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arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Any Advice??? Posted: 11/8/2005 7:03:47 AM
Ray, I agree you should tell your friend..... it is the best option... but I will play the Opposite tune from all of the others... I think it depends on how much of a friend you have... and how much you care for this girl.... You can't replace true love.... and friends do not have your kids and partner up with you in your dream called life.... friends will move and change.... a good partner will be with you for life and will be your best friend.... They will hold your hand through the best and worst parts of life.... friends won't be there as much... even the best of them.... I vote for the heart....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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ADVICE! Posted: 11/8/2005 6:46:33 AM
F Angel.... Older gentlemen are more experienced and they do have a better understanding of what a lady wants... People in general like a challenge.... and your uncertainty fans the flames of a small fire that could turn into a 3 Alarm Blaze.... My advice to you, is take the one who is a little more nervous around you.... the reason being.... is that is the one who cares the most for you... hence the uncomfortable nature... he doesn't want to mess things up with you... he will not only be more considerate, affectionate, but in the end he will make a great partner that you can enjoy life with.... I believe you will go with your emotions... and really you are the only judge of that... Dreams can be made reality but only you are aware of your dreams.... and it is your responsibility to make them happen... Make it so.....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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how to deal with shy girls? Posted: 11/6/2005 9:57:04 AM
I'll say Blastkist.... you have been more positive... I too have seen it... We all can get in a rut.... positive action gains positive results... I relearn that every day....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles? Posted: 11/5/2005 5:45:01 PM
BucsGirl and Travisty... Xcellent posts... I unlike some enjoy the longer posts, as it truly says something about the person(mental note: for those who care to write)..... even if it is all rubbish.... you can spot the rubbish too... The Unread/Deleted can be really annoying sometimes.... (I've had it a couple of times)... I am a real busy person that juggles multiple jobs and interests.... but it is really a blessing because it says alot about them... also that lack of consideration will gain them what they want least... so all is fair.... As for expectations when you set up loads of them, you will get exactly what you don't want... Murphy's Law.... Love is about being surprised... I am very selective but I try to give people the chance to prove me wrong.... most of my best dates have gone that way... I try to remember too that love finds you when you least expect it.... if you stop searching for it, it will find you... Till then I just enjoy the new people I befriend, and expect nothing in hopes that I will get what I want (My Princess).... It makes it more enjoyable.....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles? Posted: 11/5/2005 8:53:45 AM
I believe there is way too many generalizations made here.... Both Genders have a lot of positives to show.... Both Genders if they find some common ground will write.... even if their is one item that does not match.... We all think we are special and can convince others of that... when we don't there is frustration at both ends..... The real world and the web are numbers games... Alot of guys will email vast numbers of ladies to increase the odds (they just want dates)... because it still is sort of a rule men should approach.... although there is the rare exceptions.... Personally I am more selective, I read the whole profile, I email very few, and enjoy receiving mail even if I don't think there is a match.... There are alot of positives if you choose to see them... or you can choose to see the starving kids in Africa.... perception is everything...

