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candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

Msg: 11 (view)

It's easier Posted: 11/22/2009 8:33:16 PM
I don't do well in relationships where friendship is not there. I have to like and respect someone as a person more so as a friend, someone I want to be with, than as a romantic interest. I've never been with anyone that I'm just the "girlfriend"... I'm always a friend first and foremost.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Fanning the Flames.... Posted: 11/22/2009 8:22:00 PM
If I'm not into them or vice versa - no way, but if I'm into them, I like to get them as hot & bothered as the situation will allow... break out the marshmallows. Yes, I'm evil.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Man asks woman to go to his home after dinner on first date Posted: 11/22/2009 8:06:33 PM
He asked you back to his place. He did not ask you for sex. Maybe he just wanted to relax in a comfortable location where he could have a drink or some tunes. Heck, maybe he wanted a kiss or two. You don't know and can't assume... they're not all raving sex-crazed maniacs, you know... and for the record, this was the second time you were in this man's company. It was not a "first" date per se.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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where do you draw the line Posted: 11/22/2009 8:01:16 PM
It's hurtful. And once it's out there, you can't take it back. I might forgive it being said once, but if they said it again, I'd have to wonder if there was truth behind the words. I know I wouldn't like being the consolation prize...

Candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Swiss Chalet Posted: 11/21/2009 5:34:00 PM
Maybe broken dysfunctional families are the latest marketing trend - make us all feel normal at Christmas - to heck with Currier & Ives - Merry HO HO and all that jazz... They pad up the price from the quarter chicken dinner anyway, so it's not like you're getting the chocolates free. For the tablespoon of cranberry and the dollop of yucky stuffing - it ain't worth it anyway. It only sounds good and it never tastes as good as you remember. Just order the perogies - they're great... screw the chocolates.

Candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Need opinions/advice/review Posted: 11/21/2009 1:29:54 PM
The text is now fine, but as for the pics use the smiling/glasses shot for the profile or the white shirt full face one. Less is more especially if they're not flattering (posture, posture, posture)...

Candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Personal protection canines Posted: 11/21/2009 7:27:33 AM
I am wondering what you mean that the dogs sire was to powerful for protection sports? These dogs were called the Gamekeeper's dog. They're quiet and confident being a combo of English Mastiff (Mr. Mellow) and Bulldog. My dog was about 150+lbs of muscle, had a 31" neck and his mouth was so big that one time when he choked on a bone, I was able to insert my arm up to the forearm into his mouth and retrieve it without grazing his teeth. You couldn't play tug'a'war with these dogs and keep your footing. The bite on these dogs is so hard that the padded suit his father trained with was insufficient - the sheer PSI still left bruises. And courtesy of the folds around their mouth and a snub face, they can hang on and breath like gills out the flues. They were originally trained to contain and hold a poacher without savaging them. You cannot get the better of these dogs - they're too big and designed specifically to hold. Even with padding, you will get hurt - not deliberately, but chomped down on & dragged. Picture a ragdoll. The first time I saw one of these dogs, the dog would not allow me between her and the children of the house. Nothing threatening, just positioning. I learned to love and respect the breed especially my dog. When he grabbed a stuffed toy (brand new) and shook it, he whipped his head so hard, the stuffing and legs came off the teddybear. I realized what would happen if he should grab a child or cat. Very powerful dog but with a good disposition. Perfect family pet, but they cost a mint at the vets (3xs the meds) and only last about 10 years.

Candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Personal protection canines Posted: 11/21/2009 6:34:12 AM
I had a bullmastiff. A fiercely loyal gentle soul who loved me. He would always place himself between me and strangers. I rarely saw his hackles rise, but he was always on guard until I told him to settle. They attempted to Schutzhund train his father, but it was found that they were too powerful a dog. I never wanted my dog formally trained; I figured love alone would make him protective.

Candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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How much is POF affected seasonally?? Posted: 11/21/2009 6:21:01 AM
I've been here a little over a year and I noticed that people ramp up for spring, drop off slightly in the summer (they're busy) and then as they get more housebound with winter, they're looking for someone to cuddle. There seems to be a rash of dump for Christmas and Valentine rants in the forums, but for the most part, it's business as usual.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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strange signs?! Posted: 11/20/2009 8:24:38 PM
Women have a different language... 'K - read my lips: She's friggin nuts - and so are you if you're still holding out hope on this one. No mystery except why on earth are you even bothering about this... never mind Libra and Venus. The only sign you need to look for is the "exit" sign...

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Difference between job and career Posted: 11/19/2009 4:53:35 PM
Small business owners have a career. Ah yes, but do we have a life?

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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People, why against the rocking chair on the porch? Posted: 11/19/2009 4:49:06 PM
I had 2 beautiful rockers on the porch. One a Boston rocker and the other a bentwood rocker. I sat in a different one depending on my mood... crank up the tunes, sit back and just rock in time to the beat or just quietly listen to the birds with the sun on my face and gently rock. Maybe that's why I'm so stressed these days. I don't take the time to just chill out and rock. Not sure if it's good date material or even if someone else could appreciate the quiet, soothing motion...

