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Joined: 6/5/2008

Msg: 463 (view)

Why would anyone want to date you? Posted: 11/19/2008 9:40:26 AM
P S ...I have had "meetings", 2 dinner dates, 1 each person, and arguments over where and when to meet. I think this site attracts men who like to look, chat, talk on the phone, NOT actually DATE.

Joined: 6/5/2008

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Why do men ask me what do I do for a living? Posted: 8/17/2008 9:40:17 AM
It is an o.k. question, but for most people it does not describe us well. We are not just what we do for a living, or how many toys we have collected. Where is you heart? might be a better question to really get to know someone. I have no doubt that some men felt used financially in the past, and have their guard up. My last "meeting person"NOT a date, just a first meeting was a doozie. We sat on a bench and talked for an hour. He asked "What do you do for a living?" even though it was clearly posted. I am a teacher. I also do not like labels, as I am also an artist, mother, grandmother, designer, computer wiz/geek, writer, upholsterer, wallpaper person, driver, etc, and have been paid for all of these, if you count alimony as being a paid mother. If you are uncomfortable with the question, just turn it around, and answer whatever you like. I am not working in my field now, but I enjoy...(fill-in the blank) This speaks to who you are as a person. Even though e are supposed to be in a new age, many women have sacrificed career for family.

Joined: 6/5/2008

Msg: 41 (view)

They wanted to hold my hand at the first meeting? Posted: 7/27/2008 6:54:57 AM
How many times do you think you should "outline the bounds"? And here isanother question: "Who can I slap in the face?" It is disrespectful to grab onto a woman, on the first sight. This one person was clinging whenever another man was near, to show "we" were "together". I think it isa male thing, NOT THE LANGUAGE OF love. HOW CONDESCENDING of you, Remington55 ! !

Joined: 6/5/2008

Msg: 40 (view)

They wanted to hold my hand at the first meeting? Posted: 7/27/2008 6:45:59 AM
No, cowboy, not so innocent. The hand holding at 95 degrees when you are walking is annoying with a total stranger. The first time you see someone you do not grab their body, any part, except to offer a handshake. Then let the physical be gradual, and reciprocated (returned) ?if the woman is moving away, do not keep grabbing, take the hint. It does not mean the woman is wrong, just not feeling mutually on physical contact. Respect the other person.

Joined: 6/5/2008

Msg: 39 (view)

They wanted to hold my hand at the first meeting? Posted: 7/27/2008 6:40:26 AM
he darted for my face to kiss immediately, then kept darting forward, lurching, while i was darting back. I firmly said, "I just met you", he apologized. Then the hand holding, immediately, I kept avoiding, he kept on, ...sorry, then grabbed my back and hard, to give a massage, so THAT was really out of bounds, I had to scold him like a child, "HANDS TO YOURSELF'", He said, "Oh, sorry" I find it is very annoying. I ama very touchy-feely mate, after we have established something over time, and gradually. First dates: What is the purpose? Just trying to aggravate women? Do I want to be aggravated again?

Joined: 6/5/2008

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Why would anyone want to date you? Posted: 7/16/2008 9:05:10 PM
he said i was very attractive, interesting, and we had some things in common. he really like d my profile. he really enjoyed my company. what he really wanted was... ... to move full speed ahead, quick. Why would anyone want to date me? After we meet, they relax, have fun, and can tell i am a good person who they want to see again. Trust might be a factor. I am sure i do not appeal to everyone, and i do not try. i just express myself honestly, and time tells.

Joined: 6/5/2008

Msg: 220 (view)

If you're independant, why R U here? Posted: 6/16/2008 7:26:20 AM
Personally, I am independant; financially, emotionally, physically, etc. One can depend on their committed partner and be independant as well. Some women are very dependant on a man financially or emotionally, (co-dependant). A co-dependant will not make a decision on their own. It is different than being considerate. In a healthy relationship, you depend on each other, equally, while you may also be independant. Get a dictionary or read a book, if you are still confused. Some men like to brag about what they own, do not discuss who they are, and try to "BUY" people with promises of great dates. That does nothing for me. For myself, I would like to share my life with someone else on a long term. I am capable of commitment for the long haul, which is different than dependant. It is nice if you can share emotional ups and downs with someone special who understands and cares for you. Most people are not respectful to single women, and it gets annoying after a while. And we women must spell it out for you, R E S P E C T. I have to check my profile, and put it in.

Joined: 6/5/2008

Msg: 403 (view)

Am I wrong, you make the call... Posted: 6/15/2008 9:41:19 AM
1. Let it die. It's better to know what kind of person she is. Next time, make it clear before you accept the invite, as to whom will pay for what. It is all mixed up these days, no example of protocaol to follow. And most people break all the rules of protocol anyway. I went on my first coffee/tea meeting (date?) He was late, i bought my own, he never offered to pay, although he did he first and insistant invite (3 times) --and since i was not cheryl tiegs with 14" of long blonde hair, (I mentioned i cut my hair shorter) -- I think he was disappointed in my looks. Well, at least we talked for 1/2 hour, and he never said he wanted to meet again. Is that the norm for this type of fishing? Are most people looking for a great big FISH? People are different, interesting, and never cease...

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