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Should I, or shouldn't I? Posted: 11/3/2005 7:09:21 AM
I think there was a powerful message in there for us guys.... Not to rush a lady... so she is allowed to feel the anticipation... and all the other butterflies that are involved with it... Shokirra sweetie.... go with it.... don't let anyone tell you how to love.... When you meet the right one all those feelings rush you for a lifetime.... Go with your instincts... give freely to recieve freely... I read the other day.... "Humans are like one winged angels.... only when they unite.... do they truly fly...." Fly away girl..... may your feet never touch the ground....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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this makes me soooooo mad Posted: 11/3/2005 6:40:44 AM
Rainbow Fish.... I say this with the best intent..... awareness is excellent.... but you have to stop watching the news, or reading the paper... you are going to develop a severe Phobia if you don't.... I stopped watching or listening to the news a while ago and it helped me to stay positive.... if it is important you will hear about it.... The News is a major cause of trauma and anxiety.... Perception is everything.... adults mainly use their imagination to imagine negativity... it is more constructive to focus on the positive.... I have travelled extensively and been to many areas that I found out later, I shouldn't have been in.... that they were too dangerous.... All I met were the nicest folks.... On the spiritual side... when your time comes you won't have a choice... best not to go around worrying about it till it happens..... The Predators in this world like animals can sense fear.... it comes off in your body language, and body motion.... they are lazy too... they will pick the easiest target....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Why are there so many beautiful women in British Columbia and Canada? Posted: 11/3/2005 6:06:56 AM
After we won the war in 1812.... the peace treaty signed had some forced ammendments... All the pretty offspring were shipped to Canada, and we got first rights on immigrants... Of course by having the pick of the litter, we developed a super sexy race of fem bots.... and yes we are planning to take over the world.... as you already have seen resistance is futile... So instead of building a bomb that went boom, we built millions of them that go ba ba ba boom.... But we aren't tyrants, as our dedicated servants, bus boys, and basic savages we will allow you to look at them... of course at a great distance....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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What would you do? Posted: 11/3/2005 5:46:14 AM
This is ridiculous.... he puts you on hold, but TELLS you not to date.... Do yourself a favour... tell him to worry about his own mess.... you're a big girl and can make decisions for yourself... If he doesn't like it that is tough... He starts to act up, get the law involved... I know you have feelings for him... but this sort of behaviour can't be condoned.... it will only get worse.... it is jealousy pure and simple.... He is looking for control.... but has no control of his life....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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what do girls like Posted: 11/2/2005 6:54:11 AM
I think asking will spoil the mood.... and shows a lack of self confidence... which my lady friends tell me is unattractive.... Ladies give off subtle clues when they are in need of a kiss... If they directly face you, giving you their full attention... is a good sign.... hand holding too... laughing at your lame jokes is also a good sign.... but I believe you have to have an emotional bond, before you can ever attempt a kiss....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money Posted: 11/2/2005 6:26:00 AM
Jus4, It isn't so much about the money, as it is the confidence it gives the men who have it.... It is the Confidence that you have to work on.... facial expressions, body language they all are part of it... Think how a rich person walks, and acts.... it is the confidence that women like....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Where are some great places to meet people of the opposite sex? Posted: 11/2/2005 6:10:37 AM
Forgot Casino... if there is one near by.... those can be fun too....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Once A Week Posted: 11/2/2005 6:01:12 AM
SlySyl, Thank you for the compliment.... I enjoy helping nice people.... and an adventurous attitude is always refreshing...

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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The Good, The Bad, and the Ugly... Posted: 11/2/2005 5:57:07 AM
Kimma, I realized I like creative people.... their instincts are good.... and they are special... Thank you for the kind words... much appreciated.... from a creative person...

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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My X is trying to buy back my interest Posted: 11/1/2005 7:02:59 PM
JT I was only going by what you had wrote... Guess I was way off base.... I offered you a gift... you did not want... You don't want help, that's fine.... I can appreciate that... I will stop wasting your time and my time... and go and help someone who needs it... since you know what you want... Although my intent wasn't to impress anyone, there is some truth to what you said... If a lady isn't amazed by my compassion and care, then she really isn't amazing in my eyes... I give gifts with no expectation of return, but do believe that my good deeds make me a better person... that is the essence of it for me... Good Luck....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Where are some great places to meet people of the opposite sex? Posted: 11/1/2005 11:24:20 AM
Kimma you rock... forgot the dance classes.... Latin... she said it... and they rotate partners so you get to meet everyone....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Where are some great places to meet people of the opposite sex? Posted: 11/1/2005 10:53:23 AM
Sexy, Brainy, and not Funny The guy asked a serious question... Yes many places Stilla... To find a like minded female I would suggest take a class.... preferably something you enjoy... or might enjoy... that has a high female population.. you will already have something in common... cookery of some sort is always good... you also have an excuse to impress her with your favourite dish.... at home... palm reading, tarot cards, cold reading... I had 3 sisters... women won't leave you alone... if you can do any of those 3.... Massage Therapy.... yoga.... and any other physical recreational activities... like joining a coed team... If you're a fitness buff the gym... The Mall.... The Library or a Book Store look through the local paper for events and shows.... or get a part time job as a waiter.... you will meet alot of people.... The list goes on and on my friend....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Once A Week Posted: 11/1/2005 9:43:48 AM
Slysyl.... In your profile you ask about Intelligence.... Bouncers aren't workaholics... they are lazy... thats why they stand around all night... I have known so many player friends... half were bouncers... They're on the phone most of the day.... with countless women that all think they are exclusive... I love the part about he calls before bedtime... yup to check and make sure you are going to sleep alone... since they don't like to share... When I worked on the door, I couldn't tell you how many women approached me... Bartenders, I dated tons of them... some I didn't even date... but in my early days were worth some frisky business... I know you thought you were special that you could change him, and that he really wanted to change.... We all are special... If your friend had come up to you with this story, you would have laughed at her and slapped her upside the head.... Stop demeaning yourself in this way.... You are better.... you deserve better.... and you should not be so gullable.... Consider this a friendly slap upside the head.... all he is to you is a Challenge... you can get that from a decent guy... like this site's sign says... Plenty O Fish.... some of these fish even don't smell like crap...

