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elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

Msg: 66 (view)

You're 'not ready for a relationship'? What does that mean? Posted: 11/20/2009 10:17:48 AM
There's an awful lot of people around looking for someone to NOT have a relationship with!!!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Is being nervous on a 1st date really a turn off? Posted: 11/12/2009 2:25:59 PM
I think it's quite endearing in some ways. It's better than being arrogant or over confident. I once met a man for a drink and he was shaking so violently he was spilling his beer all over the place! Bless!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Sarcasm red flag or not? Posted: 11/12/2009 2:20:59 PM
Move to the UK, and you will hardly hear two sentences together without some form of sarcasm, dry wit or tongue in cheek conversation. Oh.........and get over it!! ;o)

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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People won't share or exchange pictures Posted: 11/8/2009 2:28:24 AM
Not only do I think providing a picture is a reasonable request, I always ask for more than one picture, even if they have one on their profile. There are way too many who only post one really old picture that is particularly flattering or use pictures of models. If they throw the 'you're shallow' card at me, I know they probably aren't anything like their picture and don't continue. Being transparent and honest is one of the most important qualities I look for in a person and if they can't even be upfront about what they look like, I know they are not for me.

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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When do guys grow up Posted: 9/26/2009 1:06:41 PM
A message I received: hi, i find uattractiv, if yr on msn can show umy pik, bin told im cute n smell nice, let u decide, imk athletic 2 musculer build, well blessed in the trouser dep, sorry that woz belwo the belt..lol....thnx 4 yr time , im 34 hope my age doesnt put u off, xx Men immature, surely not!!!!!!!!!!!!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Should I expect a thank you after paying for the meal, etc.? Posted: 9/13/2009 3:42:59 AM
Yes, they should thank you. Absolutely NO exception to the rule EVER. In fact, the tight arses should have paid their own way in the first place!!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Prenuptial - maintaining physique - is it reasonable? Posted: 9/7/2008 2:43:24 AM
I've seen many married women that "let themselves go" right after marriage. .....and I've seen even more men "let themselves go" whether they are married or not!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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deleted threads Posted: 8/8/2008 11:38:02 PM
How can a site that is completely free, making no profit, other than advertising, not be authentic? It's the USERS that are NOT authentic and that is no fault of the administration, that's the fault of a high percentage of lowlifes in our society.

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Pretending to be a widow/widower Posted: 7/2/2008 1:37:39 PM
NotIntoSpam - oh good grief, and that's exactly what I was doing....using my sense of humour. I wouldn't wish to insult the young lady.

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Pretending to be a widow/widower Posted: 7/2/2008 12:30:21 PM
Well enragedhamster, you did put yourself down as a "part time nerd" in your profile, so I rest my case!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Pretending to be a widow/widower Posted: 6/23/2008 2:08:04 PM
I'm so pleased it wasn't just me that was absolutely astounded by this man falsely stating himself as being a widower. It's been bad enough to lose a sister, and so young too, but I can't imagine what it must be like to lose a husband/wife. I wish all the best to those of you who have written on this forum who have lost someone they love so much. It can't be easy to get back out there and especially within what can be such a shallow and cruel environment as this. It just goes to show that it can be just a year ago, or like Boots 37 years ago, but that we must all show compassion and never judge a person until we have walked in their shoes. I did politely give this man a piece of my mind, and he has now changed his profile as he just didn't 'think' about his actions. Some however, I believe ,do things like this as a deliberate ploy to lure others,showing a total lack of respect for those of you who are trying to get on living your lives under what can be a cloud of loss. Watching someone you love very much take their last breath and their lips turn blue as their life slips away can haunt you for years.....so let's show some respect.

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Pretending to be a widow/widower Posted: 6/23/2008 7:10:37 AM
Wizenjewels Sorry, but the man in question is indeed English. Insulting an entire nation is not a good move!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Pretending to be a widow/widower Posted: 6/23/2008 5:03:33 AM
I agree galonthemt and I told him that in no uncertain terms. It's when people use tricks and lies like that that I despair of the human race!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Pretending to be a widow/widower Posted: 6/23/2008 4:31:46 AM
Yeah Kyn, that's what I thought. I did politely tell him he didn't exactly strike me as being very mature and he took it very well and apologised. I didn't say it for me though, I said it for the genuine widows/widowers who are just trying to get back on the dating ladder. It's got to be an attention seeking ploy!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Pretending to be a widow/widower Posted: 6/23/2008 4:18:13 AM
I 've long had my suspicions that a very few people state widowed to get attention, but here’s the proof. Is it me just being over-sensitive, or is this a really crass thing to do!? Has anyone else experienced this? Message to me: Ahhhhhhh your so cute n lovely.....NO WAY are you in your 40's, you look my age ;). Let me send a pic to your email pls xx Message to him: Hi and thanks for your message. I couldn't help but notice that you are widowed. You are very young to lose someone. My sister died last July leaving her husband and 3 children, so I can to some degree relate to you. I suppose really I am a bit too old for you and I am looking for a proper lasting relationship with someone. Message to me: Ahhhhhh I feel bad saying this because of your sister but I was just playing...ive never been married or lost a partner Im very mature for my age and you'd probably say im in my mid thirties if you see me, plus you said you like younger guys, you should give me a chance, let me send a pic to your email - mwah ;) xx .....I did reply to this....but you get the gist of things!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Ladies, if he asked you to dress sexy on the 1st date, would you? Posted: 6/5/2008 1:10:45 PM
It would make alarm bells ring. If he asks a complete stranger to dress in a certain way, imagine what he would be like if you dated him.....CONTROL FREAK material I'd say!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Why do guys say they are good looking in their profiles? Posted: 4/19/2008 8:47:18 AM
Or the old classic "you won't be disappointed" and as I'm reading it, I'm thinking "I already am!"

