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 Author Thread: I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
 kietho
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 164 (view)
 
I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/18/2008 6:25:16 AM
"Did anyone on here besides me actually read her post?????????" "Did you not read that she has her daughter six times a month."

Hey Icey....perhaps smoke got in your eyes as you were reading her post.....Dustie clearly states she has her child 6 times a week....she uses pot > 3 times a week.....do the math.

Now re-read the post and get your facts straight.

"I cannot get over the way people assume this gal is high around her kid. For crying out loud. Give your head a shake read the post. "

Do you still think she is not stoned around her child? Would you leave your child in the care of a person knowing they were high? I'm shaking my head alright, trying to understand your logic.
 kietho
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 82 (view)
 
I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana.
Posted: 6/17/2008 4:09:38 PM
I read this thread with interest as I still have a few friends that still partake after all these years. As a side note, none of them married or had children.

My teenage years were in the mid too late seventies and most everyone I grew up with smoked pot as regular recreation. Now, while I don't smoke anything these days, and have not for damn near 30 years, I think people have the right to make choices for "themselves" as long as they understand the consequences of their actions.
So, if its worth risking the legal ramifications that may occur one day, or should something change with the relationship with your ex-husband and he decides he wants full custody and knows you smoke on a regular basis, he will be able to use this against you. I hope you see where I'm going with this, you are setting yourself up for a potential problem.

If you isolate your habit (and that's what it is, in my humble opinion) from your daughter and never smoke around her, that helps, but the truth is your bias will no doubt, trickle down too her and before you know it she may be puffing with you. Now, ask yourself....is that a good mom? Not saying that will be your scenario, but what if it is? Could you live with that?

I don't think you are a bad person or a bad mom. I think you are young and need to re-evaluate your priorities and ask yourself what is in your young daughter's best interest. If your daughter were not in the picture, I would say you are free to chose what you do with yourself, as long as your actions only affect you. Long term studies on pot are now available for anyone who cares to read the data.....should be easy to find on the internet. Perhaps, a good read on the long term effects of cannibis will lend some insight on this drug and help you sort it out. Sorry to be long winded about this, I think it is a far more layered subject than the initial premise stated in the subject line.

Anyway, just my two cents worth.....
 
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