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sweet smilin woman

Joined: 6/12/2008

Msg: 166 (view)

last 5 forum posts.. gone. Posted: 8/25/2009 9:23:38 PM
Or are these features that are being removed only to be replaced to the advantage of paying members? Maybe some other smart computer person will come up with another free dating site. After all, Marcus got rich on this one! If I had the smarts, I'd do it. Although, maybe it's copyrighted or patented or something. Hmm...

sweet smilin woman

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Favorites and last 5 forum posts Posted: 8/25/2009 5:48:53 PM
I like that the number of favourites has been removed. It puts everyone on the same playing field to some extent. When you click on the persons user name above their picture in the forum, it takes you to a page listing all the threads the person has posted in. I didn't know that you could still see the forum posts if you clicked on someone's name. Thanks for pointing that out Mixalot!

sweet smilin woman

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Is using others internet signal wrong? Posted: 8/16/2009 12:39:35 PM
Just because you like to think that doesn't make it right. You're simply justifying something to make yourself feel better. It doesn't mean I'm wrong either. Some posters think its wrong.. Some happily share their signals. Wow.. choosing to believe that people could be generous and good natured means I'm justifying to make myself feel better?? I guess in any situation you can try and find the positive in it or you can try and find the negative in it. I like to look for the good. Just call me Pollyanna.

sweet smilin woman

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Is using others internet signal wrong? Posted: 8/16/2009 8:06:41 AM
I don't know a lot about how wireless signals work. Is it costing the other person if you use their signal? If they didn't want anyone else to use it, could they make it secure or password it to prevent that from happening? I like to think that some people have a generous nature and don't mind sharing their signal and that's why it's available for your use.

sweet smilin woman

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Is the recession hurting your dating choices????????????? Posted: 8/16/2009 7:46:53 AM
It has definitely made me more conscious that money is a finite luxury. I am spending more responsibly in general... not just with the dating scene. Dating doesn't have to be expensive though.. as someone else pointed out there are lots of free or inexpensive things you can do. It's a great opportunity to get our creative juices flowing and come up with some fun, new ideas. Now that might be another thread to start.. inexpensive creative ideas for dating!

sweet smilin woman

Joined: 6/12/2008

Msg: 35 (view)

Movies that make you cry Posted: 8/5/2009 6:25:35 PM
P.S. I Love You.. Gerard Butler.. sigh The Notebook I Am Sam The Green Mile Marley and Me Ghost Forest Gump Pay it Forward Five People You'll Meet in Heaven I think I'd try to hide the tears .. and depending who I am with maybe pass along a kleenex and do a little comforting.

sweet smilin woman

Joined: 6/12/2008

Msg: 28 (view)

is it wrong....to get out of the situation....or should you stay... Posted: 7/31/2009 9:23:03 PM
I think it would depend on a couple of things. How long the people have been in the relationship and how involved they are would be one consideration. How important the physical side of things is for the people involved would be another. Heck no its not wrong if sex is a deal breaker. Smoking, age, weight, looks and so many other things can be deal breakers.. why not sex? I think just being up front and saying that you like the person but know yourself well enough to know that eventually this would become a problem in the relationship would be an honest but gentle way of handling it. That doesn't mean that the other person's feelings are not going to get hurt. I don't know a lot of people that like rejection no matter what the reason. That doesn't mean that you don't deserve a relationship where you are fulfilled on all levels though.

sweet smilin woman

Joined: 6/12/2008

Msg: 28 (view)

What would you do????? Posted: 7/31/2009 9:03:38 PM
If the pic was not the same person that would probably be a red flag for me and I'd leave. If it was the same person but the pic didn't represent them well I'd probably still stay for coffee and see if there was a connection. I met one of the greatest guys going on POF without seeing a pic. We had chatted a fair bit before we met though and I liked his personality. I wasn't disappointed and I liked him instantly when we met in person. I've met others where there have been pics and a seeming connection online but it wasn't there in person. You just never know.. roll the dice and take your chances!

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

Msg: 232 (view)

Songs that remind u of great sex Posted: 1/2/2009 9:45:38 AM
Sexy Lady.. Shaggy and anything by Barry White!

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Photo(s) or Text?????? Posted: 1/2/2009 9:17:40 AM
I change the photos more often. I like to keep my pics up-to-date. It's so easy now with digital photography. I do change the text once in awhile too if I have an inspirational thought about how to word something in such a way that will cause the man of my dreams to take notice, contact me and sweep me off my feet!

