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isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 35 (view)

30 Something Woman Being Chased By 19 yr old Male Posted: 8/12/2009 4:24:01 PM
Hm, never really put alot of thought into it because I haven't had a 19 year old lusting after me. Well, you know, I think I would be up for it if I didn't have a daughter his age. That would make it very awkward, but still, hm? I dunno, maybe I would. First I have to have a guy that age chasing me...lol.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 16 (view)

How do I do this now? Posted: 7/18/2009 12:22:47 PM
Thanks for all your input. What alot of people aren't reading is that we have been through counseling, we are all good, moving on with our lives. This isn't somthing that has just happened. I don't see anything wrong with dating at this point. My kids are good with it, older ones are even encouraging it. As I said before in the thread, everyone has taken this in some off the path direction and ran with it. The thread only ask how do I do this now? I'm kind of at a loss for knowing how to go about dating anymore. I don't care how much counseling I go through or anyone else would in this situation, there is always going to be caution taken from here on out. And for all of you that keep telling me to get therapy, my counselor told me a long time ago that they thought I should try to get out and meet people and I was released from counseling a long time ago. Trust me when you go through stuff like this, Child Services, Human Services, the military in my case, The police department, everyone makes sure that you go to counseling, you are monitored, harassed, accused and everything you say and do is recorded because they want to know that you had nothing to do with the abuse. I didn't and therefore, I'm not the one that needs the help, he is, but thanks for all your concern from those who don't know what they are talking about.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 10 (view)

How do I do this now? Posted: 7/17/2009 2:06:47 PM
I've been on my own for over a year now. I have had time to grieve. It's not like this just happened yesterday and I'm on here today. I know who I am and my kids have, even the two directly victimized, have walked away from this with some counseling but overall they seem to have had a much easier time forgiving him and moving on with their lives than I did. Somehow this thread went off in a totally different direction from where it was meant. ....sigh.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

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How do I do this now? Posted: 7/17/2009 11:58:32 AM
Well I'm sorry that people feel the need to jump to conclusion that I'm messed up. First off, my husband never touched my children, nor did he say anything inappropriate to them, but we found out that he had been video taping the two oldest girls with fiber optic cameras in the bathroom wall while they were in the shower. We don't know how long he had been doing it, nor does it matter. Doing it once was to much, so he was charged with manufacturing pornographic material of minors. Up until we found out what he was doing, there was no reason to suspect it. He was a good husband, he was a good soldier, he was what appeared to be a good father. There was no reason for anyone to suspect that he would do something like he did, but he did it. I myself am the one that went to the authorities and turned him in. That's all I was saying. I have been to counselors, but they just like to tell me how I feel and really they have never been through it so they have no clue. I just want to figure out how to date again and I don't want people to run when they know about my past. I was not married to what one would stereotype as a "dead beat", "loser" or any other name. He attended church, was clean cut, was an excellent soldier, he sacrificed daily for his family, he spent three of five years in Iraq, but in the end he was just messed up somewhere. So for attracting those "dead beats" and such that was mentioned by someone in the thread...you don't know anything about me so don't pass judgement on me. This thread is in the broken heart section because my heart has been broken, my world has been turned upside down and so has my children, but we have came out of it despite all the bad in pretty good shape. I am just now ready to find someone to spend some time with again and try living again. What I meant by not trusting anyone around my children, well, I will be very cautious is all and with good reason. Thanks for the replies all.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 35 (view)

What is real love...and have you ever had it? Posted: 7/16/2009 8:02:06 PM
Real love is hard to describe, but it's kind of like knowing that no matter what in life ever happens, the love will never end. I have lusted over many, but there are three real loves in my life. One reaches from my adolescent years when he and I were both to young to be serious but I loved and to this day love that guy. It's just very pure and innocent and no one could understand it but he and I. My second real love was my first husband. Even after a divorce 17 years ago, him remarrying , getting himself in trouble a couple of years ago and going to jail and not being a good father to our daughter at all, there is still that place in my heart that misses him so much and when he walks into the room, he still takes my breath away, but life goes on. The third real love would be my soon to be ex. We've been married for 10 years and he has become a staple in both my life and my childrens but because of something he chose to do, we can no longer be together. I will always love him, but time goes on.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

