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 Author Thread: Why do you asswipes keep deleting my threads!
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Why do you asswipes keep deleting my threads!
Posted: 4/9/2006 8:34:59 AM
Somewhere along the way you've probably p!$$ed off the a friend of one of the mods.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Help me i am confused!!!!!
Posted: 4/8/2006 7:08:43 PM
Find what it is you are depressed about and do something about it. If it is clinical then you need help from a psychiatrist.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Bein forgotten
Posted: 4/8/2006 7:05:17 PM
Yeah I know what you mean. It's hard to have feelings for someone and then to watch them act like they never had those feelings for you. I try to look for those people who have the potential to have those same feelings for me as I do for them.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Good is the enemy of great?!
Posted: 4/8/2006 7:02:14 PM
Nope, gotta be great sex. Lifes too short for a lousy piece of a$$.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 136 (view)
 
Why is it so hard to meet someone that is good hearted and attractive???
Posted: 4/8/2006 7:00:44 PM

Why is it so hard to meet someone that is good hearted and attractive???


Because most of those people are off the market in a flash. We get whats left.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Men.....do you have a few extra pouonds or more?
Posted: 4/8/2006 6:58:41 PM
I had a bit of a "spare tire" when I first came to Asia. But since then it's gone and I have the washboard abs again. Can't say that I notice any difference in the number of people who are interestd in me now and then. I feel better about myself now because i don't have fat protruding over my swimshorts when I go to the beach. However disproportionate body fat is highly frowned upon here.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Gothic styles
Posted: 4/8/2006 6:48:51 PM
A good looking girl with a nice body is gonna be hot goth or not. Personally I am weary of anyone who defines themselves wholly on a fashion trend. The goth types that I know are usually disconnected from reality and are big into the vampire/werewolf thing. News flash...vampires and werewolves dont exist. At some point in life you've got to quit screaming for attention by earmarking yourself as a goofball or you will exist in the margins of society only having access to those other people with the same issues that draws you all into your niche.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Everybody has a past.... but does it really matter ????
Posted: 4/8/2006 6:37:33 PM
It depends on where they are at at this moment in life. IT also depends on what that past has been. I met a woman once who had been a prostitute once n her life and strung out on drugs. But she had gotten into church and cleaned her life up. She was really one of the nicest people I had met in a while.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 355 (view)
 
Would you Canadians move to the U.S,Would you Americans move to Canada if you met someone on here?
Posted: 4/8/2006 6:35:15 PM
Canada has some of the hottest Western chicks I have ever seen! But Canada is too damn cold! Hey Canada chicks....come with me and lets live in Thailand.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 15 (view)
 
wots his problem
Posted: 4/8/2006 6:17:40 PM

women do it too, I hear it all the time. Society has really f'd up humans into believing in absolutes and "the way things should be". I pitty those who take rejection as an attack on them, they just use looks as a way to retaliate their scorned feelings with an attack on ones looks because that is all they know about the person they are talking to.


At some point in life, the people who are successful figure out that rejection is not a blanket assessment of society's opinion of them. If I reject someone for any reason it means nothing more than the fact that I don't like what you've got to offer. If you're whole world is dependent on what awesome_male thinks of you as a person in the physical sense then I suggest you go and end your misserable life right now. Some beautiful people will like me and some wont. I just hang with the ones who I do it for. The rest of them can go to hell.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Between a rock and a hard place.. .. help?
Posted: 4/6/2006 7:23:14 PM

this is kinda besides the point... but something to consider

would u get a visa to come to australia? at the moment australia has been rather tight on their visa application and unless you have a skill or trade the only visa you will get is one to visit for a holiday.

so throwing that into the works ask him has he considered that?

remember a relationship is a 2 way street and its easy for him to say "pack up and move to ME"... its not always that easy.

seems to me hes found it easy to move around and find work so maybe he needs to consider moving to YOU.


just a thought


Successful expatriates wouldn't come back to the States on a bet. We have found out that its far easier to have a life over here that most of you all can only dream about or experience for one or two weeks in the fleeting lives that you have. It's not that tough to get a Visa in Australia. What she would do is get a visitors Visa and then apply for jobs when she's there and have the business handle the paperwork and fee's. It happens all the time. If he has found the flare of living successfully as an expat then the US is patenly boring in compare. Too much opportunity for loads less over here. Not in Australia, but the average expat can live better on 25,000 US a year in a foreign country than they could on 50,000 a year in America.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Between a rock and a hard place.. .. help?
Posted: 4/6/2006 7:17:28 PM

Sweetie, you gotta stable job, your own house, you have stability some of us do not have, and when we give it up it's more than hell getting it back.