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Can neat freeks? Posted: 12/14/2008 7:22:33 PM
I thought I was a neat freak when I lived with a messy person.. but then I dated an even neater person than me and that drove me nuts.... so I think it depends on the degree of messiness or neatness.. either that or I'm fickle. hahaha

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Songs that easily get stuck in your head Posted: 12/14/2008 7:18:33 PM
I didn't read all of the posts so I'm not sure if anyone else has said this one.. Just another manic Monday... Can you tell it's Sunday evening now? haha

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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list 1 positive thing about being single Posted: 12/14/2008 7:15:19 PM
I can eat cookie dough for supper if I want.. lol

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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When do you trust your instincts in a new situation, after bad past experiences lead you to distrust Posted: 11/3/2008 7:51:07 PM
FloridaLady71... I really enjoyed reading your posts. You are a wonderful role model. Thank you for speaking so candidly. I hope I can be as wise and articulate about my lessons in life.

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Religion and Dating Posted: 11/2/2008 1:18:56 PM
Great topic! Some of the most amazing conversations I have ever had have been about religion, spirituality and God. I love hearing about other people's perspectives and how faith and God works in peoples' lives. I want to strengthen my spiritual life and connecting with other spiritual people no matter what their religion is one way of doing that. I have wonderful, fulfilling, respectful relationships with my friends and we are all of different faiths so I think it would be possible in a dating relationship as well.

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Funny Analogies Pertaining to Dating, Relationships or Sex - Add to the List ! Posted: 11/2/2008 12:35:33 PM
Went out with a guy and he took me to a secluded place to park at the end of the date. I told him that my Mama said I was to say "no" to everything. He said, "OK, do you mind if I put my arm around you?" I said, "No." He said, "Do you mind if Ikiss you?" I said, "No." He said, "If this keeps up, we're gonna get along just fine!"

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Ready to hang it up Posted: 11/2/2008 12:26:47 PM
I get distracted easily when I'm driving so talking on the phone is not a smart thing for me to do... although I have done it. I have to say though... on a totally different topic... I'd much rather see someone talking on their cell phone in the car with kids than smoking in there with all the windows rolled up. That drives me nuts!

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

Msg: 258 (view)

what is it that u find in peoples profile pictures that turn u off right away? Posted: 10/8/2008 7:28:23 PM
When someone is giving the finger to the cam... it just doesn't appeal to me at all.

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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How are you liking the new 'ages' under peoples little pictures? Posted: 9/20/2008 9:56:24 PM
I like it! It's much more convenient.

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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'Normal...on a dating site... Posted: 9/19/2008 9:42:14 PM
Weeellll.. one person's normal might be having the crap knocked out of them every day.. another person's normal might be having a butler in their service. It's all relative to our own individual experiences I think.

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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To Hell with Manners Posted: 9/19/2008 8:58:45 PM
I'm from a smaller city.. Medicine Hat.. and I can't say I have problems with people having bad manners. I'm a pretty happy-go-lucky person though and I usually have a smile and a hello for people. They seem to respond back positively to that.

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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First Date Thoughts????????? Posted: 9/19/2008 8:49:15 PM
Different thoughts from different dates.. or first meets.... Is he going to like what he sees when he meets me in person? I hope I don't sneeze. He has great eyes. I like his smile. What did he say.. I was looking at his biceps.. haha.. just kidding... well maybe! Oooh.. I love the smell of a man's cologne. Am I showing too much cleavage? Oh yikes! Can I escape gracefully now? I hope he wants a second date. How do I answer that diplomatically? How long can I make this coffee last? How fast can I drink this? This feels so easy and comfortable. I can't believe I just said that.. What a dork!

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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relocating for love Posted: 9/11/2008 6:36:19 PM
Oh wow.. That's a tough one. I have my dream job here. No kids or anything to prevent me from moving but my family is here and boy have I been grateful to have them around a time or two! Right now I'd have to say I'm not looking to move.. but what if my dream guy is somewhere else? Hmmmm... will cross that bridge if/when I come to it. For now.. I'm happy in the Hat!

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Where are you from...originally Posted: 9/11/2008 6:27:56 PM
I was born in Newfoundland.. I can't believe I'm the only Newfie that posted here and I think I read all the posts! Then Ottawa, Fort McMurray and now Medicine Hat.

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Driving in a blizzard Posted: 9/10/2008 8:10:01 PM
Ten years ago I was leaving Fort McMurray to move to Medicine Hat and I took my car in to get it serviced before I left and the mechanic told me I had a weak piston. I'm not very knowledgeable with vehicles and I didn't know what that meant so I thanked him and drove away. I got a couple hours outside of Fort Mac and you guessed it.. my engine blew. There I was, alone, all my stuff packed in the car, no cell phone and 7 hours away from my destination. I knew I had to flag someone down but I was worried about who would stop. After a half hour or so of chewing on my fingernails in my car I got up enough nerve to flag someone down. Finally this old grizzled guy stop and asked me what was wrong. I said, "Piston broke." He said, "Well hop in, I"m pissed and broke too." haha The last line is a joke.. but the rest of the story is true. The old fella .. bless his heart.. gave me a ride to the nearest service station so I could have my car towed and $1200 and 2 weeks later I had another engine in it and was good to go!

