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 paulen
Joined: 6/7/2008
Msg: 2273 (view)
 
DAILY QUOTES
Posted: 8/3/2008 7:06:55 AM


That's why so many people are miserable. They're not being true to themselves.
 paulen
Joined: 6/7/2008
Msg: 167 (view)
 
why are men so rude to women, judging them by looks
Posted: 7/25/2008 3:51:22 PM
[I am not a Barbie,]

I interpret "Barbie" as someone that isn't necessary pretty, but fake. So when I say that I'm not a Barbie, I mean that I'm real-not perfect, not trying to be perfect, outdoorsy, know how to work, athletic.

Barbie sits there with too much make-up on and kind of the blonde without too much going on in her head. Am I way off? I better change my profile. lol
 paulen
Joined: 6/7/2008
Msg: 292 (view)
 
Does Friends first ever really work?
Posted: 7/25/2008 3:43:20 PM
[and basically followed her around and did lots of stuff for her. Treated her better than a friend anyway. So my question is this; does it ever work and is it ever truly "safe" or is it just a convenience for one party to get the other to do stuff for them?]

A friendship is between two people; it doesn't just go in one direction. It sounds like you were doing things for her in order to win her over and not because you wanted to do things for her. There's a difference.

If you agree to being friends and you want the relationship to go further you need to ask the other party if that might happen for them. If you are romantically involved with the person but they aren't involved with you, except for the 'friendship,' the relationship is unbalanced and you're going to be miserable.

But I do think two people can start out as friends and develop the relationship into a romantic one. It takes two people.
 paulen
Joined: 6/7/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
How do you let go?
Posted: 7/25/2008 3:36:08 PM
When you get tired of suffering, you'll let it go. I don't remember the exact quote but there's a saying that for every 10 minutes you spend angry, you have 10 less minutes to be happy. Substitute sad or any other negative emotion. Usually when we experience pain we are resisting change. No matter how sad you are, it isn't going to change your situation. Focus on where you are now and it loses it's power. I think that's why a new relationship suddenly makes the last one disappear. Hope you're learning to let go.
 paulen
Joined: 6/7/2008
Msg: 2231 (view)
 
DAILY QUOTES
Posted: 7/25/2008 3:30:43 PM
"Insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."
— Albert Einstein
 paulen
Joined: 6/7/2008
Msg: 2208 (view)
 
DAILY QUOTES
Posted: 7/22/2008 12:01:32 PM
"Although body-identification is one of the most basic forms of ego, the good news is that it is also the one that you can most easily go beyond. This is done not by trying to convince yourself that you are not your body, but by shifting your attention from the external form of your body and from thoughts about your body-beautiful, ugly, strong, weak, too fat, too thin-to the feeling of aliveness inside it. Not matter what your body's appearance is on the outer level, beyond the outer form it is an intensely alive energy field."

By Eckhart Tolle in A New Earth Awakening to Your Life's Purpose
 paulen
Joined: 6/7/2008
Msg: 90 (view)
 
How many dates before you decide Yea/Nay??
Posted: 7/22/2008 10:33:23 AM
I don't have any rules. Some men I can tell right off that I don't want to see them again. One man I met in a coffee shop and I left before I finished my coffee. He made racist and sexist remarks and there was absolutely no reason to go any further.

But if he's not arrogant, racist, sexist or looks totally different from this pictures then I'll go on a second date.

A good relationship is created and developed between people. The chemistry---well that can be hormones and even dysfunctional attraction (kind of like the bad boy thingie. It took a few years for my late husband and I to create the most amazing relationship. And much of that time he was on cruises in the Navy. So....I think the really good ones unless both parties are extremely together (yeah...we all think we are, right?) takes time. Sex is just sex. You can have good sex with a lot of people but to have a good relationship that can weather the storms-those take a good foundation and a good friendship.

Many people are easy with the sex; but to develop trust and become vulnerable-That my friends, take a real man and a real woman.
 paulen
Joined: 6/7/2008
Msg: 289 (view)
 
Just eat me already!
Posted: 7/21/2008 7:45:54 PM
Well I'd think you might take other things in consideration regarding whether to stay in the relationship or not. First, I would discuss it with him. Every woman that I've had this discussion with thinks that oral (if done well) is the best there is. Never had a problem with men earlier in my life but I'm sure meeting them lately that don't want to...and I'm clean. So? If it's all about them getting what they want, then they appear as selfish. Go to a hooker and pay because I want to get something out of it too. What are these men afraid of? Turned off or maybe they don't know what to do...????Personally, I'd move on. There are men out there that just love to please their woman. Next!
 paulen
Joined: 6/7/2008
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Where Do I Stand?
Posted: 7/21/2008 1:57:09 PM
Oh I have to agree with prolibertate. Be right up front with it. You don't have to play games and try to make him jealous. You set the boundaries and stick to them. If he continues to keep you at arms length, then keep the relationship a friendship-no benefits.
 paulen
Joined: 6/7/2008
Msg: 113 (view)
 
Why don't women send the first email?
Posted: 7/16/2008 1:44:27 PM
Plethora...so you saw the movie, The Three Amigos, also? lol Love that word, love that movie.
 
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