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naiveteisbliss

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A few energy saving tips Posted: 8/30/2008 12:42:42 PM
Turn your water heater down to warm or low or even lower if you can. If you need water scolding for something go boil some. I do admit though if you are doing laundry or have a big family this my not work for you. But while you are not all at home using water or taking showers turn it down. Or do as I do if I'm leaving for a day or two turn off the pilot.

naiveteisbliss

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Using condoms that have expired Posted: 8/22/2008 5:50:25 PM
Your completely right "Stinkerpot" Multiple partners at any time is dangerous. But let's be realistic here, if you could trust everyone you were with to only be with you. Well we wouldn't have disease now would we. We wouldn't have the divorce rate we do now because of cheating spouses would we. Or all the people on here whining and crying that their woman or man was cheating on them either. In a perfect world I could trust you and you could trust me, but it just isn't that way! So until someone has given you their commitment, like you wake up to them and fall asleep next to them most nights, and even then, (who knows?) lets just as I do assume they are sleeping with others. I was merely giving a suggestion to the meek and more mild folk out there who might be a little too demure to risk being seen as pushy or just don't want to come across to their lovers as untrustworthy. Check when they are not looking if you don't have the courage to be upfront. You'd be amazed at some of the men and women out there nowadays! And further more two people are only in a Monogamous relationship till one of them decides to go be in a Monogamous with someone else. How about that????

naiveteisbliss

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What if your bf dosnt do what you want? Posted: 8/22/2008 12:36:10 PM
Well as you stated you told him how you feel and he is not willing....You did the right thing by talking to him about it. And now that you have told him how you feel you know he obviously doesn't care about pleasuring you in this fashion or you reaching orgasm. Trust me I know exactly how you feel, but you just have to sit down and think about it, are you willing to continue in a relationship void of all oral pleasure till the relationship either ends (or you two die..ahhah I don't know how serious your relationship is? Are you planning on marring the guy?) Because it's NOT going to change! And you can't continue to whine about it ...it's not going to make him change. Or even if you begging for him to go "down" on you finally gets him to "give you face" you know it's NOT GOING to be any good because he DOESN'T WANT TO DO IT for you! Can you live without it? Because nothing you do is going to change his mind. Go find yourself someone who loves to taste you or get over it.... Sorry, it's a sad situation.

naiveteisbliss

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Using condoms that have expired Posted: 8/22/2008 10:49:12 AM
Well if they were my "partner" I would hope to trust them. And be purchasing them together. If we were still sexual active with other people and still in the early stages of a "maybe" relationship I would not in front of them examine their condom stash, but while there were out of the room maybe showering or something, check the dates and examine the packages. Just for some perspective. But then it makes me think, shouldn't they be happy and grateful for me wanting to know, and being so pro-active. What you do with one person is what you are most likely going to do with all. And how I approach our sexual relationship is how I would should be approaching all others. If someone took offense to me wanting look at the package before hand, I think I would reexamine my thoughts on them. And LEAVE because they might be hiding something or they are not all that concerned with taking care of their condoms, and if they don't take care of their condoms they don't take care of themselves. Again, I live in an area where condoms are plentiful.... Hell, if I had any doubt I would just bring a whole bunch of my own and leave them at his house that way I know whomever he is being sexual active with he'll be safe with them, so in turn I'll be safe with him.... (some background, I live in Yakima County which has the highest per capita rate of unwed teen pregnancies in the United States, so around where I am from they try and throw condoms at people, hahaahahh in the hopes they will use them)

