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warmandpassionate

Joined: 6/24/2008

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Dating someone who has a lot of single friends of the opposite sex!? Posted: 4/7/2009 6:54:59 PM
What is wrong with men like this , I was beginning to think he had BPD after all his daughter was diagnosed with it . So therefor I tried to find every excuse in the book why I should stay with him I felt more sorry for him then anything . But girls I'm still trying to get over this thing we call man and move on but I'm scared to death I would end up meeting someone of the same character. Men like that will never change and they also blame women . The man was with was disowned by his parents by the time he was 43 because he was incapable of growing up. but he told me his mother is a **** and hated him . I can see why . This man is even using women ,who he thinks has money, for his own gain. Women watch out when you know a man like this and he don't tell nothing but lies, even when he do tell the truth , you can be sure most of that was a lie too . Run don't walk. I wish I had the strength.

warmandpassionate

Joined: 6/24/2008

Msg: 61 (view)

Dating someone who has a lot of single friends of the opposite sex!? Posted: 4/7/2009 6:33:24 PM
Sounds like the man I've been in a living arrangement with for 3 years. he would take his cell phone to the washroom because he didn't think I should know his girl friends. He said I had trust issues , that he really loved me even though I caught him at a coffee shop with another woman in which he told her when I walked in that I was a friend of his daughters, found out later he met her 2 nights before at a singles dance and was intimate with her on the dance floor. Then I found e-mails on his computer to other women, begging each one or the other to take him back. after that he went to see a woman 4 times that he had met on a dating site. He still says he loves me but I need to have more trust. He gets very defensive with me if i bring up the fact of him having girls for friends and he never introduce them to me and he says he will later, it has been 3 years and he never had introduced me to them and never will . He is a cheater and a no good liar. I believe trust has to be earned. It took me a long time , I loved this man , I never had roaming eyes, but he did . it seems he will spend the rest of his life trying to prove himself to other women and one will never be enough. but the decision is yours. If you didn't have doubts, you wouldn't be here asking the question.

warmandpassionate

Joined: 6/24/2008

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Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder) Posted: 9/20/2008 4:10:50 PM
Oh I am astounded by all this info . You are sooo right . I was in a relationship with a man for 3 years and he made me feel like I was the one going crazy and most of the time I believed it myself. The relationship was very selfish on his part . One week he loved me the next he wanted out and I never knew why . I tried questioning myself over and over that I must be doing something wrong . But the only wrong I have ever done was love this guy completely. Life is cruel with all its sickness. I wish he never behaved this way and I wish i never had met someone who treated me this way . I'm so scared that once he's back to feeling ok again and calls me ...I will answer. It's a never ending roller coaster ride of lies , deceit, and mistrust . He sleeps with other women , then can't forgive me for not trusting him and says it won't work between us because I won't trust him . He makes me feel it's all my fault for being nosy and checking his cell phone , finding text messages going to other women that he cheats with . Now he has two cell phones. One for his work and the other he leaves in the truck with his contacts on it .

warmandpassionate

Joined: 6/24/2008

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Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder) Posted: 9/20/2008 3:47:33 PM
I really never heard of such a thing . I was involved in a relationship for almost 3 years with a man and his daughter was bi-polar, I heard that this was hereditary and I believed that must have been the reason's for his unusual behaviour. When I was thinking everything was fine between us , I would come home to our apartment with screws put through the knob on my door , stopping me from getting in . Saying he didn't know why he did it and he loved me , wanting me back each time we broke up . yet he went chasing other women , on this site and other sites as well . he 'd keep his cell phone secret and said his friends were his and i had no business getting involved with them . he would not introduce me to his girl friends that he claimed to have for years . He told so many lies and kept so many secrets. He'd be great for a week or so , couldn't ask for a nicer person then all of a sudden he would change into someone i didn't even know. This past 3 years were like hell but I loved him and wanted so much for this to work . He was in and out of a lot of relationships all his life , never felt like he was capable to settle down but refused any help . He would feel like the victim if I suggested any doctor's help . He moved me around from apartment to apartment 5 times in 2 years and had numerous jobs, he found it very difficult to keep one job for any length of time . We both ended it on Wed. night but I feel like always ( he blames me ). Now he refuses to talk to me or text me at all . I need to get over this physical and emotionally draining relationship, I know that but How ? I feel my heart will never heal. Could he have BPD or Both

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