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Kindofmagic

Joined: 9/1/2005

Msg: 225 (view)

Height/Size Contridiction? Posted: 8/12/2007 11:21:33 PM
Would you be a bit more cautious about dating tall men, if you met an abusive tall man? I'd venture to say "no". That's an example of how tall men are judged by their own merits while the actions of a single short man somehow reflects on all short men. You make an interesting point but, is it really the same thing? An abusive man's height has nothing to do with why he is an abuser. However, the issues I ran into that made me a bit more cautious about dating a man shorter than me were directly related to his insecurities concerning his height. Of course I know that not all shorter men have those insecurities but I guess it is a sense of self preservation to look for them before I get too involved.

Kindofmagic

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Height/Size Contridiction? Posted: 8/12/2007 10:21:01 AM
It's funny how the actions of a single "short man" (if 5'8" can be considered short) reflects on all short men...but tall men are judged by their individual merits. Would you write off dating all tall men if you met one abusive tall man? Jonathan, I said I hesitate, I did not say I write it off. Perhaps I worded it poorly. The experience has caused me to be a bit more cautious when it comes to a man shorter than me. Is it fair? Of course not, but I can't help it. If I meet a man shorter than me and we like each other enough to go out I will watch for the telltale signs (maneuvering himself so that he is standing above me, suggesting I wear flats, never standing right next to me) and if they are there I will know that he is uncomfortable with it and we have no future. This is what I meant by hesitating, being more cautious.

Kindofmagic

Joined: 9/1/2005

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Height/Size Contridiction? Posted: 8/11/2007 10:42:50 PM
I confess I did not read the whole thread, but I can add some personal experience as to why taller women might shy away from shorter guys. I am 5'10". I never had an issue with dating shorter guys. Sure, it felt a little wierd at first but in the big picture it just didn't matter. Then I met Billy. He was 5'8". We dated for about 8 months. Things were great with one exception. Anytime we did something with his friends they gave him hell about our height difference. As much as they teased him in front of me, I can only imagine how much he got it when I wasn't there. All in good fun right? Just teasing! Maybe, but in the end HE couldn't handle it and broke it off because I was too tall. Yeah I know, HIS problem, HIS self esteem issue and not all shorter guys would react that way, but reality is it made me a little gun shy. So yeah, this tall woman hesitates when it comes to shorter guys.

kindofmagic

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Anyone play in fantasy sports leagues? Posted: 12/14/2005 2:08:10 PM
I am on CBS sportsline too. Have to agree with Ackrite, it is one of the better ones, at least for football.

kindofmagic

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When Is It Okay.. Posted: 12/13/2005 3:16:02 AM
Agreed ...but Be certain that they did it on purpose and didn't just forget it before you freak out. I speak from experience.

kindofmagic

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Anyone play in fantasy sports leagues? Posted: 12/12/2005 12:15:54 AM
I have been playing Fantasy Football for 3 years. It's a lot of fun, and when I win it's even sweeter cause I can rag the guys about losing to a girl.

kindofmagic

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Philly Sucks Posted: 12/7/2005 3:29:33 AM
They don't even have Westbrook now. Ouch.

kindofmagic

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HAPPY HOLIDAYS Posted: 12/6/2005 3:02:53 PM
Heh Gabby, I love that cat because people don't know whether to laugh or be scared of it.

kindofmagic

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Philly Sucks Posted: 12/6/2005 1:09:31 PM
That's dudette thanks, and I had Westbrook too but he got hurt. No offense taken, it was just frustrating when I am fairly sure he would have pulled another one. Either way I am still 10-2-1, so I'll live.

kindofmagic

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HAPPY HOLIDAYS Posted: 12/6/2005 4:05:25 AM
That was sweet, Happy Holidays and happy fishing to you as well. =)

kindofmagic

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Philly Sucks Posted: 12/6/2005 3:40:27 AM
Apologies to any Eagles fans, but dammit they were losing so badly last night Alexander got pulled early and it cost me a FF game and the money for the week. /whine whine whine!

