mens bathroom. My friend asked the DJ to annouce if any one had seen a black high heel shoe, and if they found it to bring it to the booth. The pesty guy was watching me from the other side of the club with a smirk on his face, but now he wasn't being a pest. It was closing time and I was carrying my other shoe, my friend and I were just outside the place, he drove up in his Jaguar convertible. He asked if something was wrong and I said no. Then he said perhaps if I had seen his car first, I wouldn't have lost my shoe, and drove away. I yelled that he could buy me a new pair of shoes. Made me learn to carry band-aids in my purse.

misszmsz

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Separated for years, but still living with the wife...What gives? Posted: 6/5/2009 1:41:00 PM
Seperated means still married in my book. Living with his wife definitely means married and still having sex, but looking for extracurricular playmates willing to give him more sex.

misszmsz

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Need advice about girls Posted: 6/5/2009 1:17:34 PM
RW, Just simply ask her for coffee or a drink, but say it in a light hearted way not serious. "I'm going to grab some coffee/drink want to join me?" If she says no, ask if you can bring her back something or tell her, well maybe next time. Whatever happens do not feel rejected. If you see woman you are attracted to and interested in getting to know better, a nice sincere compliment goes a long way. But don't expect anything in return, not even a thank you. Try, I like your dress or your hair smells teriffic--- and see where it leads. If she compliments you back then there is some interest on her part.

misszmsz

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Do odd things turn you off on a date/first meet Posted: 6/5/2009 1:00:20 PM
Dave, This is so similar to my first meeting with a man, I definately have a thing about hands. Dirty, chewed or long fingernails are such a turn off, even if the guy is hot looking, I can never imagine letting him touch me with those hands. And unless the activity warrants it, I have high adversion to sneakers, gym or sports shoes, no matter how expensive, because I think they are ugly and unimaginative. I would probably date the guy with the gym shoes, if I was interested, but not the guy with the dirty hands. One of my boyfriends owned an auto repair shop and never once did he have grease under his nail on a date.

misszmsz

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BEFORE the first date: a short Rant Posted: 6/5/2009 12:21:47 PM
James, My initial reaction is to just let the ball slowly stop bouncing over in the corner and walk off the court. One sided converstaions do not do well in any communications, written or verbal. You are correct to presume that basic conversation is a given. In my profile stated quite specifically, a man should write something detailed about himself. This is very rare. I love it, if and when they do. I have come to expect the exact opposite. When I contact the man first I do not expect this, because I go on what his profile says, and try to write why I am interested in getting to know him a bit. Majority of men write, I think you're hot, we seem to have a lot in common, you're my kind of woman, do you have any other photos you can send, I'm not into writing so call me. So I look at their profiles, which usually do not say much either and delete. Occasionally I will respond to a guy who has contacted me first if something in his profile intrigues my attention. Again I ask them to say something about themselves and 8 out of 10 times the response is: I don't know what to say just ask me questions about what you want to know. I ask for descriptions and stories. They respond with one word answers. I want a man who would be comfortable in my world of international business. A well read and versed man, one that can express ideas and state their opinions without bigotry or the need to ask what someone is talking about.

misszmsz

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Msg: 69 (view)

Anyone ever try Singlesnet.com ? Posted: 6/1/2009 12:29:33 PM
They edited my profile and headline to exclude the words sex and sexy. Saw lots of guys profiles with the same words. What's up with that?

misszmsz

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At what age do we lower our standards on dating? Posted: 5/28/2009 7:36:49 PM
I think alot of people settle. Which is sad for them and their "chosen"mate. Older and wiser, most do not lower their standards, but become even more selective because they know what they want and don't want.