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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If you are in a relationship, is it still ok to meet people from here? Posted: 4/19/2008 4:04:49 AM
No No No! This is a dating site! If you're in a relationship, it's disrespectful and insensitive.

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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What little things make you say next...even before meeting? Posted: 4/12/2008 12:21:37 AM
Anyone with a profile name like THROBBER69 or BIGBOY4U. Wanting a deep and meaningful relationship.......I think not (well maybe a 'deep' one!!)

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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my own love story Posted: 4/6/2008 2:12:15 PM
I think you are already making amazing headway because you have written in this forum; not because you are feeling desperate, but because you feel strong enough to do so, and this will have taken sometime before you felt able to do so. I honestly do feel that it is not beyond the realms of possibility that you could meet another man who you love just as much, but maybe in a different way but just as fulfilling, so don't give up hope. My heart goes out to you as losing someone to suicide is 10 times more difficult to deal with, but you sound so strong, despite your terrible sadness. Just be glad for the time you did have with him, even though it was cut cruelly short. I wish you all the very best as you grieve.

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Men Blacklisting Women?? Posted: 3/30/2008 4:28:10 PM
I've got a shed load of favourites and I hardly even bother to look at them. If someone's interested, they'll write to me. It's nothing to do with my character or lack of it if other people choose to mark me on their favourite list, and if I don't bother to delete them, does this suddenly make me a shallow worthless person! No way!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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He is still active on POF Posted: 3/14/2008 12:06:48 PM
Oh yes, he's a LOVE ADDICT! They are as addicted to the thrill of a new relationship as an alcoholic is to drink! .....and they're seasoned liars too.

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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I'm not attracted to women my age. Posted: 3/6/2008 12:02:37 PM
Sorry, but I find most men (yes, I said MOST) look years older and I'm almost never attracted to men my age. So, both statements can't be true can they!?

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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for the ladies....can you TRULY say money ain't a factor? Posted: 2/27/2008 1:54:28 PM
YES! ......and if they're an arrogant idiot or not is a factor too!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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A warning about Penis pictures......lol Posted: 2/24/2008 2:04:08 AM
Men beware, you might happen to send your penis pictures to someone, without a sense of humor....... I see, so a woman not wanting to receive a picture of a man's penis equates to her not having a sense of humour. Trust me, most woman who receive such a picture laugh hysterically!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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1st Date Expecting Dutch without discussing beforehand Posted: 2/24/2008 12:39:33 AM
Wow! How tight are some people! When I go on a date, it doesn't even cross my mind for a moment, who's paying. I always pay my way without question, and would consider it rude not to. Women in today's society are capable of earning the same as men, and the men may even be worse off due to children to support.

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Expain the phrase My children are my top priority? Posted: 2/9/2008 9:57:43 AM
They're just paving the way, so that they can cancel at the drop of a hat 3 times in a row, using their children as an excuse! Most of them just need to go on a time management and communication course!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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MEN ARE MESSES! Posted: 1/20/2008 12:09:19 PM
Just advertise for a man with OCD. Sorted!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Home wrecking positive influence with juggs. :) Posted: 1/19/2008 2:20:22 AM
A man who wants to make his family work again, is not a man who is on internet dating sites mucking around with other women. Something doesn't add up here!?

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Repeat cheaters... Why? Posted: 1/14/2008 10:37:57 AM
Sex or love addicts repeatedly cheat and show no remorse.

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Putting him in his place.... Posted: 1/11/2008 5:29:50 PM
It seems that reacting to people's bad behaviour is no longer socially acceptable and is considered almost uncool. However, why shouldn't you say what you were feeling, rather than just walk away without a word! It's your right to do as you wish, afterall it sounds as if the man in question behaved exactly how he wished to without a thought! Don't feel bad, just close the lid on it and move on to your next younger man!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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mother in laws coments just before break up Posted: 1/2/2008 7:08:07 AM
I wonder if your mother in law meant that because you do everything for your wife and clearly worship her, that your wife takes you and her feelings for you for granted and has effectively fallen out of love because the challange and excitement no longer exists as you have put her on a pedestal. That would be my take on it, and it's only a suggestion.