kindofmagic

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the hair choice Posted: 12/5/2005 4:52:22 AM
I have heard that blondes have more fun and brunettes get it done. Does this mean if you have brown hair you have fun while you get it done?

kindofmagic

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Do women take the initiative in starting a relationship? Posted: 12/4/2005 4:27:46 PM
I have taken the initiative with both positive and negative results. If you are secure with yourself, what have you got to lose? Worst that happens is he is not interested. /Shrug. Seems a lot better than sitting there hoping he will notice your profile AND like it ANd be one that will make the first move.

kindofmagic

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It's been a great week for emails. Posted: 12/4/2005 11:04:29 AM
Ha, it must be an epidemic. I got one from a guy asking me if he could drink wine from my navel, I replied no but I have an old dirty shoe you can use. He writes back telling me he knows I was just kidding about the shoe because I am clever and funny, so how about he just eats my peach. After I told him maybe I didn't make myself clear...no thank you, He gave it up.

kindofmagic

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FF killed the magic Posted: 11/27/2005 10:43:37 AM
This gentleman and I ( I will call him Fred) had exchanged several emails and were talking via IM. Conversation was flowing well and we seemed to be hitting it off. He made it very clear he was interested and so was I. Then... The topic turned to football and fantasy football in particular. I have been playing for the last 3 years. (Fantasy, not the real thing, ouch). He plays too and when it came out that my team is doing exceptionally well this year he actually said " Not sure I could handle a woman being better than me there". I thought he was joking, turns out he wasn't. I have not heard a peep from him since. I had to laugh, Fred has some definate issues and glad I found them out up front, but I wonder if any other women have run into something similiar, or any other guys would freak the same way?

kindofmagic

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Where does one meet TALL women Posted: 11/23/2005 3:53:25 AM
We all hide out in shoe stores that only sell flats.

kindofmagic

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Usernames and taglines - turn offs and turn ons Posted: 11/17/2005 3:49:14 AM
Mine is a shorter version of one of my favorite songs. There have been a few that caught my eye and made me look further, and a few that made me think EWWW and move on.

kindofmagic

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When looking for someone, is height important to you? Posted: 11/16/2005 8:18:56 PM
My last relationship was with a guy about 2 inches shorter than me. Initially he seemed ok with it and it didn't bother me, but his friends teased him about it constantly. Eventually it became a major issue. So, it isn't always the taller woman that can't handle it.

kindofmagic

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Is she with someone or not? Posted: 11/16/2005 4:34:22 AM
Why assume anything? If she catches your interest and there is no obvious sign that she is attatched why not approach her? The most you have to lose is a little bit of "face". The worst that can happen is a bit of embarrassment or awkwardness for both of you. On the plus side, even if she is attatched and it will come to nothing, odds are good she you made her smile. Never a bad thing. You never know what might come of it the possibilities are endless.

kindofmagic

Joined: 9/1/2005

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help Posted: 11/14/2005 3:32:54 AM
Well this would have no bearing in real life situations unless your personality fits it (and I will assume it does not) but...honestly your ID is a turn off. PumpDaddy, sounds like a porn star specializing in barely legals.

kindofmagic

Joined: 9/1/2005

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people on this website Posted: 11/14/2005 3:23:37 AM
{maybe the rule...cuz I seem to be the only woman responding to this thread!!!} Nah, just no point in telling people 896 million times, "Just because SHE/HE did this does not mean all women/men will do it "

kindofmagic

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Why do women seem to discriminate against older guys? Posted: 11/5/2005 3:19:23 AM
Maybe because when you take them to the prom , all their friends would think you were a chaperone?