misszmsz

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How do you make yourself be attracted to the unattractive? Posted: 5/28/2009 7:28:46 PM
Sometimes I get emails from some very attractive guys-- so I think that I am going to be attracted to them in person and this does not happen. There is absolutely no chemistry, for whatever reason. One of my best ex-boyfriends was not attractive, he would say he was ugly, but he had great charisma, smarts, charm and was quite hilarious. I met him at a club when I was 25 years old. At that age, if I had met him online I would have just deleted his profile. And missed out on one of the best long term love affairs of my life. After meeting him I thought that I wasn't really into him because of his looks,. After about a month of dating I started to think he could be the one. He was a great boyfriend and a hot lover. So because of this unattractive guy, I started to give average looking men a chance. It really has to do with chemistry and not a whole lot more. I personally find a mans mind and ambition the most attractive, both of which are invisible. You certainly can not see chemistry through a photograph or a little bit of chit-chat. You should take a chance and just meet the guys you have something in common with. It can't hurt, and you might surprise yourself and find someone you can love.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

Msg: 91 (view)

How do you handle the first date if not what you expected Posted: 5/23/2009 6:37:13 PM
I had this one guy ask if 5'7" was really required, I said no, as long at you're taller than me wearing high heels. I am very petite - about 5'1" and with heels, no more than 5'4". He showed up, I was looking down on him. He noticed I was noticing the top of his head. We chatted over a drink, then he had to leave. This other guy said he was 50 when his profile said he was 45. Ok, I could live with the 5 yrs difference. When I met him, it was funny to me, but he was over 60 with dyed black hair. He started to talk about his son, mentioned that he was 35. Enjoyed my drink and split. No need to embarrass these people they had already done it to themselves.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

Msg: 158 (view)

What are women really looking for? Posted: 5/23/2009 6:00:09 PM
"American girls want everything in the world you can possibly imagine." Some Girls by the Rolling Stones I think that perhaps you should make a list of what you want in a woman. Just like a shopping list you would make for the grocery store. No one else should see your list, so be very honest with yourself. List qualities she cannot have also, such as ugly feet or bad housekeeping skills. For instance you meet a beautiful girl with a tight body at church on Sunday. A couple weeks later she invites you over to her Aunties for dinner. She has so many qualities you admire and you start thinking this could be the ONE. When you arrive she introduces you to her three boys Rotton, Rude and Bad. They all have different daddies. They make it impossible for you to ignore them. You yell to her, "You didn't tell me you had children." She yells louder than the kids screaming, "You didn't ask. They are really good boys even when they're being bad." Then she takes off her shoes and asks you for a foot massage. Her gnarly toes, cracked heels, bunions and corns are just what you needed to see before eating. Knowing what you are looking for makes it much easier to get exactly what you want.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

Msg: 3 (view)

I guess I'm a real jerk... Posted: 5/23/2009 5:06:19 PM
She fell in love with someone she didn't know? She knew you were in Germany. Geographically desireable is very much an element in online dating. You were just being a good friend helping her through a bad time in her life. She has many issues far greater than the ones that were obvious. You should have mentioned your new love like it was no big deal. You never saw her in person so you were attracted to photos of her body and face. This is like having a phone conversations with someone who tells you they were in Playboy. This is a pure fantasy created in both of your minds. I'm sure karma is not going to get you for too much.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

Msg: 15 (view)

shy Posted: 5/19/2009 8:38:01 PM
I think that you can get over being shy. It takes some effort on your part. I was shy until I got out of high school at 16, and went to college. I really was super shy, and decided how much fun I was missing out of by refusing to engage myself. So I watched my mother, she was very outgoing and gregarius, willing to talk to anyone, anywhere. She would make a comment or a compliment to someone and off into a full blown conversation. She loved to give advice, but I saw that she really listened to what the person was saying. Decide where and when you are shy. Are you shy around men or women or both? If someone ask you a question, do you just say yes or no, or do you add reasons behind the answer? When you go out tomorrow, decide that you are not going to be shy. People don't know you're shy, they don't know aything about you. So try to approach everyone like they already know and love you, as an old friend, with a warm smile. Most people are very nice and respond well to sincere compliments. To the lady standing next to you at the bank, "Great shoes, where did you get them?" She will be please that you admire her taste and respond kindly. When she tells you she got them at the Walmart or Payless or the pricey boutique. If you know it say, "Oh, I love that store or where is that store located?" To the great looking guy at the singles party, " I just had to let you know how handsome, I think you are." Do you think he is going to say something mean or rejecting to that? Then you are probably going to need a back up line, so ,"So do you come to many of these singles parties?" To keep a conversation going, always ask a question in a way that cannot be answered by yes or no, people love to give their opinions, so ask for it on any subject, "what do you think about the economic bailout?" Eveyday practice these techniques. At first it might make you nervous and the little voice in your head will say something negative to prevent you from going out of your comfort zone. But try to ignore that silly non it's opinion does not matter. You will see that people are receptive to talking to you, just as you are to talk to them.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