We all know relationships are very hit and miss. Yes you two may get on well, what if your uneasiness of what you sacraficed eats away at you and you become unhappy and the relationship goes sour? I'm a pessimist at heart so.. I think worst case.

SL

ps.. what about him comming to you?


An anchor can keep you floating stable amidst a storm, or it can prevent you from moving to more favorable ports of call. I would say that what it really boils down to is how much a sense of adventure does she have? Moving all that way just for a person is a no no. Look into the life and the other oportunities that abound for you. I approach relationships in the package deal aspect. First, what can this person offer me, personality, sexuality? Where is the person from? What kinds of womderful experiences will we be able to enjoy together because of her geography? If you approach it with that in mind then if the relationship fails to develop into what you had hoped you have other options rather than being left with a roadmap and a travel trailer full of sh!t in upper Sandusky, Ohio.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Approaching 30
Posted: 4/6/2006 7:08:25 PM
Some things are better and some things are not. Its tougher to keep the weight off when you are over 30 because your hormone production leves drop through the floor. I take supplements to increase my vitality sexually. I get more tired now than I did when I was younger. On the flipside I am more in command because I am more mature. I could argue that some things have a greater appeal when you are younger. Its a trade off that you must make and its better to just play the deck of cards thay you are dealt than to complain to the dealer.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 227 (view)
 
Why do men have affairs?
Posted: 4/6/2006 6:59:56 PM
Affairs are about sex. What it boils down to is a lack of sex, or general attention that leads to a lack of sex by one or both parties on the homefront. I would say that guys are more susceptible to the sexual aspect aa women are to the attention aspect. A woman will give sex in return for the attention she is lacking at home from her husband. A man will usually have an affair becasue the wife has cut him off or is not responding to his desire for sex. He simply goes where there are better opportunities and this could also be the result of him showing a lack of attention toward her but it's stupid to place the blame solely on one party or the other becasue you could justify it either way. Simply - women give you men the sexual access they want, and men shower your women with all the attention they desire.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Between a rock and a hard place.. .. help?
Posted: 4/6/2006 6:53:22 PM
Ask him if he will take things slowly. Moving into a new culture is a big step for anyone and from my experience most people are not suited for it. But in Australia exerybody speaks English and there are foreigners from everywhere coming and going all the time so it wouldn't be like if you moved somewhere where you couldn't communicate. You simply must ask yourself a question: Am I happy in my current life? If your job, house and life are too big of an issue for you to seperate from then I say you shouldn't go. Don't put much stock in what your realtives will tell you ar even care what they think for that matter. Your relatives can't change you situation or make you happy in repect to what it is you want so who really cares what they think? My relatives went ape when they found out I was leaving America but they are gone and I have a great life now. They can never understand the difference between living in big, boring Missouri with 110% humidity year round and gaudy scenery, and living seaside on the Sea of Japan with a beautiful mountain backdrop and 0 humidity. You are anchored ny the trappings of the current life that you have accepted. Looking at it from the outside I am perplexed as to why people in our society even try. In American culture its all about buying a house. And the houses you buy are so expensive that few people will ever be able to pay them off in their lifetimes. We have become and indebted society. Few make enough money to live and so we must supplement our lives with available credit and spend the rest of our lives basically "renting to own" our existences. It's crazy when you look at it from outside the aquarium. Anyway think it over. Its your choice.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 7 (view)
 
JUDGE NOT, LEST YE BE JUDGED
Posted: 4/6/2006 6:40:27 PM
I must agree with everyone else its a big warning sign. If there was one divorce thenI wouldnt think twice about it. But the chances are that there since she has been in and out three times that she is a big part of the problem.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 183 (view)
 
it's all about the looks
Posted: 4/6/2006 6:34:54 PM

I did not have time to scour all of the posts on this topic, yet it is interesting that I have not seen one of the most important factors discussed. As it turns out, actual attraction is more olfactory (smell) based than visual. The substance Major HistoCompatability Complex (MHCC) is a sort of olfactory file containing information on a person's immune system. In fact, it is more than 60% of the influence in determining whether or not any one person will be attracted to another. Another large influence is auditory information, or rather talking to the other person and getting to know them, this is the personality aspect. However, the limitation of these two factors is that they are usually proximity dependant, that is one has to be close to the other person. The visual factor is relatively recent and is a relatively small influence, but as someone else pointed out it gets "your foot in the door." Of course there are many other factors which can play a role on a case by case basis, yet they remain largely insignificant.
Much more can be said about this topic, but I have to go. Have a great day everyone!