kindofmagic

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I know, women want a dude that makes lots of money Posted: 11/2/2005 8:43:21 AM
I pay my own bills, I worked hard for what I have. All I ask ( on this particular subject) is that he be able to pay his bills. Not really unreasonable is it? Now, that does not mean that if I were in a stable long term relationship with someone that I would not be willing to support him if there were reasonable circumstances for it. I am not willing to date someone for a couple of weeks, and then let him move in because he suddenly quit his job because the boss annoyed him. (Yep, this happened, and I ran like hell when he assumed I would let him move in.) Don't need or want a Sugar Daddy, and I won't be a Sugar Mamma.

kindofmagic

Joined: 9/1/2005

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Some won't exchange photos, until some correspondence is made Posted: 11/2/2005 8:32:14 AM
Believe it or not, some of us have valid reasons. (Well, to me it is valid and that is what matters right?) My reason is my job. Not my coworkers, but the boys I deal with. I have an unlisted phone number for the same reason, and I learned the hard way why I needed it. I have pics and will and do share them. As for it being harder to back off after seeing a pic...eh. I tell you straight up if you aren't interested after seeing it...no harm no foul. I'm damn cute but if I am not your type, say so now and I will tell you good luck and not have another thought about it.

kindofmagic

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guys i need help with this Posted: 11/2/2005 8:22:12 AM
You absolutely did the right thing. The feelings and drama that would have resulted are not worth the immediate gratification of a quick and easy bang.

kindofmagic

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A Diamond is Forever?? Posted: 11/2/2005 3:47:05 AM
Actually, I heard this on Leno or something. I think it would be kinda creepy, and can you just imagine..because you KNOW someone , somewhere would do it... "Damn, a little short of cash, gonna have to hoc Grandma"

kindofmagic

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Fifth offense DUI. Stubborness, stupidity, or both? Posted: 10/28/2005 2:53:37 PM
Ya know Wikster, this is a really tough situation to deal with. Sounds easy to do what you know is right, but before you call someone an ignorant ass, walk a mile in their shoes.

kindofmagic

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Fifth offense DUI. Stubborness, stupidity, or both? Posted: 10/28/2005 2:04:26 PM
Yesterday I got a phone call from my mother. My brother, 33 yrs old, is in jail again. He has the same characteristics as your sister....can't hold a job, drinks constantly, in trouble with the law over his drinking. My mom has bailed him out numerous times, as have I. He even broke into my parents house at one point. According to him, everything he does is my parents fault because they did not do A,B or C right. Funny, I was raised in the same environment and don't have those problems. We have decided as a family that enough is enough. He is on his own. We still love him, but he is going to have to get himself out of this. It was a hard decision to make, but we know it is the right one. I wish you the best. Maybe some day both of our siblings will grow up.

kindofmagic

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Relationships and Affairs Posted: 10/22/2005 7:44:42 PM
How about this...When you make a committment to someone you are promising not to share parts of yourself with others. ( For the comedians, no I don't mean the literal "parts") That part of you is only for them.

kindofmagic

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Are pets as important as people? Posted: 10/14/2005 11:54:28 PM
Unconditional love. (and no that does not include any extra curricular activities some people may enjoy with their pets)

kindofmagic

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how come ladies don't like men who play videogames?? Posted: 10/11/2005 3:28:41 PM
Lion, The point people are trying to make is that just because someone is a gamer does NOT mean they ignore their mate, does NOT mean they are 500 lb unshowered slobs, does NOT mean they do not have a normal active life. You really can have it all. It is possible, its called maturity and moderation and priorities. For a stable, emotionally healthy person, the games are a hobby. No better or worse than any other hobby. There are people who fit those extremes of course, just like some people that like to sit on a deck with some good wine are alcoholics. Should we automatically assume you are one?

kindofmagic

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Religion & Dating... what's your take on it? Posted: 10/11/2005 2:52:02 PM
I think it all comes down to intolerance like you all have stated, and whether the two people can accept and live with different beliefs. You could say the same thing about vegetarians. If one is, and one isn't, can the vegetarian tolerate their mate eating meat? One of those things that you have to honestly discuss if things are getting serious.

