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Impossible Made Possible

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Do the Holidays add an extra yearning ? Posted: 11/25/2009 2:52:31 PM
Holidays are great! It remind many people to open up and give love a chance.

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Would a person who suffered a brain injury be a turn off for you? Posted: 11/21/2009 3:48:32 PM
I think it is important to keep it out in the open from the beginning. But you too must be open to someone who also comes with a situation which requires patience, kindness, and understanding.

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Married woman becoming pregnant as the result of rape - does husband stay or leave Posted: 11/21/2009 3:44:50 PM
It is situations like these that you will be glad that you marriage a lady/man with the same religious principles as yourself.

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Have you found and then lost your soulmate? Posted: 11/21/2009 3:39:09 PM
If it is your soulmate (meaning someone who fits you perfectly) then you would never part. This is usually a case of looking back at the good points in a horrible relationship. but the relationship caved in because it didn't fit....and it was not your soulmate. Chin up! Move on! Your soulmate is still waiting.

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strange signs?! Posted: 11/21/2009 3:34:42 PM
The biggest problem is WHY did you let her go when you first left? If she was special you would never have let her go. That's a truth. So your chasing her has nothing to do with love.

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Meant to be alone Posted: 11/21/2009 3:22:21 PM
You must like yourself before you will respect anyone who loves you. If someone calls you beautiful and you think you are ugly then their comment makes me a liar in your mind. So change your mindset.

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On professionals and commitment (interesting one) Posted: 11/21/2009 3:20:29 PM
When you travel so much is human instinct to have some stability and a home to come back too...so marriage is definitely appealling in such a situation. that explains the high percentages.

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Oh, its to soon to have sex... yah, blah, blah, blaw Posted: 11/21/2009 2:55:43 PM
I have done research on this subject and found that sex will not improve your situation. If someone has subconsciencely planned to dump you from day one...then it is actually smart to wait awhile. The upside to waiting it much larger.

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He is 32 and lives at home? Posted: 11/2/2009 5:49:34 PM
All of my brothers and sisters have had to move home during our lifetime because of jobs situations. But none of us ever liked it...and we moved out as quick as possible!

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why only date good looking prima donna's? Posted: 11/2/2009 5:40:14 PM
Peachez_03 says something that wise and intelligent...and I am sad because she won't take emails from non-locals. :(

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why only date good looking prima donna's? Posted: 11/2/2009 5:27:48 PM
Your ABOUT ME said "None"....that's it!!! When you don't put a profile up that shows your personality...then we can only go on looks. Sad because your main picture is cute but the profile was a turnoff. :(

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seeing guy for 2 months and he still on pof Posted: 11/2/2009 5:24:52 PM
The key is that he knows it makes you uncomfortable...and yet he still does it. That's a big red flag!

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The truth about Introverts. Posted: 11/2/2009 4:53:31 PM
Speaking for the Extroverts. We are very much misunderstood. We enjoy down time. We just don't need it. Extroverts find the quiet in the chaos. We enjoy being in the mix so we can be involved if we want to...not because we have too. Extroverts listen but being a "constant talker" doesn't make you an extrovert. But we do enjoy converation and othen like to discuss life as it happens. Life is like a movie to us but in a movie it is rude to talk...but in life you can ask questions or make comments. "What was that guy thinking wearing only one green sock?" It is indeed an orientation brought on by our upbringing. It is not easy for introvert and extroverts to stay together. It can happen but not easy. Extroverts are fun. We don't minding going to the movies tonight unplanned. We see something exciting and we don't mind trying it out right now. Extroverts are deep people. But we judge others on actions and not words. People rarely get deep with us because we seem happy so everyone assumes everything is perfect for us. Just because we don't let life slow us down doesn't mean we can't be hurt and that we don't care. When they are in a jam people usually call us. Good...because we like to help.

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How Easily Can You Detect Red Flags Posted: 11/2/2009 4:32:12 PM
If you find yourself making excuses...red flag.

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Sensitive issues Posted: 11/2/2009 4:31:00 PM
Nobodys perfect. At least she admits it and is willing to try to deal with it. So are you perfect?

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the right girl but i got no moves Posted: 11/2/2009 4:28:27 PM
I agree with her! Stand up. It may not pay of now but she may come back to you after some time. It happened with my best friend.

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Gender Shift Posted: 11/2/2009 4:20:32 PM
Each guy is different. But I think on average guys enjoy a really lady who has a slight interest in their interests.

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Saying I love you for the first time Posted: 11/2/2009 4:19:23 PM
Say it when you can back it up.