naiveteisbliss

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Using condoms that have expired Posted: 8/22/2008 9:54:16 AM
No, I err... on the side of caution. I wouldn't use one within a few months of expiration (I used to throw them out within 6 months of expiring) they go through some much already before they even get to you i.e. temperature fluctuations, moisture, crushed, smashed, manhandled! I live in the United States. Where if I wanted I could walk into any planned parenthood and get fistful over fistful if need be (for FREE). Why risk your health, OR pocket book (getting pregnant) for one fleeting moment of passion. If you are using a condom for pregnancy or STD protection don't take chances. Hahahaha if it's expired....why even use a condom??? I think that's more the question. I have thought about what you are saying before, if the condom companies factor in a safety rating like they stamp them with an expiration date with truly like 6 months more to go if someone was to actually use the condom up to the month of expiration.. On another note.... Your thread makes me think about all the times I just took for granted that the condom the" strange man" had was even safe to use or he just grabbed any ole' one trying to get laid.... But I can say the older I got the more I was to hand someone a condom even if they had one, I just didn't want to trust theirs over mine. Kinda makes me think of all the expired condoms I have in my basement hahahaha yeah, I keep them around for "containment" purposes more than for protection purposes now.... I am in a sexual committed relationship and have an IUD, so they are more for when we wanna get busy....but without the clean up afterward.... I save the flavored ones..not for taste...but that latex smell can make you gag sometimes. hahaha....

naiveteisbliss

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Dating a filler girl, waiting for something better to come along. Posted: 11/11/2006 4:47:52 PM
no, you shouldn't just keep her around as a filler date. If she falls into true head over heels love with you because she's been so hurt in the past and you show her what she misconstrues as true affection you could ultimately crush her completely for good, for all you know her ltr was the only true time she wanted to feel something for someone or even showed someone her true self, and here you pop up wanting to spend time with her, she may be a great gal and you may think she'll make a great friend, who knows she could turn out to be the best friend you never had but if your just casually seeing her please just take my advise and leave her alone NOW before she gets so hurt she feels as if her affections are just never good enough and how she is just never good enough for someone's devotion. I know from experience I do not give myself away ever and when you want to and someone just doesn't want you it hurts, it hurts real bad because you feel as if since you never give your affections away that when you do, it should mean the world to that other person and when it just doesn't, you can't understand why they just won't love you back. So tell her the truth that you don't see it going anywhere.

naiveteisbliss

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Sexiest Halloween Costume? Posted: 9/22/2006 8:32:29 AM
I'm going as an "evil" alice, as in Alice in Wonderland I have a little black button up shirt with puff short sleeves, with a very short black tulle skirt, with some little girl white tights and my black mary janes, I still have to find the right chrisp white apron and I'm going to line it with blood red rick-rack. But I'm still deciding if I want a smalll shiny axe or a big shiny cleaver? Hmmm.....? Oh and of course I'll have a cute white bow in my hair. I have a girlfriend who does special effects makeup for movies so I'll have her bloody me up! But alas, I still have to find a "willing" victim.... Hmmm.....well good thing I have a month to find a date still!!!

naiveteisbliss

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Dating and no perfume Posted: 6/18/2006 11:29:30 PM
oh that is not shallow, personally I don't even wear perfume, I hate insence, & don't burn candles but I do love scent, ya, you could out of respect of course, I just don't honesty know if I could live me life void of all sents forever, I mean I think that's what attracts people a lot of times is a mixture scents and how they all mesh together, right? They trigger happiness, saddness, all sorts of emotion, I have this little bottle of perfume that I smell every once and awhile because it is the signature scent my great-grandma always wore. And if I'm feeling down I can go smell it and am instantly filled with happiness, Call it shallow if you will. But scent would be a hard thing to give up.

naiveteisbliss

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Dating and no perfume Posted: 6/18/2006 8:21:12 PM
Interesting question.... honesty, I don't think I could. It would be hard, to say the least. I've been to a few doctor's offices where people were allergic to sents not knowing and then feeling very self conscious about my scent. I don't know I think it would be just to hard for me, I love scent, it is a big a driver of emotion, you attact moods and feelings to certain smells and not to be able to stop and smell the flowers anylonger would be just to hard!!!! Would the natural aroma of a bouqet of lilacs be the same as perfume????