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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My X is trying to buy back my interest Posted: 11/1/2005 8:30:58 AM
JT we all know your not dumb.... Actually most of the people on here have thought enough of you, to read behind the question... Think of it as you were helping a friend... instead of your own situation... She begs you to stay... she cons you into sex... she is trying to buy you back... that is the logical next step.... I know you see that... I also understand why you aren't so quick to give her up... Those deep emotions about how she makes you feel.... that is where the problem is... Even though you don't love her, she makes you feel... Feel Wonderful and Special.... People want what they can't have... the more you push them away the more they want you.... That is exactly why you don't love her... and why she worships the ground you walk on... People want a Challenge.... and you can only fall in love with someone that you value better then yourself..... Her putting you on the pedestal devalued herself... in your eyes... You talk about your depression..... I can relate to that.... Self Respect and Self Love.... cure depression... doing things to make yourself dependent on only yourself.... will help it.... You can only get out of depression when you love and appreciate yourself.... I know you can't do it... without cutting her loose.... It is you that has to make yourself feel that strong... It is you that has to make you feel wonderful... and it really sounds like you are dependent on other people to feel loved.... Here is a technique that has been proven to work.... Controlling your facial expressions and good body posture.... when you feel down.... throw on a smile (a big one) and focus on positive body language... do this for half an hour... this concious excercise has proved to cure depression.... A lot of us don't realize that these external expressions regulate internal emotional attachments.... Sorry for the long post.... Good luck.....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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The Good, The Bad, and the Ugly... Posted: 11/1/2005 7:39:41 AM
Thank You Pooky, Here was me thinking I was just doing basics.... I was trying to make it look artistic and not touched up by being too creative.... I understand Rainbow and your point... even minimal effects will give it a tampered look... I guess I should stay away from my knack of really making things surreal.... as really I thought those were tame.... not much done to them... I can get up over 100 layers when I start blending... I agree with you Photoshop is alot of fun.... Once again thank you for the input...

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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My X is trying to buy back my interest Posted: 10/31/2005 3:26:01 PM
I too thought that was very clear.

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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The Good, The Bad, and the Ugly... Posted: 10/30/2005 11:07:38 PM
Maybe I will try the cartoonish thing... on just the background.... Surprising how a guy who works on photography, has very few pictures of himself... guess I should turn the lense around or get a friend to take a few.... I was thinking of doing a real closeup on my face and then layering images of natural things coming through... although again that might not come across.... Thank you for the compliment... maybe I can make the closeup look like an animal... Although I'm working on a big project so it might be a little while... Thank you again Rainbow....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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My X is trying to buy back my interest Posted: 10/30/2005 8:40:32 PM
Some people nowadays use money to win back love because that is all they know... They are raised that way.... People inherently want what they can't have... I'm with Javan, you only abuse yourself by taking from her... whether she deserves it or not... you should be a better person... isn't that why you broke up with her in the first place....? Let her learn from the mistakes she made with you... a trophy is shiney.... be shiney my friend

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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The Good, The Bad, and the Ugly... Posted: 10/30/2005 8:22:49 PM
Sorry Rainbow, I learned some Graphic arts in my travels on the white horse... I thought it showed a creative touch... guess it could come off doctored... That wasn't the intent... Also the Prince story was an idea.... I used to write stories for kids... Thank you for the input... and the honesty...