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Start off as the new partner, then become their parent Posted: 11/18/2009 7:19:10 PM
I must admit I get tired of being the adult sometimes... Usually I'm attracted to strong personalities who are fairly outgoing. They're witty, intelligent, and well-spoken... trouble is, they don't always have their shiit together. Then there's the other side of the coin, the ones who not only have their shiit together, but offer you constant advice on how you could get yours together better. "You should" sends me screaming. There are very few happy mediums and I'm as much of a phuck up as anyone else depending on the day... I admit that I will take over and manage things if required or invited. I don't want to, but I can't help it. Often I question whether it's my "helpful" nature or if I'm really a control freak. Ultimately, I will back off and let them sink or swim on their own... but by then, I'm tired of being the adult - I want a soft place to land too; a non-judgmental shoulder to rest my weary head on... to listen, but not fix my woes. Drama sends me packing. I don't like to argue or fight and rather than becoming docile, I become quietly resentful. When they begin to irritate me, I cut them out. I'm an extroverted introvert. I like my space and would like someone else in it occasionally, but I wonder if I'm really cut out to be a "partner"... I'm much better at sole proprietor which is why I failed sandbox 101.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Hooked on having a FWB? Posted: 11/16/2009 8:58:36 PM
Sorry, but I'd be very very surprised if they were as monogamous as they claimed... One of the main reasons for men wanting a fwb is to allow them to play the field with little of no drama... You didn't know them. You weren't there. And maybe your criteria of what constitutes a FWB is different. In my book it's everything, but love. In one case, we were the best of friends and lived together for 2 years... I probably could have loved him if he wanted that - heck either wanted it, but that wasn't the basis of our relationship... he didn't make my heart sing ... 'cuz 2 outta 3 ain't bad. I can't see a guy telling his "fwb" anything until he KNOWS the new relationship is a definate go... and that includes sexually.... And I can't see any new relationship going anywhere if they find out about the FWB in the wings should the test drive fail... It also belies your point that "men" (try people) feel no need to pursue a full fledged relationship when they're hooked on FWBs... If they move from one to other, they run the risk of the new being the same as the old... the hamster wheel continues. They are either FWB enabled and unable to form relationships in the true sense and/or they haven't met the right one - regardless of a previous FWB.... pick one. Like they say - you can't suck & blow at the same time.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Hooked on having a FWB? Posted: 11/16/2009 8:36:21 PM
The trouble is FWB committment runs the gamut. All my "friends" were exclusive, monogamous relationships that simply lacked romantic love. I wouldn't consider being in a relationship where they're sleeping around - that's just yucky and it's one thing when you think you've been sleeping with all their past partners, it's another when they continue to acquire them. I don't think that you get hooked on FWBs. I think like any other type of relationship they fill a void and stop you from having to break out of your comfy existence and face a big scary world. One of the reasons I think I managed to marry so late in life was I never lacked for comfortable male companionship. I never needed to be in love with them to be happy. Romantic love was gravy. FWBs to me are just failed romantic relationships. You meet. You like. You try. No spark, No death til you part - no biggie. You just carry on status quo... hmmm. Upon reflection maybe I was just lazy... but I liked and respected them. I just didn't love them or if I did, it just wasn't the forever kind. I recently realized the reverse FWB scenario. I have a male friend in the true sense of friend that filled all the normal bf voids except sex. I realized that by hanging out with him I was avoiding looking for a relationship - all that was missing was sex. Got to the point where the choice was jump him or look elsewhere. Long and short - people are lazy and when enabled, we take the path of least resistance. Trick is to cut out the enabling.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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A question for you all... Posted: 11/16/2009 8:22:33 PM
Alphas get a bad rap... I dated an American gent who was the epitome of alpha male, but he was also kind, nurturing, and humble. He made me feel safe, yet very much wanted. He also valued my opinion and enjoyed my intellect... our best sparring was of wits... Heck - I'd date a man like that anytime - alpha or not.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Is there a age,where I am expected to not dress sexy,or cut my hair? Posted: 11/16/2009 6:10:08 PM
Yeah, you're only as old as you feel, but there is such a thing as age appropriate. I cut my hair when I caught myself putting my hair in pigtails at 40... I'm growing it back again - but no pigtails! I've got the legs for minis, but I prefer just around the knees... way easier bending and moving. Jeans - well... never mind. As long as I can get my fat ass into them, I can wear 'em... What works at 30 or 40 is not the same at 50 or 60... I know a woman who has a smoking hot bod and likes to wear halter tops, little hipster jeans... Great body, but you see this hot blonde from behind and then she turns - ugh... she's 60 plus with a face like a prune... So not fair to men. I know another one who's debating getting silly titties - she's 50 if she's a day... I figure she'll be lying in the casket and the girls will be sitting up high and proud... so not fair at the visitation or nursing home. Sure Grandma's got a rack, but do we need to see it? Just 'cuz you can get away with it doesn't mean it's age appropriate. You know what's pushing it and what works. Honestly, if you could pass yourself on the street as a stranger and think it looked good - go for it... I must admit, however, that my kid's stick-on tattoos look really cool... I'm thinking Hannah Montana in a discreet location.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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The key to rock solid ankles? Posted: 11/16/2009 5:03:40 PM
I think it's genetics to a large degree. Having transitioned from ballet to weight lifting, running, and martial arts, flexibility for me has never been an issue. I'm overly flexible and lack joint stability - I dislocate very easily. It wasn't until I badly dislocated my thumb for the third time that I went and saw about it. The sports doc explained that I had ligament laxity - aka double jointed and then I realize that explained why I've sprained about every joint in my body at one time or another. I hyperextend. Flexibility is not why you sprain things. Stability is why you don't. Work on strengthening and stretching. Try to maintain your range of motion. Watch where you place your feet. Watch your body mechanics - that's truly key. Wrap for stability and/or invest in supports. Run on level surfaces. I used to weight lift weight wearing the same type of sneakers boxers wear. Great ankle support, but not so great for running and definitely out for martial arts. Work on strengthening your supporting muscles to within your required range of movement. Consult a personal trainer and if you continue to experience strains & sprains, consult a doctor.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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AHHHH SANTA! Posted: 11/15/2009 7:14:37 PM
First year, saw no line up, so I plunked her right on his lap without fuss. Second year, she went for the beard... and then the eyes. Third year, she jumped like a scalded cat straight off his lap and straight up in the air screaming...scored 9.5 from the Russian judge. Year four, we gave it a miss. Year five, she just wanted presents and the beard again - no eyes. This year, I'm hoping that she'll sit long enough to ask for a Wii... Mom's too old to sit on his lap and ask.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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How much doees it take. Posted: 11/15/2009 5:53:45 PM
What is the minimum salary (that your boyfriend made) you would consider acceptable if you were considering getting serious with someone. Plesae dont say that there isnt a minimum or that money isnt important because everyone knows that it is. The correct Gold Digger's answer would be: His salary doesn't matter... it's what he has in the bank! OP: you're stirring up a hornet's nest that has been answered time and time again. Women for the most part will say, money doesn't matter and then you'll get a few that say, he has to be self-sufficient, and then you'll get the "enough to afford to keep up with my lifestyle". Every one has a different threshold.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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What are guys thinking? Posted: 11/15/2009 5:46:43 PM
That happened to me once which is why I have a disclaimer on my profile regarding, er... viewing endowments. I too, was saddened and shocked by the end to a nice "date", if you can call a 45 minute meet and greet a "date". What puzzled me is that people usually do what works for them and I had to wonder if whipping it out like that really works? And then I had to wonder why did he think it would work with me? Do I look that easy? ....(no don't answer that) It really bugged me and made me want to pull the profile and say to hell with online dating, until I realized that out of the dozen dates I'd been on, none of the others had been so crass or bold as to do that. It also made me realize how vulnerable I was in the situation I had placed myself. Long and short, shrug it off, but just remember that you don't know these men and they are for all intents and purposes strangers - no matter how nice they may seem.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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bf has bad time management Posted: 11/15/2009 8:05:37 AM
You disrespect him to his face. He disrespects you in an indirect way. It's called passive aggressive... ask yourself why. Could it be that you dominate him? Probably. Ask yourself if this is something that can change. Probably not. It's his method of dealing with your hostile aggressive behavior. Contempt is hard to overcome. And respect once lost is almost impossible to recapture. For whatever reason, you've both lost what you once thought you had. Drop the gloves and communicate from the heart or wish him well and move on.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Refunds on musical tickets Posted: 11/15/2009 7:53:21 AM
I thought Topol was dead - glad to hear he's alive and kicking... Harvey Fierstein is an amazing actor and worth the price of admission alone. Check the Consumer Protection Act regarding the bait and switch aspect, but in this case it's not of lesser value - just different. He is early legendary, but yes, Topol would be memorable. See if your tickets have some kind of disclaimer.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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BF will not tell me his birthdate or where he works - is this wierd to you guys? Posted: 11/13/2009 9:33:33 PM
Hmmm, what could you do if you knew his date of birth or place of employment if you already knew his home address and full legal name... I'd say garnish his wages or locate and seize a bank account or conduct a police check on him... but that's just my nature... oops - I mean what else could you do with that kind of information other than surprise him at work on his birthday? Geez... some people will go to almost any length to avoid cake and a bunch of people singing...

