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older men and younger women best chance for successful marriage? Posted: 10/26/2009 6:19:03 PM
this is a study from the UK, reported by the BBC, which claims that the best chance for a lasting marriage comes when, amoung other things, the man is at least five years older than the woman. although i find these studies to be slightly annoying, i realize that this is a popular subject at POF so it might be worth posting. http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/8325579.stm

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Things are changing... Posted: 10/24/2009 9:35:10 PM
things are definitely changing. in addition to the things that you mentioned OP, we now also have things that can "keep" us at home and take away our desire to go out and socialize. tv started it, computers continue it.

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Men 35-44, are we in the sweet spot? Posted: 10/24/2009 9:04:35 PM
my initial reaction while reading the article was negative. after reading the comments i would put my opinion closest to coloneldingus': it seems like pandering to their demographic. btw, any older guy who is somehow ashamed to have had sex with a teenager (legal age of course) gets a hearty lol from myself for being in denial of his instincts and nature.

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Lying about your age Posted: 8/26/2009 9:58:50 PM
people on this site lie through their teeth about almost everything because it is very easy to get away with here. age is one of the most common issues of dishonesty.

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38 years and counting Posted: 8/26/2009 9:56:15 PM
i'm not sure what you're into but have you/would you consider foreign? the philippines or thailand for example?

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Always been single and still am at the age of 31 Posted: 8/26/2009 9:27:50 PM
hi, i'd like to recommend a book: "manwatching", by desmond morris. i read it as a kid and it taught me a great deal about interpreting human behavior, body language, and expressions. it's one of those books that completely changes how you view the world. even if you lack the natural intuition to sense what someone is feeling, this book will help you to understand characteristics that we all share and give you the ability to interpret them (in many cases).

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ladies: have guys ever given you a hard time at the gym? Posted: 5/28/2009 3:45:11 PM
this is inspired by a now closed thread in "ask a guy". the woman in question went to the gym to lose some weight and try to tone up. some guy decided to give her a hard time whenever she tried to use a machine. he would rudely tell her that he was already doing sets on the machine and make her move to a different machine. when she did, he would tell her that he was using that machine also. it went on until she eventually told him to p#ss off. i had some thoughts on it: - the gym attracts many types of guys. there are some that work out because they have a deep sense of insecurity which affects their behavior in many ways, including trying to be tough while they are at the gym. this type views a woman as being weak, and to him weakness means an easy victim. so she gets picked on. - most of the biggest, ripped guys at the gym are actually quite friendly because they don't have the self-esteem issues that plague the "lesser" guys. they also attend the gym on a regular basis so they know that they will see the same people often and should be on good terms with them. - most of the the other guys, myself included, really like to see women working out because we would prefer not to be in a 100% sausage environment and cuties give us something to look at in order to help take our attention off of the mind-numbing monotony of a regular workout schedule. being in the weight room section of a gym can be an intimidating place for a woman because of all the big guys and sometimes macho attitudes, but just remember that you're a paying customer and you have just as much right to be there as anyone else.

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so, why are you still single? Posted: 5/28/2009 2:53:46 PM
my response to half of the posts in this thread: "... and yet here you are: on a dating site..."

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women with a lot of male friends Posted: 5/28/2009 2:29:52 PM
to keep it brief and simple: avoid dating women with mostly male friends. it almost always ends badly.

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Why don't tall men choose to date tall women? Posted: 5/5/2009 2:59:50 AM
many short women really like tall guys. i have known several over my lifetime. maybe this situation is mostly because these short women make themselves available to the tall guys more readily and the tall guys just go with it.

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a young girl interest in a older male Posted: 5/1/2009 9:39:33 PM
for generations it was completely normal for a 19 year old girl to date a 30 or over male. only in recent times (last 2 generations) has it become less acceptable. people these days are trying harder to deny their instincts.

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what is everyones opin on tattoos? Posted: 5/1/2009 9:33:30 PM
for me tattoos are a major turn off. they can come close to being deal-breakers. conversely, flawless, perfect skin is sooo exquisite.

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Over 30 -- What is your biggest turn on Posted: 1/31/2009 8:31:26 PM
blue eyes with a half-lidded bedroom look. i will be your slave :)

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what is everyones opin on tattoos? Posted: 1/31/2009 8:26:42 PM
i don't like tattoos on women. big turn off.

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How would you feel if an old student contacted you on here? Posted: 1/31/2009 6:48:08 PM
this is a cool thread. it's just so refreshing to see some people who don't get totally uptight and self-rightous about this sort of subject. from a guy's perspective, many of us remember a dirty teacher or two from our time in school. there was one who... shall we say... really knew how to "inspire" us to learn. she liked young guys too. it's amazing that she never got in trouble for her behavior. and on that subject, does anyone remember debra lafave? do a google if you don't know her. now that fuels a school boy's fantasies.

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Mom its been a long time ...when do I get a dad? Posted: 1/14/2009 10:12:40 PM
the second post in this thread is indicative of exactly what is going wrong with our societal family structure.