I notice that you didn't mention Pheromones. What you say is true but we wash the majority of Pheromones off our bodies everytime we shower. Only people who produce high volumes of Androstenone, androstenol, androsternoe, respectively will this come into play.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Would you, or have you moved with the hopes of a better chance in a new city/town?
Posted: 4/4/2006 6:01:29 PM
Personally I think sometimes we can get in a rut wherever we are and this doesn't have to do solely with relationships. I remember when I lived stateside in Missouri. I had ZIP NADA NOTHING in the relationship department. I would go to bars, social events, and clubs and no one ever showed any interest in me. Then I visited a friend in Atlanta and when we went out on the town I had good looking women hitting on me left and right. There are people like that in Missouri but I simply cannot understand why it works for them and not me. I think that it has to do more with our attitudes that we project simce I was already predisposed to thinking that Missouri was a dry hole to begin with but I also feel that we need to find a place with respect to Geography that will accomodate us. Sometimes due to the type of person we are, we are more accepted in a more liberal or conservative(with respect to relationships) atmosphere.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Does online dating make you think about yourself too much?
Posted: 4/4/2006 7:15:18 AM

I agree with you VickyPollard. There is so much more to life than appearance, and you do get to talk alot more than you would meeting face to face.


But whats missing is the nonverbal communication. Cpshuffle I'll bet that I could upload a photo of some gal and sit here at my computer and have you cinvinced for a long bit that I was in fact a female. Thats the difference. We have the comfort zone of the internet barrier between us. I met my current GF and then we chatted for about a week before we actually went on our first date. I knew virtually nothing od her until we finally met in person. When you are in the presence of someone face to face you have the use of all your senses not just sight. And that can be advantageous or detrimental depending on your situation.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 2 (view)
 
men to women
Posted: 4/3/2006 7:20:45 PM
Dude on the friendfinder sites it can run as high as 300 to 1.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Does online dating make you think about yourself too much?
Posted: 4/3/2006 7:18:19 PM
Honestly cpshuffle you're never gonna know anything for sure unless you meet that person face to face and then even if youlike that person then the feelings must be mutual. Everyone goes on and one about being shallow and yada...yada...yada, but in reality the online dating thing is simply, in my opinion, no more or no less all about someone passing the visual test. What more can you do but look at pics and stock profiles all of which basically say the same thing and decide who you like ad who you dont?
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Are you willing.........?
Posted: 4/3/2006 6:58:26 PM

OP - Actually, it seems like what you are saying is that if a person is unhappy enough with their current state of existence (ie - being single), that they will make changes to be happier. Changes don't have to equal "lowering of standards" or "giving up who you are" - but may be a difference in attitude about how you approach life and the problems which you are faced with.

As in every social group (and that is what the forums are), there will be those who thrive on drama (their own or other's) for drama's sake. There may be some folks on here who feel that any change that they make, even though it may result in their increased happiness, would be a compromise and therefore unacceptable. They may believe that any compromise erodes them as a human being.

My viewpoint is that change engenders growth. Growth is usually painful and difficult at the time - it's very uncomfortable. After we have plateaued on the growth curve, we look back and realize how good for us that spurt was and how much more we value ourselves and our lives because of that period of intellectual or emotional growth... but the growth period itself really sucks usually! Especially as we get older, we tend to value our "comfort" more than the adventure of growth.

Each relationship we enter requires growth from us, at some point in the relationship... so maybe some folks, realizing that on a sub-conscious level even if not on a conscious one, "protect" themselves by their unwillingness to change and grow, even in minor ways.


Dang, I couldn't have said it better.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 100 (view)
 
Do men like to be pursued, or to pursue..and why??
Posted: 4/3/2006 6:55:33 PM
Heres the deal. If I am single and looking, when I walk in a room where there are eligible females I will immediately begin quaility rating them based on looks. I divide them in to those that I'm inerested in and those I am not. Now that said if you were somewhere near the line of seperation and you assert some interest in me and let me KNOW that you are interested even in a vague sense then you have already incresed your chances 99% that you will land a date with me. I would rather take a sure thing than jump and miss at a chance even if she may be better looking than you. If I am interested in someone then I let them know. If they are expecting me to play a game with them or they want to reject me in order to get me to try harder I am outta there.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Does online dating make you think about yourself too much?
Posted: 4/3/2006 6:45:56 PM

Well what else could we really write
I'm slob, no teeth, and would just about disappoint any women that might be interested lol.


