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Joined: 6/24/2008

Msg: 63 (view)

Stand Up If You've Been Stood Up! Posted: 10/3/2008 11:20:08 PM
It really doesn't make sense to me as to why people would do this. It is so inconsiderate and rude. And, after reading this thread, I am appalled that it happens to so many people. Here is my story. I dated a woman I met on this site twice. I believe that we both had a good time, very casual, no awkward moments. We exchanged e-mails, talked on the phone, and set up a third date. She canceled at the last minute saying that a friend from out of town arrived unexpectedly. No problem- I am a very easy going guy. She suggested that we set up another date which we did. I called her the day before just to verify that we were still on. No red lights. Everything seemed fine. She just doesn't show up. I called her from the restaurant on her cell because I'm concerned that something may have happened to her. No answer so I leave a message asking her to call me back. I heard nothing for the next three weeks and then she e-mailed me, apologizing and wondering if I wanted to get together with her again. I sent her a very polite e-mail back saying no thank you as I was hurt and irritated that it had taken her 3 weeks to contact me after standing me up. Wait for it....... she then responds to my e-mail immediately saying that it is just as well as she had started seeing her old boyfriend again, anyways. So what was the point of suggesting another date. People baffle me. And I am a psychiatrist!!!

Joined: 6/24/2008

Msg: 1016 (view)

If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond? Posted: 10/2/2008 6:12:37 PM
To circe 1: I have had unpleasant responses to "no thank you" messages. Don't you think that reflects poorly on the writers of those messages? I can't take responsibility for their behaviours (correct spelling because I live in Canada!) but I am responsible for my own. So, I continue to treat people the way I would like to be treated and do not assume that because I have had a bad experience with one person that it will be the same for others. Sorry, definitely off the thread here!

Joined: 6/24/2008

Msg: 1010 (view)

If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond? Posted: 10/2/2008 9:03:56 AM
Interesting thread! I am always fascinated by the wide range of opinions people have on all the subjects in the forums. Makes interesting reading! Regarding this particular thread- I appreciate proper grammar and spelling. It is something that I personally like. I am not so concerned about capitals because I believe that most people know to capitalize the first letter of a sentence. I also give people the benefit of the doubt if they spell France , france, for instance. Some spelling mistakes I believe are probably intentional like thru for through or nite for night. Grammar and spelling are just something I like personally, like hiking or tennis, etc. I will read through a person's profile and try to determine if English is a second language to that person. I will try to get a sense if their writing reflects their intelligence level. I also realize that I am not perfect at spelling or grammar and will utilize tools if I am unsure. I still make mistakes, however, and I recognize that a woman with a phd in English might judge me on these same issues and find me lacking. I except that completely. For people who know that they have dyslexia, then it would probably be a good idea to use spelling tools. For me , this would convey an interest in making a good first impression. Less important later on , especially if the person explained to me that he/she is dyslexic and didn't want to take the time to use tools with every e-mail. BUT, a bigger pet peeve to me than grammar or spelling mistakes is the fact that so many people don't respond to e-mails. I understand that there are are people on pof who get bombarded with e-mails. I have finally accepted that they don't have time to respond to every e-mail they get. However, I am a big believer in respect. Would it kill people to send a quick "thanks,but no thanks"?! I know that this is covered in another thread; it just irritates me when people write on this thread that they would just delete or not respond at all. What a society of rude, insensitive people we have become!!

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