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What do I do, How do I do it? Posted: 7/16/2009 7:42:25 PM
I can relate somewhat to where you are. I miss my husband of 10 years, but there is never going to be a going back for us.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

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Seriously, is it worth it? Posted: 7/16/2009 7:33:35 PM
I am with you on this one. I don't want to be alone, but I'm not finding that the dating world is worth the effort at times. It does seem like you put alot out there and get nothing back in return. I dunno, hopefully if it is meant to be, someone will show up and if it's not meant to be, well, then maybe it's just not meant to be.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

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How do I do this now? Posted: 7/16/2009 7:27:14 PM
I'm just at a loss. I am divorcing after 10 years of marriage to a man that was my world. How do I go to being single again? How do I get past my past? My husband was the greatest man in the world to everyone who knew him but he's in prison now for offense against our own children. It breaks my heart to be without him, but I can never be with him again and as for looking for someone new, well I just want a friend. I'm not sure that I'll ever trust someone around my kids again. But how do I do this? How do I find someone great to talk to, spend some quiet time with and begin to enjoy life with again after all this? I have been alone for over a year now and I'm ok alone, I don't have to have someone, but I want someone. Is there going to be to much in my past for anyone to even want to get to know me?

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

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Good Girl? Posted: 7/10/2009 12:31:26 PM
To my knowledge, no one has ever came out and called me a bad girl if that is what you are asking, but on here I get mostly guys who think I'm interested in sexual encounters and it really frustrates me. I can be as wild as the next girl when the time is right, but as my past would show, I like to be settled, eventhough it may not sound that way. I think that when guys hear I've been married a few times and have kids out of wedlock that I'm the kind of girl who is out for money and trapping, but in my situation that isn't the case at all. So, I was just wandering if I wouldn't be considered a good girl by those who are searching for one and overlooked. In actuality, I am the good girl. I don't cheat, lie, steal, break things...lol I'm honest and faithful, but that seems to make me boring I think to guys these days.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

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Good Girl? Posted: 7/10/2009 12:11:12 PM
Can someone tell me exactly what it means when guys put on their profile that they are looking for a good girl? What do you consider a good girl? I have been married several times, and have kids out of wedlock. I like to be intimate, adventerous and risky with my life.Would you consider me a bad girl? I attend church regularly, I don't drink, don't smoke, don't do any drugs, I take care of my c hildren, my family is important to me, I've never been in jail, I don't have tattoos or weird piercings anywhere, but because I have kids and have been married so many times would one write me off as not being a good girl? Just wanting opinions.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 41 (view)

Cant get past email! Posted: 7/10/2009 8:21:44 AM
I think I can understand where she is coming from sort of. I know that on here it is very easy to talk to people, but when they ask for my phone number I cringe. I don't really know anything about this person accept for what they have told me which could or could not be true and they want a way to reach me by phone, which for me would be a cell phone. I start fearing what if they begin to stalk me or won't stop calling me if asked and so on...so I shy away from the phone issue. I also don't like talking on the phone anyway so I wouldn't have much to say if they did call me. It doesn't bother me as much if they want to meet me. You can make arrangements to meet somewere public so that there is no safety issues involved and you can get a better personal feel for the person and THEN decide if you want them to have your number or not. Even with the meeting thing though as well....I get very nervous. I have met very few people that I met online, it took alot of conversation and actually a couple of months before I would do it. I had a horrible experience in my 20's where I met this guy from a singles add section in the sunday papers after talking to him on the phone a few times, he was nothing like what he said he was in looks or personality...kind of made me hesitant, but I think as a female that it's just in our nature to be a leary of new people, especially men.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 27 (view)

Women and The Mention of Their Kids Posted: 7/10/2009 8:11:18 AM
I would say this works both ways kind of. Me as a single parent, looking for a possible partner in life when I see a profile of a guy with kids, I cringe sometimes. I have never thought I would have an issue with dating someone with kids, but when they seem to want to over stress how they spend all their time with their children and such it kind of leaves me feeling like they might not have enough time for me and after all, we are on here looking for companions for ourselves right? I love my children and my priorities are in line and they are taken good care of and maybe guys want women to know they aren't dead beat fathers, but you have to let people know you have time for them as well or it just becomes a turn off from the start.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 203 (view)

Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX? Posted: 7/10/2009 7:53:16 AM
I have plenty of good to say about any and all EX's I've had. There is always good with the bad but I try to dwell on the good that was in them and not the bad. I've been married 4 times. Yes, I know, I know, no comments necessary on that one. I have been cheated on, lied to and my family has been devestated by acts of my EX's but here is the good in them all. They all were worth loving and caring about. Although things didn't work out as planned, I don't regret the decisions I made and because of those Ex's I am who I am today. I don't believe any of them went into a relationship with me intending in anyway to hurt me. Things change, people change and for me I just haven't been fortunate enough yet to find the one that will go the distance and make the sacrifices necessary. So to all you out there that bash your Ex's, I understand about pain and hurt, but something drew you two together in the first place and that in itself is something to be thankful for so take from your relationship the good and leave the garbage behind.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 43 (view)

Have you ever cried during sex because it was so good Posted: 2/11/2009 4:45:04 PM
yes I have experienced this and I think it freaked the guy out. He kept asking if I was ok or if he had hurt me. Trueth was I was just elated to the point that tears came rolling down my cheeks. He was wonderful.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 32 (view)

To be or not to be? Intamate encounters.... Posted: 2/11/2009 4:43:16 PM
Ok, well I just posted a new profile the other day, you should check it out and see if it's honest enough for ya..lol

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 46 (view)

Eye Contact During Posted: 2/11/2009 4:37:05 PM
yes yes yes eye contact is the bomb. you can really tell if they are enjoying it or not so may I repeat myself and say yes yes yes

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

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Do Women Know If She Will Sleep With You In 10 Secondes? Posted: 2/11/2009 4:30:23 PM
I dont know about within ten seconds of talking to or meeting, but I know within ten seconds of a kiss if there are butterflies in my belly or not I know if I would ever consider and if I do, he's in for a nice adventure..lol.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 109 (view)

He spanked me & choked me...is he a perv? Posted: 2/11/2009 4:21:23 PM
ok, well all I know is I like both so what's the guys no. I'll take him..lol. No, he's not a perv. He is most likely just experimenting a bit to see what you will be willing to explore with him, or maybe he just likes to feel he is in a little bit of control of you. Just talk to him about it. Be glad, the guy I'm seeing right now is afraid of hurting me so I can barely to get him to do either of these things..lol.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 113 (view)

I don't think anyone has enjoyed the 69 position since 1969. Posted: 2/9/2009 2:16:16 PM
I would have to beg to differ from you poster and agree with some of the other respondants, especially MsMicki. I find that having a guy on top with his lock piece deep down my throat is absolutly lushes. Also if the guy doesn't mind some backdoor play it puts you in perfect position to play with him while you're sucking him which I have always found drives my partners crazy anyway. I'm for it, it's not out for me or over rated. It's all that. I can have my cake and eat it too. mmm mmm

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 27 (view)

After 16 years, my ex husband is back in my life, help...lol Posted: 1/26/2009 4:13:04 PM
Hi sorry Frau to take so long getting back to you on this one. I haven't been online much lately, started tax season, been very busy. Well, first husband got out of jail on the 17th of January, that's kind of when all this stuff started back up. Day one, he called me the night ge got out. He was put in jail for sex with a minor, but girl was nearly 18 and ex said that she came on to him, he rejected her and she told a bunch a lies. He said they never did anything and that they had no evidence to prove he did, but he had no evidence to prove he didn't so he took his attorneys advice and plead guilty to less harsh charges for plea out of two years in prison. Everyone that knows him is like myself and none of believe he did anything wrong. Aside from that. I decided not to get back into the mess with him anyway. I do love the guy, he was my first love and the first man I committed my life to, but right now, we both have to many things going on in our life and just because we are both lonely doesn't mean that we need to hurt each other anymore than we have. Thanks for your response. I took everyones advice, but I guess I knew all along what to do anyway.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

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After 16 years, my ex husband is back in my life, help...lol Posted: 1/20/2009 2:22:47 PM
Iowa Lady, I know that eventhough I have been married since, this guy is the only guy I have ever truely, unconditionally loved, that is why this is so hard for me I think. I would like nothing more than to grow old with him. Ironically enough, he cheated on me though numreous times when we were married and now he is getting a divorce from the gal he finally left me for because she has cheated on him numerous times...lol go figure. He said that now he understands how devestated I must have been and he has apologized for his treatment of me in the past. I worry though that I'm just someone familiar to him and that he doesn't know where else to turn right now and that makes me leary about letting my emotions in right now, eventhough it's getting very difficult I must say.. :)