I understand what you're saying but at the same time they'll eventually figure those things out for themselves.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Are you willing.........?
Posted: 4/3/2006 6:42:30 PM

I'm sorry..are you suggesting we have plastic surgery, give up our kids for adoption, quit our jobs and disown our families just to find LOVE?

Your words

if I were as down and out as some of the people here come off then I personally wouldn't let my relatives, job, or anything else stand in the way of getting what it was that I was after.

My words


Little bit of a difference. COnsidering I elaborated on it in the prior post.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Does online dating make you think about yourself too much?
Posted: 4/3/2006 6:39:59 PM

Sometimes, I found they were actually quite humble in their description of themselves, but more often than not, they were describing what they wanted me to see and not who they really are.


Yes if Aliens tapped into the online singles profile databases they would invariably conclude that us humans are the most kind, gentle, caring, romantic, unselfish, good hearted beings in the universe.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Are you willing.........?
Posted: 4/3/2006 6:34:03 PM

OP: I'm sorry..are you suggesting we have plastic surgery, give up our kids for adoption, quit our jobs and disown our families just to find LOVE?

Nope. Love me, love all the sh1t that goes with me.


Wow did you ever read some stuff into that. I never suggested any of that. Heres some examples:

Excuse #1: Oh I have always lived near my family, I don't think I could ever move away from them.

If the fact that your family lives in an area that doesn't appear to be condusive to finding someone of comaptability, then obviously they are more inportant to you. Shut up and quit complaining. You've made your choice.

Excuse #2: I have a great job where I am at and I am settled in. I don't want to move and find a new job.

Sacrifices are just the name of the game. I know many people who had great jobs that in their nature were detrimental to those people in that they didn't provide avenues to meet other singles either in a professional or personal sense. I also know people who quit their jobs and struck out in to the great unknown with the hopes of finding a better one. Risk is always a present reality. If you like your job and it is keeping you where you are and that place(in life) is not happening for you then shut up and quit complaining. You've made your choice.

Excuse #3: I am overweight and nobody seems to like me.

Some overweight men and women have enough going for them in other areas that their weight is not an issue in their relationaship success. If you are griping about it though you probably aren't one of those people. It will be far easier to shed some pounds than to try to reconstruct your personality or being. If you like being the way you are and you don't feel awkward when looking at yourself in the mirror then shut up and quit complaining. Realize that other people don't look at yourself the way you do. You've made your choice.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Does online dating make you think about yourself too much?
Posted: 4/3/2006 4:38:48 PM
Yeah I hate profile descriptions. They're so cheezy. It's like in a job interview when they ask you the question "So why do you want to work here?" ....."Well.....lets see? I think that this job could open up new horizons for me and bring me closer to a more perfect understanding of the universe and how I fit into it which will help me find a better way to implement a positive change for all mankind...."

When the real answer is "It's like this. You've got money....and I need it." I take all profiles with a grain of salt because I realize that just like in a job interview you are not necessarily telling them the truth but what you think they want to hear.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Are you willing.........?
Posted: 4/3/2006 4:30:33 PM
As of lately I have (as well as everyone else I'm sure) have read throught the endless spate of threads from "I'm fat so why don't people like me?" to "Are my kids ruining my chances for finding a mate?" I had a conversation with a friend about this very topic yesterday and thought I would just pose this question to everyone. And that question is "Just how sick of being single are you, and what lengths are you willing to go to to fix the problem?" It seems to be such a topic of contention to some people here. In my opinion if you are willing to give up then you just aren't as bad off as you are letting on. Either that person just gets off on complaining or hasn't had enough of their current situation to the point that they are willing to do something about it. In my observation everyone I have ever known in any aspect of their lives that has made something of such importance that they were willing to give up everything to reach that goal has succeeded. And if I were as down and out as some of the people here come off then I personally wouldn't let my relatives, job, or anything else stand in the way of getting what it was that I was after.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 174 (view)
 
Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 4/3/2006 4:03:33 PM
Tigerwoods nailed it!
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 148 (view)
 
Why won't Women Date Nice Romantic Overweight Gentlemen
Posted: 4/2/2006 8:30:49 AM

I think you're being a little harsh aren't you? You don't want to put a picture up...which of course is your perogative, you describe yourself as short and overweight, but with a heart of gold...and you want women to jump all over that? I don't think that's how it works my friend. Part and package of attraction is the "physical" appearance...and i saw that another poster on here said women are under even MORE PRESSURE with the weight issue...and they are!! There is alot to be said about a persons character by their appearance (both good and bad..) and i just feel that "overweight" people (and those who class themselves as "average" for that matter) are using the "look inside me to see the real me" line to compensate for the fact that appearance wise they think they have nothing to offer...that is merely my opinion!!!Personally i feel more pressured by these men than i do any others...