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Enough with the emails, lets meet already... Posted: 12/12/2008 2:44:46 AM
just to add to the above, women must be more cautious because there could possibly be a physical danger to themselves if they end up with the wrong type of guy. for men, going to meet her/ wanting to meet her quickly is a casual choice. for her, it has personal safety implications.

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Enough with the emails, lets meet already... Posted: 12/12/2008 2:37:47 AM
that's such a great question. when i first came here, i scared them all off by wanting to meet them without spending much time in the email exchange phase. women put up these barriers as a way of screening out the undesirables. they need time to get comfortable with a person. many men like to "get to the point". for many women, there is no fun or romance to this approach and they reject it.

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Renting A Husband Posted: 12/12/2008 2:00:07 AM
i think "renting" a husband is a nice example of one of the ways we are going wrong. why are families so unimportant now?

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how do you spot an easy woman? Posted: 9/16/2008 5:42:56 PM
you realize that we're talking about women right? :) Sure. You pitched something I thought was foolish and I hit it back to ya. uh huh. i realize you must have been trying the humor angle but imagining yourself, an older man, as a woman with tattoos who smokes while sitting at a bar, and then asking if that made you appear an easy lay, uses some strange logic that i am not party to. this column is called "ask a guy". she asked. i answered. you smirked. p.s. if you were responding to something i wrote that you thought was foolish, why did you quote someone else's post?

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Can i ever be friends with this guy again... Posted: 9/15/2008 10:02:23 PM
i'd say yes, forgive them both, but make sure that you erase them from your life. you have no need for them now.

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Do men select women that are… Posted: 9/15/2008 5:51:50 PM
i totally disagree with your friend's comments. i love my mom but i would never want a girl who reminds me of her.

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Humour in a mate Posted: 9/15/2008 5:46:44 PM
most men don't consider it a major factor one way or the other. for me personally, a vulgar sense of humor in a woman is not attractive.

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how do you spot an easy woman? Posted: 9/15/2008 5:38:15 PM
Huh? lol. Sooo, if I'm sportin' a mark (just if), longish hair, probably smoking in that bar, are you sayin' I need to watch my six? you realize that we're talking about women right? :)

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how do you spot an easy woman? Posted: 9/15/2008 5:36:14 PM
did someone leave the door to the idiot saloon open again??? this column is called "ask a guy" and i was merely responding to a question that was asked. your response to my opinion makes you appear to be slightly mentally challenged. we call them "tramp stamps" for a reason you know...

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how do you spot an easy woman? Posted: 9/15/2008 4:47:40 PM
smokes and has tattoos.

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i've never met a single girl from any online dating site Posted: 9/15/2008 4:25:51 PM
woah, old thread. thanks for the responses. i wonder if any of these people are still around the site...

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Do you believe you can meet someone online? Posted: 9/15/2008 4:22:18 PM
simply: nope. gave up on it long ago. my only hope is my real world charm. still , there is so much to learn about people by reading these forums and some of my friends have done well. good luck to all.

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Why do GF's like to wear the shirt the BF just took off? Posted: 1/21/2008 6:00:26 PM
i like this thread. one of my exes, who is the same height as i am, used to really get off on wearing my jeans and shirts. she looked cute in them too. i always like the smell of girls' perfume on my sheets and comforter. smell does trigger memory and can be a great turn-on. i have a strange love of the smell when girls chew that cinnamon gum. i start thinking dirty thoughts, even if they are strangers :)

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Do guys lose respect if a girl hits on them? Posted: 1/21/2008 4:44:59 PM
guys love it when women hit on them. respect has nothing to do with it. i'm surprised that you even needed to ask this question.

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do small chested girls have a chance? Posted: 1/21/2008 4:42:03 PM
lots of guys, including myself, don't care at all about the size of a woman's breasts. as long as they are not flat to your chest, it's okay. fatness is a much larger issue for most guys. small-breasted women tend on average not to be fat so that's a good thing.

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POFer's who won't date? Posted: 12/29/2007 3:21:20 AM
btw, my guess about her issue is that she has a VD. she mentions one act in the past that she has no control over now and refuses to say what it is. it's something so "bad" that she won't even tell us. what else could it be? sex change? nah, i doubt it. in jail? nah, most guys would overlook it? been in an institution? maybe commited murder or some other horrible crime? hmmm.... it's possible but how likely? VD. herpes for example. instant no-go for 99% of guys (or girls). either that, or it's all BS and she's trolling.

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POFer's who won't date? Posted: 12/29/2007 3:05:34 AM
"I mean have any of you met someone on here or another site that you can talk to and that is honest with you about everything in their life?" nope. not once.

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so, why are you still single? Posted: 12/28/2007 9:10:59 PM
why still single? simple: they are not attracted to me.