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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The Good, The Bad, and the Ugly... Posted: 10/30/2005 6:38:59 PM
Thanx for the input buddy.... I was going for a creative way to talk about myself... hence the fairy tale about myself.... but I do understand your point.... Once again thank you for taking the time.... it is appreciated....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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The Good, The Bad, and the Ugly... Posted: 10/30/2005 12:03:22 AM
Looking to get some feedback, constructive criticism, and any other insight that I could use to improve my profile.... Please feel free to express yourself... I am open to suggestions.... and look forward to the different perspectives.... Thanking you in advance for your kindness or creulty....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Lots of first dates.....not many second ones... Posted: 10/29/2005 10:01:23 PM
I agree with Sum it was a clash of expectations... Games only help to weed out the nice guys, so there aren't any left. Online dating makes it more difficult to ascertain compatibility, although it is a good tool to meet people who you would not normally get a chance to meet. Especially if you have a busy schedule. Confidence is a vital part of igniting the right responses, as it reflects in your posture, body language, tone of voice and motion. This is critical to give off your true qualities and attract the right men, and keep them there. Have fun and others will join you, and you won't worry so much about the ones who missed out. It really was their loss.

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Once A Week Posted: 10/29/2005 9:32:25 PM
Sounds like you are looking for a reason... Asking others to decide the outcome won't make your decision any easier... but it is a decision you must make. "Don't demand out of others what you will not do, and give when you want to receive". Making your life what it should be is your responsibility, you are your own tour guide... it is as fun as you want it to be... Personally I plan for fun and adventure... it keeps me happy... I find the time to work hard in between.

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Ever have someone read your e-mails and don't delete them, but don't reply either?? Posted: 10/29/2005 8:52:09 PM
Courtesy is fresh... and the time some people take, and the originality they convey... make a great impression. I would rather someone flaked early on then find out about it later. I would think for most that would make it easier. You have to understand that for some, being organized and compassionate is hard work. Personally I like to write back those who take the time to get a hold of me, even with my busy schedule. A brief reply I can offer, even when I am uninterested. I enjoy being positive as it carries over into what I am working on. When you look at it as a filter it will give you the positive energy to meet those special people.

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Weeding out the lemons Posted: 10/29/2005 8:31:31 PM
Reality is strange.... If you conciously look to avoid something it will find you... I would look at the qualities in men that you are attracted to... People have a tendency to repeat past experiences because they manifest their outcomes... I read an article today that stated body language is a huge factor in the selection process of predators. Make a conscious effort to write down the qualities you want in a man, then figure out where that type of male would hang out. It is weird how some people go looking for their love in all the wrong places, and choose people who display qualities they do not want in a partner. Opposites do attract but you can find an Opposite male with the qualities you want if you look in the right places. Where are you meeting most of your dates...? I would change that location, way or type of venue... You should never put up with any of the types you listed, but the process of selection is much more important than the questions you ask. All the background checks in the world won't tell you enough and the best cons are never caught. Positive thought and action will get you the reaction you deserve.

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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the curse of the 'friend'...is there a cure? Posted: 9/24/2005 2:27:18 PM
Suzie, Thank you for the compliment... It was in my best interests to learn... so that when Miss Right walks up, I am can be ready... I like to help others too so it comes in handy...