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

Msg: 214 (view)

Songs that remind u of great sex Posted: 9/10/2008 5:30:15 PM
Strokin.. Clarence Carter.. an oldie.. but a goodie!

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

Msg: 59 (view)

do I have baggage? Posted: 9/10/2008 5:10:54 PM
You dated a gal for 5 years from when you were 15. Those are your impressionable years. And 5 years is a long time. It sounds like there is still some grief there.. but I wouldn't call that baggage. Who doesn't remember their first love with some kind of feelings? I think it just makes you human. And the fact that you're mature enough to even ask the question says a lot. Best of luck in finding a gal.. sounds like you'd be a great catch!

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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first date- he farts in the restaurant!! Posted: 9/10/2008 5:02:26 PM
I know this is an older post.. but OMG.. that was funny! hahahhaha.. thanks for the laugh!

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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-MIRRORS ALWAYS REFLECT IN REVERSE- Posted: 9/10/2008 4:40:57 PM
Hmmm.. sounds like borderline personality disorder... check out bpdfamily.com for some interesting reading.

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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have u ever connected with someone emotionally and phisically but evrything else made it impossible? Posted: 9/10/2008 4:34:28 PM
Geesh.. it sounds like you've read my journal!

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Looking To Lose Weight - Need Advice Posted: 9/7/2008 1:26:31 PM
And drink lots of water.. that helps too.

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Funny pick up lines Posted: 8/28/2008 11:50:35 PM
At the grocery store in the produce department a guy says, "Can you show me where the bok choy is?" I show him and he says, "Oh.. but that's way too much for little old me."

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

Msg: 197 (view)

Did I overreact? Posted: 8/28/2008 11:23:39 PM
Hahahhaahaha... too funny! That was well written. I'm just going to giggle at this one instead of getting caught up in the ethics of it.

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

Msg: 139 (view)

Who likes coffee for a frist date?? Posted: 8/28/2008 10:24:10 PM
Coffee, tea, an ice-cream cone, browsing a book store, checking out the library... something with an opportunity to see if there is a connection but also gives both people a chance to bow out gracefully if they need to.

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Looking for a profile review... suggestions welcome... Posted: 8/28/2008 8:00:08 PM
I didn't see the old version of your profile but this one looks pretty good. I don't know if having a nic with "player" in it will get you what you're looking for though. You might consider changing that. Happy fishing..

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

Msg: 137 (view)

Do you trust your pet's judgement on your dates? Posted: 8/21/2008 7:41:18 PM
Not at all. My cat thinks he's the master of the house. Some days he doesn't even like me.. and I'd date me! lol

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Kids thoughts on... What does love mean? Posted: 8/20/2008 7:58:11 PM
A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, "What does love mean?" The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think: "When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love." Rebecca- age 8 "When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth." Billy - age 4 "Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other." Karl - age 5 "Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs." Chrissy - age 6 "Love is what makes you smile when you're tired." Terri - age 4 "Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK." Danny - age 7 "Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen." Bobby - age 7 (Wow!) "If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate," Nikka - age 6 (we need a few million more Nikka's on this planet) "Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday." Noelle - age 7 "During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore." Cindy - age 8 "Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken." Elaine-age 5 "Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford." Chris - age 7 "Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day." Mary Ann - age 4 "I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones." Lauren - age 4 "You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget." Jessica - age 8

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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After a first date, should the girl contact the guy to say thank you? Posted: 8/20/2008 7:49:34 PM
OP.. Glad you asked the question. I was going to ask it myself but found your thread. I have emailed dates after dinners to say thank you. Glad to know the guys think that's a good thing. I'm doing something right! Woohoo!

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Guys asking to meet with you immediately Posted: 8/20/2008 7:45:28 PM
I like to meet in person soon after making contact. I have found that the online chemistry doesn't translate into real life sometimes. It's nice to know if it's there in real life before you've invested too much time or energy. That being said though, I like to follow my intuition too. Sometimes I just get a feeling that it isn't going to work out. Looking forward to when I get the feeling that it will and it pans out!