Exactly. It bafles me how someone could hope to develop any kind of relationhip with anyone without first seeing some physical evidence of the other individual. I mean in all honesty some guy could be talking to some faceless profile of a woman and for all he knows it could be another man. Honestly I wish it were the case that all that mattered was the person's character. I mean I would pack the shelves of my cupboard with 10,000 Hersheys candy bars and put away 10 of them a day and just wear expandable oversized track suits everywhere and women would still be all over me becasue I was "beautiful inside". Reality doesn't work that way and at some point we all have to decide what it is we want and work towards getting it. I can understand the frustration of a person who doesn't have high standards but is still getting the short end of the stick. And to those people I would recommend staying off of the dating site because these places are nothing but meat markets to begin with. And unless your a T-bone and not a chopped steak your action is going to be pretty limited.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 67 (view)
 
Why do people think 80s hair is still cool?
Posted: 4/2/2006 8:19:04 AM

WHAT!! Dr. Suess hat's are out of style..when did that happen..?


Oh brother!
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Bi Polar Disorder
Posted: 3/30/2006 9:10:50 PM
Bipolar anyone is bad news. Have one in the family. Anything can set them off. Ironically this person works in a mental hospital in charge of mentally deranged people They need to be married to a psychiatrist who can get them a continuous supply of drugs or live at the north pole where they can only interact with penguins. I kow that this is a facitious post in and of itself but I have been stung. Say no to bipolar.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Do women really have to put out just to get male attention?
Posted: 3/30/2006 6:26:13 PM
With respect to males and monopoly, sex is the "Go directly to libido do not pass go!" Gals who exibit strong sexuality will always get noticed by more males.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Dating over 30, harder or easier than in your 20's?
Posted: 3/30/2006 3:11:03 PM
It would depend on your gender and what specifically it is you are looking for. If you are a guy that is after just average 30 something divorced femmes then you've hit the jackpot. I would say that I have noticed that single 30 something women are the fastest growing discontented population on the planet. Most women of that age would want a man with some form of means. But the men who have such means I know of usually use those means to snag a better all around deal. If I were on the market and looking my ideal woman would be around 30. She's uasually mature enough at that pointand has let go ofthe childish B.S. but still young enough to spark my interest. Mid 30's and up gals tend to be a little jaded according to my wants and expectations.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 12 (view)
 
On Shallowness and Standards.
Posted: 3/30/2006 2:56:11 PM

You shallow if you are invited to a friends place for dinner and you do ANY of the following:

1) Ask before hand if they have Mint Chocalate Chip Ice cream. When they say no, you say "no thanks, I am not interested in having dinner with you" and refuse to go.

2) Go to the dinner, then refuse to take even the smallest bite of the delicious chocalate and fudge sorbet because it has no mint in it and was not ice cream.

3) After refusing to try sorbet, then complain that ice cream is so full of calories and you are gaining weight.


I have just about had all I can take of this shallow vs. not shalow arguement. Dude I perfectly understand your reasoning and I will even admit that I agree with you to some extent. But in defense of the people that you are labeling as shallow I must say that it's their choice not to be with you and for whatever reason I feel that they are justified in that decision. "Shopping" for a mate is not the same as buying a car. How many of us have bought cars that wern't exactly what we were looking for? Maybe what we really wanted was out of our budget or what not, but we needed the car so we settled for the next best thing. However we are NOT going to be saddled with that car forever. In a few years when our financial situation improves we can trade it for something that is more appealing to us. It's not so easy to do with a person. And anyone who appraoches a relationship with that attitude has no business ruining someone elses life in the first place. The person who will eventually tie up with you is engaging in long term investment. You wont be an easy trade off. And I know that it's not to most of our liking but in lieu of the ramifications previously alluded to, in my opinion we all have the right, and I would go as far to say that we have the duty to ourselves to reject someones advances for any and all reasons and we should be able to do that without childish backlashes and accusations from scorned people who do not meet up to our standards. THey are our standards whatever they are and everyone has the right to have them.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 146 (view)
 
What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 3/29/2006 10:56:25 PM

Awesome Male

The point I was making is not to compromise on your ideals or likes but to determine why those ideals or likes exist. All I am saying is if you keep doing what you are doing you are bound to get the same result. Sometimes we are attracted to what we know not necessarily what is good for us.