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if you had a child and they were born mentally challenged, would you keep it? Posted: 12/28/2007 8:44:31 PM
my freind's dad told me that if, when he was younger, he and his wife had given birth to a mentally handicapped child, he would have insisted that she give it up for adoption. he also told me that if she said no, he would have left her. what would you do?

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Would you shower more for someone else? Posted: 12/24/2007 1:11:54 AM
i'm going to break with the average here and say that yes, i would shower more than once a day if it was big deal with the chick. i don't care. i like being clean.

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I dont need a daddy for my kids ? Posted: 12/16/2007 1:37:27 AM
don't most men edit out women who have children? i sure do. i come from a single mother family with two boys. my brother and i laughed at all of my mom's boyfriends. do you guys want that? i sure don't. if it's not your own blood, why look after it? it makes you look like a sucker.

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Why are women still single? Posted: 12/16/2007 1:32:55 AM
i've never seen so much BS in one single thread here. simply amazing.

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Married Men and Lies Posted: 10/1/2007 2:31:56 AM
i've seen this complaint more than once as i browsed these forums. in my opinion, married people who pretend they are single are bored with their dull lives and are trying to spice things up a little. i feel sorry for them. loyalty means nothing to them.

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Are you guys parinoid about your hair, or lack of? Posted: 7/23/2007 7:26:16 PM
no way. guys who are worried about that sort of thing have low self confidence.

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i've never met a single girl from any online dating site Posted: 11/21/2006 10:42:03 PM
my tone in that first message could have been somewhat misleading. sometimes i just feel dark, cold, and immersed in a world of cruelty. sometimes i even like it. there is a certain black comfort in (non physical) despair. it's hard to explain if you haven't felt it before but i suspect that some of you have. it's the "me against the world", "lonely warrior" type of feeling. i hate to sound cheesy by quoting jim morrison but "women seem wicked when you're unwanted" comes to mind.

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i've never met a single girl from any online dating site Posted: 11/21/2006 9:50:53 PM
i have never met a single girl from any online dating site. not this one or any others. i'll admit that i don't hit this stuff as hard as perhaps i should... but just to make you feel better about your own successes with these sites i would like to tell you of my cruddy record. i am laughing at myself because i still come here. it must be that i love passive rejection? i like to say to myself that the reason why it never works out is because they won't even give me a chance. i tell myself that because i have had some success meeting girls in the "real" world that it must be because girls here are too looks-orientated. i'm just an average guy. maybe that's not good enough for cyber girls. so here's my record: of all the girls that i have tried to contact with the intention of meeting them, about 90% of them have simply not responded and of the remaining 10% that have, 90% have blown me off within one exchange. the last few who did seem interested in prolonged contact got scared away when i told them that i prefer not to talk online but to meet in person. i guess i'm just not meant to be in this type of dating cyber scene. for me love has become a distant dream that i fear is nothing but. would you be interested to know that i actually enjoy seeing couples fight in public because it makes me feel better? we're all heading down a path that has only one destination and i guess it doesn't really matter if we do it with someone or not because in the end we are all alone. so go ahead, laugh at me, ridicule me, i can take it. there is ice flowing in my veins now and it will take more than a few harsh words to make me feel anything.

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to the women. Money and dating. Posted: 9/21/2005 4:20:07 AM
I prefer to pay for everything. But if they make a big stink about it I always give in quickly. It can become a silly routine if you are not careful. :)

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THIS GOES OUT TO ALL THE NICE GUYS!!! READ ME Posted: 9/21/2005 3:43:11 AM
Hahaha, Great post. One of the best I have read so far.

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Why does it seem like there are so many Shallow Girls In My Age Group on this Website? Posted: 9/21/2005 3:21:37 AM
Pal, There are zillions of guys here competing for the attention of a very small number of (worthy) girls. It's nothing more than a numbers thing. The good quality girls are contacted by so many guys that they can fling emails aside like used tissues. What you need to do when you make contact is to try to set up a meeting asap, even if it's the dreaded "day time coffee" thing. Use directness to weed out the time-wasters.

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I dumped her because I wanted the best for her Posted: 9/15/2005 3:37:43 AM
My last serious girlfriend was a 25 year old from Belarus. At the time I was 28. In Belarus, it is unusual for girls over 25 not to be married so she was under constant pressure from her family to get married. She wanted to marry me. So instead of stringing her along and milking the relationship as much as I could, I broke up with her. I actually cared for her too much and wanted her to find someone who would marry her. I liked her though very much so it was painful for me.

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divorced female with kids seeking a nice guy Posted: 9/13/2005 4:26:41 PM
Many men try to avoid divorced women with kids. One of the reasons for this is because they don't want to have to look after someone else's children.

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why no replies to me Posted: 9/13/2005 5:03:16 AM
I agree with clevergiggles. you need to put some better pics in there my man. That blurry one that shows only the top of your head and some kid really stinks.

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Tell Me What You Think Of My Profile? Please and Thank You.. Posted: 9/13/2005 4:59:11 AM
You look kind of like a combination of geeky and dirty. That's a compliment BTW.

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