naiveteisbliss

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Has anyone read the Satanic Bible? What did you really think of it? Posted: 5/4/2006 11:10:17 AM
to diesel33 I do the same thing by asking supposed "christians" if they believe in Satan but they always get so darn defensive. I believe in a "devil" just as much as, if not more, than a "God" because I see so much more of it around me even in their supposed "acts for god" like a bombing of an abortion clinc. How is that for "God" the killing of more people, hmmmm...... just wondering. All these people are going to die eventually anyway why bother? right? I believe that in the end every one will get their "just rewards"

naiveteisbliss

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Has anyone read the Satanic Bible? What did you really think of it? Posted: 5/4/2006 11:01:37 AM
ya, I follow this more than anything else also, "do unto others as they do unto you" so what about the whole "turn the other cheek" thing in Christianity vs. the "don't turn the cheek" and just move on thing in I guess "Satanism"? how many times do you allow yourself to be beaten down before you just say "screw this" your gonna get whats coming to you, I don't want to wait for "god's" supposed justice? "I feel funny typing satanism, because so many people view satan as something bad but I just feel it's like the whole ying-yang thing you need a counterpart to all.

naiveteisbliss

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Has anyone read the Satanic Bible? What did you really think of it? Posted: 5/4/2006 10:17:10 AM
I really don't know much about it like I said before, but I just thought I had always hear that it was the first true written or accepted version of the "satanic bible". But it's not that old, and no I'm not into dramatics or silly magic. So does any one out there have a better suggestion on what to read? what is Luciferian? or the Temple of Set? any particular "good" or "very descriptive" books on I guess the true philosophy of it all?

naiveteisbliss

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Has anyone read the Satanic Bible? What did you really think of it? Posted: 5/3/2006 11:45:55 PM
So has anyone out there read the Satanic Bible by Anton La Vey in it's entirety? If so what did you ultimately get out of it? Did any of you consider yourselves Christians before and then maybe it changed your ultimate view of yourself? Since the definition of a "christian" is somebody who believes in Christ coming to save humanity and someone who tries to follow his teachings. Did it reaffirm your beliefs or question the need of it all? I have not read the book in it's entirety but have always been curious? Yet I have always been made to feel I was wrong for even wanting to know. I just know I'm not happy with where I am right now. Not that I want to join another religion or anything like that I just want to be more well rounded and versed. Are any of you afraid to read it for fear you might see some of yourself in it or relate more to it than your bible? They always tell you not to "invite these things into your life" but do you ever wonder if it is just because they know they will "lose your soul" if you learned the truth, or at least opened yourself to all views? And actually got you to "think" instead of just "blindly" following? hmmm..... I'm not looking to be hated here or receive a whole bunch of "how dare you" mail, I just want to know if any christians out there have read both? Or if any satanist read both the bibles? And why did you chose one or the other, do you even have to chose? I am NOT looking at the whole afterlife issue though I'm just asking about the ideals and practices of both in relating on how you treat your fellow man here on earth!

naiveteisbliss

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women proposing Posted: 5/3/2006 10:58:52 PM
It is the norm of society that men propose but in the end, it is the women that make the final decision anyway. So I don't see any point of embarresment on the part of the women if she wants to propose. Like I said, men don't make the final decision regardless of who proposes. It doesn't really matter!!! ya, that's what I was thinking, I mean it wasn't going to be like I'm buying some ring and getting on my knee, It would be me suggesting we get married, and like I said before me professing my undying love always I mean I know now he is the one! the one I have perpetualy looked for in everyone else! Do I really need to wait? But then again I understand that it might set a bad start in our relationship as in "who wears the pants" hmmmm..... still thinking I guess, I really do appreicate all the opinions though from the men and women thank you

naiveteisbliss

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Is it true girls dont like guys that are virgins?? Posted: 4/30/2006 10:24:51 AM
no not at all I respect and admire a man that can withstand the pressure our society places on them to sleep around.

naiveteisbliss

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women proposing Posted: 4/30/2006 10:13:42 AM
oh he is definately a strong man, but as for macho no! I guess I wanted to know more in the perspective as if most men would be turned off or turned on to the idea of a women professeing her unwavering love to a man. ya, I see the whole point of if he wanted it he would have asked me by now I guess there is a whole lot to the story more. I just wanted to hear Or read the census on if a man would be flattered or not. and I guess no, aw.... kinda sad now well it's still my decision to make. I wanted just to whisper to him marry me and we would elope to vegas. Not tell anyone, come back and be one. Maybe I'm just feeling all old-maidish I will be 26 monday,

naiveteisbliss

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women proposing Posted: 4/29/2006 2:59:38 PM
ok I'm not really sure if this is the right place to ask this question, but here goes! What is everyone's opinion on women proposing? I'm mostly interested in men's opions, but any women out there actually done it? How did you do it? Did the man you ask say "yes" or did it even work, can roles be reveresed like this and still have a traditional engagement, I'm not suggesting marriage to just get a ring or his commitment, I really mean it! Do I really need to wait for him? hmmm.........