I have seen people get involved with alcoholics, abusers, cheaters etc only to get involved with the same type again and again. We are if we so choose ever evolving beings. If we all looked in the mirror more instead of at other people we would find out where the answers lie. You get what you want. Change what you want if you dont like what you are getting.

There will be few people on this forum who trully understand what I am talking about because most of them are no longer on a dating site.


I comletely understand you and your reasoning. In my case, my first GF was supermodel caliber. I was 18 and she was 17. She was the prettiest gal in school although not the most socially popular since she moved into our town with her parents at the beginning of her Junior year in high school. Looking back I think she dated me more based on the fact that I had a certain notoriety about me (not anything good), although I was good looking. The cheerleader types and others with social clout at the school saw her as a threat to them because she was so beautiful and they wern't about to let her have access to their cirlces. She was a popular girl where she came from and rather than live out the rest of her high school days as an insignificant person in obscurity, she chose to hang with me and be the GF of the most notorious guy in school (notrious for picking fights with the football players and ending their careers). I have nothing aganst football players but the coaches at our school were a-holes and made most of the players like temselves. Anyway what I am saying is that she set the standard pretty high because she was a really good hearted woman who had extroardinary beauty about her. Under different circumstances things might have played out differently but her precarious social stuation lumped her into the same status as myself (misfit) and I got to glimpse her real character and I fell in love with that and never recovered. No girl I dated after that could seem to meet up to the standard. That was a long time ago and I don't scrutinize girls based on those standards anymore. Still I am only attracted to nice looking women. I have dated average women but my threshold of tolerance for things with them s not always high. For example if they start b1tching at me and cop an attitude I think to myself " I've dated gals that were twice as good looking that didn't act like this, so why do I should I have to put up with this sh!t?" I know many people would say that I am shallow to place a high emphasis on attractiveness but that is the way I am. If you aren't as attractive you better make up for it in some way or not express behavior that overrides your collective worth or I'm outta there. I know that there are to mAny other women who will ffer me more for less headache. I may have to find them but I eventually will.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 138 (view)
 
What keeps a guy from asking for a second date?
Posted: 3/29/2006 6:18:05 PM

By george I think you got it!!! People there are tons of great guys and girls out there. YOU are to blame for the choices you make. Stop all the darn negativity...and change your selection criteria.


Nobody should change their criteria. By doing so in my opinion you are settling for something less than what will make you happy. If a someone will not make you happy then no matter of self justification is going to make you view the situation an any more positive of a light. I don't like cucumbers. No matter how many of them I have eaten I still don't like them and I can't acquire a taste for them. The same holds true for many of our personal preferences.
I think that one big thing that is not being addressed here is that women are completely subject to how they feel. I cannot count the number of times that I had a date with someone and they were all giddy and excited about going out when I asked them. But then when the date rolled around they didn't even seem remotely enthusiastic. Something had happened between then and that time and it just smeared their whole perception of the world. Myself and most guys I know can put our personal demons in the closet at least for the duration of a date, since we know that the first date is a make or break scenario. If there is something that is bothering me come round date time I usually cut it's head off (figuratively) or just tell the perpetrators that I'll handle it when I get back from taking care of my personal affairs. Women on the other hand I have found don't do this. They'll carry wehatever rougue cloud that is encompassing them into the date and never put two and two together and rationalize that they are sending us singnals that are counterproductive to our interpretation of their intentions.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Would you or wouldn't you....?
Posted: 3/29/2006 4:53:12 PM

If I was just dating him I wouldnt care too much about future financial prospects. If you worry so much about money most people would be out of your league lol as most dont have it.It is different when you actually get into a serious relationship with him or her and if it bothers you so much then,thats when a "couple" works on it together.


Wow what a statement. How true. It never ceases to amaze me how so many women will shout form the rooftops about their "liberation and independence" and yet we see here that lots are still preoccupied with their man's fiscal worth. What a double standard. I must agree wholeheartedly with the above post in that 90% of Americans do not fit the bill. Our society is an indebted one. There are very few people with any real money. There are simply people who exercise their access to credit and those who don't or cannot. After the divorce my credit was shot. Too many bills and I had to end up filing bankruptcy. Currently I own two houses. One is a condominuim apartment that overlooks the local beach. And I also just purchased a beachside home in Surigao City, Philippines for my retirement which will be in 5 years. My retirement savings is complete. I have $75,000 set aside for it which is enough to live comfortably in the Philippines the rest of my life. Back home it wouldn't amount to sh!t. At 35 years old I have a more attractive retirement plan than most Americans back home the catch is you'd have to get used to living in a third world country. If you want to retire in any fashion similar to what I have provided for myself in America it would take millions of dollars to do so. I think what we are dealing with here is women requiring that men have a fascade of security since I would argue that so few do. And to the OP even if you do find a guy who supposedly has such a retirement by the time retirement rolls around it probably wont be enough at that point so you'l both end up working to a ripe old age.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 2 (view)
 