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Disgusted yet Not Flattered Posted: 11/2/2009 4:18:32 PM
I think the combo of the full back tattoo and the "I get violent sometimes" in your profile may give them an idea you are either kinky or crazy. I'd remove the violent part because the tat is pretty cool.

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Being together for 30, 40, 50 years. Posted: 11/2/2009 4:15:24 PM
Everyone I know who's married that long and happy says..."The relationship must have a base and communication". The base is another word for similar principles and beliefs.

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How to build chemistry with the nice guy after always going for the bad boy? Posted: 11/2/2009 4:14:03 PM
This has to do with your past. You need to see a pro and get it handle. Your issues with your father are cropping up and now your past is ruining your present.

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Confused & upset - Why do men do this? Posted: 11/2/2009 4:12:16 PM
He really wasn't into you. He liked you but didn't love you. If a guy loves you he'll hustle to call you back. We fear losing something good.

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Dealing with Ex's Death Posted: 11/2/2009 4:10:15 PM
Donate them to a charity. That way you make a positive statement with the gifts. Holding on to them is not good mentally for you.

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how come women initiate the breakup 80% of the time? Posted: 11/2/2009 4:09:04 PM
In my 10 year studyof relationships it showed that its more like 70% to 30% with guys breaking up more. If you included "mental breakups" then guys would swamp the catagory to like 90%. Guys won't officially breakup most times because they still use a girl for sex, money, or emotional crutches or due to pure fear of the breakup process. Girls tend to breakup because the man is already gone but he hasn't said so "officially".

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Buying his ex-girlfriend a car? Posted: 11/2/2009 4:02:16 PM
Guys can only have a #1 girl in their life. It is how our brain works. Once you are #2 you can never become a #1 again. I worry that all this paying for a car business is stuff you'd only do if the girl was a #1 in your brain. Which means you should move on. I wrote a blog on My Spac called the ULTIMATE RELATIONSHIP TOOL. You should read it. It's too much to write out here. Good luck, Paul Udouj

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Love,Quality of life and who pays Posted: 11/2/2009 3:58:49 PM
One little car wreck and you are paralyzed for life. Why wait for that type of situation to understand that true love has nothing to do with money or earning it.

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COWARD ! - The Ignoring Game Posted: 11/2/2009 3:57:12 PM
My research shows that he planned to break up with from day one. My advice is to 100% move on...because he broke it from the beginning.

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Long term or friends?? Quick question here Posted: 10/25/2009 11:51:47 PM
Also you might get a close male friend's opinion (since you don't have an exact full body shot) but you don't appear to be in the "A few extra pounds" catagory. That's for heavier set ladies.

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Long term or friends?? Quick question here Posted: 10/25/2009 11:49:22 PM
I think honesty is the best policy. It may seem to slow the flow to put LONG TERM but that means it weeded out a lot of guys you would have had to move on from anyway. DATING is acceptable and I'm sure if a good man falls for you it won't matter what it says. FYI: When I do my own personal searches I always do LONG TERM first because these ladies usually aren't just looking for someone to pass the time with.

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Guess What I Want?! Posted: 10/25/2009 11:26:26 PM
On the upside I do like your profile name. It's memorable.

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Need profile review Posted: 10/25/2009 10:56:02 PM
Also... on the picture thought. Almost every cell phone these days has a camera on it. So there is a 100% chance you have a good friend or co-worker with a camera on their phone. They can email it to you from the phone. I do it for co-workers all the time for their accounts. If they are Christian friends then they should be more then happy to help you out. Faith.

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Need profile review Posted: 10/25/2009 10:53:22 PM
Yes, definitely add more pictures...I too thought you were a girl. Like the lady said add 'Jesus' and 'God 'and 'faith' to your search. As a professional musician I like to see people talk about their love of music...but the stuff about the demo songs needs to go. It leaves a "I'm hunting fame" taste in my mouth. If anyone in the industry reads that they won't date you. Just an FYI.

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Never had a problem like this one before Posted: 10/25/2009 10:41:52 PM
Yes, I tried to email you to help you but was restricted. Here's my opinion. 1.) Don't list what books, movies, and "travel" you like...instead take one of each and say WHY you like it or WHERE you travelled and how great it was. Give us a look at how you think and what you truely like. That will tell us a ton more about you. 2.) I'd get rid of the picture of you in red. The lighting is bad and it makes your face look heavily makeuped. 3.) The picture of you in black with your hand over your head is breath takingly beautiful in its charm. I'd have that as my profile picture. Good luck and may love find its way to you soon. :)paul!