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Rate my profile Posted: 8/16/2008 2:41:35 PM
...I'm on this site because I am not going to put up paying for those other dating sites. I am looking for someone who is honest...HONEST...meaning NOT part of a porn site, NOT FAKE Ok... so your opening lines could use a bit of work. You come off sounding cheap. Think about it.. anyone who is looking at your profile is on this site too and we're all here for the same reason - to meet someone. You could start it off with, "I'm a music fanatic." That's a great opening. You are looking for someone who is honest. Ok. Instead of saying what that isn't, say what it does mean to you. You're not a fancy restaurant kind of guy. All you need to do is say what you prefer. Saying, "If that's your deal" implies that a gal who enjoys a fancy restaurant is looking for a free ride. It's Ok to say that a person must have a picture to contact you if that's what you're most comfortable with. Hope that helps.. Happy fishin, ~Deb~

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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What's going on? Posted: 8/16/2008 2:27:42 PM
What popped out at me first was your username and that you have hang out listed as what you are looking for. That combination might be why you are getting emails from younger men who might be looking for something different than what you are looking for. Just a thought...

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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I was just being honest Posted: 8/16/2008 2:22:35 PM
Yikes! Have you counted how many "don'ts" you have in your profile? I think honesty is great. There is a way to talk about what you want without sounding negative though. You come off sounding angry to me. You might have more success if you talked about the things you enjoy and like in yourself and what you like and respect in a woman. Happy fishing, (emphasis on happy! lol) ~Deb~

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Not sure what they want Posted: 8/16/2008 2:06:36 PM
Hi there, I had a look at your profile. You're gorgeous! Your opening line is not very inviting though. It feels a bit condescending.. and I didn't get it. So if I was a guy reading it I wouldn't contact you because I'd feel stupid. Maybe you could talk a little bit more about what you're looking for in a relationship and what kind of guy you're looking for. Hope that helps. POF has some profile tips that you might find helpful too. Happy fishin, ~Deb~

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Photo Question - Which one??? Posted: 8/16/2008 1:58:52 PM
I like the second photo too. You look happy and mischievous. Looks like you had a great time!

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Humor vs. seriousity! What's the dilly yo? Posted: 8/16/2008 1:56:14 PM
hahahaha... You have a great sense of humour! Nice pics too. Maybe you could include something about the kind of girl that chadmcbro would see himself with. And perhaps 1 real date experience? Are you related to the McLuvin guy? lol Happy fishin, ~Deb~

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Please review Posted: 8/16/2008 10:33:49 AM
Hi Nancy, Your profile says you are looking for long term but you start out saying you are “just looking for someone to email, go out to dinner, go to classic car shows, enjoys dogs, walking, fishing.” Those 2 things don’t match. Are you looking for long term or something more casual? Reframing your sentences so that they are positive will make a difference as well as using spell check for grammar structure. Good writing helps you sound intelligent and articulate. Perhaps a picture that doesn’t show another man’s hand on your knee might help too. I find it a turn off to see pictures posted where someone has been cut out. You say that you don’t put limits on life but in the next sentence you say no preachy religious types. Those 2 things contradict each other. I took the liberty of revamping your profile but was not able to send it to you. If you'd like me to mail it to you let me know. Hope the above helps. Happy Fishing, ~Deb~

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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What the PoF world would like to offer :) Posted: 8/16/2008 9:42:47 AM
I'm not sure if the opposite sex does but I do! Having said that, I didn't know that ms was a pre-fix for the dominatrix world when I put my profile name up. It's been interesting!

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Request Criticism Posted: 8/16/2008 9:36:23 AM
Hi there, Checked out your profile and attempted to send you a message but your mail settings wouldn't allow it. I live in Canada. Anyway... Your profile tells a lot about what you like to do and the kind of person you are but it doesn't feel personal to me. At the end you say you are looking to create something real, passionate, romantic and loving. You're a good looking guy. Share your romance and passion! Tell us how you see that in your life. All the best, ~Deb~

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Feedback please Posted: 8/16/2008 9:20:18 AM
Hello Fellow Fishers, My profile has been a work in a progress. I've been slowly getting it to where I'd like it to be. I'd appreciate any feedback or suggestions you might have to help me improve it. Thanks for taking the time to check it out! ~Deb~

msdeb4242

Joined: 6/12/2008

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Longing Posted: 8/14/2008 11:21:48 PM
I read a poem by Sappho years ago and copied the format to write this one. I had just gotten divorced and was feeling pretty broken up about it. Happy to say that I have "found me" and life is great. Enjoy! "Longing" Longing for that sweet and tender touch To fill me up Craving that soft caress Your voice whispering my name Filling the emptiness I feel inside Longing to be tucked away safely in the arms of your love Go away loneliness! Leave grief! I am tired of you pulling me down Into that cold, empty pit of despair. Longing to be loved Looking in all the wrong places For it is within me I must look Deep inside. Longing to find me amidst the rubble of my life And when I do I shall take such gentle loving care of me That I will never more be longing.

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