Msg: 9 (view)

Decided you want to keep the 1st few dates public but she wants to sleep over Posted: 5/15/2009 10:13:46 AM
Question her motives. You did not mention if this was your 1st, 2nd or 3rd date. She could be the stalker from hell, you never know. If she's from out of town, give her the number to some cheap places to stay. If you just want to bonk her, do it at the hotel and then go home.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

Msg: 69 (view)

Curious about peoples success rate on here... Posted: 5/14/2009 9:19:41 PM
I've met alot of guys from this site, mainly because I am constantly traveling. So I don't go fishing in the same spot too often. I love to meet people and find it a great source to start from, but most of these turn out to be just meet and greets. Some turn into a real first date. Few into a second date. Three guys within a year asked me out for a third time. I never spend too much time getting to know someone online, a quick phone call to arrange a meeting and leave the get to know you stuff for the first meeting. I think it is fun, but you have to have no expectations about the other person.

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

Msg: 1239 (view)

Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 5/13/2009 2:54:22 PM
I know there are some good men left. I have 5 brothers. The 2 youngest ones are single, the 3 oldest married for 15- 25 years. Of the 2 single brothers - one is gay and the other is extremely SHY. The gay one gets hit on all the time by WOMEN because he is extremely gregarious, and engaging, and not at all effeminite. These are international women, as his business takes him to all corners of the world. He makes great money, travels about 95% of the year with his work. So unless these women work in his industry, meet him at the hotel he is staying at for the week, or at the airport, they will never see him in Florida where he owns a house, and quite a few luxury cars. The SHY guy, owns a very successful construction business, 2 homes in California, 1 in the SF bay area and 1 in San Diego at the beach, 3 big work trucks and a jeep. He is very handsome and inshape and makes great money he loves to spend on other people. But unless a woman works in his industry (very few do), goes to the little bar he frequents after work in his construction clothes and starts up a conversation, or outright bumps into him, she will never meet a great loyal, guy because he is so shy. His past girlfiends are still his friends, because he is such a good man. I have tried to fix the shy brother up with numerous women in their 30's that are sweet, nice and educated, but since most are divorced with children, he is not interested, because he wants the woman in his life to make him a priority. Most divorced women will not do this as their children consume all their time. He never goes out looking for a woman, but still has hope that he will find a woman someday. He wants to get marry and have children. If you are looking for a good man, start looking right where you are at. Stop looking for a prince charming who is all slicked up, drives a luxury car, says exactly what you want to hear and start to look for a nice, decent gentleman, perhaps dressed in blue collar attire, with sincere eyes and a shy smile, who if you approached would gladly talk to you and perhaps take you out, if he finds something about you at all interesting. So here's to the all the good and decent men out there!!!

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

Msg: 68 (view)

How dumb is this? Posted: 5/13/2009 9:29:40 AM
The same thing happens to me almost on a weekly basis, I get an email that states: they'd love to talk to me so here is their number. Even if his profile peaked my interest in the slightest, what am I supposed to say if I called? "Um, hi this is the women you sent your phone number to from POF." So he will probably ask, "Which woman?"

misszmsz

Joined: 5/31/2008

Msg: 2 (view)

Question for the 30 something men out there Posted: 5/11/2009 4:50:08 PM
You have found the man of your dreams, don't play games with him. Do not tell him everything that has happened to you since were teens, that will make you appear mysterious. He knew you as a girl, now let him get to know the woman you have become. If you want to pursue a relationship, then you should, don't wait for him to initiate it. You already sought and found him on the internet, so he probably thinks that you want him back in your life. Don't try to play had to get now, because you weren't. Just enjoy the good sex and let things happen. Don't try to read his mind or ask your girlfriends what do they think he meant when he said this or that.

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