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critique, please... Posted: 10/25/2009 10:29:10 PM
First you have a beautiful face...and it should be showcased in your main picture. Deleted everything about what everyone else thinks. The profile rambles about nothing until you get to the Douglas quote. Istead start with the Douglas quote and tell what that quote means to you. Next explain you love for off the beaten path bands. Do not speak to anyone who might misunderstand...this profile is for Mr. Right...not for the haters so don't waste the words on them by saying "I'm not a satanist". Those two thoughts alone will show who you are. Give the boys a taste of your personality and the right ones will want more. Good luck out there! Chin up! :)Paul!

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is a woman's personality directly related to her appearance? Posted: 10/25/2009 9:36:59 PM
No. But personality can be defined by the picture she uses to represent her profile. Why would you ever add a blurry photo? We live in a world were everyone has a camera on their phone!

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Here is my theory on why I am the ONLY one he has ever been faithful to Posted: 10/25/2009 9:34:24 PM
If he cheated on everyone to fill a wound in his soul...then his soul is still wounded and he will try and fill it by cheating on you too. Cheating is not a statement it's a internal emotional action.

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no privacy? Posted: 10/25/2009 9:30:05 PM
Meet privately with your boyfriend and come up with a "end date" on when the friend must leave. Have him tell his friend.

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Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay? Posted: 10/25/2009 9:26:33 PM
The world is full of ***holes but that's why it means so much more when you meet us gentlemen.

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Are all women nuts?/Where are all the good ones at? Posted: 10/25/2009 9:21:38 PM
It sounds like you are finding woman who are not your equals. You hope that "saving" them will make them love you. But a partnership not based in equality will always be lopsided and eventually collapse. Start looking for a "partner" or even someone better than yourself who forces you to be a better person. Keep looking...she's out there!

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Wouldn't it be great... Posted: 10/25/2009 9:18:51 PM
....everyone included a full body photo on their profile.

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What is a lost soul? Posted: 10/25/2009 8:00:47 PM
If he tells you he's a "lost soul" tell him he better find God or get Yahoo Maps on his iPhone... cause you aren't going to spend your life waiting for him to be found. LOL!

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I wanna know are ALL of you guys out there just interested in SEX Posted: 10/25/2009 7:58:34 PM
I'm interested in a sense of humor.

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why does it suck trying to find someone decent in Arkansas? Posted: 10/25/2009 7:56:04 PM
She quit on love because she was angry. Anyone who kicks love will find it not coming back to their door.

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Victim Of My First Internet Dating Posted: 10/25/2009 7:53:53 PM
This isn't a "internet is a bad spot" story....it's just a bad relationship story. Let go of the anger and hate so you can make room for future love. You'll find love...chin up!

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really Guys - how boring can it get???? Posted: 10/25/2009 7:51:16 PM
If a guy asks for nakes pictures then that is a good sign to move on. There are lots of bad apples out there....but lots of good ones too....if you look. Chin up! And keep looking.

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the unwanted guy Posted: 10/25/2009 7:44:29 PM
For a preacher I'm saddened by your lack of faith. Go back over your profile and put in the positives of how God has shaped your life... and dump the "college kids doing your bidding" stuff. Show the beauty inside you and the right girl will fall in love with the REAL you. Faith & Hope can be very attractive. That Jesus was pretty smart after all! :) Sorry that you now have a guy in "View Me" section. LOL! It was just me.

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Young engaged woman needs advice... Posted: 10/25/2009 7:39:12 PM
I think the whole issue was boiled down to your last fact statement... "When we are together, we seem to not have much to talk about." You went on to say you spend time apart when you should be together. All the other "positives" you speak of I could find in a lot of other men. I don't see why you love this guy and why you guys are perfect together? Not enjoying each others company is a big reason not to get married. WORST CASE...you know things aren't 100%....so don't rush to the alter. Give it some time and see where it goes.

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4 months and I still have not seen his home Posted: 10/25/2009 7:33:16 PM
It not "if you see his home" or "not see his home"...the point is that it makes you uncomfortable not seeing it. The keep work is COMFORT. He should let you see his place because it will make you comfortable. Relationships are first about comfort. What else is he doing that makes you feel unease? If it's a pattern then it is a red flag. Never be afraid to voice your fears or uncomfortable feelings. A good man will always ease them. Good luck and chin up!

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Is desperation always bad? Posted: 10/25/2009 7:30:01 PM
Desperation IS bad. Relationships are teamwork. You need to focus on what you DO bring to the table of love...not what you LACK. Make sure your profile reflects your positives. Keep your chin up! Love is out there.

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Would you date a cheater Posted: 10/25/2009 7:27:49 PM
Don't date cheaters. It's not the cheating...but the inner woundedness that drives them to hurt others. Only they (with God's help) can heal themselves. Otherwise you will be another victum dumped into their darkness.

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