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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stolen advice for nice guys Posted: 9/19/2005 7:36:42 AM
Nembatha, That was excellent advice... Few people can verbalize what you just wrote... Mr Nice Guy read carefully then read it again... I would suggest they write it on a blackboard 100 times.... I always tell my friends.... 3 Main Objectives to getting a Ladies Interest... Confidence Humour The Fun Challenge For the nice guys who listen, they meet alot of Nice women... Like you said it... Opposites Attract.. no need to be a jerk... just follow those 3 and you won't come off needy and desperate... But you neglected to give females advice.... you wouldn't believe how many times I heard women complain to me about this over the bar... Real simple equation... and I can save many a headache tablet.... Find Cute Guy + he stammers his words or is slightly nervous around you = Mr Right See Mr Smooth, is so smooth because he has notched so many posts, that he really isn't concerned what you think... plenty of fish... many more notches... The only reason Mr Cute Nice Guy is nervous is because he cares what you think... he stammers his words because he wants to say the perfect ones to you.... and if you play your cards right, you will have a caring, considerate partner, and a great father to your children in the future.... a man who will be there for the good times but most importantly for the bad.... Nembatha, You put the onus on Mr Nice Guy... but most men are the selectee's and not the selectors... Unfortunately very few Ladies have taken this advice from me... That's alright though, makes for a good laugh when they come back for more... Medicine doesn't taste so good then... lol

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Can't send email to certain people... Posted: 9/19/2005 6:33:03 AM
Hello wondering if you can help... there are a couple of people that I've tried to send mail too... unfortunately it never goes through... It is not the restrictions because I checked those... So if you can give me an answer that would be appreciated.

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Looking out for number one Posted: 9/10/2005 8:49:26 AM
See Suz another admirer of your pulsating matter.... We'll have to start a fan club soon... You'll have your own website too... lol Me and Stephanos will be the first members... Stephanos I find by just being a social friendly person, talking to people doesn't convict you of any serious crimes... it gives you social proof... As for being spurned unless you make a big deal of it... nobody will notice it... smile say your loss... and walk away laughing... from across the room... it won't look like anything except a Confident guy having a laugh... no need for the RoadBlock... I'm like you, I am selective... I can't jump to conclusions.... I have fun, talk to people, laugh, walk around, laugh some more... then I am in a position to know who I would like to monopolize... and when I get back... we already are perceived as friends... this is the gift of missing you reffered to earlier, and shows that you aren't needy or desperate... all you have to say is: it was nice chatting with you, but I still have a bunch of friends to catch up with...

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Working on an Article, need a Ladies Perspective.... Posted: 9/10/2005 7:57:24 AM
Thank you for the responses ladies.... I'm a little disappointed by the lack of input so far.... especially when it could make a difference... to both sexes... Harley, I don't think it's against the rules... but you are probably correct in that it could get out of hand... Personally I thought because we were talking about positives... that it wouldn't matter.. but I could see your view as well as maybe some people might not want the extra attention even though positive.. So if you would like to partake please do email me the profiles... just to spare the frail of character.. Orlandomac...what do YOU like in women's profiles?? That is prolly your answer...we like similar things as our co-gender! Besides the basics... there is a reason why they call it The Opposite sex.... and it is reflected in what each sex prefers... the preferences are distinct unto themselves... although I understand what you mean... cause the basics are the same... I thought about putting a picture of myself being fun and silly, but the cow kept waking up from the flash of the camera before I tipped it... lol (Warning to Frail Characters, no actual cows were tipped in the production of this imaginary story) Once again ladies thank you for your responses, we have uploaded them into our super computer, and our first production male clones will be programmed with your useful advice... although there is a bug in our first clone, he is a nice guy... so no one wants him... but he has lots of friends.... lol

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Working on an Article, need a Ladies Perspective.... Posted: 9/9/2005 9:46:13 AM
Thank you Squirrly, I appreciate it... I have some ideas already from researching... just looking for confirmation... or even a differing viewpoint... I believe in continuos learning.... I think this will be beneficial to both sides... once completed.. Although my profile is not an example, it is just me...