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 33 (view)

Who should say I Love You first? And when? Posted: 1/20/2009 2:09:15 PM
I agree with you red on this one. Showing love makes up for any words not being said. It's good to hear it sometimes, but I would far rather have someone know I love them through actions and not words, and vica versa.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

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Is it possible to have feelings for someone you've only talked to? Posted: 1/20/2009 2:03:32 PM
Hi, well all I can say is that my uncle talked to a girl online from the phillipines for almost two years, then about a year and a half ago, he flew there, met her in person for the first time and her family and he proposed to her. She said yes and after all her visa paperwork got completed, she moved here and they got married. That was about a year ago now and they are expecting a baby in March. They seem really happy and they had not me, so yes it is possible to have feelings for someone you haven't even met and sometimes, you may even feel love, they did.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

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After 16 years, my ex husband is back in my life, help...lol Posted: 1/20/2009 1:58:02 PM
oh pssst he had an answer for me on the mistake thing, he blamed it on us being so young and him wanting some freedom, but he says to me...you haven't got to see it, but I have changed, I finally figured out what all that settling down stuff really meant.....he's slie isn't he....I think he thought of everything ..lol. I'm with you though I think on this one. He and I are just both in bad situations and as much as I think we both sort of ran to one another is because we grew up together and really, I believe we are the only ones who really know each other that well, so talking is just natural to us even after 16 years. But I dunno about all this touching stuff, it drove me crazy in both a good and bad way.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

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After 16 years, my ex husband is back in my life, help...lol Posted: 1/20/2009 1:45:54 PM
I got married at 16 years old, but we divorced after 5 years and have one daughter together who is now 19. I am seperated pending divorce and he is seperated pending divorce and out of the blue he called me four days ago. I've seen him twice, inwhich both times he held my hand and gave me innocent peck (kiss) goodbye when I left. Today though he like, really kissed me....am I playing with fire here....lol. We have been divorced for 16 years. I melted like warm butter today, help me please, anyone....lol. Should I run far far away or maybe just take a weird, awkward chance that he and I might still have something together?

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 128 (view)

Do you suffer from feeling out of their league? Posted: 1/13/2009 7:46:23 PM
Not anymore. Many years ago in my early 20's, I worked for this great man and his son was the store manager. A cutie for sure, educated, real I have money looking guy but very down to earth and I was so wanting to go out with the guy, but figured that I was beneath him in all areas. I didn't look the part of a preppy girl, I wasn't from a well off family and I just figured I would never have a chance. I moved away for a few years from the area and came back and he had married this skanky what one would call trailor trash girl and her and her entire family pretty much ran the store at that point. I couldn't believe it. They are still married to this day and I kicked myself in the but over that one. I learned right then, that I am good enough for anyone. Shoot, I'm great! lol

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 179 (view)

What is your biggest obstacle to committing to a relationship? Posted: 12/31/2008 1:13:13 PM
From here on out, I think it will be trust with my children. First husband is in prison for sex with minor and now, the marriage that I've been in for 10 years has ended because of exploitation of minors. My husband is in jail for that, because he filmed two of our daughters in the shower. I'm afraid that I will never trust anyone to be around my children again.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

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What is acceptable at this point? Posted: 12/30/2008 7:24:41 PM
Well, we are separated, he is in prison for exploitation of our children. Not going back to that. Really just trying to go on with my life but have found that I don't really even know how to talk to a guy anymore..lol. Doesn't help that alot of men on here just want sex. Also doesn't help that my hormones are in overdrive as well..lol. Ok, I hear you guys loud and clear though.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

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What is acceptable at this point? Posted: 12/30/2008 7:11:23 PM
Hey guys and gals. I'm not divorced yet, but fixing to be. Been married for 10 years. I haven't been on the dating circuit in a very long time. I've tried to play it cool, chat up on the forums, talk to a few guys, but really I don't know what is considered acceptable in todays dating world. Since Im separated but not divorced, should I stay away from dating? If not, how in the world do you find someone in todays day and time ?