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Addicted Posted: 11/11/2009 7:58:00 PM
Drama, party of 1, dinner is served. Yes, but the whine is a little off... it has a sour undertaste that jars the palate. Makes one want to spit. Some people are here for the forums. Trust him or don't.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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How to do safe cunnilingus?? Posted: 11/11/2009 5:28:40 PM
I eat women out on the spot now a days but only because of the good ole saran wrap......... Great, and you thought STI's were the only hazard - try Bisphenol A (BPA). BPA has been linked to erectile dysfunction... ironic, eh? Just spend the money on a dental dam. Okay, one more time: there's safe, and then there's paranoid, and then there's...

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Is it normal for a woman to speak of such things Posted: 11/11/2009 5:21:03 PM
Man, oh man... if they are talking like that in front of you, they've definitely mentally neutered you - you are beyond friend to them... you've become ~ gasp ~ asexual, a category normally reserved for males women interact with, but consider non-threatening or not of sexual interest ever in this lifetime... kind of like doctors, parents, etc. They are not implying anything or playing with you. If they thought you could remedy the situation, they wouldn't suggest it while in the pack... they'd suggest it one on one and probably follow it up with actions. Women are not shy when hungry.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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how should i get rid of this stalker from the gym? Posted: 11/10/2009 8:14:28 PM
Next time she approaches, mid conversation nonchalantly start picking your nose and then examine what comes out... trust me, she'll be over you before you can say, "look at the size of that one - wanna see?" If she doesn't react - eat it or wipe it on something handy... Failing that - fart. Loud... and if you can't do loud, do silent, but deadly and in a loud voice ask if SHE farted. She'll never bug you again.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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How to do safe cunnilingus?? Posted: 11/10/2009 4:42:25 PM
I'm not advocating anything safe or otherwise; what I'm saying is we as a society have become so phobic about germs, viruses, and disease that a lot of us let it rule our day to day actions. I'm all for safe, but we've got to be careful not to become paranoid. It's real easy to end up being the "boy in the plastic bubble"... having said that I'm terrified of people who get cold sores and when I see one brewing on a friend or co-worker's lip, I go into sani-mode around things that they may have touched or used. Bubonic plague would go over better with me than a cold sore - I've got lupus. In school for a course called the Psychology of Risk, I did a paper on public bathrooms. I called it Scared Shiitless - A Study of Public Bathroom Habits from a Socio and Cultural Perspective... Realistically, thank goodness for those who DON'T always practice safe sex, 'cuz if we treated sex with the same attitude as public bathrooms the human race would die out pretty quick. Remember it's not always the risk you perceive to be the true danger...