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Working on an Article, need a Ladies Perspective.... Posted: 9/9/2005 8:52:47 AM
Trvlingman your tips are usually bang on the money... Hopefully we'll get some good insight.... from a Ladies Perspective... should make for an interesting read....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Working on an Article, need a Ladies Perspective.... Posted: 9/9/2005 6:26:22 AM
I am researching Online Profiles for an article I'm writing, and would like to get some feedback on good profiles that you Ladies have Responded too.... What I would like is a top 3 list of profiles that interested you enough to respond... Preferably not because of the picture, but because of the content.... What was it about the content that had you interested...? What thoughts you had on replying.... What relationship were you expecting... And any other pertinent info, you would like to add... How much do you weigh a picture in to the factor of responding out of 10.... What angles for a photograph do you like best... For those too bashful to list profiles on here, you can message them to me... I thank you in advance for making the world a better place.... Of course I will be changing my profile to match your suggestions... for a purely scientific nature.... just to verify the results... lol

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Looking out for number one Posted: 9/8/2005 10:38:08 AM
Orlando: You've got me really thinking about this. I can easily imagine Suz, really thinking and easily imagine in the first two sentences... Your insistence on tormenting Stephanos and I, with your wanton exploitation of your pulsating brain, is not only rude, it is incomprehensible.... it shows a complete lack of consideration for our feelings... leading us on like that.... you bad bad girl.... Ingenious I tell you.... two different guys walking up to me and trying to strike up a conversation. One might totally creep me out, and the other might get my number. What's the difference between them? (No.. the correct answer is NOT that one is better looking.) For you and I, that is self explanatory, but to the Average Joe... they start the whole thing by Roadblocking themselves... with what they don't have... I have to reiterate this, time and time again to men... the glass is half full... any more and you would be spilling it all over everyone... not enough and you will be thirsty... Is it because one is truly confident, and one is only faking it? Is it because one has a natural quirky sense of humor and the other memorized the joke so he could use it on the ladies? The only difference is Confidence... men believe in trying (they think it will show that they are worthy of her time), what it shows is the opposite... As you said, it comes off fake and unnatural.... I think it might be a good thing for introverted men to practice their conversational skills on women on a regular basis, without actually having the goal of "getting the digits". Practice makes perfect... Personally I don't think you can really get to know someone in 5 to 10 mins... since birds make so much noise in the morning, while I'm trying to sleep... I try to kill as many of them with one stone....lol call me efficient... I go for digits too.... maybe I am caring and considerate.... but I think it's rude to laugh and have fun, and not invite someone to join you over a philosophical convo and a whip creamed Chocolate Affair.... best way to approach women in public. I like it when a guy starts talking to me spontaneously.. but if he--- pretends to be interested---- I can SMELL his ulterior motives. Two ways to start a spontaneous convo: 1 Make a Statement about something in the environment around you.... This could be as simple as noticing she is a lil peeved by the wait in a line.... Statement: This lineup sure is taking long.... I don't think she likes you... must be your shoes.... insert your laugh here 2 Ask an Open Ended question (anything that can't be answered yes or no) Excuse me where did you get that big bag? .... How many midgets can you fit in there? insert her laugh here You can use both together, or use them seperately... you can use them straight, but are better with a little humour splashed on em... Both will get your foot in the door... Personally I enjoy meeting people, they are so interesting when you remove the protective glass barrier.... and I fly by the seat of my pants... so the convo could start anywhere and end anywhere.... I get a kick out of when straight guys say, Hey your cool, we should go out and party sometime... whats your number.... Stephanos, shyness (the fear of humiliation) is perceived as a lack of confidence.... how many guys you know who are Confident and Shy.... you have self confidence in other areas, when you have experience and know what to do, you are comfortable.... You're a bright guy the LEARNING CURVE shouldn't have any DANGER SIGNS on the side of the road.... So practice like Suz said... and you should do it day in and day out... you will be emanating soon.... the above recipe was for you....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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Broken hearted and he doesn't even know.... Posted: 9/7/2005 9:10:15 AM
Miss T Bubbles, I'm sorry things are hard for you at the moment... but time cures all ailments, one way or another... even missed opportunities... How can you be so sure he doesn't feel that way about you.... is it internalized or did he say that to you...? You also have a moral dilemna on your hands because of the timing of it... if you do stay away, don't get yourself in a position where he is involved in a relationship and you still are FWB's... This will undermine your self esteem more, and if you ever do finally unite, you will have a huge issue as it pertains to infidelity because you approved of it in the past... IF at any point he suggests it to you, politely say no... not under the circumstances... My second question would be: When did you start noticing these feelings..? Was it when he started dating other women...? Personally I would set him free like Mrs Lucci suggested... and if he returns then don't waste the second opportunity... Until then I would suggest getting busy, take up some new hobbies, or some old interests... to occupy your time and give you peace of mind... Also get out there find someone handsome in your area, someone to stimulate your mind, and energy.... it will help with your self esteem and you might just pleasantly be surprised.... with a new muse....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