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

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Scars, do they scare you (guys) Posted: 12/30/2008 9:04:00 AM
Thank you guys for all validating what I have been telling her all along. Maybe reading your responses will encourage her to step out on a limb and the next time a guy asks her out, maybe she'll say yes for a change. She needs a good man. She's a good woman.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

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Scars, do they scare you (guys) Posted: 12/30/2008 8:34:57 AM
Past illness. The reason I put this post up is because I know someone who is in this situation, she doesn't date because she is afraid that when the time comes to be intimate that the guy will freak out and she doesn't know how she would handle that.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

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Women and GAMES!!!!! yes they play too EXAMPLE! Posted: 12/30/2008 8:27:28 AM
Yep sounds like she might be using her for her own sexual pleasures and you may find it suprising that when you want to call it quits, she will most likely be ok with it, but want you one last time..lol

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

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Scars, do they scare you (guys) Posted: 12/30/2008 8:24:42 AM
Guys, what if you meet a gal, she seems to be promising. You go out, you begin to take your relationship to the next level. She has told you of past illness and surgeries so you know to expect some scarring, but when you finally get her clothes off of her, she looks like a butcher block. Would you still be able to have sex with her as normal or would it make you put on the breaks?

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 31 (view)

First times Posted: 12/30/2008 7:00:13 AM
To young for me I guess. 14 and nervous as h*!!. He use to come over and mow our yard when my mom wasn't home and we would always end up together kissing and fondling one another at some point before he left, finally one day he got me in position and then just ask me to let him do it, so I did. It was a little awkward, and though he seemed perfectly experienced at foreplay, I never ask, but suspect I might have been the first one he went all the way with. Difficulty getting it in, out of sink thrusting etc. but afterwards, it scared me to death and I wouldn't even talk to him when he came to mow our grass after that. What was worse is that in the fall when we started school back together, I was emberrassed to look him in the eye in the hall. Crazy huh?

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 158 (view)

All Night Lovemaking! Posted: 12/30/2008 6:42:30 AM
Started about 6pm one evening, went til 9am next morning. I had to leave or would have stayed for more, more, more..lol. It wasn't all intercourse but rather going til he was ready to explode then stopping and giving me pure pleasure til I was about to explode then going back to him.....alot of intimacy and foreplay, touching, fondling, kissing and other things in between actual intercourse sessions, was great. Never had anyone who could go that long sense. :(

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 257 (view)

Being Choked while having sex Posted: 12/30/2008 6:30:32 AM
Well, not the only way I can have extreme orgasm, but something about the feeling of loss of control for a few seconds and gasping for air seems to do the job. I've only allowed two people to do this to me over the 21 years I've been sexually active so it's not something that I will let just anyone do to me. There are no marks, you trust the person or you don't do it as far as I'm concerned and then they let go when you ask, like a tap to the hand or something. So gives the feeling of loss of control I guess, but you aren't out of control.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

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sex after marriage Posted: 12/29/2008 10:58:56 PM
Oh I don't want alot of different guys per say, just alot of sex. A boy toy maybe..lol

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 190 (view)

kissing Posted: 12/29/2008 10:46:40 PM
Hey kissing is essential to the chemistry between two people. Tasting the sweetness of ones lips and feeling the softness of their lips or the entanglement of their tongue...no way could I have sex or even a relationship either for that fact without having lots of kissing involved.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 253 (view)

Being Choked while having sex Posted: 12/29/2008 10:38:28 PM
Um, yep, add me to your list of takers on this one. I have had some of the most intense orgasms when being choked. I will only allow it with someone I really trust to not hurt me though.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

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sex after marriage Posted: 12/29/2008 10:35:02 PM
Well, I haven't fallen into it yet, but starting to think that it might not be much longer now..lol.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

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sex after marriage Posted: 12/29/2008 10:18:09 PM
Just getting out of 10 year marriage. Is it wrong of me to want to have alot of sex right now with no strings attached. I'm not trash, but I feel like I want to be. Has anyone ever heard the expression...horny.....lol

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 199 (view)

Do older men stay away from women in their 30's? Posted: 12/29/2008 9:59:28 PM
Wow, I've had totally the opposite reaction. I'm 36 and I'm lucky to get a response from anyone under like 45. I would like men my age as well, for me maybe even younger because I have alot of wild still left in me yet. Send some of those younger guys my way please.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 287 (view)

Polyamory Posted: 12/29/2008 9:46:40 PM
You know, I use to think this sounded horrible and couldn't believe how people could ever do it. Now though after having two wonderful people in my life over the years that I miss terribly now. I think that I could and would be able to handle this type of relationship and see how it could work out well for all parties involved. I'm not sure how, just a feeling that sometimes I wish I had them both back in my life and to have them at the same time would be GREAT!