If you want to get married
Posted: 3/29/2006 2:29:22 AM
There is no single way to examine census data. The flipside of what you are suggesting could mean that the pool for available singles is too narrow. Also what are the demographic indicators? What age ranges contain the most married people and what are the ratios of the different age brackets? For example if you are 19 years old and 80% of all people your age are married coupled with a male/female ratio of 3-1 then your chances may not be all that great.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Would you or wouldn't you....?
Posted: 3/29/2006 2:25:37 AM

For the ladies....
You're in your mid to late 30's, would you date a man who has absolutely no retirement savings what-so-ever? Also, has never even contributed to gov't retirement through work as he's always had his own business. He's now 46 and still has no plan in sight....!
Would you or wouldn't you?


Or would you date a guy who owns two homes both clean and clear by the beach? He has ample investments put away for retirement and doesnt have to work over 26 hours a week for the rest of his life? The only catch is all of his investments are overseas.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 61 (view)
 
Why do MEN stay??
Posted: 3/28/2006 11:30:15 PM

I am absoluely overwhelmed with excitement about being able to pursue an interesting woman if I should encounter one! Stay in an unhappy marriage because I know what to expect? HAH!! I can't imagine unless you were the laziest or most insecure guy in the universe.


I don't see what you think is so lazy and insecure about not wanting to be physically and financially drained by the relationship rollercoaster ride? I have been in 4 previous relationships since being divorced. We guys have feelings also and it's tough to re-establish your bearings after one of those has failed. I am now in what appears to be a promising arrangement between me and my current SO. Now if we break up, let me tell you I am in no way looking forward to going out and hunting another no matter how interesting and exciting it might appear. It has its ups and downs but I for one am tired of the rides. I hope I am settled down once and for all. At the time I judged that it would be better to focus on the positive aspects of the relationship between my ex and myself rather than throw myself to the wolves while I was pushing mid 30's. There wasn't anything out there available that I was interested in and I didn't view with optimism the prospect of "used car shopping". Then I came to Asia and the world flipped upsde down from what I had known. But I am still tred of the insecure nature of the single life. I want something solid and that is what I am pursuing.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Why do people think 80s hair is still cool?
Posted: 3/28/2006 11:04:54 PM
Every decade of fashion has had it's triumphs and failures. I grew up in the 80's and we had cheezy fashion statements with the big hair and leg warmers just like the 90's children had their heroin-addict goth lookers and those big, stupid Dr. Suess hats. It'll all come back sooner or later. Do what you want with it.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 32 (view)
 
What are your intentions towards my daughter?
Posted: 3/28/2006 10:57:10 PM
I would ask them...."What is the logical conclusion to any successful cross gender relationship?"
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 34 (view)
 
That old saying that LOVE will jump up and bit you in the behind when your not looking.....
Posted: 3/28/2006 5:40:35 PM
I think that the whole staement which spawned the original post is wholesale B.S. I would say however that more likely is that when a person "stops looking" and finds a mate it is more attributable to that person spending less time in locations that they were attempting to find mates and more time in other locales that, unbeknownst to them, are more conducive to meeting that special someone.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 6 (view)
 