naiveteisbliss

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Why are you single? Posted: 4/28/2006 3:15:36 PM
I think I'm single, because as great of a catch I think I am. All the men I try to give myself to find what they want in other women and never me. I'm really starting to believe I'll just never be enough for someone to want me and only me. I guess I just don't fulfill them. And I'm just the thing to "DO" while they are searching for "the one" and once then they are gone.

naiveteisbliss

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How many 5' women are scared of a 6' over 200lb man? Posted: 4/18/2006 2:39:12 PM
hahaha not scared at all I'm 5'1 and have dated many men up to 6'6 in height not a problem but I did feel kinda like a freak but "screw em" I was happy, I did always feel as if they would leave me for someone more their height though but that's my own insecurties

naiveteisbliss

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What tuns u on the most? personallity or looks? Posted: 4/18/2006 2:19:04 PM
personality is what make you look great !!!

naiveteisbliss

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Why do you need sparks? Posted: 4/18/2006 2:06:03 PM
I don't need a spark at first, personaly I think all those people who feel "sparks" tend to feel sparks way to often for me. & are way to fickle, I'm just looking for someone who I can stand to be in there company longer than a few hours without wanting them to go away, hahaha I'm so shy on the first meeting I don't see how anyone could feel a spark for me. Unless it was purely physical in which case, that's not what I'm looking for anyways.

naiveteisbliss

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Is it possible to fall in love, in 1 week? Posted: 4/17/2006 11:11:09 PM
no, it's not possible. It's called Infatuation. Or just the influx of emotion for something new and exciting. See if it lasts for a year or so then you know.

naiveteisbliss

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Does it scare you off when someone's profile... Posted: 4/17/2006 11:04:37 PM
no, it doesn't especially scare me off, well because that is exactly what my profile says, and actually no not every one see every relationship this way, to be honest I don't think I have ever had a real relationship ever in my life, either me or they tend to realize things just won't work before to much is put in I think. I take things very slow and definately tell people the truth, meaning I see lots of people at the same time your not the only one and probably won't be for some time but my ultimate goal is to find that one life partner or best friend. Just isn't happening anytime soon I think.

naiveteisbliss

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people who disappear... Posted: 4/17/2006 10:54:23 PM
just be glad you didn't meet them, then ask for them to put forth some effort than poof they are gone, out of your life with no real reason why. that's what had happened to me, I'm glad if they ask for my number and say they are going to call and then don't. It saves me from wasting time, I knowing who to continue to put my efforts toward.

naiveteisbliss

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Oral after sex Posted: 4/17/2006 10:27:09 PM
it's not a fascination for me, it's just a nice cool down after orgasm, it feels so good, if you can find a man to do it! I don't ask, if they do though I'm so happy, definately a keeper!!!

naiveteisbliss

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The difference between dating and being g/f & b/f Posted: 4/6/2006 8:57:31 AM
I think dating is just spending time with people, hanging out having fun by yourselves, alone. when someone wants you as a girlfriend or boyfriend (don't like using those terms though I prefer partners). It's when they start inviting you into their social circle. If some one invites them out they invite you to come also. They introduce you as more than just their "friend". They ask you to accompany them to meeting their friends not just I have to go meet someone, I'll be back later. They hold you and kiss you in front of not just strangers but the people they spend their time with to show everyone you are what they want. They let it be known to all YOUR friends who they are, they dont' "hide" you. If you're not known by their friends and family most likely your just someone to past the time with and your just dating. Once someone has a vested interest. They want to take you everywhere with them, your an extension of them. When your just dating you make appointments to see each other, and don't expect to see them just show up at your home, (you never know what you might walk in on). You announce your arrival with a phone call first. When your their partner, you just showing up at their doorstep doesn't ruin that day's plans because anything they have to do they can do with you by their side. Your not an imposition, your not the third wheel. When your just dating, you still feel the need for alone time, and privacy. When you're partners you don't see yourself needing alone time any longer. Your comfortable with them in every aspect of your life. You want them by yourside through everything. Don't get me wrong though everyone needs their own friends and to get out by themselves some times, but if you start to feel like your encroaching on their privacy or by having them over they encroach upon your privacy well they just see you as a date and NOT someone they want to share everything with. I don't think it really has anything to do with sex, I think it all has to do with how much of their life do they want to share with you.