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 116 (view)

sex on a 1st date Posted: 12/29/2008 9:25:14 PM
Yes, if the chemistry was there, I would have sex on the first date and hopefully the second, third and so on as well...lol

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 711 (view)

oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it Posted: 12/29/2008 9:19:55 PM
Well, I actually prefer to swallow unless the BJ is part of foreplay. In a 69 position, it is very easy because the tilt of your head back makes it go right down.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 54 (view)

engaged so soon? Posted: 8/31/2008 6:45:54 PM
Well, my husband of 10 years and myself got engaged after only 2 months of dating and we have had what I thought was a very good marriage. He had been very good to me and my children and our child together, but after 10 years, I found out that he is a very sick man and he's fixing to go to jail for child pornography issues...henceforth, me divorcing him. He never inappropriatly touched my children, but he did video them with fiber-optic cameras without any of our knowledge until my oldest daughter caught him not long ago. It devestated us all. However, like I said....after only 2 months, he and I married and up until we found all this out, if you would have asked me, I would have said he was the perfect husband. So, I would be leary, but I think it's always possible. Eventhough my soon to be ex is a sick man, he obviously had to have loved me because he's just been to good to us all for to many years not to have.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 75 (view)

Can you have sex with a man and not be together, but still be friends? Posted: 8/31/2008 6:22:48 PM
I would say that yes you can. I haven't been in that kind of relationship for many, many years, but there was a time when I was in the Army, that I was in a mostly male unit and I had a very good friend, that was kind of my run to guy when things sucked or I was lonely, but he and I never were a "couple"..nor did we ever "date" per say. We both ended up having feelings towards each other though, but we were mature enough to go our separate ways when the time came. We still keep in touch today, frequently as just friends, but we both know what happened between us so many years ago. We also were both going through terrible divorces at the time though and we really just needed each other I think. It was a special bond actually that I have never had with anyone else, but to this day, we both know it would go no farther than friends and we both understand and knew exactly what we were doing back then and we were both willing to accept it and just go with it.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 53 (view)

Could you be alone? Posted: 7/25/2008 9:25:00 PM
I dunno. I'm fixing to divorce from a 10 year marriage and I'm not doing so good at the wanting to be alone thing, but I guess I could be if I had no choice. Battling right now though over that too cause I kind of have a choice.

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 1 (view)

I'm in over my head, but is he? Posted: 7/25/2008 8:14:10 PM
This is the situation. I have recently just came back in contact with a guy I went to school with. He is going way out of his way to help me with a situation I am in right now for really no reason at all. I'm very greatful to him for it. I'm in a messed up situation right now where I will have to get a divorce at some point. Here is where the problem lies.....this friend who is helping me out with a place to live and is just being as good hearted as he can, has by no fault of his own other than his kindness, really sort of got me falling for him in an " I would like to see if we are more than friends kind of way" but I'm not sure he is feeling the same way. But he has said some stuff that kind of leads me to think he might be getting in over his head as well with this situation. How do I really know without just flat out asking him, if I'm reading signals wrong? Or could it just be because he is being so nice to me, that I've mistaken it for a possibility of something more when there isn't anything else?

isaidit

Joined: 6/20/2008

Msg: 23 (view)

Are single, custodial men undateable? Posted: 7/19/2008 8:04:27 PM
I would not say that custodial men are undateable. Myself, I wouldn't mind dating someone that had custody of their kids. First off, it shows that they love their children, or they would have them with someone else all the time. It shows they are responsible even if they aren't the best parent because usually they are at least making their best effort. It shows commitment because whatever the cause that the mother didn't have them....the father never had to take them either. In a situation where a mother is unfit, sometimes the fathers will opt to let relatives take the kids or in the event of a mothers death, the father will bail and leave kids with grandparents, etc. NO>>>I WOULD SAY YOU ARE VERY DATEABLE...alot of positive characteristics in a guy who is raising his children. Keep on looking, and good luck.

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