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How Do You Keep From Falling? Im so afraid of it Posted: 9/7/2005 8:20:11 AM
Timeless.... It wouldn't be love if their were no risks.... No guts, no glory.... You might have to kiss a few Toads before you kiss The Frog Prince... but unless you try the real guy might not notice...

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

Msg: 9 (view)

Face or Body? Posted: 9/7/2005 8:04:22 AM
For me it is real simple... they have something to hide... I'm not saying it is an ugly face... I see it as a contradiction of there moral views and personal lifestyle... Alot of warning signs go up for me.... Issues such as: self esteem... honesty... inner child... deception... morals... confidence... relationships... and much more... For me personally it is not about the body or the face.... it is about the person... and sometimes you have to knock on alot of doors... to find a decent person...

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

Msg: 4 (view)

Women fall in love for what they hear. Men fall in love for what they see! Posted: 9/7/2005 7:46:32 AM
Women fall in love with what they hear...? Too generic.... there is alot more substance and criteria that has to be met... Country Sugar says it best, he can say all the right things, but if he doesn't have the substance inside, she won't be interested... Just like I am not just interested in a pretty face... I need substance....

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

Msg: 53 (view)

the curse of the 'friend'...is there a cure? Posted: 9/7/2005 7:05:30 AM
Then back to plan A, my first set of advice.... but I would still be highly wary if I were you...

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

Msg: 33 (view)

Looking out for number one Posted: 9/7/2005 6:56:33 AM
I appreciate what you ladies are saying... I'm not the best looking guy around.... but I haven't been rejected a phone number, in I don't know how long... It is hard to tell over the net... how I come across, because all your reading is the words.... which total to about 7% of the communication we share in a regular exchange.... Speed, Tone, Body Language make up 93%... as per recent studies... In real life it is much different... as your exchange has less to do with the verbal aspect... Try it out, it works for ladies too... the same way... I would suggest to use it on men that you would consider highly, so as to see the real potential... prove me wrong... Suz after meeting your brain... you could probably dump a whole batch of fish guts on me and still get my number.... but thats cause you're special... lol Personally I rarely ask for the email address... but for someone lacking in Confidence, it is a way to get quick results as it is a safe bet, and build the Confidence from there... Repeated action, gains Confidence... Here is a recent example: I was getting my hair done last week... beautiful hairstylist floating around.... one of the other customers tried to take her to lunch... then asked for her number.... she declined both... same lady 10 mins later, I got her number in 3 mins.... The other guy was much better looking then me... so why the different result in such a short time span.... For me, he lacked the Confidence, The Humour, wasn't much of a Fun Challenge and had no effective plan.... Just having a plan and being Confident in it, makes a world of difference... it usually relaxes the person enough to action it, whilst being fun and humourous... I don't want to give you ladies the wrong impression, I'm no slut.... I don't run around notching my bed post... on the contrary... I am picky... you would be too, if you were brought up with 3 amazing ladies, as I was.... It makes it difficult to find a partner because of my elevated level of expectation.... It is a curse sometimes, but who says life is meant to be easy anyways.... This can mean high volume, as their is no fool proof way of seperating the flakey ones from the good, but at least I have a chance to call them... to find out.... Mrs Picky, of course this method isn't 100%.... but when you are the selectee trying to gain the interest of the selector... it is highly effective... Suz as is always the case with you.... You are bang on... it is a fine line without practice... and experience... Without Humour, Charm, and Good Conversational skills... you will be considered annoying... Emanating is also the most effective form of Confidence, because it is non verbal... Mr Bond was an excellent example of this.... if you have to force the Confidence on people then they will know it is a ruse.... EDIT: hard to emanate though if you don't have it... I would be interested to hear your ladies opinions, on what a good way to get a phone number from a person you see at the bus stop across the street.... or another first chance encounter... I am working on an article, and I am looking to get some feedback from beautiful ladies... although I will just vouch for you Mrs Picky as the cartoon dog isn't pretty, but your nick name... and the lack of a pic, leads me to believe you are who you are.... As for games, most of my articles are about teaching men the effective way for a nice guy to gain attraction... and it is firmly based on an ingenious female perspective... The skillsets I teach were devoloped and mastered by females.... lets face facts here, women understand instinctively, and through social conditioning, the art of love better then 80% of the male population.... I personally don't see it as a game.... because that would suggest a winner and a loser.... I like to think of it as an art... beneficial to both.... all though most people do refer to it as the game...