naiveteisbliss

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copper iud vs. mirena ius OPINIONS PLEASE! Posted: 4/6/2006 7:29:26 AM
How long have you had the copper iud in? or how long would you recomend having it in for the first one? this response is to anyone, with opions please, what I'm kinda confused about is the copper iud is supposed to be effective for 10 years while the mirena is only for 5 years? the mirena has hormones so it is supposed to be more effective I guess, but my midwife said the effective rate is the same for the iud & ius. And the mirena is supposed to be effective from day one to the first day of the 5 year, but if I releases hormones, why wouldn't the effective rate lessen as it got older? So I'm still thinking back and forth between the two, Please if anyone has had them both I would really appreciate your feedback. and thank you very much trilby

naiveteisbliss

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to kiss or not to kiss Posted: 4/4/2006 10:41:53 AM
sorry, doc sage, I'm not yelling sorry caps were just on, I didn't know that represented yelling so sorry, now I know

NAIVETEISBLISS

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Just out of curiosity..how do people deal with people who reject them repeatedly.. Posted: 4/4/2006 7:10:52 AM
YOU JUST MOVE ON, IF I FIND MYSELF STARTING TO FEEL REJECTED, I PUT MYSELF OUT THERE WHOLE-HEARTEDLY. SAY ALL I NEED TO SAY. THEN STEP BACK, IF THEY DON'T COME FOR ME, WELL THEN THEY NEVER TRUELY WANTED ME. I HAVE ALREADY TOLD THEM ONCE WHAT I FEEL FOR THEM. AND IS NOW UP TO THEM TO PUT FORTH THE EFFORT. AT LEAST I CAN SAY "I TRIED" AND THEY JUST DIDN'T WANT ME. NO SHAME IN PUTTING YOURSELF OUT THERE, BUT THERE IS SHAME IN CHASING SOMEONE YOU KNOW NO LONGER WANTS YOU. TO BAD PEOPLE JUST DON'T COME RIGHT OUT AND TELL PEOPLE WHAT THEY FEEL, IT WOULD ALLEVIATE MOST OF THE REJECTION PEOPLE FEEL WHEN SOMEONE DRAGS THEM ALONG IN THERE SICK LITTLE GAME.

NAIVETEISBLISS

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to kiss or not to kiss Posted: 4/4/2006 6:54:51 AM
NOPE NOT INTO KISSING, OR MUCH FOR SNUGGLING EITHER. IF I DO THESE THINGS WITH YOU MORE THAN LIKELY IT'S BECAUSE I TRUELY WANT TO CARE FOR YOU AND AM PUTTING MY LITTLE HEART AND SOUL ON THE LINE. DON'T DO IT VERY OFTEN, OR EVEN THE RELATIONSHIP THING OFTEN, I CAN'T SEEM TO FIND ANYONE WITH THE SAME LEVEL OF COMITMENT TO ME AS I GIVE TO THEM. SO I'M NOT INTO SWAPPING SPIT WITH EVERYONE ON THE WAY TO FINDING THE ONE. AND IF YOUR TOO QUICK TO KISS ME, WELL I KNOW YOUR OUT THERE KISSING EVERYONE ELSE TO.

naiveteisbliss

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over it?? Posted: 4/3/2006 9:44:21 PM
who says you completely ever get over it, ever? I think you're over it enough when you can see yourself with others and be happy in their company. you just have to move on and day by day you just think of them less and less, doesn't mean you'll stop thinking of them competely.