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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How to do safe cunnilingus?? Posted: 11/9/2009 7:46:47 PM
Not that simple, they don't test for everything. Someone may have contracted something recently and be infectious but it will not show in testing until later, the antibodies or infectious agent is not yet abundant enough for the tests. Just the sad fact! Look, Winter's coming... why don't we all just dry hump in a snow suit 'til Spring and then go get tested... sheesh. This is so up there with the 5 second rule... There's "safe" and then there's paranoid. ...And any man that wants to whip out a rubber glove around me better have an MD behind his name or a mop in hand...

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Visitation: Dos and Don'ts Posted: 11/8/2009 5:22:49 PM
I was happy if my X used the carseat for the child... My X still lets her run with scissors... he has, however, since the haircut, learned not to turn his back on her with scissors... I hear it's growing back nicely. If you discussed your concerns with him and he disagreed, you need to remember that he has the same rights as you as a parent - custodial or otherwise. This would probably be no different than if you were still married. Until such time as a child is injured or hurt, you can't really do much. One caveat: Do not use the children to relay messages and don't take anything the kids report back to heart. It becomes a game of broken telephone. Had he listened and addressed your concerns even if he disagreed, you'd probably feel better. It's more the feeling of not being heard than what is said that rankles. Validation.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Do I owe an explanation? Posted: 11/8/2009 4:52:38 PM
I would respond politely, but wait a couple days to do so... Sometimes when someone writes you the grammar, spelling, etc. is atrocious (gee, did I spell that right?)... but the thought process is there. I have a friend who I've corresponded with for almost 2 years and there are days when I need a translator... I've learned he types phonetically. Lovely person. I wish I could introduce him to someone who is not as anal as I am about the written word.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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A Plugged up Toilet, so she packed up and left?! Should I let it go? Posted: 11/8/2009 8:27:17 AM
Dear Atreu, I know you're hurting and miss her, and that's okay. You are entitled to feelings. Feelings require no logic or justification. I know you would have preferred to broach the subject of the job and expenses in a different way, but don't apologize for thinking those thoughts or voicing them. They did need to be said. You owe it to you and your children to experience a loving, healthy relationship. They should see that relationships are an ebb and flow, not one way current. No matter what you feel about this woman, this was not a healthy relationship. Whether you change the locks or not is up to you, just realize that if she does return that things can not go on unchanged... and seriously, how much change can you realistically expect from her? Wish her well and move on.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Need to re-take tests Posted: 11/8/2009 8:06:21 AM
Hey, I didn't give a rat's patootie when I answered the questions and I did just fine (thought I'd be ranked a card carrying nut)... I frequently see 100% matches when I click. OP you also need to realize that the matches automatically provided are based on surface criteria like location, age, etc. You plugged in the search criteria. The personality match is a different feature and requires you to click the link. If none of the women in your area completed the tests, you'd still get matches, just not the personality/chemistry ones... Don't sweat it.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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How to do safe cunnilingus?? Posted: 11/7/2009 8:08:45 PM
I've resisted posting on this thread. The previous posters are my favs when it comes to clinical sexual advice - they are dead on the money... but what bothered me is more from a paranoid 5 second rule kind of perspective. If I'm not comfortable with a partner and/or feel the need for kevlar, I'm not going to enjoy myself no matter how safe I'm being. Comfort level and communication are key. What I'd like to know is are you doing this because of fear of the unknown or fear of the known...

