Lastly, I do think that sometimes it's just plain laziness. Sex takes work. Effort. I know many nights (when I was married and the sex was boring anyway), I'd have the urge but be tired and not want to bother. Now, if I could just grab my handy vibrator, lay it in the right spot, get a good fantasy in my mind, and take care of the urge, that's cool...That's easy. But sex, if it's gonna get me off, takes work. Energy. Sometimes I didn't want to bother.

It's true "some" people dress to impress the other gender with sex in mind, however, it's likely more true that women dress to impress other women (not for sex). More often we just like to look and feel good in our own skins.

I love it , always have
if im in the mood ill just start masterbating regardless if my bf is in the room or not , he dosent really care either.
we like to watch eachother as well

So, to the people that have responded that they achieve simultanious orgasm all the time, your woman is faking it, but don't worry, it might not be you, she may be a woman that just hasn't learned to achieve orgasm

I think saying swinging is as safe as typical relationships is far fetched. The more people you have sex with the more chance for STD's. End of story.

as long as i have gotten off... i dont care how long... minute wise that it is.... as long as im not giving him head for an hour!

I love reading how different people try to rationalize this issue!!!!!!!!!!! Anybody know the definition to "Monogamy"? I'm w/ lovlisuzy on this... don't get it...and choose not to...

I have no doubt that swingers are nice people - I just find swinging and group sex distasteful

For you men:: If you don't PLAY with yourself do you find that you cum too quickly with your partner when you do finally get to do the deed? Is your partners' orgasm far more important to achieve BEFORE you get yours?

As for the guy who said it scared him.... people are often intimidated by that which they do not understand. He probably has just never heard of anyone being like this.