naiveteisbliss

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copper iud vs. mirena ius OPINIONS PLEASE! Posted: 4/3/2006 9:22:38 PM
oh well I guess no one really has an opinion on this, I really hope to hear from at least one women with the copper iud. I've read all the posts on the mirena, but I need to make my decision real soon. So if anyone is even dating someone one with the copper iud or maybe even ever dated someone with it. What did they say? or What have they ever said? Hate it? Love it?

naiveteisbliss

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copper iud vs. mirena ius OPINIONS PLEASE! Posted: 4/3/2006 5:40:51 PM
I'm trying to make the best informed decision right now between the copper iud (vs.) mirena ius. I know I want one or the other, just wanting to weigh the pros and cons between the two. At first I was leaning toward the copper iud because I didn't want to introduce hormones into my body. But I am still going back and forth back between the two and need to make my decision very soon. This will be my first experience with any type of birth control. I have never taken the pill or any other type. So what I want to know is have any women out there gone from the copper iud to the mirena ius or visa versa for any specific reason, or even anyone out there tried them both? I hear lots of good things about the Mirena ius but I still don't want to take hormones into my body at all. So I would love to hear back from women who have the Copper iud and why you like it so much? or why you didn't like it so much?

naiveteisbliss

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Acquaintances vs Friends Posted: 3/31/2006 2:52:48 PM
you know I think about this all the time, I have lots of acquaintances but very few true friends. Acquaintances are co-workers, that guy you always see at the bar, the person you always say "hi" to in passing, they know you, you know them you go out every once & awhile or maybe even a lot. You have a lot in common, you like all the same things, they are fun. But they don't know your secrets, you can't look across the table and know what they are thinking by the look in their eyes. I think I measure a real friend by the level of intimacy we share, I mean can they disapear for a year look me up when they are in my area and it's like we were never apart? They are people you don't have to see or talk to everyday to know they are thinking about you & you are thinking about them. It's as if no time has passed, even if it has been years since you last spoke. You heart skips a beat when you see or hear from them unexpectedly, and you get happy, (not like your attracted to them) but they make you smile without even knowing your smiling. They are the people you never tire of even if you have just spent the last 72 hours straight with them, you don't want them to leave, you don't feel the need for privacy when they are around it is as if you were by yourself anyways, heehee. They are the people who couldn't encrotch upon your space, even if they tried to annoy you! They are an extension of you! You don't feel the need to hide anything from them. They know who you hate, they know who you desire, they know what you need even if you don't yet! They are the people who you don't even think twice to tell your deepest thoughts to because you know that your thoughts will never cross their lips to any one else. They actually might be your complete opposite but they understand you! You have a repose between you two, that never fades with time. A friend is someone who doesn't turn into an acquaintance after time, which is what most people turn into once people have gotten what they needed from you. An acquaintance is someone who serves their purpose in your life at that time, once you've learn what they have to offer your done, and you move on, a friend's purpose is never finished, they are a constant tool for learning to you.

naiveteisbliss

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Give and take... or 50/50 Posted: 3/29/2006 7:18:30 PM
oops, sorry about the double post I'm a dork

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Give and take... or 50/50 Posted: 3/29/2006 7:17:19 PM
no

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Give and take... or 50/50 Posted: 3/29/2006 7:16:30 PM
[He's not that into you. Sorry, but no guy is too tired for booty...especially after two weeks - unless he's getting some elsewhere. Move on and make sure the next guy passes the test of "working for it" - those who won't, don't think that much of you!/] So true, I'd go find someone who wants you! and is willing to put forth the effort to show you how much they enjoy you, at least every other time. I'd have no problem driving to a guy to spend the night with him, but 3 months is ways too long. He should have put out some effort by now to stay with you. The fact that he only has a motorcycle is no excuse either, what he doesn't know anyone with a car? There are plenty of men out there who love to cuddle & will travel to YOU for it. Especially the ones who believe your worth it, which he obviously don't think. AND YOU DO DESERVE IT!!!!!!!

