The most fearful words for some guys...
Commitment, Responsibility, getting married, having kids LOL

Was there a better way to handle the situation?

This is like complaining about people not all being like Mahatma Gandhi!

I mean one was a pathological liar who I busted through some research and one is so creepy and scary that I believe he is a danger to women. Both presented themselves as educated professionals who were just normal, nice guys. I feel traumatized and shell shocked. These men are allowed to be here preying on women? Is there nothing we can do?

No she 100% not seeing anyone else. She has no time. She has a kid she has to look after constantly and works long hours.

She doesn't text me much on the mobile and takes some time to reply to any texts but we speak a good amount on here but it's difficult to understand what's what. I just don't get why it takes so long to reply to simple texts. If she replies at all. Kind of feels like I'm doing all work but I know she likes me and wants to meet again just I dunno feels like all the work is done by me. Kind of confused...

If you are just "dating", is it necessary to let those you date know that you are dating several other people?

Would you only tell them if they asked or is it something everyone assumes until a declaration of wanting more is made?

Is there a guideline as in if it is less than 5 dates It's not my business?

I mean, if they ask "What are you doing today?" and the true answer is "I have a date" Would you tell them that?

Additionally, if you knew that someone you were dating was dating others would that prevent you from wanting more with them?

I'm actually 'happily' unmarried.

And how old is this "young surgeon"

much of what i noticed about men citing their reasons for not wanting to get married is based on fear- things that have NOT occurred but is treated like it will occur.

I thought the top of the line Eagle Talon also had all wheel steer.
Chevrolet Trucks had that not so long ago, but it faded fast.

Delorean after having his own proposal turned down by the GM brass, was told to Potiacify the Camaro.
They did a good job.
But yes they had different engines. Both Pushrod V8's.

Bring back

Pontiac Fiero.

The best small car US had ever built.

Your all saying hes guilty , so then that means Children DID suffer? so then you all go ahead and try to qualify yourselves in talking about rape and abuse
and saying oh but we're funny cos its a joke.

The games are killing me, I will admit to being a fairly emotional guy, and the past week has been rough... It is the romantic interests being let down that sucks but over the year of liking this girl we just happened to become fairly good friends also. What sucks right now is not only the idea that I am being played with by a romantic interest but that someone who I considered a friend is also rejecting me.

Really? Wow, I have the next couple weeks pretty much filled up and I have already started making some plans for two different weekends in October. I honestly don't know how people don't have plans and dates for a couple weeks in advance. I have always made plans in advance. To me asking someone out should be at least a week or two in advance.

i think people dont really represent themselves in all honesty...ideally men here should be upfront about what they get up to so that the woman has the same option to make a concious decison as to how she wants to proceed in her next steps.

Asking about birth control and her menstrual cycle shows pre-meditation and that he was not impaired.

I personally would prefer to have a 200 lb man defending/rescuing me as opposed to a 125 lb woman. Men are naturally stronger and as such, naturally better at some jobs/positions…

But feel free to continue moving the goal posts any which way that best suits your agenda - I'm done.

It's there to protect society from criminal activity.

I personally think that only crimes that should be persued are those where the victim feels like they need to persue the crime. If the victim doesnt want to persue it, they should drop it.

Is that what you're saying? And if not, then why bring the abandonment issue into it? What difference would it make and HOW does it change the fact that he drugged and raped another human being ...there...genderless and ageless... is that better?

Roman spent time in jail being evaluated. This was prior to his being sentenced....ergo, it did not count as part of his sentence. (though this is a technicality....as most times this time will count---> IT DOES NOT HAVE TO.....it's up to the judge)

LIE. well, disengenuous at best. You have insinuated that Roman paying the girl off, and her subsequent pushing for a dismissal should be enough payment for his criminal act.

No question here. A 13 year old is a child. "or not" does not come into play.

no, this is what you WANT the issue to be. The issue is that a 43 year old man raped a 13 year old girl. This is Factual and is not in dispute.

No Zeke. People are not trying to have it both ways. You are providing the red herring.

Or, I'm guessing here, that you are suggesting that the girl's mother is guilty of child abandonment AND Roman Polanski is guilty of rape.

What does this have to do with Roman Polanski drugging and raping her???

Either way Zeke, Roman Polanski raped her.

Doesn't matter if he paid her off.

Doesn't matter if she doesn't want to press charges.

Doesn't matter if the mother is guilty of "child abandonment" (which she isn't). It just doesn't matter.

And by you supporting him, you are raping her again.

As far I know, he hasn't served any time for the crime to which he pled guilty.

And whatever civil arrangement he may have made with his victim doesn't affect his guilt for that crime, or his punishment for it, in the least.

And whether Mr. Polanski has been "punished more than enough" is a decision for the District Attorney to make--not the victim.

At the ripe old age of 13, let's say that your child (doesn't matter if it's a son or a daughter) gets drugged and SODOMIZED by a 43 year old man.

After you find out about it, your little prince/princess says "It's ok daddy, I said it was ok.......and besides, it's your fault for leaving me alone at school/soccer practice/ballet"

Are you going to feel the same way?

If your answer is NO, then STFU and welcome to humanity.

There is absolutely NO defense for a 43 year old having sex with a 13 year old. ABSOLUTELY NONE.

Those of you defending this man are total toolbags.

I was told by a middle school teacher and an Elementary school principle the same crock.
If you take your kids Nintendo and TV away, it is a form of child abuse, even though you paid for it. Also not putting chips and cookies in my sons lunch box was affecting him mentally as the other kids ate that stuff.

If women kick us in the balls we in turn are allowed to do something equally as painful, simple as that. I'll even be nice and let them choose what that is.

In fact, there was a study by one of the Fed's own branches (Minnesota maybe?) that indicated that there was NO credit freeze whatsoever, and that interbank lending was proceeding at the normal rate.

Now on to the Roman Polanski case. He's not a murderer. he's a rapist, but not even a real rapist, a statutory rapist

I don't remember most of the 80's.

And might I add : bad decade for all things hair, clothes, movies.... bad bad bad.

Settled out of court at 13?

Turn away all those bucks?

I am sure she has defended him because of some clause in that settlement

I don't want him punished for any other reason than he is a child molester,

and I can place a good bet she was not the last. Probably not the first.

Child rapist don't change.

How many do you know that claim innocence and blame it all on the police, judges, lawyers, court system, and so on....

And your proof that this was the case here? That the DEFENDANT said it was?!?!

Yeah, I can totally see how allowing your child to be alone with a photographer would make it your fault instead of his if he decides to slip her a quaalude, and stick his penis into her vagina and anus.

What he did was reprehensible and I can't believe people are actually excusing this...

I'm confused. Are you saying because she's old enough to model, she's old enough to rape?
Babies model. Old people model.

Except he didn't - he didn't pay up.

It strikes me that if people voted down the taxes, they would have expected cutbacks in services to keep the budget in line.

Why wasn't the budget kept in line with what the people voted for?...Did they also vote to borrow money to keep the services going, or was that a fiscally irresponsible action of government (to garner votes?)

I'd say that people vote for the politicians who lie to them and "sell" them a bill of goods.Only later do they find the goods have been billed to the people (at an exhorbitant markup and after the crooked politicians take their cut of course)

You are right of course; you strike me as an honest man, so you would never make it in a profession run by crooks, like used car sales, law, or politics. Honest men make lousy crooks!

Be that as it may, I think we could create a society of "Utopians" that could eventually grow to encompass the human race (or maybe not).

Well, I said about 6 months on my other post, but my profile has 2 from August and one from last January. I don't honestly think there's been much change.