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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I want to believe in Gray's anatomy Posted: 11/7/2009 10:41:00 AM
...there are even incentive programs for these young doctors to practise in remote areas such as the reduction of tuition repayment and such in return for their staying in a community for x number of years... Yeah, that's how I got my previous doctor, but once she fulfilled her committment - bang, there was a message on the machine saying she'd retired - at 35!!! She left hundreds of us in a lurch.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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I want to believe in Gray's anatomy Posted: 11/7/2009 8:49:42 AM
I am curious about how other smaller communities are fairing these days. We have a 2-4 year waiting period for a doctor in this area... We do have a "walk-in" clinic - but you need to be a patient there and have an appointment!! I just got a call from a new doctor in this area... went in for my interview. I had to fill out an application... I think she liked me and might give me the gig, but I don't know... I really want her to call. Maybe I should have brought references...

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Single Parent and Racism (for the kids?) Posted: 11/6/2009 9:18:52 PM
Hey, family gatherings with my family look like a Benetton commercial... there I was with my SO who was half Japanese (looked Hawaiian - curly hair), my niece who is half First Nation, my other niece who is half Black, my nephews - half Portuguese, and my other sister and her wife... Yes, we do live in a multi-cultural society, but attraction takes all shapes and sizes and family does factor into it. Some have a more accepting attitude than others. And yes, maybe that particular woman was hoping to pass the child off as biological in a future blended family, etc. There is no logic to her statement without further context. I like Asian men - heck, I like most men, but I prefer tall men, which can be a challenge with all races... You don't need to say anything in your initial contacts with respect to race. Your profile says it. Granted, some people have a stated preference for certain races, but don't let it stop you from contacting anyone you find of interest. Those who are open will respond, but even those who like Asian men may not if they don't find YOU, in particular, attractive... same problem everyone on this site has... they need to find the individual attractive.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Same group of friends breakup what to do? Posted: 11/6/2009 6:36:06 PM
I gave my X custody of the mutual friends and neighbours... Either suck it up Buttercup or move on.

candid_1

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women who say i'm really busy or i have a finite amount of time... Posted: 11/6/2009 5:11:47 PM
Depends on what you're looking for... if it's a joined at the hip relationship where you see each other daily, yeah, he/she may be too busy with life - work, kids, school, etc. but if they're looking for casual dating, the occasional get together for drinks/dinner is do-able... Not everyone has the same idea as to what constitutes a relationship and what the goal of the relationship is.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Age 50 - The Kiss of Death? Posted: 11/6/2009 5:01:45 PM
As one comedian stated, "women don't shiit, fart, or burp - we just explode at 50"...

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

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Dating when is it appropriate to take yourself off the market? Posted: 11/6/2009 4:47:01 PM
This is such a stupid catch 22... you log on to see he's on and bust him - by being logged on. You knew your intentions as to why you logged on... maybe his intentions were just as he said - logged in to chat to friends. My middle name is Pandora - there's no inbox I won't open even if only out of curiosity... and if "you've got mail" pings - I answer... but I know what I'm up to and trust that my "friend" trusts me - so if I say I'm having some mindless entertainment and not up to no good - trust me! OP Sounds more like you rejected him to avoid what you perceived would be the rejecting of you... I think you got spooked and ran... Sabotage is safe.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

Msg: 118 (view)

Michael Bryant and Darcy Sheppard Posted: 11/4/2009 5:27:34 PM
The Prosecutor vetting for reasonable prospect is nothing unusual. They do it everyday in traffic court. Anytime there is an accident, your statement is compelled by statute. Witnesses differ. All that's left is physical evidence. If the Prosecutor doesn't feel that he has a reasonable prospect of conviction on the charges as laid, he can either seek to amend, re-lay charges, or withdraw charges. Criminal court is funny. It gets adjourned and adjourned until all evidence is in and then you see where you stand. This is an offence where they not only need to prove the act itself, but the intent. That's an awfully high threshold to prove and it must be beyond a reasonable doubt.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