naiveteisbliss

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Have You or would You consider Dating a Crossdresser Posted: 3/29/2006 6:44:09 PM
I have and would again in a heartbeat! I loved dressing him up and him screwing me with my crotchless panties on so hot I absolutely LOVE men in black eyeliner too! And just because I'm writing this doesn't mean I'm a freak either I like the normal macho outdoorsy type too, occasionally. I just like the not so close-minded fun types more!

naiveteisbliss

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Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go? Posted: 3/29/2006 12:49:51 PM
yes, I have. I just finailly realized that no matter what I wanted to feel, or how much I wanted them all for myself, it was just selfish, when you can see they would be better suited to someone else. I had to just bow out gracefully and walk away. Slowly but surely I started talking to them less and less till I saw no more of them. But I still think of him everyday.

naiveteisbliss

Joined: 9/4/2005

Msg: 21 (view)

Not neccessarily attracted. Should I still go for it? Posted: 3/28/2006 3:52:16 PM
ok yeah I'm a personality person NOW, BUT having said that I have met a few men who I have to be honest really turned me off physically the first time I met them, kinda the opposite for me they were too thin and I told myself I could never have a sexual relationship or anything other than friendship with them in my mind. You know that instinctive couple minutes thing that happens, I've since tried not to listen to this instinct. But I asked a few of them back out because they had other quailites, I found them fun, and we had lots in common, I loved their outlooks on things. So if I was you I'd give it a few more shots, they just might "grow" on you, but do this only if you really find them fun you'll know very shortly if you start to feel something or not. Trust me you'll know within a few dates if you can do this or not, and if you can't just move on. I would try to do the "group date" thing though so she won't think you two are getting really involved before you've made up your mind yet on if you can get over the physical aspect. (I'm telling you this because I had a very long fruitful relationship with someone for years I thought I could never be physical with & yes I got over it. They grew on me! And I was happy I never felt like I was missing out on anything just because they were not my idea you know honestly they became very physically attractive to me over time)

naiveteisbliss

Joined: 9/4/2005

Msg: 3 (view)

Making the first move Posted: 3/26/2006 7:41:26 AM
I have made a few first contacts, more lately than ever. Most have been fruitfull so far. If I see someone who sparks my interest how else are they going to know! Why not? That's why I'm here right? Give it a shot, what have you got to lose? What they don't write you back? Their lost not yours.

naiveteisbliss

Joined: 9/4/2005

Msg: 41 (view)

Classy if a girl offers to pay half? Posted: 3/25/2006 9:53:44 AM
I would never offer to pay half! If you asked me out your paying. Now if I ordered something like a drink (& you didn't offer me a drink) or something I know you do not like of course I will pay for that if they are not a drinker or compensate for it with something for them. I believe it is either all or nothing. I don't believe in "dutch" it is either you took me out or I took you out! I am not cheap & I expect you not to be either. If you took me out, I will definately take you out on the second date, my whole treat. I believe in going back & forth when dating. I don't believe in draining people or using them as a "meal ticket" I have my own money & I'm more than happy to spend it on someone who is fun. That's not to say if you bought the first round of drinks, I'm not going to sneak over to the bar when your not looking & buy the second round because I love to do that! If you take me to dinner & I ask you to a movie later that evening (if we are getting along) definately my treat. But if a man ever asked me to pay for "half" I can honestly say I don't think I would ever see them again. I think it would seem to me as if he is not a giving person & maybe selfish. Friends go "dutch" It's either my treat or your treat! We don't have to go out to dinner or a movie or even anywhere that costs anything for a date you don't have to have money to have fun and I don't care how much you have. You don't have any money this week, I'll take you out! You can just take me out next time! Sounds Perfect to me!!!

naiveteisbliss

Joined: 9/4/2005

Msg: 17 (view)

When to call.... Posted: 3/24/2006 7:58:39 AM
Did you ask for his number or did he give it to you and ask you to call him? I'd call him and be sure to leave him your number!!! so he can call you back if he is truely interested. And I wouldn't wait more than a few days. Hopefully, he gave it to you for a reason right! To call him. So I'd give him a call leave him your number and hope he calls you back. If he doesn't just drop it and move on! If someone says they we call you, wait for them to call you. But of course call him and voice your interest! How will they know if you don't call at least once!!!

