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Why do I keep doing it?
Posted: 12/24/2008 10:48:38 PM | I thought I would jus jump in and give you another point of view:
You, and I am pointing the finger-have a problem with independance and a problem with being alone and i know it is hard when you hve a child with a person, no matter what you say about how you feel about him you want him in your life when and how you want. (selfish) also you have your little girl to force the issue (leverage)
Solution is simple for anyone who isn't you as we all know what it the right thing to do and say but we don't have the emotional bond you have. (it will hold you until you move on)
You need to have a friendship or more (a rebound) to get over him first so you both can move forward and only then can you think of your daughtrer first (take the emotional out of the equation) you sy you don'
t want him but you clearly do he wants to be there for you but you use your daughter to force the issue(regret)
Once you have had a rebound youcan move on emotional and then you should be friends with him (no sleep overs) coffee, lunch but nothing that would put you in a romantic setting. set up a visitation schedule where he can spend time with her on his time(if he wants to see her he will agree) let him make his own schedule so he isn't running or changing times. I have been there and it hurts (I know) but everyone will have loved and hurt at some point but the first step is admitting that you do still care and deal with it. I hope I have helped but;
you cant be honest with someone if youare not honest with yourself | | | |
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