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

Msg: 50 (view)

the curse of the 'friend'...is there a cure? Posted: 9/6/2005 4:44:36 PM
This type of woman testing you... no... can't be... lol Did you tell her, those pants made her a$$ look big? Stop letting her control you.... and use you for her amusement... let her be your amusement...

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

Msg: 30 (view)

Looking out for number one Posted: 9/6/2005 4:15:10 PM
Stephanos, real simple dude... Say to her: you re interesting.... do you have an email address.... most women do... she will say yes... Then hand her paper and pen, and tell her to write it down.... then tell her to write her number down too... maybe you will call her... If she says she doesn't have an email, tease her about living in a cave... clubbing her dinners.... then tell her to give you her number... lol If she has an email but hesitates on the number, just tell her you will only call 20 to 30 times a day... laugh and point to the paper.... say write it.... That simple that easy... most ladies will think they are missing out on an opportunity with a confident guy, so they will write and ponder the consequences later.... Confident people never ask.... they tell in an inviting way... The humour part just shows that you are normal... alieviating some of the concerns she has, because you are laughing about it and not making a big deal over it... I had to learn this stuff, as I have a vested interest, I don't want to miss out on Miss Right by not being able to gain her interest... Confidence is key though Stephanos, you need to practice it... Confident Action will get the Reaction you want... I have walked up to perfect strangers at bus stops, in clubs, in the mall, at weddings, and at church... and walked away in less then 5 mins after starting convo, then the You're Interesting and then I get her number... It really is that easy my friend...

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

Msg: 48 (view)

the curse of the 'friend'...is there a cure? Posted: 9/6/2005 3:53:55 PM
Don't worry about it dude... just got one of those weird sensations... and I wouldn't put it past her to fabricate this scenario... I will add she wouldn't have you guys there for nothing... and she definitely will be stirring.... What an ego boost to have guys fight for you... hollow I tell you...

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

Msg: 16 (view)

Guys who give pix a 10 just to get the girl's attention Posted: 9/6/2005 6:55:28 AM
Personally I wouldn't rate myself a ten but I do have a bunch of ladies that thought so.... Must have been the Beer Goggles... any other ladies that would like to have a pair and vote for me.... lol I have always believed beauty is in the eye of the beholder... and my ten might not necessarily be your ten... but I am very appreciative of the ladies who did classify me as a 10... Besides they have great taste... lol

arc_angel

Joined: 8/25/2005

Msg: 45 (view)

the curse of the 'friend'...is there a cure? Posted: 9/6/2005 4:11:18 AM
Chattel, her name wouldn't happen to be Dian P. would it....? Just wondering because I saw my Ex with a guy that looked just like you... If it is I assure you she is one big headcase.... I wouldn't even know where to begin...

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