how much emotional baggage is TOO much? Need answers
Posted: 3/28/2006 5:18:24 PM
Sexual abuse is always a wildcard. My first girlfriend had been sexually abused, although I didn't know it until later in our relationship. In her it manifested itself as hyper, almost out of control sexuality. In other cases I know from guys dating girls with similar circumstances it resulted in that person withdrwing from sexual activity. I nany case sexual abuse will most assuredly have implications in your relationship together and they will assuredly be negative in some respect. These people though no fault of their own are damaged goods. It takes a special type of person to deal with and live in intimate proximity to those people. In my case I was not that type of person and I realized that before it got too serious. I would say that you probably aren't either bu tonly you can answer that question.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Virginity In Modern Society
Posted: 3/28/2006 3:24:22 PM
I know where you are coming from. What you are experiencing is the churchs' struggle to maintain morality and order in a culture that has made it nearly impossible to do so. Economic and social influences have raised the mean ages when people generallly get married. In ages past people married a lot earlier in life. This was in part due to life expectancies and the need to enter the work force instead of going to college. Men are hyper-sexual from roughly the ages of 17-24, and females are generally considered "hyper fertile" from the ages of 15-23. These are mean(statistical) observations so I don't need people chiming in about aunt Bertha who had 3 kids past the age of 45. Now in the past when people married earlier it gave them generally unabridged access to a sexual partner at the prime ages of sexuality with respect to drive/virility and fertility. Now it is not uncommon for males and females to wait until they are into their late 20's to get married. This trend has left society with a surplus of both males and females with virtually no other outlet to channel their sexual energies and thus you have the pandemic of promiscuity evidenced in society today. Sexual energy and the desire to diseminate that energy are realities and encoded in our DNA so simple socal engineering is not going to make any remarkable changes any way you go.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 119 (view)
 
Would you MARRY a sexy woman??
Posted: 3/28/2006 7:41:32 AM

Showing your boobs and part of your ass on a web site where they whole world can see you doesn`t make you sexy.It makes you look trashy in any normal man`s eyes.But there`s the one that just want to get their rocks off and then thats good enough.Think about it,im sure you have plenty of attention but yet you are single.Why not safe it for the one that deserves to see it.I am not for sale so why should i show all this for everyone to see??? Why do you do it??? Just wondering


It does get more attention. Don't hate Wikkid for having assets that you dont. Trust me if you did like most women you would find a way to make them known, maybe not as overtly but if you were sporting a 38 D you probably wouldnt cover them up with a pillow or cover like lots of gals do. Some women have it and some don't and nature is not fair when handing out the goodies. Life's tough.
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 118 (view)
 
Would you MARRY a sexy woman??
Posted: 3/28/2006 7:25:09 AM

What a different view on this altogether AM!!! This has never crossed my mind and now it has me reeling!! I have defended my looks enough on this forum in other threads...the whole time not understanding why my looks had anything to do with it...(I certainly did not think i was "all that"...) now i look at it from someone elses eyes....you see i'm originally from the islands...so my skin colour, curly hair...ummm..."curvy"..figure...well to me that's what we ALL look like! It is not unusual to THEM that i look like I do...we are all mixed people there....but yes...when you place me amongst the "average" Canadian...i do stand out because i AM different...being mixed especially with Latin and the "famed" latin hot blood... i don't see anything wrong with my sexuality...my mother taught me to appreciate being a woman rather than see it as a handicap...i teach my daughters the same thing...you have given me a totally new perspective as to why my "looks" apparently come into play for SOME people...I guess i always thought of myself as Canadian as the next person....


Honestly, Wikkid I don't see that you'd have lots of trouble in the looks department. From the looks of your photos you are curvy but still quite sexy. I wouldn't even classify you as introductory BBW. You are really quite well proportioned.


But this applies to the "plain Jane" type as well....so why are sexy women more under the gun to prove there is more than just their "looks" to them?


Because there is a general hatred for the sexier women by women who aren't as sexy. I remember back in college I took a job as a waiter to get a little cash on the side as I was living off savings. There was a girl named Allison who worked with me. Allison was blond, kind of short, but with a really petite figure, very well endowed, and remarkably she had a wonderful personality. Whenever Allison needed something she had all the waiters in the restaurant at her beck and call. But the females that worked there hated her and had nothing but derogatory things to say about her. They were jealous. Thats why because less sexier women realize that they have to do it better thatn those gifted with better looks becasue us guys are visual creatures and they are bitter becasue they think its "not fair".
 awesome_male
Joined: 8/27/2005
Msg: 48 (view)
 
does it matter what you drive
Posted: 3/27/2006 4:24:02 PM
Most people I see on here are giving the stock answers as usual. To all the guys I would say this. If you have a friend that has a Porche or Mercedes, etc... Ask them if they'd let you borrow it for an evening. Then pull up to your favorite club in this letting lots of people see you. Then go the next time in your ride and take note of the different ways each nights plays out. Up until about 8 months into my divorce proceedings I still had the Mecedes convertible. When i drove that to the clubs I never had a shortage of gals flocking to make friends with me. When I was forced to sell the car to pay for the mounting legal bills I began driving my Jeep. Now I love jeeps and that would be my vehicle of choice today. But interestinly women just wern't as forthcoming to meet me for some reason. Hmmmmmmmmm?
 
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