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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If you had to choose........ Posted: 12/8/2007 1:10:40 AM
Common sense every time! An intellectual airhead is exasperating!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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How long should one wait at a meeting place? Posted: 8/26/2007 12:27:09 AM
So, not only was she so rude that she didn't turn up for your date, she then used the old my phone ran out of minutes. That is a terrible excuse and the reason you know that it's not true is that she didn't message you via the internet as soon as possible to explain, but waited for you to contact her when you both happened to be online.....don't fall for it! Plus why would running out of minutes on her phone prevent her from turning up for a date!! Nothing adds up here - nothing! Alarm bells, alarm bells, alarm bells!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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You think YOU have it tough?? Try being a redheaded guy! Posted: 5/19/2007 2:13:38 AM
It's not discrimination, it's personal preference, and everyone is entitled to that.

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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CREEPY date has your phone number what do you do? Posted: 3/31/2007 12:21:08 AM
Tell him, "I'm really sorry, but my heart isn't in it". Works for me!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Being called the WRONG name by your boy/girlfriend Posted: 3/30/2007 10:36:25 AM
I can't see that being accidently called the wrong name is such a big deal. But I did have a man deliberately call me by the wrong name once to try and make me jealous...nope! Just thought what an idiot!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right? Posted: 3/26/2007 11:53:09 AM
When things don't add up, they're lying or failing to tell you the whole story. My gut instincts have never proved me wrong yet!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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What if their not mine? Posted: 3/21/2007 12:17:38 PM
I know this sounds like madness, but if someone is said to be say 6 weeks pregnant, the child was actually conceived 4 weeks ago as this is guaged from the first date of a woman's cycle. If you get your calendar out again, you may find that you conceived the twins when you very first met her. Let's hope this is the case. Hope this helps.

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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end of f... bud situation -any hope? Posted: 3/4/2007 2:28:42 PM
Would you really want a relationship with someone who right from the start showed you such a lack of respect. Anyway, what's his excuse for not being in a position to have a "normal" relationship right now! That's exactly what it is....an excuse!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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You've figured out its over.. what do you do now? Posted: 3/4/2007 2:08:23 PM
Don't call....he'll think he meant nothing to you....and he'll hate it! What a spineless and bad mannered individual he is!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Could you resist ? Posted: 2/13/2007 11:18:37 AM
.....BUT.....what would you all do if you were pretty certain they were having an affair! (Leave them is not the answer I'm looking for!!)

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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I know our profiles says dating but are we here mainly for the forums? Posted: 2/8/2007 12:20:38 PM
I've never had a date from POF and that is why I am on here, but I use the forums because they're interesting. I let the men initiate contact, let them ask to chat or swap phone numbers, leave it to them to ask me for a date (so they don't feel under pressure) and they do all of those things....but do they ever meet up....NO. There's been more sick and dying relatives on the very day of the date than I have ever known!! (That's if they are even polite enough to let me know they can't make it, even if it is using a lie as an excuse!). Me, confused? You bet I am!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Maintaining dignity when dumped Posted: 2/3/2007 2:34:12 AM
Never mind maintaining dignity when dumped, how about some dignity when doing the dumping! Some men and women are so callous and think it's ok to just ignore someone or send a spiteful text. The right thing to do is to meet up with the person (if possible) and tell them that you are sorry but you no longer feel the same way and give the person a chance to have their say and then part with some dignity and maybe even in time a friendship. Unfortunately it's usually due to the individual being a coward. If you do the right thing, then odds on that the dumpee will also do the right thing and everyone can maintain their dignity.

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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is there any way possible to figure women out? Posted: 1/21/2007 1:33:31 AM
I think your answer is in your question. You say if men like you they go full steam ahead, and this is the problem, because when the woman responds to this and starts to let it be known that she is also very interested, the man then slams on the brakes or disappears altogether! Women learn and adapt and don't give everything away at the drop of a hat because we know that if we do, you guys won't be seen for dust!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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unnoticed flirting signs by women Posted: 1/8/2007 5:20:19 PM
Good for you Sam C123, glad to see my fellow Brit has some balls about him! Bet you don't have too many problems with knock backs! Women love men with confidence, so long as they're not totally full of themselves and aren't the can't take no for an answer type!!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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unnoticed flirting signs by women Posted: 1/8/2007 4:44:41 PM
I'm talking about someone who is a total stranger....not my brother or sister! Do keep up!!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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Sometimes I just do not understand guys Posted: 1/8/2007 4:39:28 PM
This has happened to me countless times. So I just bow out without a word and then they almost ALL get back in contact asking to rearrange a meet up, and I just say "No thanks". They just hate it!!! ....and I just love it!!

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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unnoticed flirting signs by women Posted: 1/8/2007 3:59:13 PM
Lots of eye contact (watch for that twinkle) Body turned towards you, or sideways, but head turned towards you If I'm interested in a man I find it really difficult to be over obvious, so may find it hard to openly smile at them, unless they smile at me first and I would never touch a man unless I knew he was definitely interested and we had been talking for some time.

elecbabe

Joined: 8/31/2005

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in a relationship with a moody partner Posted: 12/29/2006 2:31:14 AM
My experience of moody types is that they do it as a way of getting attention and really need to grow up! As for handling a moody person, the most effective way is give them a wide berth and when they realise they're not getting the attention they want, they'll come round! I personally can't be doing with it and usually lose respect with them which kills off any feelings I had when I first met them.

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