Msg: 94 (view)

Dating someone who`s a Cigarette Smoker and your not. Posted: 11/3/2009 5:25:40 PM
I met someone who said they were not a smoker, yet they smoke... Is it a dealbreaker? Not in the least. Some fall off the wagon. I didn't want to date a smoker, but I'm smitten and he can quit again when he's ready. A considerate smoker who smokes outside, doesn't smell of cigs, and tastes like gum and/or toothpaste... it is do-able and I'm glad.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

Msg: 2 (view)

ontario cell phone ban Posted: 11/3/2009 5:22:09 PM
Told you it was a law designed to address general stupidity... there's never a cop when you need one... and yeah, you're supposed to pull over BUT NOT IN A LIVE LANE... makes you wish the rocket launcher still worked, but oops - they banned that, too... gotta get the voice activated launch model.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

Msg: 2 (view)

extended family visits with other side of the family Posted: 11/3/2009 5:09:49 PM
Tell them to watch Lilo & Stitch... Family is so important especially if it is a loving relationship. Children need to know where they came from and that they are loved and wanted. It may not be important to mom at this point, but people - especially grandparents are only around for so long. It gives a sense of belonging that nothing can replace.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

Msg: 14 (view)

Sending a gift? Posted: 11/1/2009 9:03:48 AM
I figure if you've gone and wasted some of your points on me, the least I can say is "thank you"... and sometimes, that's all I say. It's manners, not interest.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

Msg: 81 (view)

Clitoral vs. Vaginal orgasms Posted: 11/1/2009 1:43:36 AM
C'mon guys play nice... Many women may never find their g-spots, much less the A-spot... heck, even the c-spot is a challenge for some. As we age, we get more comfortable with our bodies and our likes/dislikes. Belly buttons and noses used to bring pleasure to us, remember? Good sex is messy and fun. It's even better when you trust your partner and your body. When you get self conscious or uptight about what your partner may think, or what your body might do, it can get in the way of relaxing and just letting go. I thought I had good sex in my 20's. It wasn't until I hit my 30's that things got even better. I discovered things about myself and my sexuality that I never knew. Sometimes you learn on your own. Sometimes it takes another person to get you to see and feel outside the box (no pun intended)... a good lover will take you exploring and pass no judgment. Shame and embarrassment have no place in the bedroom... or any other place you choose. Learn, teach, and explore.... when you're ready. I've now hit my 40's and man, oh man, I can hardly wait for my 50's... if I find any more spots, I'll explode... I'm saving the U-spot for the nursing home. Clitoral or vaginal - there's no such thing as a bad orgasm. I'll take either one, heck, give me both... and one to spare.

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

Msg: 28 (view)

Men, tell me whats the attraction Posted: 10/31/2009 11:27:11 AM
Well, I must admit most of my guy friends end up dating psycho chicks from hell... I try to tell them no amount of midol will fix it, but I think they like the drama. Maybe the sex is good... OP: Ditto - sanity is so not attractive.... Think I need some attitude or a bit more baggage... ohhh, maybe I could find matching luggage... shoes, purse...

candid_1

Joined: 6/14/2008

Msg: 20 (view)

Why do men have to see you before trying to get to know you? Posted: 10/31/2009 11:04:03 AM
Because we really want to see that you look like your picture..Simple is that. I get recognized in public from this site... not a good thing when I'm with my daughter or handling business matters. Written word allows me to get a handle on their thoughts and feelings. I like literate men. Chatting online allows me to screen that. I've fallen in love at first email - with their minds. Whether I'd do them remains to be seen - literally. I like to see people IRL just to get a better sense of them as a person. I've dated some really technically good looking/handsome men that I ultimately did not find attractive. The mannerisms, personality, and overall character of the person as a human being colors my perception of them. Having said all that, I have fallen in love at first sight... if you count the bakery counter.... mmm, chocolate.

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