kindofmagic

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Why is it so hard...... Posted: 10/10/2005 9:54:46 AM
You guys just reminded me of something my mom told me after my first heartbreak...You have to kiss a few frogs before you find the prince.

kindofmagic

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Why is it so hard...... Posted: 10/10/2005 4:39:53 AM
Some people say anything too easy isn't worth it. Most people appreciate something they had to work for more than something that was handed to them. Keep positive and don't give up.

kindofmagic

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I'm a favorite! Posted: 10/7/2005 6:31:13 AM
You are either truly a lucky person if something this trivial causes you such angst, meaning you have no other issues, or you are WAY too uptight and anal and need to relax a few notches. Wow

kindofmagic

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Can your personality change in the flipp of a coin....? Posted: 10/2/2005 4:55:28 PM
I can tell you that from my experience, stopping the flirting and not being as outgoing doesn't work. If he has this type of personality, eventually he latches on to something else. The guy you work with , the guy next door...they are all trying to bang you even if all you do is say hello, and it's all your fault. Compromise is one thing, giving in to his insecurities and control issues is way too much and will never end well.

kindofmagic

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How long should I wait Posted: 9/22/2005 12:05:50 PM
One word...Run.

kindofmagic

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Tatoos on a women turn on or turn off Posted: 9/17/2005 1:48:19 PM
Trvlingman, anyone who would show their grandkids their ass has problems other than the tattoos.

kindofmagic

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Why are WOMEN so blind??????? someone let me know!!!! Posted: 9/17/2005 10:37:46 AM
Seems to me if you are pursuing a woman who wants you more when you ignore her then you should be able to figure out very easily that she is a game player, insecure, just wants to prove you want her, etc. etc. Or, if you give a guy that treats you like this chance after chance, then what do you expect? He will suddenly change? Everyone says they want someone mature and stable who doesn't play games, blah blah blah and yet they still go after the ones who obviously do those very things. Then they **** because all women/men do so and so. Until you are honest with YOURSELF about what you REALLY want in a mate, you will never find one that will last.

kindofmagic

Joined: 9/1/2005

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Why do men ruin relationships with video games? Posted: 9/15/2005 7:14:03 AM
::do not care because I am right ask any woman on here:: Afraid I can't agree with you. Some video games (of course not all) can teach problem solving , creative thinking, logic and of course good old hand eye coordination. The bottom line is, it is not the playing video games excessively that was the problem in the relationship, or with the person, it was a symptom.

kindofmagic

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WHY DO MEN RUIN RELATIONSHIPS WITH VIDEO GAMES? Posted: 9/2/2005 6:09:05 AM
Bizie, Like I said there are people that fit the "gamer" stereotype of course, but most don't. A bit ago I went white water rafting for the first time. We camped for a week and had a blast. Would it shock you to know that every one of the 12 people on the trip was a gamer? So yes, we do go out and do physical things, enjoy the outdoors, have stable jobs and relationships, shower regularly etc. etc.

kindofmagic

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WHY DO MEN RUIN RELATIONSHIPS WITH VIDEO GAMES? Posted: 9/1/2005 10:28:44 AM
If it wasn't video games it would be something else. Pretty sure as long as this thread is it has already been said, but as a female gamer I had to speak up.(Yes we really do exist, not all the female toons are manginas) There are plenty of people that fit the stereotypes...playing video games=loser, no life, can barely keep a job, no social skills etc. However on the flip side, there are just as many if not more of us (male and female)that like to play and it is a hobby, not our entire reason for living.

kindofmagic

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Why cant a nice guy get a break!!!!! Posted: 9/1/2005 9:57:38 AM
Why can't a nice guy get a break? Perhaps the same reason most (and note that I say most, not all) men won't look twice at a woman who is if not barbie, at least a close resemblance.

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