naiveteisbliss

Joined: 9/4/2005

Msg: 53 (view)

Is Bad Sex Better Than No Sex? Posted: 3/23/2006 7:32:11 PM
I'll take bad sex over no sex, guess I'm one of a very few, hahahaha

naiveteisbliss

Joined: 9/4/2005

Msg: 3 (view)

when is the right time to let go ? ADVICE PLZ!!!!!! Posted: 3/23/2006 3:32:10 PM
PICK THEM UP AND THROW THEM AWAY! Why allow someone to keep you on a yo-yo? Just sit her down & talk to her. Tell her it's up to her to decide if you two are going to move together or part ways. If she doesn't know at that point & there is a question in her mind. Give yourselves a time-table, & be done with it, she will either gravitate toward you & realize you two are meant to be or she will drift off & you will find someone who will appreciate you for all you have to offer them. I know it sounds hard, and it is very hard, but with every passing day it will get easier. Don't get me wrong though it will take a lot of passing days!!!

naiveteisbliss

Joined: 9/4/2005

Msg: 4 (view)

K. I need advice Posted: 3/20/2006 10:27:15 PM
ya, sorry to say it also, but just a few days is way too long, he's not interested. just chalk it up to experience and move on. You deserve better, someone will come along. But I do know what you mean so I'm very sorry for how you feel right now. I truely understand!

naiveteisbliss

Joined: 9/4/2005

Msg: 76 (view)

why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink?? Posted: 3/19/2006 1:21:43 PM
I don't drink that often but occasionally I like to get "sh*t faced" is that the term? But not like I'm throwing up or throwing myself on people, I know my limit & stop before I reach that. No, I don't feel the need to drink or go out even monthly. I just want to find someone for every once & a great while to have fun with even just a bottle of wine at home. It makes me feel weird if the guy I'm with won't drink at all. But I have been with a few & tried to do the whole I'll drink & you won't thing but it just made me feel so uncomfortable like I was a lush or something. I don't mean all the time just once and awhile lets enjoy a drink, if we go out though one of us or someone in our group has to stay sober!!! no drinking & driving. I just want to be able to get my man drunk & take advantage of him every once & awhile & him do the same to me heehee. SO GOOD FOR YOU FOR NOT DRINKING, AND STICKING TO YOUR GUNS, IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT YOU DON'T LIKE IT. but for me it makes me feel uncomfortable like there is something wrong with me because I want to drink. Maybe that's how those other women feel also. HOPE YOU FIND THE GIRL YOU WANT SHE'S OUT THERE SOMEWHERE, I KNOW THERE ARE LOTS OF GIRLS WHO DON'T ENJOY ALCOHOL. GOOD LUCK & I WISH YOU THE BEST !!!!!!

naiveteisbliss

Joined: 9/4/2005

Msg: 25 (view)

Why do guys always try to go all the way the first date? Posted: 3/19/2006 12:45:37 PM
because they want to see if you'll give it up on the first date, if you will with them, you will with pretty much anyone on the first date, they are testing your boundaries, or to see if what you have maybe previously told them is true or not? I don't blame them for trying thought, it just tells me a lot about them & what they would do with a complete stranger also!

naiveteisbliss

Joined: 9/4/2005

Msg: 60 (view)

You think YOU have it tough?? Try being a redheaded guy! Posted: 3/19/2006 9:25:50 AM
well I just want to say I LOVE red hair and freckles my very first crush was a red head! I don't seek them out but if I see on their profile that is what they are I always give it a second glance!

naiveteisbliss

Joined: 9/4/2005

Msg: 17 (view)

Don't Ask Too Early Posted: 3/18/2006 2:41:11 PM
[if at any point you have to ask, I don't think it's going anywhere...] boy I feel stupid writing this but that's the best advice I have ever heard!!!!!! THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, obvisiously, I believe in communication and talking about things always, but you're right if you actually feel the need to ask someone where things are going, you defiantely aren't on the same page as the other! AND IT ISN'T GOING ANYWHERE

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